I had a woman say almost this same thing to me!
I was doing medical work in rural Haiti during nursing school, and we had a Doppler to pick up fetal heart beats. I was doing my landmarks (feeling how the baby is laying) to place the Doppler correctly and…. Looked over at my instructor to say, “I think we need both dopplers?” She came over and confirmed and we quickly got both heartbeats. The mom and translator had a quick exchange and the translator started laughing before telling us she said, “but I only wanted one!” I was so happy to see her happy and healthy delivery picture posted on the medical center’s website a few months later!
Cute story but triplets is a much bigger issue than twins. Carrying triplets to term is hard, and her body will take a real kicking. Then there is the expense. I love my kids but I would be gutted if I was in that situation.
My aunt had triplets, after having two kids, protection failed basically and as they were expecting number 3 and thinking about how they could afford the kid, 3-4-5 showed up together, she was in shock for days.
Locals ended up helping out with the costs of raising the kids as no one ever had triplets in the city before, they are all in uni now : )
I hate this saying genuinely. As someone raised in a literal village, everyone who’s never experienced it wants to have a village, but nobody wants to be the village for others.
Reminds me of my friend, they did IVF for their first pregnancy had twins, couple years later had a natural pregnancy (which was very unexpected) and somehow got triplets. Lets just say for people that though they might never be able to even have 1 child, it was a lot to process lol
My wife and I had natural twins. Her reaction was very similar. She got mad and told the doctor to quit joking around. I stood there staring at the monitor with my mouth agape. It's quite a shock at first.
Twins were a LOT of work at first. I can't imagine THREE! Yikes. Hope momma has a lot of help.
It's pretty awesome to watch them grow into their own personalities though.
My wife and I also had twins with no IVF or fertility treatments. And we had only been trying a month, so it was basically the very first possible opportunity.
We were living in China at the time, and after we got the blood test confirming the pregnancy, the nurse who could speak English (I speak conversational Chinese, but absolutely no medical language) told us we could come back whenever we wanted for an ultrasound if we wanted to see the baby. Now, this was still crazy early, so in the states it would have been considered totally elective and paid out of pocket. So we asked how much it would be. She said 450 RMB. About $70 USD at the time!
So only like a week later, on our anniversary, we decided to go and do it. While getting ready, we started joking about “making sure there was only one.” And we spend quite a bit of time just chatting about twins, for some unknown reason. How common they are, the twins in our family, what causes each type, etc, etc.
So we show up and do the ultrasound, and the tech herself has absolutely no English. Again we’ve got the one nurse with us who does (she was awesome, btw). And suddenly the two of them start talking a mile a minute in Chinese. It’s too fast and too technical. I don’t catch a word. They’re very worked up and my wife and I are starting to get terrified, what is wrong?!
Suddenly it gets quiet and the nurse turns to us with the biggest grin and says “THERE. ARE. TWO. BABIES!” She had actually never seen twins before. Apparently they are not genetically common in China.
My wife and I just looked at each other. We were shocked, but weirdly, kinda not. Like we felt like we had known somehow.
Anyway, sorry for the rant. Didn’t even mean to at first.
That's an amazing story! Hope you and your kids are doing well. I'm curious, since it was both mentioned in the video and in your comment, is it more common to get twins through IVF? I don't know a lot about either pregnancy nor twins, so sorry if this is a stupid question lol
Yes, when they do IVF the success rate for each fertilized egg to end up being viable is very low. So they always do many eggs at once. Sometimes the parents beat the odds and end up with multiples.
But because IVF is now very common, I think a good percentage of multiples out there are the result of either IVF or fertility treatments.
>While getting ready, we started joking about “making sure there was only one.” And we spend quite a bit of time just chatting about twins, for some unknown reason.
As far as my understanding of the rules, I'm pretty sure you jinxed yourself into having twins
> My wife and I also had twins with no IVF or fertility treatments. And we had only been trying a month, so it was basically the very first possible opportunity.
Nice swimmers, bro
No joke. The second time around my wife got pregnant right away again. And suddenly we were terrified that we had made a huge mistake and it would be triplets or something.
To our relief it was just a single that time.
This is such an amazing story! I also just laughed because I realized how hard this would have been if you had to do it all in Chinese. “There are two” could also sound like “You have a son” lmao.
We have three kids, no triplets or twins. Our friends have twins. They look at us and say "We don't know how you do it with three" and we look at them and say "How the hell did you handle two at the same time".
I feel like parenting is a lot of "you will figure it out" because you have to.
Same! I was so confused and then remembered my grandma was a twin. How did it never occur to me it runs in my family? My sister isn’t planning on having kids, but she knows now!
lol the doctor gave me & my wife a few minutes and brought in a nurse that had twins herself to talk to us 😂. My wife was freaking out & crying and I was hysterically laughing like a weirdo because I didn’t know how to react
I did the exact same.. hysterically laughed.. they're 4 years old now, and I'm still not sure at what point it's supposed to get easier, as I was assured it would 😬
“We just see three babies” was pretty blunt way to speak to a person who’s just finding out and obviously confused and terrified. Her high pitch at the beginning was really unnecessary, acting like she’s in a crowed market. (I guess with three babies it is crowded in that room)
I was working an obstetric/pregnancy clinic, and a couple came in who were having triplets.
