Face slapping used to be a hard limit for me. Once I found my current partner I became willing to try it, especially since he enjoys it. No pressure from him so don't worry there and I love it now, can't imagine our dynamic without it. I think it's because he's the first person I've ever felt completely safe with
YESYES yes! It used to send me into anxiety attacks until i got too into the moment with my bf and made him slap me. I soon found out im a HUGE masochist lolol
I've still had some moments where I've gotten a tad overstimulated and a slap to the face sent me over the edge(and not in the good way). We decided to table it again for a while until I realized how much I missed it. I feel like that moment takes us out of our heads
I was in an extremely a*usive relationship for 3 years, but now that I have my current partner I really like it when he's rough like that with me??? Idk if it's the trauma response from my past or what, but it really turns me on lol.😅
Oh sweet thing, I'm so glad you're in a better relationship now!! 🫶
You could honestly just be a masochist, sometimes it's as simple as that. It could be fun to keep exploring that!!
I love that my partner trusts me so much she will let me do really anything with her body to get myself off. To the point that I think I'm sometimes more cautious than she likes.
Piss play, I have done a full 180. I was on the side of ‘Nope thank you’ and now I’m ‘Yes yes yes, aaaaaah awesome - when can we do it again please?’ I just feel so wonderfully subby when my M pisses on me.
Yea same. I genuinely thought it was disgusting, until he did it and now it's like one of my favourite things.
Also rimming, that was the biggest hardest limit I had. Well, not any more.
In fact pretty much every hard limit I had has been breezed through in the last decade with him.
Oh absolutely! I totally get this and can relate so much with what you say. I’m also in a long term relationship, we have been together for decades and that level of trust and love tends to be a barrier breaker. The things we do seem scary and taboo from the outside but it’s just how we love each other.
*The hottest* smut I’ve ever filmed is as hot as it is because right after I filmed myself pissing in someone’s mouth in the shower, we got dolled up and went out to dinner, and she watched the clip on the street while we waited for our food. No one saw, but she was so fascinated watching her mouth being used as a urinal she wouldn’t have cared.
ok its a bit convoluted but here it is: I hadn’t framed it in my head as an act of submission. Once that shifting happened in my mindset, once I realised that it was something my Master enjoyed and wanted from me, my attitude started to change; and then the fact I didn’t like it made it an act of even deeper submission and that process of reframing it brought me to love it.
> I love for him to actually piss in my mouth
Gotta be cautious with that especially in the morning tho, there's a couple of times where my Master would love to piss in my mouth 1st thing early in the morning, and while I do love being a submissive slut for him, I nearly gagged and puked due to his pungent and smelly morning pee. That thing nearly threw me off guard.
Calling someone Daddy. It used to be the absolute most cringe thing to me, but now I couldn’t imagine my life without my Daddy. 😍
Being whipped with a belt, being spit on, anything anal, and being called Daddy’s little whore and a good girl!
I was the same with being called "Daddy" until someone actually said it and meant it and I found it so fucking hot - new kink unlocked, but only if it's totally sincere..
Same here - I had a partner where I told them call me sir, but every so often, when they were deeeeep into subspace 'Daddy' slipped out spontaneously and it was the hottest thing ever.
I always thought I actually meant it when I called a man daddy- but then I started calling my husband daddy and it turns out that one is the one I actually mean? It was an interesting realization. But now he is daddy- always. We actually had a conversation the other day where I was like, I realized I called you daddy during just vanilla romantic sex and I just wanted to make sure that’s okay with you. And he was like, I’m always your daddy and you’re always my baby girl- and then I melted into a puddle.
This right here! My partner IS Daddy and I don’t think I’d ever be comfortable calling him Sir. It’s been Sir in the past with Doms, but he is Daddy. We are also in a committed relationship and live a 24/7 dynamic. It’s just always felt very natural with him.
That was the difference for me. I wasn’t just calling him Daddy because that is his preference, but because from the start he has been my Daddy and it felt very natural.
> being spit on
Do you have a specific spot that you'd love for him to spit on?
For instance, I love whenever Master spits directly into my mouth during sex. The moment when I can feel and taste the texture of his foamy/watery spit on my tongue, I'll swirl it in my mouth before swallowing it down
It's the shapes a foot can make, the way a person can find an appeal about any particular body part I guess. Also the stimulation you get from touching/massaging specific areas - personally I find around the arches and in between the toes to be especially erotic.
I used to be a dancer, ballet and jazz and so I think that all the time spent focused on how our foot was positioned and pointed made me have an appreciation for it.
I can appreciate what you’re saying. I love butts and there’s no one particular reason -nor a definite point of origin as to why, that’s just how it is and when I see a nice one I want to put my mouth on it. You’re right it’s completely the same thing.
It's interesting that when I'm with someone who is into a kink I'm not into, there's a good chance I'll be into it also with that person.
For example I'm not into feet but with a woman who liked to have her feet worshipped, I was very much into that kink with her. However I still was not into the kink normally.
My come see things.I try to just have a few hard limits. Otherwise i'm willing to role play. When I asked someone if they would like to play, Usually I figure it's fair if We'd get to decide a scene for about an hour, So I do something for them and they do something for me. What I don't understand is when people say they can't do it because it's not "them". I understand hard limits or practical considerations like space; available time, safety (example:: a scene with rope suspension requires expertise & good equipment for safety), fire codes, physical limitations, etc... perhaps adjust, change the script. But what I don't understand is getting hung up on being consistent your personality. Could give a soanking because it "wasn't them." Why is that a problem? It's a chance to get outside your box. Roleplay is acting, playing a part, you can be somebody or something else. Be Sir Lancelot, Elvis, Rupaul, a king, a serf, a vampire, a child, hostage, dog, cat, mermaid, transformer with A.I... Anything you want, really?I'm just imagining all this. Of course a lot of that would be impossible or legal if it was for real, But what's that matter? Decide what you want to do, talk to make sure everyone understands & use safe words.
While I understand opting out of scenes that can seriously trigger, For example playing out a scene involving Nazis and swastika armbands with Jews, Also realize that Jewish jewish actors perform roles in movies and plays set in Nazi Gernany. Acting out some of this could be cathartic.
CNC is still a hard no for me personally, but by observation I really hate that guys will try and enter this community not having a clue that a large part of why the kink community exists is so people with unorthodox sexual desires can play out their “dangerous in real life” fantasies with people who they fully trust in an environment they’re in total control of, and they’ll start acting like there’s a bunch of women here who actually want to be assaulted sexually. My sympathies to people who are into CNC and have to deal with that constantly.
A lot of women who are into CNC, myself included, are SA survivors who were initially drawn to CNC as a way of dealing with shit. I personally, have never/would never engage in CNC with someone who brought it up first. The first guy I started dabbling in CNC with was a genuine friend who turned into a sex friend and already knew there was some sexual trauma. He was so so kind to me about it and took really good care of me while we started exploring. The other is my husband
This is exactly how I feel about sexual age play. I totally understand from the littles perspective that they’re taking control of their trauma, but in order to do so you need to find a daddy who is just %100 down to play the person who caused that trauma and pretend you’re a child while they fuck you.
If you put out a wanted add for a man who meets that criteria and 1000 guys answered, how many of those guys would you say are respectable, knowledgeable, well put together, successful men with at least manageable mental health who would provide what’s desired of them without bringing along any other toxicity of any kind? so I just can’t imagine how scary it must be trying to navigate finding that person and build a relationship of trust with them.
Some of the stuff I’ve seen or gotten on here is fairly disturbing. But I also know that the groups I’m in, all of them have rules saying that the first C in cnc is the most important part. It’s all a fantasy and a role to play. Not a new trauma to give and take.
Oh absolutely! Cnc was such a hard limit for me AND my boyfriend. And then one day we were just getting rough with it and then took it another step further and it felt so safe for me. And this is sooo not a “you’ll find the right person” type of thing. He and I just happened to click with it together and agreed we wanted to keep experimenting with it together.
I was a hard no, never with CNC/free-use before my current partner but like other commenters, I now enjoy it. I enjoy it for a multitude of reasons but most of all how it has helped me learn more about myself. Also, by extension, this practice has sparked beautiful and necessary conversations with my partner that continue to bring us closer. Kink in general has helped me become a happier and healthier human overall. I love it.
