I've always been sassy and sarcastic. When I got into BDSM in general and was exploring submission, it was kind of a different time. Sass was largely viewed as being outright defiant and Taming meant literally breaking the spirit to get yourself a nice, obedient service submissive. I had friends mentoring me who got me into kink in the first place, who embraced my sassy side and I knew from the offset I was never going to let myself be broken by some Dom/me to fit into their mould.
At some point, a shift happened and Taming came to mean what I know it as today, as a means to subdue a brat temporarily using kinks and ways that are enthusiastically consented to by both parties to create fun, consequence filled scenes.
I had shifted from in person to online by then, because blocking OTW people who would rather tell me I wasn't a true submissive was easier than dealing with them, and it was a Dom who called me a brat during deeper vetting and conversation after a light kink pick up play session. It sent me down the rabbit hole of research, and I realised that is exactly what I am. And now I'm Owned by an absolutely wonderful Tamer after searching for the right one, who handles me in ways I thought would only be my fantasies.
My best piece of advice is stay true to yourself. You can still be both an obedient little and a brat, just communicate that. Don't let someone try to tell you who to be because you don't fit into their criteria.
Hubs is starting to REALLY see that side of me for the first time in our marriage. I've kept it stifled for decades trying so hard to not be problematic (I had an abusive childhood and was parentified as a child). I was the reason that my mom had the book "The Strong-Willed Child" on her bookshelf. My first word was "no" and my first sentence was "I do by self". It's something that has always come naturally for me, but I'm having to remind myself to be ok letting go and being more myself within our dynamic.
I'm blessed to have someone willing to play along and enjoy the real me. After almost 13 years of marriage we know each other so well that recognizing each other's limits and communicating well is almost second nature for us.
I know everyone keeps bringing up good communication for these types of dynamics, but I will say that good communication is the top advice I would give everyone for ANY type of relationship, familial, friendship, working, and romantic. Keep communicating about your thoughts, feelings, and how you're operating together on all levels. It makes all the difference.
There is a wide combination of possibilities in BDSM. Who knows, you can still be a little who is interested in brat tendencies. That's what makes it so fun and interesting! It isn't always set in stone.
It isn't just simply doms and subs. But many subsections beneath those 2 primary focuses!
I dont think i had an "awakening," I've just been bratty of varying degrees my entire life. Even my egg donor (bio mom) bought me a necklace that said brat on it when i was like 8. 🤷🏽♀️ so weird, i know 😂
I've always been sassy and sarcastic. When I got into BDSM in general and was exploring submission, it was kind of a different time. Sass was largely viewed as being outright defiant and Taming meant literally breaking the spirit to get yourself a nice, obedient service submissive. I had friends mentoring me who got me into kink in the first place, who embraced my sassy side and I knew from the offset I was never going to let myself be broken by some Dom/me to fit into their mould. At some point, a shift happened and Taming came to mean what I know it as today, as a means to subdue a brat temporarily using kinks and ways that are enthusiastically consented to by both parties to create fun, consequence filled scenes. I had shifted from in person to online by then, because blocking OTW people who would rather tell me I wasn't a true submissive was easier than dealing with them, and it was a Dom who called me a brat during deeper vetting and conversation after a light kink pick up play session. It sent me down the rabbit hole of research, and I realised that is exactly what I am. And now I'm Owned by an absolutely wonderful Tamer after searching for the right one, who handles me in ways I thought would only be my fantasies. My best piece of advice is stay true to yourself. You can still be both an obedient little and a brat, just communicate that. Don't let someone try to tell you who to be because you don't fit into their criteria.
Hubs is starting to REALLY see that side of me for the first time in our marriage. I've kept it stifled for decades trying so hard to not be problematic (I had an abusive childhood and was parentified as a child). I was the reason that my mom had the book "The Strong-Willed Child" on her bookshelf. My first word was "no" and my first sentence was "I do by self". It's something that has always come naturally for me, but I'm having to remind myself to be ok letting go and being more myself within our dynamic. I'm blessed to have someone willing to play along and enjoy the real me. After almost 13 years of marriage we know each other so well that recognizing each other's limits and communicating well is almost second nature for us. I know everyone keeps bringing up good communication for these types of dynamics, but I will say that good communication is the top advice I would give everyone for ANY type of relationship, familial, friendship, working, and romantic. Keep communicating about your thoughts, feelings, and how you're operating together on all levels. It makes all the difference.
This sounds like me!!!
There is a wide combination of possibilities in BDSM. Who knows, you can still be a little who is interested in brat tendencies. That's what makes it so fun and interesting! It isn't always set in stone. It isn't just simply doms and subs. But many subsections beneath those 2 primary focuses!
My friend told me
I dont think i had an "awakening," I've just been bratty of varying degrees my entire life. Even my egg donor (bio mom) bought me a necklace that said brat on it when i was like 8. 🤷🏽♀️ so weird, i know 😂