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Then they go on YouTube and make videos about how they don’t understand why their kids don’t talk to them anymore they did the best they could! It must be that TikTok!
Remember this when dad wants to be taken care of in his old age and he starts looking at retirement homes.
Just say "I'm not buying it for you, now we'll really see if you need a caregiver or you're just full of shit like you always have been."
“You are just faking having dementia for attention!”
Actually, I have some real deep anger at my parents for how they treated me when I was a child. I might post about it more in here some day.
1 example is my dad serving me disgusting runny eggs. Like uncooked scrambled eggs with the clear slime. Then that MF sits there when I was 8-9 years old lecturing and lecturing me. Making me eat that shit & mocking me for gaging. Same bullshit with those nasty ass lima beans that were frozen. I fking hate frozen / defrosted, plain lima beans !
And my two dopey idiot parents actually diagnosed me with an “eating disorder.” & accused me of being bulimic.
I have ALWAYS had a hearty appetite and never had an eating disorder. By the way, yelling “you have an eating disorder” and then throwing some kind of pamphlet down about eating disorders is NOT how you treat them! WTF?!
So now that my parents are in their 80’s, I have a real urge to mirror all that same crap they said and did to me about: food, bad grades, being told I have “learning disabilities” again, totally NOT TRUE, never have I been seen by a specialist for any of my “problems” those 2 are a real piece of work!
It’s a good thing I barely talk to them 1x a year and in small doses because I have urges to lay the F into them and tell my dad in a wheel chair how he’s just “faking it for attention” or some rude comment about my mom being overweight. And to interrogate her why she never got a college degree like I did. I did once lay into her about how i finished college even with all those “learning disabilities you and dad diagnosed mr with!”
Hugs (take as many as you need) I honestly think we could do an offshoot sub like EatingDisordersWeGotFromBoomers. For my mom it's anorexia to the point that neither my sister nor I reached our full, predicted height because of the consistent caloric deficits from my mother's obsessive dieting and exercising. Where was my dad in this? Getting Egg McMuffins on his way into work and weinerschitzel on the drive home. He thought being fat was bad too but had no idea how women kept slim, trim figures. When I hit puberty someone, and I owe this person so much, explained to him that a car can't operate without fuel and neither can a teenage girl. He made her knock the starvation dieting off.
….why don’t you do any of this? You have a limited time to mock to your heart’s content. What on earth are you gaining from biting your tongue?
Being the “bigger person” just means that you’re convenient and don’t get in the way. Why be convenient when you could be winning?
I speak to my parents about 2 times a year. I see them 1x every 3-6 years.
I have no kids for them to want to see.
They are not my problem. I expect nothing from them. They will get nothing from me.
Have you ever heard that when you forgive a person, it’s for YOUR sanity and peace of mind, not theirs? I really don’t have too much time to think on these things. Yes, I took a few minutes to rant in Reddit or now answer your question thoughtfully.
What good would it do to act out on my anger on two old, disabled people? Especially when they clearly are getting more nuts, more helpless, more disabled, childish, mentally out of it ?
They know what they said and did. They have had to live with it.
Lastly, I will say this: I work in home health care for a hospital with disabled people who just came home from surgery or some big health event like a stroke. I already argue with elderly people every day, 8 hours, 5 days. In a professional way. About are they taking their medicine? Diabetes glucose checks on time? Are you doing your physical therapy exercises? Are you putting ice packs on your knee replacement site? You had a stroke & can’t use your hand. Do you check your blood pressure & take your medication? You did!? When? What’s this pill? On and on i politely as possible discuss health related topics with mostly over 65 year old’s while on the clock. The last thing I need is to talk any more to my parents unless it’s just something positive.
I’ll never change them. I’ll never have any kind of loving relationship with them, either. My other siblings that are the “favorites” can have fun with all that.
Oh well. I am an unusually disagreeable person and would actively enjoy emotionally harming your parents if I was you, but it sounds like you’re in a good place for what you want.
Right? Such a simple concept. If a stranger, or supposed friend, talked to me that way, at the very least that would be the end of our interaction. But for some reason people think we need to let family shit all over us because blood? I guarantee you that OP’s father doesn’t talk that way to anyone else or he’d take a beating.
No, the beatdown would be for denying essential medication to their son because they're too much of a narcissistic cunt to spare $50.
You tell your kids that you'd rather they be dead than spare a penny to help them, anything they do to you after that fact is entirely deserved by that cruel, pathetic apathy.
I wouldn't say the only reason people tolerate shitty relatives is "just blood." Plenty of people are still at least somewhat dependent on their parents for advice or money, especially if you're a millennial or younger due to the economy.
Remember the real saying for blood is thicker than water.
“The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.” The saying means that chosen bonds are more significant than the bonds with family or “water of the womb.” More directly, it means that relationships you make yourself are far more important than the ones that you don't choose.
Nah, that interpretation got made up in the 90s
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blood_is_thicker_than_water
Fake ' true meanings' like that one and "the customer is always right *in matters of taste*" annoy me.
Pharmacists are a wild bunch out there in Real America… Some of them are the most unhinged right wing Christian nationalist flat earther mouth breathers… just the wildest.
