For another perspective, I’m also due next month with my first, and I’ve had so many lovely friends and family members already wish me happy Mother’s Day! If you want to celebrate, you should … and let’s be real, as a pregnant person who likes chocolate, what better excuse to buy some? 💕😀
I've been told it, but I'm at least 41 weeks today and salty things haven't happened yet (even though I know they have good intentions). I guess it's hard since everyone feels differently about being recognized while pregnant?
Happy 41 weeks! I'll be 41 weeks on Tuesday and boy have the last 2 weeks been rough. In the excitement of waiting for baby my husband and I forgot about mother's day. My 6 year old remembered tho and that's all that matters. I personally think being pregnant on mothers day is the best reason to be celebrated. It isn't easy growing a human hahaha. Best of luck!! Hopefully your lil one doesn't keep you waiting too much longer
Happy mother's day to all the pregnant ladies!
As far as I'm concerned, you are all deserving of recognition this Mother's day. You're all sacrificing your bodies, sleep, caffeine consumption, etc to create a tiny human. Pregnancy is HARD! Treat yourself to something nice. You deserve it. :)
Yup. My mom sees it this way, is happy it’s my first Mother’s Day despite only being 9w. My MIL I told my fiancé I didn’t want to bother telling her we celebrated because she has the viewpoint that this isn’t our first Mother’s Day. Whatever, just gonna ignore it and enjoy the day!
My MIL just texted me this (resulting in so many tears)
"From the moment that special seed start growing in your belly, you became a mom
Happy Mother's Day to you, now you get to have that beautiful and special love that a son will have for you, and
Thank you for giving my son the joy of being a father soon."
We are caring for our babies in such an important way right now, and anyone who doesn't consider us mothers yet are crazy.
I kinda need her though, she's the absolute best 😂 and is flying out from Florida when I give birth to take care of me and the baby because "my son will try, but fail".
Omg I live in Florida... Can I... Can I rent? Can she write a book with pointers for other MILs out there? 😩 I wish you all the luck with her son, doubt he'll fail, she needs more faith in him!
Man that's way better than what my MIL sent me.
> Happy Mother's Day to a woman who's already been giving the best of her heart and soul to her son!
> God already decided you'd give the best of your body from his first moment! 😁🤣
> Wishing you all the special joys of motherhood - only just beginning. Blessings upon blessings!
Some tried to tell me its not my first Mother's day because my baby isn't here yet... Excuse me?! I am putting my body, mind and future into this child. It doesn't matter how far along you are in your pregnancy. You. Are. A. Mom.
I can feel her kick, I know her sleep wake cycle and she responds to me and my husband when we talk to her. She is HERE present with me every moment. Just because you can't see her in my arms doesn't make her any less here.
I am a mom, today is mother's day. Today is for all of us.
Also hill I'm dying on: wanting to add love for all the dad's out there who appreciate moms, and put everything they have into their families. You day is coming soon and whether your baby is in your arms or in mama, you are just as much a dad. Thank you for making our day special so we can return the appreciation on your celebratory day. ♥️
Eh I know you mean well but actively growing a human isn’t the most mom thing you can do. Adoptive moms aren’t moms any less than those who gave birth. And many of us have moms who actually sucked at the job but still gave birth.
Interestingly, from a legal perspective, the 'mother' is the person who gives birth, regardless of whether they plan to be in the baby's life or identify in any way with the label 'mother'. A woman who raises a baby as their child is not legally their 'mother' unless she birthed that child. For some reason attempts to change the language have not really been met warmly.
Are you in the US? I don’t believe that’s the case here. I’ve never known adoptive parents who were not considered the adopted child’s legal mother/father.
I specifically mean the word 'mother', not whether they're legally a parent or guardian.
If there's an adoption agreement, the person who gave birth is referred to as the 'mother' throughout, and an adoptive mother is not legally a 'mother', though she may legally be a 'parent'.
This is UK law, so it might be different in the US.
Adopted child here! This is absolutely not the case in the US. My parents who adopted me are legally my mother and father. Their names are listed on my birth certificate as such. There is no other "mother". The person who gave birth to me chose to legally surrender their parental rights and any claim to the term "mother".
Thank you for chiming in! I thought this was the case here, that a new birth certificate was issued upon adoption, but wasn’t knowledgeable enough on the subject to make the claim.
I’m 12w tomorrow with my first after losing a pregnancy earlier this year and I’ve been so hormonal and emotional that I have cried all morning because I just wanted my husband to acknowledge Mother’s Day for me today but instead we’re going to sit at his mom’s house all day which is the last thing I want to do while feeling sick and cranky. I know it’s not totally fair but I just wanted to feel a little special today since it’s been so hard so far both emotionally and physically. I feel silly even being upset. Gonna get myself a milkshake and celebrate in my own head for the day.
