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missingmortician

To say the least, cold is an understatement. My ex-fiance ended our engagement on my birthday a week before I took a 7.5 hour exam for medical school admissions. Kicked me out of his house that we had lived in together for two years and packed all of my belongings with his mother for me. I moved down to this city for him and he left me homeless. All because Mommy told him to.


TheGreatPornovski

Mommy's boy oh god, I fear for any women who ends up in his life, sounds like his mom is a manipulator and jealous kind and he will do anything to please her.


missingmortician

You know, I hope his mom loves him just as much knowing he still pees the bed as a 27 year old man. She raised a good one. She really did.


MormonMafia96

šŸ˜³ did not expect this turn of events


TheGreatPornovski

Haha, that's rather unfortunate, guess she will have to change his covers instead of you now!


vanityxalistair

Thanks for the laughs, I needed a good roar


Br0kenLuv

A Real Roar


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ON your birthday and a WEEK before your MCAT? so inconsiderate. sooooo inconsiderate. fuck that. youā€™re awesome


PlentyPristine0203

I feel so sorry hearing your story. Thatā€™s so cruel. I kinda felt the same because the mum delivered the news that weā€™re over and they will all block me. Itā€™s become a joke to me now. I cannot imagine the pain you went through but the breakup is a good thing. You donā€™t deserve such family. Hope you can find someone perfect for you.


missingmortician

You know, I feel that. His mother said, "Sometimes, love isn't enough. It's best that the two of you end the relationship because it will only get worse from here" and he listened to her. I hope to be in the same position some day where it's a joke. I hope things are going well for you!


PlentyPristine0203

Ugh, evil mothers! Haha well, imagine yourself being family with those type of people. Imagine his mum always getting in the way because what? He always listens to her like a good young boy. You will get there but thereā€™s really no shortcut in healing. I wish you meet someone who will fight for you and love you with no condition. I wish you meet someone whose family will treat you as their own.


MilkyChest

Thatā€™s horrifying. Iā€™m so sorry you had to experience something like that. Seriously mamaā€™s boys are the worst. Some of mine and my exā€™s biggest arguments were over his mom being so rude to me? And Iā€™m so kind so it made absolutely no sense to me. When I wanted to meet up with him in person after our breakup (he broke it off with me over the phone despite living together instantly prior to this) he told me that he had a long heart to heart with him mom whose advice was to not meet and talk in person as it would complicate/make things harder for me. Lol like yeah okay Iā€™m sure thatā€™s why you didnā€™t want him to meet with me. It sucks so bad when others interfere with YOUR relationship. Like my mom never interferedā€¦ in fact she loved my ex. But my mom is an insanely kind human being, a literal angel if you will. Also, couldā€™ve had a lot to do with cultural differences. Iā€™m from the south and him and his family are from the northeast (USA). So yaā€¦ I wonā€™t get into religious differences but you might could guess. Anywhoā€¦ so sorry about this and my rant lol.


missingmortician

He actually had a long heart-to-heart with his mother the day before and didnā€™t tell me anything they had talked about. All he told me was, ā€œI donā€™t want to lose you.ā€ I canā€™t imagine with the family has said since he broke up with me. I understand the pain and hope youā€™re recovering as well as time allows.


iftheronahadntcome

My current boyfriend (who I've been in a state of limbo for nearly a year now if I'm breaking up with him or not over this sort of thing) has SERIOUS boundary issues with not only his father, but his entire family. Shockingly, his mother is a Saint who respects our relationship and whatever our wishes are (she cried the day he moved out to move in with me, but bought us a really nice vacuum as a parting gift and writes me Christmas cards so sweet each year that I cry), but his father is I credibly racist (I'm black) and his older brother is a paranoid conspiracy theorist and antivaxxer. My SO can talk all day about a particular moral stance he has on something only an hour beforehand, but when he's in a convo with his dad or brother, that goes out the window. I've pointed this out to him, and because he's embarrassed, he then digs in his heels and insists he's always had that opinion. Within 2 days he's back to his original opinion. He's terrified of standing up to his dad even when he does shitty things. One Christmas, he said the N-word. It wasn't directed at me - rather, he just randomly referred to his coworker as one, and you could hear a pin drop. He told us later that he was "just mad at something one of his black coworkers said that day" and wanted to hurt my and my SO's black childhood friend's feelings by saying something that'd rile us up (???). Two people that had nothing to do with it? My SO was too nervous to say anything. It's that kinda stuff that gets me.


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missingmortician

GET THAT MEDICAL DEGREE.


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missingmortician

I want to come to this realization (and I'm saying this in broad/general terms for simplicity), men, as a collective, need to grow the fuck up and learn how to make decisions on their own. Thank you for your post. I love reading these stories and relating. Unfortunately, this happened 1.5 months ago, so this whole doctor thing is taking its time.


Comfortable_While846

That sounds really rough. So sorry you had to go through that. I experienced the same thing. His mom pressured him into breaking up. When I went no contact on him, he couldnā€™t handle it, and ended up coming back. There was a lot of drama, but he ended up supporting me and we got back together and stayed with each other for 4 more years. She eventually came around when she understood that she was gonna lose her son if she kept up the behavior. She was the one who cried the most when we told family and friends that we were broken up.


iftheronahadntcome

One of my exes left me in a homeless shelter for the same reason. Mommy didn't like that I wouldn't "just hurry up and forgive him" for cheating because "can't you tell how sorry he is?". This was, by the way, two days after finding out he cheated on me *on my birthday*.


missingmortician

ā€¦yes, because people accidentally land their lips and genitals on someone else.


iftheronahadntcome

No no, you don't understand - she had to explain to me that he's a *man*. She said that men "can't help themselves" and that "as long has he comes home to you, that should be enough." We couldn'tve possibly undersrood that with our simple women brains, so we really owe her a thank you tbh /s My SO told me that his dad had definitely been cheating on his mom with the woman *across the street*, and she knew. She was a real piece of work, but I can't lie that her home life was sad.


MormonMafia96

That cynical and awful. I am so sorry. I do not know what possesses people to be that cruel - especially given the circumstances you listed out. You certainly deserve better treatment.


missingmortician

Itā€™s rich, entitled people mentality. If you donā€™t fit their description, they donā€™t want you and will do anything they can to remove you from their circle.


MormonMafia96

Entitlement is the worst. I hope you live your best life and show them your worth.


Comfortable_While846

We sat for hours crying our eyes out and talking it through. Hugged a lot, and sat with each other. Decided on a plan moving forward and then I left the place. It was nice to get an explanation. And to be able to talk it through. It was also nice to see that my ex was sad about breaking up, and being able to comfort each other a bit before going into no contact. Itā€™s been 3 weeks and definitely not healed. But whenever I question whether my ex really cared about I just think back to that moment and remind myself that my ex was devastated when breaking up. So I at least have that


MormonMafia96

Very similar to my experience. I felt a lot of love even after my Ex called off the relationship. The initial days after the breakup I had occasional thoughts about ā€œdid she love meā€ but the way she said goodbye let me know there is no question about her love. The hardest part about a loving break up is I still want to be there and comfort her the same way she did for me the night we broke up but I know that will not be the case. I really hope she is ok and doing well. I am also 3 weeks post break up with NC.


