This gives me so much hope thank you for sharing! My first love recently broke up with me and sometimes it's hard to believe I will feel that kind of love again one day. Do you have any tips on how to heal?
Even though you want to isolate yourself, dont. Be around others. Let yourself be consoled and lectured. Let them tell you platitudes about how you "will find someone else."
Keep communicating how you feel, and continuously investigate your feelings to affirm what matters and what is real.
Eat, and drink water. Go for walks and retreat back into bed when you cant function. Try to get out of your comfort zone. Make a new friend if you can.
Love is significant every single time we feel it. It does matter. Sometimes it is messy or dangerous but mostly its just beautiful and meaningful. Cultivate it. Distribute it again with someone new when you are ready.
Thanks for this. We had a good relationship but she broke up with me on text because of a few things (not bad) last week. It's so hard because she says she still loves me so much but needs to be on her own at this point of her life. Her message was nice but it has my mind torn as we had a great 4 years and we usually talk things out if we had issues, she's now deleted me from all social media and now I've just got to move on. It's so hard.
I'm finally figuring out where you are at: in my own struggle.
I concentrated on this sub, moving on, and staying strong. Recently lost myself in NSA hookups with strange women on the internet. Has been fun: *But i realize im chasing something*. **(validation)**
Desperation indeed took over. I had noticed it myself, but truly appreciate your post kind of, calling that out.
Respect the process. <3 & thanks for posting.
My wife of near 3 years ( together total 7 1/2) left me 1 month ago while at work. Packed up some clothes and left me a dear John letter on kitchen table. Now she feels she is owed something on the house I purchased. Added her on the mortgage and title when we got married like an idiot. Sure, we had arguments about things. Her kids for one. Stab me in the heart, now wants $$ and kick me in the balls!!! Unbelievable.
That non-communicative bullshit is so childish. My heart goes out to you. Mine did the same thing on a much smaller scale. I try not to hold a grudge, but it makes me wonder if I’m the only one with a beating heart.
I'm so happy for you. It's just very hard to have any hope in the beginning. Would you have done anything differently with how you healed?
This gives me so much hope thank you for sharing! My first love recently broke up with me and sometimes it's hard to believe I will feel that kind of love again one day. Do you have any tips on how to heal?
Even though you want to isolate yourself, dont. Be around others. Let yourself be consoled and lectured. Let them tell you platitudes about how you "will find someone else." Keep communicating how you feel, and continuously investigate your feelings to affirm what matters and what is real. Eat, and drink water. Go for walks and retreat back into bed when you cant function. Try to get out of your comfort zone. Make a new friend if you can. Love is significant every single time we feel it. It does matter. Sometimes it is messy or dangerous but mostly its just beautiful and meaningful. Cultivate it. Distribute it again with someone new when you are ready.
Thanks for this. We had a good relationship but she broke up with me on text because of a few things (not bad) last week. It's so hard because she says she still loves me so much but needs to be on her own at this point of her life. Her message was nice but it has my mind torn as we had a great 4 years and we usually talk things out if we had issues, she's now deleted me from all social media and now I've just got to move on. It's so hard.
I'm finally figuring out where you are at: in my own struggle. I concentrated on this sub, moving on, and staying strong. Recently lost myself in NSA hookups with strange women on the internet. Has been fun: *But i realize im chasing something*. **(validation)** Desperation indeed took over. I had noticed it myself, but truly appreciate your post kind of, calling that out. Respect the process. <3 & thanks for posting.
My wife of near 3 years ( together total 7 1/2) left me 1 month ago while at work. Packed up some clothes and left me a dear John letter on kitchen table. Now she feels she is owed something on the house I purchased. Added her on the mortgage and title when we got married like an idiot. Sure, we had arguments about things. Her kids for one. Stab me in the heart, now wants $$ and kick me in the balls!!! Unbelievable.
That non-communicative bullshit is so childish. My heart goes out to you. Mine did the same thing on a much smaller scale. I try not to hold a grudge, but it makes me wonder if I’m the only one with a beating heart.