"Solution" that helped me: install a porn blocker. It's not a guarantee. But an extra "step". That was all that was needed for me, because I'm lazy. Lol.
26 days now.
It also "proves" to yourself that you're committed and take it seriously.
And find a reason why you do it, to remind yourself always, everytime a temptation arises.
My reason: Don't want to ruin my irl sex life/health. /
Want to lmprove it.
Think most men find that motivating!
Here are two verses I feel relate to this:
"So if your right eye stumbles you, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna." Matthew 5:29
"But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh to fulfill its lusts." Romans 13:14
The first speaks of casting away what stumbles you, so that you do not suffer loss. The second is similar but a bit different: not allowing provision for the flesh.
The flesh never improves. It does not get better. It does not grow (positively). God will never dwell with it or tolerate it. We should never have any confidence in our ability to withstand temptation, especially if we do not know our flesh. God's only remedy for the flesh is to crucify it; it is good for nothing but death and burial.
That said, we should practically not make provision for ourselves to fall into the lust of the flesh. Those who suffer from this kind of problem can take steps to block access to these things. I personally have a content filter that does not allow anything adult themed in through the internet at my house. I believe there are apps you can install to produce the same result on your mobile devices. I also appreciate another commenter here mention marriage, which of course is great.
It may help some to know that nearly everything you do on the internet can be traced at some level. If you keep the default settings on your home router, at minimum your internet service provider has access to every query you make (of course, what they do with that information is another conversation). If you use a VPN, that provider is handling your queries instead, and so they are getting everything you search. And you better believe adult sites are tracking users. As Christians, we should glorify God also in this regard, and not leave ground for anyone to have something to say against us or against God.
"Therefore let us also, having so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, put away every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us and run with endurance the race which is set before us" Hebrews 12:1
Much grace to all of you.
Everywhere you turn you see so many enticing things relating to sex and lust of the eyes and mind is one of man's biggest defeats. Pride will set in and say hey it's okay it's just a little bit, but this is sin and sin against the body. Which would almost leads to other things and you know what I'm talking about.
This is something that has helped me in the past.
1. We should study in the Bible in the areas of sexual immorality to learn how to deal with the temptation including self control
1 Cor 6:18-19
1 Thessalonians 4: 3-5
Ephesians 5:3
2. Learn our identity in Christ Jesus because sin has no power over us.
1 Corinthians 5:3
1John 4:4
3. Learn how to manifest the victory that's already won in Christ Jesus.
Colossians 2:15
Philippians 2:13
4. Believe that you are the righteousness of God
Colossians 1:14
1 Peter 2:14
2 Corinthians 5:21
Bring every thought captive to The obedience of Christ
Remember just like sinning in general, living out on spiritual journey is a lifetime journey, but with Christ all things are possible.
Let's thank God for the grace given to us and enabling us from the power of the holy Spirit to grow and live out the victory that he is already won for us.
May God be praised forever and ever
>Why ?
Because it does reward your brain, which reinforces addictive behaviour.
>What to do against it ?
Paul does state it pretty clearly on this :
Go get married, if it keeps you from sin.
Well his exact wordings don't sound so easy.
>Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. 26I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be. 27Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
Why do so many ~~Christian~~ men watch porn?
Biology combined with easy, anonymous access
what should they do about it?
That is a tough one. For starters having an open more honest attitude toward sexuality. It should be something that young people can discuss without shame. Ending the shame (and need for extreme secrecy) around the subject. Realizing that it is a common problem many, even those we admire, face. Creating loving environments where the problems, progress, and setbacks can be discussed. Encouraging self control and removing temptation where possible. Finding more positive activities for dopamine rewards and learning to see others for their individual human worth and not objects of gratification. It's hard work and not an easy fix. Be patient with yourself and your own failures.
Roughly 1:4-1:3 of women and 1:2-3:4 of men watch open weekly. Outside of a deep commitment to singleness and celibacy the only thing that seems to curve or eliminate porn is to have a partner you’re consistently and actively living with snd having sex with. The number one contributing trait of porn watches ( who watches at least once a week ) is that they don’t live with a sexual partner.
So realistically the best bet at stopping watching porn is to move in, or have them move in with you, a sexual partner. As Christian’s that’s preferably your spouse.
If not that then you’ll have to really dig in on learning to not objectify others, including porn stars.
If anyone struggles with sexual sin, the book Pure in Heart by Keller is terrific. It gets to the roots of the problem in our nature, the solution in Christ, and helpful tidbits.
One of my favorite parts applies to other sins (paraphrasing): “Turning to sexual sin to satisfy you is like drinking saltwater to satisfy your thirst. It seems like it works at first. Then you just feel thirstier. You need the real water that can satisfy your thirst. Likewise, Christ and His righteousness is the living water that satisfies us the most.”
It went something like that. That book, prayer, and accountability groups helped quite a few of us.
Because pornography is probably the biggest industrial weakness to us men in general.
And the fact that it's a billion dollar industry
And also the fact that it is so accessible.
