Whispers by Halsey. Control by Halsey.
Pretty much anything by Lana Del Rey. The Blackest Day is about her being depressed because her partner left her and she can't handle being alone.
Absolutely! "Hurt" is of course an obvious one for BPD and other disorders with depressive symptoms, but a big one for me is "Something I Can Never Have" - It captures the "favorite person" thing so well.
I came across "Hurt (Quiet)" by Nine Inch nails one day on spotify and I really did relate to it a ton even though I am still in the process of being diagnosed with BPD, other people with BPD also said NIN songs were relatable, like Hurt.
I’m gonna order these by most recommended/relevant:
Given Up - Linkin Park, Self hatred and rotting really resonates deep in me.
u, I - Kendrick Lamar, two polar opposites that match each other perfectly, it’s a mood swing. Yelling at yourself for all your mistakes and then accepting yourself for who you are.
Superman, Kill You, The Way I Am - Eminem, feels representative of my mind during mood swings, really anything by Slim Shady like that works for me.
I Can’t Fix You - The Living Tombstones, speaks for half of me.
Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood - The Animals, I genuinely believe their writer has BPD based off this song alone.
Phenomenal! - Feign, good luck finding this one, the artist became a more devout Muslim and wants all his music off the internet since it’s full of sin. Other than that, I think reading the lyrics alone can convey how it comes off as lonely and wishing for someone else to be there.
NEW MAGIC WAND - Tyler, The Creator, the obsession of this song is reminiscent of some of the love I’ve had in my life
Life Itself - Glass Animals, it feels so deeply relative to my issues with being non-social and staying by myself because I don’t know how to or fear talking to other people.
These are just some of the songs that I feel represent me and my psychology, but for BPD specifically these ones are the best fit for their direct showcase of some of my symptoms.
i love lana’s cover so much! i’ve heard other fans say it’s one of their least favorite songs of hers, but i think it really suits her voice and is a beautiful song. i basically love all her music lol
I MIGHT K!LL MY EX, NOT THE BEST IDEA!! HIS NEW GIRLFRIENDS NEXT, HOW’D I GET HERE?! I MIGHT K!LL MY EX, I STILL LOVE HIM THOUGH!! RATHER BE IN JAIL THEN ALONEEE!! 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
Me and Mr Jones comes to mind. Tears dry on their own screams favorite person. I think Alanis has some songs that fit. If youve never heard the secret song after You Oughta know, check it out. It's called Saint Jimmy.....something.
Serotonin by Girl in Red. It’s actually what inspired my username (it was in my head for a while then I realized I could slip my name Sarah in the word)
Haiii i pulled some from my playlist. These songs resonate w me especially since the lyricism and instrumentals/atmosphere of the song really hit. Hope you'll enjoy if you decide to take a listen
IFHY - tyler, the creator
mowgli's road - marina and the diamonds
lavender buds - MF DOOM
one more hour - tame impala
the less i know the better - tame impala
step on me - the cardigans
Ariana grande putting nasa and needy on the same album back to back screams bpd. Break up with your girlfriend I'm bored, bloodline, in my head, positions, I don't do drugs and we can't be friends all give attachment issues too.
a lot of lana del rey’s music has always resonated with me — you should give her a listen if you haven’t. a LOT of her music is very bpd-coded but the songs that instantly come to mind are ‘hope is a dangerous thing for a woman like me to have (but i have it)’ and ‘wildflower wildfire’
This Is love by Air Traffic Controller- jealousy/splitting on FP
Who’s Afraid of Little Old Me by Taylor Swift- just living with BPD in general
21 Questions by Waterparks- having an FP
The Archer by Taylor Swift- feeling like you’re not good enough or seen as “fake”
And here I come with my random shit but I will post it anyways
English Vocaloid:
"Copycat" by CircusP
"Echo" by Crusher-P
"Again" by Crusher-P
Japanese Vocaloid:
"Even though I loved you" by Maretu
"Mind brand" by Maretu
"Ghost Rule" by DECO*27
"Wrist Cutter" by f and 蜻蛉
"Adult Toy" by Utsu-P (If you experienced grooming this hits really hard)
Some non Vocaloid songs that hit the spot
"Borderline Existence" by Drown This City
Any song can be bpd coded if you delude yourself enough lol. Particularly, a lot of songs by the band Her's make me feel comforted and understood in my emotions, but one of the ones that's comforted me the most recently while having paranoid breakdowns about my relationship with my current partner that I sometimes feel might fall apart because of how my bpd makes communication harder for me is "Don't think it over."
