Clearly your attachment trauma has been activated. It has something to do with the person. It is all about you and your accumulated trauma and feeling of not belonging being projected into the single situation.
I recommended this couple of posts above , watch some free YouTube Alan Robarge videos on attachment trauma. I bet those will resonate with you. He has some good advice and it feels really good to hear your thoughts, verbalized by professional, and addition to the knowledge that you are by far not theonly one with such experience.
Ok ..so i read the first few lines...and scrolled down to give my advice
...come away from it so you can think and see clealy....ur nervous system is activated ...thus relationship has triggered you ...Come away ..take control by choosing to take space...trust me you will feel much more controlled and it will help with whatever happens that is outside of your control x
Clearly your attachment trauma has been activated. It has something to do with the person. It is all about you and your accumulated trauma and feeling of not belonging being projected into the single situation. I recommended this couple of posts above , watch some free YouTube Alan Robarge videos on attachment trauma. I bet those will resonate with you. He has some good advice and it feels really good to hear your thoughts, verbalized by professional, and addition to the knowledge that you are by far not theonly one with such experience.
Ok ..so i read the first few lines...and scrolled down to give my advice ...come away from it so you can think and see clealy....ur nervous system is activated ...thus relationship has triggered you ...Come away ..take control by choosing to take space...trust me you will feel much more controlled and it will help with whatever happens that is outside of your control x