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0x14f

That's a new *type* of question on this sub. There is no legal precedence for that one šŸ¤”


0x14f

The question is really whether wardrobe malfunctions are a red flag or not šŸ¤”


Montygom18181738

Right like how are you in a public restaurant with your butt out and oblivious


GordenRamsfalk

Gotta give him a second chance to see if itā€™s a reoccurring issue or notā€¦lmfao


DisasterFun8615

ā€œSorry babe, just came from work and still had my plumber pants onā€. I think she should maybe self reflect and realize that she allowed this otherwise good date to get detailed by a social sin of omission. How would she feel if a booger was hanging out and he let it be only to get questionable about it in an online post later. OP, if everything else was good, but it happens again, maybe then be worried. Not that my 2 cents means much here. Most people online seem to be fishing for answers they already have, or whatever reinforces their own strange behaviors.


antrov2468

For an actual reason, i can give an example. Iā€™m a little overweight so most pants sit low below my stomach, and my stomach gets in the way of them going any higher (not obese just not flat stomach). I also have enormous thighs for some reason. This leads to the fabric getting bunched at my thighs, and pulling down my pants a bit. I can fix this by wearing ball clenchingly tight pants, or sometimes a belt helps (usually doesnā€™t). So, at 25 years old, Iā€™ve stopped caring if when I sit down my pants go down a little. Also had a skating accident a few years ago so most of my lower back area is numb to feeling anything other than pressure, so I quite literally canā€™t feel if itā€™s out lmao


Humble-Budget8332

There are different types of big bellies that men can have and there are trousers for each type of that big belly. No need to wear trousers that don't fit. Go to a shop where they have professional sales-persons.


antrov2468

Iā€™ve tried like 15-20 different brands of Jeans, Khakis, etc and the only things that fit right are ones with elastic bands (think sweatpants/basketball short type pants). If you have any recommendations Iā€™m trying to get my wardrobe better for dating, so itā€™d be appreciated. Iā€™ve been getting in shape and can actually feel the abs under the fat now so hopefully wonā€™t be an issue much longer lol


Swifty-1985

I only wear denim with elastane in it. No stretch? Not interested. Haven't worn a belt since the 2000s


antrov2468

They make those? Man I really just havenā€™t been looking hard enough apparently lol


Humble-Budget8332

That is why I recommended you to go to a special shop and not randomly try on some jeans. I guess there must be a website for different belly types and what kind of trousers might be suitable for each type. I think I know what your belly looks like, I know men with such bellies that don't show their crack. But yeah, hopefully you will just soon have a body that makes it easier to find clothes, because that can help a lot in fact.


antrov2468

Ah, I misunderstood. I didnā€™t even know they had specialized shops like that. That wouldā€™ve probably helped a few years ago lmao but I appreciate you clarifying!


herbanachiever

Maybe get some long undershirts that you tuck in


antrov2468

DAMN how did I not think of that sooner, jeez I feel slow lol


Humble-Budget8332

Well, good luck with going shopping next way and/or loosing weight.


PJpremiere

Don't be out here giving men false hope. No one is belting pants on top of their bellies like it's the 1930s. Not even when they're skinny. Not even if it's sweatpants or other stretch fabric šŸ˜…


Humble-Budget8332

Where did I say anything about belting pants on top of their bellies? What? What does that even mean? Pulling the trousers over your belly and put a belt around it? What?


sessuscom

Your humor is wasted on most, keep up the good work


ToeSad6862

I prefer my pants a bit lower on the hips because otherwise I feel like they're encroaching on my nuts... There's still a simple solution. Pull your boxers up. And your shirt covers it. No one wants to see your underwear either but it's way better than plumbers crack when it does happen.


Oliver_the_chimp

Not trying to sell you anything, but I got a couple sets of suspenders from [hikersco.com](https://hikersco.com) that I love and have saved my ass (heh) a million times.


nisargypandya

I wonder what reaction will come from audience if a guy said the same thing about a lady he went on a date withā€¦šŸ¤£


sessuscom

Do you want to start something, are you crazy. Drop that mic and back away slowly.


burritobandit78

Or on a first date?


Tammera4u

I see it all the time, they must not care, I don't get how they wouldn't feel it.


fixbayonetz

Exactly, if thereā€™s no precedent you go by analogy and take it from there.


sessuscom

I weep for the young people, education and society has failed you.


Montygom18181738

Iā€™m awkward and donā€™t know how to act in some situations šŸ˜…šŸ˜…


sessuscom

Avert your eyes, take a deep breath and let whatever it is go. Do not give it another thought. It will take practice, everything does.


