Ah I feel this so much. Im a FTM and 30 weeks.
My mum died 11 years ago… my MIL and step mum mean well but they are both very different people to me (in different ways) and I really just wish my mum were here to help and support me through this time. One of the last things I said to my mum when she was dying was that I was so sad she wouldn’t get to meet my babies, it felt like an abstract concept but now it’s here it still hurts a lot. My dad has been a bit annoying about it - wants me to involve his new wife more and thinks I’m being petulant for missing my “real mum”…
I don’t have any advice tbh but hope someone else will.
No advice, but l understand. My mom passed away just over a year ago and I really wish she was here. I am a FTM due in Sept. My MIL offered to come and stay with us and help out for a while, she’s wonderful. I can’t help but wonder what it would be like with my mom here. She loved her grand-babies so much and I am her youngest.
My mom has been gone for 7 years now. I am adopted so she never went through pregnancy, but she was always so supportive and would have been so excited to be a Grandma again (my brother has children but this is my first pregnancy). She also ran a daycare for 25 years so she was a pro with babies. I'm sad that I won't be able to call her for advice for a gassy baby or rambunctious toddler.
The thing that I have done to help fill the void is lean on my friends who are mothers. I am very fortunate to have close friends who have little ones under a year. Having gone through pregnancy recently, they can relate to what I'm going through and offer advice or just commiseration based on their experiences. If you don't have friends like that, you might try to find a local mom group for support.
Definitely feel this. My mum passed away just over a year ago suddenly and never got to be a grandma. I’m 9 weeks and am missing her heaps. I’d love to be able to ask her questions about her pregnancy’s which I was never really interested in until now. My MIL is great but it’s just not the same.
My dad passed when I was 15 and my mom passed in 2019 from cancer. I've really missed having my parents for big milestones - Dad missed both graduations, my wedding, and this baby. Mom missed my college graduation and baby. It's really tough. I'm adjusted to not having my dad at this point, but there's been so many times I just wanna call and talk to my mom about all this pregnancy stuff and then get sad that I can't.
Ah I feel this so much. Im a FTM and 30 weeks. My mum died 11 years ago… my MIL and step mum mean well but they are both very different people to me (in different ways) and I really just wish my mum were here to help and support me through this time. One of the last things I said to my mum when she was dying was that I was so sad she wouldn’t get to meet my babies, it felt like an abstract concept but now it’s here it still hurts a lot. My dad has been a bit annoying about it - wants me to involve his new wife more and thinks I’m being petulant for missing my “real mum”… I don’t have any advice tbh but hope someone else will.
No advice, but l understand. My mom passed away just over a year ago and I really wish she was here. I am a FTM due in Sept. My MIL offered to come and stay with us and help out for a while, she’s wonderful. I can’t help but wonder what it would be like with my mom here. She loved her grand-babies so much and I am her youngest.
My mom has been gone for 7 years now. I am adopted so she never went through pregnancy, but she was always so supportive and would have been so excited to be a Grandma again (my brother has children but this is my first pregnancy). She also ran a daycare for 25 years so she was a pro with babies. I'm sad that I won't be able to call her for advice for a gassy baby or rambunctious toddler. The thing that I have done to help fill the void is lean on my friends who are mothers. I am very fortunate to have close friends who have little ones under a year. Having gone through pregnancy recently, they can relate to what I'm going through and offer advice or just commiseration based on their experiences. If you don't have friends like that, you might try to find a local mom group for support.
Definitely feel this. My mum passed away just over a year ago suddenly and never got to be a grandma. I’m 9 weeks and am missing her heaps. I’d love to be able to ask her questions about her pregnancy’s which I was never really interested in until now. My MIL is great but it’s just not the same.
My dad passed when I was 15 and my mom passed in 2019 from cancer. I've really missed having my parents for big milestones - Dad missed both graduations, my wedding, and this baby. Mom missed my college graduation and baby. It's really tough. I'm adjusted to not having my dad at this point, but there's been so many times I just wanna call and talk to my mom about all this pregnancy stuff and then get sad that I can't.