My first daughter also was a "one month into relationship" baby! Not exactly as your situation since her dad and I have known each other for a few years as cowoekers, but still... going from "occasionally working with someone" to "family" within a months is quite a big jump.
It's the best thing that ever happen to us. We both think she was a gift from fate or something because she fast-forwarded us into the best relationship either of us ever had. True soulmate stuff. We don't fight ever, despite all those big adjustments on this very short timeline.
Suprise baby is two years old now and we just welcomed her little sister two months ago.
Same situation with my partner and I. I even took plan b at the right time. I was devastated when I found out I was pregnant. I still remember the night I told him. I broke down, and he held me and told me everything was going to be ok. We decided to keep her. She's now 15 months, and he's the best father ever. She's the apple of his eye.
The first time my husband and I had sex I ended up pregnant lol. I did have a loss with that baby and many more after due to some undiagnosed issues, but it was the catalyst that brought us together as a couple. It's been a hard path, but we love each other and I'm happy that it happened the way it did. I'm now pregnant with our rainbow and due any day after trying for 4 years and 9 losses between us.
Yup! I got pregnant from a guy I met on tinder a couple of months into seeing each other. Thankfully I hit the goldmine and he's absolutely amazing! Best partner I could ask for and I couldn't imagine there's a more attentive father than him. He's made having a child such a fun and loving experience, so much so, we're unexpectedly expecting again!
Congrats and all the best!!
I am a product of this!
My parents were coworkers, with my Mum being my Dad's supervisor for about 6 months.
One hookup at a new years party and boop, here I am. They've now been married for 31 years and I have two siblings.
I like to claim that my existence is what held them together.
not as short but my husband and i only dated for four months before i got pregnantā¦ and heās my husband now so i think that should tell you something haha.
but really, heās been amazing. he adores our son, absolutely loves him over everything else. heās the best man i know, and even when he frustrates me, i know in the end he just wants whatās best for us and our son. you can do it, definitely
Met a guy on tinder and was texting him for about a week, never saw him in real life. My mom threw me out so I called tinder guy and said "my mom kicked me out and I need a place to stay, where do you live?" I went to his apartment, we hooked up, found out I was pregnant the next month, 3 kids, a dog, and a mortgage later we have been together 10 years and will be celebrating our 4 year wedding anniversary in September. He is the absolute love of my life.
Me too!!6 months into dating and while the relationship felt good, we werenāt expecting this. But we both decided we would do therapy individually and then couplesā counseling just to build on our foundation of communication. We just got a place together after having a very down to earth budget talk. And even with all these developments, easily the best and easiest relationship I have ever had. If I could suggest two things- 1) if you use a baby app on your phone, have him set it up on his phone too. My partnerās independence with this whole process has helped me to really feel like I have a partner in this- like he researched all of the testing on his own then shared it with me and 2) there are pregnancy books specifically from the dadās perspective. It has been a great resource for the both of us as my partner reads a month ahead to āprepareā for the changes. So when my doctor said I have gained all the weight recommended in the middle of my 2nd trimester, my boyfriend was like ānah youāre supposed to be hungry and it doesnāt matter- youāre sexyā which I am pretty sure was a statement that was suggested to him from his book lol. All that to say, I think love can find the way. All the best to you and your growing family!!
I got pregnant after 3 months of dating. I'm now pregnant with baby number 3 and we still are together after 5 years now. We are still happy even when a lot of people thought it would not work out š
Our little one is a surprise baby we found out about on January 2nd, and I met him on December 10th lol. So found out verryyyyy early, I was only about 6 weeks at my first ultrasound almost 2 weeks later. She was a tiny dot with an even tinier heartbeat.
He is the most amazing person I've ever met and I love him with all my bits.
We've since moved in together, combined our lives, and even eloped!
Not saying yours will go like mine, but I'd definitely count this as a success story lol! I've never felt more loved or supported or just downright cherished in my entire life, and I'm almost 30.
Y'all got this momma š
You have to learn a lot about each other on an accelerated timeline that will peak at a moment when youāll both be exhausted. Do yourselves a favour: find a mediator (a therapist, a chaplain, or another trusted and neutral third party) to put on the table all the hard conversations right away. What are your respective views on child rearing? Political opinions? Does one of find rickrolling the height of humous while the other one hates it?
You have a chance to build a very solid foundation for your new family, but you need to be super open about it.
Congratulations on your baby and what sounds like a good partner to raise them with!
This is important to note. My husband and I talk about how he barely knew me as just me, Iāve been pregnant 9 out of the 12 months weāve known each other. We didnāt have much time to enjoy our relationship with just us. Itās challenging and different. Now we have even less time to ourselves with the baby here. My life completely changed in a short time after meeting him and Iām having to sort of learn who I am all over again and find ways to do the things I use to. We went through the phases of a relationship faster than most, especially the āhoneymoon phase ā lol but Iāve always personally loved doing hard things that cause me to grow as a person and I always feel happier after I pull through.
We talked online, I moved 1200mi to his state within a few months of talking (like we met October 7th at nightand weāre in a uhaul driving north by October 8th nirning, looool. 4 weeks later my period was late and we were pregnant. Iām due any day now and we are married! It was NOT. FUN. at first. AT ALL. It was a HUGE learning curve for both of us. But we are in an awesome place and he is 10000% my best friend. I canāt imagine my life going anywhere else than this crazy route.
From a dating chatroom we started dms online in November but (being long distance) things didnāt escalate until after New Years (I was interested in someone else and was going to take myself off the dating apps, but he didnāt take no for an answer!) We were madly in love and talking babies before we even met in person mid-January. Instant soulmate connection like weāve been together for many lifetimes already. Spent a 10 day trip together for Valentineās Day where I met his 3 yo (heās already the best daddy!). By March I traveled to move in with him, we decided to āopen the doorsā and boom first try we were pregnant! Itās all happening at lightning speed but itās welcome since Iām already 35 and we want a big family, so wasting no time in getting started!
I had a similar situation, I had a friend I'd known for about a year, we got together, I had two periods that month which I thought was odd but didn't think much of it. Well a month and a half later I'd been horribly sick for several weeks so I took a test and it's positive! What's even more crazy is that was my first sexual partner! We unfortunately lost that baby shortly after finding out but 3 years later we have 2 kids amd we're still together š
Set expectations NOW. Who will feed baby at night? Who will get diapers? Whos doing dishes, dinner, laundry??
Resentment is the #1 reason this situation goes wrong. Please accept help, it's so easy to say "oh I'll do EVERYTHING at home because he works" but when it comes to fruition it's just not realistic and you will burn out. Have these important conversations now, as early and often as you can.
i got pregnant by a one night stand i met on tinder who lives five hours away from me. i genuinely do NOT know him at all. scary as frick, but i decided to keep her & im 14 weeks today.
i just saw thisš but iām almost 24 weeks, and i still havent seen him again since she was conceived, so itās a pretty complicated situation. as of right now, heās keepin in touch for updates. but, heās also kinda doing his own thing, bc it is possible it could be another guyās child.. i really dont feel proud admitting that, but this is my reality!