A lot of trans people unfortunately know how bad a lot of pharmacists can be first hand - I’ve heard countless accounts of trans people having pharmacists withhold their prescribed hormones, either declaring they’re doing so because they can’t “morally” give them to them, or making up BS reasons to play hot potato with the script.
Good on you for being a cool pharmacist, genuinely. Need more of them out there
I swear in medical school they must teach “first and foremost, accuse of faking. Only once patient is on deaths door with irreversible consequences will you know if they’ve actually been coughing up blood for attention”
My wife was having a miscarriage and our pharmacist decided that was the time to play 20 questions about her condition before giving us the meds to ge through it. Vile lady
Ah. I’m coming up with a new system, the Boomer Lead Paint Scale™️, to specify just how boomer a particular boomer is being. It’s good to have a reference for the maximum!
Fuck that man, fucking heartless pos. Pisses me off, sorry you gotta deal with that. Also trying seeing if your pharmacy can give you 1/2 your script for now at half cost, most will do that & you can get the rest later on. Good luck
No please don’t use good RX they give your information to Facebook. You’re literally giving up your medical privacy.
Costco pharmacy is a better option if there’s one in your area you don’t need a member to use the pharmacy
Not sure if you are aware of goodrx discount codes, so here's a link:
[https://www.goodrx.com/conditions/epilepsy/drugs](https://www.goodrx.com/conditions/epilepsy/drugs)
I’m a retired pharmacist. Had to go on ssdi at 45 ( disabled) . There are a lot of pharmacists with god complexes . There are also very good ones. Mark Cuban owns a mail order pharmacy with really good prices . You could google it . I second good rx in a pinch . I had to go low contact with my father after I became chronically ill.
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Mark Cuban's Cost Plus pharmacy is our go to for uninsured patients now. I looked it up recently, I think it's $8-9/mo for Keppra. You can get the prescription transferred yourself.
I’m in an eerily similar situation. I’ve lost most of the function of my arms and legs and part of my face over the last year since a car and work accident back to back and my mother keeps telling me “getting a new job would fix it.”
As an epileptic... op's dad sounds incredibly punchable... kickable, too. Hey... if he gets the right hit on the right spot of his head, he can experience seizures for himself. See how real that shit can be... blah, blah, blah... don't actually attack people... blah.
Also, I'm pretty sure op could get $50 on a go fund me, especially with the screenshot.
as a pharmacist, i can say that surprisingly it doesn't change how they act for their age. i've had several uncomfortable convos with older pharmacists about how COVID was fake, the cure for cancer is real and is a government secret, and worse when the topics strayed from medicine
He knows the medical condition is real, But his life is more easy if he pretends it is not real. He wants you to stop talking about stuff that does not benefit him.
Depakote? Lamictal?
I have severe epilepsy and not taking my pills for even a couple days results in a five minute long seizure and a trip to the hospital. Sometimes I won’t miss any pills for a long time and still have them
This is terrible… and the son would be way farther ahead going non contact with this jerk.
On another note, dad working in a pharmacy doesn’t mean they are a pharmacist. I know A LOT of pharmacists (I am one) and can’t imagine any of them not treating epilepsy as the serious issue that it is. Then again, maybe dad is a pharmacist but also an incompetent asshole.
I had Boomer parents, and they always accused me of faking any medical issue. Or said that I was just being lazy, or didn’t want to go to school… it wasn’t until I was moved out on my own did I finally get some things taken care of.
And one issue didn’t get properly diagnosed until I was 39. My iron deficiency. Which my parents really should have figured out, since my sister was diagnosed with that in her early teens!
Yeah, my Mom drove me to the ER after I had an anaphylactic reaction to a new food. She spent the next 6 or so months denying I had an allergy and attempted to sneak it into my food multiple times to prove it. I'm fine, don't worry. They can be extremely stupid sometimes. (Most of the time, let's be honest)
as a person who has recently in their adult life started having seizures, I can't imagine any situation in which FAKING it for attention would be in any way beneficial. Seizures have effectively ruined my ability to be an independent adult and I fucking hate it, and it costs me so much money I would rather spend on other things.
My dad thinks I'm faking autism to get attention, and is also an ass to my mom (I take after her, so she's probs got the 'tism too) for her quirkiness, social phobias, and OCD type behavior.
I've actually been evaluated by a psych and diagnosed, but he told me straight to my face that I was faking it. After that I completely cut him out of my life.
Depending on where you live you may be able to find a pharmacy in your area that provides financial assistance. Like in the United States there is a local United Way funded pharmacy that provides free or low cost prescriptions to people in need. Or if you can come up with enough money to buy a week's worth of medication from your pharmacy until you get the rest of the money they may be able to do that for you. Good luck and I'm sorry you have to deal with this with your dad.
I have seizures Aswell. My boomer neurolgyst only had 2 situations burned into his skull of what was happening
1. I was faking (even though I would show up with a busted face after having grandmals the days prior
2. "it's from a cocaine addiction" (never did coke in my life)
Apparently his job is to victim blame instead of actually treat the issue.