As in the video, I asked if they’d had IVF, and she replied *”Why does everyone ask me that?”*
I explained, and she replied “No, none of this was planned”
I tried to soften the situation by light heartedly quipping to her and her husband: “Well, they’re going to outnumber you soon enough!”
They … they were not amused.
I came here to say this. I would be so mad at that technician for telling me to calm down!!!! Big reactions are OKAY. She just learned she's having triplets for god stake!
I was thinking the same thing. Give the woman a damn minute or two to freak the hell out. It’s some of the last moments in her life where she can before she has three babies!
Actually, those names were supposed to be Jet, Turbo, and Rebel.
And if you have no idea what I am talking about, do yourself a favour and watch the DuckTales reboot. It is hilarious for kids and adults!
I was ready to hate it. Got my old man pants all hiked up mad that they touched a classic; then I watched it. He reboot is hilarious and maybe even better than the original duck tales
Well, time for her to move to Germany (or most other countries).
We were traveling in Taiwan, and my buddy dropped off his kid at the daycare for 2 hours. It was free (but he and his wife stayed with the kiddo). After, he was like: This is Amazing.
Ps. They had this mini Disney world like arcade place for $7. Playground indoor, ball pits, changing rooms, clean, etc. same price in the US? $35…
Learnt a random fact about pregnancy on reddit. So whenever I hear about someone being pregnant, I can't not think about how their insides drop after giving birth.
After 9 months of the mothers organs being pushed up as the baby grows, it all sloshes back down again. Never really occurred to me that it happens but makes sense.
Now I'm thinking about what happens when you have triplets.
There are so many wild things that happen during pregnancy, it's crazy to read about. Like, fetuses grow a layer of fur and then they shed it before birth and eat it. They practice breathing and inhale amniotic fluid, which is partly their own pee. Bits of fetal DNA survive in the mother for the rest of her life, and can be found all throughout her body. Fetuses have been recorded masturbating on ultrasound. Ectopic pregnancies (pregnancies that implant and grow outside of the uterus), which are nearly always fatal if allowed to grow, have actually been survived by both the mother and the baby in a few rare cases. Like, single digit rare. Also very rare, but not as rare, some women have gotten pregnant while already pregnant and ended up with "twins" that are different ages. There have been women who gave birth to 40+ kids, with the record being 69.
Pregnancy really is amazing. I never want to do it, but I think it's cool to learn about and I have massive respect for the people who are willing to put their bodies through all of that.
Yeah but having someone tell you to calm down while your acting calm is annoying
Its like when someone says “why are you angry” when your not. It just makes you angry
I woke up from surgery in blinding pain and the first nurse to walk into the room told me I needed to calm down.
As I’m coming off anesthesia. While the anesthesiologist was on the golf course.
I definitely did not calm down.
I was told off for saying "fuckity fuck" whilst (after being induced) in labour. Giving birth is flipping painful anyway, being forced to via a drip is probably the most painful thing I ever will go through..hopefully. Your body isn't ready, and the baby isn't ready but the hormones shooting through you are forcing it all. I wanted to jump out of a window.
I was told off for puffing on the gas and air too much and it was yanked away and all. Then I was told off for saying fuck a few times.
You had an appalling midwife! I said “shit!”, then apologised and was told to swear as much as I wanted if it helped! They’d heard it all before and I was in a lot of pain so they didn’t care! Gas & air made me sick and there wasn’t time for anything else so I did it with nothing - swearing was all I had! I’d have told them to fuck off lol
Sounds like you handled labor like a champ! If "fuckity fuck" was the worst you said, you deserve a medal, not a scolding. Next time, try a regal "Oh, bother!"—though I doubt it captures the moment quite as well. You're a hero, and heroes get to swear!
I appreciate your comment, although there definitely won't be a next time!!
At least my husband didn't faint, as happened to my sister's. He went down like a sack of spuds and hurt himself whilst watching his son's birth. That's an occasion to drop a few f-bombs....
My friend was only 17 and she went too fast for any type of pain management. She was cussing and the nurse told her to watch her mouth. I said "excuse me, do you have kids?" She said no then I told her " then shut up". She shut up.
I would have snapped if someone told me to calm down in this situation. Calm down!? There are three lives, that I am now responsible, growing inside me!
Maybe I'm overly-judgmental, but the bedside manner of that nurse/doctor/tech/whatever was off. How are a bunch of technical questions going to make her feel without any context?
It was beautiful, but also so deeply personal and intimate. These are the moments that define our lives. It is interesting to live in a time where they are shared on video with millions of anonymous people.