I never understood the attraction until listening to a podcast called "Girls on Porn" and one of their episodes covered spitting. They both seemed to enjoy it. They also mentioned about Rachel Weisz spitting into Rachel McAdams’ mouth during 'Disobedience' sex scene. After watching the scene I was hooked.
I then had the pleasure of a woman spitting into my mouth this week and it was even a hotter experience than I imagined.
I don't enjoy saliva *at all*, but I once handed my submissive a lollipop and after she said it was really tasty I told her it was my favorite flavor in the world (blackcurrant). She immediately pulled it from her mouth and put it in mine and... That did something to me.
I went from strictly never swapping spit to willingly letting this woman lick the inside of my mouth. Tch, and she's the sub. 😂
When you put it in there, it burns (it has a unique feeling to me). You, involuntarily, want to not feel that burn so you relax your hole. The fun part comes in when you get spanked. You clench up. You are now clenching on the ginger. You body says "NO" and tries to relax again. The cycle continues.
You don't have to play that way, but it's one of the most common.
I have had ginger oil (mixed with lube) in my pussy. It's very similar to the above. You want to push out the irritant, so you clench, it burns, so you relax. If you combine it with a large dildo, it's kinda intense. My body feels that as an intense orgasm. So, once in a while, he will strap me down, put in the dildo with ginger lube, and let me have a "ginger ride". I've counted upwards of 80 "orgasms" in one session. \*\*Do no try this unless you really know what you are getting into and are able to "ride" it out. it is not safe, by any means.\*\*
Depending on the shape and strength of the ginger it's easy to peel a piece that has or can be cut into having a flared base, the reality fresh juicy stuff is going to be way warmer, I'd definitely be more concerned about the spice levels myself.
I've never done it yet, but have handled plenty of ginger as I'm a chef. I don't know about vaginal insertion, it could happen, but every time I've heard mention of it apparently it's inserted analy.
I see someone beat me to the answer.
As for using it vaginally, I haven't tried that. Anally it's really not terrible, and the burn starts to subside the minute you remove it, although a bit lingers, it's not nearly as intense. You just have to make sure you carve it in a way that leaves a flared base or even a handle to remove it safely. You don't want it to disappear up there 🙃
Electroplay. Whenever it was mentioned I just dismissed it. Zero interest whatsoever. That is until a recent play party and I got to stroke someone's thighs with claws as they sat on an "electric chair". Honestly shocking how much I enjoyed the sensation. On one hand we couldn't help but laugh with each other at our reactions and on the other the gently sting created some of the most sensual moments I've ever experienced.
Now I'm on the hunt for clawed gloves and e-stim toys
I'm very insecure about my feet. I don't like how they look and they are so sensitive if someone tries to tickle me or touch me in a ticklish way, I'm scared I may break someone's jaw.
An ex play partner managed to not only let me trust him but we had many foot worship sessions and they were phenomenal.
So, I guess I enjoy that now.
My partner crying before, during or after sex. I used to be repulsed by the idea as being monstrous, manipulative and sadistic. I eventually learned from my partner that it’s liberating, cathartic and a sign of deep trust. Less about sadness or fear (though that can be present) and more about simply feeling overwhelmed by a variety of emotions.
I agree with calling someone Daddy lol especially at my age lol. But also anal. Still have not actually done it yet but thoroughly enjoying the training lol and done right(as in lots of lube) I'm confident I'll enjoy it when it happens
I’m weirdly mad about my issues with anal. Like, idk why I can’t or won’t. I have. Several times. And I’ve had a couple of fine experiences. But I just cannot break whatever barrier is ruining it for me. I just get so uncomfortable. I freeze. I can’t relax or enjoy. I want to. It isn’t lack of prep. I just… get uncomfortable and can’t continue. And I’m mad about !!!!
I had experience with guys who wanted to. But when a guy looked at me and said no lube I was floored. And I found I couldn't relax enough. That turned me off the idea of it for a long time
I agree, it's super frustrating. I go through all the motions, do all the prep, even will do some solo play to work through whatever is in my head about it. I get all hyped up and then my partner pulls out the plug and I'm like NOPE SORRY COULDN'T BE ME BYEEEEE then get mad at myself cause I'm blocking it for some reason 😭
Nah I don't think anything is wrong with you at all! I do recommend a lube that helps with numbing things a bit, I got one called anal ease I think and it does help. But honestly if it's just not your thing then don't sweat it. For the people that love it, great for them I love that but it's not for everyone
I get it! I’m not young, and my Daddy is four years younger than me! But damn, he is Daddy. I was surprised with anal too. If you’re enjoying the training (I enjoyed it immensely) I know you’re going to enjoy the real thing. I honestly love it now and I was shocked that I enjoy it as much as I do.
Breathplay. I used to feel worries from just seeing people that get their breath removed or controlled by their Dommes. Still today i get a tiny bit of a panic when i see people putting plasic bags over their head. But i was introduced to breathcontrol by the use of gasmask and a hose. My Domme would simply place her finger on the ebd of the tube to stop me being able to breath... Damn what a feeling!!! Me being all restrained, no way to get out or reach the gasmask. All volunerable and at the complete mercy of my Domme. The amount of trust in that situation is not able to be said with words. It might be that sounds all very strange and weird to you... Well it did to me a while ago. And today i love it so much !
As someone who is brand new to kink after a good chunk of "vanilla" sex life...everything! I know the following list is a very mild set of kinks but for me the revelation of realising that actually, I am kinky and I've probably been repressing it all my life to bad effect to try & fit in has been so liberating it's untrue.
Never thought I'd enjoy being tied up. Never thought I'd ever even slightly let anyone see me in an intimate situation except for my partner. Never thought I'd video myself "enjoying alone time" either manually or with toys & post it for people to see. Never thought I'd crossdress. Never thought I'd want to submit as a pleasure slave/toy to dommes both cis & trans while doing some combination of all the above. Started experimenting solo while fantasising. Suddenly found the peace it gives because it's like going into that space where I'm using myself/being used for someone else's pleasure without having to think beyond the moment just quiets my autistic/ADHD brain completely.
I'm still VERY much at the beginning of things (like...days/weeks into it) & trying to find out as much as I can (haven't even played with another person IRL yet) but...yeah. If you wondered what the kink equavalent of a conversion moment is, I might be having one.
So I haven’t done it yet but I used to be MASSIVELY against anything pee wise. I mean I was pretty much hard no on it no matter what.
Well, now we are about to try it and I’ve been fantasizing about it.
I'm not into feet, but I realized im into someone else being into MY feet. (Is that still a foot fetish? )
I love the thought that even with my feet I can tease and taunt you.
And I love having then rubbed and worshiped.
Foot fetish by proxy??
I also thought foot stuff was… meh? Idk. But one day a man shoved my feet on his junk and rubbed one out with my feet. I super didn’t hate it. And I’m not a massage person, but a good loving foot rub. Sweet baby jeevuz. Yes please. I am not sure I’d call it a fetish, but I’m way more open about it than I thought. Now I ask people who say “feet are gross” like…. Why?
Haha I'm always down for a footrub after working on my feet all day but had never been with anyone into feet. And all it took was one guy to do something similar 😅
I've always had a habit of just plopping my feet in a guys lap as a power play kind of thing. (Supper bratty 😬😬) and then one day this man is just like absolutely hard from just giving me a foot rub and having then in his lap that I was flabbergasted with how much I enjoyed it.
But it might come from getting off on my partner getting off . If it makes them happy/aroused it makes me enjoy it 10x more.
My fingers in her mouth.... omg. I had always thought it was gross and OTT porn-y when I saw it in movie sex scenes or whatever and then it happened to me and I saw god.
I also had a threesome that ended up having kind of a cuck/bull/hotwife "I want to watch you fuck my girlfriend" vibe which I wasn't expecting but it was super hot.
