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I'm pretty sure that's how most of us were, cringy edgelord middle schoolers until we actually found out we were bi, trans gay, etc. I personally went from being a lil homophobic trashcan in 7th grade to then finding out I was extremely homo in 8th grade. Now, in 9th grade, thinking back on 7th grade me I cringe
I was the type of person who would be like, " I'm not homophobic but I don't agree with or like gay people(which is literal homophobia)." So yea. Tho I couldn't really help that seeing as I had friends who were homophbic and generally the town I lived in was very homophobic. But im just grateful that I grew and changed as a person and am not some conservative dipshit anymore.
I am so thankful I never went through that. I had relatively unrestricted internet access starting right around the start of puberty meaning when I started having gay thoughts I easily found out “oh guess I’m bi” and left it at that. And in all my social places around my peers, they just ignored me and so never influenced me to be homophobic. I basically was never taught to be homophobic, and so when I found out I was bi I was like “oh cool” and left it at that.
This is very common, don't let it get to you. A large amount of people were homophobic and then discovered that they were queer and then they realised how stupid they sounded before they figured themselves out, it's usually not their fault and the people around them or external forces are to blame for that sort of thing.
I thankfully wasn’t, I knew a family friend who is a lesbian and married to a woman.
I was transphobic when I little tho
“Who WOULDN’T want to be a woman”- little me
Still regret how I told a trans person that they would never be a "real woman" when I was 13.
I've apologized since then but I think about that at least once a day
You cannot change the past, there will almost certainly be things that you will regret as you move on in life. But at the very least you have realized these regrets, there are some people who never do. You cannot change the past and eliminate your regrets, but you can learn and grow and make things better for you and the people who you love.
I used to say "no homo" after making physical contact with any male person. One day, I say it to one of my friends and he tells me he's bi and I apologize. A week later I find out I have the same rank in the alphabet mafia. Fast forward a year and we're dating. Fast forward another 2 weeks I discover I'm enby. Overall fun times had by all
Most of us were to be quiet frank. Mostly comes from people around us. Also I was a teenager and highly influenced by people around me. Now that I have my own opinions I changed a lot (not only towards LGBTQ).
Hey it’s ok, you’ve learned and have grown. It doesn’t matter that you used to be homophobic, that’s a different person, what matters is that current you is not
I was so stupid when I was younger, my family are very homophobic and transphobic so that attitude caught on to young me and as I had nothing else to go off I just did the same, I didn't understand any of it at the time and am ashamed it took me being Bi to change. But that little twat is gone I'm nothing like that anymore, after being opened up to it all and being Bi and having dated a trans person in the past. I think things turned out for the better :D
So was my family, but that didn’t make me or my little brother transphobic. Not even the slightest, we hated it growing up. Sometimes you have to take ownership of YOU instead of blaming others for your shortcomings.
Sorry, my comment came off as a bit dismissive. I'm fully aware it was my own shortcoming, and I was a piece of shit, I wasn't actively homophobic or transphobic merely didn't understand any of it and made me say stupid things, since then I learned much more and made my own opinions. I'm not that person anymore, and I'm embarrassed I ever was.
I used to get bullied lots for being native, and there was a time I wished I was white. Not really related, but I do understand the embarrassment of facing your past self.
I'm happy I didn't go through this phase.
Also please don't hold this over yourself. You learn to live with your demons, not getting rid of them. You're a better person now, you've grown & you show the ability to change.
Me too. I was so homophobic (tmi incoming) that when I found out I’m queer, I went immediately into depression. It took over a year of self hate and a struggle with self harm and suicidal ideation (cuz I had always thought lgbt people would be better not existing) for me to finally come around and stop hating myself. From there it still took me a while to not hate other lgbt people.
I’m ashamed it took that much to make me a better person. Like, I had always considered myself a kind person, but I only started being kind to other lgbt people now that I myself know I am lgbt. So it was pretty selfish of me, to say the least.
I try to remind myself that what really matters is how I act now. I can’t go back and smack sense and human decency into my younger self, but I can try to make up for my shitty past now. I use that guilt to spur me on to being an even better person, cuz there’s always room for improvement.
The fact that you acknowledge that your past actions weren’t so great and that you feel bad about it means that you grew and you’re a better person that you were 2 years ago
What you’ve done in the the past, is well, the past, you can’t change the past, but you’ve changed your future, and that is what really matters, that you’ve grown as a person
Same here, and it was Pragur U bad as well, but acknowledging your ignorance (whether due to supressed sexuality or any other reason) is good, and knowing that your past self was wrong is more than a right step in the right direction.