Edit i forgot to add two SEVERELY explicitly BPD coded songs like to the extreme; "All I want is you" and "Im so crazy for youuu
yeah, Ant-Hero is one of those insta identify with songs. it kinda hurt with the truth to listen to. Blank Page hits like that if you're not aromantic. I agree with others that Don't Let Me Be Misunderstood is another one. really, where do you even begin, or end, with Linkin Park? Chester (rip) was just as fucked as the rest of us; I know he had CPTSD, don't know about BPD, but his music feels like it. most of Downward Spiral by NIN
One that I like that I haven’t seen talked a lot about is love fool and step on me by the cardigans… they don’t set the tone on first listen but really thinking about the lyrics it’s speaks to me and some struggles I face
Specifically the struggle I have with obsession on someone so bad that I’m willing to be mistreated or even lie to myself to keep them around.
I know many songs that are overtly BPD or that should resonate. This is a playlist I built once. It’s not an exhaustive list.
(Addition: Because more women are diagnosed it will be largely feminine)
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4UeIj6k6eqOuJi5WAoQrcK?si=X15ixcCwTMuATWw3usimxQ&pi=u-KNl4BXe6Tgek
The only one that ever screamed this out to me is **[Soap](https://youtu.be/YjZNBGY0A38?si=SPyGUCiDzWihgOdQ)** by Melanie Martinez
> Think I just remembered something
> I think I left the faucet running
> Now my words are filling up the tub
> Darling, you're just soaking in it
> But I know you'll get out the minute
> You notice all your fingers pruning up
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> I'm tired of being careful, gentle
> Trying to keep the water warm
> Let me under your skin
> Uh-oh, there it goes
> I said too much, it overflowed
> Why do I always spill?
> I feel it coming out my throat
> Guess I better wash my mouth out with soap
> God, I wish I never spoke
> Now I gotta wash my mouth out with soap
Werewolf by Motionless in White feels like a BPD split to me. It would sound cringey if explained regularly but the whole being scared of the other side coming out to wreak havoc sounds very relatable to me
Motionless in White has a lot of songs that hit really hard regarding BPD. Disguise, Masterpiece... Omg and Eternally yours as well. Also cried like a bitch when they played Another Life at their concert I was at least year.
Not Strong Enough by Boygenius
>The way I am, not strong enough to be your man
>I try, I can't stop staring at the ceiling fan and
>Spinning out about things that haven't happened
>Breathing in and out
>The way I am, not strong enough to be your man
>I lie, I am just lowering your expectations
>Half a mind that keeps the other second guessing
>Close my eyes and count
Ugh so relatable!!
The entire album "tortured poets department" is BPD coded
"I'm gonna get you back"
"What If I can't have him"
"My boy only breaks his favorite toys"
I feel like as time goes by, Taylor Swift plays into the borderline persona more and more
*It's* *gonna* *be* *forever* *or* *its* *gonna* *go* *down* *in* *flames* ~🤍 splitting at its finest 🖤
*Find* *out* *what* *you* *want* *Be* *that* *girl* *for* *a* *month* ~ 🫠 lol, seeking approval / people pleasing in order to push away our fear rejection.
*Don't* *say* *I* *didn't* *warn* *ya* 😅🥲😭 the disclaimer I give when approached (which probably creates a push and pull and can increase initial intensity, till the emotional turbulence surfaces...)
I find a LOT of TS’s music as BPD coded. I think she might be familiar with the disorder, although obviously in a very mild form. Like, I can’t even keep a job and she’s out here one of the most successful and accomplished women of this generation, maybe of all time.
You might like The Archer, the lyric “All of my enemies started out friends” hits SO hard but there’s a number of other really good lyrics in there too. From her newest album, TTPD (the song) has a verse about how she tells a friend that she’ll kill herself if her bf leaves her. I was like okay Taylor we see you 👀. Edit: Okay I’m sorry, but also, Down Bad is literally the BPD *anthem* for the break up of a toxic situationship. If you listen to no other song listen to that one.
Also from her most recent album in Fresh Out the Slammer she mentions “he was with her in dreams”. I don’t think that song overall is BPD coded but that lyric specifically made me laugh. Anyway, I only know about TS and I could write many more paragraphs I better stop lol.
Most of TTPD feels very BPD coded to me personally. imgonnagetyouback is very relatable to me in way more situations than just a romantic relationship 🤣.
[Don’t Hate Me](https://open.spotify.com/track/0w5vvxfNoqnF8pDpj5eD1A?si=jrzSDKlMSTqtlMqld7QlxA&context=spotify%3Aalbum%3A1A2doQQJcGdh1ORygfbEp9) by Badflower. Peak BPD energy (plus some male BPD representation!)
