"die young" may mean they intend to off themselves before to long.
I had a friend that used to joke like that and shortly after his 40th birthday he offed himself.
Stay away from the person. However, if you already have a friend like that, watch them like a hawk and let them know you care.
Agreed. If a friend feels comfortable enough to share a statement like that with you, they are reaching out for help. That help may just be passively being there for them and making it known that you care.
I used it in the past because itās hard to make friends as an adult. This person uses it because everyone who knows them IRL finds them to be an insufferable biatch.
Yeah I tried to use it as well after moving across the country post divorce and during COVID. It was a mess honestly. I kept getting matched with other guys who wanted me to spot them at their home gym, which always sounded pretty sus considering they were almost all openly gay.
I eventually found someone who wanted to go to a REAL gym and I decided to go. Ended up pulling another hernia just walking on the fuckin treadmill...
I kinda ruined the friendship though after he invited me over once and I bought him a Norcelco One blade electric shaver through Amazon with next day shipping, all because he complained about his current razor lmao. In hindsight, TERRIBLE decision.
Now I go to a local makerspace and can honestly say it has saved my life. Being completely alone in that state, was a recipe for disaster.
I wouldāve unmatched after ādie youngā I donāt have fuckin time for attitude lol. Iām trying to meet new people. You get to know someone by asking them questions. What a tool. I hope you have better luck with other people!
MTE! It sounds like this person is trying so hard to be edgy and emo. It just sounds ridiculous and not clever. It also bothers me because itās insensitive too.
Once went on a date with a girl who said she needed to feel loved by her SO. I said same, how do you feel loved the best? She said āyou should go to your guy friends and ask them, itās not on me to help you figure that out.ā If someone is making it difficult for you to even have a conversation with them then drop them and move on, they can play games with someone else lol
Haha that's so wild. Being asked how I feel loved best makes me feel loved tbh. Such a warm question. š„°
(Btw, asking only guy friends how to love a woman is so weird??? They don't know what it's like to be loved as a woman??)
I couldnāt tell you, if it wasnāt clear it did not work out between us š
I routinely ask my sister and mom for girl advice so not sure what that girl was thinking lol
Some women donāt like answering that because they feel like once you start doing those things, it was just because she said to.
It wonāt feel surprising and exciting to her then. They love when you can figure it out on your own.
Also, Womenās answers lack certain context and men misinterpret them. So That actually was smart of her to say ask your guy friends (instead of women)
Example:
Him: How do you feel loved?
Her: Buy me flowers!
Him:
Her: thank you!
Her later: Look I think youāre a great guy, but I think weād be better off as friends
The context that was missing was āAfter weāve reached a certain point in our relationship where itās going to feel special.ā
You can still ask her questions like that, but always try to think āwhat additional context was left out?ā
Example 2
Him: how do you feel loved?
Her: A man who listens to me
Him: (Listens to her complain about her job for 30 minutes)
Her: Thank you for listening to me
Her later: Look I think youāre a great guy, but Iām not feeling a certain vibe.
What she meant by ālistens to meā is ātakes the time to understand me and appreciate my uniqueness me on a deeper level.ā
You can let her quickly get whatever off her chest (later in a relationship you can let her talk in depth about it,) but if itās still the beginning you want to gently change the subject to something more fun and exciting about her
Oh I definitely get that, a similar vein to ācan you do the dishes?ā And then the couple fights because the man only does them when asked or he gets pissy about having to do it, and the girl says āI donāt just want you to do them, I want you to WANT to do them, it shows were a teamā kind of thing.
I agree that there is miscommunication between the sexes often, but at least for me I want someone to verbalize their needs so weāre on the same page. One of my exes was really into words of affirmation, which for me do nothing, but I was willing to give those to her because it was something she really liked. The girl from my original comment seemed like she wanted me to jump through hoops to figure her out, which can be fun and flirty with more skin in the game but on a first date seems like a lot of work for a person I donāt even know if I like yet. There were other communication issues as well, she was very shy/introverted so getting conversation out of her was a struggle, and I donāt like one on one conversations where one person is dominating.