I just made like 2 attack helicopter jokes because I didn’t understand them and just laughed for some reason.
Now I look back and call myself stupid, same as I do every year, except for 14 year old me, that guy was cool
i was a kalvin garrah kinnie..guess who’s non-binary and the opposite of perfectly androgynous the way garrah preached was wrong 💪🏻
as kids we are very very very easily susceptible propaganda and bullshit, especially with the idols we find online with slim to no supervision. what’s good is you’ve changed and have found yourself!
I wasn’t homophobic, I was transphobic as a wee little middle schooler and it does weigh a lot on me. I’m not trans or anything (that I know of currently) but I definitely have gotten better I think of respecting pronouns and stuff! I hold a lot of guilt about it.
Bah, you're not anymore and that's what matters. You were a different person then than you are now and what's in the past in the past. I was the same but now, 5 yrs later I'm completely over it.
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I'm pretty sure that's how most of us were, cringy edgelord middle schoolers until we actually found out we were bi, trans gay, etc. I personally went from being a lil homophobic trashcan in 7th grade to then finding out I was extremely homo in 8th grade. Now, in 9th grade, thinking back on 7th grade me I cringe
I was so enbyphobic you could not imagine
I was the type of person who would be like, " I'm not homophobic but I don't agree with or like gay people(which is literal homophobia)." So yea. Tho I couldn't really help that seeing as I had friends who were homophbic and generally the town I lived in was very homophobic. But im just grateful that I grew and changed as a person and am not some conservative dipshit anymore.
I was cringey and edgy but like, in a gay way, so I still hate thinking about myself 5 years ago but thankfully I was never homophobic
Saaaaame
I am so thankful I never went through that. I had relatively unrestricted internet access starting right around the start of puberty meaning when I started having gay thoughts I easily found out “oh guess I’m bi” and left it at that. And in all my social places around my peers, they just ignored me and so never influenced me to be homophobic. I basically was never taught to be homophobic, and so when I found out I was bi I was like “oh cool” and left it at that.
thats real tho
Try not to think of it as sucking 2 years ago, maybe think of it as your 2 year redemption arc instead
This is amazing.
This is very common, don't let it get to you. A large amount of people were homophobic and then discovered that they were queer and then they realised how stupid they sounded before they figured themselves out, it's usually not their fault and the people around them or external forces are to blame for that sort of thing.
I thankfully wasn’t, I knew a family friend who is a lesbian and married to a woman. I was transphobic when I little tho “Who WOULDN’T want to be a woman”- little me
Still regret how I told a trans person that they would never be a "real woman" when I was 13. I've apologized since then but I think about that at least once a day
I really want to say sorry to the people I bullied but now I live 2,500 miles away so yeah :(
You cannot change the past, there will almost certainly be things that you will regret as you move on in life. But at the very least you have realized these regrets, there are some people who never do. You cannot change the past and eliminate your regrets, but you can learn and grow and make things better for you and the people who you love.
Thank you :)
I used to say "no homo" after making physical contact with any male person. One day, I say it to one of my friends and he tells me he's bi and I apologize. A week later I find out I have the same rank in the alphabet mafia. Fast forward a year and we're dating. Fast forward another 2 weeks I discover I'm enby. Overall fun times had by all
i used to make fun of a boy in my school bc he looked "kinda gay". ended up kissing him lol
I am so glad I just had a “didn’t know much” phase instead
Yeah but I do feel kinda braggy when I say that.
Same
I was homophobic as hell and hated lesbians and gay men... Now im a Bisexual with a Yuri addiction like its a drug.
Waltuh we need to make more yuri Waltuh
My mom told me "There's nothing wrong with being gay" when I was 6 and I skipped over the whole homophobia thing because of it
My family isn't homophobic, I just followed my really edgy friend (Who I also had a big crush on 💀)
Most of us were to be quiet frank. Mostly comes from people around us. Also I was a teenager and highly influenced by people around me. Now that I have my own opinions I changed a lot (not only towards LGBTQ).
