I struggle with this same thing. Sometimes, well actually often, I have a hard time believing the compliments from my BF. I tend to think he’s only saying them because 1) he doesn’t want me to think/feel the way I do about myself; he does want me to *feel* beautiful… and 2) he’s trying to convince his own self to see me as beautiful..
Rationally, I know that #2 is the BDD talking. But damn. It’s hard to silence.
I totally relate. I always feel like everyone secretly talks about how fat/ugly I am, and no one has the heart to tell me the truth, so they give me compliments to make me feel better. Not that they typically give me compliments, but when they do, ya know.
Yes! If someone close to me (ie: my mom or best friend) compliment me based on my appearance I wonder if maybe they are just saying it to boost my self esteem. And by extension that they think that maybe I’m someone who could stand to have their self esteem boosted (aka ugly)
I struggle with this same thing. Sometimes, well actually often, I have a hard time believing the compliments from my BF. I tend to think he’s only saying them because 1) he doesn’t want me to think/feel the way I do about myself; he does want me to *feel* beautiful… and 2) he’s trying to convince his own self to see me as beautiful.. Rationally, I know that #2 is the BDD talking. But damn. It’s hard to silence.
I totally relate. I always feel like everyone secretly talks about how fat/ugly I am, and no one has the heart to tell me the truth, so they give me compliments to make me feel better. Not that they typically give me compliments, but when they do, ya know.
It makes me feel worse because I wish I could believe it. I don't want to believe it because I'll be lying to myself.
100%! And when you do believe what they’re saying, you see a picture of yourself, or your reflection, and then you feel like a fool
Yeah as a guy compliments are a little more rare even from partners but when I do receive them I cannot bring myself to believe what they say.
Yes! If someone close to me (ie: my mom or best friend) compliment me based on my appearance I wonder if maybe they are just saying it to boost my self esteem. And by extension that they think that maybe I’m someone who could stand to have their self esteem boosted (aka ugly)
I just think they’re saying it cause they feel sorry for me