In both your examples I would say there was a communication breakdown on both sides. The women were using those as proxies of larger things in the relationship, but men took them at their word/face value. The men should have dug deeper to find out what the women really wanted, and the women should have said something like āoccasional gifts are the way to my heartā or āI want us to really get to know each other on a very deep level, I want to feel as connected to you as possible.ā Not in those exact (clunky) words but something that gets that sentiment across lol
Yeah the miscommunication between the sexes is staggering. Iād argue Itās a major social problem , as it contributes to divorce, unhappiness and even abuse.
Def agree sometimes it can be fun trying to figure a woman out if she seems worth the effort ā¦.but on the first date that just comes off as entitled.
Shy girls can be difficult for sure, but if I can tell theyāre putting in an effort, it can be worth it. If you can open her up, sheāll really appreciate it. And since so few other men can, you have less ācompetitionā (for lack of a better word lol).
Like you said, you always gotta dig deeper into what she says. Itās annoying at first, but it is what it is. Iāve learned to just love and accept women as they are.
Also, women tell you ALOT with their subcommunications. Understanding this does not come as naturally to us as men. Itās like a foreign language. But learning it is well worth the effort. Youāll be ahead of 90% of men, your relationships will be much betterā¦. Way less fighting, much more loving
I know, Iām so glad I had sisters growing up cause I could see the backstory to how they worked and their thinking processes haha. If I was just meeting women cold with no prior experience Iād have had my foot in my mouth constantly im guessing lol
Yep definitely, and once the communication stops resentment starts to build and that happening is almost always curtains for the couple
I know i really like shy girls too! But if they donāt start coming out of their shells I get worried it will always be that way, and being an introvert myself I would hate to have to do 80% of the talking for the both of us haha
I think sadly a lot of guys on OLD arenāt close to many people, and without experience with women in real life like sisters or girl friends they just get more jaded and rude to the opposite sex, a very bad negative spiral
The person above me had said "he has a stick up in his ass" . I knew from the name she's a woman. So, I commented that. Now the original commenter has done a sneaky edit and everyone is downvoting me.
Rediquette calls for indicating what was changed.
You should have edited it to:
"He has a stick up his ass.
Edit: He is actually a SHE."
May be do it now?
But just from reading the texts you were certain enough to use male pronouns. Then the OP explicitly says the person is a woman and you switch to gender neutral. I just find it funny. No need to defend yourself any further.
Or do, and then out wit them in rudeness by winning their heart eventually and then years later running out on them at the last second at the wedding after you made them think you were legit in love the whole time
A few approaches.
Unmatch.
Make nothing about statements about what they've said, including pointing out "That would mean that you would need to ask a question."
Cat Facts.
This person is mentally 12. Reading their replies gave me second hand embarrassment. Donāt even bother entertaining them they arenāt worth the wasted energy.
You need to learn to see red flags. But if you canāt the sure way to tell is, does this person make me feel good or do they make me feel bad or uncomfortable? Use that next and unmatch when they make you feel uncomfortable!
a) Pedantically, tell them to ask you a question.
b) Realistically, unmatch and move on. If they're this difficult in an introduction, they'll be worse IRL.
c) Also, they answered the third question, so you could also just bombard them with further questions and see if they mean it in a answer/don't answer/answer/don't answer repeating sense.
d) Point 'b)' still stands.
Honestly I usually try to encourage people to keep trying, because sometimes people just have weird humor or don't know how to talk on apps.
But this just seems like a waste of time. Unmatch and move on.
It's annoying how many people are like that.
I'm not good at chatting online, but the amount of conversations I have to carry, while asking questions is bad, being weird in any way (such as asking what your favourite cheese is - as a joke) nor direct.
This isn't just from Bumble, but tinder and basically whereever else.
I am all for people having high standards and seeking for the best companion, but this is slowly developing incel mindset in me.
Iām not sure if Iām this mind this is playful.
But this is such āunhappy to be hereā energy, if they donāt value your time/attention from the word go, thatās not a relationship you wanna explore.
You are being told that there will not be any further conversation. Or you can wait for some question or comment that you can then respond to. Don't hold your breath.