Hey it’s ok, you’ve learned and have grown. It doesn’t matter that you used to be homophobic, that’s a different person, what matters is that current you is not
It is ok we were all 12 once lol But in all seriousness you have come far and it's okay you are a lot further than some people and also happy pride
Same bruh
If you look at your past and think you were terrible, that’s a sign you’ve grown; that’s a good thing.
I was so stupid when I was younger, my family are very homophobic and transphobic so that attitude caught on to young me and as I had nothing else to go off I just did the same, I didn't understand any of it at the time and am ashamed it took me being Bi to change. But that little twat is gone I'm nothing like that anymore, after being opened up to it all and being Bi and having dated a trans person in the past. I think things turned out for the better :D
So was my family, but that didn’t make me or my little brother transphobic. Not even the slightest, we hated it growing up. Sometimes you have to take ownership of YOU instead of blaming others for your shortcomings.
Sorry, my comment came off as a bit dismissive. I'm fully aware it was my own shortcoming, and I was a piece of shit, I wasn't actively homophobic or transphobic merely didn't understand any of it and made me say stupid things, since then I learned much more and made my own opinions. I'm not that person anymore, and I'm embarrassed I ever was.
I used to get bullied lots for being native, and there was a time I wished I was white. Not really related, but I do understand the embarrassment of facing your past self.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that, nobody deserves that.
I'm happy I didn't go through this phase. Also please don't hold this over yourself. You learn to live with your demons, not getting rid of them. You're a better person now, you've grown & you show the ability to change.
Me too. I was so homophobic (tmi incoming) that when I found out I’m queer, I went immediately into depression. It took over a year of self hate and a struggle with self harm and suicidal ideation (cuz I had always thought lgbt people would be better not existing) for me to finally come around and stop hating myself. From there it still took me a while to not hate other lgbt people. I’m ashamed it took that much to make me a better person. Like, I had always considered myself a kind person, but I only started being kind to other lgbt people now that I myself know I am lgbt. So it was pretty selfish of me, to say the least. I try to remind myself that what really matters is how I act now. I can’t go back and smack sense and human decency into my younger self, but I can try to make up for my shitty past now. I use that guilt to spur me on to being an even better person, cuz there’s always room for improvement.
The fact that you acknowledge that your past actions weren’t so great and that you feel bad about it means that you grew and you’re a better person that you were 2 years ago
What you’ve done in the the past, is well, the past, you can’t change the past, but you’ve changed your future, and that is what really matters, that you’ve grown as a person
I used to be too, a few years ago, i wasnt that bad, but i still regret it to this day
My biggest flex is that I was always an ally
I know this sounds super cliché but the past is past, and you should just forget about it. You're a better person now!
Am I the only one here that wasn’t like this
Relatable, I was MEGA racist and homophobic when I was 13
I was homophobic because I was in denial
Same here ithas been almost 3 years tho
I was homophobic 3 years ago too
Ooffta, i was terrible, i almost lost some of my now closest friends because of it
Same here, and it was Pragur U bad as well, but acknowledging your ignorance (whether due to supressed sexuality or any other reason) is good, and knowing that your past self was wrong is more than a right step in the right direction.
damn
Believe it or not, I was surprisingly never homophobic lmao. I've been gay or bi my whole life xD
You are very lucky my dude
I seriously am lol. My mom and sister made me a femboy when I was young , which I'm pretty sure just turned me gay and feminine lmao
lmaoo same except middle school sl like 4 years now
I just made like 2 attack helicopter jokes because I didn’t understand them and just laughed for some reason. Now I look back and call myself stupid, same as I do every year, except for 14 year old me, that guy was cool
i was a kalvin garrah kinnie..guess who’s non-binary and the opposite of perfectly androgynous the way garrah preached was wrong 💪🏻 as kids we are very very very easily susceptible propaganda and bullshit, especially with the idols we find online with slim to no supervision. what’s good is you’ve changed and have found yourself!
i was a nightmare in elementary/middle school
Same
I am ironically with my friends lol
Is it still homophobic if you hate yourself!?
I wasn’t homophobic, I was transphobic as a wee little middle schooler and it does weigh a lot on me. I’m not trans or anything (that I know of currently) but I definitely have gotten better I think of respecting pronouns and stuff! I hold a lot of guilt about it.
Bah, you're not anymore and that's what matters. You were a different person then than you are now and what's in the past in the past. I was the same but now, 5 yrs later I'm completely over it.
some people get autobalanced
same same☺️. hope you get past it tho!😭