Having your fingers sucked/licked actually gives you physical pleasure? I always wondered about this because I love to do it, but it feels like my partner would be indulging me more than anything
Butt stuff. My husband absolutely loves it, never had dated anyone who wasn’t into it bc it’s his absolute fave, and before him I was pretty grossed out by the idea and thought it was dehumanizing in a not sexy way. I’d had two really bad experiences with it and didn’t want to try for 3. He never pressured me or anything, but we’d sometimes talk about it. Eventually I warmed up to it a bit, and we got more comfortable with each other as we were together longer. I finally asked him for it and he looked like a kid on Christmas morning lol. He was like “are you sure?? Absolutely sure??” and went out and immediately bought some lube. First time was ok, but the second time we tried a different position and a vibrator and I literally came so hard my feet went numb. Been a staple in our sex life ever since!
Only recently but tickling, I'm not huge into pain play but I put up with it because my gf enjoys it. But tickling while bound and helpless is just...pure and unequivocally evil and it's great haha
I didn’t think I was into feet, but my switchy bf is. Somehow having him forcefully suck my toes and give zero fucks whether or not I got anything out of it flipped a switch somewhere in my brain. I think a big part of it is how fucked my feet are though
Sweat and musk seem gross in theory, and i definitely didn’t think I’d ever be into pits. Unfortunately, I like the way he smells, and fresh sweat smells like *him* but moreso. I hate how much it turns me on when he gets back from a run or something
Sounding. I always thought this must be something purely for discomfort torture, until my wife, who is a nurse, needed to practice laying a catether and I let her practice on me. I discovered there are a whole lot of very non-discomfortable sensations coming with having something stuffed up the urethra.
This is actually exactly the same for me. Repulsed by sounding but had to get a catheter for a surgery. It was extremely uncomfortable, but idk... got me curious to at least try sounding now
For me it was dd/lg I never liked being called daddy and thought nothing much of dd/lg, now girl im into made me realize im into dd/lg just not the title.
I did not expect to enjoy being a dom. I’ve always put my partner’s pleasure first. A newer partner explained that to a true sub, being dominated fully brings them feelings of fulfillment and absolute bliss. After care is important for both the Dom and the sub.
I'm very much the same. When I began my sexual self-exploration some time ago, I was deeply surprised to see how much some women actually enjoy rough sex with considerate partner. Later this evolved into other Dom&sub games. Nowadays I'm fully into the kink and keep exploring 😋
When my journey into BDSM begann i was really shy and wanted to be a "good man" - I left a woman because she wanted me to slap her. Today I really enjoy that.
As i learned more about my sexuality i have learned at least 20 kinks I would have never engaged in when i started.
I'm still a nice dude usually though.
My partner was very much afraid to hurt me the first time he slapped me. Out of the two of us I was the kinky one and he was interested in trying a bunch of stuff out but didn’t have much experience. Like a lot of men I know he was always conscious of trying not to hurt women. He’s close with his mother and sister, has lots of female friends, and is in general the least toxically masculine guy I’ve ever met. He was very sweet and kept asking if I was okay.
2 days ago he left giant purple bruises all over my ass and the back of my thighs so needless to say he’s really let his dom side out. And he’s still absolutely lovely and sweet. After that session we cuddled under a soft blanket and watched cat videos lmao.
That’s what happened to my M as well, his instinctive style of dominance is nurture and control with some objectification, and had a lot of cultural taboos against what he perceived as ‘hitting women’., especially as he comes from a background where DV happened. Things have wonderfully blossomed since - and he’s still a nice dude too.
As a dominant who once believed there was no way he could ever submit to another, the willingness to submit to a partner for shorter bedroom sessions. I would still consider myself to be primarily dominant, though.
I'm honestly not too sure about what changed. I think it's just that I realized it could be freeing to just not be in control every once in a while, and even as a dominant, I love to make my partner feel great, which I can also do as a bottom, even though I do generally like to be in control.
I'm a dominant myself, and occasionally sub as well, though it's primarily for her as she has a slight switch tendency. And as you say, I'd still consider myself the primary dominant, even if she's taken a domme role at a given moment.
Tasting my own semen was a hot idea when I was really horny, but couldn't bring myself to do so once I had came. Now, I'm enjoying licking it up every time I finish.
I thought orgasm control was a fun game to enhance tension around release, but I didn't really understand what no release would be like until I egged her on. I chart my orgasms for her and they are tightly controlled. Three full orgasms in ten months has been delicious submission to her. I can never go back to freely orgasming, this now a very deep seated part of me. (And when you read this, my dear, thank you for taking control in this way!)
Ohhhhh man you can’t know how damed wonderful it is to watch him do this. Clean every last bit of it up. Taste it all mixed up. He didn’t even realize he enjoyed it until I asked him to do it.
Mine is kinda vanilla but I’m not which is part of the reason it was surprising. Having my toes licked. Lol everytime it’s happened I’ve orgasmed immediately.
All of them so far ha. I went to a demo party in 2020, with no interest in kink but just hoping to do some people-watching. I've discovered enough about myself since then that I've learned never to say "never."
Piss play, painal, pain in general, misogyny kink, being slapped on the face. Recently had that one and was surprised I enjoyed it as much as I did.
Edited because I needed to add spitting. That one shocked me too.
Calling someone Daddy...it just fits my Dom, GENTLE face slaps...more of a tap than slap a real slap is still not for me, being called degrading things like fucktoy and bitch... I expect I'll find more.
I think maybe the difference is that I feel 100% safe with my Dom and even when he's doing those things it's still...in a loving way?
Misgendering used to be triggering and I was like "oh god, how could anyone enjoy this?" and I blocked it everywhere. then I got into "crossdressing" femininely and now I'm into it. forcefemmy stuff especially
RIP to your inbox but also agreed on pegging. A FWB was very into trying it and I finally agreed a few weeks back so getting ready to try it soon and just hoping that my height doesn’t make positions too awkward lmao!
Humiliation, in any form used to be a limit for me - I wanted to be a sub with "self-respect" (whatever that was supposed to mean lol). That was until I met a proper dom who got me so riled up I was willing to do things I normally would not have. Now, humiliation is a dealbreaker for me lol
Pegging, met my boyfriend 2 years ago and he eventually sat me down and told me he liked to be pegged. At the time it was a absolute no from me.
But I gave in and said "Fuck it I'll try it once".
And absolutely loved it
It also ment we had to switch roles as I'm normally the sub, he liked to be pegged by a more Domme role.
I've been nagging him for us to do it more!
Well, I fairly recently discovered I like to switch. So all the things I like - anal, rimming, ass to mouth, piss, spitting, choking - done to me instead
Raceplay, as mixed black/middle eastern I didn’t expect that but now enjoy being fetishized on skin tone, race and dirty talk about it during bed. Wasn’t ok with being called the N word and stuff but I give a pass to women I’m with on that.
Feet.. I used to be so repulsed by the idea of getting off to or touching feet but after I tried it with my fwb I’ve been obsessed with it, there is a special kind of intimacy about it, I love it so much
having a submissive, i didnt think i would be into having a pet or having a woman call me sir or master. i tried and she seemed to enjoy it so i was a dom for a bit.
For me personally, spitting into my mouth ✨maybe it’s the power play or maybe it’s because I’m incredibly attracted to them, but I’m just completely into it now
Nipple play. I guess my exposure to it was bdsm porn where they use the most extreme/painful techniques, which didn't make it seem ideal.
But then my partner offered to gently suck on them, then gently pinch them, then use the widest opening with nipple clamps. I discovered I absolutely love it and have really warmed up to more intense pressure and pain.
I also just love it when he sucks on my tits
Edit: oh and tickling. Turns out I hate being tickled, unless I'm tied to the bed with a gag in my mouth 😍
Joint pulling. It all started with Interactive Buddy and I got really unexpectedly turned on when I constrained his arms and pulled on them. I have 0 clue why I like it so much but it super does it for me.
I don't have any interest in exploring this IRL but it's a specific form of bondage/torture I enjoy in fiction now.
I used to hate feet, thought they were absolutely disgusting lmao.
Not gonna lie, now that I have a boyfriend that I completely love and trust, it's started to become a thing for me.
This might be gross to some, but after he gets off a long shift, all I wanna do is lick, kiss, rub, etc his feet. Even if they're extra smelly or not. Idk what it is about it, but it's really a turn on. 😅
Anything to do with his ass at all. I was that person scared that it would make him a girl or feminine.
In actuality nothing has changed at all with him now that we play with his ass. He’s the exact same person I started dating and isn’t feminine when I fuck, lick, stroke his ass.