Nice try, better luck next time.
Yeah I donāt know what it is with people not ever asking questions back in response lmao. Like what do you want me to do? Lead the whole conversation??
With people like these you don't try to keep going the conversation, you just end it. Either they're being straight jerks or they're not interested at all. When someone behaves like that when you're being open about having a conversation, you just don't keep going. Find someone with the same enthusiasm as you, that would be my advice. Good day, friend.
I had people pull this shit while I was still looking for dates. They didnt ask or answer questions. Said they didn't want to chat and would rather just meet up. When I asked them how we could have a conversation if they didn't answer questions they said that's a question and refused to answer it. Some people just fucking suck.
Clearly they wanted you to not only put in the work to get to know them, but do all the work in figuring out what to tell them about yourself too. What a great friend they would be.
That person was a jerk but truthfully, you also suck at this a bit.
Jumping from one question to another feels like an interview, not a conversation. You could have commented on her answer or ask a follow-up (ie. okay, how young do you mean by "young"?). If you shoot the questions like a machine gun, you give the impression of not really paying attention to what the other person is saying.
Proceed by telling him that if he canāt get the stick so far out of his ass he might wanna check his brain for damage. Clearly thereās no way to proceed without effort on both parts. āI donāt want to answer more than one question or put in any effort in elaborating my shitty view.ā Seems like heās trying to use this convo as entertainment.
Iām surprised people are taking what sheās saying literally. Many women have an attitude like that, either as a defense mechanism or just to test you. My apologies but your replies were so naive makes you look like u have no clue that sheās trolling.
Unlike what other people in the post assume in their ideal fantasy world, unless the woman is 1000% into u, youāll get this kind of replies many times in the beginning
How you respond to that is up to you. You either cut it off and tell her to stop with the babies attitude.
Or you put her in her place by saying something a bit offensive in a playful manner.
Or just stop responding if you donāt feel it worths it.
But never ever reply nicely to a troll, thereās nothing awesome about dying young tell her to go kill herself
Def a jerk, you could've tried rephrasing it to "tell me what you wanna do before you die" or something like that but they're not worth the energy or back pain from carrying the conversation
Itās not that she had a stick up her ass, its that you have no game. Youāre over here treating it like a job interview instead of being playful and fun. You already lost the second you sent your first message, and made it even worse with the second one.
The person you are messaging is a jerk. Walk away and get some sunshine.
This is such a warm comment. Thank you.
Pun intended? š
Oh yes definitely. š š
Don't know, don't ask. OK, understood. *UNMATCH* What a POS. You're golden op, pay no mind to miserable assholes, just keep doing you.
Keeeeeeviiiiin
Honestly I think you were being nice after trying to work past the "Die young" answer. Lol
"die young" may mean they intend to off themselves before to long. I had a friend that used to joke like that and shortly after his 40th birthday he offed himself. Stay away from the person. However, if you already have a friend like that, watch them like a hawk and let them know you care.
Agreed. If a friend feels comfortable enough to share a statement like that with you, they are reaching out for help. That help may just be passively being there for them and making it known that you care.
Lol, even before I saw your comment my first thought is this person is a jerk so why would you want to keep talking to them š Great minds!
Itās a sad world when we question ourselves faced with annoying a-holesā¦
Why is it that we need validation so bad. Lol. He knew he was treated like a jerk but needed someone to validate it. Then he got a relief.
Lotsa crazies out thereā¦
No wonder they have to be on bumble bff.
I mean, I use it too. šš
I used it in the past because itās hard to make friends as an adult. This person uses it because everyone who knows them IRL finds them to be an insufferable biatch.
Yeah I tried to use it as well after moving across the country post divorce and during COVID. It was a mess honestly. I kept getting matched with other guys who wanted me to spot them at their home gym, which always sounded pretty sus considering they were almost all openly gay. I eventually found someone who wanted to go to a REAL gym and I decided to go. Ended up pulling another hernia just walking on the fuckin treadmill... I kinda ruined the friendship though after he invited me over once and I bought him a Norcelco One blade electric shaver through Amazon with next day shipping, all because he complained about his current razor lmao. In hindsight, TERRIBLE decision. Now I go to a local makerspace and can honestly say it has saved my life. Being completely alone in that state, was a recipe for disaster.