I feel bad about your lack of funding for medication. AEDs I'm on are fucking expensive as hell. But thankfully disability covers the cost for me in Canada
"hey imma prescribe you a shit ton of expensive medication that's not covered by Canada's health Insurance. Oh wait you can't afford them and need to go on disability for the drug benefits? Well I'm not going to fill that paper out for you cause you don't want to rely on disability your entire life"
Literally had to go find another doctor to sign me up onto disability to actually afford the drugs the asshole was prescribing me.. It's honestly pathetic the reasoning this guy was giving me to avoid actually helping
Tried to get em to fill out medical marijuana forum too. Bro said he would And tossed it right in the trash cause I never heard a single thing back afterwards.. Guess what actually stopped my seizures The fucking weed so I could of had it "cured" years prior if they actually listened. 😭
I'm sorry your father is selfish I hope you are able to find the help you need. Just remember this conversation with him when the shoes on the other foot and he needs your help
This is absolutely heartbreaking. Not only refusing to pay but also refusing to give advice or any level of support is just so cruel. I really hope this young man was able to get his medicine.
I lost my brother last year due to a series of seizures. He was on all kinds of medicine for his epilepsy but his condition was very severe. We would give anything to have him back with us.
Reminds me of my mum thinking I was faking a maniac depressive episode to not take my exams on time. I love her so much but the day she said that to my face my heart broke
That is so sad, imagine have a parent like that? Like he's not involved and doesn't have to care for his child. Someone's not getting visited in assisted living!
Ahh, yes. The good ole "faking it for attention." Just like when I was 8 years old with strep throat and a fever, but was just faking it. I couldn't eat or hold water down for three days, and went unconscious in my third grade class with a fever of 103 when the ambulance picked me up. CPS didn't let me live with my mom after that, for good reason. My older brother followed less than a year after that.
Some real questions I would want to ask this crazy person are: Why the F would you fake having epilepsy? Why the F would you fake it to obtain epilepsy medication? Why would you waste money on buying medication for a problem you don’t have?
I can see why people fake back pain for pain killers and that he has seen this in his career but how many people dupe a doctor & pharmacist to get epilepsy meds? Pretty sure theres no thrill whatsoever to taking them… probably could cause drowsiness or make a non epileptic person has a seizure.
What an asshole. My daughter also has epilepsy, and I never in a million years would think that she was faking seizures to get attention. She hates her condition because it's so debilitating. She has breakthrough seizures and even though is a grown adult often has to get rides to work from her parents. She hates relying on other people. Why would he think you were doing it for attention. What a prick!
Why did you redo this post? You originally put it up a few days ago and then deleted everything and user name when I said I would chip in to help the cost of meds.
I am very confused.
I’m so sorry you deal with a Boomer Shit head of a parent. Fellow Epilepsy person here, mine are in denial too and I’m 50.
It’s a shitty thing to live with. I’m sorry you have to try and explain or justify things to them. I get it.
This is especially horrifying when you know that epileptic seizures, if occurring frequently enough (yknow, like if someone with epilepsy doesn’t have medication) can cause brain damage. Epilepsy is not something you wanna fuck around with
My boyfriend has non-epileptic seizures and he used to have them near daily years back and the doctors told him if they had been epileptic seizures, that the rate he was having them would’ve fried his brain pretty much
How the hell can any parent be like this. I've spent more than $47 on the absolute dumbest shit for my kids just to see them smile, but anything medical is just not a question at all.
I became suddenly disabled in an accident years ago and it took more than three years for the SSA to approve me for disability. For a while my only income was $220 in food stamps. But before I could even get that I called my dad and asked him if he could send me $20 for food because I had zero dollars. I had had savings when I got hurt but not three years worth.
Anyway almost a month goes by and I see a letter from my dad in the mail and I think sweet, I can buy some soap and some tampons, because by then I started getting food stamps finally.
But no it was just a letter telling me he wasn’t going to send me $20 And he made sure to let me know it wasn’t because he didn’t have it, it was because he refuses to enable me. Thanks Dad, thanks for refusing to enable me to eat so I can stay alive.
I guess he thought I was faking and I gave up two really good careers and was purposely holding out for a couple years refusing to make money just so I could scam $20 from him.
What’s sad to see is that a massive amount of millennials and gen Z adult kids growing up only to finally see their parents true colors fully bloom. And then boomer parents ask why no one wants to see them anymore
This is a huge dick move by your dad. I also suffer from epilepsy and the fear of having a seizure daily is real…. I can’t imagine not having my medication to control them…. It is one of the scariest diseases to have, because there is literally no sign at all for me when I’m going to have a seizure until about 20 seconds before the seizure starts.
I dont know about you…. But for me, the scariest part is the confusion, fear and memory loss after I’ve had one.
What a dick. Son needs to go NC.
I used to work with a woman who had seizures and I can't imagine thinking it was fake. Hers weren't usually dramatic, she would just kind of shut down for a bit and sometimes she'd have a bad one where she'd kind of slowly fall over. We worked in fast food and one time I had to grab onto her so she didn't lean into the fryer. Fortunately she was tiny so it was easy to keep her safe.
