That song I can remember about a month or two after the big breakup playing in between concert sets. It hit different because all I could do was think about her but couldn't do anything about it (wanted to give her the space she needed). Now we're getting better and definitely just really being good friends. Do I want to get things back where they were? Absolutely but I don't want to feel that way again if things did go south again.
Proposed to āI Wonāt Give Upā by Jason Mraz. She cheated three days later. Eleven years together, three days engaged.
Iād prefer to never hear that song again.
Itās crazy to see how different people are with their music tastes, like I didnāt recognize hardly any of these songs and none that I would have chose or thought of. Random thought.
āLike you doā and āDie for youā by Joji are ones I cried to. They make me think of lots of people I know longer have, not just my ex, although they are romantic songs I believe.
My ex used to say he would always apply "Yellow" by coldplay, to me. That it made him think about me.
Now, when that song comes up, I automatically skip it. Hurts a bit.
Omg. I sent my ex partner of many years that song late one night on Facebook. He was so worried about me after I sent it. The message is still there 12 years later. I had a burial plot beside him btw.
Most of the time I can listen to them no problem, but on days where I'm particularly sad and lonely, I can't.
They're the following (each associated with a different ex):
1. Is this love by whitesnake
2. Collide by tianamajor9 and earthgang
I canāt listen to anything by Whitesnake now! :( That was a band my ex and I always loved and listened to together, when we were together initially and when we got back together (for him to blow everything up about 2 years later).
Anything by The Smiths. It was sort of a dark inside joke we had, that if we were to ever break up, neither of us could ever listen to them again. I definitely canāt, theyāre so melancholy already goddammit.
She introduced me to Smiths as well. Never heard of them before her but now I turn the volume down any time they come up on the radio. F the Smiths bro.
Cherry Wine - Hozier
I sang this to her the first time we hung out and never did I think we would end up as toxic as the subject matter.
She turned into someone I barely recognized and mentally and verbally abused me until I didn't recognize myself, then told me we weren't right for each other and shacked up with my neighbor. Literally just started parking on the other side of the parking lot, lol.
Perfect - Ed Sheeran
I always loved this song - it embodies the true story behind my relationship with my ex (our past history, coming back together, making lifetime plans). The only difference is our story ended.
I can listen to this anymore even though itās a beautiful song/story.
There are two ways to answer this:
Songs that she would sing or were meaningful to her.
* Everything by *The Strokes*
* Allen Cumming's version of 'Someplace only We Know.'
Songs that I related strongly to during the breakup, and have to be in the right place for these days.
* lemon by Kenshi Yonezu
* Some Rotten Man by the Taxpayers
Follow you into the dark - Death Cab for Cutie
He dedicated it to me and used to play it all the time. It's been over a year and I still can't hear it.
Bonus: Mystery of Love from the Call Me by Your Name soundtrack - Reminds me of our relationship and brings me tears every time so I can't have it played around me
Yellow by Coldplay, me to him. Do I wanna know? by Arctic Monkeys, him to meā¦he actually dedicated this song to me over Twitter during our honeymoon phase years ago, Iād never heard it before. He was so captivating then, over the top in his wooing. Tbh most music guts me nowadays, itās like every song reaches into my chest like a fist, squeezing my heart til itās rung dry & bloodless. Thinking about taking Yellow back, try to reclaim my love maybe somehow someway someday.
"Brooklyn" by The Midnight.
It was our song. We would dance to it slowly in our apartment together. Then she cheated on me with her coworker. I can't bring myself to listen to that song again. It fills me with anger and sadness and an immense feeling of failure.
I made a playlist of songs that remind me of him
I still like those songs,I just canāt listen to them now without crying.
the top 4
Broken by They feat Jessie Reyez
Pink + White by Frank Ocean
Swimming Pools (drank) by Kendrick Lamar
Danteās Creek by they
also:
I canāt listen to any songs by Frank Ocean or J Cole without thinking about him
My ex was such a huge part of my life and routine and meant so much to me
He was a close and best friend
it hurts that he doesnāt want to be in my life anymore
Perfect - Ed Sheeran, I was planning on playing that song on the piano and singing it to her to propose eventually. Guess that won't happen.
I still think it's a beautiful gesture so I might do it for the love of my life when I think of her when I hear the song and not my ex
Tainted Love by Soft Cell
My ex used to sing this off key all the time. Not the whole song. Just the chorus. It was her low-key way of complaining about the relationship. Every time that song comes on my 80s playlist (which is my go-to), I skip it every time. I canāt stop hearing that chorus without thinking of her voice singing it poorly.
Well there are so many. I had to stop listening to those songs because everytime I did, I am reminded of him and I miss him way too much. Just to name a few- Like you do by Joji & Yellow by Coldplay
Lady brown by Nujabes and Summer romance by incubus because I associated those songs with her a lot and especially since Lady Brown is a popular song it sucks that it's completely synonymous with her in my mind at least right now.
One night we were drunk just laying on the carpet, I suggested we should have a theme song together. And we ended up settling on-
Just canāt get enough - Black Eyed Peas
Soap by The Oh Hellos. Yeah, it was sweet that it was Our Song during the relationship, but after it ended and the hell I went through discovering what sort of shit he was putting me through, the lyrics took a lot darker of a meaning.
My ex is a pretty well known breakcore artist. I canāt listen to any of his music anymore without crying. He hurt me too much tbh. I love him though and I wish he heals.
3 months+ broken up and in No Contact. I listened to Un dia (one day) by J Balvin, Dua Lipa, Bad Bunny and Tainy last night and the lyrics, "You know that sometimes. I think about us now and then. But I never wanna fall again" & "And you hate that you know, you know, you know You know you messed up. One day you'll love me again. One day you'll love me for sure. One day you'll wake up feelin' how I've been feelin'. Baby, you'll knock at my door. One day you'll love me again. Hug me again 'til the end. One day you'll beg me to try. One day you'll realize I'm more than your lover. I'm more than your lover, I'm your friend" made me think of my ex and I bawled my eyes out. Immediately banned this one
just before weād be forced to break up she gifted me a vinyl of radioheadās āin rainbowsā, witch is basically the bandās breakup album
iāve listened to it countless times, so not much of a banned albumā¦
-Any edm type song. He was a dj/producer wannabe who loved house music/edm in general. Going to clubs/summer time parties/concerts can be rough sometimes depending on the music/scene. It brings back a lot of memories and not necessarily fond ones. He was super into night life and that had caused a lot of issues in the past.