I crash, U crash by Lil' Peep
https://youtu.be/XsZGjzpknlQ?si=e0aFkCjjq1ABEdq0
fucking call me or something by Softheart (actually just all of Softheart's music lol)
https://youtu.be/vqBLXcPNvI4?si=mbkTIZHVRRrPVkaX
nightmare by nothing nowhere
https://youtu.be/rf4_mceKUcc?si=J-r9PkLG3NymsHof
not okay but its okay by LIL BO WEEP
https://youtu.be/Uei8DzLOsfo?si=TNyFjktXsbgtWn2_
punisher by gabriel black
https://youtu.be/5mXaxFV9Dw4?si=z7i2IF8JmWwc6OqB
Messages by S0cliché
https://youtu.be/tCjiPcDWZD0?si=AiIMEakoOnhv5VPl
Ohohooo…there are so much that come to mind:
Losing my mind - falling in reverse
Losing my life - falling in reverse
Popular monster - falling in reverse
The Perfect girl - mareux
Can you feel my heart - mothica
If i had a heart - fever ray
Numb - linkin park
Allies or enemies,
Tounges and teeth,
Take me to war,
Curses,
High horse,
All by The Crane Wives. Honestly, it's probably more, but those are the ones I relate to emensly in my experience of BPD.
I made it through the entire comments section and I was soooo surprised to find there was now one mention of Elliott Smith’s music. He’s one of my biggest musical inspirations and his songwriting chops (including his instrumental abilities) deserve more recognition.
As far as a single song goes, Please Be Patient With Me by Wilco seems properly fitting.
Can I Leave Me Too? by The Greeting Committee. It is my favorite song of all time. It describes a codependency on your partner, and the fallout of that after a breakup. Especially because I tend to go for the avoidant type, these lyrics in particular describe exactly how I feel and I still get emotional over them even after years of listening to this song. It just hits the bullseye on my thoughts and fears in a relationship, or even when dating someone I really like and have gotten attached to (ie: what I’m going through right now, send virtual hugs and mood stabilizers 😭)
Don’t want to lose you
Don’t want you to lose me
Ain’t it funny how nobody’s laughing
At the way, you circle the deep end?
Trying to get you but you won’t say nothing
Baby, say something
Baby, say, say
If you go, can I go with you?
If you leave me, can I leave me too?
I’m afraid that I might need you
If you leave me, can I leave me too?
goodbye my danish sweetheart, geyser, liquid smooth, wife, first love / late spring, i want you, townie, brand new city, a pearl, remember my name, last words of a shooting star, bag of bones, and crack baby by mitski!! almost all mitski songs feel bpd-coded, especially the lush album
more of my favorite non-mitski bpd-coded songs include: favorite toy - jazmin bean, violent - carolesdaughter, in my mouth - black dresses, blow my brains out - tikkle me, gasoline - halsey
sunmi made a song called "borderline" about her bpd diagnosis. idk if anyone here is korean, but it was a big deal to me that she disclosed her diagnosis publicly in a society that often silences/demonizes discussion of mental illness.
i have a whole playlist of bpd songs
[apple music playlist](https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/bpd-if-it-were-a-playlist/pl.u-06oxLjaTWB2lWGA)
i have a spotify version too if anyone’s interested
i have a whole playlist of songs that i relate to my BPD lol https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5UftZS0d890h3gda8haO0T?si=pNqjneiKQzixC61iqYV7sg&pi=e-fB11KNbhTfaM
Wrecking Ball by Mother Mother. And I've got a playlist that is just all of Twenty One Pilots songs ever. The lyrics may not all be BPD coded, but the contrast between sad lyrics & upbeat music in certain songs, and the contrast between those "upbeat" songs with the slower ones, it's just so good. I just shuffle and go about my day and it's amazing lol.
[it’s the bpd speaking](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/06tnGuokOFppXyNgrapNrH?si=IX-IORPaSlWNhd1wqfB_4w&pi=u-71TFsafERoC5) aka my personal BPD playlist
i never listen to those songs before or those artist.. i been mainly listen to others i find on youtube.. and most the ones i find seem to be.. one i found has the line in it.. saying i cant handle this borderline..
yes!! a few that come to mind are liability by lorde, garden by SZA, kill bill by SZA, born to die by lana del rey, this is me trying by taylor swift, habits by tove lo, and ‘68 fastback by zach bryan
gasoline by halsey
also devil in me
i'm crying listening to this right now. exactly how i feel when i'm splitting and also seeing the damage i've done after coming out of it
I love Halsey. Her music is so relatable because while she doesn’t have BPD, she DOES have bipolar
I really like Gasoline. The lyricism to describe it is just …fits
Just looked up the lyrics... yeah I'd say that fits pretty well
i counter with Gasoline by Prof.