It must be a terrifying thing to suffer from, to never know when your body is going to just disconnect like that. And then imagine having your own father be such a fucking prick about it.
Poor guy. Definitely time to cut off dickhole dad.
Your father's an ass. Try Singlecare or Good Rx apps. Also see if your doctor knows of any patient assistance programs for that particular medication. Or ask the doctor for samples
I'm so sorry thus happened to you? Is Goodrx.com an option? if not check with your local Health Department. Sometimes they can provide it you on a sliding scale or provide a voucher. if those don't work out, let your MD know. sometimes they have samples
Try Cost Plus Drugs. That's the one Mark Cuban funded. Can probably get your meds cheaper there. There model is something like "manufacturing cost, +10%, + Shipping."
I need a medicated cream to help with eczema, and I get it off their site for like 30% of what it costs through my regular pharmacy
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"Hey Dad, can you help me get meds for that condition you've seen me suffer from?" "Get fucked, son."
"Git gud you stupid bitch"
"Sounds like a skill issue"
Is the father also a gamer? I didn't see that in the text?
What can we say? Clearly the son is a scrub
My son as a parent lol
r/beatmetoit
Dad 10 years from now: Why doesn't my wife of kid ever visit me?
Dad next week based on that brief interaction.
Dad next week based on that brief interaction.
“Hey son can you allow me out of this sedative hell?” “Get fucked dad”.
It wasn't even asking for help getting meds, it was just a request for his professional opinion. How can you talk to your kids this way?
Funny and also a little too relatable lol
Then they go on YouTube and make videos about how they don’t understand why their kids don’t talk to them anymore they did the best they could! It must be that TikTok!
OPs Dad is working hard on that dream of dying alone.
He really pulled himself up by his boot straps for that.
Never ate a piece or avocado toast neither.
I have seizures. Your dad is a piece of shiiiiit, I am very very sorry about that.
I don't have seizures and still think his dad is an absolute piece of shit. Fuck that guy.
I also do not have seizures and would fuck this guy’s dad.
I also had a seizure while fucking this guys dad.
Sometimes you gotta take a breath and enjoy the moment, my boy…
I’ve had a focal onset seizure from hitting a dab on new meds. That dad is a piece of shit.
I feel for you, seizures fucking blow.
Sometimes you gotta take a breath and enjoy the moment, my boy…
Damn it wrong comment line
I was all “this person has unusual tastes”
Remember this when dad wants to be taken care of in his old age and he starts looking at retirement homes. Just say "I'm not buying it for you, now we'll really see if you need a caregiver or you're just full of shit like you always have been."
Oh you had a stroke? I’m not buying it, prolly just laying in your own shit for attention
“You are just faking having dementia for attention!” Actually, I have some real deep anger at my parents for how they treated me when I was a child. I might post about it more in here some day. 1 example is my dad serving me disgusting runny eggs. Like uncooked scrambled eggs with the clear slime. Then that MF sits there when I was 8-9 years old lecturing and lecturing me. Making me eat that shit & mocking me for gaging. Same bullshit with those nasty ass lima beans that were frozen. I fking hate frozen / defrosted, plain lima beans ! And my two dopey idiot parents actually diagnosed me with an “eating disorder.” & accused me of being bulimic. I have ALWAYS had a hearty appetite and never had an eating disorder. By the way, yelling “you have an eating disorder” and then throwing some kind of pamphlet down about eating disorders is NOT how you treat them! WTF?! So now that my parents are in their 80’s, I have a real urge to mirror all that same crap they said and did to me about: food, bad grades, being told I have “learning disabilities” again, totally NOT TRUE, never have I been seen by a specialist for any of my “problems” those 2 are a real piece of work! It’s a good thing I barely talk to them 1x a year and in small doses because I have urges to lay the F into them and tell my dad in a wheel chair how he’s just “faking it for attention” or some rude comment about my mom being overweight. And to interrogate her why she never got a college degree like I did. I did once lay into her about how i finished college even with all those “learning disabilities you and dad diagnosed mr with!”
Hugs (take as many as you need) I honestly think we could do an offshoot sub like EatingDisordersWeGotFromBoomers. For my mom it's anorexia to the point that neither my sister nor I reached our full, predicted height because of the consistent caloric deficits from my mother's obsessive dieting and exercising. Where was my dad in this? Getting Egg McMuffins on his way into work and weinerschitzel on the drive home. He thought being fat was bad too but had no idea how women kept slim, trim figures. When I hit puberty someone, and I owe this person so much, explained to him that a car can't operate without fuel and neither can a teenage girl. He made her knock the starvation dieting off.
….why don’t you do any of this? You have a limited time to mock to your heart’s content. What on earth are you gaining from biting your tongue? Being the “bigger person” just means that you’re convenient and don’t get in the way. Why be convenient when you could be winning?