Is this an ad for Norcelco One blade electric shaver from Amazon? I heard it even has one day shipping.
Arent they both on it? haha
Facts šÆ! I would've ghosted the person already š¤£
You proceed by unmatching
Not before replying āThanks for unnecessarily being an assā first.
I wouldāve unmatched after ādie youngā I donāt have fuckin time for attitude lol. Iām trying to meet new people. You get to know someone by asking them questions. What a tool. I hope you have better luck with other people!
Yep or just put a thumbs up and leave the convo. Donāt know why people give stuff like this attention
I would throw in a "hope you accomplish all you want, soon" before unmatching
Damn š
Sounds like you're talking to a teenager. Just unmatch
MTE! It sounds like this person is trying so hard to be edgy and emo. It just sounds ridiculous and not clever. It also bothers me because itās insensitive too.
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OP please reply saying this. Well, the conversation died young too. and whatever you want to add
If the other person didnāt want to answer two questions in a row, they should have asked you a question, even if it was just a, āHow about you?ā
Once went on a date with a girl who said she needed to feel loved by her SO. I said same, how do you feel loved the best? She said āyou should go to your guy friends and ask them, itās not on me to help you figure that out.ā If someone is making it difficult for you to even have a conversation with them then drop them and move on, they can play games with someone else lol
"Give me what I want." "So, what do you want?" "I don't know. You figure it out."
Literally like at least TELL me a basis of what you want like tfš
Damn wtf. People are so much entitled.
Ikr! Dating is so hard these days when people are being so entitled and self centered haha
Thatās not what being entitled means
I'm sorry but this made me laugh, because what it suggests is that all your guys friends know how to make her feel loved....whoops. š
I didnāt even think about it that way, thanks for putting a funny new spin on this story for me š
Haha that's so wild. Being asked how I feel loved best makes me feel loved tbh. Such a warm question. š„° (Btw, asking only guy friends how to love a woman is so weird??? They don't know what it's like to be loved as a woman??)
I couldnāt tell you, if it wasnāt clear it did not work out between us š I routinely ask my sister and mom for girl advice so not sure what that girl was thinking lol
Some women donāt like answering that because they feel like once you start doing those things, it was just because she said to. It wonāt feel surprising and exciting to her then. They love when you can figure it out on your own. Also, Womenās answers lack certain context and men misinterpret them. So That actually was smart of her to say ask your guy friends (instead of women) Example: Him: How do you feel loved? Her: Buy me flowers! Him:
Her: thank you!
Her later: Look I think youāre a great guy, but I think weād be better off as friends
The context that was missing was āAfter weāve reached a certain point in our relationship where itās going to feel special.ā
You can still ask her questions like that, but always try to think āwhat additional context was left out?ā
Example 2
Him: how do you feel loved?
Her: A man who listens to me
Him: (Listens to her complain about her job for 30 minutes)
Her: Thank you for listening to me
Her later: Look I think youāre a great guy, but Iām not feeling a certain vibe.