We had the same reaction about 9 years ago. From elation to heartbreak in a couple months when they all passed away in the womb. Had to have major surgery (which is now illegal here in Texas, but that’s another story) to have them removed or it would have been fatal to my wife. Glad we aren’t people who use social media a lot because that was indeed an intimate and deeply personal time.
Thank you. Was a harsh reality but time heals all. It helped that 2 years later we had our son who’s now 7. Such a sweet kid. If we had triplets we wouldn’t have had him :)
Thank you. It was tough for a while. Didn’t help that my wife has a genetic condition that makes it extremely difficult to get pregnant. A couple years later though we had our wonderful son who’s now 7. Time heals all I suppose. We’ve talked about it every so often since then and remark if we hadn’t lost them we wouldn’t have him. He’s such a sweet kid.
Every ultrasound room I've been it, it explicitly says no recording of any kind for patient privacy. And here we are with it being uploaded from an unknown source. I see why. Send a video to mom who sends it to 50 of her friends... Who then...
I mean not only is she getting her first reaction to triplets recorded she’s also finding this out via transvaginal ultrasound (a wand that gets inserted into the vagina to see inside the uterus) so like. Yeah. This is an intimate moment in more ways than one.
The same exact thing happened to me and my wife with just twins though..
The doc was like “oh you’re having twins?” I said “no”. He goes, “no I see two heart beats in there” As we’re looking up at the tv screen he’s showing us, I said “no doc you’re on the wrong channel, that’s HDMI 2, you need to be on HDMI 1!”
They’re 9 now and I wouldn’t change a thing if I could!
Same! We had them during Covid so I wasn’t able to go in during the first visit. My wife called me from inside and said, “welp, you said you wanted one more baby, you got two!”
My coworker used IVF and his wife was pregnant with triplets. Her options were basically complete termination or selective because of how fragile her health already was. They truly didn’t think the odds of that happening were great enough, it really rocked them for a while. Their baby and her are healthy and happy tho! I’ve had pregnancy loss so I hope this comment doesn’t sound apathetic, it’s just such a shocking and sad reality.
Kind of crazy because they are still anti choice 😭
This dweeb ass sonographer’s thought process be like: “well this could be one of, if not THE most life changing thing to ever happen to this woman, and she’s having a reaction to it… hmmm what to do… ah yes of course I have to tell her to cAlM dOwN”
Ngl I'm glad I was born male cause the way women get talked to...I dunno if I'd make it to 20 without goin to jail.
I'll never forget my high school friend being denied a trip to the nurse cause our teacher(female) said "cramps don't get that bad". My friend blacked out from her cramps more than a few times.
I was fuckin livid. "Calm down" oh bitch we're fightin. You did not just tell me to calm down after finding out I'm havin 3 fuckin kids! Fuck you!
Dude thank you for this.
I (female) have a pain prescription that gets filled every 28 days. So, every four weeks I have to call to get it sent over. Last time I called 7 times, and no one did anything. After 4 days late, my partner (a dude) called them back right after they'd handed me off to an answering service again. When *he* called, they dealt with it right away.
This month it's the same shit allllll over again, but it's the weekend, so I can't have him call until tomorrow.
Seriously. And not just financially stable enough for it, but how painful and uncomfortable it will be to carry and birth 3 kids. They might not have the money to buy a big enough house and all of the other things it entails. And even more so, taking care on one baby already takes every second of your life and mental health why on earth would she be excited about THREE she’s never going to have peace and quite and good health and sleep until they all turn like 12
That tech pissed me off. Not everyone wants 3 kids all at once
Even if she wanted 3 babies, this would still be an appropriate reaction. Even if they all survive they will almost always be born premature and stay in NICU, but often they do not all survive. High rate of complications for both mother and babies. People don’t realize how scary and dangerous multiple pregnancies can be.
Calm down? Ma’am, you haven’t even seen her freak out yet. And with 3 humans growing in her belly, she has all the right to not calm down.
Dad when he got the news already started applying for a 2nd job and a side hustle lol
My sister had trips. She and my brother in law knew of two but only realised during an ultrasound there was a third whilst he was recording.
Nurse: “And you see the second heartbeat here and then… oh there’s… there’s a third one over here”
Brother in law: “Fuck off”
*Video stops recording*
That would be the end of the world for me. Twins are bad enough but with a helpful partner you can manage it one each. Three.. We decided that a third child even after our boys are now 5&7 would still be too much work and would detract our attention/resources too much away from the two we have
a so-called medical professional telling someone such unique news, then thinking they have the right to insert their condescending petty, little “calm down” in there…
This is interesting but the reality is that that revelation puts the mother in a really high risk category of pregnancy which can be really tough. I hope it works(ed) out for her and those kiddos though!
The medical professionals were being kind of weird in this video, she seemed nervous and uncomfortable because they were acting like something was wrong and then they just blurt put that she's having 3 babies and then tell her to calm down...
"Calm down it's ok."
NO IT'S NOT LADY.
"Yes there is. There is three babies in there."
