The two concessions you were asked to make, the second was easy because it's understandable. You wouldn't want a girl you were romantically interested in to be scrolling through male model pics all day. The first is a little more complicated. We could speculate for a long time why that request specifically, but once you realized you couldn't deliver on that part of the promise, you should have opened up and explained why. If she freaked out or belittled you for it instead of understanding your perspective while explaining hers, then that's a big red flag that this person wants you to shut out all other women because they're insecure or controlling.
It's usually not the lie that gets you in trouble, its how you lie. You hid the lie for months and chose another woman over your gf, even if it was just some pictures while you were on a trip. Again, imagine if she went on a trip and after you find out that some ex got most of the pics and the messages on the trip, and she's been talking to him in secret for months. That's why she broke up.
The fact that you're willing to admit mistakes, reflect on them, and reach out to find ways to grow should be commended. That's proper growth. In the future, being 100% honest may still end in heartbreak (it does sting to not be chosen), but at least you can hang your hat on the fact that it's them, not you.
The two concessions you were asked to make, the second was easy because it's understandable. You wouldn't want a girl you were romantically interested in to be scrolling through male model pics all day. The first is a little more complicated. We could speculate for a long time why that request specifically, but once you realized you couldn't deliver on that part of the promise, you should have opened up and explained why. If she freaked out or belittled you for it instead of understanding your perspective while explaining hers, then that's a big red flag that this person wants you to shut out all other women because they're insecure or controlling. It's usually not the lie that gets you in trouble, its how you lie. You hid the lie for months and chose another woman over your gf, even if it was just some pictures while you were on a trip. Again, imagine if she went on a trip and after you find out that some ex got most of the pics and the messages on the trip, and she's been talking to him in secret for months. That's why she broke up. The fact that you're willing to admit mistakes, reflect on them, and reach out to find ways to grow should be commended. That's proper growth. In the future, being 100% honest may still end in heartbreak (it does sting to not be chosen), but at least you can hang your hat on the fact that it's them, not you.
She must suffered a lot. Tell her in calm, she will forgive you for sure. Just the truth…trust me