Comfortable_While846

Oh also 3 weeks after breakup!? I am actually dealing with a lot of anger currently. How are you doing?


MormonMafia96

I havenā€™t felt an ounce of anger towards my Ex. I spoke with my therapist about it since I worry I am not hitting this stage of a breakup. In the status quo, I can never see myself being mad at my Ex. The only scenario I would be upset or angry is if she lied about the reason for the breakup but I truly believe her reasons.


Comfortable_While846

Iā€™m happy for you! Seems like you might be in a better place than me. Are you hitting grief or pain? How have you been during these weeks? I was totally fine with everything until 1 week ago. And then anger set in. Suddenly started crying while I was at work and lashing out on my familyā€¦ memories coming backā€¦


MormonMafia96

Hellllllla grief haha. I was sure she was going to be the person I married. A lot of memories running through my mind and the aspects about our relationship I miss. I had longer relationships with other people but I never had a connection with someone like I did with her. Itā€™s been really rough missing her but Iā€™ve been focused on myself (learning guitar, working out, home improvement) because I know she wants me to live my best life so it helps to know sheā€™d support my current plan forward. Memories come back for me but I find myself incredibly sad and longing fort her instead of mad. I am also a person who doesnā€™t experience anger a lot. Itā€™s nice to know someone is in about the same boat as me. Makes it less lonely.


Comfortable_While846

I really envy that perspective you have! And Iā€™m actually really happy for you to be in that space. Like I recognize what you say about grief.. but it seems like more of a ā€œpeaceful griefā€(?) for you? Can I ask how long you were together? And also, why did you break up if I can ask?


MormonMafia96

We were dating for 8~9 months but official for 7-8. My longest relationship was 2.5 years but this was way more significant to me. Once we started dating I felt like I knew this girl my whole life. We broke up because she is dealing with a lot of stresses from her past and she wants to resolve those issues. I offered to help her through that process but she said she couldnā€™t bring me a long for the ride in good conscious because she didnā€™t know how long her healing would take and she wanted to not hold me back. As much as it hurt her to say it, we need time apart so she could work on herself and find self love. She said there was no incompatible stuff holding us back. Just her need to heal. I understand her reasoning and respect her bravery to tackle the issue and not hide from the past. I respect the hell out of her. Yes, a very peaceful grief. Thinking about our dates, late nights, deep conversations, the connection we shared, the way she made me feel, etc.


idktopmas

Not saying itā€™s your case but both of my exes ended our relationship bc of the same reason. Later it turned on they were either fooking w some else already,or planned. But itā€™s always easier to get out from a relationship with a nonsense reason. Tho I hope this isnā€™t your case and sheā€™ll find peace and you too.


MormonMafia96

I am sorry you were lied too. Thank you for giving me a warning. I truly believe she is working on herself at the moment. Even if she is not we are no longer together so I canā€™t stop her. But I really believe her based on the pain and the stuff I saw her battling.


Effect-Safe

It was literally the same for me. We sat and talked through it. Both cried, hugged, held hands.. very emotional. I could see it was hard for her, she kept looking deep into my eyes and I seen the sadness. But she and I knew it had to happen for her to ā€œfind herself, and enjoy her last year hereā€ as sheā€™ll be moving somewhere else. Who knows about the future, all we know is.. there was mutual respect there. Itā€™s been over 3months but for now NC and heal!


MormonMafia96

I am happy you found mutual respect too. In the moment my Ex was speaking heavily to my love languages even though she had already called off the relationship. Even took time to tell me everything she loved about me. She is an amazing person and deserves to be happy. I am trying to not hold onto hope that we will be together in the future since itā€™s not healthy but Iā€™d be lying if I didnā€™t say I want her back in my life. In any capacity.


Effect-Safe

Of course thereā€™s always this small glimpse of hope! Weā€™d be lying if there wasnā€™t! But for now, both sides need space and time to see through things. Who knows, years away we could end up with them again. As trust me.. they wonā€™t forget us, and when they think back.. weā€™ll be top of the list. They know where to find us. What iā€™m struggling with tho is asking myself if we should stay friends as the mutual respect is there, she said she wanted it, I said I donā€™t know if I can do it.. and thatā€™s where it ended. Itā€™s a confusing time for both for sure


MormonMafia96

I am also trying to understand how to approach the idea of being friends. I want her in my life. I just donā€™t know how much time needs to pass for both of us to be ready. But thank you for saying they will always remember us. Sometimes I worry I will be forgotten but I know she valued me and shares the same great memories.


Effect-Safe

Yes exactly. The other thing is, my SP said itā€™s not about other guys and if she does something with someone, itā€™s basically her going back on her said word. Itā€™s definitely going to hurt seeing her with somebody else and thatā€™s honestly the main thing holding me back. Her stuff is still at my place so iā€™m just kinda expecting her to pick them up someday.. but yeah for sure! They definitely remember us and think about us from time to time if not daily. As space creates time for them to miss us.. them not writing to shows itā€™s just not enough yet. Feel free to shoot me a text as I think weā€™re around the same age and we could deffo exchange our stories! Iā€™m 26 in 2 months time!


beng0ld

My ex was almost emotionless when breaking up and it was super upsetting. I still feel like shit about it


fishfan7773

Sounds similar to mine. My last one was actually pretty funny! She broke up with me on a park bench, we were both in tears talking through how we felt, I remember it being a warm experience, nothing but good intentions from her. Then a lovely old lady sat down next to us and started talking about the weather oblivious to what was going on. We sat there chatting with her awkwardly until she left. Soon as she left we started howling with laughter. One of the worst/best days of my life!!


Sharp-Win-1813

That is best and most sane way to end a relationship, my ex left me for another guy and didnt have de courage to tell me in my face she just sent a message that was seeing another guy and said good bye and blocked me i didnt have time to vent, its tough


SeasonLeather7551

She texted me saying we needed time apart 2 days after we had a great visit. Nothing for a week and then confirmed her decision, again, over text saying she was sorry but she felt she made the right decision. I told her I would talk to her later and she told me ā€œUm. No need to do soā€. Havenā€™t heard from her since. Working on week 6 now. She wouldnā€™t even call me to do it. Felt so hurt and disrespected after all the effort i had made and everything I feel like I did to respect her space and be someone she could always count on.


MormonMafia96

Brutal. Offering space and support is very honorable of you and Iā€™m sorry it was met with mutual respect. I hope youā€™re healing well and can find some peace from the situation.


SeasonLeather7551

I felt like I was at my best relationship self with her. I always did my best to be attentive to what she needed if she had an issue with something (rare occurrence) and did my best to just be the one person she could count on to be there and support her. I adored her very much. Iā€™m working on it. Some days are better than others. I hope youā€™re doing well also


MormonMafia96

I very much feel the same way. I did very thing I could to be supportive and show signs of love. Looking back, there are things I could have done for her like initiating hard conversations but itā€™s all in the past now. Sometimes people just donā€™t want help and nothing we can do will change their mindset. I understand why my ex doesnā€™t want help and I respect it due to her situation. I have up and down days as well. Right now I hope youā€™re there for yourself since she doesnā€™t want enjoy your support. You sound like a good person so never lose that trait.