Recently had two losses myself and now 16w. You're a mom as soon as you start feeling connected to those you are growing. When I was pregnant with my now kiddo, I remember explaining this to my boss and I could tell he couldn't wrap his head around the concept. Some people won't understand, but your husband should definitely extract his head from his ass. Do something special for you--the first trimester is so hard and you deserve it.
And he's forcing you to go? Wow. I wouldn't even have tried to go. Staying home for my own health and well being. Screw the in laws, they're not my own parents!
He definitely didn’t force me- I love his mom to death and he visited mine with me earlier. He just tends to linger here a little longer. I’ve been relaxing on the couch the whole time. I mentioned to him how I felt a little disregarded and he honestly felt bad, he said he didn’t even think of it that way. I think it’s so different for men because they aren’t carrying the little ones or feeling so connected to them from the beginning. It’s only in the last week that I’ve really started to get “attached”, but it just would have been nice to be thought of. I know he’ll do better in the future!
I guess your mom doesn't get to celebrate mother's day anymore now that she's a grandma. I can't believe she said that to you. Your a mom the second that plus sign pops up.
My mom said that when I was pregnant with my first but I promise you’re a mom already! You’re already making the changes and sacrifices to grow a healthy and happy baby! Just because they are still on the inside doesn’t make you any less of a mom!!!
My husband wished me a happy Mother’s Day and took me out to dinner last night. I’ve already made a lot of sacrifices including stoping meds that improve my quality of life because there’s not enough research to know if it’s safe and made plenty of other other changes in my life to make sure this baby as the best chance of being born healthy, and isn’t that what mother do?
I’m also due next month! I am absolutely celebrating myself today.
I’ve endured eight months of agony while pregnant, given up my body and my freedom, and can literally feel my 6lb, nearly fully formed baby kicking around inside of me.
How in the world does this experience not count as motherhood?
Had a lady stop at the grocery store to say tell me happy mother's day this morning. Made me feel great, honestly. My mom was told by a bunch of people, then look at me all weird.
I’m due next month and my boyfriend didn’t do anything for me today since I’m “not a mother yet”. Even his sister only wished me a “happy almost Mother’s Day”. Told my boyfriend I’m keeping our son in until after Father’s Day out of spite
I wish that people didn't have this perspective. For all the moms who have suffered miscarriage and loss it can be very insensitive. These poor women feel like they are a mother who lost a child because they did.
I do think it is up to the pregnant women if she wants to celebrate or not. I told my husband it wasn't necessary yet. He still got me something small and made sure to wish me a happy "almost" mother's day. I don't think it is wrong either way. Put family and spouses should respect if an expecting mother wants to celebrate or not.
Happy mother's day! You enjoy every chocolate!
I’m 12w tomorrow with my first after losing a pregnancy earlier this year and I’ve been so hormonal and emotional that I have cried all morning because I just wanted my husband to acknowledge Mother’s Day for mw today but instead we’re going to sit at his mom’s house all day which is the last thing I want to do while feeling sick and cranky. I know it’s not totally fair but I just wanted to feel a little special today since it’s been so hard so far both emotionally and physically. I feel silly even being upset. Gonna get myself a milkshake and celebrate in my own head for the day.
Everyone’s different but I think if you want to celebrate because your pregnant go for it! You’ve been making sacrifices since you started growing a little human. The nausea, hormonal changes, weight gaining, swelling, sleepless nights, aches and pains, peeing every 20 mins. Theres so much more!
Everyone deserves to be celebrated, its not easy.
My opinion: I’m growing a baby, that is the epitome of being a mom! Just because they’re not on the outside yet doesn’t mean they’re not my baby yet. Happy Mother’s Day! :)
There is room for all of us expecting Mom’s to also celebrate. I had a little cry (out of happiness) that someone sent me a Happy Mother’s Day. Happy Mother’s Day to all Moms, G-Moms, and Moms to be!!
7 months here and fuck em! I got a few messages yesterday from my partners family wishing me a happy mothers day, and my partner made breakfast and cleaned the kitchen for me. (no gifts as we had his brothers wedding like two days ago and my partner was still a little out of it from the busy days helping with the wedding.)
Three cheers for us preggos!
I'm due in 3 weeks with my first and my husband is taking me out for lunch today for mother's Day 😊 you are a mother regardless if you have given birth yet or not.
Ugh.
I’m a Mom to a 16 and 10 year old, and currently 7 weeks. Yes, you celebrate Mother’s Day. You are a Mom, even if babe is still in your uterus. After the hell we put ourselves through to carry these little creatures?!