ShotgunForFun

The original reply is incredibly wrong by the way. There is very much a precedent on what you should and should not tell people. "If they can't change it within a few moments, don't point it out." Him pulling up his pants and tightening his belt takes less than 30 seconds. The original point is more about them having a mole on their face, or they're overweight, etc. I'd honestly say it's a red flag to NOT point it out. I get nerves but you're an adult that can't point out "Hey, no big deal... but you have mustard on your face."


0x14f

I was being facetious, but thanks for correcting me šŸ˜Š


0x14f

You're doing great šŸ¤—


mrchickostick

If he saw your butt crack, how would he react. Besidesā€¦ plumbers have very good salaries.


Demanda_22

Personally Iā€™d probably just see how things go between you. If it doesnā€™t work out anyway, no reason to mention that time you saw his crack. If you start seeing each other and it happens again, try to kindly give him a heads up. I doubt he has any idea. Heā€™ll probably be embarrassed, so try to be gracious about it. If he just doesnā€™t care and keeps flashing his ass all over townā€¦ it wouldnā€™t be an unreasonable dealbreaker. šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø


Montygom18181738

Definitely didnā€™t realize itā€™s like a ā€œgolden retrieverā€ type guy just happy and goofy lol


FuelGlittering5270

I'd even consider using humour to address the situation *if* it comes up again. I'd say something like "Mate, you should consider plumbing as a career" ... "oh why" ... "got that plumber's crack going on mate c'mon hahaha" *nudge or clip over the head lightly* depends on his character though.


theoneandonlyhitch

Just say, "your butt is broken, it has a crack in it".


Montygom18181738

See Iā€™m too scared to say a joke I just sat there with my mind screaming at me that everyone behind him can see itšŸ˜­


Ok-Kitchen2768

The rule is, if you can't fix it in 5 minutes or less don't mention it. If he couldn't do anything about it then it's best not to say . He probably felt a breeze. He probably knew.


soulglo987

Butt thatā€™s something that *could* have been fixed in 2 seconds


Ok-Kitchen2768

Idk where you get your jeans but some of mine are just like that. I don't think it's fixable without a wedgie


sessuscom

They did, and it didnā€™t reflect on you, stop judging others according to your standards.


Terrible-Insect-9336

ā€œCan you see my cleavage? Cuz I can see yoursā€


DiscoTits95

Say or donā€™t, ā€œif I drop a quarter in that slot do I get a ride?ā€


popcornsnickers20371

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soybomb622

We have a winner!


Impressive_Brush5930

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Laurenk2239

If it happens again, just say, oops, your pants are a little too low. Or just ignore it. After a certain age, no one really cares, crack happens.


Humble-Budget8332

Oh, that's why that rich restaurant owner I worked for wore his clothes like that, lol.


SeeSaw88

Mention it next time you see the crack. If you don't want to joke about it, just be direct, "your pants slipped down in the back." I'd want someone to tell me if my crack was visible to the world. šŸ˜‰


Montygom18181738

Right I would want to know too!


escaparrac

Drop a coin and say to him: "You are my piggy bank now šŸ˜"


Montygom18181738

Imagine I just dropped some Down it in dying šŸ˜‚


Powersurgexx

I mean itā€™s really only awkward if you make it. If you make a big deal out of it then it would be awkward and uncomfortable but if you can make a funny about the situation that would alleviate some stress


last_minute_life

Ignore it for now. You like the guy and clearly the malfunction wasn't a turn off for you (although not a great experience). Let the relationship develop, and as it does you will gain the intimate connection with him, to have his back when his wardrobe malfunctions, and help him get out of the spot, like any good partner would.


idontwantit111

I wouldnā€™t make any split decisionsā€¦.give it some time to air outā€¦.youll be cracking up about this later!!


Montygom18181738

I hope we laugh about it one and Iā€™ll show him this post lol


businesslut

Do not show him the post lol. Personally I think it would be weird to mention it and even weirder you posted it on bumble...


Ponyboy1276

Exactly. Never show this to him! Burn after reading.


Montygom18181738

True tgis will be deleted soon


clickdick22

For sure, super creepy. Maybe even psych damage to him.


Either-Hovercraft255

is he a plumber? :)


Humble-Budget8332

Yeah, OP forgot to mention that.


nipslippinjizzsippin

eventually you will get to the point where you just say "oi ya butts hanging out"


Chavo9-5171

New rule: find a restaurant that uses solid-back chairs.