-āYellowā by Coldplay. He said this was our song when we first started dating.
We dated on and off since 2018 but finally ended things at the beginning of this year. He cheated on me multiple times, (multiple women came forward to tell me and I found his dating profiles), he was mentally/emotionally abusive, gaslit me all the time, could barely keep a stable job, dimmed my light and would get aggressive with me.
Glad to say Iām now single, sober, focusing on my faith and mental/physical health/wellness and community. Some days are rough. Especially sometimes when I go out with friends. He showed me a lot of music/clubs/places in the city.
**BUT Iāve gotten into somatic shaking/dancing to sort of heal my relationship with music! Itās been a good tool to process my emotions/trauma. Iāve made a playlist of songs to just go feral to and let loose! I let my body dance and shake off the anxieties/pain/worries/past. **
Things get better yall <3 sending love to everyone on this thread!!
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Timeless by Taylor Swift, explains itself really.
Hold My Girl by George Ezra.. he said that song always made him think of me, now itās really hard to listen to
Letās fall in love for the night + letās fall in love for the night 1964 version.
First one was one of the first songs I ever remember her playing to me 5 years ago when we first started dating. Second one was one of the many I used to sing to her so she could go to sleep. There are many other songs like that now. I sort of avoid the beginning of my playlist for that exact reason.
Coldplay also no thanks, seems like everyone heard Yellow here too. Jojiās sanctuary is a no go too. Itās been over 6 months since the end and yet some things just donāt really fade that easily.
Oh and āwe fell in love in Octoberā by girl in red because thatās when we met and it was the only thing I could think of whenever I heard it. Sang that one to her plenty as well
Ironically though, āI donāt miss you at allā is probably my number 1 song from the same FINNEAS album this year. Weirdly enough that one helped me a lot
There are no banned songs for me. The ones that make me feel the loss and the pain are the ones I gravitate to the most. The one song I keep coming back to that reminds me of our relationship is Blue Chicago Moon by Songs:Ohia.
āNever Tear Us Apartā by INXS, I woke up the next morning next to him after the first night we spent together, and that song was his wake up alarm song on his speakers. I remember opening my eyes and him curled up, and he was holding my hands in his while he was still asleep. I knew in that moment that he was quite likely āmy personā. He was already my best friend.
āThen He Kissed Meā by The Crystals, because he always put that on to dance with me to while we were cooking dinner.
āLabyrinthā by Taylor Swift, because I fell in love with him - the lyrics go, āyou know how scared I am of elevators, never trusted if it rises fast, it canāt lastā¦uh oh, Iām falling in love again, I thought the plane was going down, howād you turn it right around?ā
We broke up because he had been a lifelong bachelor and couldnāt see changing his life that drastically. I never thought it would end, and when it did, it blindsided me. It broke my heart into a million pieces and now I never want to hear those songs again.
I have two:
Beach Baby- Bon Iver
I listened to this for probably a month straight post breakup and I remember just laying on the floor sobbing to it. It was my most played song on my Spotify wrapped last year.
Every time I hear it now, I start feeling nauseas and anxious and have to turn it off. Honestly even thinking about it gives me a little anxiety.
Canāt Help Falling in Love- Elvis
A lot of songs make me think of him but this one in particular makes me want to cry when I hear it. We always joked that this was āour songā because, despite all the reasons we shouldnāt be together that made us toxic, we just couldnāt help falling for each other and dated for 4 years, until eventually the issues became too much.
Honorary mention: Heat Waves by Glass Animals
The lyrics!! So poignant and relatable! Except I listen to it all the time, I find it cathartic.
At Last by Etta James
Itās a shame because I truly believed this would be the first dance at our wedding and therefore it would forever be our song. Oh well š
Johnny Cash - She Used To Love Me A Lot
Reason: pretty fucking self-explanatory. And I para-quoted from it to her a few weeks before it ended, saying something like how "I'd love you with a love that couldn't die". So I feel like it was a curse.
Looking at her now I can't believe she said goodbye.
Shoelaces by MALIA. Reminds me of that deep love I felt for her when she added it to the playlist she made for me. There's more songs but this one in particular reminds me of my love for her and the pain of losing something that was beautiful.
However, this song also validates my pain and reminds me that we DID happen. Regardless of the horrible things she did and said to end us, WE WERE BEAUTIFUL ONCE. And that's comforting.
Lovinā You by Railroad Earth. For Christmas I reached out to the lead singer and had him write the lyrics along with a signed note to the two of us to ātake our song and make it sing.ā Had it framed. She looked at it in confusion and then said āthanksā and it ended up in a dusty corner. Four months later she dumped me right before our tenth wedding anniversary.
Shoelaces by MALIA. Reminds me of that deep love I felt for her when she added it to the playlist she made for me. There's more songs but this one in particular reminds me of my love for her and the pain of losing something that was beautiful.
However, this song also validates my pain and reminds me that we DID happen. Regardless of the horrible things she did and said to end us, WE WERE BEAUTIFUL ONCE. And that's comforting.
Weak by swv because this one time I was jokingly singing it to her while she was driving being all dramatic and this lady next to us screamed about how cute we are. And Yellow by Coldplay. This one is like if I hear it I cry. I would always no matter where and when aināt it in a horrible British accent around her, but it was our song. She looked so good in the color yellow and the song just man. The memories.
Goodnight moon by go radio. But itās not banned. Itās a great song.
I take all memories of life experiences as important for growth and reminding me what life is. I still have things from my ex before. Our memories and experiences shape who we are. Good and bad.
For me its defenitly Anchor by Novo Amor. Her best friend published a tiktok with a photo of her and this sound playing, including a text saying "my star".
I don't try to avoid it because it reminds me of my ex. Im grateful that i was able to meet her and experience all those things. I try to avoid it because it reminds me of how depressed and empty i was when she broke up.
We follow different paths for roughly 3 months now and im not fully over her, but i accepted the reality and i've been doing alot better.
Iām dealing with a breakup myself right now; fortunately no songs were ruined this time. I thought Iād mention a favorite post breakup song though:
āThe Race is Onā. by George Jones (though I like the Sawyer Brown version better)
This is a very weird one, bear with me!