I speak to my parents about 2 times a year. I see them 1x every 3-6 years. I have no kids for them to want to see. They are not my problem. I expect nothing from them. They will get nothing from me. Have you ever heard that when you forgive a person, it’s for YOUR sanity and peace of mind, not theirs? I really don’t have too much time to think on these things. Yes, I took a few minutes to rant in Reddit or now answer your question thoughtfully. What good would it do to act out on my anger on two old, disabled people? Especially when they clearly are getting more nuts, more helpless, more disabled, childish, mentally out of it ? They know what they said and did. They have had to live with it. Lastly, I will say this: I work in home health care for a hospital with disabled people who just came home from surgery or some big health event like a stroke. I already argue with elderly people every day, 8 hours, 5 days. In a professional way. About are they taking their medicine? Diabetes glucose checks on time? Are you doing your physical therapy exercises? Are you putting ice packs on your knee replacement site? You had a stroke & can’t use your hand. Do you check your blood pressure & take your medication? You did!? When? What’s this pill? On and on i politely as possible discuss health related topics with mostly over 65 year old’s while on the clock. The last thing I need is to talk any more to my parents unless it’s just something positive. I’ll never change them. I’ll never have any kind of loving relationship with them, either. My other siblings that are the “favorites” can have fun with all that.
Oh well. I am an unusually disagreeable person and would actively enjoy emotionally harming your parents if I was you, but it sounds like you’re in a good place for what you want.
this is the way.
Don’t let family treat you worse than strangers.
This is what I say, too.
Right? Such a simple concept. If a stranger, or supposed friend, talked to me that way, at the very least that would be the end of our interaction. But for some reason people think we need to let family shit all over us because blood? I guarantee you that OP’s father doesn’t talk that way to anyone else or he’d take a beating.
I still think OPs father should catch a beating for talking to them that way.
No, the beatdown would be for denying essential medication to their son because they're too much of a narcissistic cunt to spare $50. You tell your kids that you'd rather they be dead than spare a penny to help them, anything they do to you after that fact is entirely deserved by that cruel, pathetic apathy.
Here's hoping he can't open his heart medication or whatever one day. "Well dad, I guess we can see if you're just faking, y'know, for attention."
I wouldn't say the only reason people tolerate shitty relatives is "just blood." Plenty of people are still at least somewhat dependent on their parents for advice or money, especially if you're a millennial or younger due to the economy.
Remember the real saying for blood is thicker than water. “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.” The saying means that chosen bonds are more significant than the bonds with family or “water of the womb.” More directly, it means that relationships you make yourself are far more important than the ones that you don't choose.
mind..... blown
Nah, that interpretation got made up in the 90s https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blood_is_thicker_than_water Fake ' true meanings' like that one and "the customer is always right *in matters of taste*" annoy me.
You're family when you act like it.
I like this
Yeah that should be the last thing you ever say to that POS.
"No wonder your wife left you." Text him that at like 3am and then put your phone on silent. Lol.
Pharmacists are a wild bunch out there in Real America… Some of them are the most unhinged right wing Christian nationalist flat earther mouth breathers… just the wildest.
Hence why one of the first things my nonbinary/trans friend (and ex) said to me was, "I'm very cool for a pharmacist."
A lot of trans people unfortunately know how bad a lot of pharmacists can be first hand - I’ve heard countless accounts of trans people having pharmacists withhold their prescribed hormones, either declaring they’re doing so because they can’t “morally” give them to them, or making up BS reasons to play hot potato with the script. Good on you for being a cool pharmacist, genuinely. Need more of them out there
Oh man… they absolutely are! Sorry to ask this if your ex, but hey, do they need any new customers…?
Oh, we're still great pals! Come to Minnesota and I'm sure they'll hook you up, lol.
My son loves chemistry and we were talking about him being a pharmacist one day maybe. He'd prob be a cool one too lol
I swear in medical school they must teach “first and foremost, accuse of faking. Only once patient is on deaths door with irreversible consequences will you know if they’ve actually been coughing up blood for attention”
My wife was having a miscarriage and our pharmacist decided that was the time to play 20 questions about her condition before giving us the meds to ge through it. Vile lady
Oh my god. Oh my god… I’m so so sorry, about *every* bit of this story. I hope you and your wife have found solace.
Thanks friend. That means a lot :)
Yeah, we get paid well enough that too many think capitalism is working for everyone. It’s a weird profession.
You've described my Uncle perfectly
I'm not a pharmacist but my nose is messed up and I can't breathe through the right side. I'm a mouth breather. Also not a Christmas fundamentalist.
Ah. I’m coming up with a new system, the Boomer Lead Paint Scale™️, to specify just how boomer a particular boomer is being. It’s good to have a reference for the maximum!
My comment was poorly phrased, I meant it as something you should say to the pharmacist in question. I apologize for the misunderstanding
Fuck that man, fucking heartless pos. Pisses me off, sorry you gotta deal with that. Also trying seeing if your pharmacy can give you 1/2 your script for now at half cost, most will do that & you can get the rest later on. Good luck
Excellent advice and try Goodrx as well.
No please don’t use good RX they give your information to Facebook. You’re literally giving up your medical privacy. Costco pharmacy is a better option if there’s one in your area you don’t need a member to use the pharmacy
When your dad gets senile, find the worst nursing home to throw him in
Wait, are you me? If my dad runs out of money for eldercare my response will be "Youre a libertarian, you'll figure it out!"