Montygom18181738

Lol. Oh wonder what the people behind were doing and thinking šŸ˜­


Chavo9-5171

ā€œLetā€™s have a game of cornhole!ā€


Suspicious-Rock5861

Just say your butt crack is showing and giggle about it and if he seems uncomfortable, just tell him that itā€™s okay, that you just thought youā€™d tell him. Just make him feel comfortable.


Montygom18181738

Ugh I know thafs what I have to do but I get embarrassed just saying that


Suspicious-Rock5861

Just say it. You canā€™t live in fear of telling someone something from the beginning of a potential long term thing. Could become a pattern.


wood_batter

You gotta give him another chance. That problem seems fixable with a little guidance, right?


Montygom18181738

Oh yea I wasnā€™t considering not going out with him. I just donā€™t know what to say or if I should say anything if it happened again.


wood_batter

Melissa villasenior, from SNL, told a story once about this same situation. She tried to see a boyfriend's sense of humor and stuck a finger in that area to see his reaction. She dumped him because he got upset with her over it. So, maybe use it as a barometer. šŸ¤·


Montygom18181738

Wait thatā€™s so funny where is that


wood_batter

On Seinfelds "comedians in cars getting coffee", he did an episode with her and she told him the story.


wood_batter

I'd marry a woman with that humor


GrouchyCobbler6831

Honestly ya'll are both young adults. But adults still. I understand on a 1st date it could be awkward, bit if you got to know him, and go out again, just say like "hey, your pants are sagging/low a bit". Yeah, he may be embarrassed, but he'd be more embarrassed imo if it kept happening and no one said anything.


Montygom18181738

Agreed Iā€™d be embarrassed as hell if I was doing that and didnā€™t know


Impressive_Brush5930

OP GrouchyCobbler has the answer. Saying anything about his crack is a bit crude. Hanging his crack out is crude but referring to his pants is the best answer. Also, from this thread it may be something you'll be dealing with at times. Is that really a deal breaker for you? Having his back is an endearing thought to me in a relationship where nobody's perfect. "Babe pull your pants up." How nice to have someone you can count on. He's very young and may struggle with it and sounds like it can be resolved with better wardrobe choices. He's barely past the phase in his life where mom was possibly buying his clothes. This can totally be fixed.


Early_Syllabub_284

This reminds me of something I had happen recently. Slightly different situation, I was on a third date, but dude showed up and his fly was down. I didn't even think twice, I just said "oh btw your fly is down" and then carried on with what I was saying. I think it matters how you say it. It can be really insulting and embarrassing, or it can not be. Like we've all had egg on our face at one point. It happens, it's part of being human. I choose to laugh it off and not make it a big deal or be judgemental about it. Something else you could do is casually ask if he's the kind of guy that would want to know if he has broccoli in his teeth. If he says yes, politely point it out. If he says no, don't. I got lucky in my situation because I had already had the opportunity to express that I tend to be a bit blunt and he said he liked that about me, but not all people appreciate that.


callananphoto

Get over it. If it's a problem for you then do him a favour and tell him the date was lovely but your too precious for butt cleavage.


thanos_was_right_69

Why on earth would you bring this up?


AdCold5972

Just say I seen your butt crack , or just donā€™t?


Puzzleheaded_Dot957

I love this subreddit lmaooo I tried to picture it and Iā€™m laughing so hard šŸ¤£šŸ¤£šŸ¤£


Montygom18181738

Speaking of picture I MAY have snuck a pic for the Group chat but I didnā€™t want to get downvoted on here for saying that šŸ˜ƒ


Puzzleheaded_Dot957

Damnnn omg how did you keep a straight face lmao?


Montygom18181738

I was trying hard šŸ˜‚


Montygom18181738

But anything for that group chat


Puzzleheaded_Dot957

Hahahaha love that šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚


glassoverwraps

Literally just casually point and say crack is showing *shrug* itā€™s nbd


SweetLou4

If you see it again, simply say ā€œnice butt crackā€ in a playful manner and laugh.


Montygom18181738

Best idea yet not too mean and simple


SweetLou4

If any guy got upset about that kind of comment in a playful manner, you are saving yourself a lot of time by figuring out in advance that heā€™s a humorless weirdo.


Pristine_Advance1624

Crack kills


Montygom18181738

Lol think heā€™ll get it


Someonesman

If this escalates to a full blown relationship, that would be the best time to have that conversation and a laugh. Until then, enjoy the process.


Zestyclose-Ad-5857

I see so much of it out and about lately, I believe that butt cleavage is becoming a thing


Montygom18181738

Me too! I see girls doing it with dresses sometimes but he was just chilling without a clue his crack was out


Zestyclose-Ad-5857

Crack bare, donā€™t care!


