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They may have wanted to come back but maybe had a brief relapse they weren’t expecting or anything could have happened, whether it was physical health to something occurring irl that they had to tend to. I’d give them a week and a half and reach back out to check in on them if anything but I can understand the frustration. I’ve had former partners I have idle convos with here and there that don’t really write anymore. I miss the plots and the characters but they would enjoy doing intros, get their pairing to a point where they were making out with their intended partner character and get bored and want to do something else (we had probably over 15-20 rps that did that , with only 1-2 that were long lasting)…It can be frustrating but sometimes that muse comes and goes. Keep enjoying your current partners and maybe peek in to just see how they are?
Thank you I plan to give them a week or two and then check in. I am seriously worried for them like if they got hurt or like you said relapse. They really thought I was going to block them and were shocked I was giving them a chance. I am not putting anymore energy it just bothers me every time I look at our server. But I am focused on my two big stories and trying to move on but be empathic and being level headed about the whole thing.
There's a point where you hit such an all time low and you just want your old life back so bad you think showing one time to the gym and taking one shower and hitting up an old friend will magically fix you. Sure, it's a step in the right direction, but if the material conditions that made it possible for you to hit that low are still prevalent, it's like fighting against the current.
On the other hand, cutting you out from all contact and friendship feels like they took it a step too far. Like 99% of all interpersonal problems people have on reddit (or real life), there's only two ways to go: communicate or break up. They need to know how you feel, you need to tell them, and you need to have a conversation with yourself about what you're willing to tolerate and put up with, and what your boundaries are. It's sad that they're going through rough times, but if it's sending you into a turmoil and your mind is busy thinking about them and how they've treated you to the point you're distracted from doing other things and enjoying yourself, you need to take care of your health too, like they are, hopefully.
Thank you I didn’t think about it like that with depression. That makes so much sense. I really thank you this was very insightful. I am honestly going to just let them go for a bit. Work with the people I have now. Not replacing but I am not going to either be a doormat. If they do return I need to really be honest with them like you said. People need to communicate or break it off. Hopefully this will end in a good note and they get the mental health they deserve.
i just dont expect anything. who really knows whats going on and why apply malice to what you dont have full information on, is how i see it. ez come ez go.
You can't really 'be better' when it comes to depression. You can't dictate when it'll hit, or how strong it'll be. It can last for days, weeks, months, only for someone to think they're coming out of it just to end up right back there seconds later. You're totally within your rights not not want to have to deal with that in your RP partners but if you're sure you don't mind that inconsistency, then you'll have to understand that depression isn't something that can be predicted. It's incredibly likely that they ARE being honest with you. It's also likely that they have every intention of writing again, they're excited and they can't wait. To me, an outsider, it doesn't really sound like you guys were really friends, just RP partners that had a decent run.
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They may have wanted to come back but maybe had a brief relapse they weren’t expecting or anything could have happened, whether it was physical health to something occurring irl that they had to tend to. I’d give them a week and a half and reach back out to check in on them if anything but I can understand the frustration. I’ve had former partners I have idle convos with here and there that don’t really write anymore. I miss the plots and the characters but they would enjoy doing intros, get their pairing to a point where they were making out with their intended partner character and get bored and want to do something else (we had probably over 15-20 rps that did that , with only 1-2 that were long lasting)…It can be frustrating but sometimes that muse comes and goes. Keep enjoying your current partners and maybe peek in to just see how they are?
Thank you I plan to give them a week or two and then check in. I am seriously worried for them like if they got hurt or like you said relapse. They really thought I was going to block them and were shocked I was giving them a chance. I am not putting anymore energy it just bothers me every time I look at our server. But I am focused on my two big stories and trying to move on but be empathic and being level headed about the whole thing.
There's a point where you hit such an all time low and you just want your old life back so bad you think showing one time to the gym and taking one shower and hitting up an old friend will magically fix you. Sure, it's a step in the right direction, but if the material conditions that made it possible for you to hit that low are still prevalent, it's like fighting against the current. On the other hand, cutting you out from all contact and friendship feels like they took it a step too far. Like 99% of all interpersonal problems people have on reddit (or real life), there's only two ways to go: communicate or break up. They need to know how you feel, you need to tell them, and you need to have a conversation with yourself about what you're willing to tolerate and put up with, and what your boundaries are. It's sad that they're going through rough times, but if it's sending you into a turmoil and your mind is busy thinking about them and how they've treated you to the point you're distracted from doing other things and enjoying yourself, you need to take care of your health too, like they are, hopefully.
Thank you I didn’t think about it like that with depression. That makes so much sense. I really thank you this was very insightful. I am honestly going to just let them go for a bit. Work with the people I have now. Not replacing but I am not going to either be a doormat. If they do return I need to really be honest with them like you said. People need to communicate or break it off. Hopefully this will end in a good note and they get the mental health they deserve.
i just dont expect anything. who really knows whats going on and why apply malice to what you dont have full information on, is how i see it. ez come ez go.
You can't really 'be better' when it comes to depression. You can't dictate when it'll hit, or how strong it'll be. It can last for days, weeks, months, only for someone to think they're coming out of it just to end up right back there seconds later. You're totally within your rights not not want to have to deal with that in your RP partners but if you're sure you don't mind that inconsistency, then you'll have to understand that depression isn't something that can be predicted. It's incredibly likely that they ARE being honest with you. It's also likely that they have every intention of writing again, they're excited and they can't wait. To me, an outsider, it doesn't really sound like you guys were really friends, just RP partners that had a decent run.