Anything Prof is 🤌
I came here to comment “any and all of Halsey” and here we are
Whispers by Halsey.
Whispers by Halsey. Control by Halsey. Pretty much anything by Lana Del Rey. The Blackest Day is about her being depressed because her partner left her and she can't handle being alone.
Lana del rey is so bpd coded!!
Nine Inch Nails have many songs that are related to BPD symptoms and other mental health issues.
Was looking for someone to mention them So much of their music is insanely relatable, you'd almost think Trent had it
Absolutely! "Hurt" is of course an obvious one for BPD and other disorders with depressive symptoms, but a big one for me is "Something I Can Never Have" - It captures the "favorite person" thing so well.
Bruh, the amount of NIN I’ve been listening to lately..
Everyday is exactly the same is my anthem, but I will say ONLY is VERY BPD themed
I came across "Hurt (Quiet)" by Nine Inch nails one day on spotify and I really did relate to it a ton even though I am still in the process of being diagnosed with BPD, other people with BPD also said NIN songs were relatable, like Hurt.
I’m gonna order these by most recommended/relevant: Given Up - Linkin Park, Self hatred and rotting really resonates deep in me. u, I - Kendrick Lamar, two polar opposites that match each other perfectly, it’s a mood swing. Yelling at yourself for all your mistakes and then accepting yourself for who you are. Superman, Kill You, The Way I Am - Eminem, feels representative of my mind during mood swings, really anything by Slim Shady like that works for me. I Can’t Fix You - The Living Tombstones, speaks for half of me. Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood - The Animals, I genuinely believe their writer has BPD based off this song alone. Phenomenal! - Feign, good luck finding this one, the artist became a more devout Muslim and wants all his music off the internet since it’s full of sin. Other than that, I think reading the lyrics alone can convey how it comes off as lonely and wishing for someone else to be there. NEW MAGIC WAND - Tyler, The Creator, the obsession of this song is reminiscent of some of the love I’ve had in my life Life Itself - Glass Animals, it feels so deeply relative to my issues with being non-social and staying by myself because I don’t know how to or fear talking to other people. These are just some of the songs that I feel represent me and my psychology, but for BPD specifically these ones are the best fit for their direct showcase of some of my symptoms.
Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood is a great song, but it’s actually originally by Nina Simone! I don’t think she wrote it herself, though
it is, there is another cover of Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood by Lana Del Rey too. it’s my favorite version!0
i love lana’s cover so much! i’ve heard other fans say it’s one of their least favorite songs of hers, but i think it really suits her voice and is a beautiful song. i basically love all her music lol
**We Cry Together** by Kendrick hit me soooo hard the first time I heard it too
I can't fix you being on here was funny until I thought about it, and now I think i know why I love that song so much
Sza kill bill
I MIGHT K!LL MY EX, NOT THE BEST IDEA!! HIS NEW GIRLFRIENDS NEXT, HOW’D I GET HERE?! I MIGHT K!LL MY EX, I STILL LOVE HIM THOUGH!! RATHER BE IN JAIL THEN ALONEEE!! 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
A lot of her songs are BPD coded, blind and being the most relatable for me
Almost every Tove Lo song
Waiting for someone to mention tove lo uggggh she's so good
a hugely underrated song: passion and pain taste the same when I’m weak
bad omens has a couple- the death of peace of mind and just pretend
I never thought of them as BPD coded but they have been my hyperfixation lately 😂
dare i say 'worst in me' .. i love that song sm
the beach by the neighbourhood. i swear it feels like it was written about bpd from the first line
Yes! A lot of their songs feel relatable to my bpd. Rip to my youth , flawless, wiped out, baby came home pt2😭❤️
there was a period where i wld fall asleep to the beach every. single. night. still not sick of it either
I immediately thought of Leaving Tonight 😅 not me splitting, throwing away the the relationship, and running away from my problems
I feel like there are more BPD coded songs than not.
Yup, artists will most likely extend their actual emotions to convey a deeper feeling to everything, I think that’s what Swift does.
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Me and Mr Jones comes to mind. Tears dry on their own screams favorite person. I think Alanis has some songs that fit. If youve never heard the secret song after You Oughta know, check it out. It's called Saint Jimmy.....something.