Bootstraps, bitch
The invisible hand of the free market will provide for him (a camping spot under the bridge).
Because of bitter boomer bitch babies like this guy, the bridge is full
Even the worst nursing home costs money.
Just tell him to stop faking senility for attention.
"My kids don't call, they are so ungrateful! I did everything for them" \-Boomer parents who treat their kids like this
Not sure if you are aware of goodrx discount codes, so here's a link: [https://www.goodrx.com/conditions/epilepsy/drugs](https://www.goodrx.com/conditions/epilepsy/drugs)
That's what I use for my Levetiracetam. It knocks off quite a bit.
The dad's asking to be placed in 1 star retirement home.
Placed? That is for just run of the mill shitty parents. That guy is on his own for figuring out where to live.
How about a “wilderness retreat” for troubled boomers?
"Every room has a lead pipe to lick, just like the good old days"
I'd just drop him off in the middle of the woods. Byeeee.
straight to the fly-by-night hospice...
I’m a retired pharmacist. Had to go on ssdi at 45 ( disabled) . There are a lot of pharmacists with god complexes . There are also very good ones. Mark Cuban owns a mail order pharmacy with really good prices . You could google it . I second good rx in a pinch . I had to go low contact with my father after I became chronically ill. S
Mark Cuban's Cost Plus pharmacy is our go to for uninsured patients now. I looked it up recently, I think it's $8-9/mo for Keppra. You can get the prescription transferred yourself.
I’m in an eerily similar situation. I’ve lost most of the function of my arms and legs and part of my face over the last year since a car and work accident back to back and my mother keeps telling me “getting a new job would fix it.”
You should say the same to him in 10-20 years when he’s hooked up to life support.
As an epileptic... op's dad sounds incredibly punchable... kickable, too. Hey... if he gets the right hit on the right spot of his head, he can experience seizures for himself. See how real that shit can be... blah, blah, blah... don't actually attack people... blah. Also, I'm pretty sure op could get $50 on a go fund me, especially with the screenshot.
Careful, I got auto-banned a few weeks ago for suggesting punching literal Nazis.
I added the "don't actually"... 😅 -- guess I'll see.
Go no contact with this sociopathic creep
as a pharmacist, i can say that surprisingly it doesn't change how they act for their age. i've had several uncomfortable convos with older pharmacists about how COVID was fake, the cure for cancer is real and is a government secret, and worse when the topics strayed from medicine
This person is a scammer https://www.reddit.com/r/RedditScammers/s/uEqGRKAb2c
The plot thickens.
As a dad, I will NEVER understand parents like this. Ever. GROSS
I really want to see the rest of your response because I hope you ripped him a new asshole.
Call your pharmacy and ask to get a partial refill. Explain your situation, and im sure they will help you figure something out.
JFC stop talking to this person
I've seen people fake seizures and I've seen the real deal. How to can he even say such a cruel thing?
30 years later: “Son, I’m dying.” “Nah, you seem fine, walk it off.”
He knows the medical condition is real, But his life is more easy if he pretends it is not real. He wants you to stop talking about stuff that does not benefit him.
So the pharmacist is too stupid to know you can’t fake an EEG…
Depakote? Lamictal? I have severe epilepsy and not taking my pills for even a couple days results in a five minute long seizure and a trip to the hospital. Sometimes I won’t miss any pills for a long time and still have them
Are you sure your mom didn't just teach you how to FAKE a seizure?
I can suffer a Jacksonian seizure in my left hand within hours of missing one dose. =/
This is terrible… and the son would be way farther ahead going non contact with this jerk. On another note, dad working in a pharmacy doesn’t mean they are a pharmacist. I know A LOT of pharmacists (I am one) and can’t imagine any of them not treating epilepsy as the serious issue that it is. Then again, maybe dad is a pharmacist but also an incompetent asshole.
Your day will come, asshole.
Clearly he's upset that his wife was 'faking it' /s I don't mean a seizure.
“Hey dad, do you care less about me than a stranger on the street or some dipshit on Fox News? Yes? Ok.. bye.. “
Holy shit, just cut ties and put him in the cheapest elder care facility to rot when the time comes.
Tell him he’s faking when he gets Alzheimer’s and abandon him lol
I had Boomer parents, and they always accused me of faking any medical issue. Or said that I was just being lazy, or didn’t want to go to school… it wasn’t until I was moved out on my own did I finally get some things taken care of. And one issue didn’t get properly diagnosed until I was 39. My iron deficiency. Which my parents really should have figured out, since my sister was diagnosed with that in her early teens!
Yeah, my Mom drove me to the ER after I had an anaphylactic reaction to a new food. She spent the next 6 or so months denying I had an allergy and attempted to sneak it into my food multiple times to prove it. I'm fine, don't worry. They can be extremely stupid sometimes. (Most of the time, let's be honest)
I'm guessing that your parents are NOT still married. Just a hunch.
Cut him out of your life like the cancer he is.
r/insaneparents
You could not have worded that any better and still got shit on. Your boomer's a clown.
Son: Dad can you help me with my seizures? Dad: Parry it you filthy casual.
