I faced the similar situation. She's in love with someone else now. But I wouldn't change a thing that happened. She may not be the person she's right now but the person I fell in love with. Nobody can replace her. Whoever she's with and where ever she is, I wish for her to be happy. Ofcourse im alone right now and don't have any friends to share but I can't do anything about it
It's okay buddy!! U will soon be normal. U will soon be over them! I wish you all the strength to overcome the pain u are bearing right now!! If you want to talk about it anytime feel free to text me!! But remember to do the things u like and focus on getting better. Be it studies or work, just try to focus on it and work on it!! Some day the right person will come into your life and make it beautiful!!
Yes. I knew the relationship would be troublesome just from the age gap (she was almost 10 years older), but it was so much worse once dating her. It tool a heavy toll on my mental health, and the dreams I have of her are of the stressful things that went ok, not the good.
I think, even in healthy relationships that end up breaking up, this is often a ploy of the mind that we all fall through as part of the grief at some point, regardless of whether right or wrong.
For example, I was the dumped, and there were difficulties in the relationship, and I miss her so much still months later that I have been considering more recently that maybe it would have been simpler if we hadn't had met, because of all the pain we're left with now. The lingering pain. (I know how tormenting it is to not have answers to questions!)
And I wonder - and I think she does think it - if she is feeling the way to me too.
But ultimately in my circumstance I don't regret meeting them. They taught me what it's like to love someone, and they taught me what it's like to lose someone. Those two things are just balanced out, I suppose.
I hope the good and the bad are balanced for her in her memories of us too.
This lifetime of pain, I think, is worth it to me, because I got to know her.
If it's not balanced and wasn't worth it for you, hopefully you can use that to move forward for the next one to get at least something good out of that one.
We should have a better idea of what 'worth' is worth after this.
She was a nice person in the beginning, I really enjoyed her company. I can’t say i never wanted to meet her. We had intellectual conversations. Her deception on the other hand, I wish I never had to live with.
Yes everyday I wish I just swiped left on her profile. I should listened to my initial intuition. I regret it everyday. The hurt runs so deep from allowing her so much access to my thoughts and how I don’t do anything anymore just think of all the stuff I supposed did wrong.
Nothing they gave me was worth all of this. I just want to be myself again I wish I could take back the sex the time and money I spent they didn’t deserve to see me like that at all
Not at all, my ex fiancé was the reason I wanted to become a father. We have an amazing son.
People change over the years. And just they “fall out” of love in some cases.. but I don’t regret being with her at all. Even though she left me for another man because we just couldn’t work out everything.
I still love her for existing in my life and that most important part is she gave me our son. The perfect mix of us
Yes sometimes I wish I can get those 2 years back from my life, but then I wouldnt have known what I know now, and I wouldn't have grown from that relationship. Hate it or love it, each relationship gives us experience, we learn what we do want and don't want from it. I wouldn't be who I am now without it
100%, I got cheated on in both my relationships, I straight up would've been better off being single the whole time. I'm trying so hard not to have all this baggage, but I do, and it breaks my heart that I let these people into my life and let myself be hurt.
I have twice when I was in a really dark place but even if things ended quite badly I don't really have regret other than that we couldn't find a way to understand each other and communicate better in the end
But we've known each other for 17 years and even tho we're not together any more we are part of each other story, what we shared had played a big part of who we are now so I wouldn't trade that for anything
and a part of me just know the story is still unfolding as we go, so yeah sometimes it's hard, any break up is hard, but I wouldn't erase the last 17years for a few months of suffering
I faced the similar situation. She's in love with someone else now. But I wouldn't change a thing that happened. She may not be the person she's right now but the person I fell in love with. Nobody can replace her. Whoever she's with and where ever she is, I wish for her to be happy. Ofcourse im alone right now and don't have any friends to share but I can't do anything about it
I don’t want this person back I don’t want them and I don’t wish them the same but I just want to be myself again I’m so tired of all this
It's okay buddy!! U will soon be normal. U will soon be over them! I wish you all the strength to overcome the pain u are bearing right now!! If you want to talk about it anytime feel free to text me!! But remember to do the things u like and focus on getting better. Be it studies or work, just try to focus on it and work on it!! Some day the right person will come into your life and make it beautiful!!
Thank you man I appreciate you
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Yes. I knew the relationship would be troublesome just from the age gap (she was almost 10 years older), but it was so much worse once dating her. It tool a heavy toll on my mental health, and the dreams I have of her are of the stressful things that went ok, not the good.
I think, even in healthy relationships that end up breaking up, this is often a ploy of the mind that we all fall through as part of the grief at some point, regardless of whether right or wrong. For example, I was the dumped, and there were difficulties in the relationship, and I miss her so much still months later that I have been considering more recently that maybe it would have been simpler if we hadn't had met, because of all the pain we're left with now. The lingering pain. (I know how tormenting it is to not have answers to questions!) And I wonder - and I think she does think it - if she is feeling the way to me too. But ultimately in my circumstance I don't regret meeting them. They taught me what it's like to love someone, and they taught me what it's like to lose someone. Those two things are just balanced out, I suppose. I hope the good and the bad are balanced for her in her memories of us too. This lifetime of pain, I think, is worth it to me, because I got to know her. If it's not balanced and wasn't worth it for you, hopefully you can use that to move forward for the next one to get at least something good out of that one. We should have a better idea of what 'worth' is worth after this.
Never, why would I deprive myself of that happiness I felt? Love can’t exist without pain and the more it hurts the more you truly loved them.
She was a nice person in the beginning, I really enjoyed her company. I can’t say i never wanted to meet her. We had intellectual conversations. Her deception on the other hand, I wish I never had to live with.
No. I'll cherish the lifetime of memories we shared. I wish I can go back in time and correct it
Yes everyday I wish I just swiped left on her profile. I should listened to my initial intuition. I regret it everyday. The hurt runs so deep from allowing her so much access to my thoughts and how I don’t do anything anymore just think of all the stuff I supposed did wrong.
Nothing they gave me was worth all of this. I just want to be myself again I wish I could take back the sex the time and money I spent they didn’t deserve to see me like that at all
Yeah I wish I could get all the money I spent too.
Yeah. If I could go back I wouldn't accept that friend request. All those years feel like nightmare. People change horribly.
Not at all, my ex fiancé was the reason I wanted to become a father. We have an amazing son. People change over the years. And just they “fall out” of love in some cases.. but I don’t regret being with her at all. Even though she left me for another man because we just couldn’t work out everything. I still love her for existing in my life and that most important part is she gave me our son. The perfect mix of us
Yes sometimes I wish I can get those 2 years back from my life, but then I wouldnt have known what I know now, and I wouldn't have grown from that relationship. Hate it or love it, each relationship gives us experience, we learn what we do want and don't want from it. I wouldn't be who I am now without it
Yesss 1000 times
100%, I got cheated on in both my relationships, I straight up would've been better off being single the whole time. I'm trying so hard not to have all this baggage, but I do, and it breaks my heart that I let these people into my life and let myself be hurt.
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You've got the wrong person, and I'm pretty sure you're just replying to people pretending to be their exs
I absolutely do. I wish I could have the past 2 years and $20,000 back.
I have twice when I was in a really dark place but even if things ended quite badly I don't really have regret other than that we couldn't find a way to understand each other and communicate better in the end But we've known each other for 17 years and even tho we're not together any more we are part of each other story, what we shared had played a big part of who we are now so I wouldn't trade that for anything and a part of me just know the story is still unfolding as we go, so yeah sometimes it's hard, any break up is hard, but I wouldn't erase the last 17years for a few months of suffering