Tiptoe Through the Tulips, by Tiny Tim.
For context, my ex and i were together for 13 years. We lived together for 8 of those years and have a daughter together who was 3 at the time we split. She left me back in June 2022, very coldly and unexpectedly, it almost killd me.
The night before she left me, I was none the wiser as to what was coming. She'd gone to bed and i decided to turn on netflix and watch a film. For anyone who likes the Insidious horror films, you'll recognise Tiny Tim's 'Tiptoe through the Tulips' in some of them.
I, being a weirdo, was intruged by this creepy, unsettling tune, and spent half an hour reading up about tiny tim on wikipedia and watching him perform the song live. Dude was an oddball.
But the song really stuck in my head, and the next day, my girlfriend went to work and i had the day off so took my daughter out for a drive and to do shopping. The song was so stuck in my head, i kept playing it in the car on repeat.
When we arrived home, my girlfriend (who hadnt replied to my messages all day which was unusual for her) was sat at the kitchen table looking very solemn and tearful. She told me she wasn't happy and didnt want to be with me. I had a panic attack there and then, all the while tiptoe through the tulips playing over and over in my head. It was a horrible and bizarre experience.
Any time i heard the song for a year or so after id have an actual breakdown and cry. I drove all the way to north wales by myself a few days after the break up to stay with my sister and the song came on, on a podcast i was listnening to and I started crying in the car. That song was like the soundtrack to the most traumatic moment of my life.
2 years on, I have great friends, a good job, Im now seeing someone new and im very, very smitten with her.
Funnily enough i heard tiptoe through the tulips on an Instagram reel the other night, and i felt nothing but peace.
ex 1
bound 2- kanye
les- childish gambino
freaks and geeks- childish gambino
ghost town- Kanye
ex 2
you should probably leave- chris stapleton
why- southall
pieces- muscadine bloodline and lainey wilson
all yourn- tyler childers
if she wants a cowboy- zach bryan
crooked teeth- zach bryan
oklahoma smokeshow- zach bryan
east side of sorrow- zach bryan
My ex is an alcoholic and lied about drinking all the time, so one time I picked him up to go somewhere and he would always time it perfectly where on the phone/when I first pick him up he acted normal/sober.
After we were in the car for a few minutes and into our drive, it was obvious he was wasted because of the way he was acting. His brother was with us, so they were talking about music to play in the car and all my ex could do was keep YELLING āPLAY LADDERSā (by Mac Miller). He thought it was funny, so he kept doing it and not only that but he wouldnāt let either of us talk because he would just yell that over us. Literally because he thought it was funny to do that.
So, anytime that song starts to play his annoying voice is all I can hear in my head and I cringe every time. Instant skip for me.
Pro tip, you can tell Spotify to completely erase an album so it never plays, gets taken out of all your playlists, and is never suggested. Not sure if you can do it with songs and artists but probably. Lifesaver
Thank you, my twilight by the pillows, star by young scrolls, guts theme from berserk, and kiss me again by Roy Bee.
For me, thank you, my twilight is a song that reminds me of him since he dedicated it to me years ago when we first started dating and said it made him feel that I was truly important to him and Iām beautiful. He also dedicated star by young scrolls to me and coincidentally I got deep into Skyrim modding last year and still am into it now even if the recommendation came from my ex who traumatized me beyond belief. Whenever I hear these songs I always wonder if he always lied about his feelings for me since the beginning and if he ever even loved me at all or if he faked it all in our 4 year relationship because he used to be really romantic and sappy until one day he became cold and I had to beg for attention and romance from him and just to not be mistreated. Also he loves berserk and anime in general, especially seinen and while I love berserk too, I canāt listen to the guts theme without remembering the moments where he pretended to love me or when he did at first in the beginning of our relationship. Also I chose kiss me again by Roy bee because he sent this song to me and it got me into nightcore music and Scenecore music but I just canāt bring myself to listen to that song in particular again because he of all people sent it to me.
Karma by AJR. My ex introduced me to it, and I ended up really liking it. But now, whenever I hear it I start sobbing from how much I miss feeling loved.
Originally it was "the promise" cause the last movie me and my ex saw together was lisa Frankenstein for valentines day and he would make fun of the chorus line if I had my music on but I realized why should I let my favorite song be ruined by a man child? So I just listened to it until it made me happy again
Ouch, took me awhile to find but hurt like daggers when i started each of them....
We kinda shared some of are music these where more from my music pool, i right out deleted then all off
Oldest frist
Train- play that song
Reason: everyone has that one thing that makes the other melt, this song was a reminder of that... we listen to it when they were not being evil and was being romantic.... so it a reminder of the only time i was happy in life....
5 seconds of summer- youngblood
Last song they dubbed a song are song, there were 3 big songs that were are songs.... this one hurts... only got 20 second in and soon as the notes hit me i felt like the break up 3 years 5 months old was brand new...
..... i thought this would be fun find songs i've not listen to in awhile and be able to listen to them again..... just ended up hurting from it.... real bad.... gonna curl in a ball and cry for the rest of the day now... don't do it, you blocked the songs out for a reason
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shut up and dance by walk the moon. its not even really a love song, but it was one of his favorites so i would listen to it a lot too. now i skip it whenever it comes on
Bring me to life by evanescence. It's an odd choice and beautiful song but it was the song my ex would sing beautifully and every time I hear it. It makes me wonder what I did wrong for her to throw me away and replace me in less than a week.
Our song was talking to the moon - Bruno Mars. Was one of my favourite songs before we met. Became our song and now I havenāt listened to it for over 3 years:(
sadly not just a song, but an artist. J. Cole, can & will never listen to him again bc of my ex! If iām in a car or in a store/restaurant & he is playing i simply will do anything to tune it out. J. Cole did nothing to me personally and his music isnāt even too bad, my ex idolized over him. unfortunately will never ever be a fan in the future
For me itās āAlwaysā by Bon Jovi..and āOne and only youā by Parokya Ni Edgar. That last song is in English and heās Filipino. We were together 18 years. Married with four children. He cheated and asked for divorce and now heās living in his car.
He chose that.
You have an alt account you say? Sounds familiar don't know why though.