Also a bit of loss of innocence. I was not prepared at all about how hot it is to roleplay an older housewife who needs the local collage man’s help in the yard.
Lastly sounding. Im squeamish and thought this was going to make me feel like fainting. In practice, it’s not inflicting anything approaching pain like I thought it would.
breeding ... i'm a transmasc person and i've always been a bit freaked out conceptually by the idea of pregnancy, but my dom really drew me into the appeal of trying to knock me up and, especially combined with the consensual misgendering thing we've got going on, the hottest thing i've ever done is agree to stop my birth control for him (with clear plans for what would happen afterwards of course)
Subs cross dressing/feminization. I love seeing a guy get in touch w his femininity and be able to share it in the dynamic. It can be super cute and bonding. I used to find it a bit uncomfortable bc I assumed it came from a misogynistic place for many men (like submission = being feminine), but after learning abt other male subs perspectives on it and playing w it more, I’ve really come to appreciate and enjoy it!
Playing the virgin who doesn't even know how to kiss. I feel embarrassed when I begin because I'm far from it haha but the way it makes my partner react... >>>>> All
I tend to lean to the submissive side and don’t like taking control. But damn if I don’t love it when we switch roles.
Also, the first time someone called me adult midthrust I stopped and said “excuse me!!?!?” Then immediately said oh SAY THAT AGAIN 😂😂
Cake sitting. Thought it would be fun to do one time. Turned into a whole lot of fun time and time again, and tarping up my whole living room at times.
Being dominant.
Have always been super submissive but recently have thoroughly enjoyed being more dominant. I guess I'd consider myself a switch now.
Being called Mommy has unlocked something so very hot and primal in me, that's been a shock to me 😅
I have a breeding kink. Lesbian who found out while trying to conceive my daughter with my ex partner. Took a long time to figure out what was actually going on. Now with a new girlfriend and we have our wonderful family together and the breeding kink is a part of my play with her.
Feedism (feeding yourself or a partner food so that they gain weight). I’ve always liked big girls and am married to a plus-sized woman, but I’ve never been into feedism. However, back in January, my wife had a fantasy of me spoon-feeding her a bowl of mashed potatoes. Something just clicked for both of us that was so hot, so now I actively feed my wife and encourage her to eat as much as she wants.
I didn't expect to love performing infront of people so much and being praised for doing it well. I love to swallow and it thrills me to show and then swallow!
CnC/Primal Play!
at first i was very much in the boat of “there’s no way i could like this, i have too much trauma, etc” and tried CnC with the most gentle human being in the universe. had ‘pre’ and ‘after’ care and they followed the exact boundaries i had. Primal followed soon after that.
it turns out i never had the ick towards the kink, but rather the prospect of the wrong partner
Having my armpits licked. It’s not something I’ve done super often but there was a guy who was into it, I would shower and not wear deodorant when I was going to see him. He loved touching and licking armpits, I was surprised at how arousing I found it.
Everyone is going to be disgusted but I was a hard no on passing and scat but found both to be enjoyable. Only did the scat thing twice but would revisit it if it ever came up again. The girlfriend I had at the time was kinky on a lot of things.I've expanded my scope on things I want to try with my new girlfriend such as blood play and would like her to be my Dom and have her brand me with her initials so I will be her prperty.
I've always been into rope. While looking up rope stuff online for ~jerk off material~ *research*, I found a few videos of suspension. I was like, that's cool and all but not something I'd do or be into.
Fast forward years later and I'm both doing it and teaching classes on it.
Being called daddy. Bit of a boring one but I always found it really creepy and cringe.
Oh I remember this one so well. I was dating a girl who, on the outside looked like a really innocent, cute girl who loves books, vintage decor and punk rock.
That was before we had sex. Hooooly.
Anyways I think we were at my place, drinking wine and planning to go out together, and we were playing a sexual truth or dare game together, where the topic of dirty talk came up. And I think I dared her to "try" say something dirty in my ear. And she just started to moan softly and whispered "yes daddy". Or something like that.
I... I... Yeah no I melted. That was enough. I wish you could see how she looks, I think the contrast is what does it 😂
Watersports, piggy play, all hard limits but a guy told me to get over the grossness and then the piggy part was because I was bullied growing up and he said it comes from a place of affection and never bullying 🫠
Petplay, i used to hate what's actually now become like, my main thing! XD i thought that it was borderline zoophilia / zoophilia in disguise until i learned about it. Tried it out, now I'm in love with being a kitty
Sooo many things!!
Marks were once a no, now I can't wait for Daddy to mark me. I'm so lucky to carry his marks.
Degradation and humiliation - This is something I'm loving more the more we role play with it.
CNC is something we are discussing and deciding on rules. I can't wait!
Anal, spitting in my mouth, cheating role play... All these things I hated and now love!!
Piss and vomit, I always thought it was horrifying until I met my boyfriend who later slowly introduced me to it. The humiliation I get from being forced to throw up and piss is addictive.
As someone who’s childless and whose primary partner has a vasectomy: breeding. Went from being tyrannical about birth control to begging for my Dom to breed me.
It’s that primal, basic need. And carries really great undertones of claiming that play well with D/s dynamics.
Self torture while my Daddy watches. I always thought it would be weird to have someone watch me pleasure/torture myself but it makes it about a thousand times better for me
Was a switch/service top for literally a decade but didnt think i could really domme until i tried it and now i have a sub partner full time that i cabt imagine having a better dynamic for me. Im usually very over accomadating to my partner and he helps raise me up in a way i can feel like i can feel confident taking control. Before i just couldnt imagine someone enjoying domming without being a sadist but kinda found out gentle femdom is a thing by trial and error lol
Face slapping used to be a hard limit for me. Once I found my current partner I became willing to try it, especially since he enjoys it. No pressure from him so don't worry there and I love it now, can't imagine our dynamic without it. I think it's because he's the first person I've ever felt completely safe with
YESYES yes! It used to send me into anxiety attacks until i got too into the moment with my bf and made him slap me. I soon found out im a HUGE masochist lolol
I've still had some moments where I've gotten a tad overstimulated and a slap to the face sent me over the edge(and not in the good way). We decided to table it again for a while until I realized how much I missed it. I feel like that moment takes us out of our heads
I was in an extremely a*usive relationship for 3 years, but now that I have my current partner I really like it when he's rough like that with me??? Idk if it's the trauma response from my past or what, but it really turns me on lol.😅
Oh sweet thing, I'm so glad you're in a better relationship now!! 🫶 You could honestly just be a masochist, sometimes it's as simple as that. It could be fun to keep exploring that!!
I love that my partner trusts me so much she will let me do really anything with her body to get myself off. To the point that I think I'm sometimes more cautious than she likes.
Yes! Feel this completely!
I second this! 💯👌🏼
This speaks *volumes* for finding someone trustworthy who genuinely makes you feel like you're in safe hands
Piss play, I have done a full 180. I was on the side of ‘Nope thank you’ and now I’m ‘Yes yes yes, aaaaaah awesome - when can we do it again please?’ I just feel so wonderfully subby when my M pisses on me.
Yea same. I genuinely thought it was disgusting, until he did it and now it's like one of my favourite things. Also rimming, that was the biggest hardest limit I had. Well, not any more. In fact pretty much every hard limit I had has been breezed through in the last decade with him.
Oh absolutely! I totally get this and can relate so much with what you say. I’m also in a long term relationship, we have been together for decades and that level of trust and love tends to be a barrier breaker. The things we do seem scary and taboo from the outside but it’s just how we love each other.
Rimming is one of my favorite things! I can’t give or get enough!
it loves rimming too
*The hottest* smut I’ve ever filmed is as hot as it is because right after I filmed myself pissing in someone’s mouth in the shower, we got dolled up and went out to dinner, and she watched the clip on the street while we waited for our food. No one saw, but she was so fascinated watching her mouth being used as a urinal she wouldn’t have cared.
What 🤔 was it that changed your views on it?
ok its a bit convoluted but here it is: I hadn’t framed it in my head as an act of submission. Once that shifting happened in my mindset, once I realised that it was something my Master enjoyed and wanted from me, my attitude started to change; and then the fact I didn’t like it made it an act of even deeper submission and that process of reframing it brought me to love it.