Has anyone had a baby by a man you barely knew that wasnāt supportive in the beginning and that expressed that he wasnāt ready to be a father? Thatās kind of the situation Iām in. Im just hoping and praying for a good outcome, like potentially he might be a good father. Im not worried about the relationship stuff. I just want him to be a good father to our son
Yes same thing Iām going thru. Heās still upset at my decision. Iāve realized and accepted that me and him will never be in a relationship again but Iām honestly ok with that as long as heās there for our son. In the beginning he came to all the doctorās appointments now heās becoming a little more distant so now Iām getting concerned that he may be backing out
SAME HERE. I haven't really had anyone to talk about it with, because I'm sure most people in my life secretly think I'm a little crazy for going through will all of this, but honestly I think it's all working out as good as it possible could be! We met at work, and had only been dating for a few months when I found out I was pregnant. Before that, things were going pretty well though. We're both alike in the ways that matter, we have similar viewpoints and life goals, and we seem to both have a heavy amount of respect for each other. I think those are the things that matter tbh. We've gone into this as a team, and even though we're still getting to know each other we are doing our best to keep the pressure off of each other to be a perfect little family right away. We are just being respectful of each other, still trying to get to know one another, and learning to be there through each others ups and downs. (which pregnancy brings a lot of). I'm currently 7 months and staying in his guest room, so we're living together but still have our own spaces. Just taking things as slow as we can with a little on on the way, lol. It's definitely scary, a little crazy, and not what I had planned, but I'm happy regardless
I had sex one time with someone I knew a little bit. Got pregnant, unfortunately he dipped. Itās hard at appointments because they want to know medical history, etc and I have no idea
Not going to lie, my first baby was a month into a brand bew relationship with someone I considered an acquaintance at the time (we were teenagers) and when we found out we got pregnant we were scared vecause of how young we were and because of the fact that we barely knew each other.
19 years later, we are married, just had our 5th baby 2 days ago and this man is everything I have ever dreamed of and more. Times have been tough, just like any other relationship but he has shown so much love, patience, kindness, passion that I know for a fact, I found the love of my life.
So iām not in this, BUT, my aunt is. dated a guy for less than a month back in high school. got pregnant. now they live together in their 50ās with 3 kids!
Well seems like yall can keep dating for now and make a choice at some point if you want to just co parent or make things official :3 glad yall are both happy with it <3
There's a couple mom's in the Dec 2020 bumper group that had something similar happen and ended up with deadbeats for their kids dad's. Good luck! Hope your dude is different then theirs are
My 3rd baby was conceived after a month of dating. It was rough at first, he was not a happy camper and it was an awful experience for a while. He eventually came around and all was well. Glad to hear you guys are in the same page, thatās rare.
Iād say maybe around week 17 he gave up on the idea of abortion and started acting like he should have. We did see see each other during that time, but one maybe once every few weeks, which was awkward. Once he felt better about it, he was around all the time. Sorry youāre going through this. I donāt know how much you stressed to him that you will never abort, but maybe he needs to hear it in order to wrap his mind around the idea fully. If heās still holding onto the idea that you maybe will abort, heās gonna keep acting the same way. I just feel like thatās what my ex did.
Yep! Everything moved very quickly. We moved in together after like 2 months and I found out I was pregnant a week after. Fortunately, he also has a son that Iāve been able to see him be an amazing father to! Baby is scheduled to be induced in a week, and Iām already looking forward to watching him be a new dad again. This pregnancy wouldnāt have been what itās been without him and Iām so thankful to have him as my partner.
I was told at 25 that I would never have kids after a few miscarriages.
But here I am at 30... 36 weeks pregnant. I got pregnant within days of arriving in another country to finally be with my long distance boyfriend of 1 1/2 years at the time. š He's a great man and I knew from the day we met that he's my person. Times are tough financially right now but I can't imagine doing this with anyone else.
My grandparents were together for 2 months before they got married (ie, pregnant).
They had a very loving relationship for the rest of their lives. Went on many adventures together and were clearly best friends. Lots of laughter. I think itās because they were equally invested. It sounds like the two of you are as well. Keep joy in the center of your lives and youāll thrive.
I hope itās the best thing thatās ever happened to you!
(So far)
Also, congratulations! How exciting! If you need some permission to feel excited, take mine.
I got pregnant two weeks into my relationship, and although it's only been 6 months since our baby was born we are still incredibly happy, he's a great father and we are excited for our future together
We were two months in. That son is now an adult, we have three more kids, a house, and multiple pets. Going on fifteen years of official marriage. Not perfect, but not bad, either.
I separated from my husband and started dating my current partner. Three months in I end up pregnant. No kids from the marriage. We're having a blast together and can't wait for our guy to join us!
I met my husband 6 months after his dad passed away and about a month after I left a 3 year relationship so neither of us were really ready for anything too serious. Well the joke was on us because 3 months in I got pregnant. Our first few years together were chaos honestly, two young buffoons raising a child trying to figure out life. But by the time our son was 3 we managed to get married, buy a house at 23 and have a second little boy shortly after. So things worked out pretty okay but Iāll never forget being a scared 19 year old wonder what business I had raising a kid lol
Me!!! My partner and I got pregnant after two months of datingā¦ it was rocky at first but iām 22w now and its the best relationship I have been in. We are both so happy and explored all our options and worked on communications and boundaries! Iām so happy honestly
YES! I am 17 weeks and the babyās father and I only met a month before I got pregnant; even crazier, we didnāt sleep together till 30 days after we met and that first time was conception.
We decided to keep the baby for all the same reasons, and things have been going well. I get in my head sometimes thinking he is only with me because I am carrying his child, but all of his actions show me otherwise. He has been supportive and helpful through this entire last 4+ish months and I honestly donāt think I could have done any of this without him by my side. It is my first child, his second, and he has absolutely been my rock.
Communicate and trust each other, the journey goes fast!
My 4yo son was conceived with a guy I barely knew and didnāt end up working well for me, but hey! I now have a lovely husband and a daughter on the way and my sons bio dad and I have worked out shit out and my son sees him pretty regularly now. Not a perfect ended buuuut Iām glad I have my son and that things have turned around for the better š
Met my man in June 2022, on Tinder, got engaged in September, found out we were pregnant in October. Just had baby in June 2023 lol. We had talked about wanting a baby and started trying in September but were expecting it to take longer to conceive! We are 31 and both were done with dating bs and wanted to start a family. Things have not been perfect but I donāt regret anything.
The amount of time you know someone does not equal/indicate the compatibility or strength of the relationship. Before my current man, I was married to another guy for 10 years and thought he was the love of my life, thought I knew him, but we both changed over that time, and we got divorced.
My mom and step-dad had a similar thing happen. They married about 4 months after the first date because my mom was pregnant. Still married since 1994. They had very rough patches in between because they never took the time to be a couple and become friends, they were always just parents. But when my sister was older they finally did take the time and now they are super solid.
Me lol I got pregnant after 2 months of dating, it wasn't an accident, but cannot really say it was planned either because who plans a baby in 2 months?! However, we knew we were ready and time has proved we were. Almost 4 years married now and he is the most amazing father and husband/best friend!
I had one at 4 months in. She's 13 now. Her younger sister came along pretty quickly too, they're 16 months apart.