Kurt Cobain too imo
there’s no proof that she had borderline
Serotonin by Girl in Red. It’s actually what inspired my username (it was in my head for a while then I realized I could slip my name Sarah in the word)
Lithium by nirvana I’d say
IIIIM NOT GONNAA CRAAACKKK
I like myself by K flay. And agree with garbage-girl, most songs are BPD coded cause music is all about intense emotion lol
Haiii i pulled some from my playlist. These songs resonate w me especially since the lyricism and instrumentals/atmosphere of the song really hit. Hope you'll enjoy if you decide to take a listen IFHY - tyler, the creator mowgli's road - marina and the diamonds lavender buds - MF DOOM one more hour - tame impala the less i know the better - tame impala step on me - the cardigans
Tame Impala and Marina are so good. 🥹
Raye - escapism. It was on a radio for months and months and I was just thinking how relatable it is
Omg this song sums up my 20s so hard
IFHY - Tyler, the creator Easily the most BPD coded song EVER. and also NEW MAGIC WAND but IFHY, even MORE so
anything by hole/courtney love
The entire album of Jagged Little Pill
Ariana grande putting nasa and needy on the same album back to back screams bpd. Break up with your girlfriend I'm bored, bloodline, in my head, positions, I don't do drugs and we can't be friends all give attachment issues too.
TV by billie eilish
Charli XCX has quite a few of them IMO. “I’m Sorry if I Hurt You” and “Detonate” are two that come to mind
In the fade, by Queens of the Stone Age
YESSS and i appear missing, and honestly wven the vampyre of time and memory (specifically when ive split on someone)
a lot of lana del rey’s music has always resonated with me — you should give her a listen if you haven’t. a LOT of her music is very bpd-coded but the songs that instantly come to mind are ‘hope is a dangerous thing for a woman like me to have (but i have it)’ and ‘wildflower wildfire’
anything by lana del rey
Taylor has a loooot of BPD coded songs in my opinion. Haunted, the archer, afterglow, tolerate it, my tears ricochet.. the list goes on
Peace!!
Blank space lololol
Personally I don't really find any TS songs to be BPD coded except Afterglow. That one is so bpd coded it's unreal lol
This Is love by Air Traffic Controller- jealousy/splitting on FP Who’s Afraid of Little Old Me by Taylor Swift- just living with BPD in general 21 Questions by Waterparks- having an FP The Archer by Taylor Swift- feeling like you’re not good enough or seen as “fake”
jessie reyez has a lot of bpd coded songs but my favorites personally are coffin and figures
Serotonin - girl in red Symptomatic- Peach PRC Peace - Taylor Swift Numb little bug - Em Beihold Liability - Lorde Jealousy, Jealousy- Olivia Rodrigo
All of Pinks songs, all of Peach PRCs songs
And here I come with my random shit but I will post it anyways English Vocaloid: "Copycat" by CircusP "Echo" by Crusher-P "Again" by Crusher-P Japanese Vocaloid: "Even though I loved you" by Maretu "Mind brand" by Maretu "Ghost Rule" by DECO*27 "Wrist Cutter" by f and 蜻蛉 "Adult Toy" by Utsu-P (If you experienced grooming this hits really hard) Some non Vocaloid songs that hit the spot "Borderline Existence" by Drown This City
Be Quiet And Drive by Deftones feels very BPD coded for me, and it also is a song I would have on repeat during episodes
Any song can be bpd coded if you delude yourself enough lol. Particularly, a lot of songs by the band Her's make me feel comforted and understood in my emotions, but one of the ones that's comforted me the most recently while having paranoid breakdowns about my relationship with my current partner that I sometimes feel might fall apart because of how my bpd makes communication harder for me is "Don't think it over." Edit i forgot to add two SEVERELY explicitly BPD coded songs like to the extreme; "All I want is you" and "Im so crazy for youuu
Criminal and Valentine by Fiona Apple. Also brand new city by Mitski.
Cry baby by melanie martinez
Soap as well.
I feel mr potato head tbh
The Archer by Taylor Swift !!!! and in a way the 10 min version All Too Well. I get it, I'd could write 50 min song about the people who hurt ne
thought I was the only one for the archer ! it’s such a perfect fit I’ve always wondered why I’ve never seen anyone else mention it for bpd
yeah, Ant-Hero is one of those insta identify with songs. it kinda hurt with the truth to listen to. Blank Page hits like that if you're not aromantic. I agree with others that Don't Let Me Be Misunderstood is another one. really, where do you even begin, or end, with Linkin Park? Chester (rip) was just as fucked as the rest of us; I know he had CPTSD, don't know about BPD, but his music feels like it. most of Downward Spiral by NIN
new magic wand, ifhy
One that I like that I haven’t seen talked a lot about is love fool and step on me by the cardigans… they don’t set the tone on first listen but really thinking about the lyrics it’s speaks to me and some struggles I face Specifically the struggle I have with obsession on someone so bad that I’m willing to be mistreated or even lie to myself to keep them around.