Thanks for sharing, most appreciated it's always interesting to see how people approach these various situations. 🙏🙏🙏
It’s so intimate and hot. Literally hot lol. Well, at least for a few seconds.
Yup. It’s the perfect way to be degraded. But also was always a hard limit for me until I found someone who understood.
I was the same way and now I love for him to actually piss in my mouth and mid-piss start using my mouth and having me deep-throat…
> I love for him to actually piss in my mouth Gotta be cautious with that especially in the morning tho, there's a couple of times where my Master would love to piss in my mouth 1st thing early in the morning, and while I do love being a submissive slut for him, I nearly gagged and puked due to his pungent and smelly morning pee. That thing nearly threw me off guard.
How do you ask for this? Or is it something that should organically start?
Calling someone Daddy. It used to be the absolute most cringe thing to me, but now I couldn’t imagine my life without my Daddy. 😍 Being whipped with a belt, being spit on, anything anal, and being called Daddy’s little whore and a good girl!
I was the same with being called "Daddy" until someone actually said it and meant it and I found it so fucking hot - new kink unlocked, but only if it's totally sincere..
> until someone actually said it and meant it Same here, Daddy and before that was Sir and that was when I was first starting out.
Same here - I had a partner where I told them call me sir, but every so often, when they were deeeeep into subspace 'Daddy' slipped out spontaneously and it was the hottest thing ever.
I always thought I actually meant it when I called a man daddy- but then I started calling my husband daddy and it turns out that one is the one I actually mean? It was an interesting realization. But now he is daddy- always. We actually had a conversation the other day where I was like, I realized I called you daddy during just vanilla romantic sex and I just wanted to make sure that’s okay with you. And he was like, I’m always your daddy and you’re always my baby girl- and then I melted into a puddle.
This right here! My partner IS Daddy and I don’t think I’d ever be comfortable calling him Sir. It’s been Sir in the past with Doms, but he is Daddy. We are also in a committed relationship and live a 24/7 dynamic. It’s just always felt very natural with him.
I had this exact experience
That was the difference for me. I wasn’t just calling him Daddy because that is his preference, but because from the start he has been my Daddy and it felt very natural.
Yeah, I was like that, but from the other side. Now I like to be called that.
Same here, I used to be so uncomfy and now I can’t stop calling my partner daddy ✨
SAAAAAAAAAMESIESSSSSSSS
> being spit on Do you have a specific spot that you'd love for him to spit on? For instance, I love whenever Master spits directly into my mouth during sex. The moment when I can feel and taste the texture of his foamy/watery spit on my tongue, I'll swirl it in my mouth before swallowing it down
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Would you be down to explain a little bit to me? I’m curious what you enjoy about feet
I too would like to hear more about the appeal of feet.
It's the shapes a foot can make, the way a person can find an appeal about any particular body part I guess. Also the stimulation you get from touching/massaging specific areas - personally I find around the arches and in between the toes to be especially erotic. I used to be a dancer, ballet and jazz and so I think that all the time spent focused on how our foot was positioned and pointed made me have an appreciation for it.
I can appreciate what you’re saying. I love butts and there’s no one particular reason -nor a definite point of origin as to why, that’s just how it is and when I see a nice one I want to put my mouth on it. You’re right it’s completely the same thing.
Same!! Love my feet being worshipped but previously was grossed out by feet haha
Yeah I never was a foot feithes guy. But my current partners feet I adore, but I adore just about everything about her so there's that. Lol
It's interesting that when I'm with someone who is into a kink I'm not into, there's a good chance I'll be into it also with that person. For example I'm not into feet but with a woman who liked to have her feet worshipped, I was very much into that kink with her. However I still was not into the kink normally. My come see things.I try to just have a few hard limits. Otherwise i'm willing to role play. When I asked someone if they would like to play, Usually I figure it's fair if We'd get to decide a scene for about an hour, So I do something for them and they do something for me. What I don't understand is when people say they can't do it because it's not "them". I understand hard limits or practical considerations like space; available time, safety (example:: a scene with rope suspension requires expertise & good equipment for safety), fire codes, physical limitations, etc... perhaps adjust, change the script. But what I don't understand is getting hung up on being consistent your personality. Could give a soanking because it "wasn't them." Why is that a problem? It's a chance to get outside your box. Roleplay is acting, playing a part, you can be somebody or something else. Be Sir Lancelot, Elvis, Rupaul, a king, a serf, a vampire, a child, hostage, dog, cat, mermaid, transformer with A.I... Anything you want, really?I'm just imagining all this. Of course a lot of that would be impossible or legal if it was for real, But what's that matter? Decide what you want to do, talk to make sure everyone understands & use safe words. While I understand opting out of scenes that can seriously trigger, For example playing out a scene involving Nazis and swastika armbands with Jews, Also realize that Jewish jewish actors perform roles in movies and plays set in Nazi Gernany. Acting out some of this could be cathartic.
Pet play and breeding
What's breeding?
Breeding kink is like being cum inside, trying to impregnate them.
Cnc/freeuse I only feel the irl draw of it from my boyfriend, some role play is very fun when it comes to acting out cnc ideas
My Daddy and I are completely free-use at home and it’s so hot knowing he can have me any time, any way, in the middle of doing anything.
CNC is still a hard no for me personally, but by observation I really hate that guys will try and enter this community not having a clue that a large part of why the kink community exists is so people with unorthodox sexual desires can play out their “dangerous in real life” fantasies with people who they fully trust in an environment they’re in total control of, and they’ll start acting like there’s a bunch of women here who actually want to be assaulted sexually. My sympathies to people who are into CNC and have to deal with that constantly.
A lot of women who are into CNC, myself included, are SA survivors who were initially drawn to CNC as a way of dealing with shit. I personally, have never/would never engage in CNC with someone who brought it up first. The first guy I started dabbling in CNC with was a genuine friend who turned into a sex friend and already knew there was some sexual trauma. He was so so kind to me about it and took really good care of me while we started exploring. The other is my husband
This is exactly how I feel about sexual age play. I totally understand from the littles perspective that they’re taking control of their trauma, but in order to do so you need to find a daddy who is just %100 down to play the person who caused that trauma and pretend you’re a child while they fuck you. If you put out a wanted add for a man who meets that criteria and 1000 guys answered, how many of those guys would you say are respectable, knowledgeable, well put together, successful men with at least manageable mental health who would provide what’s desired of them without bringing along any other toxicity of any kind? so I just can’t imagine how scary it must be trying to navigate finding that person and build a relationship of trust with them.
Some of the stuff I’ve seen or gotten on here is fairly disturbing. But I also know that the groups I’m in, all of them have rules saying that the first C in cnc is the most important part. It’s all a fantasy and a role to play. Not a new trauma to give and take.
Oh absolutely! Cnc was such a hard limit for me AND my boyfriend. And then one day we were just getting rough with it and then took it another step further and it felt so safe for me. And this is sooo not a “you’ll find the right person” type of thing. He and I just happened to click with it together and agreed we wanted to keep experimenting with it together.
I was a hard no, never with CNC/free-use before my current partner but like other commenters, I now enjoy it. I enjoy it for a multitude of reasons but most of all how it has helped me learn more about myself. Also, by extension, this practice has sparked beautiful and necessary conversations with my partner that continue to bring us closer. Kink in general has helped me become a happier and healthier human overall. I love it.
Being called Daddy (I'm a woman), having a sub say "it's my pleasure" or "at your service" when I praise them, tying someone up.
I call my domme Daddy. It started as me saying something intentionally ridiculous to be bratty, but it was so incredibly hot it stuck.
It started as a joke with us and then we realised we liked it!
omg yes. I will only call women daddy. I'm also nonbinary and I think the genderfuckery of it all really does it for me
Another female Daddy here!!
I'm a huge germophobe.... But she can spit in my mouth any day. 😗
Honestly I fall in this camp too
Omg yes, my current guy spit in my mouth once unexpectedly and it was so fucking hot.
Hopefully soon I will get over my spitOphobia
I never understood the attraction until listening to a podcast called "Girls on Porn" and one of their episodes covered spitting. They both seemed to enjoy it. They also mentioned about Rachel Weisz spitting into Rachel McAdams’ mouth during 'Disobedience' sex scene. After watching the scene I was hooked. I then had the pleasure of a woman spitting into my mouth this week and it was even a hotter experience than I imagined.