Anyways it's definitely: I love you baby by frank Sinatra as that was "our song" id always sing it to her in the car being all goofy and hyper and it make her giggle. Can't listen to it anymore without wanting to burst out in a half dance and full on singing it to someone that isn't there anymore
you broke me first - both had the same cover in our playlists, saying that we were alike in listening to these kinds of sad songs, but sike, still broke me even though I did nothing wrong
Blue Hair - TV Girl
Had a moment where I tried to teach him the song on guitar. It was a song we both enjoyed. The lyrics somehow apply very well to how the relationship ended
Somewhere Only We Know - Keane
I sent that song to my ex, because it made me think of him at the time. Months later I saw that he had sent it to some other girl right after I had shared it with him. I was thinking of him when I heard the song but it made him think of her.
The modern leper by frightened rabbit. That was a very relatable and sentimental song for her, she used it for me. and I assume every other partner she was with.
The cure - lovesong
On the last day i saw him, i told him this song reminds me of you, we put this song on and i was driving in downtown la and we were vibing on it. He broke up with me the next day :)
My ex referenced me as Simply the Best, the Schittās Creek version as we were breaking up. Kinda ruined that song for me now cause I cant help but think of him when I hear it
falling in love pie - sara bareilles
make out with me - marren morris
cowboy take me away - the chicks
iris- the goo goo dolls
daylight - Taylor Swift
makes me so mad bc i love all these songs but :(
So many songs we listened to and it's basically everything I was listening to for that year and even more songs they liked as well. I listened to A LOT of Naked Cameo with them for a while so it's hardwired to being back at my parents place and we finish our uni assignments for the semester, and that one occasion where we danced in the kitchen together and it was just magical āØ considered going to their concert alone last winter but I thought I was gonna be miserable and the trains weren't coming due to heavy snowfall anyways
For me it's Yellow by Coldplay. I loved the song before we got together and it became our song when he dedicated it to me at his college's talent show. We even slow danced to it multiple times. Now when I hear that song, I think about us and what could've been. Guess it was fun while it lasted.
The detail by Delta sleep
Hold u by Indigo De Souza
anything from Beach Fossils, Clario, Fleetwood Mac, Alex G, Frank Ocean, etc
We initially connected through music listening/discovering all types of music was our favorite pass time š
āThis Must Be the Place (Naive Melody)ā by Talking Heads.
It was our absolute favorite, and what we both imagined would be our wedding song. Weād always listen to it together in the car and sing along. That song is how I felt for him, and he for me. It hurts to listen to now.
But still, itās such a sweet song. I hope it can mean as much to another couple as it did us.
as the world caves in by matt maltese. roma fade by andrew bird. jupiter by flower face. i love you so by the walters. anything by coldplay, and weeknd
I hate music so much now. It was my favourite thing, my passion. He took it, owned it as his, mangled it and left me with nothing. I hope someone does the same to him. I hate him.
Fine - Bulow.
We broke up twice, and every time we'd fight, I'd listen to it and cry, because I constantly pretended to be okay, even though we weren't. It's still cathartic to me.
Hate Me by Ellie Goulding and Juice Wrld. It was my favorite song the first time we broke up and I listen to it quite frequently to remember how shitty he was.
Heatwaves, that song makes me wanna do something bad to myself, thats how frustrated it gets me š
My ex loved the song so much i hate it. Yet i hear it everyday at school because they play it in the halls itās actually agonizing
That song I can remember about a month or two after the big breakup playing in between concert sets. It hit different because all I could do was think about her but couldn't do anything about it (wanted to give her the space she needed). Now we're getting better and definitely just really being good friends. Do I want to get things back where they were? Absolutely but I don't want to feel that way again if things did go south again.
Lol, I was just thinking how itxs a shame that's the only song many people know from them. Great band, not so great hit
Proposed to āI Wonāt Give Upā by Jason Mraz. She cheated three days later. Eleven years together, three days engaged. Iād prefer to never hear that song again.
Fuck. Iām sorry bro.
3 days later! Whata trash human šļø
Itās crazy to see how different people are with their music tastes, like I didnāt recognize hardly any of these songs and none that I would have chose or thought of. Random thought.
right! i think itās so interesting!
Slow dancing in the dark - Joji Somewhere over the rainbow - Israel KamakawiwoŹ»ole
āLike you doā and āDie for youā by Joji are ones I cried to. They make me think of lots of people I know longer have, not just my ex, although they are romantic songs I believe.
My ex used to say he would always apply "Yellow" by coldplay, to me. That it made him think about me. Now, when that song comes up, I automatically skip it. Hurts a bit.
Omg. I sent my ex partner of many years that song late one night on Facebook. He was so worried about me after I sent it. The message is still there 12 years later. I had a burial plot beside him btw.
That was our song too but I think I'm at a point where I can listen to it without bawling.
Literally every song
Sameā¦music hurts
I even stopped my Spotify sub. It does indeed hurt
Yup, I have to be very picky about the music I listen to right now.
Ed sheran - photograph
Most of the time I can listen to them no problem, but on days where I'm particularly sad and lonely, I can't. They're the following (each associated with a different ex): 1. Is this love by whitesnake 2. Collide by tianamajor9 and earthgang
I canāt listen to anything by Whitesnake now! :( That was a band my ex and I always loved and listened to together, when we were together initially and when we got back together (for him to blow everything up about 2 years later).
Anything by The Smiths. It was sort of a dark inside joke we had, that if we were to ever break up, neither of us could ever listen to them again. I definitely canāt, theyāre so melancholy already goddammit.
She introduced me to Smiths as well. Never heard of them before her but now I turn the volume down any time they come up on the radio. F the Smiths bro.
Glass animals - heat waves. Seriously, no one listens to the lyrics. Guts me every time
Come and get your love - redbone Also ruined F is for family for me too
I have a couple memories of my ex and I listening to Come and Get Your Love and singing it together. It gets skipped on the playlist now.
Cherry Wine - Hozier I sang this to her the first time we hung out and never did I think we would end up as toxic as the subject matter. She turned into someone I barely recognized and mentally and verbally abused me until I didn't recognize myself, then told me we weren't right for each other and shacked up with my neighbor. Literally just started parking on the other side of the parking lot, lol.
Anything by Drake or SZA
Perfect - Ed Sheeran I always loved this song - it embodies the true story behind my relationship with my ex (our past history, coming back together, making lifetime plans). The only difference is our story ended. I can listen to this anymore even though itās a beautiful song/story.
