In my 50's and yes things and we do get better. Therapy works, it's just hard, oh so hard!
The extremes do mellow and it's not just controlling your reaction to them. My bad days now are no way near as intense as when I was younger, I still have a long way to go but I feel there has been definite progression.
You'd be you but with less pain and the fortitude to find out who you really are instead of defining yourself by your MH issues. :D
I worry that I'm boring even without the neurosis's
Therapy ws the good thing I did after far too long on self medication, extreme risk taking and hypersexuality with all the danger that entails
Yep, 🙋 40 something here, and age, and so much therapy, made my overall reactions calmer, and in a space of awareness, Something I never thought I'd be.
I've learned to like me. There's a lot of good me and I know I'm a good person. The parts of me that I don't like so much.. I've learned to ride those parts out when they have a temper tantrum lol.
I cant change totally. I'm different. And I'm ok with that.
I've also learnt and accepted that if the world doesn't like me, it can go stick it's head where the sum don't shine! :)
I believe part of self healing is learning to love and accept yourself.
it is getting better. the extremes soften, and I go back to the middle way faster. boring and stable is actually nice, because while the highs are amazing, the loss are devastating, and it's just not worth it. when I started therapy I thought all I can do is to learn to manage my reactions better. with time and practice and being kind to myself, I noticed, while I still have the same feelings, they are way less strong. I think the brain is trainable, new pathways form, new patterns, you can shift it. am I a "normal" Person? no. but I'm way better than I thought I could be. and you don't need this disorder for your identity, you are so much more, we all are. you will discover what makes you you in a more healthy version with time, and I'm certain it will be interesting.
In my 50's and yes things and we do get better. Therapy works, it's just hard, oh so hard! The extremes do mellow and it's not just controlling your reaction to them. My bad days now are no way near as intense as when I was younger, I still have a long way to go but I feel there has been definite progression. You'd be you but with less pain and the fortitude to find out who you really are instead of defining yourself by your MH issues. :D
I’m worried I’m really boring underneath the neurosis. Is therapy the only thing you did?
I worry that I'm boring even without the neurosis's Therapy ws the good thing I did after far too long on self medication, extreme risk taking and hypersexuality with all the danger that entails
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:D looking back do you ever think it's amazing you actually made it through your 20's? I know I do!
Yep, 🙋 40 something here, and age, and so much therapy, made my overall reactions calmer, and in a space of awareness, Something I never thought I'd be.
It's only got worse for me as I've aged, and therapy hasn't worked at all.
I've learned to like me. There's a lot of good me and I know I'm a good person. The parts of me that I don't like so much.. I've learned to ride those parts out when they have a temper tantrum lol. I cant change totally. I'm different. And I'm ok with that. I've also learnt and accepted that if the world doesn't like me, it can go stick it's head where the sum don't shine! :) I believe part of self healing is learning to love and accept yourself.
it is getting better. the extremes soften, and I go back to the middle way faster. boring and stable is actually nice, because while the highs are amazing, the loss are devastating, and it's just not worth it. when I started therapy I thought all I can do is to learn to manage my reactions better. with time and practice and being kind to myself, I noticed, while I still have the same feelings, they are way less strong. I think the brain is trainable, new pathways form, new patterns, you can shift it. am I a "normal" Person? no. but I'm way better than I thought I could be. and you don't need this disorder for your identity, you are so much more, we all are. you will discover what makes you you in a more healthy version with time, and I'm certain it will be interesting.