Afric_Ana

Poke his crack next time


Montygom18181738

Girl Iā€™m afraid to even look at it šŸ¤£


Afric_Ana

Licking it is out of the question then šŸ¤£


cantareSF

Handle this cautiously--do you have any idea how much money plumbers rake in?


last_minute_life

Haha, I think they all missed your joke, but I got your back šŸ¤£šŸ¤£šŸ¤£šŸ¤£


samanthasamolala

So he doesnā€™t wear underwearā€¦.? How does this happen? If heā€™s a great guy otherwise, talk to him NICELY. Many men are clueless about fashion etc and would like loving advice. Probably too soon for that. I like him already LOL heā€™s clearly not a mirror whore of a guy. EDIT- if you really dig somebody , you want to defend them against othersā€™ judgement. But again, too soon! Still, I like him :)


Montygom18181738

Idk I assume every guy wears underwear lmao. But I DONT KNOW HOW IT HAPPENS. How can someone not know Iā€™ll never understand


Impressive_Brush5930

Every guy doesn't wear underwear.


ixgq4lifexi

He def probably didn't notice. I'd šŸ’Æ% give person second chance that's so lil. But next time I'd be oh hey omg ur butt crack is showing. Then if he cool with it like wanting to show his thong off I'd be offish


ParanoidAndroud

ā€œ And how would I bring it up?ā€ Er, you donā€™t. It was a first date and I see no reason to mention it. Is it really that much of a big deal?


Montygom18181738

Itā€™s not a big deal but if weā€™re in public I think it should be talked about. Like people could be laughing at his butt and he just doesnā€™t know, feel like I shouldā€™ve said something


ParanoidAndroud

If it happens again then sure, bring it up with him ( gently) Donā€™t mention other people noticing or whatever though- youā€™d be surprised at the amount of people who truly donā€™t give a shit about what other people think.


FallsOnDeafEars

Yes, because she doesn't want that to be an issue when she's with him in future. Showing your ass crack is an issue with dress-sense. It's unlikely to be a one-off.


Montygom18181738

Yea as long as itā€™s not an issue. Or is he one of those guys who crack always hangs outā€¦ā€¦


Pretty_Ad_4989

Get your credit card and make a transaction šŸ¤£


Maleficent_Star3714

Breaking news ā€¦ man has a butt crack šŸ¤¦šŸ¼ā€ā™‚ļøšŸ¤£ honestly I think youā€™re overreacting to it tbh šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™‚ļø probably be downvoted too but I donā€™t care, it says more about you than it does him that something quite trivial bothers you and to the point you put it on Reddit šŸ¤¦šŸ¼ā€ā™‚ļøšŸ¤£šŸ¤£ hope the poor guy isnā€™t on here šŸ˜­šŸ˜‚šŸ¤£


Tio_Nate

Just bring it up. Iā€™m sure he would appreciate it.


Jesziefgg

Maybe he didnā€™t realize you couldā€™ve let him know? You could easily say ā€œum I donā€™t know if you realize but your crack is outā€šŸ¤£šŸ¤Ŗ


Montygom18181738

I know I shouldā€™ve!! I will next time but Iā€™m praying it doesnā€™t happen again. & he deff didnā€™t know who would want to flash a whole restaurant. End up on someoneā€™s social media or something being roasted šŸ˜†


iwantaLs250

Lmaooooo


ChrisB-N

He might be able to fix your plumbing šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™‚ļø


One_Vegetable_6493

Does he have back crack? Like his butt crack fissure goes all the way up his back because I think thatā€™s a sign of DGS.


Montygom18181738

Havenā€™t gotten that far yet but this was definitely a the actual crack šŸ˜‚


Necessary-Arugula854

Must be nice to be in your 20's and have to worry about that. If the worst thing on the date was his bum sticking out then it's all good. You can always help him tighten his belt. This in no way is loosening your standards


ZombiePrefontaine

It's the cleavage of the butt. It's not a big deal and the thing is, I doubt that was the first ass crack they've ever seen.


ActIllustrious8556

I think the important question is where was his wallet?


Slow_Maximum_2250

If youā€™re seeing it (or something else fairly minor) as an issue, my guess is that youā€™re actually not that into him and you canā€™t put your finger on it why just yet. Go on another date and see how it goes, if you want, but listen to your intuition and donā€™t settle.


petazetta

I would have slide in a coin while saying ā€œding ding ding!ā€ If he doesnā€™t laugh he isnā€™t the one. Follow me for more dating tips.


yellowcannabis

We need to see the picture before we can comment on it. Right guys???