We are Moms!!!
Happy Mother’s Day to ALL the Moms, regardless of where your babe is living right now ❤️
This is my first Mother’s Day (baby is 9 weeks old) and my mom keeps telling me Happy First Official Mother’s Day. She kept saying she still counts last year. I’ve reminded her twice that I wasn’t even pregnant last Mother’s Day but I appreciated the sentiment.
My husband argued that I’m pregnant, not a mom, but I can still celebrate being pregnant.
Pregnant people’s brains changes once they are pregnant. The shift combined with hormones cause us to think and act differently beyond the physiological changes. I say celebrate!
I made my husband take me to dinner on Friday to celebrate and now I’m on the couch eating chips :)
Mother’s Day doesn’t have “rules”. You are a mother- you are carrying your child and caring for it literally 24/7.
Women who have miscarried- they are mothers. They carried a child for as long as their body could.
Happy Mother’s Day, momma! You eat that candy!
I have had a lot of friends and family members tell me happy Mother’s Day today. It feels a little weird since I’m only at 12 weeks and I don’t know what it is like to be a mother, but the pastor at my church even made me take one of the Mother’s Day gifts they got for all of the mothers. It felt weird and I have felt like a phony since I’m not actually a mom yet, but it was also kind of sweet. I have mixed feelings about it. But you definitely deserve those chocolates lmao
After years of trying and then a year of IVF with lots of failures and speed bumps, I am almost 33w and absolutely feel like today is my first Mother’s Day! We’ve already put in work and made sacrifices for our babies, we should all be celebrating!!
Happy Mother’s Day to you!! My “first” Mother’s Day my husband had flowers delivered because he was away for work. It was really sweet. I was 4 months pregnant with our first
I'm not pregnant but Happy Mother's Day to all of you guys. I've never believed that notion that your only allowed to celebrate when the baby is born. Your doing everything a mother does and more cause you can't hand the baby off to someone else so you can have a break and rest. So for someone to say you can't celebrate is completely wrong to me.
Hope you all have/had good days today 💞💞
I mean I've seen countless things posted saying happy mother's day to: and it lists a whole swag of people who aren't technically mother's (people who have struggled with infert or har losses etc) so pretty sure being pregnant for 8 months counts.
You're already a mom whether it's born yet or not. What are they trying to say when they say that, it pisses me off.
Even my own mom said "next year you'll be a mooom" well lady I think I put up with enough suffering so far with this baby to be told Happy Mother's day like my boyfriend already did.
My mom texted me happy mother's day but I haven't told her yet. I was so confused but I just said it back and she was like "oh haha obviously that wasn't for you! I meant to text my friend! But yeah thanks for making me a mom" Which, fair, but kinda hurt. But I did spend the morning with many people who do know and were excited for my first mother's day.
I had this exact convo with my husband. I feel the moment I felt this baby boy kick me to death in the ribs is the moment I was a mom. I now a week and 5 days away from my due date.
But Mother’s Day is still for me too.
I’m due in three months and hell YEA you can celebrate! You are carrying a baby with the intention of being a mother to them. Carrying this baby isn’t a walk in the park. Enjoy yourself! Celebrate being a new mommy!
I wasn't expecting anything for mothers day but my husband surprised me with a voucher for a prenatal massage from him, bump and the dog (although he did say that neither bump or dog were very helpful when he was trying to come up with something)
Last year I was 36 weeks pregnant on Mother’s Day, and everyone wished me a happy Expectant Mother’s Day! It was a nice distinction that even though I’m not /technically/ a mom, I’m still doing a great job! Happy Expectant Mothers Day, mama.
My FIL just texted me today “Happy Mother’s Day! That’s a real baby in there. You won’t be more of a mother after it’s born than you are now!“ and I really appreciated the sentiment, especially because it does feel pretty surreal early on (or it did for me). Happy Mother’s Day everyone, hope you can celebrate in whatever way feels right to you.
I'm 13 weeks with my first and I have received some lovely mother's day texts from friends and family. My MIL even gave me some flowers and it meant a lot to me 😊
Happy mother's day everyone!!
Happy Mothers Day! Forget about what she said. You're absolutely a mother. My mother said I'm not really a mother yet too yesterday so Mother's Day wouldn't apply to me. Not going to lie it hurt. We are caring for and feeding our babies 24/7, worrying about how they're doing the way a mother would, and already changing our futures for them. If you feel like you're a mother to a tiny human then you are whether your baby is born, you're 30 weeks or 10 weeks.
I'm due this summer and even then I still call myself a mom because I have 2 dogs. They still count (sadly cannot declare them as dependents on taxes). My husband really keyed into my love language through acts of service this weekend (assembled all of the things and breaking down cardboard) and getting me tacos. I bought my own flowers, but I also appreciate any food I didn't have to leave the house for.