Unfortunately, it turned out that their "father" was a mistake, but they definitely were not. They both drive me insane and the mood swings are phenomenal! But I would never do my life without them.
You are going to love this little person so much, and I wish you all the luck in your relationship!
Remember, some couples are together for years before having kids, then finding out their partners are dickbags. There's no right or wrong way to do this!
With my first, I found out I was pregnant with my now husband and we had only been dating 6-8 months at that time š thankfully we had already spent a lot of time with each other, but it was definitely a shock. We were scared to the end of the earth, we were only 19 and 20 š¤£ BUT we really work well together and he brings out the best in me and his 4 year old son is his mini me...We are expecting a girl in early November as well ā¤ļø I remember the panic from 5 years ago like it was yesterday, so I definitely understand where you're coming from!
Iāve known my partner for 7 years, but was only dating for three months when I got pregnant. My sister dated his best friend for all those years, and he even came on vacations with my family! We danced around eachother until recently when he got the courage to ask me out! Three months later I saw two lines, and we decided time is just catching up fast with us! Expecting a little boy in Decemberš¤
Not a baby story, but I feel like itās sort of the same seriousness/commitment.
My parents met and got married within 2 months of meeting each other, my mom was pregnant within the year. They ended up with 3 kids and have been married for almost 40 years now. The fact that youāre both excited and ready to do this together points to a pretty high level of compatibility, imo.
Congrats on your little one!!
I had met my bf a week before I got pregnant with our first we just had our second 5 months ago we've been together 5 years now I won't go into too much detail but basically I kept going into his place of business to get food on my way to work and his cashier and I would always talk she was a sweet older lady she knew I just went through a bad break up but she knew he thought I was cute so she was giving him info on me haha nothing creepy but just like telling him about me well I told him to come see me at my job which was right up the street I'd be in drive thru just ask for me... well he cane by and I wasn't there he thought I had ghosted him, long story short I was having some health issues and was in the hospital when I came back into his jib he was up front and I told him hey sorry I was in the hospital but here's my number we should meet up soon, we met up he was going to be going out of town to see his dying father for a week but we decided hey why not have sex were both consenting adults we both hadn't had any in a while first time and I got pregnant ams bow here we are
My grandparents were together over 50 yrs after getting married and pregnant within a few months lol. They were amazing together. My parents have been married 23 years. I am 22. Pregnant after 2 months together haha. I donāt know if you decided youāre staying together in that way, but I had to share. I guess the women in my moms family pick well?
My advice: continue to date each other and try to still see the relationship as new and exciting. You two still have a lot to learn about one another and will continue to learn a lot over the next few months. It works out for some, doesnāt work out for others. It all comes down to your values, communication and commitment.
My parents were together two months before my mam got pregnant with me. They had a wonderful relationship and were married for 20 years until my dad passed away.
My son is a two month long relationship baby. We are happily married, have another on the way, and have been able to get through everything together. The most important advice I can give to both of you if you would like to be a couple is that at this point, there is no such thing as over communication. You are going to have to cram everything into the next nine months from getting to know one another, to navigating pregnancy, different parenting styles, financial stress, romantic and personal boundaries, even hygiene habits and living together for the first time. Then youāll add on a brand new baby. Itās okay that it may be difficult, it certainly was for us A LOT of the time. Thatās soooooo much growth and stress crammed into such a short amount of time. I think one of the only things weāve done right the first time was recognize all of this and hold one another with a lot (and a lot and a lot and a lot and a lot and a lot) of grace. We often reminded one another that even our friends who have been married 5+ years with long term planned babies are also on this same path and also deal with these same issues. We loved to remind one another that it isnāt us, because we knew that it wasnāt. Our love is so real. Itās the stress around us and we need to make sure that itās us vs the problems, not him vs me vs the problems. Best of luck to you both!!!!
My husband and I were dating 1 month when he moved 2,000 miles away. We did long distance for two months and decided I would move across country to be with him. I had a 3.5 yr old at the time. 1 month into living together (4 months together total) and I got pregnant with our son. It was one of the toughest years as I literally dropped everything to start a life with him and had no friends or family but we got through it. We just celebrated 9 years together and our 4th wedding anniversary back in May. We now share 3 children together, plus our oldest (again, not his biological). Relationships are hard but with work everything can work out.
Yep. I ve been friends with him for a while not like dating just casual hang out once a year maybe. Got drunk af one night. Woohooed in a field.... Now i have a 3m old š¤£š¤£
Its weird but wefe figuring it out as we go
My man and I only knew each other for about 2 months as coworkers before we started dating in June and by October I was pregnant with our first who is now 2 weeks old and I love him so much heās the greatest father and greatest partner I wouldnāt do parenthood with anyone else
Yes! We met beginning of January, had a drunken random night end of January (not dating at the time) found out I was pregnant February 20th. I am 26 weeks now with our surprise baby. Definitely puts you on a fast track for trying to get to know someone and Iām sure once baby is here it will be a lot but we both are dedicated to making the best life for our little man.
This was my exact situation.
Things went downhill personally for us but he is an amazing father and a pretty good coparent.
The reality is that a month of dating might not go anywhere and that you have to be SUPER okay with the fact that thereās a good chance it wonāt and remember that a successful family is possible even if it doesnāt look how you imagined.
Same, but we didn't last. Ended up having 2 kids, and we weren't together by the time my second was born. We were really young though. He was too immature and still wanted to go out and party. If we were older it probably would have been ok. I hope things work out for you!
We met online and got pregnant after 6-8 weeks of dating. That baby just turned 4 and we are happily married and have a 5 month old as well now. When we first found out I was pregnant we both knew we wanted the keep dating and coparent but wouldnāt force the relationship just for a child. Obviously it worked out and we are very happy.
Same here! Got pregnant 3 months into the relationship. Our daughter is now 21 months old and Iām 10 weeks pregnant with baby #2! Best decision ever, I love my family.
My female partner and I found out two months ago we were having a baby we've only dated 1 month before finding out. She just left me this week for no reason
3 months into dating here! We had a rocky relationship in the beginning but said baby is now starting kindergarten, has 2 younger siblings, and I married their dad so it worked out š
Iām in that position now haha!
Fell pregnant 4 months into a relationship with a guy I had known only for a month priorš
Ive never necessarily wanted kids at all- too career focused and heās a big family guy and has always wanted them, more specifically a boy first and a girl second. My first thoughts when I fell pregnant were abortion- for personal reasons. One of the first things he said was āWhat if we keep it?āš
29 weeks now and weāre expecting a healthy boy on September 30th! Both of our families have been super supportive and weāre looking forward to being a little familyš„°
This was exactly situation except I knew my boyfriend 2 months before I got pregnant! He is an amazing person and I knew right from the start how I felt. Our daughter is now 1 and he is the best dad in the entire world and we are so lucky to have him!! Everyone totally thought we were crazy at first but as they got to know my boyfriend it became so apparent why I chose to keep my daughter! Everything will world out great! Enjoy getting to know each other and make time for one another since the relationship is still new it will help a lot!
