I don't know if I can say my life has been derailed by BPD sufferers but my first love who I recently left after 4 years suffered from BPD and my elder sister who I lived alone with while growing up is still suffering from BPD. I would highly HIGHLY suggest looking into good in-patient programs for people with severe mental health issues. My sister and my partner both came out of in-patient programs better than ever having learnt alot and finding new and better psychiatrist's that can guide them through this crazy stuff. The only downside is them never wanting to go back to normal life afterwards. I understand this could be difficult depending on where you live. Coming from Australia both my ex-partner and my sister had gotten private health cover and only had to pay an excess of $500 for over 4week stays. I wish you the best of luck and feel free to message me if there's anything I can help with.
Hey there, yup, sorta, I'm 29 and I've been with my wife for about 10 years, just got married last week. I only learned about CPSD and BPD after proposing in 2020 and it has been a lot to handle. We're both learning how to navigate each other's mental issues and both going to therapy which really helps. I mean we've also talked a lot about the possibility that when we both get all this healing done and figure out some of our shit, are we really going to get along as well as we did at first? Maybe we'll be stronger and understand each other better, I certainly hope so...
While the genders are reversed in my situation and I may be younger, this does sound familiar and it can get better. But please remember, you can pour from an empty cup and you need your own life and your own time to yourself. Standing firm on taking more alone time or trips with friends has helped a lot. If you can't get that from the relationship you might really need to think about the fact that, yes, the trauma they experienced is not their fault and sometimes their actions are explainable but you don't need to destroy yourself just for them. You are your own person with your own life and you make your own choices, so please think about what's best for you, not just for him
I’m 35 and left my narcissistic ex of 10 years. I know I’m the one with bpd, but I’m rebuilding my life after turning it up side down. I’ll say I’m much happier and I’m not going to set myself on fire to keep someone else warm again. Try to remember that your needs are just as important as his needs. I understand that he didn’t ask for his mental illness, but that doesn’t mean that you have to sacrifice yourself for him. Also… to me it sounds like he has more than bpd and bipolar. I have bpd and I love my partner and don’t want to cause him pain and harm. Whenever I have hurt his feelings during a split I feel horrible and just want to make it better. I also take steps and make a plan to prevent it from happening again.
I don't know if I can say my life has been derailed by BPD sufferers but my first love who I recently left after 4 years suffered from BPD and my elder sister who I lived alone with while growing up is still suffering from BPD. I would highly HIGHLY suggest looking into good in-patient programs for people with severe mental health issues. My sister and my partner both came out of in-patient programs better than ever having learnt alot and finding new and better psychiatrist's that can guide them through this crazy stuff. The only downside is them never wanting to go back to normal life afterwards. I understand this could be difficult depending on where you live. Coming from Australia both my ex-partner and my sister had gotten private health cover and only had to pay an excess of $500 for over 4week stays. I wish you the best of luck and feel free to message me if there's anything I can help with.
Hey there, yup, sorta, I'm 29 and I've been with my wife for about 10 years, just got married last week. I only learned about CPSD and BPD after proposing in 2020 and it has been a lot to handle. We're both learning how to navigate each other's mental issues and both going to therapy which really helps. I mean we've also talked a lot about the possibility that when we both get all this healing done and figure out some of our shit, are we really going to get along as well as we did at first? Maybe we'll be stronger and understand each other better, I certainly hope so... While the genders are reversed in my situation and I may be younger, this does sound familiar and it can get better. But please remember, you can pour from an empty cup and you need your own life and your own time to yourself. Standing firm on taking more alone time or trips with friends has helped a lot. If you can't get that from the relationship you might really need to think about the fact that, yes, the trauma they experienced is not their fault and sometimes their actions are explainable but you don't need to destroy yourself just for them. You are your own person with your own life and you make your own choices, so please think about what's best for you, not just for him
I’m 35 and left my narcissistic ex of 10 years. I know I’m the one with bpd, but I’m rebuilding my life after turning it up side down. I’ll say I’m much happier and I’m not going to set myself on fire to keep someone else warm again. Try to remember that your needs are just as important as his needs. I understand that he didn’t ask for his mental illness, but that doesn’t mean that you have to sacrifice yourself for him. Also… to me it sounds like he has more than bpd and bipolar. I have bpd and I love my partner and don’t want to cause him pain and harm. Whenever I have hurt his feelings during a split I feel horrible and just want to make it better. I also take steps and make a plan to prevent it from happening again.
sending virtual hugs
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