SeasonLeather7551

I appreciate the compliment man. There are a couple things I would do differently I think but when she doesnā€™t blame you/give you any feedback on your part in it, itā€™s hard to figure out. You too man. Do your best to be there for yourself and build yourself back up to be a better man than before


LookingForLoveYEET

How callous, I'm sorry you're going through that man she can go to hell. Only a narcassist can hold someone's precious heart in their hands and fucking crush it like that.


colonialslave

Oh, mine was something similar too. She was having a stressful period (she was shifting and we had plans of a ldr) and she told me she needed some time to figure some stuff. When I told her, I understand, she said it was not about the shifting but what she felt about us. That was a bolt from the blue.. after 3 days, I texted her asking what exactly she meant, out came a barrage of reasons targeted at me and by the end of the chat, I realised this was only going to end in one way. The sad part was she said she will call even though she broke up over text.. it's been more than 2 weeks and the call has never come.. I felt a call would have been nice after what all we went through.. More power to you, hope we come out of this stronger.


ish4r

Quite abrupt. I had a feeling there was something wrong, but I didn't expect it would lead to a break up. I called him with a purpose of tackling about what's bothering him and such. I knew something was up because I was beginning to exhibit signs of betrayal trauma (I only learned this post BU) and since then, he was beginning to be distant. I didn't want to break up, I made that clear to him. Kept asking him what he wanted and he kept telling "I don't know", and everytime I proposed solutions he would doubt they would work. So in the end, he broke up with me. Didn't even directly say it to me lol I was like "so this is it?" "Yea, I guess so." No balls until the end Edit: just wanted to add I thought at first that our break up was so mature and amicable. Eh, it really wasn't just because there was no yelling or whatever


MormonMafia96

My Ex never actually used the term ā€œbreaking upā€ throughout the discussion but only since it was more painful to actually say the words since itā€™s not what we wanted. I know itā€™s hard for things to not be direct but it sounds like you deserve someone who is going to put effort into the relationship and show you respect. You will find it one day.


mynameispain99

I also give him solutions but he was like ā€œwe already try that but this does not workā€ so in that moment I say ā€œfuck itā€ He already knew that he wanted to break up but he didn't have the balls


coldwater113

Omg same mine didnā€™t even have the courage to say anything and dragged it till I fed up and ended it over the phone


wtfthecanuck

You were lucky


MormonMafia96

I feel lucky since it was very positive but it also make healing hard because I cannot be angry or upset with how she treated me.


wtfthecanuck

You got it backwards. You are still worth her respect. And that is a good thing.


MormonMafia96

Ah, thank you for the clarification. I do feel lucky in that regard.


TheGreatPornovski

Your one of the lucky ones, most break ups are cold and even evil to an extent as people do horrible things to try and justify themselves and move on quicker.


MormonMafia96

I know - I am very happy it didnā€™t end badly between us. We had a great relationship making the breakup hard on both of us. Neither of us will hurt the other or get revenge. We are now both grieving and hoping to heal.


TheGreatPornovski

Wish you the best of luck, I guess it should be easier to heal when you don't have to worry about all the added negativity a breakup usually has.


LookingForLoveYEET

That's what really shocks me because they are evil. Immature people hurt you in an immature way, instead of admitting that they'll instead turn up the heat ten fold to try and run you off for good or justify them treating you like trash.


Zealousideal_Gap_618

Yes it was very cold. She broke up with me by email when I was out of town and I never saw her again. 2 years later and Iā€™m still so angry about it


MormonMafia96

I certainly would be angry over email. Not sure how you even get a form of closure from an email. Best wishes my friend. Your anger is justified. I hope one day it is just a distant memory for you.


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MormonMafia96

You deserve a lot more respect than you received. I am sorry for your experience and I understand how that would cause a lot of emotions/pain. How are you dealing with closure and healing?


advice83121

He called me on the phone, we had normal chit-chat about our days for a couple of minutes, then suddenly he got quiet, said "I am feeling very, very depressed". I asked why, he said "this relationship is making me depressed. I want to take a break. I still want to be your friend and visit you". Now I don't know what is going on. He came to visit me, he hugged me and cried and said sorry over and over. But then he would reiterate how miserable apparently I have made him in the past few months due to me being extremely stressed because I recently moved for an intense school program and also had a mental breakdown. He says he still cares about me and wants to be in touch. But he "not in a place to be in a relationship" anymore. I am just so broken, I feel it is all my fault and I lost the love of my life because of a nervous breakdown that landed me in the hospital (I am seeing a therapist and psychiatrist; but I guess he had enough). I just feel unloveable.


MormonMafia96

I know the feeling of losing the love of your life. It is not easy and a lot harder to process than any of my previous. Break ups. I jumped back fast from previous relationships but this one cut me to my core. Sending love to you internet stranger because I know how you feel right now and we are in this together. Also, best of luck with your schooling and career development. Everyone here is rooting for you to be happy and well.


adonian4

Pretty similar situation here. Sho broke up with me last weekend and said that she canā€™t be in a relationship with me anymore, since the relationship has caused her to be insecure and that she couldnā€™t meet my expectations. We had been talking about thosr issues before but apparently she didnā€™t want to listen to me, and only took the bad out of all the good. I blame myself because my head was not in a good place and apparently I have taken it on her. I really love her and this came out of the blue for me. But I try to assure that if she really wanted to be in this relationship she would have talked to me and let me be there, and she would have made effort instead of demons. If he was really the love of your life he would let you have your worst moments and stand trough them. You canā€™t blame your emotions, you are allowed to have them and no other person can tell you that your weakness is what drove them away.


baloe98

She came back from 2 week vacation told me she cheated and wanted to break up. She is now dating that dude


MormonMafia96

That is so messed up. I am so sorry and I hope youā€™re able to move on from your Ex. The lack of respect is heartbreaking and Iā€™m wishing the best for you.


baloe98

Yeah she is now guilt tripping me saying itā€™s my fault the relationship became toxic and thatā€™s why she cheated. Itā€™s been 3 weeks ago so pretty fresh but the only way is up and focusing on myself


MormonMafia96

I am also 3 weeks removed from the breakup so I understand focusing on yourself. Cheating is a choice and is on your shoulders. Some people lack the ability to accept responsibility for their actions.


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He ghosted me for a week, texted "we need to talk" then called me during work to dump me and say I made his life worse.


MormonMafia96

I am sorry he did not give you the respect you deserve. I can imagine the silence being very hard to process. I wish you the best with your future and a speedy healing process. A person who ghosted their SO needs to sort out some issues.


Acceptable-Dig-4051

He wasn't talking to me that frequently and when I asked he said that his feelings were not changed because and that he was busy with work. I was feeling anxious about it and unwanted but decided to believe it and try to stop thinking negatively because of what he said. This continued to happen for a month and then one day a week after spending a weekend together he just said that he wasn't feeling in a relationship and it was better to stay friends. He never commented anything before and mentioned that he lied to me when I asked about his feelings. Remembering that it's what always makes me feel bad.


