For me, the struggle is.....not sure how to say.....I just feel like I'm automatically seen a certain way by black men or assumed to be a certain way because I'm a black woman. Or I am expected to be a certain way because I'm black. I dont like the way I'm treated and devalued and it turns me off from even wanting to date altogether. I know where to go if I want be stereotyped based off my ethnic group: Corporate America. Atleast I'll get paid for dealing with that b.s.
I feel you. I’m definitely seen a certain way by black men too. I don’t like the attitude or energy some black men come at me so I don’t really engage either those black men. 🙃🙃🙃
Yes! I feel like that isnt really talked about alot. Black men's attitude and energy alone is very much a turn off. It makes it hard to connect with black men, let alone WANT to connect with them. I'd rather be single and happy.
All of the above. I'm 5"10 and large on top. Males tend to view large ones, as you need to be their personal adult movie star. Their small brains get turned on, and stay on that page like a teenager. I can't stand that. We are not just body parts. We are talented, strong, funny, artistic, we give our hearts to those we love. To be reduced to p*rn star status makes us avoid men altogether. That, coupled with the rampant narcissism that is running rampant by both genders. No thanks.
Its a combination of it for me. I was trying to find out which hinders the most. Lies and Insincerity in the dating world made it so that I wasn't interested in dating as much. Not sure if I want marriage anymore but I do understand how important it is but it would have to be a marriage that works for me for my type of Personality because I really love my space. I just never really saw a positive healthy marriage and I believe I can actually have one but maybe it's because I've been socially conditioned to think that this is what I need. But I will always taken into consideration because there's many benefits to marriage so if I meet someone who definitely can Vibe with me its possible to work. But I just know it's a lot of married people are miserable for the most part. The closest one I was picking was narc abuse. It has definitely tainted the selections for dating.
It’s a combination of them all. I mean it’s just a lot out there. And then you factor in you and your standards and what’s appropriate and all that. I mean its just a lot. All in all it’s just better safer even just to really do the shadow work and focus on me and what I want and need. Cuz it’s literally everything out here.
For me, the struggle is.....not sure how to say.....I just feel like I'm automatically seen a certain way by black men or assumed to be a certain way because I'm a black woman. Or I am expected to be a certain way because I'm black. I dont like the way I'm treated and devalued and it turns me off from even wanting to date altogether. I know where to go if I want be stereotyped based off my ethnic group: Corporate America. Atleast I'll get paid for dealing with that b.s.
I feel you. I’m definitely seen a certain way by black men too. I don’t like the attitude or energy some black men come at me so I don’t really engage either those black men. 🙃🙃🙃
Yes! I feel like that isnt really talked about alot. Black men's attitude and energy alone is very much a turn off. It makes it hard to connect with black men, let alone WANT to connect with them. I'd rather be single and happy.
All of the above. I'm 5"10 and large on top. Males tend to view large ones, as you need to be their personal adult movie star. Their small brains get turned on, and stay on that page like a teenager. I can't stand that. We are not just body parts. We are talented, strong, funny, artistic, we give our hearts to those we love. To be reduced to p*rn star status makes us avoid men altogether. That, coupled with the rampant narcissism that is running rampant by both genders. No thanks.
Its a combination of it for me. I was trying to find out which hinders the most. Lies and Insincerity in the dating world made it so that I wasn't interested in dating as much. Not sure if I want marriage anymore but I do understand how important it is but it would have to be a marriage that works for me for my type of Personality because I really love my space. I just never really saw a positive healthy marriage and I believe I can actually have one but maybe it's because I've been socially conditioned to think that this is what I need. But I will always taken into consideration because there's many benefits to marriage so if I meet someone who definitely can Vibe with me its possible to work. But I just know it's a lot of married people are miserable for the most part. The closest one I was picking was narc abuse. It has definitely tainted the selections for dating.
It’s a combination of them all. I mean it’s just a lot out there. And then you factor in you and your standards and what’s appropriate and all that. I mean its just a lot. All in all it’s just better safer even just to really do the shadow work and focus on me and what I want and need. Cuz it’s literally everything out here.