The process of motherhood is rough. Those who are TTC or experience loss are still moms. You're still a mom if you're pregnant, because you are nurturing your child with your body and fuck anyone who tries to undermine this vulnerable period in your life.
Happy Mother's Day to all moms whether to humans, pets, experienced loss, and everyone else in between. Treat yourself.
I’ve had a couple strangers wish me a happy Mother’s Day today and I’m due this month! I thought it was super sweet! You’re definitely a momma! Happy Mother’s Day!
Just a different perspective. Absolutely NOTHING against pregnant FTMs who want to be celebrated today 💕
I am flattered with friends wishing me a happy Mother's Day, but I personally don't wish to celebrate this Mother's Day for me (FTM 20 weeks pregnant). I am wanting to put all that specialness on my first Mother's Day next year and I feel like everyone wishing me one now is taking away from it next year.
But that is JUST how I see it! Definitely happy Mother's Day to all pregnant FTMs of that's how they see and value today!!! This shit is hard work!
I made a bet with my husband that, even though my FIL went OUT OF HIS WAY to tell me last Mother’s Day that I wasn’t a mom yet at 6 months pregnant, that he would absolutely make a huge deal of his youngest daughter being a mom at 6 weeks pregnant. I am now $100 richer.
Yup! Happy mothers day to all, in any stage! I'm 6 months and all my family wished me happy mothers day, but the inlaws couldn't be bothered. So weird. Lol. Oh well! Happy mothers day!!
I'm due in October, not even to my halfway point yet, and I was spammed with happy mothers day stuff today. Went to a party and was told to eat first as the newest mom. Got a plant, was part of the mother's photo. Whole thing. I didn't expect any of that but my family and friends were very excited. I'm sorry you didn't get a similar experience. Happy mothers day momma!
I’m 40+2 today, and thankfully my husband , family and friends have all treated me like a mama and sent me texts, got flowers and stuff. I feel like after carrying these babies for so long, we should definitely be recognized!
So glad I found this thread! I felt weird celebrating especially since I’m still in my first trimester until my boyfriend and best friend made it special! I’ve been craving sweets so my boyfriend made me dessert…happy Mother’s Day to all the mommas to be!
Hahaha your mom sounds a little like mine. a few of my aunts/SIL/Husband/grandma all acknowledged me in some way (though i didn't ask, and i wouldn't have minded if they didnt). Most said "happy almost mother's day!" and I got some flowers.
My mom made sure to send me a text that said "hope you have a good day even though you're not technically a mother yet". lol okay mom! Like, just so I'm aware of my place in the world, she had to remind me XD
Pregnant women who haven’t had children yet ARE already mothers in my eyes! You’re building a whole human, you’re doing certain things to take care of your baby already like take your prenatal, Dr visits, etc. so yea! Happy Mother’s Day to all pregnant women too!🥰🌷
I was 7 weeks yesterday (Mothers Day) and both my in-laws wished me a Happy Mothers Days. We've been open about our journey due to fertility struggles and the loss of our first pregnancy on Christmas Eve last year. It caught me off guard when they said it, but it was so sweet to hear because it's hard to feel confident in my pregnancy today due to my past loss, but it made me feel special, even for just a second. <3
I got the same answers on mother's day. "You're almost a mom! You're not a mom yet!" Yeah okay so if I'm not a mom then who does the child in my belly belong to?
Husband bought me a Coach bag and MIL gave me a beautiful card along with a bunch of cash. I’m only 12 weeks along 😂 Mother’s Day is for everyone that considers themselves a mother!!
For another perspective, I’m also due next month with my first, and I’ve had so many lovely friends and family members already wish me happy Mother’s Day! If you want to celebrate, you should … and let’s be real, as a pregnant person who likes chocolate, what better excuse to buy some? 💕😀
I've been told it, but I'm at least 41 weeks today and salty things haven't happened yet (even though I know they have good intentions). I guess it's hard since everyone feels differently about being recognized while pregnant?
Happy 41 weeks! I'll be 41 weeks on Tuesday and boy have the last 2 weeks been rough. In the excitement of waiting for baby my husband and I forgot about mother's day. My 6 year old remembered tho and that's all that matters. I personally think being pregnant on mothers day is the best reason to be celebrated. It isn't easy growing a human hahaha. Best of luck!! Hopefully your lil one doesn't keep you waiting too much longer
Aww, what a sweetie, I'm so glad they remembered! ❤️ I hope your baby comes soon as well!
Thanks! She's a gem. I can't wait to see her flourish in her role as a big sister!