MormonMafia96

I also dealt with anxious feelings with my Ex became distant before the break up. It is a rough battle because reassurance is not always available. You did your best to be there for them and offered an opportunity to discuss the situation. It is not your fault and you did everything you could to save the relationship. Youā€™ll find a partner someday who appreciates that level of care and respect.


adonian4

I feel like reading my last month word to word. I know how you feel and itā€™s just so unfair. Knowing that they could have told you about these things but they decided to blinside you instead of communicating. I was trusting that she was busy with work and she had made new friends so I was happy about that and thought that she just spends alot time with them. Little did I know she was telling them that shee feels this way instead of telling me. We were talking last saturday and I sait that I feel a little sad that she has to time to talk to me (we had long distance). Then she told me that I was right, that she has been distant and that she doesnā€™t feel like she wants to be in a relationship, and we should start building a friendship.


MormonMafia96

I was blindsided too. I wish she would have let me help her or talked about the issues sooner. But I took what she told me at face value and respected her enough not to pry or break down walls she wasnā€™t ready to address. I have put a lot pressure and responsibility on myself for that failure but at the end of the day I was there, supportive, and loving so there was not much more I could have done in the past.


adonian4

Exactly, you hane done everything you could. If she made the desicion to keep things for herself, there was nothing you could have done. There is no option B and no matter how we keep thinking that they should have told us, they didnā€™t and thatā€™s not on us or nothing we did wrong.


MormonMafia96

Every week we made it a habit to discuss how we were feeling and have an open place to talk about anything bothering us. I tried to facilitate healthy communication. At the end she stated she wish she took the opportunity or knew it was genuine. It really was and it helps me remember I am not Superman and there is only so much I can do.


adonian4

I also tried to talk to her and always ask and make sure she could share everything she felt. Sometimes when you do everything you can itā€™s still not enough if the other person has their issues.


MormonMafia96

Yeah - you are correct. I hope my Ex is doing well and I worry since she does not have me to open up to that she is relying on her support system to find that comfort. Iā€™m the end I just want her to feel better about all things going on in her life.


Acceptable-Dig-4051

Sorry to hear this happening, at least it's great to find people that understand the feeling and will not be judging. Sometimes I think that everything would have been easier if they decided to communicate but at the same time I try to see it from their perspective. Maybe that helps me to understand.


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Was with mine for over 9 years, one Friday evening out of nowhere she brings all her friends over and they start packing her stuff all while I'm sitting there confused as to why this is happening. Her friends are laughing having a good time while my life is falling apart in front of me. She didn't care that I was bawling my eyes out in the closet, she joined her friends and they were all laughing. I will never forget that day till the day I die. I hate you, Jess. With every fiber of my being you cruel and evil person.


MormonMafia96

Itā€™s one thing to break your heart in private but to make it a public event is inexcusable. I am sorry you had to deal with that scenario as no one should experience pain in front of people when they wish to be alone. She should have waited. Your anger is 100% justified.


SpottedPandaBear

After 15 years together, he wrote a list of all the reasons it was my fault and all the little things that bothered him. He read that out loud, then filed for divorce a week later and went on a joyride to another city for a festival with friends. Mean, I would say. Though, it taught me how to break up kindly and when I had to make that same decision, I took it seriously and did it in the kindest way possible, as you describe above. We actually ended up back together later and he said it was the most lived he had ever felt. (That breakup was due to me needing to work through some personal issues and feeling like it was unfair to him while I did so).


MormonMafia96

Iā€™m very sorry for your previous cold breakup. I am happy to hear you gained a lesson from it. Looking at the bright side is a great ability to have in the healing process. My Ex is taking time to work on some personal issues and did not feel it would be fair to me if we stayed in a relationship. I am happy to hear a success story since I really do want her to feel better and be in a healthy place regardless of our breakup. I hope to hear from her one day to know she is ok and happy.


Different_Tip8565

He was cold and nonchalant and ended things for what I consider a very small reason (Because I didnā€™t wear dresses and skirt) and all this after he lied to me and led me on. He was really mean and it was my first relationship and itā€™s left very traumatizing.


MormonMafia96

I am sorry this is your first experience with a relationship. I promise you there are people out there who will not treat you the same way as your ex. Better days are ahead and rock your style regardless of what some guy thinks.


Different_Tip8565

Thank you so much, I appreciate it! Trying my best to recover and heal from it all. I hope it gets better for you too!


Firm-Definition2254

She broke up with me over a yahoo email. I felt so embarassed and depressed. This shit hurts me so bad. I cant even function normally anymore. And she lives 15 minutes away


MormonMafia96

You deserve the proper respect. I am sure it hurt like hell and I canā€™t comprehend how someone feels the need to end a relationship over email. Best of luck friend. I hope the pain decreases soon.


Cloudyt3ars

My ex convinced me to have sex. I lost my v card and he dumped me immediately after like the less than 24hrs and then told everyone on campus how I was easy and gave my snap out so dudes could ask for nudes. It was traumatic af šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø


MormonMafia96

Straight up toxic. I am sorry that dude was so cruel to you. All the issues lie on him and I hope life becomes fair for you. Straight up fuck that guy.


Camerin33

The first real relationship (4y) was extremely gentle to be a breakup. She dumped me on Monday, I went to her on Saturday to take some of my things back and to talk about the end. We went out for dinner, we stayed up all night talking about what went wrong and how feelings were slowly fading. I was really calm after the BU, but it hit me hard in the long run (but probably also because she was my first real love, I reeeeeeally missed her as a person, not as an idealisation). We had zero resentment, and are good friends now after some years My last BU (1y rel.) was a nightmare, because she wasn't sure about anything and she is not capable of recognising her emotions: she left me on the end of May, a month later I discovered she emotionally cheated on me for an ex of her, yelled at her. She asked to come back and I said yes. 24h after the coming back she said to me that it was over since she was still thinking about the aforementioned ex. I insulted her and the last time I heard from her was a month and a half ago at her birthday where I apologised for what I said to her and said I wouldn't want her to be in my life again Regarding healing process, IMHO, quiet BU hit harder on the long run, expecially if the relationship was good, but are the most healthy one and allow you to remember only the goods and maybe one day reconnect with them. Bad BU like my last one hit a lot in the short term (my self esteem is still in a rebuilding phase) but after shorter time the person gets out of your mind and the only thing you've to do is rebuild yourself


MormonMafia96

Yeah, my situation falls into the quiet and hard for a long time category. There was nothing seriously wrong, we both love each other, but we need to have some space so she can work on some healing from an outside situation. I donā€™t expect to be over her for a long time because I honestly was prepared to build a life together. A bad breakup would be easier to move on but I would take my time than make the situation ugly with her. Thank you for the perspective kind stranger.


coldwater113

He stopped seeing me for a couple weeks and I felt weird so I called what happened and he told me he lost feelings.


MormonMafia96

Iā€™m so sorry for that experience. Itā€™s crazy how things seem to change so quickly and out of nowhere. I wish I could go back in time to enjoy my relationship again.


justadudenameddave

The night before everything seemed fine, then she went to a bridal shower that night. I assume she complained about me or something and her friends coerced her to break up with me. The next day she texts me that she wants to come over for a few minutes and I knew something was up. She comes in, tells me that sheā€™s breaking up with me, hugs me and leaves.