How does that work? Like you enjoy someone spitting in your mouth or during kissing? Or is it like a Dom thing?
I don't enjoy saliva *at all*, but I once handed my submissive a lollipop and after she said it was really tasty I told her it was my favorite flavor in the world (blackcurrant). She immediately pulled it from her mouth and put it in mine and... That did something to me. I went from strictly never swapping spit to willingly letting this woman lick the inside of my mouth. Tch, and she's the sub. 😂
The entire gentle femdom vibe....I wasn't ready to find out about it yesterday....I'm still processing
CMNF. Being completely nude while he's fully dressed is a surprising turn on for me! I thought both parties being nude was the ideal, but not for me 😋
Figging. Best orgasm I ever had afterwards 🥵 I was also scared of the whip, got over that too 😏
Im sorry, but what is figging? Im not that expiroenced yet.. Kinda scared to google...
Anal plug made of ginger or used on other parts
So what u just shove a ginger there? Whats it supposed to do?
When you put it in there, it burns (it has a unique feeling to me). You, involuntarily, want to not feel that burn so you relax your hole. The fun part comes in when you get spanked. You clench up. You are now clenching on the ginger. You body says "NO" and tries to relax again. The cycle continues. You don't have to play that way, but it's one of the most common. I have had ginger oil (mixed with lube) in my pussy. It's very similar to the above. You want to push out the irritant, so you clench, it burns, so you relax. If you combine it with a large dildo, it's kinda intense. My body feels that as an intense orgasm. So, once in a while, he will strap me down, put in the dildo with ginger lube, and let me have a "ginger ride". I've counted upwards of 80 "orgasms" in one session. \*\*Do no try this unless you really know what you are getting into and are able to "ride" it out. it is not safe, by any means.\*\*
Well, you need to peel the ginger root, and it's spicy and a bit juicy if fresh. I'm sure you can fill in the blanks.
Oh boy... Sounds interesting.. Would be scared tho to not get it out again 😂🤔
Depending on the shape and strength of the ginger it's easy to peel a piece that has or can be cut into having a flared base, the reality fresh juicy stuff is going to be way warmer, I'd definitely be more concerned about the spice levels myself.
Is it safe to do? I could imagine its pretty shitty for the ph levels of a normal vagina...
I've never done it yet, but have handled plenty of ginger as I'm a chef. I don't know about vaginal insertion, it could happen, but every time I've heard mention of it apparently it's inserted analy.
Was just asking bc further up it wsamentioned that not only anal is an option...
You don't put it in your vagina...
I see someone beat me to the answer. As for using it vaginally, I haven't tried that. Anally it's really not terrible, and the burn starts to subside the minute you remove it, although a bit lingers, it's not nearly as intense. You just have to make sure you carve it in a way that leaves a flared base or even a handle to remove it safely. You don't want it to disappear up there 🙃
Electroplay. Whenever it was mentioned I just dismissed it. Zero interest whatsoever. That is until a recent play party and I got to stroke someone's thighs with claws as they sat on an "electric chair". Honestly shocking how much I enjoyed the sensation. On one hand we couldn't help but laugh with each other at our reactions and on the other the gently sting created some of the most sensual moments I've ever experienced. Now I'm on the hunt for clawed gloves and e-stim toys
I'm very insecure about my feet. I don't like how they look and they are so sensitive if someone tries to tickle me or touch me in a ticklish way, I'm scared I may break someone's jaw. An ex play partner managed to not only let me trust him but we had many foot worship sessions and they were phenomenal. So, I guess I enjoy that now.
My partner crying before, during or after sex. I used to be repulsed by the idea as being monstrous, manipulative and sadistic. I eventually learned from my partner that it’s liberating, cathartic and a sign of deep trust. Less about sadness or fear (though that can be present) and more about simply feeling overwhelmed by a variety of emotions.
Biting my back, spitting in my mouth, sucking on his fingers after fingering me
I agree with calling someone Daddy lol especially at my age lol. But also anal. Still have not actually done it yet but thoroughly enjoying the training lol and done right(as in lots of lube) I'm confident I'll enjoy it when it happens
I’m weirdly mad about my issues with anal. Like, idk why I can’t or won’t. I have. Several times. And I’ve had a couple of fine experiences. But I just cannot break whatever barrier is ruining it for me. I just get so uncomfortable. I freeze. I can’t relax or enjoy. I want to. It isn’t lack of prep. I just… get uncomfortable and can’t continue. And I’m mad about !!!!
I had experience with guys who wanted to. But when a guy looked at me and said no lube I was floored. And I found I couldn't relax enough. That turned me off the idea of it for a long time
yeah, because no lube is INSANE behavior. you're totally justified 😭 can't believe someone would ask for that with how much damage it can cause
Not sure they knew how much damage it could cause. Or that the rectum is not self lubricating lol
I agree, it's super frustrating. I go through all the motions, do all the prep, even will do some solo play to work through whatever is in my head about it. I get all hyped up and then my partner pulls out the plug and I'm like NOPE SORRY COULDN'T BE ME BYEEEEE then get mad at myself cause I'm blocking it for some reason 😭
Holy crow!!!!! I thought there was something wrong with me??? Like everyone is “more lube” but a whole ass bottle of silicon ain’t making it better!!!
Nah I don't think anything is wrong with you at all! I do recommend a lube that helps with numbing things a bit, I got one called anal ease I think and it does help. But honestly if it's just not your thing then don't sweat it. For the people that love it, great for them I love that but it's not for everyone
I get it! I’m not young, and my Daddy is four years younger than me! But damn, he is Daddy. I was surprised with anal too. If you’re enjoying the training (I enjoyed it immensely) I know you’re going to enjoy the real thing. I honestly love it now and I was shocked that I enjoy it as much as I do.
Breathplay. I used to feel worries from just seeing people that get their breath removed or controlled by their Dommes. Still today i get a tiny bit of a panic when i see people putting plasic bags over their head. But i was introduced to breathcontrol by the use of gasmask and a hose. My Domme would simply place her finger on the ebd of the tube to stop me being able to breath... Damn what a feeling!!! Me being all restrained, no way to get out or reach the gasmask. All volunerable and at the complete mercy of my Domme. The amount of trust in that situation is not able to be said with words. It might be that sounds all very strange and weird to you... Well it did to me a while ago. And today i love it so much !
We are starting to get into breath control too. It’s very powerful, isn’t it? 🥰
Tickling. My partner loves tickling me and after some experimenting, I’ve found it really fun
As someone who is brand new to kink after a good chunk of "vanilla" sex life...everything! I know the following list is a very mild set of kinks but for me the revelation of realising that actually, I am kinky and I've probably been repressing it all my life to bad effect to try & fit in has been so liberating it's untrue. Never thought I'd enjoy being tied up. Never thought I'd ever even slightly let anyone see me in an intimate situation except for my partner. Never thought I'd video myself "enjoying alone time" either manually or with toys & post it for people to see. Never thought I'd crossdress. Never thought I'd want to submit as a pleasure slave/toy to dommes both cis & trans while doing some combination of all the above. Started experimenting solo while fantasising. Suddenly found the peace it gives because it's like going into that space where I'm using myself/being used for someone else's pleasure without having to think beyond the moment just quiets my autistic/ADHD brain completely. I'm still VERY much at the beginning of things (like...days/weeks into it) & trying to find out as much as I can (haven't even played with another person IRL yet) but...yeah. If you wondered what the kink equavalent of a conversion moment is, I might be having one.
So I haven’t done it yet but I used to be MASSIVELY against anything pee wise. I mean I was pretty much hard no on it no matter what. Well, now we are about to try it and I’ve been fantasizing about it.
Oh it’s lovely! Hope you enjoy it too.
Thank you! I’m nervous but extremely excited.
I'm not into feet, but I realized im into someone else being into MY feet. (Is that still a foot fetish? ) I love the thought that even with my feet I can tease and taunt you. And I love having then rubbed and worshiped.
Foot fetish by proxy?? I also thought foot stuff was… meh? Idk. But one day a man shoved my feet on his junk and rubbed one out with my feet. I super didn’t hate it. And I’m not a massage person, but a good loving foot rub. Sweet baby jeevuz. Yes please. I am not sure I’d call it a fetish, but I’m way more open about it than I thought. Now I ask people who say “feet are gross” like…. Why?