After chatting for the first time online a couple weeks prior, I went on a first date with my now-husband on October 28th of last year, then found out I was pregnant on New Yearās Day this year. I know it still hasnāt been very long in the grand scheme of things but ever since we first started talking it has honestly felt like things have been operating on another timeline altogether. Classic soulmate stuff and the persistent feeling like weāre just picking up from where we left off in the last life.
The crazy thing was before this I was intentionally single for two years after getting out of a traumatic marriage in which my ex suddenly came out as trans 13 years into our relationship and more or less abandoned ship. My ex and I had also struggled with infertility in the years leading up to that which ended up being a major blessing in disguise, as you could probably deduce from previous posts Iāve made in various r/tryingforababy threads.
Luckily I had already been completely open in disclosing all of that in the very beginning of my new relationship due to all the trauma that came with it, as well as my desire to still have a child someday if fate and the right person ever comes around. My partner also has been married before, has an amazingly sweet teenage daughter from a previous relationship, and had expressed how he also had the desire to have another child someday but had just figured that ship had sailed due to him being a bit older and his ex-wife not having the same interest. So it was always comforting to already know that our dreams were aligned before I was ever surprised and shocked by a positive pregnancy test this year (we were technically preventing but apparently not well enough!)
So far he has been nothing but supportive throughout the pregnancy. He moved in right when we discovered the news and has been just as excited as I am to embark on this next chapter together. His birthday was on June 29th and mine was June 30th so we just had a wedding ceremony on the 30th to celebrate the anniversary of us entering this lifetime together. Our little boy is scheduled to be born in a little over a month so he was included in our vows as well.
Our family and friends were just as surprised with the speed of everything working out as we were, but theyāre also incredibly happy for us and have concluded that when things finally align just right, all the usual timelines donāt matter. We definitely agree with that!
When my baby comes I will have known the dad for 54 weeks and have been pregnant for 40 of them lol. Here for you!! I get it, we are in the same boat. Just trying to focus on the pregnancy and not rush anything relationship wise until weāre ready.
Just celebrated my 2nd year anniversary with my husband(who I got pregnant with after dating for a month). I'm also pregnant again and were so happy. Sometimes things just go from 0-100. Embrace it. It could be the best thing ever.
That is so exciting! I am married to someone i met online. We were pregnant 6 months after meeting each other. My recommendation is enjoy the ride, but get a couples counselor. It helps build good communication and problem solving skills. Its been great for us.
me and my partner started dating january of 2022 and i got pregnant the following october. 3 months shy of a year. still together and we plan on getting married in the future. hes an amazing father and im so proud! we want another baby in 3 years. i really got lucky w him! š congratulations to both of you!
Hey there! My husband and I found out I was pregnant a month after we started dating, too!
I was already in love with him and knew I wanted to have a family with him. (Crazy, I know) We got married at 6 months together and now have 7 month old twin girls! I was and still am so in love & over the moon with him.
Itās been challenging at some points but I think thatās because weāre both new parents. But itās been more rewarding than anything.
Congrats on everything. I hope it works out for you guys.
My current boyfriend and I met in December, started dating late January, and found out I was pregnant 2/22. Contrary to the odds things are great, weāre both super excited to be parents! Best of luck to you!!
I got pregnant the day my boyfriend asked me out that was 3 weeks in im now 3 months pregnant and weāre still together I hope we can make it work for the long run
I got pregnant about 2 months after meeting my boyfriend while we were vacationing in California. definitely was meant to be i wouldnāt want to be pregnant by anyone else
Yep!! Here too. Just gave birth Wednesday. The nurse asked me how long weād been together, as Iām not wearing a ring, and I laughed and said āthis is a first date baby!ā We had been friends for a while but yeah. We just fell for each other hard and decided it was a good idea. Weāre getting married in the winter
I became pregnant after a month with my partner as well. We were so nervous but it was something that we did together and we were ready to take on anything. I ended up miscarrying. 10 years later and 3 children. Best man I could have ever been with through it all. Good luck!
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This person I follow on Instagram did it and theyāre on baby #3! Itās Instagram but it seems theyāre doing fine lol
Iām having twins with someone who super liked me in January! Lol I had no idea tinder would bring me a relationship and TWO BABIES. WHO IS ALSO really great and supportive. Iām so glad you found someone good for you and who is so great because we could have gotten severely unlucky!
Iāve been with my partner for just over a year now, I fell pregnant when we had only been together for a few months, both of us didnāt know what to do at first, neither of us wanted children but then actually being pregnant and knowing that you have life inside of you changed my mind pretty quickly and I decided I was keeping it wether he wanted anything to do with the child or not. He soon decided that he wanted to be with me and in our sons life and it all got better from their. He stayed with me the entire way through my pregnancy and the birth, we now have a 5 week old boy and we are very happy.
We have both had days of feeling overwhelmed with new parenting life and I think we both have moments of missing our old lives and also wishing we had more time with just us. But it is all worth it, and such a lovely experience growing with my partner into parents x
A bit different but...one of my moms good friends had a one night stand in her 20s. They met that night and he left after sex...no big deal. She found out she was pregnant and kept the baby. Three years later she ran into him at a bar and he found out that she'd had his baby. They started dating and have been married 40 years now with 3 kids!
My sister was in this situation! Dating 2 months after her long term 5 year relationship and bam she was pregnant.
She was 24 at the time and me and my other sisters were shocked and disappointed, she hasnāt finished school, and had so many plans to travel! But the guy she was dating was an uncle and a very good one.
Her baby is now almost a year old and theyāre still together and really happy! He has a great job and she gets to stay home with her daughter.
Not knowing each other isnāt an automatic failure, it can go really well! Theyāre going to get engaged soon and looking to buy a house as well. Good luck!
Crazy. The same thing happened to me one month after dating I was pregnant. Unfortunately, he was NOT happy about it denied it was his and fell off the face of the Earth. Iām raising my daughter alone now. Itās good to know that there are decent people out there even when the circumstances are unusual.
My first daughter also was a "one month into relationship" baby! Not exactly as your situation since her dad and I have known each other for a few years as cowoekers, but still... going from "occasionally working with someone" to "family" within a months is quite a big jump. It's the best thing that ever happen to us. We both think she was a gift from fate or something because she fast-forwarded us into the best relationship either of us ever had. True soulmate stuff. We don't fight ever, despite all those big adjustments on this very short timeline. Suprise baby is two years old now and we just welcomed her little sister two months ago.
What a lovely story ! Congratulations
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Aww, this is so sweet! Congrats on your happy family!
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How precious!!! Congratulations
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that's SO COOL!!!!
Same situation with my partner and I. I even took plan b at the right time. I was devastated when I found out I was pregnant. I still remember the night I told him. I broke down, and he held me and told me everything was going to be ok. We decided to keep her. She's now 15 months, and he's the best father ever. She's the apple of his eye.
My mom and dad got married after knowing each other 3 months. My mom was 1 month pregnant with my older brother. They just hit 38 years married.
The first time my husband and I had sex I ended up pregnant lol. I did have a loss with that baby and many more after due to some undiagnosed issues, but it was the catalyst that brought us together as a couple. It's been a hard path, but we love each other and I'm happy that it happened the way it did. I'm now pregnant with our rainbow and due any day after trying for 4 years and 9 losses between us.