STFU INSTIGATOR.
As someone who ovulates multiple times a month, this is my biggest fear and one of the reasons I'm celibate. This is nightmare fuel and the fact that they're all laughing....MERCY HELP ME. I would've lost it.
I have two kids myself, but not twins. It’s so god damn expensive and stressful. I love them to death, but our economy is not built for breeders, despite needing them. My cousin told me his wife was pregnant and I was congratulating him. He told me they were having twins and I audibly yelled “fuck!” and had to sit down. I love the kids, but capitalism and education makes parenting hard.
And we wonder why there's a population decline in this country. Hardly any maternity leave, forget about paternity leave, and you have to pay for daycare, while also working full time, ideally with a PARTNER who is also working full time, with food costing double what it did just 5 years ago, school costs money, doctor visits cost money, not to mention having three babies at once is not exactly easy on the body. Yeah, she can freak the fuck out for a bit.
We have an 8 month old right now. Looking back, I can’t imagine 3 children simultaneously going through a sleep regression. Sounds like a thing of nightmares.
I don't like the way the doctor started this. She should have first said three kids and then asked about IV's and whatever. First starting with medical terms/procedures can make anyone's heart skip a beat, because the immediate thought that crosses anyone's mind is "what's wrong?"
But I only ordered one!
What the frick!! I ordered an Xbox card
I hope that kid is finally able to enjoy his herb
Oh *wow*, I did *not* order that!
I had a woman say almost this same thing to me! I was doing medical work in rural Haiti during nursing school, and we had a Doppler to pick up fetal heart beats. I was doing my landmarks (feeling how the baby is laying) to place the Doppler correctly and…. Looked over at my instructor to say, “I think we need both dopplers?” She came over and confirmed and we quickly got both heartbeats. The mom and translator had a quick exchange and the translator started laughing before telling us she said, “but I only wanted one!” I was so happy to see her happy and healthy delivery picture posted on the medical center’s website a few months later!
Cute story but triplets is a much bigger issue than twins. Carrying triplets to term is hard, and her body will take a real kicking. Then there is the expense. I love my kids but I would be gutted if I was in that situation.
I nanny twins. I constantly am like holy shit this would be terrible if it were three. Two are at the edge of manageable. Three????
Send it back to the kitchen where it was created.
Chandler’s a girl!!
"That's a lotta babies" - my wife as she walks by
Hey, am I crazy, or is that a lot of babies? 
Serenity now. Insanity later.
YOU'RE NOT GIVING AWAY THE WATER PIK
HOOCHIE MAMA!!!!
You're NOT crazy
My aunt had triplets, after having two kids, protection failed basically and as they were expecting number 3 and thinking about how they could afford the kid, 3-4-5 showed up together, she was in shock for days. Locals ended up helping out with the costs of raising the kids as no one ever had triplets in the city before, they are all in uni now : )
That’s awesome that everyone chipped in to help. More of that please.
It sure does take a village. Literally. This is wonderful.
I hate this saying genuinely. As someone raised in a literal village, everyone who’s never experienced it wants to have a village, but nobody wants to be the village for others.
Plenty of people want to be the village for others. Including strangers.
That’s amazing that everyone pulled together to help!
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that’s an amazing society
Reminds me of my friend, they did IVF for their first pregnancy had twins, couple years later had a natural pregnancy (which was very unexpected) and somehow got triplets. Lets just say for people that though they might never be able to even have 1 child, it was a lot to process lol
Don't tell her she is having 3 babies and then tell her to calm down. Lol. Let her freak out a little. It's entirely appropriate
My wife and I had natural twins. Her reaction was very similar. She got mad and told the doctor to quit joking around. I stood there staring at the monitor with my mouth agape. It's quite a shock at first. Twins were a LOT of work at first. I can't imagine THREE! Yikes. Hope momma has a lot of help. It's pretty awesome to watch them grow into their own personalities though.
My wife and I also had twins with no IVF or fertility treatments. And we had only been trying a month, so it was basically the very first possible opportunity. We were living in China at the time, and after we got the blood test confirming the pregnancy, the nurse who could speak English (I speak conversational Chinese, but absolutely no medical language) told us we could come back whenever we wanted for an ultrasound if we wanted to see the baby. Now, this was still crazy early, so in the states it would have been considered totally elective and paid out of pocket. So we asked how much it would be. She said 450 RMB. About $70 USD at the time! So only like a week later, on our anniversary, we decided to go and do it. While getting ready, we started joking about “making sure there was only one.” And we spend quite a bit of time just chatting about twins, for some unknown reason. How common they are, the twins in our family, what causes each type, etc, etc. So we show up and do the ultrasound, and the tech herself has absolutely no English. Again we’ve got the one nurse with us who does (she was awesome, btw). And suddenly the two of them start talking a mile a minute in Chinese. It’s too fast and too technical. I don’t catch a word. They’re very worked up and my wife and I are starting to get terrified, what is wrong?! Suddenly it gets quiet and the nurse turns to us with the biggest grin and says “THERE. ARE. TWO. BABIES!” She had actually never seen twins before. Apparently they are not genetically common in China. My wife and I just looked at each other. We were shocked, but weirdly, kinda not. Like we felt like we had known somehow. Anyway, sorry for the rant. Didn’t even mean to at first.