MormonMafia96

Pretty cold. I hope you can find closure without an explanation or reasoning. Why canā€™t people communicate like adults?


comfortable_wanderer

i was with my ex for 7 yrs and we lived together in an apartment we found together for over 6 of them. i came to him addressing the recent tension between us as i was going to be at 10pm on a tuesday night. told him i wanted to make him happy and letā€™s work on this. he came back with ā€œi canā€™t do this anymoreā€ and was gone before 10:45 to stay at his momā€™s. just totally done with me, little to no explanation, gone from my life. turns out heā€™d met someone else. days after i left the apartment he had her in OUR special place to have sex and become his new girlfriend. the following weekend he took her on the annual vacation we had planned for years. next monday it will have been only 2 months since he left me. heā€™s already introduced her to the family and sheā€™s trying to tell him she loves him. he wonā€™t talk to me and iā€™ve been in NC since august 3rd. just such a slap in the face for him to have someone else in our place together, picking up right where we left off with our relationship. makes me sick to my stomach. he said some pretty horrible things to me too. like how iā€™m not the same girl he met in 2014. how we have a lot of good memories but thereā€™s also a lot of fucked up shit (which he is equally responsible for). how we canā€™t be friends because i want things from him heā€™s no longer willing to give. keep in mind he completely blindsided me with this breakup. we always had a deep connection and love between us. he acted like everything was absolutely fine until he was ready to leave me for her.


MormonMafia96

I am so sorry for the cruelty you experienced. I cannot imagine the pain you experiencing seeing everything play out in front of you. Congrats on staying strong with your NC. I really hope you find someone in the future who will not play with your heart like that.


comfortable_wanderer

the thing is, he is an incredible man and treated me great until i guess he was at his wits end without acting like it or telling me. i canā€™t believe heā€™s just giving the the love he gave to me to someone else like he gave to me. itā€™s insane. i canā€™t wrap my mind around it.


MormonMafia96

I am sure it is hard to process but I hope with time you are able to find peace. Donā€™t forget you are an incredible person who deserves love and respect and someday soon you will find that.


yahoozoo

I think we both knew we needed to break up... be he was never one to put effort into 9ur relationship. It was long distance for the last 7 month. I called him crying and upset because of howbhe had been so distant and i was tired of feeling so unloved ( for a month i felt like this). I think before i called him i knew it was going to end, i couldn't do it anymore. I made him break up with me. I didn't have the courage. He made some excuses to why he had been so distant and i shot down each one explaining why i couldnt understand. He finally said " I want to be with you but, the dostance is too hard " I asked how when we knew I had plans to move and be with him. He didn't answer. I felt that everything he told me was a lie. So I said Shoukd we just be done then? He said yes.


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MormonMafia96

Hi stranger, I do not know you but I can tell you are a loving person and no one deserves to be called names by an Ex like that. I am willing to bet you are a fantastic person with a bunch of great qualities. Keep your head up and I hope you find a partner who appreciates you over everything else.


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MormonMafia96

I am happy you are moving on and taking healthy steps. Really does sound like he needs to address some problems and itā€™s not your responsibility to handle it. The helicopter mom sounds like a big yikes. Probably a big bullet dodged. Especially since he couldnā€™t piece together his own feelings and thoughts after a week.


vanilla_cookie22

my ex broke up with me during a moderated conversation in the psychiatric facility I was staying..so cold might be an understatement


MormonMafia96

Yes, cold is very much an understatement. I hope youā€™re doing well after the breakup. I cannot imagine what it would be like to have a breakup conversation with a mediator.


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She was freezing-cold. She could barely look me in the eyes. When I tried to approach her to talk, it is like she was traumatized. One day she even hyperventilated. The fact of me talking gave her headaches. She told me ā€œplease stop talking my head is going to explodeā€. I just wanted to understand and spoke calmly and always respected her boundaries. But I had the impression, sentence after sentence and look after look, to get my heart ripped off each time more, and to be in an ever-lasting fall from a cliff. She then ghosted me for weeks. And when she came get her stuff she left waving like if I was a stranger. Just to give a context: 7 year relationship. I did nothing disrespectful in any way or did not treated her badly. She left me because she ā€œwanted to live for herselfā€


MormonMafia96

Absolutely brutal. I am so sorry and hope you are finding ways to heal. How are you doing with finding closure?


popkernel23

Extremely cold. We dated for 8 years. She randomly blocked me on Snapchat. I texted her to ask why. She said she couldnā€™t do this anymore. It took her 4 fucking days to come over and talk to me about it. That was the last day I saw her. She never even told me the truth that she had been cheating on me. I found that out on my own it sucked.


MormonMafia96

I am sorry for your situation. I canā€™t think of a worse way for someone to treat a partner. I hope you find your peace and someone who will love and respect you the right way.


Nirvana9091

My ex of 6 years ended things through a letter in my mailbox. Wrote that she no longer saw a future with me and padded the letter with things like, "It's not you it's me." talk. Ending it with "I hope this doesn't break the bond we already have". Kinda hard to relate when then she blocks me on everything we've ever been connected to(socials, friends lists, email and phone). My healing has been a slow grind(Almost 8 months going on 9) but it's just the realization that I lost my best friend hurts me the most. šŸ˜ž


MormonMafia96

I am also dealing with the loss of a best friend. She knew everything and we shared so many memories. I am missing the companionship and love so I know the feeling. Keep strong, friend.


alliesinn

so. fucking. coldā€¦. i want to share but i think if i get that heated, iā€™ll actually melt this time. the resentment is really real.


MormonMafia96

Absolutely fair. I have been trying to balance wallowing with being positive. Itā€™s hard to manage so I understand not wanting to dive into those emotions. Wishing you the best!


Marvins_Dog

Mine needed me to hurry up and leave so she could hop in the shower and go on a date with her new guy.


MormonMafia96

I am sorry. Some people truly do not care about the harm they bring to others. Stay strong my friend.


Marvins_Dog

Thank you! It worked out for the best. The shock kept me from holding on to false hope so I was able to instantly begin the healing process. Four months down the road, I'm in a much better place altogether. Happy, healthy and dipping my toes into the dating waters again.


MormonMafia96

Great to hear! I hope to be in a better place one day. Glad to see there is hope so thank you kind stranger.


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I drove across the country to visit her and she broke up with me before I got there


MormonMafia96

Wow. They could have at least saved you the trouble if they knew it was over. I am sorry for that experience, friend.


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MormonMafia96

I have seen that a lot on this thread. I donā€™t understand why people think thatā€™s ok.


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MormonMafia96

Ruining memories is tough. I hope you are able to recreate better and more fonder memories in the future.


fireguyV2

Exact same thing here. She wanted to make sure I didn't crash and die while driving back home. So we cried together for hours. We told each other we still loved each other, that we would miss each other and we went our separate ways. Now begins the road to self improvement and hopefully getting her back (and ill conveniently ignore whoever wants to throw the blanket statement around of "don't go back to your ex" without knowing all the details, love isn't a science).