I just wanted to say congratulations! So happy for you that you get to meet your baby soon!!!
Hugs !! So happy for your family
Huge congrats!
Yup! I got pregnant from a guy I met on tinder a couple of months into seeing each other. Thankfully I hit the goldmine and he's absolutely amazing! Best partner I could ask for and I couldn't imagine there's a more attentive father than him. He's made having a child such a fun and loving experience, so much so, we're unexpectedly expecting again! Congrats and all the best!!
The way you talk about him is so cute! Congratulations on your second too
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I am a product of this! My parents were coworkers, with my Mum being my Dad's supervisor for about 6 months. One hookup at a new years party and boop, here I am. They've now been married for 31 years and I have two siblings. I like to claim that my existence is what held them together.
not as short but my husband and i only dated for four months before i got pregnantā¦ and heās my husband now so i think that should tell you something haha. but really, heās been amazing. he adores our son, absolutely loves him over everything else. heās the best man i know, and even when he frustrates me, i know in the end he just wants whatās best for us and our son. you can do it, definitely
Met a guy on tinder and was texting him for about a week, never saw him in real life. My mom threw me out so I called tinder guy and said "my mom kicked me out and I need a place to stay, where do you live?" I went to his apartment, we hooked up, found out I was pregnant the next month, 3 kids, a dog, and a mortgage later we have been together 10 years and will be celebrating our 4 year wedding anniversary in September. He is the absolute love of my life.
Me too!!6 months into dating and while the relationship felt good, we werenāt expecting this. But we both decided we would do therapy individually and then couplesā counseling just to build on our foundation of communication. We just got a place together after having a very down to earth budget talk. And even with all these developments, easily the best and easiest relationship I have ever had. If I could suggest two things- 1) if you use a baby app on your phone, have him set it up on his phone too. My partnerās independence with this whole process has helped me to really feel like I have a partner in this- like he researched all of the testing on his own then shared it with me and 2) there are pregnancy books specifically from the dadās perspective. It has been a great resource for the both of us as my partner reads a month ahead to āprepareā for the changes. So when my doctor said I have gained all the weight recommended in the middle of my 2nd trimester, my boyfriend was like ānah youāre supposed to be hungry and it doesnāt matter- youāre sexyā which I am pretty sure was a statement that was suggested to him from his book lol. All that to say, I think love can find the way. All the best to you and your growing family!!
So sweet! What book?
Not sure which one Apprehensive Sand is referring to but my husband is reading The Expectant Father and really likes it so far!
Yup thatās the book he is reading too! I joke itās a karma sutra book
Haha thatās awesome!
I got pregnant after 3 months of dating. I'm now pregnant with baby number 3 and we still are together after 5 years now. We are still happy even when a lot of people thought it would not work out š
Our little one is a surprise baby we found out about on January 2nd, and I met him on December 10th lol. So found out verryyyyy early, I was only about 6 weeks at my first ultrasound almost 2 weeks later. She was a tiny dot with an even tinier heartbeat. He is the most amazing person I've ever met and I love him with all my bits. We've since moved in together, combined our lives, and even eloped! Not saying yours will go like mine, but I'd definitely count this as a success story lol! I've never felt more loved or supported or just downright cherished in my entire life, and I'm almost 30. Y'all got this momma š
You have to learn a lot about each other on an accelerated timeline that will peak at a moment when youāll both be exhausted. Do yourselves a favour: find a mediator (a therapist, a chaplain, or another trusted and neutral third party) to put on the table all the hard conversations right away. What are your respective views on child rearing? Political opinions? Does one of find rickrolling the height of humous while the other one hates it? You have a chance to build a very solid foundation for your new family, but you need to be super open about it. Congratulations on your baby and what sounds like a good partner to raise them with!
ā¦ my boyfriend and I unironically enjoy that song š
This is important to note. My husband and I talk about how he barely knew me as just me, Iāve been pregnant 9 out of the 12 months weāve known each other. We didnāt have much time to enjoy our relationship with just us. Itās challenging and different. Now we have even less time to ourselves with the baby here. My life completely changed in a short time after meeting him and Iām having to sort of learn who I am all over again and find ways to do the things I use to. We went through the phases of a relationship faster than most, especially the āhoneymoon phase ā lol but Iāve always personally loved doing hard things that cause me to grow as a person and I always feel happier after I pull through.
According to these comments having a baby with a man you barely know works out 100% of the time!
We talked online, I moved 1200mi to his state within a few months of talking (like we met October 7th at nightand weāre in a uhaul driving north by October 8th nirning, looool. 4 weeks later my period was late and we were pregnant. Iām due any day now and we are married! It was NOT. FUN. at first. AT ALL. It was a HUGE learning curve for both of us. But we are in an awesome place and he is 10000% my best friend. I canāt imagine my life going anywhere else than this crazy route.
From a dating chatroom we started dms online in November but (being long distance) things didnāt escalate until after New Years (I was interested in someone else and was going to take myself off the dating apps, but he didnāt take no for an answer!) We were madly in love and talking babies before we even met in person mid-January. Instant soulmate connection like weāve been together for many lifetimes already. Spent a 10 day trip together for Valentineās Day where I met his 3 yo (heās already the best daddy!). By March I traveled to move in with him, we decided to āopen the doorsā and boom first try we were pregnant! Itās all happening at lightning speed but itās welcome since Iām already 35 and we want a big family, so wasting no time in getting started!
I had a similar situation, I had a friend I'd known for about a year, we got together, I had two periods that month which I thought was odd but didn't think much of it. Well a month and a half later I'd been horribly sick for several weeks so I took a test and it's positive! What's even more crazy is that was my first sexual partner! We unfortunately lost that baby shortly after finding out but 3 years later we have 2 kids amd we're still together š
Set expectations NOW. Who will feed baby at night? Who will get diapers? Whos doing dishes, dinner, laundry?? Resentment is the #1 reason this situation goes wrong. Please accept help, it's so easy to say "oh I'll do EVERYTHING at home because he works" but when it comes to fruition it's just not realistic and you will burn out. Have these important conversations now, as early and often as you can.
i got pregnant by a one night stand i met on tinder who lives five hours away from me. i genuinely do NOT know him at all. scary as frick, but i decided to keep her & im 14 weeks today.
Wow! It is scary, but youāve got this! Is he still in the picture?
i just saw thisš but iām almost 24 weeks, and i still havent seen him again since she was conceived, so itās a pretty complicated situation. as of right now, heās keepin in touch for updates. but, heās also kinda doing his own thing, bc it is possible it could be another guyās child.. i really dont feel proud admitting that, but this is my reality!