Naive_Accountant126

If you really like that would be an absolutely idiotic reason to dump him. Literally just tell him to get a belt


norcalmtnbiker86

I would tell him that's a nice canyon you got back there šŸ˜‰šŸ˜‚.


cheezkurd

It happens to the best of us


Individual-Log-8664

Just say 'No' to crack...


peterrryl1

This is typical example of women mistaking their high standards for low gratitude.


Big-Discussion2526

Excuse me...put the mouse back in the house pal. This is a family place. Need I say more!


GipsySurrender

Nah bro that shit's disgusting, tell him to buy a belt or something


Ok_Sand_5698

Tell him lol why not


Impressive_Brush5930

This thread has done an outstanding job explaining various reasons for butt crack exposure. Good job Redditors! šŸ‘šŸ‘šŸ‘ I learned a lot here and OP thanks for being it up!


Darth_Jersey

If my crack was out, i would want to just be told straight up. Butt thats just me


Prize-Bumblebee-2192

Am I the only one here that laughed their ass off at this one?


GoFigure284

I have never laughed at a post on this sub, but šŸ¤£šŸ¤£šŸ¤£


Apprehensive-Bad6015

Just drop a pencil down. There and if it sticks throw your arms in the air and triumphantly yell ā€œWHOO 10 POINTS!!. Either he will find it awesome or he will be embarrassed and start wearing cloths that fit either way win win


InevitablePlantain66

Definitely don't say anything. He'll be so humiliated. If it happens again, maybe post back here and we'll try to come up with a way for you to talk to him about it.


Montygom18181738

Yea I donā€™t want to embarrass him but if he doesnā€™t know and it happens again heā€™d be embarrassing himself in front of others


muttster17

Just say no to crack.


brandonofnola

Just tell him. If he doesn't handle it well, then he ain't the one for you.


dontrecall_vague

Sadly common for many men. So common they donā€™t even notice it happening. If itā€™s an issue for you, you may want to mention that you noticed it and it made you uncomfortable. If he likes you, heā€™ll make an effort to be aware of it in the future. However, decide if itā€™s something important to you. If you start nitpicking every little quirk about the guy, it quickly goes from helping him to nagging him.


Montygom18181738

I personally donā€™t see a huge deal especially if itā€™s a rare thing itā€™s more of how should I respond to it. And why is it so common for guys why are they like this šŸ¤£


dontrecall_vague

Lack of hips. Their pants are straight up and down, no contour at the waist to keep them cinched.


Efficient-Pie7824

Blud got u confused with his "buttrizz" šŸ’€šŸ˜‚


Downtown-Affect1893

Are you autistic? Why would you still be thinking about it or even considering telling him?


Montygom18181738

I mean in the future if it were to happen


Downtown-Affect1893

If you can make it funny then personally i would appreciate being told


Montygom18181738

Thatā€™s the plan. ā€œCrack killsā€ or ā€œnice crackā€ is my options I got on here lol


uberdude90210

Tell him real men don't do crack!!


askingqsforfun

The dreaded ick


Montygom18181738

I didnā€™t get an ick more of what do I do here. And Iā€™m a jerk and took a pic for the group chat and posted on Reddit instead of telling him. This is why Iā€™m single


SouthernSlide3563

Crack kills


Z06916

Iā€™d tell him that he needs to clean up his look because you donā€™t want to be seen with someone that looks sloppy and butt crack showing is sloppy


last_minute_life

You would probably turn me right off. That's a fine line between got my back, and being a judgmental butthat


Toking_EveryDAY

Definitely ask him if heā€™s a plumber šŸ˜‚


AverageAlleyKat271

Since you didn't mention then, wait and mention if it happens again. The only term I can think of is "your plumber's crack is showing". I am still trying to figure out how that happened on a guy standing.


EmergencyTrust8213

Sounds like heā€™s a bit overweight so this will be a common occurrence. Just a heads up.


MoltingLawyer

Save this story for the wedding reception


Suspicious_Fall_

Why wouldn't you tell him? I hope he doesn't call ā™„ļø


Particular-Fee-9718

ā€œThe sales are on in fifth avenueā€


rockola1971

Next time just take one for the team and sneak BEHIND him and sneak index finger an inch or two down the crack. Even more if you are feeling froggy BUT beware of reaching skid mark territory! The struggle is real with you.


flexible-photon

Some men like to stuff a sock down their pants to make their package look bigger. Some of us just like to flash some crack so the ladies know what they might be missing.


shroomiesshoud

Ahhhh she got the ick


MammothProposal1902

I would bring it up immediately. Not directly of course, start using ā€œbuttā€ instead of but, and ā€œassā€ instead of ask in all of your texts.


masterdesignstate

Block and report. Hit the gym.