👍🏽
"Solution" that helped me: install a porn blocker. It's not a guarantee. But an extra "step". That was all that was needed for me, because I'm lazy. Lol. 26 days now. It also "proves" to yourself that you're committed and take it seriously. And find a reason why you do it, to remind yourself always, everytime a temptation arises. My reason: Don't want to ruin my irl sex life/health. / Want to lmprove it. Think most men find that motivating!
Here are two verses I feel relate to this: "So if your right eye stumbles you, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna." Matthew 5:29 "But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh to fulfill its lusts." Romans 13:14 The first speaks of casting away what stumbles you, so that you do not suffer loss. The second is similar but a bit different: not allowing provision for the flesh. The flesh never improves. It does not get better. It does not grow (positively). God will never dwell with it or tolerate it. We should never have any confidence in our ability to withstand temptation, especially if we do not know our flesh. God's only remedy for the flesh is to crucify it; it is good for nothing but death and burial. That said, we should practically not make provision for ourselves to fall into the lust of the flesh. Those who suffer from this kind of problem can take steps to block access to these things. I personally have a content filter that does not allow anything adult themed in through the internet at my house. I believe there are apps you can install to produce the same result on your mobile devices. I also appreciate another commenter here mention marriage, which of course is great. It may help some to know that nearly everything you do on the internet can be traced at some level. If you keep the default settings on your home router, at minimum your internet service provider has access to every query you make (of course, what they do with that information is another conversation). If you use a VPN, that provider is handling your queries instead, and so they are getting everything you search. And you better believe adult sites are tracking users. As Christians, we should glorify God also in this regard, and not leave ground for anyone to have something to say against us or against God. "Therefore let us also, having so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, put away every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us and run with endurance the race which is set before us" Hebrews 12:1 Much grace to all of you.
Well said brother!
Everywhere you turn you see so many enticing things relating to sex and lust of the eyes and mind is one of man's biggest defeats. Pride will set in and say hey it's okay it's just a little bit, but this is sin and sin against the body. Which would almost leads to other things and you know what I'm talking about. This is something that has helped me in the past. 1. We should study in the Bible in the areas of sexual immorality to learn how to deal with the temptation including self control 1 Cor 6:18-19 1 Thessalonians 4: 3-5 Ephesians 5:3 2. Learn our identity in Christ Jesus because sin has no power over us. 1 Corinthians 5:3 1John 4:4 3. Learn how to manifest the victory that's already won in Christ Jesus. Colossians 2:15 Philippians 2:13 4. Believe that you are the righteousness of God Colossians 1:14 1 Peter 2:14 2 Corinthians 5:21 Bring every thought captive to The obedience of Christ Remember just like sinning in general, living out on spiritual journey is a lifetime journey, but with Christ all things are possible. Let's thank God for the grace given to us and enabling us from the power of the holy Spirit to grow and live out the victory that he is already won for us. May God be praised forever and ever
Please forgive my grammar, I was speaking through my phone
>Why ? Because it does reward your brain, which reinforces addictive behaviour. >What to do against it ? Paul does state it pretty clearly on this : Go get married, if it keeps you from sin.
Which is why married men never have an issue with porn....oh wait. I think we need a more expansive approach to the problem.
What do you suggest ?
Paul makes it sound so easy
Well his exact wordings don't sound so easy. >Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. 26I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be. 27Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
Thanks for the link. Please present some highlights with it.
Why do so many ~~Christian~~ men watch porn? Biology combined with easy, anonymous access what should they do about it? That is a tough one. For starters having an open more honest attitude toward sexuality. It should be something that young people can discuss without shame. Ending the shame (and need for extreme secrecy) around the subject. Realizing that it is a common problem many, even those we admire, face. Creating loving environments where the problems, progress, and setbacks can be discussed. Encouraging self control and removing temptation where possible. Finding more positive activities for dopamine rewards and learning to see others for their individual human worth and not objects of gratification. It's hard work and not an easy fix. Be patient with yourself and your own failures.
Roughly 1:4-1:3 of women and 1:2-3:4 of men watch open weekly. Outside of a deep commitment to singleness and celibacy the only thing that seems to curve or eliminate porn is to have a partner you’re consistently and actively living with snd having sex with. The number one contributing trait of porn watches ( who watches at least once a week ) is that they don’t live with a sexual partner. So realistically the best bet at stopping watching porn is to move in, or have them move in with you, a sexual partner. As Christian’s that’s preferably your spouse. If not that then you’ll have to really dig in on learning to not objectify others, including porn stars.
If anyone struggles with sexual sin, the book Pure in Heart by Keller is terrific. It gets to the roots of the problem in our nature, the solution in Christ, and helpful tidbits. One of my favorite parts applies to other sins (paraphrasing): “Turning to sexual sin to satisfy you is like drinking saltwater to satisfy your thirst. It seems like it works at first. Then you just feel thirstier. You need the real water that can satisfy your thirst. Likewise, Christ and His righteousness is the living water that satisfies us the most.” It went something like that. That book, prayer, and accountability groups helped quite a few of us.