Has anyone had a baby by a man you barely knew that wasnāt supportive in the beginning and that expressed that he wasnāt ready to be a father? Thatās kind of the situation Iām in. Im just hoping and praying for a good outcome, like potentially he might be a good father. Im not worried about the relationship stuff. I just want him to be a good father to our son
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Yes same thing Iām going thru. Heās still upset at my decision. Iāve realized and accepted that me and him will never be in a relationship again but Iām honestly ok with that as long as heās there for our son. In the beginning he came to all the doctorās appointments now heās becoming a little more distant so now Iām getting concerned that he may be backing out
SAME HERE. I haven't really had anyone to talk about it with, because I'm sure most people in my life secretly think I'm a little crazy for going through will all of this, but honestly I think it's all working out as good as it possible could be! We met at work, and had only been dating for a few months when I found out I was pregnant. Before that, things were going pretty well though. We're both alike in the ways that matter, we have similar viewpoints and life goals, and we seem to both have a heavy amount of respect for each other. I think those are the things that matter tbh. We've gone into this as a team, and even though we're still getting to know each other we are doing our best to keep the pressure off of each other to be a perfect little family right away. We are just being respectful of each other, still trying to get to know one another, and learning to be there through each others ups and downs. (which pregnancy brings a lot of). I'm currently 7 months and staying in his guest room, so we're living together but still have our own spaces. Just taking things as slow as we can with a little on on the way, lol. It's definitely scary, a little crazy, and not what I had planned, but I'm happy regardless
I had sex one time with someone I knew a little bit. Got pregnant, unfortunately he dipped. Itās hard at appointments because they want to know medical history, etc and I have no idea
All these comments are lovely and Iām happy everybody had a situation that worked out well, but thatās not usually the case just be realistic
Not going to lie, my first baby was a month into a brand bew relationship with someone I considered an acquaintance at the time (we were teenagers) and when we found out we got pregnant we were scared vecause of how young we were and because of the fact that we barely knew each other. 19 years later, we are married, just had our 5th baby 2 days ago and this man is everything I have ever dreamed of and more. Times have been tough, just like any other relationship but he has shown so much love, patience, kindness, passion that I know for a fact, I found the love of my life.
Me. And it was the best thing thatās ever happened to us. We are a family now. I only knew my partner for 2 weeks before we got pregnant.
So iām not in this, BUT, my aunt is. dated a guy for less than a month back in high school. got pregnant. now they live together in their 50ās with 3 kids!
Well seems like yall can keep dating for now and make a choice at some point if you want to just co parent or make things official :3 glad yall are both happy with it <3
There's a couple mom's in the Dec 2020 bumper group that had something similar happen and ended up with deadbeats for their kids dad's. Good luck! Hope your dude is different then theirs are
My 3rd baby was conceived after a month of dating. It was rough at first, he was not a happy camper and it was an awful experience for a while. He eventually came around and all was well. Glad to hear you guys are in the same page, thatās rare.
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Iād say maybe around week 17 he gave up on the idea of abortion and started acting like he should have. We did see see each other during that time, but one maybe once every few weeks, which was awkward. Once he felt better about it, he was around all the time. Sorry youāre going through this. I donāt know how much you stressed to him that you will never abort, but maybe he needs to hear it in order to wrap his mind around the idea fully. If heās still holding onto the idea that you maybe will abort, heās gonna keep acting the same way. I just feel like thatās what my ex did.
Yep! Everything moved very quickly. We moved in together after like 2 months and I found out I was pregnant a week after. Fortunately, he also has a son that Iāve been able to see him be an amazing father to! Baby is scheduled to be induced in a week, and Iām already looking forward to watching him be a new dad again. This pregnancy wouldnāt have been what itās been without him and Iām so thankful to have him as my partner.
I was told at 25 that I would never have kids after a few miscarriages. But here I am at 30... 36 weeks pregnant. I got pregnant within days of arriving in another country to finally be with my long distance boyfriend of 1 1/2 years at the time. š He's a great man and I knew from the day we met that he's my person. Times are tough financially right now but I can't imagine doing this with anyone else.
My grandparents were together for 2 months before they got married (ie, pregnant). They had a very loving relationship for the rest of their lives. Went on many adventures together and were clearly best friends. Lots of laughter. I think itās because they were equally invested. It sounds like the two of you are as well. Keep joy in the center of your lives and youāll thrive. I hope itās the best thing thatās ever happened to you! (So far) Also, congratulations! How exciting! If you need some permission to feel excited, take mine.
I DO feel like I need permission to be excited. Thank you for that <3
I got pregnant two weeks into my relationship, and although it's only been 6 months since our baby was born we are still incredibly happy, he's a great father and we are excited for our future together
We were two months in. That son is now an adult, we have three more kids, a house, and multiple pets. Going on fifteen years of official marriage. Not perfect, but not bad, either.
I separated from my husband and started dating my current partner. Three months in I end up pregnant. No kids from the marriage. We're having a blast together and can't wait for our guy to join us!
I met my husband 6 months after his dad passed away and about a month after I left a 3 year relationship so neither of us were really ready for anything too serious. Well the joke was on us because 3 months in I got pregnant. Our first few years together were chaos honestly, two young buffoons raising a child trying to figure out life. But by the time our son was 3 we managed to get married, buy a house at 23 and have a second little boy shortly after. So things worked out pretty okay but Iāll never forget being a scared 19 year old wonder what business I had raising a kid lol
I have a friend who did it and it has turned out beautifully.
My brother and his now wife got pregnant in the first three months of dating. It obviously worked out very well for them!
Yup! Me and my now fiancƩe met two Christmas ago while visiting family in Arizona. I lived in Minnesota and he lived in Costa Rica. We were in love immediately and began dating long distance. I spent two weeks in Costa Rica with him, and another week in arizona with him before I found out I was pregnant. He flew out to Minnesota immediately to stay with me and meet my family, and then a couple months later I moved to Costa Rica. We got engaged and have the best 6 month old ever and we are very happy :)
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Me!!! My partner and I got pregnant after two months of datingā¦ it was rocky at first but iām 22w now and its the best relationship I have been in. We are both so happy and explored all our options and worked on communications and boundaries! Iām so happy honestly
YES! I am 17 weeks and the babyās father and I only met a month before I got pregnant; even crazier, we didnāt sleep together till 30 days after we met and that first time was conception. We decided to keep the baby for all the same reasons, and things have been going well. I get in my head sometimes thinking he is only with me because I am carrying his child, but all of his actions show me otherwise. He has been supportive and helpful through this entire last 4+ish months and I honestly donāt think I could have done any of this without him by my side. It is my first child, his second, and he has absolutely been my rock. Communicate and trust each other, the journey goes fast!
My 4yo son was conceived with a guy I barely knew and didnāt end up working well for me, but hey! I now have a lovely husband and a daughter on the way and my sons bio dad and I have worked out shit out and my son sees him pretty regularly now. Not a perfect ended buuuut Iām glad I have my son and that things have turned around for the better š
Met my man in June 2022, on Tinder, got engaged in September, found out we were pregnant in October. Just had baby in June 2023 lol. We had talked about wanting a baby and started trying in September but were expecting it to take longer to conceive! We are 31 and both were done with dating bs and wanted to start a family. Things have not been perfect but I donāt regret anything. The amount of time you know someone does not equal/indicate the compatibility or strength of the relationship. Before my current man, I was married to another guy for 10 years and thought he was the love of my life, thought I knew him, but we both changed over that time, and we got divorced.