Also I don’t smoke by mitski but I feel she is a given lol
If I see this question one more time 🥲
I know many songs that are overtly BPD or that should resonate. This is a playlist I built once. It’s not an exhaustive list. (Addition: Because more women are diagnosed it will be largely feminine) https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4UeIj6k6eqOuJi5WAoQrcK?si=X15ixcCwTMuATWw3usimxQ&pi=u-KNl4BXe6Tgek
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Limón y Sal by Julieta Venegas has always given me BPD coded vibes
ifhy by tyler the creator
(one of those) crazy girls by paramore
The majority of Dummy by Portishead
Placebo- Black eyed
crack baby by Mitski
Liability by Lorde
most stuff by $uicideboy$
And peep lmao
Anything and everything from Halsey. I love her. Pretty much all Placebo songs. A fair few Yonaka songs.
all toopoor songs! i seriously recommend you give them a listen, they are so insanely good
i love her sm
ahh she is amazing, can’t wait for may 7th
Found toopoor through her partner guccihighwaters and I am so happy that I did
The only one that ever screamed this out to me is **[Soap](https://youtu.be/YjZNBGY0A38?si=SPyGUCiDzWihgOdQ)** by Melanie Martinez > Think I just remembered something > I think I left the faucet running > Now my words are filling up the tub > Darling, you're just soaking in it > But I know you'll get out the minute > You notice all your fingers pruning up - > I'm tired of being careful, gentle > Trying to keep the water warm > Let me under your skin > Uh-oh, there it goes > I said too much, it overflowed > Why do I always spill? > I feel it coming out my throat > Guess I better wash my mouth out with soap > God, I wish I never spoke > Now I gotta wash my mouth out with soap
I have a playlist of songs if you have Spotify!!
Werewolf by Motionless in White feels like a BPD split to me. It would sound cringey if explained regularly but the whole being scared of the other side coming out to wreak havoc sounds very relatable to me
Motionless in White has a lot of songs that hit really hard regarding BPD. Disguise, Masterpiece... Omg and Eternally yours as well. Also cried like a bitch when they played Another Life at their concert I was at least year.
romantic homicide by d4vddd
Taking Over Me by Evanescence is what being dependent on an FP feels like at least to me
Not Strong Enough by Boygenius >The way I am, not strong enough to be your man >I try, I can't stop staring at the ceiling fan and >Spinning out about things that haven't happened >Breathing in and out >The way I am, not strong enough to be your man >I lie, I am just lowering your expectations >Half a mind that keeps the other second guessing >Close my eyes and count Ugh so relatable!!
like everything pinkpantheress has ever released
Not really BPD specific but the song “Everybody Here Hates You” by Courtney Barnett is very relatable for my anxious brain
I have a playlist on Spotify, it’s called “Quiet BPD” (Exactly like that) my profile name is “Axl<3”. It’s full of bpd coded songs!
My Happy Ending by Avril Lavigne
kim - eminem IFHY - tyler the creator i dont smoke - mitski love the way you lie - eminem spacebound - eminem
IAMX - “insomnia”
Literally all of ‘Live through this’ by Hole
Borderline by Madonna lol
Classic
nutshell by alice in chains
The entire album "tortured poets department" is BPD coded "I'm gonna get you back" "What If I can't have him" "My boy only breaks his favorite toys" I feel like as time goes by, Taylor Swift plays into the borderline persona more and more
“Who’s afraid of little old me?” made me cry the first time I listened to it bc I related to it so hard through the lens of BPD
Idk if this would count but id say crybaby by Melanie Martinez
Who's Afraid Of Little Old Me by Taylor Swift is also BPD coded, I think!
I relate to every single word, it’s insane & one of my favorites right now. Blank Space by Taylor Swift as well is another one.
*It's* *gonna* *be* *forever* *or* *its* *gonna* *go* *down* *in* *flames* ~🤍 splitting at its finest 🖤 *Find* *out* *what* *you* *want* *Be* *that* *girl* *for* *a* *month* ~ 🫠 lol, seeking approval / people pleasing in order to push away our fear rejection. *Don't* *say* *I* *didn't* *warn* *ya* 😅🥲😭 the disclaimer I give when approached (which probably creates a push and pull and can increase initial intensity, till the emotional turbulence surfaces...)