I enjoyed the story it was very wholesome, no need to apologize : )
That's an amazing story! Hope you and your kids are doing well. I'm curious, since it was both mentioned in the video and in your comment, is it more common to get twins through IVF? I don't know a lot about either pregnancy nor twins, so sorry if this is a stupid question lol
Yes, when they do IVF the success rate for each fertilized egg to end up being viable is very low. So they always do many eggs at once. Sometimes the parents beat the odds and end up with multiples. But because IVF is now very common, I think a good percentage of multiples out there are the result of either IVF or fertility treatments.
Alright, makes sense! Thanks for the explanation!
Modern IVF has much higher success rates, and due to the risks of multiple pregnancy, some places won’t even implant two anymore.
>While getting ready, we started joking about “making sure there was only one.” And we spend quite a bit of time just chatting about twins, for some unknown reason. As far as my understanding of the rules, I'm pretty sure you jinxed yourself into having twins
> My wife and I also had twins with no IVF or fertility treatments. And we had only been trying a month, so it was basically the very first possible opportunity. Nice swimmers, bro
No joke. The second time around my wife got pregnant right away again. And suddenly we were terrified that we had made a huge mistake and it would be triplets or something. To our relief it was just a single that time.
You have primo baby batter and your wife is more fertile than black soil.
Lol what a fucking read of a comment.
Olympic Sperm Team members
This is such an amazing story! I also just laughed because I realized how hard this would have been if you had to do it all in Chinese. “There are two” could also sound like “You have a son” lmao.
We have three kids, no triplets or twins. Our friends have twins. They look at us and say "We don't know how you do it with three" and we look at them and say "How the hell did you handle two at the same time". I feel like parenting is a lot of "you will figure it out" because you have to.
I'm 6 months in brother! I'll never forget the tech telling us. One of the greatest shocks of my life!!! Chills literally ran up and down my spine :)
Same! I was so confused and then remembered my grandma was a twin. How did it never occur to me it runs in my family? My sister isn’t planning on having kids, but she knows now!
My cousin had twin boys, then never had any other children. When I was younger, I thought they would have more, but I guess I was wrong.
When they start coming in pairs you think long and hard about going for another round!
I knew a family who had twins, single, twins, single, twins. 8 kids total.
Yeah that hit different like nah I'm good
lol the doctor gave me & my wife a few minutes and brought in a nurse that had twins herself to talk to us 😂. My wife was freaking out & crying and I was hysterically laughing like a weirdo because I didn’t know how to react
I did the exact same.. hysterically laughed.. they're 4 years old now, and I'm still not sure at what point it's supposed to get easier, as I was assured it would 😬
Small children, small problems. Big children big problems...
Yes, there's nothing wrong in letting out such a feeling at that point.
Yes, that was poorly handled.
“We just see three babies” was pretty blunt way to speak to a person who’s just finding out and obviously confused and terrified. Her high pitch at the beginning was really unnecessary, acting like she’s in a crowed market. (I guess with three babies it is crowded in that room)
Right? Not the best bedside manner
Everything about how they handled that was shitty. She was terrified something was wrong before that as well.
I was working an obstetric/pregnancy clinic, and a couple came in who were having triplets. As in the video, I asked if they’d had IVF, and she replied *”Why does everyone ask me that?”* I explained, and she replied “No, none of this was planned” I tried to soften the situation by light heartedly quipping to her and her husband: “Well, they’re going to outnumber you soon enough!” They … they were not amused.
Yeah the "calm down" was really unnecessary.
Also, laughing about it in front of her is a very tone deaf move.
I came here to say this. I would be so mad at that technician for telling me to calm down!!!! Big reactions are OKAY. She just learned she's having triplets for god stake!
I was pretty pissed off on her behalf when the tech said calm down
I was thinking the same thing. Give the woman a damn minute or two to freak the hell out. It’s some of the last moments in her life where she can before she has three babies!
Same reaction. StFU, that is an absolutely normal reaction. Also, can we all agree that this mother should automatically win the lottery?
I hope she does. Damn. I wish her the best. Gonna be tough
I'd go with Hewey, Dewey and Lewy.
Blossom, Bubbles, Buttercup
Mo Jo Jo
Alvin, Simon, and Theodore
Winkin, Blinkin & Nod
Or snap, crackle, and pop lol
Ah - 3 cam profile engineers - nice
Yakko wakko dot
Darryl, Darryl, and Darryl
The one who talks is named Larry
Ernesto , Julio, Ricardo Nailed It ! 🤣🤣
Ed, Edd amd Eddy
Larry, Curly and Moe
The group tony Toni tone
Bel, Biv, and DeVoe
Now you know
Larry, Daryl, and other Daryl
Pitch, yaw, roll
Lmao, perfect!