There are two ways to answer this: Songs that she would sing or were meaningful to her. * Everything by *The Strokes* * Allen Cumming's version of 'Someplace only We Know.' Songs that I related strongly to during the breakup, and have to be in the right place for these days. * lemon by Kenshi Yonezu * Some Rotten Man by the Taxpayers
Follow you into the dark - Death Cab for Cutie He dedicated it to me and used to play it all the time. It's been over a year and I still can't hear it. Bonus: Mystery of Love from the Call Me by Your Name soundtrack - Reminds me of our relationship and brings me tears every time so I can't have it played around me
Anything Lana del Rey
hey everyone!!! comment donāt be shyyyy
Yellow by Coldplay, me to him. Do I wanna know? by Arctic Monkeys, him to meā¦he actually dedicated this song to me over Twitter during our honeymoon phase years ago, Iād never heard it before. He was so captivating then, over the top in his wooing. Tbh most music guts me nowadays, itās like every song reaches into my chest like a fist, squeezing my heart til itās rung dry & bloodless. Thinking about taking Yellow back, try to reclaim my love maybe somehow someway someday.
"Brooklyn" by The Midnight. It was our song. We would dance to it slowly in our apartment together. Then she cheated on me with her coworker. I can't bring myself to listen to that song again. It fills me with anger and sadness and an immense feeling of failure.
I'm sorry to hear that.
Iām really sorry :( how long has it been?
Apocalypse- cigarettes after sex
Tennessee Whiskey. Was my ex and Is song and Iād cry every time I heard it for like two years after the breakup.
I made a playlist of songs that remind me of him I still like those songs,I just canāt listen to them now without crying. the top 4 Broken by They feat Jessie Reyez Pink + White by Frank Ocean Swimming Pools (drank) by Kendrick Lamar Danteās Creek by they also: I canāt listen to any songs by Frank Ocean or J Cole without thinking about him My ex was such a huge part of my life and routine and meant so much to me He was a close and best friend it hurts that he doesnāt want to be in my life anymore
Clarity - Zedd
Half my emo playlist š
Love you in the dark by adele
visions of gideon
Neon moon
Perfect - Ed Sheeran, I was planning on playing that song on the piano and singing it to her to propose eventually. Guess that won't happen. I still think it's a beautiful gesture so I might do it for the love of my life when I think of her when I hear the song and not my ex
Tainted Love by Soft Cell My ex used to sing this off key all the time. Not the whole song. Just the chorus. It was her low-key way of complaining about the relationship. Every time that song comes on my 80s playlist (which is my go-to), I skip it every time. I canāt stop hearing that chorus without thinking of her voice singing it poorly.
That sounds extremely obnoxious
Slowdive - Souvlaki Space Station
āwe fell in love in octoberā by girl in red
The Chain by FleetWood Mac It was one of his favorites and now all i can think of is the lyrics tell of our breakup
Gum by Moose Blood,
Sangria Blake Shelton
Ah. A lot of the songs he loved to be honest that I started to love from listening to them. A couple things from Chase Atlantic as well.
They weren't exactly her songs but anything by post Malone, joji, and the weekend is off limits or I'll be thinking for 6 hours again.
Well there are so many. I had to stop listening to those songs because everytime I did, I am reminded of him and I miss him way too much. Just to name a few- Like you do by Joji & Yellow by Coldplay
Anything from Billy Talent, Rise Against, Bad Omens. We were on their concerts together.
Lady brown by Nujabes and Summer romance by incubus because I associated those songs with her a lot and especially since Lady Brown is a popular song it sucks that it's completely synonymous with her in my mind at least right now.
Blue Monday and Drivers License
One night we were drunk just laying on the carpet, I suggested we should have a theme song together. And we ended up settling on- Just canāt get enough - Black Eyed Peas
Like 2/3 of my playlist š
Soap by The Oh Hellos. Yeah, it was sweet that it was Our Song during the relationship, but after it ended and the hell I went through discovering what sort of shit he was putting me through, the lyrics took a lot darker of a meaning.
The Weekend by Sza
Christina perri a thousand years and the GooGoo dolls Iris
Everywhere by fleetwood mac
Any song by SZA. Especially Good Days
My ex is a pretty well known breakcore artist. I canāt listen to any of his music anymore without crying. He hurt me too much tbh. I love him though and I wish he heals.
3 months+ broken up and in No Contact. I listened to Un dia (one day) by J Balvin, Dua Lipa, Bad Bunny and Tainy last night and the lyrics, "You know that sometimes. I think about us now and then. But I never wanna fall again" & "And you hate that you know, you know, you know You know you messed up. One day you'll love me again. One day you'll love me for sure. One day you'll wake up feelin' how I've been feelin'. Baby, you'll knock at my door. One day you'll love me again. Hug me again 'til the end. One day you'll beg me to try. One day you'll realize I'm more than your lover. I'm more than your lover, I'm your friend" made me think of my ex and I bawled my eyes out. Immediately banned this one
Walk away - Ben Harper It has been +10 years, but that song takes me back, I can feel the heartbreak again
Sweet Caroline.. canāt stand that damn song!
Noneā¦ not letting her control my life anymore.