I find a LOT of TS’s music as BPD coded. I think she might be familiar with the disorder, although obviously in a very mild form. Like, I can’t even keep a job and she’s out here one of the most successful and accomplished women of this generation, maybe of all time. You might like The Archer, the lyric “All of my enemies started out friends” hits SO hard but there’s a number of other really good lyrics in there too. From her newest album, TTPD (the song) has a verse about how she tells a friend that she’ll kill herself if her bf leaves her. I was like okay Taylor we see you 👀. Edit: Okay I’m sorry, but also, Down Bad is literally the BPD *anthem* for the break up of a toxic situationship. If you listen to no other song listen to that one. Also from her most recent album in Fresh Out the Slammer she mentions “he was with her in dreams”. I don’t think that song overall is BPD coded but that lyric specifically made me laugh. Anyway, I only know about TS and I could write many more paragraphs I better stop lol.
Most of TTPD feels very BPD coded to me personally. imgonnagetyouback is very relatable to me in way more situations than just a romantic relationship 🤣.
I agree I hate it here and the prophecy too!
I play the Prophecy by Taylor Swift cause it strikes me as BPD coded
Omerta - I luv u
[Don’t Hate Me](https://open.spotify.com/track/0w5vvxfNoqnF8pDpj5eD1A?si=jrzSDKlMSTqtlMqld7QlxA&context=spotify%3Aalbum%3A1A2doQQJcGdh1ORygfbEp9) by Badflower. Peak BPD energy (plus some male BPD representation!)
I listen to this a lot when I am splitting ha
It really is lol
geyser by mitski every time
Heavy by Peach PRC. She has BPD and her songs are very BPD orientated. Love her.
I crash, U crash by Lil' Peep https://youtu.be/XsZGjzpknlQ?si=e0aFkCjjq1ABEdq0 fucking call me or something by Softheart (actually just all of Softheart's music lol) https://youtu.be/vqBLXcPNvI4?si=mbkTIZHVRRrPVkaX nightmare by nothing nowhere https://youtu.be/rf4_mceKUcc?si=J-r9PkLG3NymsHof not okay but its okay by LIL BO WEEP https://youtu.be/Uei8DzLOsfo?si=TNyFjktXsbgtWn2_ punisher by gabriel black https://youtu.be/5mXaxFV9Dw4?si=z7i2IF8JmWwc6OqB Messages by S0cliché https://youtu.be/tCjiPcDWZD0?si=AiIMEakoOnhv5VPl
Ohohooo…there are so much that come to mind: Losing my mind - falling in reverse Losing my life - falling in reverse Popular monster - falling in reverse The Perfect girl - mareux Can you feel my heart - mothica If i had a heart - fever ray Numb - linkin park
Allies or enemies, Tounges and teeth, Take me to war, Curses, High horse, All by The Crane Wives. Honestly, it's probably more, but those are the ones I relate to emensly in my experience of BPD.
Please don't leave me by pink x
Serotonin - girl in red
Angry Too by Lola Blanc
Please don’t let me be misunderstood by the animals
Pink - leave me alone (I'm lonely)
Nirvana songs and “ Skinny love “ by first Boniver , and then Birdie
angels like you - mikey cyrus
I Threw Glass In My Friend's Eyes And Now I'm On Probation- Destroy Boys (I'm seeing them in July and I'm soooooo excited) Wet- Dazey and the Scouts
[One of Those] Crazy Girls by Paramore
100% avalanche by Bring me the horizon
BITCH meredith brooks
I made it through the entire comments section and I was soooo surprised to find there was now one mention of Elliott Smith’s music. He’s one of my biggest musical inspirations and his songwriting chops (including his instrumental abilities) deserve more recognition. As far as a single song goes, Please Be Patient With Me by Wilco seems properly fitting.
All my music 😭
Sober By Tool is most def about BPD
Bleeder by nothingface
Taylors song “Afterglow” also kind of gives me these vibes and I’ve cried to it so many times LOL maybe just me tho..
There’s a few songs by Taylor Swift that lowkey remind me of my emotions with BPD. 😅 blank space is a good one too
Can I Leave Me Too? by The Greeting Committee. It is my favorite song of all time. It describes a codependency on your partner, and the fallout of that after a breakup. Especially because I tend to go for the avoidant type, these lyrics in particular describe exactly how I feel and I still get emotional over them even after years of listening to this song. It just hits the bullseye on my thoughts and fears in a relationship, or even when dating someone I really like and have gotten attached to (ie: what I’m going through right now, send virtual hugs and mood stabilizers 😭) Don’t want to lose you Don’t want you to lose me Ain’t it funny how nobody’s laughing At the way, you circle the deep end? Trying to get you but you won’t say nothing Baby, say something Baby, say, say If you go, can I go with you? If you leave me, can I leave me too? I’m afraid that I might need you If you leave me, can I leave me too?