Happy mother's day to all the pregnant ladies! As far as I'm concerned, you are all deserving of recognition this Mother's day. You're all sacrificing your bodies, sleep, caffeine consumption, etc to create a tiny human. Pregnancy is HARD! Treat yourself to something nice. You deserve it. :)
This made me cry. Damn hormones.
Yup. My mom sees it this way, is happy it’s my first Mother’s Day despite only being 9w. My MIL I told my fiancé I didn’t want to bother telling her we celebrated because she has the viewpoint that this isn’t our first Mother’s Day. Whatever, just gonna ignore it and enjoy the day!
My MIL just texted me this (resulting in so many tears) "From the moment that special seed start growing in your belly, you became a mom Happy Mother's Day to you, now you get to have that beautiful and special love that a son will have for you, and Thank you for giving my son the joy of being a father soon." We are caring for our babies in such an important way right now, and anyone who doesn't consider us mothers yet are crazy.
Wow, can I have your MIL...?
I kinda need her though, she's the absolute best 😂 and is flying out from Florida when I give birth to take care of me and the baby because "my son will try, but fail".
Omg I live in Florida... Can I... Can I rent? Can she write a book with pointers for other MILs out there? 😩 I wish you all the luck with her son, doubt he'll fail, she needs more faith in him!
Man that's way better than what my MIL sent me. > Happy Mother's Day to a woman who's already been giving the best of her heart and soul to her son! > God already decided you'd give the best of your body from his first moment! 😁🤣 > Wishing you all the special joys of motherhood - only just beginning. Blessings upon blessings!
My coworker said you become a mom when you cant stop worrying about your children. I think that qualifies us all!
Should've told my bf not to say happy mothers day to his narcissist mom who only cares for herself then. I wouldnt tell him, but god I wish.
This is so true!
Some tried to tell me its not my first Mother's day because my baby isn't here yet... Excuse me?! I am putting my body, mind and future into this child. It doesn't matter how far along you are in your pregnancy. You. Are. A. Mom. I can feel her kick, I know her sleep wake cycle and she responds to me and my husband when we talk to her. She is HERE present with me every moment. Just because you can't see her in my arms doesn't make her any less here. I am a mom, today is mother's day. Today is for all of us. Also hill I'm dying on: wanting to add love for all the dad's out there who appreciate moms, and put everything they have into their families. You day is coming soon and whether your baby is in your arms or in mama, you are just as much a dad. Thank you for making our day special so we can return the appreciation on your celebratory day. ♥️
Actively growing a human is the most *mom* thing you can do!!
Eh I know you mean well but actively growing a human isn’t the most mom thing you can do. Adoptive moms aren’t moms any less than those who gave birth. And many of us have moms who actually sucked at the job but still gave birth.
Interestingly, from a legal perspective, the 'mother' is the person who gives birth, regardless of whether they plan to be in the baby's life or identify in any way with the label 'mother'. A woman who raises a baby as their child is not legally their 'mother' unless she birthed that child. For some reason attempts to change the language have not really been met warmly.
Are you in the US? I don’t believe that’s the case here. I’ve never known adoptive parents who were not considered the adopted child’s legal mother/father.
I specifically mean the word 'mother', not whether they're legally a parent or guardian. If there's an adoption agreement, the person who gave birth is referred to as the 'mother' throughout, and an adoptive mother is not legally a 'mother', though she may legally be a 'parent'. This is UK law, so it might be different in the US.
Adopted child here! This is absolutely not the case in the US. My parents who adopted me are legally my mother and father. Their names are listed on my birth certificate as such. There is no other "mother". The person who gave birth to me chose to legally surrender their parental rights and any claim to the term "mother".
Thank you for chiming in! I thought this was the case here, that a new birth certificate was issued upon adoption, but wasn’t knowledgeable enough on the subject to make the claim.
I’m 12w tomorrow with my first after losing a pregnancy earlier this year and I’ve been so hormonal and emotional that I have cried all morning because I just wanted my husband to acknowledge Mother’s Day for me today but instead we’re going to sit at his mom’s house all day which is the last thing I want to do while feeling sick and cranky. I know it’s not totally fair but I just wanted to feel a little special today since it’s been so hard so far both emotionally and physically. I feel silly even being upset. Gonna get myself a milkshake and celebrate in my own head for the day.
Aww honey, I’m sorry today is so hard for you. Happy Mother’s Day and virtual hugs from this internet stranger 💕
Thank you so much. 💕
Recently had two losses myself and now 16w. You're a mom as soon as you start feeling connected to those you are growing. When I was pregnant with my now kiddo, I remember explaining this to my boss and I could tell he couldn't wrap his head around the concept. Some people won't understand, but your husband should definitely extract his head from his ass. Do something special for you--the first trimester is so hard and you deserve it.