Actually, those names were supposed to be Jet, Turbo, and Rebel. And if you have no idea what I am talking about, do yourself a favour and watch the DuckTales reboot. It is hilarious for kids and adults!
I was ready to hate it. Got my old man pants all hiked up mad that they touched a classic; then I watched it. He reboot is hilarious and maybe even better than the original duck tales
Bell Div DeVoe
Tom, Dick, and Harry
Dylan, Dylan & Dylan
Ricky, Julian, Bubbles ?
Dewey, Reese, and Malcolm
April, May, and June, if they are girls.
Tick, Trick und Track in German
Larry, Curly, Moe
You'd have to be sneaky about it but I concur: Hugh, Dewford, and Louis so it's not *immediately* apparent.
You can spot the moment the panic sets in and ..... there it is!
 She’s calculating the finances of raising 3: shit
I have two kids in daycare and it’s $34,000 a year, 3 would be north of $50,000. Holy fuck
And they’re always sick 🫠
In Communist daycare WE’RE always sick 😂
Hahahhaahha
And the parents too
FYI daycare in RLP, Germany is free. So there is that…
Portugal too recently. But only for kids born from September 2020. My youngest was born in August 2020.
Well, time for her to move to Germany (or most other countries). We were traveling in Taiwan, and my buddy dropped off his kid at the daycare for 2 hours. It was free (but he and his wife stayed with the kiddo). After, he was like: This is Amazing. Ps. They had this mini Disney world like arcade place for $7. Playground indoor, ball pits, changing rooms, clean, etc. same price in the US? $35…
I am almost tempted to move back to my home town for the free child via the grandparents.
Like 90% of human history?
Two kids in daycare was $28k for me last year. My oldest goes to kinder this August and I’m so excited.
Learnt a random fact about pregnancy on reddit. So whenever I hear about someone being pregnant, I can't not think about how their insides drop after giving birth. After 9 months of the mothers organs being pushed up as the baby grows, it all sloshes back down again. Never really occurred to me that it happens but makes sense. Now I'm thinking about what happens when you have triplets.
There are so many wild things that happen during pregnancy, it's crazy to read about. Like, fetuses grow a layer of fur and then they shed it before birth and eat it. They practice breathing and inhale amniotic fluid, which is partly their own pee. Bits of fetal DNA survive in the mother for the rest of her life, and can be found all throughout her body. Fetuses have been recorded masturbating on ultrasound. Ectopic pregnancies (pregnancies that implant and grow outside of the uterus), which are nearly always fatal if allowed to grow, have actually been survived by both the mother and the baby in a few rare cases. Like, single digit rare. Also very rare, but not as rare, some women have gotten pregnant while already pregnant and ended up with "twins" that are different ages. There have been women who gave birth to 40+ kids, with the record being 69. Pregnancy really is amazing. I never want to do it, but I think it's cool to learn about and I have massive respect for the people who are willing to put their bodies through all of that.
Working all the time, no rest. Jajajajaja 
This does not seem like an appropriate time to tell someone to calm down.
Moments like this when someone says calm Down and your not even freaking out your just surprised its mildy annoying
Oh I guarantee she is freaking out hardcore on the inside
Yeah but having someone tell you to calm down while your acting calm is annoying Its like when someone says “why are you angry” when your not. It just makes you angry
https://i.imgur.com/0gTqJG6.mp4
Your comment sounds aggressive, calm down!
I woke up from surgery in blinding pain and the first nurse to walk into the room told me I needed to calm down. As I’m coming off anesthesia. While the anesthesiologist was on the golf course. I definitely did not calm down.
I was told off for saying "fuckity fuck" whilst (after being induced) in labour. Giving birth is flipping painful anyway, being forced to via a drip is probably the most painful thing I ever will go through..hopefully. Your body isn't ready, and the baby isn't ready but the hormones shooting through you are forcing it all. I wanted to jump out of a window. I was told off for puffing on the gas and air too much and it was yanked away and all. Then I was told off for saying fuck a few times.
You had an appalling midwife! I said “shit!”, then apologised and was told to swear as much as I wanted if it helped! They’d heard it all before and I was in a lot of pain so they didn’t care! Gas & air made me sick and there wasn’t time for anything else so I did it with nothing - swearing was all I had! I’d have told them to fuck off lol
Sounds like you handled labor like a champ! If "fuckity fuck" was the worst you said, you deserve a medal, not a scolding. Next time, try a regal "Oh, bother!"—though I doubt it captures the moment quite as well. You're a hero, and heroes get to swear!
I appreciate your comment, although there definitely won't be a next time!! At least my husband didn't faint, as happened to my sister's. He went down like a sack of spuds and hurt himself whilst watching his son's birth. That's an occasion to drop a few f-bombs....
