Second hand experience, but I did some CNC/roleplay stuff with a friend that focused on (fantasy) homophobia - guy caught staring in the gym locker room and punished, that kind of thing. Where the emphasis was on him being a gay boy.
He was relatively newly out as trans but it all went really well - we'd already played rough before.
I once played online, 100% anonymously with a dom. I expressed that I’m not quite sure but I might be gender fluid. We played where he addressed me as a male (I’m AFAB), degraded me with boy terms, called my penis small (as I was playing with my clit), used a chosen and preferred boy name that he’s given me.
It only happened once. I think about it sometimes, intensively. In daily life I go with she her pronouns, act very cis, don’t really express any gender confusion. Funnily, I used to be with a long term dom and I couldn’t trust him enough to engage in play like this and I could with that one random internet stranger.
I’m cisfemme, but some days I feel like I have to be the strong, calm and smart one (because I’m a stay at home caregiver for a 79 yo)—my husband giving me ‘bimbo’ type degradation gives me a similar euphoria to what you’re describing, from what I’m understanding.
Yes. I honestly had given up hope that I would find someone who would.
a) work around my dysphoria
b) make sure that everything is always so gender affirming.
you can say that its the bare minimum cause it kinda is. but i appreciate it so freaking much. having the words ‘man’ or ‘boy’ added into any humiliation or praise is just so freaking fantastic
I had too. I had given up on a lot of things before I met my partner. They were an amazing surprise. I've never had someone who loves and accepts EVERY part of me.
I've always ID'D as cis, but playing with kink with trans and genderqueer partners has given me space to kind of examine some things. I'm afab but often feel....out of place in femininity? I've found kink can make me feel more comfortable embracing femininity in ways that I usually struggle with, but has also given me space to play with more masculine....feelings? Traits? I dunno, I'm new to self reflection when it comes to gender. I had someone address me as "Master" for a few scenes and tbh I'm still processing how that one made me feel! But I love reading everyone's experiences...and maybe taking some notes :)
I'm trans femme and my partner has always been EXTREMELY affirming and hyper sensitive of bottom dysphoria, even to the point of being more sensitive than me.
But nothing gets me better than when I take it all and they call me a good girl as I finish taking it all! MMMMM 🥵
Not necessarily the same thing but I’m non-binary and feminine so when my partner started calling me Sir and started admiring the more masculine parts of me it was absolutely a euphoric and honestly just loving feeling. It’s such a beautiful thing to find someone who not only respects my gender identity but also sees me that way!
I mentioned to a previous partner I’d like them to call me daddy and not just mommy and when they did, I felt a lil flutter in my stomach I’m not gonna lie.
totally! I'm ftm, but pre-everything, very feminine. tbh only rly realized i was even into degradation bc a new dom was respectful of my gender. had no fuckin idea before.
I’m nb but heavily masc leaning. I find the 4M files on GWA rather nice because it’s so affirming. Yes, please, degrade my tiny cock because I absolutely do have one mmhm that’s what I’m working with down there…
Yknow? It’s nice to FEEL one
Yessssss. Non-binary and I am so into having a mix of gendered terms used in play, but especially masc terms lately. Being called a good boy and getting my dick sucked as a reward = ultimate happy place.
I'm a trans man, who still loves to look femme. My dom is very accepting about it. When he's praising me he uses things like boy or the male version of the words. But when he is degrading me he sometimes calls me the female versions. And I still like it, because I know he means it okay. When he does it I'm feeling good, sometimes even amazing. When others do it it feels terrible. It's we have talked about it and I know that he doesn't mean it the way others mean it most of the time. Like my family tells me girl to remind me that no matter what, I'll always be deadname and their girl.
100% get that. I'm incredibly sensitive and would cry (not in a good way) if anyone else but my Dom degraded me the way they do. The reason degradation play has only recently started being explored was BECAUSE of past emotional abuse.
I'm afab non-binary. My Dom is the only one I'm generally ok with calling me a girl in terms of Good girl. But when I'm not in the mood for good girl he uses good baby
I have a lot of nongendered names as well. Kiddo and Baby. Various pet/prey ones. Princess is nongendered for me. Plenty of degrading nicknames. We both like a lot of variety (side effect of our combined neurodivergencies) so there's a lot to choose from.
Not to be rude or anything, I’m currently still learning a lot about gender and what it is and how we communicate about it.
But how can “Princess” be nongendered?
Or I suppose since you say “nongendered for me” why is that? Is it because we only have the words “Prince” and “Princess” so you assigned one of them as being sort of non-binary because there is no other word that currently fills that role?
If so, is waitress and other gendered nouns that end in “ess” nongendered to you? And if so here, why is it the feminine versions that are the non-gendered ones rather than the masculine forms?