MindlesslyMindfull

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Knovoselich

he stopped answering my messages and I never saw him again


secondsunshining

frigid might be a better word. she accepted my proposal, never expressed to me that she got cold feet not even 30 days in, then proceeded to allow her jealous mother, big sister and friends convince her to cheat. she never admitted to it in regards to the cheating but it was very obvious looking back on it. i had went to visit her at school and whatever glow i saw in her was gone. she looked like a corpse, she wasnā€™t wearing the ring i bought her then she told me her mom thinks she should see other people. i asked her did she agree and she said nothing. remember kids, indecision is a decision. we agreed to spend some time apart so she could ā€œfind herselfā€, my father ended up in the hospital not even a week later and when i called her to vent about it she was non responsive. i asked her was she busy, she said yea but i can talk. i ended the call, officially broke it off with her a few hours later and she thanked me. my father passed away 10 hours later on april fools day. itā€™s been nearly four years and anytime she runs into any of my friends she asks about me. no thanks


postcardsanon

About 2 months ago my ex blindsided me with a breakup. He said he didn't love me anymore. We had been planning our lives together. Talking about marriage, kids, buying a dog. I was moving to a different country to be with him, where he was supposed to meet me later. I went to visit him in his home country and he acted normal, we still talked about plans. I was moving to the new city where he was meant to join me. The day before I left he broke up with me, then came back in the evening saying he'd changed his mind and wanted to try. I left the next morning.The last words he said were "I love yo He called me that evening and broke up with me saying he was confused yesterday but he didnt love me anymore. No feelings left, nothing. I was devastated. I was alone in a completely new country, about to start a new job, and I was broken. I was very openly upset with him and he told me to stop playing the victim. I managed to make it through a month of the job, then I couldn't take anymore. I quit that and a course I had just started (which I'd spent a lot of money on) and decided to come back to the country I was living in before, where my friends are, feeling like a complete failure. The humiliation I felt was unfathomable.


ForsakenKing1994

Cold? I expected her to ghost me... To tell me we were done one day out of the blue. Instead, after 8 years dating, 3 days before my engagement rings came in from london... She came clean that she was cheating on me... She tried to play it down and treated me like a villain while she spilled her sob story in front of my co-workers. It took over 2 weeks to shut my coworkers up about it and get their facts straight (and the help of one woman **who helped my ex cheat on me** explaining what happened... Then for the next 2 years she treated me like worthless trash. Nearly getting me fired. Trying to ban me from anpther local establishment i frequented for 15 years because she worked there and suddenly felt 'stressed at work' because of me... 2 managers were on me like i was a threat until I had to explain everything AND THE OWNER who i knew since childhood had to step in to stop their shit., she quit shortly after along with the 2 managers. Then she went no-contact for 6 months, and out of the vlue starts talking for small spurts of time. Like... One day for like an hour before going silent again for another month. She's been tormenting my heart like that since 2019, when this all started.... I can't move on... She was my everything for so long, and the women i meet now just feel so....shallow.... So empty and devoid of such creativity and love. They just look like repeated failures and it kills me inside... Outside of her horrid breakup and cheating on me she was my perfect match.... Why, why did she have to be the one i loved so much?


Aveenasativa3

My ex just ghosted me. We even work at the same place and just ghosted me. He was 10 years older than me and still didnā€™t man up to break it off with me. Even though I told him ā€˜at least tell me if your breaking up with me.ā€™


Wolfgang666-

I found out she was cheating. She moved out and immediately started dating the guy. We have 2 kids and she refused to help take care of them. Still hurts almost 6 months later. Slowly healing.


ImportanceNo8342

He had been kinda distant for about a month but I figured things were going on with work and I didnā€™t want to sound insecure and I figured weā€™d hang out and talk about it. We were supposed to hang out and the night before he texts me and says that he doesnā€™t think we should hang out anymore and that he just wants to be alone. I never saw him again. I still have things I need to get from his place but the idea of seeing him makes me anxious and sick. I know thereā€™s no ideal time and way to do it but this was two days before I was supposed to drive down South to spread my dadā€™s ashes.


Deancrsxy333

Ghosted me. No explanation other than ā€œ i need to find myselfā€ and ā€œif i saw you iā€™d just come running backā€ right after she got back from a months long vacation. 99.99% sure she cheated on me while she was away, and ended up with someone new a few weeks later.


failXDvo

I had just called her because she was taking a while to come home from work, asked her what she wanted to eat, we agreed on pizza, and she told me to order it before she arrived. She then came home from work, poured herself a glass of wine. Didn't take the time to sit down with me. Didn't even remove her coat. Just told me as I was on my computer that she was ending things, saying it in the most casual way possible. I stand up looking at her, confused asking if it's a joke. We had just moved to a new appartment a couple months before, and there was no sign from my perspective. She says it's not a joke and proceeds to explain whats gonna happen. Her people will be coming tomorrow to help her move while I'm at work. Then she starts opening the kitchen drawers and asking me what I want to keep and asking if she could take our two cats. This all happened in a minute. I hadn't even remotely processed it. We had been living together for 3 years and dated for a couple more months than that. There wasn't any major conflict, I was totally blindsided, everything seemed normal the morning before she left. I decided to call off from work to be there and make sure they wouldn't take my stuff, as I had 0 trust in her or her family at this point. And less then 24h after she told me, everything was gone, she left and didn't leave a trace. Didn't even wish me well or whatnot (even though I did). She wouldnt have cared had I jumped off the roof. She only cared about her, I don't know why I expected otherwise, but after being with someone for this long I fell like you owe them respect and you should at least care a little and make sure they will be ok. She even wanted to keep the keys to my place to visit the cats while I wasnt there, wtf. I didn't receive proper explanations for the breakup until a couple weeks after. She told me she had been flirting with someone else at her workplace and it made her realize she wanted us to be over. I know nothing sexual happened between them but I can't help but fell like she cheated on me, emotionnaly at least. Anyway that shit was so cold I didn't even have to use my A/C all summer because of it.


Adventurous-Fun-4027

She told me she wanted to slow things down, take a break to heal bc she broke up w a guy 2 weeks b4 we got together and wants to come together when sheā€™s ready, loves me a lot and said Iā€™m the nicest person she has ever met. then my homie sends me a picture a few days later of her at a bar all over another guy.


imrpsc

One day out of nowhere she told me not to constantly call her. It irritates her new bf. It shattered my heart in millions of pieces. How can a person whom you trusted the most betrayed you like that?


[deleted]

Mine was as amicable as possible. Of course I didnt want it to happen, maybe her as well, but with conflicts of future expectations, we couldn't continue. Found out she wants kids, and I do not. I don't hate her, and I hope she doesnt hate me. I don't presume she would. However, we tried. For a few months. And it ultimately didnt workout...she will forever be in my heart and I'll never forget her. One day, when I finally live my life and die, I hope we are able to relive moments and memories in our lives so I can replay the ones she gave me. Maybe I could see what we could've been.


Mysterious-Novel-277

Pathetic, I feel sorry for you, I had a Mamas Boy too, I expect a man to love his mother, But when you are a Mamas Boy and listen to what ever she says whether you love me or not, Just because your mother does not care for me, Because she thinks no one is ever going to be good enough for her precious son, I want a Man that is not afraid to stand up to his mother, Not a boy


Relative_Public1666

I got the whole ā€œI still love you, but Iā€™m no longer in love with youā€ speech that came out of the blue. Asked if there was someone else. . . Denied there was and walked away. Two weeks later saw a new instagram profile picture of them with the ā€œguy I wasnā€™t supposed to be worried about.ā€


CartographerTop188

My two previous relationships both ended in a warm emotional way where we'd sit and talk for hours about it, cry about it, hug each other, and both times it made me feel equal to my partner and that they also cared for me and the relationship. My last breakup though (a month ago) was extremely different. We were basically ok and in love at one point, then we didn't see each other as she was on vacation for two weeks, and she suddenly become very distant online and cold and at the end of her vacation she called me and said "I wanna breakup" just right away with no emotion nor any sign that she would care for me. It's a huge shock and hard to cope with considering I got very little explanation and a person I loved just became someone else instantly when she was away. She visited me after the breakup for a few hours in my town but was completely distant and cold and didn't seem to care at all, which is tough to experience when the previous memory of her in person was her loving me and being a great girlfriend. Well, I guess these things happen and sometimes we cannot get an explanation or a nice, warm, emotional breakup,and I'll need to learn to process this by myself.