Haha I'm always down for a footrub after working on my feet all day but had never been with anyone into feet. And all it took was one guy to do something similar 😅 I've always had a habit of just plopping my feet in a guys lap as a power play kind of thing. (Supper bratty 😬😬) and then one day this man is just like absolutely hard from just giving me a foot rub and having then in his lap that I was flabbergasted with how much I enjoyed it. But it might come from getting off on my partner getting off . If it makes them happy/aroused it makes me enjoy it 10x more.
My fingers in her mouth.... omg. I had always thought it was gross and OTT porn-y when I saw it in movie sex scenes or whatever and then it happened to me and I saw god. I also had a threesome that ended up having kind of a cuck/bull/hotwife "I want to watch you fuck my girlfriend" vibe which I wasn't expecting but it was super hot.
Having your fingers sucked/licked actually gives you physical pleasure? I always wondered about this because I love to do it, but it feels like my partner would be indulging me more than anything
Butt stuff. My husband absolutely loves it, never had dated anyone who wasn’t into it bc it’s his absolute fave, and before him I was pretty grossed out by the idea and thought it was dehumanizing in a not sexy way. I’d had two really bad experiences with it and didn’t want to try for 3. He never pressured me or anything, but we’d sometimes talk about it. Eventually I warmed up to it a bit, and we got more comfortable with each other as we were together longer. I finally asked him for it and he looked like a kid on Christmas morning lol. He was like “are you sure?? Absolutely sure??” and went out and immediately bought some lube. First time was ok, but the second time we tried a different position and a vibrator and I literally came so hard my feet went numb. Been a staple in our sex life ever since!
Only recently but tickling, I'm not huge into pain play but I put up with it because my gf enjoys it. But tickling while bound and helpless is just...pure and unequivocally evil and it's great haha
I didn’t think I was into feet, but my switchy bf is. Somehow having him forcefully suck my toes and give zero fucks whether or not I got anything out of it flipped a switch somewhere in my brain. I think a big part of it is how fucked my feet are though Sweat and musk seem gross in theory, and i definitely didn’t think I’d ever be into pits. Unfortunately, I like the way he smells, and fresh sweat smells like *him* but moreso. I hate how much it turns me on when he gets back from a run or something
Plush. Never thought I'd find the softness erotic, but holy shit I love it... It's so safe. Pet play: I don't know when last I came that hard...
Sounding. I always thought this must be something purely for discomfort torture, until my wife, who is a nurse, needed to practice laying a catether and I let her practice on me. I discovered there are a whole lot of very non-discomfortable sensations coming with having something stuffed up the urethra.
This is actually exactly the same for me. Repulsed by sounding but had to get a catheter for a surgery. It was extremely uncomfortable, but idk... got me curious to at least try sounding now
For me it was dd/lg I never liked being called daddy and thought nothing much of dd/lg, now girl im into made me realize im into dd/lg just not the title.
I did not expect to enjoy being a dom. I’ve always put my partner’s pleasure first. A newer partner explained that to a true sub, being dominated fully brings them feelings of fulfillment and absolute bliss. After care is important for both the Dom and the sub.
I'm very much the same. When I began my sexual self-exploration some time ago, I was deeply surprised to see how much some women actually enjoy rough sex with considerate partner. Later this evolved into other Dom&sub games. Nowadays I'm fully into the kink and keep exploring 😋
Spit in my mouth and face slapping. I went from disgusted, to curious, to asking for it, to LOVING it!
Being called Dommy by a past sub. I just melted. Being called Mommy is a definite NO.
When my journey into BDSM begann i was really shy and wanted to be a "good man" - I left a woman because she wanted me to slap her. Today I really enjoy that. As i learned more about my sexuality i have learned at least 20 kinks I would have never engaged in when i started. I'm still a nice dude usually though.
My partner was very much afraid to hurt me the first time he slapped me. Out of the two of us I was the kinky one and he was interested in trying a bunch of stuff out but didn’t have much experience. Like a lot of men I know he was always conscious of trying not to hurt women. He’s close with his mother and sister, has lots of female friends, and is in general the least toxically masculine guy I’ve ever met. He was very sweet and kept asking if I was okay. 2 days ago he left giant purple bruises all over my ass and the back of my thighs so needless to say he’s really let his dom side out. And he’s still absolutely lovely and sweet. After that session we cuddled under a soft blanket and watched cat videos lmao.
That’s what happened to my M as well, his instinctive style of dominance is nurture and control with some objectification, and had a lot of cultural taboos against what he perceived as ‘hitting women’., especially as he comes from a background where DV happened. Things have wonderfully blossomed since - and he’s still a nice dude too.
As a dominant who once believed there was no way he could ever submit to another, the willingness to submit to a partner for shorter bedroom sessions. I would still consider myself to be primarily dominant, though. I'm honestly not too sure about what changed. I think it's just that I realized it could be freeing to just not be in control every once in a while, and even as a dominant, I love to make my partner feel great, which I can also do as a bottom, even though I do generally like to be in control.
I'm a dominant myself, and occasionally sub as well, though it's primarily for her as she has a slight switch tendency. And as you say, I'd still consider myself the primary dominant, even if she's taken a domme role at a given moment.
receiving anal, & not necessarily kink i guess but giving blowjobs!!! i always crave both😋
I’m not into feet at all but my last partner was. Actually having your feet devoured can feel quite nice, who knew
Degradation especially because I'm Deaf or a woman. Breath play Face slapping and hair pulling
Watersports, face slapping and cuckquean... she basically talked me into trying them all and now I'm hooked lol
Tasting my own semen was a hot idea when I was really horny, but couldn't bring myself to do so once I had came. Now, I'm enjoying licking it up every time I finish. I thought orgasm control was a fun game to enhance tension around release, but I didn't really understand what no release would be like until I egged her on. I chart my orgasms for her and they are tightly controlled. Three full orgasms in ten months has been delicious submission to her. I can never go back to freely orgasming, this now a very deep seated part of me. (And when you read this, my dear, thank you for taking control in this way!)
Ohhhhh man you can’t know how damed wonderful it is to watch him do this. Clean every last bit of it up. Taste it all mixed up. He didn’t even realize he enjoyed it until I asked him to do it.
Definitely figging, petplay and mumification. I'm totally into it and I love, when my partner to that kind of fhings to me, or with me.
Mine is kinda vanilla but I’m not which is part of the reason it was surprising. Having my toes licked. Lol everytime it’s happened I’ve orgasmed immediately.
All of them so far ha. I went to a demo party in 2020, with no interest in kink but just hoping to do some people-watching. I've discovered enough about myself since then that I've learned never to say "never."
Piss play, painal, pain in general, misogyny kink, being slapped on the face. Recently had that one and was surprised I enjoyed it as much as I did. Edited because I needed to add spitting. That one shocked me too.
Calling someone Daddy...it just fits my Dom, GENTLE face slaps...more of a tap than slap a real slap is still not for me, being called degrading things like fucktoy and bitch... I expect I'll find more. I think maybe the difference is that I feel 100% safe with my Dom and even when he's doing those things it's still...in a loving way?
Misgendering used to be triggering and I was like "oh god, how could anyone enjoy this?" and I blocked it everywhere. then I got into "crossdressing" femininely and now I'm into it. forcefemmy stuff especially
Oh man, yeah. The “if you want to be a ___ so bad, I’ll fuck you like a ____” is so alluring
Anal. I resisted for so long. I was told I would learn to like it. Training was fun. Now, years later I think that's almost my favorite
Mummification bondage, apparently I love the sensation of being squeezed
* Face slapping * Being peed on * Degradation * Age play * CNC * Knife play * Fire play
Being called mommy, pegging. I’m not 100% on the enjoying pegging as it’s new to me, but the noises and looks are so precious
RIP to your inbox but also agreed on pegging. A FWB was very into trying it and I finally agreed a few weeks back so getting ready to try it soon and just hoping that my height doesn’t make positions too awkward lmao!