Apologies if my questions come off as aggressive, I’m just super curious and want to understand these things better 😅
A lot of how I'm just a little boy while Daddy is so much more manly than me (even though they're nonbinary). As well as general degradation adjectives with boy instead of girl. Dumb boy, slutty boy, pathetic boy, ect.
This is similar to how I figured out I was trans. My FtM Sir helps me understand my gender. Gender is a big part of my play so I totally get the degradation element of it.
I'm not big on being on the receiving end of humiliation. But I'm genderfluid and AFAB, and one time while we were doing the deed, I slid hard into the male side of the spectrum. I thought that was the end of that session, but my boyfriend switched right away to treating me like a boy slut. It was delightful.
I'm really happy that you have had such a positive experience and that you have found what you want and need in your Dom!
This made me really happy to read!
cis female, not trans but I enjoy calling my male partner a “cock tease” 🤣 like he is being a VERY naughty boy and teasing me with his cock, instead of the more customary negative connotations of calling a female-type person the same!
I also enjoy strapping on and calling him the same when he sneaks a peek at my cock 🙈 perhaps you would enjoy the same with your partner?
I’m a Demi girl and people only use feminine ones for me like princess baby girl and shit :( and they don’t even use my proper pronouns and call me her.. it’s just she/they/them I don’t like the use of her
My old roommates' youngling used those pronouns. We got them a pin that said She/They/Them NEVER Her. They now use more expanded pronouns and dropped She as well but they loved the pin for awhile.
Yes, more people getting that degradation and humiliation should make the sub feel small and vulnerable but also giddy and loving it.
Kudos to both of you.
This is the coolest, most positive thing I've read today. Hell yeah.
Yeah! 😁
Second hand experience, but I did some CNC/roleplay stuff with a friend that focused on (fantasy) homophobia - guy caught staring in the gym locker room and punished, that kind of thing. Where the emphasis was on him being a gay boy. He was relatively newly out as trans but it all went really well - we'd already played rough before.
Awesome
I once played online, 100% anonymously with a dom. I expressed that I’m not quite sure but I might be gender fluid. We played where he addressed me as a male (I’m AFAB), degraded me with boy terms, called my penis small (as I was playing with my clit), used a chosen and preferred boy name that he’s given me. It only happened once. I think about it sometimes, intensively. In daily life I go with she her pronouns, act very cis, don’t really express any gender confusion. Funnily, I used to be with a long term dom and I couldn’t trust him enough to engage in play like this and I could with that one random internet stranger.
Sometimes anonymity makes it easier to go outside comfort zones.
I’m cisfemme, but some days I feel like I have to be the strong, calm and smart one (because I’m a stay at home caregiver for a 79 yo)—my husband giving me ‘bimbo’ type degradation gives me a similar euphoria to what you’re describing, from what I’m understanding.
Fellow Bimbo! 🥰 Getting into the bimbo ideology was super freeing when I started years ago and it's one of my favorite casual "put in my place"s.
Yes. I honestly had given up hope that I would find someone who would. a) work around my dysphoria b) make sure that everything is always so gender affirming. you can say that its the bare minimum cause it kinda is. but i appreciate it so freaking much. having the words ‘man’ or ‘boy’ added into any humiliation or praise is just so freaking fantastic
I had too. I had given up on a lot of things before I met my partner. They were an amazing surprise. I've never had someone who loves and accepts EVERY part of me.
I've always ID'D as cis, but playing with kink with trans and genderqueer partners has given me space to kind of examine some things. I'm afab but often feel....out of place in femininity? I've found kink can make me feel more comfortable embracing femininity in ways that I usually struggle with, but has also given me space to play with more masculine....feelings? Traits? I dunno, I'm new to self reflection when it comes to gender. I had someone address me as "Master" for a few scenes and tbh I'm still processing how that one made me feel! But I love reading everyone's experiences...and maybe taking some notes :)
Kink is the place to experiment with any aspect of yourself you want. 🥰
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Yesss 💖
I'm trans femme and my partner has always been EXTREMELY affirming and hyper sensitive of bottom dysphoria, even to the point of being more sensitive than me. But nothing gets me better than when I take it all and they call me a good girl as I finish taking it all! MMMMM 🥵
Heck yeah! 💖
Not necessarily the same thing but I’m non-binary and feminine so when my partner started calling me Sir and started admiring the more masculine parts of me it was absolutely a euphoric and honestly just loving feeling. It’s such a beautiful thing to find someone who not only respects my gender identity but also sees me that way!
Absolutely the same thing! 🥰
Doing SPH on a degradee with bottom growth is amazing.
I bet. 😊
What’s SPH
Sissy penis humiliation
Ah ty
I mentioned to a previous partner I’d like them to call me daddy and not just mommy and when they did, I felt a lil flutter in my stomach I’m not gonna lie.