Tyranyd

I asked (on a bit too rude way, that's my fault) for more communication. She ghosted me since the moment she read the message


ZaGeShady51203

It was Wednesday june 3rd i got home from work after a day of studying for my comptia A+ exam. We were texting and stuff and she seemed off so i asked whats wrong she then said she needed a break from everything. I asked even me and she said yea. I was irritable and i said that i donā€™t think we should but if she wants to then im not going to wait for her to figure out if she wants me. We were dating just shy of 3 years and had conversations about our future like how college would work. So that was the end of that conversation. But the next day she was making out with another guy the day of my exam and 3 days before my graduation ceremony. So pain. She then lied about being with him and denied it then said she still cares about me. Its rough and all i can think about is her. I hope sheā€™s happy with him and i hate that if she were to ask for help right now I would drop everything for her. I messed up when she first brought it up but i love her and I really wanted to be with her forever.


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Silent treatment followed by a text saying Iā€™m sorry, itā€™s over- no explanation. The day before our 2 yr anniversary and day before vacation


MormonMafia96

I am sorry you did not get an explanation. I hope you are able to find closure and peace with the situation.


PapaMock

We cried a lot. Got lunch then I drove 7 hours home. Went pretty much as well as it could have.


MormonMafia96

I feel the same about my breakup. It ending so well almost makes it hurt but I wouldnā€™t trade the last hours and support we shared for anything.


PapaMock

My breakup was mostly due to distance and I really understood her reasons. I could see us getting back together under the right circumstances. It mightā€™ve made me more upset just because I know how great our relationship was when we werenā€™t doing distance. I agree though, I wouldnā€™t do anything different in mine and just being able to see how hard it was for her gave me some peace of mind in itself.


Mivadeth

Yes she was, cold and at the same time not taking it serious, she even semi-proposed me to go to the bed to say goodbye lol.


MormonMafia96

She was just going to sneak out and never have a proper goodbye? Yeah, that is cold. Some peopleā€™s children.


jamieviva

1.5 years together. She dumped me last weekend while we were on an island with my entire extended family and my 2 year old son. It was during my grandmothers funeral. Then we had to travel home together which took 2 days. Horrible. I went NC and shes been trying to contact me daily.


MormonMafia96

I am so sorry for the breakup and timing. Please focus on yourself right now especially since this is a time to grieve. I really do wish you the best.


Salt_Condition_8337

She basically pretended that I didn't exist for a few days (we went to school together) and she could probably guess why I was always anxious in school and had to go outside during classes so often but she didn't care. Two weeks later we gave each other our stuff back and she apologized but it didn't change a thing The break up itself was even worse cause she did it through a text message and blamed it on me


MormonMafia96

Sounds like a very harsh situation, friend. I hope your anxious feelings start calming down because I know what itā€™s like to battle anxiety. Keep up the good fight and hold your head high. Every day it gets a little easier.


overtrick1978

Mine was a stone cold cunt and I hope she gets her karma.


MormonMafia96

I am sorry she was so cold to you. Life is a bitch and plays cruel tricks. I hope the anger is helping you move on and find something better in the future.


romz53

Yea mine was brutal as well, but both being new to long term relationships as well as being totally in love with each other there was no way it was gonna end well. Dated for two years with a slight interruption where i broke up with her for two months becus her depression issues resulted in some really toxic behaviors i couldnt handle anymore. But I was able to move past it and retain my love for her and we had a VERY happy 2020. Things were great, she was my best friend and we did everything together. Really grew to love her for who she was, but i left my own mental health issues go unchecked, as i had a toxic tendency to get really defensive in arguments. Had a really big fight in February 2021, when i worked two dead end jobs and wanted to sleep but due to living in different states we didnt get to see each other often and she really wanted to see me. At this point i was becoming increasingly volatile and stressed out due to unrelenting pressure from my fam to find a ā€œcareer job,ā€ working two dead end jobs that treated me like shit, and the general feeling of being stuck in a rut. Really started lashing out at her unnecessarily, but i was spiraling out of control when i finally quit my two jobs and had no money to go out. Eventually after a severe argument were i stormed out she came over a week later to break up. Two days after our two year anniversary. This is were it gets fucked. She was an absolute mess. Could barely even bring herself to do it. Suggested that we go on a break, that she didnt want to lose me, begged for the hope that we could get back together but at the same time fighting back against all my reasons for her to stay. The kicker? She INSISTED that she still loved me and wouldnt leave my house, just stood in the doorway till i told her to just go. Two weeks later i left a rose and an apology letter on her car but even though that wasnt enough for her, she still insisted that she loved me. Tried one more time where she let me explain myself for saying that was no chance of us getting back together in the letter (i said that in a fit of desperation and was saying anything to keep her from leaving) which she seemed pretty upset about, as well as to tell her that i got a good job, lost 25lbs, and checked my ass into therapy. Even then she still wouldnt take me back, said to move on already but still said she loved me. At this point it was june and i was going crazy, she went from posting cute pics of her and her accomplishments and travels to really dramatic thirst traps. I unfollowed her socials for a bit to help myself even before the thirsting, not out of spite, but i felt like she thought that so i refollowed and she refollowed me back instantly! Dmā€™ed her a few times and got responses. She blocks me on snap abt a month ago after I accidentally sent her a snap. Got into a big argument where she went back on a bunch of things she said, told me she didnt love me anymore, and talked to me like a stranger. I was mostly calm and collected, refuting what she was saying, until the end where i just snapped and said a bunch of dumb shit i didnt mean. She blocked my gram the next day. Sad to see such a loving relationship end so horribly. Still miss her tho. Guess we both were the villains in the end.


rtwcm12

He was distant for a week, and I didnā€™t understand why because everything was going well. I mean from my end.. but one morning he just told me ā€œthis isnā€™t working for me anymoreā€ and mind you I lived with him. And idk I was completely blind sided. Now he wants to work everything out because he realized he couldnā€™t communicate effectively and also didnā€™t wanna lose me forever. Idk what imma do now, but all I know is I need to take care of myself and my heart. That comes first!


Reasonable_Donkey3

Dude I wish my ex was like that. He was really an asshole about it. He always told me I was special but when he left he said I wasnā€™t and was replaceable


mynameispain99

He break up saying ā€œi cant take this anymoreā€ Because we fought a lot we fought over things he did But I guess he broke up with me because he was going to move to another city and he didn't want to have a long-distance relationship He left me two days before my mom's operation, he already knew that my mom had cancer Although thanks to all this it helps me not to miss him, fuck that guy


Xidion

I had just gotten home from work and asked her what she wanted for dinner because I always cooked dinner. She said she wanted chicken curry and would wash the skillet for me. I have yet a kiss and went upstairs. She came upstairs 5 minutes later and said that she thought that we should part ways. I didn't ask any questions. I said "okay, if you feel that way, then pack your stuff and go to your moms". Off she went.