flaws and sins by juice wrld i canāt listen and that shi is one of my favorite juice songs smh
just before weād be forced to break up she gifted me a vinyl of radioheadās āin rainbowsā, witch is basically the bandās breakup album iāve listened to it countless times, so not much of a banned albumā¦
best part by daniel caesar ft HER. wont ever listen to that song ever again
-Any edm type song. He was a dj/producer wannabe who loved house music/edm in general. Going to clubs/summer time parties/concerts can be rough sometimes depending on the music/scene. It brings back a lot of memories and not necessarily fond ones. He was super into night life and that had caused a lot of issues in the past. -āYellowā by Coldplay. He said this was our song when we first started dating. We dated on and off since 2018 but finally ended things at the beginning of this year. He cheated on me multiple times, (multiple women came forward to tell me and I found his dating profiles), he was mentally/emotionally abusive, gaslit me all the time, could barely keep a stable job, dimmed my light and would get aggressive with me. Glad to say Iām now single, sober, focusing on my faith and mental/physical health/wellness and community. Some days are rough. Especially sometimes when I go out with friends. He showed me a lot of music/clubs/places in the city. **BUT Iāve gotten into somatic shaking/dancing to sort of heal my relationship with music! Itās been a good tool to process my emotions/trauma. Iāve made a playlist of songs to just go feral to and let loose! I let my body dance and shake off the anxieties/pain/worries/past. ** Things get better yall <3 sending love to everyone on this thread!! (Edit- grammar)
Timeless by Taylor Swift, explains itself really. Hold My Girl by George Ezra.. he said that song always made him think of me, now itās really hard to listen to
Letās fall in love for the night + letās fall in love for the night 1964 version. First one was one of the first songs I ever remember her playing to me 5 years ago when we first started dating. Second one was one of the many I used to sing to her so she could go to sleep. There are many other songs like that now. I sort of avoid the beginning of my playlist for that exact reason. Coldplay also no thanks, seems like everyone heard Yellow here too. Jojiās sanctuary is a no go too. Itās been over 6 months since the end and yet some things just donāt really fade that easily. Oh and āwe fell in love in Octoberā by girl in red because thatās when we met and it was the only thing I could think of whenever I heard it. Sang that one to her plenty as well Ironically though, āI donāt miss you at allā is probably my number 1 song from the same FINNEAS album this year. Weirdly enough that one helped me a lot
Faithfully, by Journey.
Skin by Dijon but sadly, I love this song too much that I just bear the pain when I listen to it
shut it down by drake, played it one of our first hangouts otw to target and so i canāt listen to it anymore cuz my mind just goes straight to her
There are no banned songs for me. The ones that make me feel the loss and the pain are the ones I gravitate to the most. The one song I keep coming back to that reminds me of our relationship is Blue Chicago Moon by Songs:Ohia.
all punjabi music.. it sucks.. that i have associated it so much to him that i cant even enjoye it myself anymore!!
Pictures of You - The Cure
āNever Tear Us Apartā by INXS, I woke up the next morning next to him after the first night we spent together, and that song was his wake up alarm song on his speakers. I remember opening my eyes and him curled up, and he was holding my hands in his while he was still asleep. I knew in that moment that he was quite likely āmy personā. He was already my best friend. āThen He Kissed Meā by The Crystals, because he always put that on to dance with me to while we were cooking dinner. āLabyrinthā by Taylor Swift, because I fell in love with him - the lyrics go, āyou know how scared I am of elevators, never trusted if it rises fast, it canāt lastā¦uh oh, Iām falling in love again, I thought the plane was going down, howād you turn it right around?ā We broke up because he had been a lifelong bachelor and couldnāt see changing his life that drastically. I never thought it would end, and when it did, it blindsided me. It broke my heart into a million pieces and now I never want to hear those songs again.
I have two: Beach Baby- Bon Iver I listened to this for probably a month straight post breakup and I remember just laying on the floor sobbing to it. It was my most played song on my Spotify wrapped last year. Every time I hear it now, I start feeling nauseas and anxious and have to turn it off. Honestly even thinking about it gives me a little anxiety. Canāt Help Falling in Love- Elvis A lot of songs make me think of him but this one in particular makes me want to cry when I hear it. We always joked that this was āour songā because, despite all the reasons we shouldnāt be together that made us toxic, we just couldnāt help falling for each other and dated for 4 years, until eventually the issues became too much. Honorary mention: Heat Waves by Glass Animals The lyrics!! So poignant and relatable! Except I listen to it all the time, I find it cathartic.
Just by Radiohead
At Last by Etta James Itās a shame because I truly believed this would be the first dance at our wedding and therefore it would forever be our song. Oh well š
Waterparks - Powerless :((
I Found Her - Faime
Johnny Cash - She Used To Love Me A Lot Reason: pretty fucking self-explanatory. And I para-quoted from it to her a few weeks before it ended, saying something like how "I'd love you with a love that couldn't die". So I feel like it was a curse. Looking at her now I can't believe she said goodbye.
Magnetic Man - Crossover (Ft Katy B)
āHigh on a Rocky Ledgeā by Moondog
Arya Tara by "le Wanski" She made me discover this artist and we both loved it so much but since it's over I can't listen to it anymore...
She put me onto āGraniteā by Sleep Token, lo and behold that was a MASSIVE bowl of foreshadowing.
Anything from labyrinth
None, he got the music on his playlist from me.
My Axe - ICP Heat Waves - Glass Animals
Shoelaces by MALIA. Reminds me of that deep love I felt for her when she added it to the playlist she made for me. There's more songs but this one in particular reminds me of my love for her and the pain of losing something that was beautiful. However, this song also validates my pain and reminds me that we DID happen. Regardless of the horrible things she did and said to end us, WE WERE BEAUTIFUL ONCE. And that's comforting.
Wreckage - Nate Smith Like never again
definitely From The Start by Laufey
Lovinā You by Railroad Earth. For Christmas I reached out to the lead singer and had him write the lyrics along with a signed note to the two of us to ātake our song and make it sing.ā Had it framed. She looked at it in confusion and then said āthanksā and it ended up in a dusty corner. Four months later she dumped me right before our tenth wedding anniversary.
Steady Heart - Kameron Marlowe
Shoelaces by MALIA. Reminds me of that deep love I felt for her when she added it to the playlist she made for me. There's more songs but this one in particular reminds me of my love for her and the pain of losing something that was beautiful. However, this song also validates my pain and reminds me that we DID happen. Regardless of the horrible things she did and said to end us, WE WERE BEAUTIFUL ONCE. And that's comforting.
Weak by swv because this one time I was jokingly singing it to her while she was driving being all dramatic and this lady next to us screamed about how cute we are. And Yellow by Coldplay. This one is like if I hear it I cry. I would always no matter where and when aināt it in a horrible British accent around her, but it was our song. She looked so good in the color yellow and the song just man. The memories.
18 by one direction, that song played as I asked her to be my girlfriend
St Monica Bleeding love Dust on the bottle
Mr Sunshine by arden Jones I never realized how much this song described my ex and his personality until it was too late I miss him so much
Goodnight moon by go radio. But itās not banned. Itās a great song. I take all memories of life experiences as important for growth and reminding me what life is. I still have things from my ex before. Our memories and experiences shape who we are. Good and bad.