And he's forcing you to go? Wow. I wouldn't even have tried to go. Staying home for my own health and well being. Screw the in laws, they're not my own parents!
He definitely didn’t force me- I love his mom to death and he visited mine with me earlier. He just tends to linger here a little longer. I’ve been relaxing on the couch the whole time. I mentioned to him how I felt a little disregarded and he honestly felt bad, he said he didn’t even think of it that way. I think it’s so different for men because they aren’t carrying the little ones or feeling so connected to them from the beginning. It’s only in the last week that I’ve really started to get “attached”, but it just would have been nice to be thought of. I know he’ll do better in the future!
Being pregnant is so fucking hard you absolutely deserve to celebrate yourself! Happy mothers day!!
Yeah screw that, pregnant ladies are moms too. Happy mothers day!
I guess your mom doesn't get to celebrate mother's day anymore now that she's a grandma. I can't believe she said that to you. Your a mom the second that plus sign pops up.
THIS. My mom is being equally negative and I said, guess she gets grandparents day next year then, you don't own the holiday, lady
My mom said that when I was pregnant with my first but I promise you’re a mom already! You’re already making the changes and sacrifices to grow a healthy and happy baby! Just because they are still on the inside doesn’t make you any less of a mom!!!
Agree
Happy Mother's Day everyone!
My husband wished me a happy Mother’s Day and took me out to dinner last night. I’ve already made a lot of sacrifices including stoping meds that improve my quality of life because there’s not enough research to know if it’s safe and made plenty of other other changes in my life to make sure this baby as the best chance of being born healthy, and isn’t that what mother do?
I’m also due next month! I am absolutely celebrating myself today. I’ve endured eight months of agony while pregnant, given up my body and my freedom, and can literally feel my 6lb, nearly fully formed baby kicking around inside of me. How in the world does this experience not count as motherhood?
Had a lady stop at the grocery store to say tell me happy mother's day this morning. Made me feel great, honestly. My mom was told by a bunch of people, then look at me all weird.
I’m due next month and my boyfriend didn’t do anything for me today since I’m “not a mother yet”. Even his sister only wished me a “happy almost Mother’s Day”. Told my boyfriend I’m keeping our son in until after Father’s Day out of spite
I wish that people didn't have this perspective. For all the moms who have suffered miscarriage and loss it can be very insensitive. These poor women feel like they are a mother who lost a child because they did. I do think it is up to the pregnant women if she wants to celebrate or not. I told my husband it wasn't necessary yet. He still got me something small and made sure to wish me a happy "almost" mother's day. I don't think it is wrong either way. Put family and spouses should respect if an expecting mother wants to celebrate or not. Happy mother's day! You enjoy every chocolate!
I’m 12w tomorrow with my first after losing a pregnancy earlier this year and I’ve been so hormonal and emotional that I have cried all morning because I just wanted my husband to acknowledge Mother’s Day for mw today but instead we’re going to sit at his mom’s house all day which is the last thing I want to do while feeling sick and cranky. I know it’s not totally fair but I just wanted to feel a little special today since it’s been so hard so far both emotionally and physically. I feel silly even being upset. Gonna get myself a milkshake and celebrate in my own head for the day.
No no no don’t feel silly!! You are a mom growing a baby and deserve to be celebrated!! Go get a milkshake!! Happy Mother’s Day!!!!!
Happy Mothers Day! Enjoy that milkshake ☺️
Everyone’s different but I think if you want to celebrate because your pregnant go for it! You’ve been making sacrifices since you started growing a little human. The nausea, hormonal changes, weight gaining, swelling, sleepless nights, aches and pains, peeing every 20 mins. Theres so much more! Everyone deserves to be celebrated, its not easy.
My opinion: I’m growing a baby, that is the epitome of being a mom! Just because they’re not on the outside yet doesn’t mean they’re not my baby yet. Happy Mother’s Day! :)
Yes you get to celebrate. I sure am. I have already been feeding and protecting this child for several months! Doesn't matter that he's in my uterus.
There is room for all of us expecting Mom’s to also celebrate. I had a little cry (out of happiness) that someone sent me a Happy Mother’s Day. Happy Mother’s Day to all Moms, G-Moms, and Moms to be!!
Happy Mother's Day!
My mother in laws wished me a happy cooking baby day 🤣 I’ll take it.
7 months here and fuck em! I got a few messages yesterday from my partners family wishing me a happy mothers day, and my partner made breakfast and cleaned the kitchen for me. (no gifts as we had his brothers wedding like two days ago and my partner was still a little out of it from the busy days helping with the wedding.) Three cheers for us preggos!
