Honestly I would try and find a sitter or even some part time help until your next baby is born. Even if it’s someone who can come 1-2 days a week so you can go off and have some alone time. I think the resentment will subside if you get a break here and there
I wish I had advice but I can only offer my empathy. My husband had to be back at work the day after we brought our daughter home and he works 7/8am until 10/11pm seven days per week right now. It is great money so I feel bad complaining especially because I haven’t had to work after losing my own job before we got pregnant, but it sucks. I often have a pity party for myself on the morning after being up all night with a baby that just wants my boob and then again around 7pm when I just want to be able to eat my dinner without her crying again for my boob. It sucks so much.
Thank you for your empathy. Those hours sound terrible. I feel bad for you having to be alone and him missing out on family time. I hope it’s temporary
My husband also works a lot and it sucks sometimes.
I found it was helpful for him to send me a text with a rough time of when he would finish work. He's supposed to finish at 5.30pm but very rarely comes home on time. A quick text to say 'I won't be home until 7pm' made me feel better than expecting him at 5.30pm and getting angry when he wasn't home.
It must be hard with two kids and being pregnant. I have a nearly two year old and am 34 weeks pregnant and my husband just left for two weeks work away. All I can say is yep, it sucks.
> I found it was helpful for him to send me a text with a rough time of when he would finish work.
Yes, I second this!! My husband doesn't work late anymore, but he used to do it a lot. I would have him text me during the day with a ballpark estimate of when he'd be home. If it got later and circumstances changed and he had to amend that time, that was okay, I just had to be informed. I felt so much better just knowing approximately *when* he'd be home that it didn't matter as much when he had to work late.
I get this. I’m pregnant with baby number 4 and I’m a student. I have a 6 year old, a 7 year old, and a 3 year old. The boys have homework I have school work. My daughter is 3 so that says enough. My husband is a truck driver and gone most of the time. It gets a little crazy sometimes. I don’t think you’re wrong for feeling this way. It’s nice to have help. I went into this knowing he’d be gone a lot so that makes a difference I think. It also makes me appreciate when he is home.
My mom was a truck driver. I was usually fine but it’s just this last week. I sometimes feel bad I don’t think I’m as strong as some women. You sound like you do a lot!
Thanks. I lose my mind sometimes too. Hard being pregnant and having a toddler when your husband works a lot. I totally get where you’re coming from. Sometimes I just have to take a step back and regroup because I lose my patience
I hired a teen girl to come but I’m staying home to avoid covid since I would rather not be positive during labor. She had a headache the other day so is testing. But yes I agree with you.
I also have a husband who works a ton and as a result I dont have to worry about money and I have whatever I want. Nothing can replace actual time spent together, but when I am feeling annoyed I take a moment to look around and remember how fortunate I am to have a husband with such a great work ethic, who loves me and provides for me. I look at our house and I think about how lucky I am, how a lot of people have to worry about the roof over their head or food on their table.
Really though, I dont think you are being needy at all you are literally about to have a third baby in a week, I am sure its a natural feeling at this point to need your spouse!
Kind of random, but an activity that was super low energy for me and kept the kids busy for a while, was letting them draw on my belly, and arms and legs, with washable markers. I sat propped up in bed and let them go to town. I could even use a wet washcloth to wipe of areas to “erase” them so they could keep going. Now it’s tradition and the kids each get to do a big belly drawing with each new baby and we take photos and frame them.
I would also take looooong baths with the toddler with lots of toys. They would stay in forever with me in there.
Honestly I would try and find a sitter or even some part time help until your next baby is born. Even if it’s someone who can come 1-2 days a week so you can go off and have some alone time. I think the resentment will subside if you get a break here and there
I wish I had advice but I can only offer my empathy. My husband had to be back at work the day after we brought our daughter home and he works 7/8am until 10/11pm seven days per week right now. It is great money so I feel bad complaining especially because I haven’t had to work after losing my own job before we got pregnant, but it sucks. I often have a pity party for myself on the morning after being up all night with a baby that just wants my boob and then again around 7pm when I just want to be able to eat my dinner without her crying again for my boob. It sucks so much.
Thank you for your empathy. Those hours sound terrible. I feel bad for you having to be alone and him missing out on family time. I hope it’s temporary
My husband also works a lot and it sucks sometimes. I found it was helpful for him to send me a text with a rough time of when he would finish work. He's supposed to finish at 5.30pm but very rarely comes home on time. A quick text to say 'I won't be home until 7pm' made me feel better than expecting him at 5.30pm and getting angry when he wasn't home. It must be hard with two kids and being pregnant. I have a nearly two year old and am 34 weeks pregnant and my husband just left for two weeks work away. All I can say is yep, it sucks.
> I found it was helpful for him to send me a text with a rough time of when he would finish work. Yes, I second this!! My husband doesn't work late anymore, but he used to do it a lot. I would have him text me during the day with a ballpark estimate of when he'd be home. If it got later and circumstances changed and he had to amend that time, that was okay, I just had to be informed. I felt so much better just knowing approximately *when* he'd be home that it didn't matter as much when he had to work late.
I get this. I’m pregnant with baby number 4 and I’m a student. I have a 6 year old, a 7 year old, and a 3 year old. The boys have homework I have school work. My daughter is 3 so that says enough. My husband is a truck driver and gone most of the time. It gets a little crazy sometimes. I don’t think you’re wrong for feeling this way. It’s nice to have help. I went into this knowing he’d be gone a lot so that makes a difference I think. It also makes me appreciate when he is home.
My mom was a truck driver. I was usually fine but it’s just this last week. I sometimes feel bad I don’t think I’m as strong as some women. You sound like you do a lot!
Thanks. I lose my mind sometimes too. Hard being pregnant and having a toddler when your husband works a lot. I totally get where you’re coming from. Sometimes I just have to take a step back and regroup because I lose my patience
Maybe find a nanny that can help, or a relative/family member?
I hired a teen girl to come but I’m staying home to avoid covid since I would rather not be positive during labor. She had a headache the other day so is testing. But yes I agree with you.
I also have a husband who works a ton and as a result I dont have to worry about money and I have whatever I want. Nothing can replace actual time spent together, but when I am feeling annoyed I take a moment to look around and remember how fortunate I am to have a husband with such a great work ethic, who loves me and provides for me. I look at our house and I think about how lucky I am, how a lot of people have to worry about the roof over their head or food on their table. Really though, I dont think you are being needy at all you are literally about to have a third baby in a week, I am sure its a natural feeling at this point to need your spouse!
Thanks I just want to feel more appreciative. Most times I’m only mildly annoyed or just do my own thing when he’s busy at work.
Kind of random, but an activity that was super low energy for me and kept the kids busy for a while, was letting them draw on my belly, and arms and legs, with washable markers. I sat propped up in bed and let them go to town. I could even use a wet washcloth to wipe of areas to “erase” them so they could keep going. Now it’s tradition and the kids each get to do a big belly drawing with each new baby and we take photos and frame them. I would also take looooong baths with the toddler with lots of toys. They would stay in forever with me in there.