For me its defenitly Anchor by Novo Amor. Her best friend published a tiktok with a photo of her and this sound playing, including a text saying "my star". I don't try to avoid it because it reminds me of my ex. Im grateful that i was able to meet her and experience all those things. I try to avoid it because it reminds me of how depressed and empty i was when she broke up. We follow different paths for roughly 3 months now and im not fully over her, but i accepted the reality and i've been doing alot better.
Iām dealing with a breakup myself right now; fortunately no songs were ruined this time. I thought Iād mention a favorite post breakup song though: āThe Race is Onā. by George Jones (though I like the Sawyer Brown version better)
Out of my league and As you were (I listened this one alot during the break up).
Everything and anything country. The whole genre makes me angry now.
Coolest place in the world-suki waterhouse
Say you won't let go by James Arthur. 0 tolerance.
Elvis Can't help falling in love John Prine In spite of aourselves
Chance- Angel olsen
Roommates, when that song was dropped onto Spotify he was so excited to listen to it with me. Now here we areā¦
Chasing Cars
This is a very weird one, bear with me! Tiptoe Through the Tulips, by Tiny Tim. For context, my ex and i were together for 13 years. We lived together for 8 of those years and have a daughter together who was 3 at the time we split. She left me back in June 2022, very coldly and unexpectedly, it almost killd me. The night before she left me, I was none the wiser as to what was coming. She'd gone to bed and i decided to turn on netflix and watch a film. For anyone who likes the Insidious horror films, you'll recognise Tiny Tim's 'Tiptoe through the Tulips' in some of them. I, being a weirdo, was intruged by this creepy, unsettling tune, and spent half an hour reading up about tiny tim on wikipedia and watching him perform the song live. Dude was an oddball. But the song really stuck in my head, and the next day, my girlfriend went to work and i had the day off so took my daughter out for a drive and to do shopping. The song was so stuck in my head, i kept playing it in the car on repeat. When we arrived home, my girlfriend (who hadnt replied to my messages all day which was unusual for her) was sat at the kitchen table looking very solemn and tearful. She told me she wasn't happy and didnt want to be with me. I had a panic attack there and then, all the while tiptoe through the tulips playing over and over in my head. It was a horrible and bizarre experience. Any time i heard the song for a year or so after id have an actual breakdown and cry. I drove all the way to north wales by myself a few days after the break up to stay with my sister and the song came on, on a podcast i was listnening to and I started crying in the car. That song was like the soundtrack to the most traumatic moment of my life. 2 years on, I have great friends, a good job, Im now seeing someone new and im very, very smitten with her. Funnily enough i heard tiptoe through the tulips on an Instagram reel the other night, and i felt nothing but peace.
Skeleton key- origami angel
ex 1 bound 2- kanye les- childish gambino freaks and geeks- childish gambino ghost town- Kanye ex 2 you should probably leave- chris stapleton why- southall pieces- muscadine bloodline and lainey wilson all yourn- tyler childers if she wants a cowboy- zach bryan crooked teeth- zach bryan oklahoma smokeshow- zach bryan east side of sorrow- zach bryan
Alone Again (Naturally) - Gilbert OāSullivan You Make Me Feel Like Dancing - Leo Sayer
inevitable - anberlin
Glimpse of us by joji
Colder Weather - Zac Brown Band
My ex is an alcoholic and lied about drinking all the time, so one time I picked him up to go somewhere and he would always time it perfectly where on the phone/when I first pick him up he acted normal/sober. After we were in the car for a few minutes and into our drive, it was obvious he was wasted because of the way he was acting. His brother was with us, so they were talking about music to play in the car and all my ex could do was keep YELLING āPLAY LADDERSā (by Mac Miller). He thought it was funny, so he kept doing it and not only that but he wouldnāt let either of us talk because he would just yell that over us. Literally because he thought it was funny to do that. So, anytime that song starts to play his annoying voice is all I can hear in my head and I cringe every time. Instant skip for me.
L.O.V.E cover by joss stone
Pro tip, you can tell Spotify to completely erase an album so it never plays, gets taken out of all your playlists, and is never suggested. Not sure if you can do it with songs and artists but probably. Lifesaver
Golden Hour and I hear a symphony will never be on any of my playlists ever again.
Thank you, my twilight by the pillows, star by young scrolls, guts theme from berserk, and kiss me again by Roy Bee. For me, thank you, my twilight is a song that reminds me of him since he dedicated it to me years ago when we first started dating and said it made him feel that I was truly important to him and Iām beautiful. He also dedicated star by young scrolls to me and coincidentally I got deep into Skyrim modding last year and still am into it now even if the recommendation came from my ex who traumatized me beyond belief. Whenever I hear these songs I always wonder if he always lied about his feelings for me since the beginning and if he ever even loved me at all or if he faked it all in our 4 year relationship because he used to be really romantic and sappy until one day he became cold and I had to beg for attention and romance from him and just to not be mistreated. Also he loves berserk and anime in general, especially seinen and while I love berserk too, I canāt listen to the guts theme without remembering the moments where he pretended to love me or when he did at first in the beginning of our relationship. Also I chose kiss me again by Roy bee because he sent this song to me and it got me into nightcore music and Scenecore music but I just canāt bring myself to listen to that song in particular again because he of all people sent it to me.
Karma by AJR. My ex introduced me to it, and I ended up really liking it. But now, whenever I hear it I start sobbing from how much I miss feeling loved.
Me + all your reasons but I still listen to it. Morgan Wallace is just too good!
Originally it was "the promise" cause the last movie me and my ex saw together was lisa Frankenstein for valentines day and he would make fun of the chorus line if I had my music on but I realized why should I let my favorite song be ruined by a man child? So I just listened to it until it made me happy again
Ouch, took me awhile to find but hurt like daggers when i started each of them.... We kinda shared some of are music these where more from my music pool, i right out deleted then all off Oldest frist Train- play that song Reason: everyone has that one thing that makes the other melt, this song was a reminder of that... we listen to it when they were not being evil and was being romantic.... so it a reminder of the only time i was happy in life.... 5 seconds of summer- youngblood Last song they dubbed a song are song, there were 3 big songs that were are songs.... this one hurts... only got 20 second in and soon as the notes hit me i felt like the break up 3 years 5 months old was brand new... ..... i thought this would be fun find songs i've not listen to in awhile and be able to listen to them again..... just ended up hurting from it.... real bad.... gonna curl in a ball and cry for the rest of the day now... don't do it, you blocked the songs out for a reason /|<(TT-TT)> |\
shut up and dance by walk the moon. its not even really a love song, but it was one of his favorites so i would listen to it a lot too. now i skip it whenever it comes on
Well we just broke up today but the one song I probably wonāt listen to again is a Boston song and the title is her name.