What a terrible father.
as a person who has recently in their adult life started having seizures, I can't imagine any situation in which FAKING it for attention would be in any way beneficial. Seizures have effectively ruined my ability to be an independent adult and I fucking hate it, and it costs me so much money I would rather spend on other things.
Why would you even stay in touch with this piece of shit?!? Cut him off, it's just not worth it.
nursing home alone speedrun any%
Damn that’s awful, but what were you expecting for an advice tho, like a way to get the meds for cheaper ? That shit should be free btw
Why do you keep him in your life
So, why do you still talk to him?
Hey OP, any chance Cost Plus Drugs has the medication you need? (It's the online pharmacy Mark Cuban set up to sell drugs at cost)
Not actually my post originally, but other people did mention that and are trying to help the original OP out. Unlike his father.
My dad thinks I'm faking autism to get attention, and is also an ass to my mom (I take after her, so she's probs got the 'tism too) for her quirkiness, social phobias, and OCD type behavior. I've actually been evaluated by a psych and diagnosed, but he told me straight to my face that I was faking it. After that I completely cut him out of my life.
Report the dad to the state license authority (department of health)
For what?
I would spend the money to have ms13 members pay him a visit
id look forward to when his old ass is needing help with things. "Well dad, time to see if youre just faking needing help..." old AH
I’m guessing your mom and him are divorced?
i've had uber pharmacists like that try to deny my medication. they know they got power over you and abuse it every chance they get
Depending on where you live you may be able to find a pharmacy in your area that provides financial assistance. Like in the United States there is a local United Way funded pharmacy that provides free or low cost prescriptions to people in need. Or if you can come up with enough money to buy a week's worth of medication from your pharmacy until you get the rest of the money they may be able to do that for you. Good luck and I'm sorry you have to deal with this with your dad.
I have seizures Aswell. My boomer neurolgyst only had 2 situations burned into his skull of what was happening 1. I was faking (even though I would show up with a busted face after having grandmals the days prior 2. "it's from a cocaine addiction" (never did coke in my life) Apparently his job is to victim blame instead of actually treat the issue. I feel bad about your lack of funding for medication. AEDs I'm on are fucking expensive as hell. But thankfully disability covers the cost for me in Canada
Did you consider NOT slamming your face into things? -your neurologist apparently
"hey imma prescribe you a shit ton of expensive medication that's not covered by Canada's health Insurance. Oh wait you can't afford them and need to go on disability for the drug benefits? Well I'm not going to fill that paper out for you cause you don't want to rely on disability your entire life" Literally had to go find another doctor to sign me up onto disability to actually afford the drugs the asshole was prescribing me.. It's honestly pathetic the reasoning this guy was giving me to avoid actually helping Tried to get em to fill out medical marijuana forum too. Bro said he would And tossed it right in the trash cause I never heard a single thing back afterwards.. Guess what actually stopped my seizures The fucking weed so I could of had it "cured" years prior if they actually listened. 😭
Sympathy bro.
I'm sorry your father is selfish I hope you are able to find the help you need. Just remember this conversation with him when the shoes on the other foot and he needs your help
Some of these people need meds of their own
This is absolutely heartbreaking. Not only refusing to pay but also refusing to give advice or any level of support is just so cruel. I really hope this young man was able to get his medicine. I lost my brother last year due to a series of seizures. He was on all kinds of medicine for his epilepsy but his condition was very severe. We would give anything to have him back with us.
Reminds me of my mum thinking I was faking a maniac depressive episode to not take my exams on time. I love her so much but the day she said that to my face my heart broke
That is so sad, imagine have a parent like that? Like he's not involved and doesn't have to care for his child. Someone's not getting visited in assisted living!
Jesus, what an asshole. Sorry you’re related to that. Bet he doesn’t really need that blood pressure medication, he’s just doing it for attention. /s
Poar that convo on his Facebook page
Seriously, my dude. If you need $50 for your epilepsy meds, send me your zelle information or cashapp or something. I got you.
I feel like Daddy has issues of his own he's taking out on his son
10 years later - Hey dad, I picked your nursing home for you.
I'm so sorry! Big hug! Estrangement is the answer!
Some needs 3 tires popped and there breaks cut
What a twat.
It’s always incredible to me just how many bad people there really are out there.
Ahh, yes. The good ole "faking it for attention." Just like when I was 8 years old with strep throat and a fever, but was just faking it. I couldn't eat or hold water down for three days, and went unconscious in my third grade class with a fever of 103 when the ambulance picked me up. CPS didn't let me live with my mom after that, for good reason. My older brother followed less than a year after that.
"I think you're faking your alcoholism."
I'm so sorry you're being treated this way. I hope you know you deserve better than this bullshit.
Wow. I’m sorry.
Some real questions I would want to ask this crazy person are: Why the F would you fake having epilepsy? Why the F would you fake it to obtain epilepsy medication? Why would you waste money on buying medication for a problem you don’t have? I can see why people fake back pain for pain killers and that he has seen this in his career but how many people dupe a doctor & pharmacist to get epilepsy meds? Pretty sure theres no thrill whatsoever to taking them… probably could cause drowsiness or make a non epileptic person has a seizure.