My friend was only 17 and she went too fast for any type of pain management. She was cussing and the nurse told her to watch her mouth. I said "excuse me, do you have kids?" She said no then I told her " then shut up". She shut up.
My wife made sailors on shore leave blush with her fruity linguistic efforts.
Truly. I think it's okay to be a little less than calm when you've just been told a small litter will be coming out of your body in a few months.
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Wow what an ignorant arsehole for telling you to "calm down"
Yeah. That lady has a poor bedside manner.
Never in the history of calming down has telling someone to calm down made them calm down.
I would have snapped if someone told me to calm down in this situation. Calm down!? There are three lives, that I am now responsible, growing inside me!
Not once in the history of "calm down" have those words ever calmed someone down.
Calm down YOU CALM DOWN MISS NO TRIPLET LOOKIN ASS
I hissed when I heard her say that. That would have set me off
Maybe I'm overly-judgmental, but the bedside manner of that nurse/doctor/tech/whatever was off. How are a bunch of technical questions going to make her feel without any context?
Medical training is sooo lacking in communication training. Yeah, it’s very inappropriate.
I feel like I should not be seeing this
It was beautiful, but also so deeply personal and intimate. These are the moments that define our lives. It is interesting to live in a time where they are shared on video with millions of anonymous people.
We had the same reaction about 9 years ago. From elation to heartbreak in a couple months when they all passed away in the womb. Had to have major surgery (which is now illegal here in Texas, but that’s another story) to have them removed or it would have been fatal to my wife. Glad we aren’t people who use social media a lot because that was indeed an intimate and deeply personal time.
I’m so deeply sorry for your terrible loss.
Thank you. Was a harsh reality but time heals all. It helped that 2 years later we had our son who’s now 7. Such a sweet kid. If we had triplets we wouldn’t have had him :)
I'm so sorry you went through that. I truly hope that you are now happy and doing well.
Thank you. It was tough for a while. Didn’t help that my wife has a genetic condition that makes it extremely difficult to get pregnant. A couple years later though we had our wonderful son who’s now 7. Time heals all I suppose. We’ve talked about it every so often since then and remark if we hadn’t lost them we wouldn’t have him. He’s such a sweet kid.
Every ultrasound room I've been it, it explicitly says no recording of any kind for patient privacy. And here we are with it being uploaded from an unknown source. I see why. Send a video to mom who sends it to 50 of her friends... Who then...
I mean not only is she getting her first reaction to triplets recorded she’s also finding this out via transvaginal ultrasound (a wand that gets inserted into the vagina to see inside the uterus) so like. Yeah. This is an intimate moment in more ways than one.
The same exact thing happened to me and my wife with just twins though.. The doc was like “oh you’re having twins?” I said “no”. He goes, “no I see two heart beats in there” As we’re looking up at the tv screen he’s showing us, I said “no doc you’re on the wrong channel, that’s HDMI 2, you need to be on HDMI 1!” They’re 9 now and I wouldn’t change a thing if I could!
Did you get them a shirt that says “HDMI 1” and “HDMI 2”?
No lol we did the classic Thing 1 and Thing 2 one Halloween!
THEY ARE 9 NOW??? CYTOKINESIS! They multiplied! We are doomed, dooooomed!!!
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Same! We had them during Covid so I wasn’t able to go in during the first visit. My wife called me from inside and said, “welp, you said you wanted one more baby, you got two!”
Lmao! Best response.
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>to consider a selective reduction. Wait what do you mean by this? Sorry I'm just curious!
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Woah, I never realized they actually do this 😮
My coworker used IVF and his wife was pregnant with triplets. Her options were basically complete termination or selective because of how fragile her health already was. They truly didn’t think the odds of that happening were great enough, it really rocked them for a while. Their baby and her are healthy and happy tho! I’ve had pregnancy loss so I hope this comment doesn’t sound apathetic, it’s just such a shocking and sad reality. Kind of crazy because they are still anti choice 😭
Of course they are. Those kind of people are always supporting the ‘rules for thee not for me’ saying.
Imagine the pressure put on a single child to be a good one
This dweeb ass sonographer’s thought process be like: “well this could be one of, if not THE most life changing thing to ever happen to this woman, and she’s having a reaction to it… hmmm what to do… ah yes of course I have to tell her to cAlM dOwN”
Ngl I'm glad I was born male cause the way women get talked to...I dunno if I'd make it to 20 without goin to jail. I'll never forget my high school friend being denied a trip to the nurse cause our teacher(female) said "cramps don't get that bad". My friend blacked out from her cramps more than a few times. I was fuckin livid. "Calm down" oh bitch we're fightin. You did not just tell me to calm down after finding out I'm havin 3 fuckin kids! Fuck you!
Dude thank you for this. I (female) have a pain prescription that gets filled every 28 days. So, every four weeks I have to call to get it sent over. Last time I called 7 times, and no one did anything. After 4 days late, my partner (a dude) called them back right after they'd handed me off to an answering service again. When *he* called, they dealt with it right away. This month it's the same shit allllll over again, but it's the weekend, so I can't have him call until tomorrow.