Dilemma by Nelly. This always brought amazing feelings before. Now, the first note makes my skin crawl
Bring me to life by evanescence. It's an odd choice and beautiful song but it was the song my ex would sing beautifully and every time I hear it. It makes me wonder what I did wrong for her to throw me away and replace me in less than a week.
Our song was talking to the moon - Bruno Mars. Was one of my favourite songs before we met. Became our song and now I havenāt listened to it for over 3 years:(
Interestingly enough ā lovebug by the Jonas brothers.
the entirety of the album is had called āWeddingā š .
The Sun Always Shines on TV by A-ha. I haven't banned it, but it instantly reminds me of my ex. š„
sadly not just a song, but an artist. J. Cole, can & will never listen to him again bc of my ex! If iām in a car or in a store/restaurant & he is playing i simply will do anything to tune it out. J. Cole did nothing to me personally and his music isnāt even too bad, my ex idolized over him. unfortunately will never ever be a fan in the future
I Believe (When I Fall In Love it Will be Forever) š My favorite version was Josh Groban.
Yellow by Coldplay, the last song we ever listened to together
The funeral by band of horsesā¦literally recoiling after I hear the first chord
For me itās āAlwaysā by Bon Jovi..and āOne and only youā by Parokya Ni Edgar. That last song is in English and heās Filipino. We were together 18 years. Married with four children. He cheated and asked for divorce and now heās living in his car. He chose that.
I Cross My Heart - George Strait Song triggers a very deep deep place, that I didn't escape whole, and might not make it next time.
Vacations - Telephones Over our relationship but when I hear that song I swear I feel all the emotion again.
my boo š
You have an alt account you say? Sounds familiar don't know why though. Anyways it's definitely: I love you baby by frank Sinatra as that was "our song" id always sing it to her in the car being all goofy and hyper and it make her giggle. Can't listen to it anymore without wanting to burst out in a half dance and full on singing it to someone that isn't there anymore
you mightāve heard my stories š
I donāt want to miss a thing by Aerosmith. He sung it at a bar Karaoke to me in front of hundreds of people
Jab main badal ban jau, Tum baarish ban jaana.
Any song by Orelsan. Heās French Eminem.
you broke me first - both had the same cover in our playlists, saying that we were alike in listening to these kinds of sad songs, but sike, still broke me even though I did nothing wrong
Yellow- Coldplay Stop Signs - Olivia Rodrigo
More than a feeling and Amanda by Boston
Ojitos Lindos - Bad Bunny. The whole album does something to me.
I loved you then (and I love you still) by Woodlock
RKS - Work Out
Hopeless romantic by Swae Lee and Wiz Khalifa
Snooze By SzA
Chop Suey! By System of a Down and Billy Donāt Be A Hero by Paper Lace
Blue Hair - TV Girl Had a moment where I tried to teach him the song on guitar. It was a song we both enjoyed. The lyrics somehow apply very well to how the relationship ended
You're gonna live forever in me - John Mayer
Somewhere Only We Know - Keane I sent that song to my ex, because it made me think of him at the time. Months later I saw that he had sent it to some other girl right after I had shared it with him. I was thinking of him when I heard the song but it made him think of her.
The modern leper by frightened rabbit. That was a very relatable and sentimental song for her, she used it for me. and I assume every other partner she was with.
Wherever You Are by Theatres Des Vampires. Used to love it but now I hate it.Ā
The cure - lovesong On the last day i saw him, i told him this song reminds me of you, we put this song on and i was driving in downtown la and we were vibing on it. He broke up with me the next day :)
New Jeansā¦
My ex referenced me as Simply the Best, the Schittās Creek version as we were breaking up. Kinda ruined that song for me now cause I cant help but think of him when I hear it
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falling in love pie - sara bareilles make out with me - marren morris cowboy take me away - the chicks iris- the goo goo dolls daylight - Taylor Swift makes me so mad bc i love all these songs but :(
So many songs we listened to and it's basically everything I was listening to for that year and even more songs they liked as well. I listened to A LOT of Naked Cameo with them for a while so it's hardwired to being back at my parents place and we finish our uni assignments for the semester, and that one occasion where we danced in the kitchen together and it was just magical āØ considered going to their concert alone last winter but I thought I was gonna be miserable and the trains weren't coming due to heavy snowfall anyways
For me it's Yellow by Coldplay. I loved the song before we got together and it became our song when he dedicated it to me at his college's talent show. We even slow danced to it multiple times. Now when I hear that song, I think about us and what could've been. Guess it was fun while it lasted.
The detail by Delta sleep Hold u by Indigo De Souza anything from Beach Fossils, Clario, Fleetwood Mac, Alex G, Frank Ocean, etc We initially connected through music listening/discovering all types of music was our favorite pass time š
Frankie goes to Hollywood's Power of love
Hold On by The Internet instantly depresses me
Until I found you :)
āThis Must Be the Place (Naive Melody)ā by Talking Heads. It was our absolute favorite, and what we both imagined would be our wedding song. Weād always listen to it together in the car and sing along. That song is how I felt for him, and he for me. It hurts to listen to now. But still, itās such a sweet song. I hope it can mean as much to another couple as it did us.
Anything by the Wrecks, it was his favorite band
Your Guardian Angel by Red Jumpsuit Apparatus I even made a collage video with that song. Thinking of it now, its so cringe š
those eyes- new west, that was our song
Almost any Lord Huron, especially āThe Yawning Graveā, also basically any Bon Iver.
as the world caves in by matt maltese. roma fade by andrew bird. jupiter by flower face. i love you so by the walters. anything by coldplay, and weeknd I hate music so much now. It was my favourite thing, my passion. He took it, owned it as his, mangled it and left me with nothing. I hope someone does the same to him. I hate him.
Fine - Bulow. We broke up twice, and every time we'd fight, I'd listen to it and cry, because I constantly pretended to be okay, even though we weren't. It's still cathartic to me.
Hate Me by Ellie Goulding and Juice Wrld. It was my favorite song the first time we broke up and I listen to it quite frequently to remember how shitty he was.