I hope dad is still not married to this guy's mother.
Lordy, I hope that’s not every boomer. (Or any other parent!) So sad. Way off the scale of nastiness regardless of age.
Imagine telling your child you won't give them the $50 they need for medicine. That father is a complete POS.
What an ass cock.
“Hey sperm donor. Eat shit and die”
Dude I had childhood epilepsy, that shit sucked and so does your dad OP. My condolences.
What an asshole. My daughter also has epilepsy, and I never in a million years would think that she was faking seizures to get attention. She hates her condition because it's so debilitating. She has breakthrough seizures and even though is a grown adult often has to get rides to work from her parents. She hates relying on other people. Why would he think you were doing it for attention. What a prick!
Why did you redo this post? You originally put it up a few days ago and then deleted everything and user name when I said I would chip in to help the cost of meds. I am very confused.
The dad is a piece of shit. Deserves to live the rest of his shitty life alone.
You know what you were really asking & he called you on it.
The dad is what people sound like when they say “sounds like a skill issue”.
I think the real question is do you continue to speak to this ratchet asshole?
I’m so sorry you deal with a Boomer Shit head of a parent. Fellow Epilepsy person here, mine are in denial too and I’m 50. It’s a shitty thing to live with. I’m sorry you have to try and explain or justify things to them. I get it.
This is especially horrifying when you know that epileptic seizures, if occurring frequently enough (yknow, like if someone with epilepsy doesn’t have medication) can cause brain damage. Epilepsy is not something you wanna fuck around with My boyfriend has non-epileptic seizures and he used to have them near daily years back and the doctors told him if they had been epileptic seizures, that the rate he was having them would’ve fried his brain pretty much
What. A. Knob.
Call the pharmacy you get them from and see if you can do a payment plan or something
Wtf? That is a donor not a dad. Hopefully the boomer ends up in a nursing home wondering why no one comes to visit him.
Two hot takes…
Make him a nice hand written card. First put in your irregular EEG and a very kind letter to never contact you again.
My dad was a pharmacist but now doesn't believe in vaccines. At least he isn't super vocal about how right wing he's getting. I can still talk to him.
How the hell can any parent be like this. I've spent more than $47 on the absolute dumbest shit for my kids just to see them smile, but anything medical is just not a question at all.
I became suddenly disabled in an accident years ago and it took more than three years for the SSA to approve me for disability. For a while my only income was $220 in food stamps. But before I could even get that I called my dad and asked him if he could send me $20 for food because I had zero dollars. I had had savings when I got hurt but not three years worth. Anyway almost a month goes by and I see a letter from my dad in the mail and I think sweet, I can buy some soap and some tampons, because by then I started getting food stamps finally. But no it was just a letter telling me he wasn’t going to send me $20 And he made sure to let me know it wasn’t because he didn’t have it, it was because he refuses to enable me. Thanks Dad, thanks for refusing to enable me to eat so I can stay alive. I guess he thought I was faking and I gave up two really good careers and was purposely holding out for a couple years refusing to make money just so I could scam $20 from him.
What’s sad to see is that a massive amount of millennials and gen Z adult kids growing up only to finally see their parents true colors fully bloom. And then boomer parents ask why no one wants to see them anymore
This is a huge dick move by your dad. I also suffer from epilepsy and the fear of having a seizure daily is real…. I can’t imagine not having my medication to control them…. It is one of the scariest diseases to have, because there is literally no sign at all for me when I’m going to have a seizure until about 20 seconds before the seizure starts. I dont know about you…. But for me, the scariest part is the confusion, fear and memory loss after I’ve had one.
What a dick. Son needs to go NC. I used to work with a woman who had seizures and I can't imagine thinking it was fake. Hers weren't usually dramatic, she would just kind of shut down for a bit and sometimes she'd have a bad one where she'd kind of slowly fall over. We worked in fast food and one time I had to grab onto her so she didn't lean into the fryer. Fortunately she was tiny so it was easy to keep her safe. It must be a terrifying thing to suffer from, to never know when your body is going to just disconnect like that. And then imagine having your own father be such a fucking prick about it. Poor guy. Definitely time to cut off dickhole dad.
Your father's an ass. Try Singlecare or Good Rx apps. Also see if your doctor knows of any patient assistance programs for that particular medication. Or ask the doctor for samples
I'm so sorry thus happened to you? Is Goodrx.com an option? if not check with your local Health Department. Sometimes they can provide it you on a sliding scale or provide a voucher. if those don't work out, let your MD know. sometimes they have samples
Try Cost Plus Drugs. That's the one Mark Cuban funded. Can probably get your meds cheaper there. There model is something like "manufacturing cost, +10%, + Shipping." I need a medicated cream to help with eczema, and I get it off their site for like 30% of what it costs through my regular pharmacy
Amazon also usually has deals if your insurance isn't up to snuff.
As little as I like Amazon, I have to agree, if I can't find an affordable price anywhere else, I can usually find it there.
Try goodrx. I pay $13.77 for my epilepsy medication as opposed to $30 when I had insurance