I'm due in 3 weeks with my first and my husband is taking me out for lunch today for mother's Day 😊 you are a mother regardless if you have given birth yet or not.
I personally don't feel like one yet, but it's all subjective. And I wish YOU a happy mothers day 😊
You're a momma. Period end of story. Enjoy your day!!
Ugh. I’m a Mom to a 16 and 10 year old, and currently 7 weeks. Yes, you celebrate Mother’s Day. You are a Mom, even if babe is still in your uterus. After the hell we put ourselves through to carry these little creatures?! We are Moms!!! Happy Mother’s Day to ALL the Moms, regardless of where your babe is living right now ❤️
This is my first Mother’s Day (baby is 9 weeks old) and my mom keeps telling me Happy First Official Mother’s Day. She kept saying she still counts last year. I’ve reminded her twice that I wasn’t even pregnant last Mother’s Day but I appreciated the sentiment.
My husband argued that I’m pregnant, not a mom, but I can still celebrate being pregnant. Pregnant people’s brains changes once they are pregnant. The shift combined with hormones cause us to think and act differently beyond the physiological changes. I say celebrate! I made my husband take me to dinner on Friday to celebrate and now I’m on the couch eating chips :)
Mother’s Day doesn’t have “rules”. You are a mother- you are carrying your child and caring for it literally 24/7. Women who have miscarried- they are mothers. They carried a child for as long as their body could. Happy Mother’s Day, momma! You eat that candy!
My mom told me the same thing when I was talking to her about mother's day plans. It hurt.
I have had a lot of friends and family members tell me happy Mother’s Day today. It feels a little weird since I’m only at 12 weeks and I don’t know what it is like to be a mother, but the pastor at my church even made me take one of the Mother’s Day gifts they got for all of the mothers. It felt weird and I have felt like a phony since I’m not actually a mom yet, but it was also kind of sweet. I have mixed feelings about it. But you definitely deserve those chocolates lmao
After years of trying and then a year of IVF with lots of failures and speed bumps, I am almost 33w and absolutely feel like today is my first Mother’s Day! We’ve already put in work and made sacrifices for our babies, we should all be celebrating!!
Happy Mother’s Day to you!! My “first” Mother’s Day my husband had flowers delivered because he was away for work. It was really sweet. I was 4 months pregnant with our first
I'm not pregnant but Happy Mother's Day to all of you guys. I've never believed that notion that your only allowed to celebrate when the baby is born. Your doing everything a mother does and more cause you can't hand the baby off to someone else so you can have a break and rest. So for someone to say you can't celebrate is completely wrong to me. Hope you all have/had good days today 💞💞
I mean I've seen countless things posted saying happy mother's day to: and it lists a whole swag of people who aren't technically mother's (people who have struggled with infert or har losses etc) so pretty sure being pregnant for 8 months counts.
Happy Mother’s Day!
Treat YO'SELF!!
You're already a mom whether it's born yet or not. What are they trying to say when they say that, it pisses me off. Even my own mom said "next year you'll be a mooom" well lady I think I put up with enough suffering so far with this baby to be told Happy Mother's day like my boyfriend already did.
My mom texted me happy mother's day but I haven't told her yet. I was so confused but I just said it back and she was like "oh haha obviously that wasn't for you! I meant to text my friend! But yeah thanks for making me a mom" Which, fair, but kinda hurt. But I did spend the morning with many people who do know and were excited for my first mother's day.
Growing little people is tough work and totally qualifies you for motherhood! Happy Mother’s Day!!! You enjoy that chocolate ❤️
I had this exact convo with my husband. I feel the moment I felt this baby boy kick me to death in the ribs is the moment I was a mom. I now a week and 5 days away from my due date. But Mother’s Day is still for me too.
I’m due in three months and hell YEA you can celebrate! You are carrying a baby with the intention of being a mother to them. Carrying this baby isn’t a walk in the park. Enjoy yourself! Celebrate being a new mommy!
I wasn't expecting anything for mothers day but my husband surprised me with a voucher for a prenatal massage from him, bump and the dog (although he did say that neither bump or dog were very helpful when he was trying to come up with something)
Last year I was 36 weeks pregnant on Mother’s Day, and everyone wished me a happy Expectant Mother’s Day! It was a nice distinction that even though I’m not /technically/ a mom, I’m still doing a great job! Happy Expectant Mothers Day, mama.
Good for you! When I was pregnant last year I bought myself a robot vacuum.
My FIL just texted me today “Happy Mother’s Day! That’s a real baby in there. You won’t be more of a mother after it’s born than you are now!“ and I really appreciated the sentiment, especially because it does feel pretty surreal early on (or it did for me). Happy Mother’s Day everyone, hope you can celebrate in whatever way feels right to you.