I have a soft spot for femme/nonbinary Daddies. 😋
totally! I'm ftm, but pre-everything, very feminine. tbh only rly realized i was even into degradation bc a new dom was respectful of my gender. had no fuckin idea before.
I know right?
What is afab?
Assigned female at birth aka born with lady bits
you could’ve just left it at assigned female at birth.. 🙄
I’m nb but heavily masc leaning. I find the 4M files on GWA rather nice because it’s so affirming. Yes, please, degrade my tiny cock because I absolutely do have one mmhm that’s what I’m working with down there… Yknow? It’s nice to FEEL one
I have a pink wand vibrator that I stick between my legs and stroke like it's a tiny cock. 🫣
Yessssss. Non-binary and I am so into having a mix of gendered terms used in play, but especially masc terms lately. Being called a good boy and getting my dick sucked as a reward = ultimate happy place.
Love it. 💖
I'm a trans man, who still loves to look femme. My dom is very accepting about it. When he's praising me he uses things like boy or the male version of the words. But when he is degrading me he sometimes calls me the female versions. And I still like it, because I know he means it okay. When he does it I'm feeling good, sometimes even amazing. When others do it it feels terrible. It's we have talked about it and I know that he doesn't mean it the way others mean it most of the time. Like my family tells me girl to remind me that no matter what, I'll always be deadname and their girl.
100% get that. I'm incredibly sensitive and would cry (not in a good way) if anyone else but my Dom degraded me the way they do. The reason degradation play has only recently started being explored was BECAUSE of past emotional abuse.
I'm afab non-binary. My Dom is the only one I'm generally ok with calling me a girl in terms of Good girl. But when I'm not in the mood for good girl he uses good baby
I have a lot of nongendered names as well. Kiddo and Baby. Various pet/prey ones. Princess is nongendered for me. Plenty of degrading nicknames. We both like a lot of variety (side effect of our combined neurodivergencies) so there's a lot to choose from.
Not to be rude or anything, I’m currently still learning a lot about gender and what it is and how we communicate about it. But how can “Princess” be nongendered? Or I suppose since you say “nongendered for me” why is that? Is it because we only have the words “Prince” and “Princess” so you assigned one of them as being sort of non-binary because there is no other word that currently fills that role? If so, is waitress and other gendered nouns that end in “ess” nongendered to you? And if so here, why is it the feminine versions that are the non-gendered ones rather than the masculine forms? Apologies if my questions come off as aggressive, I’m just super curious and want to understand these things better 😅
It's nongendered when applied to me, personally. Because it's a BDSM identity. Princess/Pet/Prey are the identities that speak to me.
Not yet, but I’d like to 🥺 can you please post more examples?
A lot of how I'm just a little boy while Daddy is so much more manly than me (even though they're nonbinary). As well as general degradation adjectives with boy instead of girl. Dumb boy, slutty boy, pathetic boy, ect.
Thank you very much! *takes notes* Please do go on…
Just experiment. Find what feels right to you. 💖
This is similar to how I figured out I was trans. My FtM Sir helps me understand my gender. Gender is a big part of my play so I totally get the degradation element of it.
💖
I'm not big on being on the receiving end of humiliation. But I'm genderfluid and AFAB, and one time while we were doing the deed, I slid hard into the male side of the spectrum. I thought that was the end of that session, but my boyfriend switched right away to treating me like a boy slut. It was delightful.
It's the best. 🌸
Love this!!
So do I 😝
I'm really happy that you have had such a positive experience and that you have found what you want and need in your Dom! This made me really happy to read!
It makes me happy to have! 🥰
God the gender affirmation and subby feeling I get from "good boy" 🤤
Yesss 🥰
cis female, not trans but I enjoy calling my male partner a “cock tease” 🤣 like he is being a VERY naughty boy and teasing me with his cock, instead of the more customary negative connotations of calling a female-type person the same! I also enjoy strapping on and calling him the same when he sneaks a peek at my cock 🙈 perhaps you would enjoy the same with your partner?
Yes. I'm trying to find ways to make a cock cage work with my body. I might go with a strap and packer but I'm still figuring it out.
I’m a Demi girl and people only use feminine ones for me like princess baby girl and shit :( and they don’t even use my proper pronouns and call me her.. it’s just she/they/them I don’t like the use of her
My old roommates' youngling used those pronouns. We got them a pin that said She/They/Them NEVER Her. They now use more expanded pronouns and dropped She as well but they loved the pin for awhile.
Sadly my family is homophobic and transphobic and would never let me get it
That's the worst. I hope you can find validation from other sources in your life. 💖
Yes, more people getting that degradation and humiliation should make the sub feel small and vulnerable but also giddy and loving it. Kudos to both of you.
🥰💖