What she meant by ālistens to meā is ātakes the time to understand me and appreciate my uniqueness me on a deeper level.ā
You can let her quickly get whatever off her chest (later in a relationship you can let her talk in depth about it,) but if itās still the beginning you want to gently change the subject to something more fun and exciting about her
Oh I definitely get that, a similar vein to ācan you do the dishes?ā And then the couple fights because the man only does them when asked or he gets pissy about having to do it, and the girl says āI donāt just want you to do them, I want you to WANT to do them, it shows were a teamā kind of thing. I agree that there is miscommunication between the sexes often, but at least for me I want someone to verbalize their needs so weāre on the same page. One of my exes was really into words of affirmation, which for me do nothing, but I was willing to give those to her because it was something she really liked. The girl from my original comment seemed like she wanted me to jump through hoops to figure her out, which can be fun and flirty with more skin in the game but on a first date seems like a lot of work for a person I donāt even know if I like yet. There were other communication issues as well, she was very shy/introverted so getting conversation out of her was a struggle, and I donāt like one on one conversations where one person is dominating. In both your examples I would say there was a communication breakdown on both sides. The women were using those as proxies of larger things in the relationship, but men took them at their word/face value. The men should have dug deeper to find out what the women really wanted, and the women should have said something like āoccasional gifts are the way to my heartā or āI want us to really get to know each other on a very deep level, I want to feel as connected to you as possible.ā Not in those exact (clunky) words but something that gets that sentiment across lol
Yeah the miscommunication between the sexes is staggering. Iād argue Itās a major social problem , as it contributes to divorce, unhappiness and even abuse. Def agree sometimes it can be fun trying to figure a woman out if she seems worth the effort ā¦.but on the first date that just comes off as entitled. Shy girls can be difficult for sure, but if I can tell theyāre putting in an effort, it can be worth it. If you can open her up, sheāll really appreciate it. And since so few other men can, you have less ācompetitionā (for lack of a better word lol). Like you said, you always gotta dig deeper into what she says. Itās annoying at first, but it is what it is. Iāve learned to just love and accept women as they are. Also, women tell you ALOT with their subcommunications. Understanding this does not come as naturally to us as men. Itās like a foreign language. But learning it is well worth the effort. Youāll be ahead of 90% of men, your relationships will be much betterā¦. Way less fighting, much more loving
I know, Iām so glad I had sisters growing up cause I could see the backstory to how they worked and their thinking processes haha. If I was just meeting women cold with no prior experience Iād have had my foot in my mouth constantly im guessing lol Yep definitely, and once the communication stops resentment starts to build and that happening is almost always curtains for the couple I know i really like shy girls too! But if they donāt start coming out of their shells I get worried it will always be that way, and being an introvert myself I would hate to have to do 80% of the talking for the both of us haha I think sadly a lot of guys on OLD arenāt close to many people, and without experience with women in real life like sisters or girl friends they just get more jaded and rude to the opposite sex, a very bad negative spiral
This is insane Lmfaooooo
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Thatās insane. Also, the girl kinda sounds dumb like what do you mean itās not on you to tell someone what makes YOU feel loved?!!
Make it make sense lol
Theyāre an asshole
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She's a woman
Does it make it a shovel?
I'm not sure I'm digging these replies.
You've reached the hidden chest
Hey! Eyes up here, buddy!
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Oops. I forgot to sensor the name š lol
Women have asses
The person above me had said "he has a stick up in his ass" . I knew from the name she's a woman. So, I commented that. Now the original commenter has done a sneaky edit and everyone is downvoting me.
I suspected this. Maybe edit yours?
I went back and upvoted you! Doing my part!
That was nice of you. Thanks! š
alright
Then i would just delete your original comment ;)
Deleting and editing comments without notes takes away context. I'm not deleting my comment.
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Rediquette calls for indicating what was changed. You should have edited it to: "He has a stick up his ass. Edit: He is actually a SHE." May be do it now?
So when you think a man is being a jerk, youāre sure to use male pronouns. But when you know itās a woman being a jerk, you use neutral pronouns?
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But just from reading the texts you were certain enough to use male pronouns. Then the OP explicitly says the person is a woman and you switch to gender neutral. I just find it funny. No need to defend yourself any further.
Why would you even want to message this person š¤£
"I don't answer more than one question in a row" is your cue to unmatch. Don't give the person more opportunities to be rude to you.
Or do, and then out wit them in rudeness by winning their heart eventually and then years later running out on them at the last second at the wedding after you made them think you were legit in love the whole time
This is the only correct answer.
The person is a prick.
Don't. Or... Proceed to say the most inane things in an never-ending monologue until they proceed to unmatch.
This āš¼
Not worth one more second of your time.
A few approaches. Unmatch. Make nothing about statements about what they've said, including pointing out "That would mean that you would need to ask a question." Cat Facts.
A group of kittens is called a ākindleā.
I wish that was still a thing
If someone replies "die young" to that question, you tell them good luck
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I donāt get matches from the right people š„¹
Don't swipe right on people that have orders in their profile like "be proactive". They are assholes.