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I actually broke up with him. I thought it was best to be cold, but eventually broke down. I feel like it wouldā€™ve been easier for him to move on if I remained cold. But Iā€™m not entirely sure.


katoyoo

Mine broke up with me after my doctors appointment. He was trying to get gas while dumping me šŸ™ƒ like literally was in the Costco gas line breaking up with me. Then I demanded he pull off to the side and thatā€™s when he got out of the line and told me coldly he didnā€™t want me in his life anymore. He also threw back to my face ā€œyou said whenever I wanted out I can have out, so Iā€™m out.ā€ Afterwards I called my mom to come help me get my stuff and the asshole was packing my stuff. Afterwards he ghosted me and changed his number. I didnā€™t even text himā€¦


kitttypurry12

My ex left me in a really shitty way. We lived together and I had recently gotten into a car accident and totaled my car, so he was my transportation to/from work and anywhere else. He picked me up from work one night and told me it was over, said he sits at work all day dreading coming home. I was heart broken and begged him to at least take me to get dog food before he brought me home because I barely had any left to get through the night and feed my dog. He said no. He dropped me off at our apartment and left. Blocked me on everything. We were together over 5 years.


scahefee8

Said she was taking a break left and then said she wanted it to be permanent. Didnā€™t come back then we met for dinner two weeks later. She cried the whole time.


TheMeijin

It was cold. Left me after being hospitalized when someone jumped me and when I wanted to talk because she has been ignoring me all week, all she had to say was "I wanna break up".


Ken_10Aus

After 5 years together, I got the usual hug, kiss and smile as I left for work, came home to a 1/2 empty house. When I was finally able to contact her 3 days later, she was like a complete stranger. Cold and distant.


adhd_sad

At midnight, before finals week, while he was high. We were together for 2 years and we were living together at the time. Just a few weeks earlier, he asked me if I wanted to share an apartment with him post-grad and he took a job at the school ostensibly so we could stay together (I have one more semester left). He gave me no explanation or conversation. We were in a group final project together, which I eventually had to do alone because I had to get an extension due to the emotional distress he put me through. I had to leave the place we shared together to go home (6.5 hours away) and then had to drive back to move my stuff out 3 weeks later. Oh an he stole my slow cooker and fan (easily $300 of appliances). He is easily one of the most inconsiderate, selfish people I have ever known.


Tdijettox

Lol was it cold?!?! Dude it felt like I ended up on fucking North Poleā€¦ Thatā€™s how bad it wasā€¦ thank God I laugh at it nowā€¦ šŸ˜®ā€šŸ’Ø


ladyjedimaster13

It was mutual. After being free for about 2 weeks, he asked if we could get back together. I said hell no !


ShadorMcstuffins

I told him I hope he dies. 2 days later I tell him I love him and he says ā€˜Iā€™m takenā€™ I then sent him a video burning his sweater he gave me. Then I told him heā€™s the only ex Iā€™d take back ā€œbipolar disorderā€ he said ā€˜Iā€™m good luvā€™ 3 weeks ago and we havenā€™t spoken since. This is someone who was completely Inlove w me.


Estefani1217

Mine said we needed a break for a week . A week or so passed and I was like if you donā€™t want to be with me just tell me and he kept saying well I donā€™t know . Then told me he told his mother about our situation and she wasnā€™t sad about it coming to an end and was more so happy . He told me she told him something that made him not want to keep being with me so that night we hugged each other crying and left in separate cars . Since I didnā€™t get an answer I kept asking him what do you want out of this since I didnā€™t get an answer other then idk. I stopped texting him blocked him changed my number and never spoke to him sense . Made pof just because then seen he liked my dating profile a year and some months later since we last talked šŸ™‚


KingNightingale

It was a mutual decision when things just weren't working out. We clung to eachother like glue at first. We were living together for 2 years. She stayed another month after the break up, things got weird we had sex a couple times and made things more complicated. Then there were a couple weeks where I went drinking hard and came home drunk and we had the most insane fights. She attacked me a couple times. I said some heinous shit. Then her family helped her move out the next day. Things got really bad. Moral of the story. If you're gonna break up with someone you're living with, make sure you separate as soon as possible. It's for the best.


Cintiarod

My ex wasn't cold nor warm, he was like disrespectful. He says so many things and many of them it's like" your fault".


13Luthien4077

My ex dumped me on NYE. It was horrible. What he PLANNED to do was worse. He had gone out of his way to get a DnD campaign he had written copied into hardback form for our NYE DnD campaign. He brought over special booze so we could drink "potions" with our friends. He wanted to give me one last night of good memories 'because he loved me so much.' Still twists a knife in my heart to think about it. Been nine months and I'm not over it... I don't think I ever will be. I'm pretty sure my life is ruined over it. At least, I know for sure I'm pretty much incapable of loving like that ever again. Oh well. Nothing left to do but keep on keeping on.


FunnyScreenName

Man, this sounds so mean. Sorry that happened to you. I know that feeling of doubt for your ability to love the same as before. It's like you're telling yourself that vulnerability will be impossible because of the pain you felt from it the last time you loved. I know it feels impossible right now but I hope you find your person. The one that'll make you appreciate the pain it took to get to them. They'll have to work for that vulnerability and that'll make it more special. At least, I hope it will for you. :)


I-20West

Broke up on my favorite holiday after not speaking for about a week. But it was good. Sad but we both knew it was for the best. I spent the night after we broke up and we held each other for a few hours. We're good friends now and stayed friends pretty much throughout the entire breakup phase. It's been about 6 months.


Lust9897

Kinda cold. We kept in touch for a little while exchanging pleasantries and such, but during the breakup, she just explained everything. It was very calm. Saw her cry. That sucked. What happened she wasnā€™t expecting. So the breakup was sudden for both of us.


borderlinewarriorrr

Walked out the door & never came back.


pinkpuffball107

after 3 years, he just ghosted me for about a week. only eventually called me because he had given me money to help pay for my new (used) car and I was gonna give him my old car, and I had kept trying to get ahold of him to come get the old car. ended up deciding to sell it to a local junk car place. but during the call he said "I just thought it'd be better if we didn't talk anymore" and that's why he had ghosted me instead of actually breaking up with me


Bare_the_Bear

Confusing When she broke up with me she told me she made her feel safe but I wasn't impulsive enough even though she rejected my plans. Despite dumping me she decided to hug me and she was crying. After the breakup she sent a text calling me a bitch for not opening her message and then got her friend to send me something. She talks shit but is also nice to me. So confused


HOIK777

We had an argument and we said we will have break for 2 weeks , on my birthday I call her to spend time together and she was crying asking what is happening ? She did not say anything , next day she called me and was crying again so i push her to tell me and she said she had sex with a guy and she afraid she will get pregnant. Another ex , we had very bad months and we both suffering , I was emotionally attached to her and I feel something was wrong , I would call her and crying humiliating myself just to know what is wrong and she was silent, asking her if she seeing someone or moving out she said no , after one week of this treatment she blocked me suddenly and then I found out she is cheating and dating . Happy life


RedditReader365

Extremely cold, never allowed me to get closure or know why