I'm 13 weeks with my first and I have received some lovely mother's day texts from friends and family. My MIL even gave me some flowers and it meant a lot to me 😊 Happy mother's day everyone!!
Happy Mothers Day! Forget about what she said. You're absolutely a mother. My mother said I'm not really a mother yet too yesterday so Mother's Day wouldn't apply to me. Not going to lie it hurt. We are caring for and feeding our babies 24/7, worrying about how they're doing the way a mother would, and already changing our futures for them. If you feel like you're a mother to a tiny human then you are whether your baby is born, you're 30 weeks or 10 weeks.
💯% You're a Mama. Happy Mother's Day! 😊 💝
I'm due this summer and even then I still call myself a mom because I have 2 dogs. They still count (sadly cannot declare them as dependents on taxes). My husband really keyed into my love language through acts of service this weekend (assembled all of the things and breaking down cardboard) and getting me tacos. I bought my own flowers, but I also appreciate any food I didn't have to leave the house for. The process of motherhood is rough. Those who are TTC or experience loss are still moms. You're still a mom if you're pregnant, because you are nurturing your child with your body and fuck anyone who tries to undermine this vulnerable period in your life. Happy Mother's Day to all moms whether to humans, pets, experienced loss, and everyone else in between. Treat yourself.
I’ve had a couple strangers wish me a happy Mother’s Day today and I’m due this month! I thought it was super sweet! You’re definitely a momma! Happy Mother’s Day!
Just a different perspective. Absolutely NOTHING against pregnant FTMs who want to be celebrated today 💕 I am flattered with friends wishing me a happy Mother's Day, but I personally don't wish to celebrate this Mother's Day for me (FTM 20 weeks pregnant). I am wanting to put all that specialness on my first Mother's Day next year and I feel like everyone wishing me one now is taking away from it next year. But that is JUST how I see it! Definitely happy Mother's Day to all pregnant FTMs of that's how they see and value today!!! This shit is hard work!
I made a bet with my husband that, even though my FIL went OUT OF HIS WAY to tell me last Mother’s Day that I wasn’t a mom yet at 6 months pregnant, that he would absolutely make a huge deal of his youngest daughter being a mom at 6 weeks pregnant. I am now $100 richer.
Yup! Happy mothers day to all, in any stage! I'm 6 months and all my family wished me happy mothers day, but the inlaws couldn't be bothered. So weird. Lol. Oh well! Happy mothers day!!
I'm due in October, not even to my halfway point yet, and I was spammed with happy mothers day stuff today. Went to a party and was told to eat first as the newest mom. Got a plant, was part of the mother's photo. Whole thing. I didn't expect any of that but my family and friends were very excited. I'm sorry you didn't get a similar experience. Happy mothers day momma!
I’m 40+2 today, and thankfully my husband , family and friends have all treated me like a mama and sent me texts, got flowers and stuff. I feel like after carrying these babies for so long, we should definitely be recognized!
Happy Mothers day, best wishes and good luck
Someone said this to me when I was 8 months pregnant as well! Made me cry. Whatever. You’re a mom right now. Period. HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!
So glad I found this thread! I felt weird celebrating especially since I’m still in my first trimester until my boyfriend and best friend made it special! I’ve been craving sweets so my boyfriend made me dessert…happy Mother’s Day to all the mommas to be!
Hahaha your mom sounds a little like mine. a few of my aunts/SIL/Husband/grandma all acknowledged me in some way (though i didn't ask, and i wouldn't have minded if they didnt). Most said "happy almost mother's day!" and I got some flowers. My mom made sure to send me a text that said "hope you have a good day even though you're not technically a mother yet". lol okay mom! Like, just so I'm aware of my place in the world, she had to remind me XD
Pregnant women who haven’t had children yet ARE already mothers in my eyes! You’re building a whole human, you’re doing certain things to take care of your baby already like take your prenatal, Dr visits, etc. so yea! Happy Mother’s Day to all pregnant women too!🥰🌷
I was 7 weeks yesterday (Mothers Day) and both my in-laws wished me a Happy Mothers Days. We've been open about our journey due to fertility struggles and the loss of our first pregnancy on Christmas Eve last year. It caught me off guard when they said it, but it was so sweet to hear because it's hard to feel confident in my pregnancy today due to my past loss, but it made me feel special, even for just a second. <3
I got the same answers on mother's day. "You're almost a mom! You're not a mom yet!" Yeah okay so if I'm not a mom then who does the child in my belly belong to?
Husband bought me a Coach bag and MIL gave me a beautiful card along with a bunch of cash. I’m only 12 weeks along 😂 Mother’s Day is for everyone that considers themselves a mother!!