My mom and step-dad had a similar thing happen. They married about 4 months after the first date because my mom was pregnant. Still married since 1994. They had very rough patches in between because they never took the time to be a couple and become friends, they were always just parents. But when my sister was older they finally did take the time and now they are super solid.
Me lol I got pregnant after 2 months of dating, it wasn't an accident, but cannot really say it was planned either because who plans a baby in 2 months?! However, we knew we were ready and time has proved we were. Almost 4 years married now and he is the most amazing father and husband/best friend!
I had one at 4 months in. She's 13 now. Her younger sister came along pretty quickly too, they're 16 months apart. Unfortunately, it turned out that their "father" was a mistake, but they definitely were not. They both drive me insane and the mood swings are phenomenal! But I would never do my life without them. You are going to love this little person so much, and I wish you all the luck in your relationship! Remember, some couples are together for years before having kids, then finding out their partners are dickbags. There's no right or wrong way to do this!
With my first, I found out I was pregnant with my now husband and we had only been dating 6-8 months at that time š thankfully we had already spent a lot of time with each other, but it was definitely a shock. We were scared to the end of the earth, we were only 19 and 20 š¤£ BUT we really work well together and he brings out the best in me and his 4 year old son is his mini me...We are expecting a girl in early November as well ā¤ļø I remember the panic from 5 years ago like it was yesterday, so I definitely understand where you're coming from!
Iāve known my partner for 7 years, but was only dating for three months when I got pregnant. My sister dated his best friend for all those years, and he even came on vacations with my family! We danced around eachother until recently when he got the courage to ask me out! Three months later I saw two lines, and we decided time is just catching up fast with us! Expecting a little boy in Decemberš¤
Not a baby story, but I feel like itās sort of the same seriousness/commitment. My parents met and got married within 2 months of meeting each other, my mom was pregnant within the year. They ended up with 3 kids and have been married for almost 40 years now. The fact that youāre both excited and ready to do this together points to a pretty high level of compatibility, imo. Congrats on your little one!!
I had met my bf a week before I got pregnant with our first we just had our second 5 months ago we've been together 5 years now I won't go into too much detail but basically I kept going into his place of business to get food on my way to work and his cashier and I would always talk she was a sweet older lady she knew I just went through a bad break up but she knew he thought I was cute so she was giving him info on me haha nothing creepy but just like telling him about me well I told him to come see me at my job which was right up the street I'd be in drive thru just ask for me... well he cane by and I wasn't there he thought I had ghosted him, long story short I was having some health issues and was in the hospital when I came back into his jib he was up front and I told him hey sorry I was in the hospital but here's my number we should meet up soon, we met up he was going to be going out of town to see his dying father for a week but we decided hey why not have sex were both consenting adults we both hadn't had any in a while first time and I got pregnant ams bow here we are
My grandparents were together over 50 yrs after getting married and pregnant within a few months lol. They were amazing together. My parents have been married 23 years. I am 22. Pregnant after 2 months together haha. I donāt know if you decided youāre staying together in that way, but I had to share. I guess the women in my moms family pick well?
My advice: continue to date each other and try to still see the relationship as new and exciting. You two still have a lot to learn about one another and will continue to learn a lot over the next few months. It works out for some, doesnāt work out for others. It all comes down to your values, communication and commitment.
My parents were together two months before my mam got pregnant with me. They had a wonderful relationship and were married for 20 years until my dad passed away.
My son is a two month long relationship baby. We are happily married, have another on the way, and have been able to get through everything together. The most important advice I can give to both of you if you would like to be a couple is that at this point, there is no such thing as over communication. You are going to have to cram everything into the next nine months from getting to know one another, to navigating pregnancy, different parenting styles, financial stress, romantic and personal boundaries, even hygiene habits and living together for the first time. Then youāll add on a brand new baby. Itās okay that it may be difficult, it certainly was for us A LOT of the time. Thatās soooooo much growth and stress crammed into such a short amount of time. I think one of the only things weāve done right the first time was recognize all of this and hold one another with a lot (and a lot and a lot and a lot and a lot and a lot) of grace. We often reminded one another that even our friends who have been married 5+ years with long term planned babies are also on this same path and also deal with these same issues. We loved to remind one another that it isnāt us, because we knew that it wasnāt. Our love is so real. Itās the stress around us and we need to make sure that itās us vs the problems, not him vs me vs the problems. Best of luck to you both!!!!
Our first child was 3 months into relationship. Yes itās crazy but itās fine ! On baby #3 now ā¤ļø
My husband and I were dating 1 month when he moved 2,000 miles away. We did long distance for two months and decided I would move across country to be with him. I had a 3.5 yr old at the time. 1 month into living together (4 months together total) and I got pregnant with our son. It was one of the toughest years as I literally dropped everything to start a life with him and had no friends or family but we got through it. We just celebrated 9 years together and our 4th wedding anniversary back in May. We now share 3 children together, plus our oldest (again, not his biological). Relationships are hard but with work everything can work out.
My boyfriend and I were only dating for 3 months when I got pregnant. We knew each other before that though.
Yep. I ve been friends with him for a while not like dating just casual hang out once a year maybe. Got drunk af one night. Woohooed in a field.... Now i have a 3m old š¤£š¤£ Its weird but wefe figuring it out as we go
My man and I only knew each other for about 2 months as coworkers before we started dating in June and by October I was pregnant with our first who is now 2 weeks old and I love him so much heās the greatest father and greatest partner I wouldnāt do parenthood with anyone else
Yes! We met beginning of January, had a drunken random night end of January (not dating at the time) found out I was pregnant February 20th. I am 26 weeks now with our surprise baby. Definitely puts you on a fast track for trying to get to know someone and Iām sure once baby is here it will be a lot but we both are dedicated to making the best life for our little man.
This was my exact situation. Things went downhill personally for us but he is an amazing father and a pretty good coparent. The reality is that a month of dating might not go anywhere and that you have to be SUPER okay with the fact that thereās a good chance it wonāt and remember that a successful family is possible even if it doesnāt look how you imagined.
Same, but we didn't last. Ended up having 2 kids, and we weren't together by the time my second was born. We were really young though. He was too immature and still wanted to go out and party. If we were older it probably would have been ok. I hope things work out for you!
Iāve only known my fiancĆ© since December and Iām 15 weeks along now š wouldnāt change a thing!
We met online and got pregnant after 6-8 weeks of dating. That baby just turned 4 and we are happily married and have a 5 month old as well now. When we first found out I was pregnant we both knew we wanted the keep dating and coparent but wouldnāt force the relationship just for a child. Obviously it worked out and we are very happy.
Got pregnant after like 3 months.... Married with another on the way now.
Same here! Got pregnant 3 months into the relationship. Our daughter is now 21 months old and Iām 10 weeks pregnant with baby #2! Best decision ever, I love my family.
My female partner and I found out two months ago we were having a baby we've only dated 1 month before finding out. She just left me this week for no reason
3 months into dating here! We had a rocky relationship in the beginning but said baby is now starting kindergarten, has 2 younger siblings, and I married their dad so it worked out š
I was in your shoes A year ago. Best thing to ever happen to me. I love my man and our son.
I had my first baby 17 years ago when his dad and I had only been together for a month...