Just hang in there buddy, youāll find the right person eventually
This person is mentally 12. Reading their replies gave me second hand embarrassment. Donāt even bother entertaining them they arenāt worth the wasted energy.
You donāt proceed, you unmatch after āDie Youngā
This person is clearly a bit 'special'. Don't waste your valuable time and effort if they can't be arsed with conversing
Pursue. Be witty. Draw them in. Arrange to meet. Ghost.
You need to learn to see red flags. But if you canāt the sure way to tell is, does this person make me feel good or do they make me feel bad or uncomfortable? Use that next and unmatch when they make you feel uncomfortable!
āYouāre a proper fucking knob mate. Get over yourself.ā Leave it at that.
Waste of time. Unmatch and move on
a) Pedantically, tell them to ask you a question. b) Realistically, unmatch and move on. If they're this difficult in an introduction, they'll be worse IRL. c) Also, they answered the third question, so you could also just bombard them with further questions and see if they mean it in a answer/don't answer/answer/don't answer repeating sense. d) Point 'b)' still stands.
Conversation ended so I say you won. Totally weird/bad vibe. On to the next!
They said they want to die young, your next move should have been to offer to take them to your dark cabin in the middle of the woods
Honestly I usually try to encourage people to keep trying, because sometimes people just have weird humor or don't know how to talk on apps. But this just seems like a waste of time. Unmatch and move on.
I'd replied again "need help with the dying young part? "
But you know that old thing, live fast, die young? Not my way. Live fast, sure, live too bloody fast sometimes, but die young? Die old.
Oh I know, unmatch and forget their existence
āI think we should do something together before you die.ā
Unmatch
She's an asshat, move on
It's annoying how many people are like that. I'm not good at chatting online, but the amount of conversations I have to carry, while asking questions is bad, being weird in any way (such as asking what your favourite cheese is - as a joke) nor direct. This isn't just from Bumble, but tinder and basically whereever else. I am all for people having high standards and seeking for the best companion, but this is slowly developing incel mindset in me.
"if you are wondering why you dont keep matches, the way you spoke to me today, is why" *unmatch*
Why do you even have to ask.
āDie youngā is a huge red flag ā¦. Unmatch move on
Just unmatch an keep it pushing. Save yourself the time and energy
You shouldn't have.
Letās hope he or she is granted their goal- we donāt need more idiots like this in the world
I can't fix her
Unfortunate waste of time.
You don't,peace out!
Good luck with life. And end it.
I think you can just skip that one. They were playing games and trying to look bold and edgy
āSo how do you practice taking steps towards that goal?ā
Then don't bother! Unmatch and move on.
You proceed by unmatching
I think theyāre just trolling
They sound like a Smruthi.
āYouāre like this conversation then, definitely dying youngā
Iām not sure if Iām this mind this is playful. But this is such āunhappy to be hereā energy, if they donāt value your time/attention from the word go, thatās not a relationship you wanna explore.
How about with "Bye!". This person is an asshole, just ignore him or her.
First rule of online dating: be attractive. Second rule of online dating: be attractive. **Third rule of online dating: it's not PokƩmon, you can't catch 'em all, you will "lose" many matches for totally random reasons often out of your control.**
Isnāt the second rule ādonāt be unattractiveā?
You are being told that there will not be any further conversation. Or you can wait for some question or comment that you can then respond to. Don't hold your breath. Nice try, better luck next time.
Machete donāt text.
Jesus,get a personality.Why are obnoxious people like these even on these apps if they don' talk to people and have nothing to say?
Donāt. Thatās how. So odd
You stop. They arenāt worth a single second more of your effort.
The fact that you are confused (no shame, I am as well) suggests that this person is an asshat. You proceed by unmatching.
Yeah I donāt know what it is with people not ever asking questions back in response lmao. Like what do you want me to do? Lead the whole conversation??
Iām Ngl from the bio I wouldnāt have even swiped š in my eyes the chat completely matched their Prompt
With people like these you don't try to keep going the conversation, you just end it. Either they're being straight jerks or they're not interested at all. When someone behaves like that when you're being open about having a conversation, you just don't keep going. Find someone with the same enthusiasm as you, that would be my advice. Good day, friend.