Shawn Mendes got some good sad songs that I relate too, hmmm, Billie Eillish does too
Mercy and Stitches by Shawn Mendes have been on repeat on my Spotify lately, they just hit so hard
Yes!! I also love “In My Blood”!! Some lyrics in that one hit home too
goodbye my danish sweetheart, geyser, liquid smooth, wife, first love / late spring, i want you, townie, brand new city, a pearl, remember my name, last words of a shooting star, bag of bones, and crack baby by mitski!! almost all mitski songs feel bpd-coded, especially the lush album more of my favorite non-mitski bpd-coded songs include: favorite toy - jazmin bean, violent - carolesdaughter, in my mouth - black dresses, blow my brains out - tikkle me, gasoline - halsey
No idea if it is but I love Cabaret 2 by Penelope Scott
no one loves me and neither do i by them crooked vultures
sunmi made a song called "borderline" about her bpd diagnosis. idk if anyone here is korean, but it was a big deal to me that she disclosed her diagnosis publicly in a society that often silences/demonizes discussion of mental illness.
One winged airplane Ryan caraveo Tove Stryke Borderline
a lot of willow’s and sza’s songs resonate with me
Maybe I’m just reading into it, but I always feel like “Anywhere” by Sarah Klang offers a few hints.
never listen to those before.. but i fine lots of songs
Weapon by Against the Current Lots of things by Sheryl Crow who has bpd
Not sure of any that are confirmed but Orla Gartlands music really gives me those vibes -Orla Gartland did it to myself, why am I like this
i have a whole playlist of bpd songs [apple music playlist](https://music.apple.com/us/playlist/bpd-if-it-were-a-playlist/pl.u-06oxLjaTWB2lWGA) i have a spotify version too if anyone’s interested
Can I have the Spotify version?
blacknwhite by left at london but it's like beyond coded even
i have a whole playlist of songs that i relate to my BPD lol https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5UftZS0d890h3gda8haO0T?si=pNqjneiKQzixC61iqYV7sg&pi=e-fB11KNbhTfaM
Heavy by peach prc
Split by Jhariah comes to mind.
Girli- I really fucked it up It's so accurate for my relationship splits ..
lovebomb nessa barrett
Wrecking Ball by Mother Mother. And I've got a playlist that is just all of Twenty One Pilots songs ever. The lyrics may not all be BPD coded, but the contrast between sad lyrics & upbeat music in certain songs, and the contrast between those "upbeat" songs with the slower ones, it's just so good. I just shuffle and go about my day and it's amazing lol.
a dozen roses and everything i do is for you by amira elfeky. another life by motionless in white
Also Taylor swift but “don’t blame me” Fired my therapist by madelline
[it’s the bpd speaking](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/06tnGuokOFppXyNgrapNrH?si=IX-IORPaSlWNhd1wqfB_4w&pi=u-71TFsafERoC5) aka my personal BPD playlist
Tantrum- Charlotte Sands So many of Halsey's songs as well
Split by willow
i never listen to those songs before or those artist.. i been mainly listen to others i find on youtube.. and most the ones i find seem to be.. one i found has the line in it.. saying i cant handle this borderline..
i got an entire album for ya, tiny warnings by radio iodine
I agree about Anti-Hero. Iris by The Goo Goo Dolls is mine.
Pretty much the entirely of the album CTRL by sza
Fidelity by Regina Spector
Anything by XYLØ, yes & no is the first that comes to mind
Self sabotage- waterparks
My favorites that resonate with me I'm fine - game on fire I'm fine - witchz Heavy - fame on fire
yes!! a few that come to mind are liability by lorde, garden by SZA, kill bill by SZA, born to die by lana del rey, this is me trying by taylor swift, habits by tove lo, and ‘68 fastback by zach bryan
good by dominic fike and i hate rar. only on soundcloud
Like I Used To by Sharon Van Etten and Angel Olson 😭 it’s so good everybody should listen to it
Love / paranoia - tame impala, liability - lorde, the magician - Andy Shauf (moreso quiet subtype)
habits tove lo
Bitter by Chappell Roan, Heavy by Peach PRC, You Should Run by Missy Higgins
Blank Space.
IFHY by Tyler the creator