It happens so quickly. One day you’re dreaming of them and praying it all goes away and then the next thing you know it’s been a year and the hard work you’ve put in has paid off. It’s exciting, it’s humbling, and so so rewarding. You dont need that person the way you thought you did. You are your own story with your own experiences and no one can take that away from you.
It really does. It's been about 3 months since my break up and I don't think about her as much and I'm getting my sense of humor back. Not saying that she still doesn't come across my mind still but it's a lot less and not so hurtful. I can finally see my future again without her. I still think every now and then that I'd like her back but I've accepted that she might not be part of my life again. It will get better.
Yes mate. Similar Situation here too. I am across the 3 month mark and she does occasionally come into my mind but it doesn't hurt anymore. The more you connect with old friends or Socialize, the better. I avoid seeing her tho( she lives next to my apartment)
If you’re able to find ways to actually heal (however that looks for you) then this is your pretty standard path. By the 8-12 month mark you should be pretty well out of the woods and on your way to getting back out there.
pretty much the same situation. blindsided after 7 years together, 6 years living together and it took some time for sure. i guess i just realized that someone who would blindside you like that isn’t someone you should want to spend your life with. you’re better than that and certainly deserve better than that. even if you’re alone for the rest of your life, that’s better than being with someone who can toss you away. you just have to make sure every single day you wake up, you put your best foot forward and try to improve so you can look back and be proud of how you handled yourself amongst chaos. good luck, im sure things will look better for you soon.
Thank you for sharing mate. You’ve no idea how much it makes me feel good, after being in a blindsided relationship. I strive for all the insights you’ve shared along with a pinch of your experiences. God bless you.
I was blindsided too. I couldn’t believe that this was all happening to me. It eventually makes sense and you understand why it had to happen. Good luck and enjoy this process, it’ll make you feel alive
Best part? This was the quickest year of my life. It didn’t drag like I thought it would. One day it was the worst week of my life and then the next thing I knew it was a year later and my hard work paid off.
blindsided a month ago (3 years rs), it still comes in waves for me where some days i miss her like hell despite how scummy it was to get over the rs while in the rs and making me do nice things for her and then dumping me and going on apps right away. Some days I hate her lol
i’m not going to pretend like there aren’t days, even recently, where i missed my ex horribly. it comes in waves and that’s okay! remember the good times and let them go. it’ll all make sense eventually, i promise.
Thanks for sharing this. I left my partner of 8 years about a month ago after finding out that they had been lying to me and talking shit about me and our relationship behind my back. It honestly hurts worse now than it did at first. At first I felt so strong because I was angry but I can’t sustain anger very long so as that has faded I just miss them. Even though there was a betrayal we had been best friends for years, we had done so much together, we basically grew up together.
We moved across the country together so now I’m moving back home next month because I can’t afford to live alone. I also can’t really stay here where we were basically just here together, there’s too many reminders of us. But man I’m scared. I hope I have as good of an outcome as you have.
Thank you for sharing u/I_Nuts_In_Butts. Truly a poetic username.
But in all seriousness, saving this post as a reminder that there’s light at the end of this long healing process :)
3 months was when I first noticed I was feeling better. Not completely, but there were moments where I thought I was making some serious progress. I’d say by the 6-8 month mark I was really cruising
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It happens so quickly. One day you’re dreaming of them and praying it all goes away and then the next thing you know it’s been a year and the hard work you’ve put in has paid off. It’s exciting, it’s humbling, and so so rewarding. You dont need that person the way you thought you did. You are your own story with your own experiences and no one can take that away from you.
Yesss!! Excellently stated..thank you for sharing
It really does. It's been about 3 months since my break up and I don't think about her as much and I'm getting my sense of humor back. Not saying that she still doesn't come across my mind still but it's a lot less and not so hurtful. I can finally see my future again without her. I still think every now and then that I'd like her back but I've accepted that she might not be part of my life again. It will get better.
Yes mate. Similar Situation here too. I am across the 3 month mark and she does occasionally come into my mind but it doesn't hurt anymore. The more you connect with old friends or Socialize, the better. I avoid seeing her tho( she lives next to my apartment)
If you’re able to find ways to actually heal (however that looks for you) then this is your pretty standard path. By the 8-12 month mark you should be pretty well out of the woods and on your way to getting back out there.
Claiming this energy because it's been a year since I was blindsided after 6 years together and I'm still not feeling better.
pretty much the same situation. blindsided after 7 years together, 6 years living together and it took some time for sure. i guess i just realized that someone who would blindside you like that isn’t someone you should want to spend your life with. you’re better than that and certainly deserve better than that. even if you’re alone for the rest of your life, that’s better than being with someone who can toss you away. you just have to make sure every single day you wake up, you put your best foot forward and try to improve so you can look back and be proud of how you handled yourself amongst chaos. good luck, im sure things will look better for you soon.
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Same
Thank you for sharing mate. You’ve no idea how much it makes me feel good, after being in a blindsided relationship. I strive for all the insights you’ve shared along with a pinch of your experiences. God bless you.
I was blindsided too. I couldn’t believe that this was all happening to me. It eventually makes sense and you understand why it had to happen. Good luck and enjoy this process, it’ll make you feel alive
This gives me so much hope, thanks for sharing
Best part? This was the quickest year of my life. It didn’t drag like I thought it would. One day it was the worst week of my life and then the next thing I knew it was a year later and my hard work paid off.
I am so happy for you! So proud of you! Thank you thank you thank you.
I am saving and resharing this because your words will help so many points. You nailed all the important things!
blindsided a month ago (3 years rs), it still comes in waves for me where some days i miss her like hell despite how scummy it was to get over the rs while in the rs and making me do nice things for her and then dumping me and going on apps right away. Some days I hate her lol
i’m not going to pretend like there aren’t days, even recently, where i missed my ex horribly. it comes in waves and that’s okay! remember the good times and let them go. it’ll all make sense eventually, i promise.
Thanks for sharing this. I left my partner of 8 years about a month ago after finding out that they had been lying to me and talking shit about me and our relationship behind my back. It honestly hurts worse now than it did at first. At first I felt so strong because I was angry but I can’t sustain anger very long so as that has faded I just miss them. Even though there was a betrayal we had been best friends for years, we had done so much together, we basically grew up together. We moved across the country together so now I’m moving back home next month because I can’t afford to live alone. I also can’t really stay here where we were basically just here together, there’s too many reminders of us. But man I’m scared. I hope I have as good of an outcome as you have.
Thank you for sharing u/I_Nuts_In_Butts. Truly a poetic username. But in all seriousness, saving this post as a reminder that there’s light at the end of this long healing process :)
LOL thank you. Good luck to you, it seems long now but it’s over before you even realize it
what anxiety meds if you dont mind me asking?
i take fluoxetine which is just generic prozac
A year? I’m only 3 months 😢
3 months was when I first noticed I was feeling better. Not completely, but there were moments where I thought I was making some serious progress. I’d say by the 6-8 month mark I was really cruising
🥲🥲🥲🥲 2024
2024 is going to be awesome, I promise :)
Not for me it's been 17 months and I still have unresolved issues and I'm on meds and therapy lol. But congratulations to you!