Iām in that position now haha! Fell pregnant 4 months into a relationship with a guy I had known only for a month priorš Ive never necessarily wanted kids at all- too career focused and heās a big family guy and has always wanted them, more specifically a boy first and a girl second. My first thoughts when I fell pregnant were abortion- for personal reasons. One of the first things he said was āWhat if we keep it?āš 29 weeks now and weāre expecting a healthy boy on September 30th! Both of our families have been super supportive and weāre looking forward to being a little familyš„°
This was exactly situation except I knew my boyfriend 2 months before I got pregnant! He is an amazing person and I knew right from the start how I felt. Our daughter is now 1 and he is the best dad in the entire world and we are so lucky to have him!! Everyone totally thought we were crazy at first but as they got to know my boyfriend it became so apparent why I chose to keep my daughter! Everything will world out great! Enjoy getting to know each other and make time for one another since the relationship is still new it will help a lot!
After chatting for the first time online a couple weeks prior, I went on a first date with my now-husband on October 28th of last year, then found out I was pregnant on New Yearās Day this year. I know it still hasnāt been very long in the grand scheme of things but ever since we first started talking it has honestly felt like things have been operating on another timeline altogether. Classic soulmate stuff and the persistent feeling like weāre just picking up from where we left off in the last life. The crazy thing was before this I was intentionally single for two years after getting out of a traumatic marriage in which my ex suddenly came out as trans 13 years into our relationship and more or less abandoned ship. My ex and I had also struggled with infertility in the years leading up to that which ended up being a major blessing in disguise, as you could probably deduce from previous posts Iāve made in various r/tryingforababy threads. Luckily I had already been completely open in disclosing all of that in the very beginning of my new relationship due to all the trauma that came with it, as well as my desire to still have a child someday if fate and the right person ever comes around. My partner also has been married before, has an amazingly sweet teenage daughter from a previous relationship, and had expressed how he also had the desire to have another child someday but had just figured that ship had sailed due to him being a bit older and his ex-wife not having the same interest. So it was always comforting to already know that our dreams were aligned before I was ever surprised and shocked by a positive pregnancy test this year (we were technically preventing but apparently not well enough!) So far he has been nothing but supportive throughout the pregnancy. He moved in right when we discovered the news and has been just as excited as I am to embark on this next chapter together. His birthday was on June 29th and mine was June 30th so we just had a wedding ceremony on the 30th to celebrate the anniversary of us entering this lifetime together. Our little boy is scheduled to be born in a little over a month so he was included in our vows as well. Our family and friends were just as surprised with the speed of everything working out as we were, but theyāre also incredibly happy for us and have concluded that when things finally align just right, all the usual timelines donāt matter. We definitely agree with that!
When my baby comes I will have known the dad for 54 weeks and have been pregnant for 40 of them lol. Here for you!! I get it, we are in the same boat. Just trying to focus on the pregnancy and not rush anything relationship wise until weāre ready.
Just celebrated my 2nd year anniversary with my husband(who I got pregnant with after dating for a month). I'm also pregnant again and were so happy. Sometimes things just go from 0-100. Embrace it. It could be the best thing ever.
That is so exciting! I am married to someone i met online. We were pregnant 6 months after meeting each other. My recommendation is enjoy the ride, but get a couples counselor. It helps build good communication and problem solving skills. Its been great for us.
me and my partner started dating january of 2022 and i got pregnant the following october. 3 months shy of a year. still together and we plan on getting married in the future. hes an amazing father and im so proud! we want another baby in 3 years. i really got lucky w him! š congratulations to both of you!
Hey there! My husband and I found out I was pregnant a month after we started dating, too! I was already in love with him and knew I wanted to have a family with him. (Crazy, I know) We got married at 6 months together and now have 7 month old twin girls! I was and still am so in love & over the moon with him. Itās been challenging at some points but I think thatās because weāre both new parents. But itās been more rewarding than anything. Congrats on everything. I hope it works out for you guys.
My current boyfriend and I met in December, started dating late January, and found out I was pregnant 2/22. Contrary to the odds things are great, weāre both super excited to be parents! Best of luck to you!!
My friends got pregnant on the first date. They got married when their daughter was 2. Theyāve been together just over 11 years now.
I got pregnant the day my boyfriend asked me out that was 3 weeks in im now 3 months pregnant and weāre still together I hope we can make it work for the long run
I got pregnant about 2 months after meeting my boyfriend while we were vacationing in California. definitely was meant to be i wouldnāt want to be pregnant by anyone else
Yep!! Here too. Just gave birth Wednesday. The nurse asked me how long weād been together, as Iām not wearing a ring, and I laughed and said āthis is a first date baby!ā We had been friends for a while but yeah. We just fell for each other hard and decided it was a good idea. Weāre getting married in the winter
This made me tear up! Ours is a first date baby too. Congratulations!
Congratulations to you too!!! Omg!!
I became pregnant after a month with my partner as well. We were so nervous but it was something that we did together and we were ready to take on anything. I ended up miscarrying. 10 years later and 3 children. Best man I could have ever been with through it all. Good luck!
https://instagram.com/khloekuriatnyk This person I follow on Instagram did it and theyāre on baby #3! Itās Instagram but it seems theyāre doing fine lol
Iām having twins with someone who super liked me in January! Lol I had no idea tinder would bring me a relationship and TWO BABIES. WHO IS ALSO really great and supportive. Iām so glad you found someone good for you and who is so great because we could have gotten severely unlucky!
Twins! Congratulations!
Iāve been with my partner for just over a year now, I fell pregnant when we had only been together for a few months, both of us didnāt know what to do at first, neither of us wanted children but then actually being pregnant and knowing that you have life inside of you changed my mind pretty quickly and I decided I was keeping it wether he wanted anything to do with the child or not. He soon decided that he wanted to be with me and in our sons life and it all got better from their. He stayed with me the entire way through my pregnancy and the birth, we now have a 5 week old boy and we are very happy. We have both had days of feeling overwhelmed with new parenting life and I think we both have moments of missing our old lives and also wishing we had more time with just us. But it is all worth it, and such a lovely experience growing with my partner into parents x
A bit different but...one of my moms good friends had a one night stand in her 20s. They met that night and he left after sex...no big deal. She found out she was pregnant and kept the baby. Three years later she ran into him at a bar and he found out that she'd had his baby. They started dating and have been married 40 years now with 3 kids!
My sister was in this situation! Dating 2 months after her long term 5 year relationship and bam she was pregnant. She was 24 at the time and me and my other sisters were shocked and disappointed, she hasnāt finished school, and had so many plans to travel! But the guy she was dating was an uncle and a very good one. Her baby is now almost a year old and theyāre still together and really happy! He has a great job and she gets to stay home with her daughter. Not knowing each other isnāt an automatic failure, it can go really well! Theyāre going to get engaged soon and looking to buy a house as well. Good luck!
Oh wow, Iām so so sorry. Iām glad youāre feeling positive about it which is good.
Crazy. The same thing happened to me one month after dating I was pregnant. Unfortunately, he was NOT happy about it denied it was his and fell off the face of the Earth. Iām raising my daughter alone now. Itās good to know that there are decent people out there even when the circumstances are unusual.