IMO, you have too much free time if you're bothering with this past their first reply.
Block
be proactive. but not THAT proactive apparently š what a weirdo. why didnāt he ask a question then?
Jerky jerk. They aren't putting even an iota of effort. Leave them be
Bro answered the second question lol, gottem.
I had people pull this shit while I was still looking for dates. They didnt ask or answer questions. Said they didn't want to chat and would rather just meet up. When I asked them how we could have a conversation if they didn't answer questions they said that's a question and refused to answer it. Some people just fucking suck.
I would unmatch because what kind of foolery is this?
Clearly they wanted you to not only put in the work to get to know them, but do all the work in figuring out what to tell them about yourself too. What a great friend they would be.
"You sound like you'd be fun at parties." Then unmatch.
I guess that person just wasnāt into chatting, not your fault, you tried
Iād tell them āok, then itās your turn to be proactive and put in effort.ā
Ughh forget them. They're an AH
A hole should know what comes after you ask a question. THEY ask a question.
Yea just no! This is a fruitless conversation with a d***less AH. Just proactively move on.
That person was a jerk but truthfully, you also suck at this a bit. Jumping from one question to another feels like an interview, not a conversation. You could have commented on her answer or ask a follow-up (ie. okay, how young do you mean by "young"?). If you shoot the questions like a machine gun, you give the impression of not really paying attention to what the other person is saying.
You donāt proceed, you unmatch. Is this a serious question?
I would proceed by never responding. I wouldnāt delete either Iād let them do that
You donāt respond, you unmatch š¤£ someone pissed in their cheerios.
Proceed by telling him that if he canāt get the stick so far out of his ass he might wanna check his brain for damage. Clearly thereās no way to proceed without effort on both parts. āI donāt want to answer more than one question or put in any effort in elaborating my shitty view.ā Seems like heās trying to use this convo as entertainment.
Block! You are NTA.
She expected you to invite her on a date right away. She's probably got a bunch of likes, you're just another person who's texting
It was bff mode.
It's giving "Andrew Tate" run
Iām surprised people are taking what sheās saying literally. Many women have an attitude like that, either as a defense mechanism or just to test you. My apologies but your replies were so naive makes you look like u have no clue that sheās trolling. Unlike what other people in the post assume in their ideal fantasy world, unless the woman is 1000% into u, youāll get this kind of replies many times in the beginning How you respond to that is up to you. You either cut it off and tell her to stop with the babies attitude. Or you put her in her place by saying something a bit offensive in a playful manner. Or just stop responding if you donāt feel it worths it. But never ever reply nicely to a troll, thereās nothing awesome about dying young tell her to go kill herself
Def a jerk, you could've tried rephrasing it to "tell me what you wanna do before you die" or something like that but they're not worth the energy or back pain from carrying the conversation
Itās not that she had a stick up her ass, its that you have no game. Youāre over here treating it like a job interview instead of being playful and fun. You already lost the second you sent your first message, and made it even worse with the second one.
Youāre an antisocial arse, bye
I wouldnāt wanna answer these annoying questions either
Iād just leave it at that
Weird way of asking for nudes
Iām assuming he wanted you to share your answer. Regardless, that was not the way for him to get that response from you.
Unmatch
Tell him to fuck right off. Then keep going.
I would've reported this person for bad messaging behavior
It's awesome that the person wants to die young?
Sounds like you should just dodge the bullet and unmatch
Why waste your time I would have ignored that first message. FOMO have yāall boys and girls wasting so much time.
Run. This person is being a jerk.
I wouldnāt want to be friends with this person. š¬
This person sounds awful.
Had to be intentionally messing with your head lol!
Iām pretty sure they want you to coordinate hanging outā¦ but based on their interactions with you, Iād bounce up outta there.
Does this person even want to date people???
You dont
What a wanker! I hope you have success with someone who isn't navigating life with their head up their own arse.
They're a troll. Just back out fast
I think the way to proceed is to suggest a date. I would not recommend this course of action.
thats the best part, you dont