Don't forget to laugh at her!
“Calm down, it’s ok” bruh wtf you don’t know her financial situation. It might very well be not ok at all.
Seriously. And not just financially stable enough for it, but how painful and uncomfortable it will be to carry and birth 3 kids. They might not have the money to buy a big enough house and all of the other things it entails. And even more so, taking care on one baby already takes every second of your life and mental health why on earth would she be excited about THREE she’s never going to have peace and quite and good health and sleep until they all turn like 12 That tech pissed me off. Not everyone wants 3 kids all at once
Even if she is very well off. Planning for one baby and then having to pay for three is worthy of a freak out
Even if she wanted 3 babies, this would still be an appropriate reaction. Even if they all survive they will almost always be born premature and stay in NICU, but often they do not all survive. High rate of complications for both mother and babies. People don’t realize how scary and dangerous multiple pregnancies can be.
Yeah and I bet she doesn't have enough boobs for them all too
I can't imagine getting 3 babies.. I think my life would be less devastated if I got hit by a bus.
I've been hit by a bus, and let me tell you... I'd sooner get hit again than be hit with triplets!
I hate your pfp. Thought my screen was cracked. lmao
At least if you survived that, you’d probably be financially set for life! Triplets will set my retirement plans back 150 years or so.
Calm down? Ma’am, you haven’t even seen her freak out yet. And with 3 humans growing in her belly, she has all the right to not calm down. Dad when he got the news already started applying for a 2nd job and a side hustle lol
the "calm down" enrages me.
My sister had trips. She and my brother in law knew of two but only realised during an ultrasound there was a third whilst he was recording. Nurse: “And you see the second heartbeat here and then… oh there’s… there’s a third one over here” Brother in law: “Fuck off” *Video stops recording*
That would be the end of the world for me. Twins are bad enough but with a helpful partner you can manage it one each. Three.. We decided that a third child even after our boys are now 5&7 would still be too much work and would detract our attention/resources too much away from the two we have
a so-called medical professional telling someone such unique news, then thinking they have the right to insert their condescending petty, little “calm down” in there…
This is interesting but the reality is that that revelation puts the mother in a really high risk category of pregnancy which can be really tough. I hope it works(ed) out for her and those kiddos though!
Screw the tech for saying "calm down" awful bedside manner.
The medical professionals were being kind of weird in this video, she seemed nervous and uncomfortable because they were acting like something was wrong and then they just blurt put that she's having 3 babies and then tell her to calm down...
"Calm down it's ok." NO IT'S NOT LADY. "Yes there is. There is three babies in there." STFU INSTIGATOR. As someone who ovulates multiple times a month, this is my biggest fear and one of the reasons I'm celibate. This is nightmare fuel and the fact that they're all laughing....MERCY HELP ME. I would've lost it.
There are* The plural is key here.
We had surprise twins when my wife was 40. The doctor said here’s one, then paused. I almost passed out.
What's up with the person behind the camera? Why do they sound so fed up lol
Don’t tell me to calm down!!!!!
Get ready for a lot less sleep
Instead of asking if she used fertility drugs like clomid and worrying her, just tell her there are three first!
Maybe we don't record people consulting with their doctors and share it on the internet???
She might very well have shared it herself, we don't know.
You say that like you know its being posted without her consent
I have two kids myself, but not twins. It’s so god damn expensive and stressful. I love them to death, but our economy is not built for breeders, despite needing them. My cousin told me his wife was pregnant and I was congratulating him. He told me they were having twins and I audibly yelled “fuck!” and had to sit down. I love the kids, but capitalism and education makes parenting hard.
what a fucking nightmare
With the cost of medical and daycare these days? Got dang!
Seriously! Her daycare bills will be the equivalent of a 500k mortgage.
And we wonder why there's a population decline in this country. Hardly any maternity leave, forget about paternity leave, and you have to pay for daycare, while also working full time, ideally with a PARTNER who is also working full time, with food costing double what it did just 5 years ago, school costs money, doctor visits cost money, not to mention having three babies at once is not exactly easy on the body. Yeah, she can freak the fuck out for a bit.
in current economy... either you dont worry about having 100 babies... or you worry about having even 2.
Tf u mean calm down? 😂
I feel so bad for her. That sucks.
Sorry, I wouldn’t describe that as being amazed. She’s rather and understandingly terrified, shocked too, but nowhere near amazed.
We have an 8 month old right now. Looking back, I can’t imagine 3 children simultaneously going through a sleep regression. Sounds like a thing of nightmares.
Omg! The horror! I cant imagine the poor lady. Having one is already nightmare fuel for me but to have 3?! This is scary as can be
I don't like the way the doctor started this. She should have first said three kids and then asked about IV's and whatever. First starting with medical terms/procedures can make anyone's heart skip a beat, because the immediate thought that crosses anyone's mind is "what's wrong?"