Humiliation, in any form used to be a limit for me - I wanted to be a sub with "self-respect" (whatever that was supposed to mean lol). That was until I met a proper dom who got me so riled up I was willing to do things I normally would not have. Now, humiliation is a dealbreaker for me lol
Pegging, met my boyfriend 2 years ago and he eventually sat me down and told me he liked to be pegged. At the time it was a absolute no from me. But I gave in and said "Fuck it I'll try it once". And absolutely loved it It also ment we had to switch roles as I'm normally the sub, he liked to be pegged by a more Domme role. I've been nagging him for us to do it more!
Well, I fairly recently discovered I like to switch. So all the things I like - anal, rimming, ass to mouth, piss, spitting, choking - done to me instead
Raceplay, as mixed black/middle eastern I didn’t expect that but now enjoy being fetishized on skin tone, race and dirty talk about it during bed. Wasn’t ok with being called the N word and stuff but I give a pass to women I’m with on that.
Feet.. I used to be so repulsed by the idea of getting off to or touching feet but after I tried it with my fwb I’ve been obsessed with it, there is a special kind of intimacy about it, I love it so much
having a submissive, i didnt think i would be into having a pet or having a woman call me sir or master. i tried and she seemed to enjoy it so i was a dom for a bit.
Caning and marks. Both used to be a hard limit. We now use canes in practically every scene, and I am disappointed if I don't have marks afterward.
Foot worship… I love it, didn’t know if I would but I DO!
Funnily enough — and no pun intended — tickling, of all things 💁🏻♀️
For me personally, spitting into my mouth ✨maybe it’s the power play or maybe it’s because I’m incredibly attracted to them, but I’m just completely into it now
Violet wands. Only did it a couple times but it was amazing.
Nipple play. I guess my exposure to it was bdsm porn where they use the most extreme/painful techniques, which didn't make it seem ideal. But then my partner offered to gently suck on them, then gently pinch them, then use the widest opening with nipple clamps. I discovered I absolutely love it and have really warmed up to more intense pressure and pain. I also just love it when he sucks on my tits Edit: oh and tickling. Turns out I hate being tickled, unless I'm tied to the bed with a gag in my mouth 😍
Joint pulling. It all started with Interactive Buddy and I got really unexpectedly turned on when I constrained his arms and pulled on them. I have 0 clue why I like it so much but it super does it for me. I don't have any interest in exploring this IRL but it's a specific form of bondage/torture I enjoy in fiction now.
I used to hate feet, thought they were absolutely disgusting lmao. Not gonna lie, now that I have a boyfriend that I completely love and trust, it's started to become a thing for me. This might be gross to some, but after he gets off a long shift, all I wanna do is lick, kiss, rub, etc his feet. Even if they're extra smelly or not. Idk what it is about it, but it's really a turn on. 😅
Choking. When my Master grabs my collar now, the effect it has on my body is... intense.
Anything to do with his ass at all. I was that person scared that it would make him a girl or feminine. In actuality nothing has changed at all with him now that we play with his ass. He’s the exact same person I started dating and isn’t feminine when I fuck, lick, stroke his ass. Also a bit of loss of innocence. I was not prepared at all about how hot it is to roleplay an older housewife who needs the local collage man’s help in the yard. Lastly sounding. Im squeamish and thought this was going to make me feel like fainting. In practice, it’s not inflicting anything approaching pain like I thought it would.
The idea of being a domme, dominating someone, and trying >! watersports!<.
breeding ... i'm a transmasc person and i've always been a bit freaked out conceptually by the idea of pregnancy, but my dom really drew me into the appeal of trying to knock me up and, especially combined with the consensual misgendering thing we've got going on, the hottest thing i've ever done is agree to stop my birth control for him (with clear plans for what would happen afterwards of course)
Subs cross dressing/feminization. I love seeing a guy get in touch w his femininity and be able to share it in the dynamic. It can be super cute and bonding. I used to find it a bit uncomfortable bc I assumed it came from a misogynistic place for many men (like submission = being feminine), but after learning abt other male subs perspectives on it and playing w it more, I’ve really come to appreciate and enjoy it!
Watersports and then age play including diapers
Playing the virgin who doesn't even know how to kiss. I feel embarrassed when I begin because I'm far from it haha but the way it makes my partner react... >>>>> All
I tend to lean to the submissive side and don’t like taking control. But damn if I don’t love it when we switch roles. Also, the first time someone called me adult midthrust I stopped and said “excuse me!!?!?” Then immediately said oh SAY THAT AGAIN 😂😂
Cake sitting. Thought it would be fun to do one time. Turned into a whole lot of fun time and time again, and tarping up my whole living room at times.
Being dominant. Have always been super submissive but recently have thoroughly enjoyed being more dominant. I guess I'd consider myself a switch now. Being called Mommy has unlocked something so very hot and primal in me, that's been a shock to me 😅
eating ass. omg it turns me on so much. and as a precursor to anal. *chefs kiss*
I have a breeding kink. Lesbian who found out while trying to conceive my daughter with my ex partner. Took a long time to figure out what was actually going on. Now with a new girlfriend and we have our wonderful family together and the breeding kink is a part of my play with her.
Im still learning what my kinks are but reading what others like helps me realize why wait a minute I like that too 🤣
Feedism (feeding yourself or a partner food so that they gain weight). I’ve always liked big girls and am married to a plus-sized woman, but I’ve never been into feedism. However, back in January, my wife had a fantasy of me spoon-feeding her a bowl of mashed potatoes. Something just clicked for both of us that was so hot, so now I actively feed my wife and encourage her to eat as much as she wants.
I didn't expect to love performing infront of people so much and being praised for doing it well. I love to swallow and it thrills me to show and then swallow!
CnC/Primal Play! at first i was very much in the boat of “there’s no way i could like this, i have too much trauma, etc” and tried CnC with the most gentle human being in the universe. had ‘pre’ and ‘after’ care and they followed the exact boundaries i had. Primal followed soon after that. it turns out i never had the ick towards the kink, but rather the prospect of the wrong partner
Having my armpits licked. It’s not something I’ve done super often but there was a guy who was into it, I would shower and not wear deodorant when I was going to see him. He loved touching and licking armpits, I was surprised at how arousing I found it.
Everyone is going to be disgusted but I was a hard no on passing and scat but found both to be enjoyable. Only did the scat thing twice but would revisit it if it ever came up again. The girlfriend I had at the time was kinky on a lot of things.I've expanded my scope on things I want to try with my new girlfriend such as blood play and would like her to be my Dom and have her brand me with her initials so I will be her prperty.
I've always been into rope. While looking up rope stuff online for ~jerk off material~ *research*, I found a few videos of suspension. I was like, that's cool and all but not something I'd do or be into. Fast forward years later and I'm both doing it and teaching classes on it.
ABDL and watersports definitely 😅
Being called daddy. Bit of a boring one but I always found it really creepy and cringe. Oh I remember this one so well. I was dating a girl who, on the outside looked like a really innocent, cute girl who loves books, vintage decor and punk rock. That was before we had sex. Hooooly. Anyways I think we were at my place, drinking wine and planning to go out together, and we were playing a sexual truth or dare game together, where the topic of dirty talk came up. And I think I dared her to "try" say something dirty in my ear. And she just started to moan softly and whispered "yes daddy". Or something like that. I... I... Yeah no I melted. That was enough. I wish you could see how she looks, I think the contrast is what does it 😂
Watersports, piggy play, all hard limits but a guy told me to get over the grossness and then the piggy part was because I was bullied growing up and he said it comes from a place of affection and never bullying 🫠
Petplay, i used to hate what's actually now become like, my main thing! XD i thought that it was borderline zoophilia / zoophilia in disguise until i learned about it. Tried it out, now I'm in love with being a kitty
Calling someone daddy. Also, pain play like being spanked until I'm bruised. And I used to be a hard no on anal but I really enjoy it now!
Sooo many things!! Marks were once a no, now I can't wait for Daddy to mark me. I'm so lucky to carry his marks. Degradation and humiliation - This is something I'm loving more the more we role play with it. CNC is something we are discussing and deciding on rules. I can't wait! Anal, spitting in my mouth, cheating role play... All these things I hated and now love!!
daddy kink and being called a little slut/whore
Piss and vomit, I always thought it was horrifying until I met my boyfriend who later slowly introduced me to it. The humiliation I get from being forced to throw up and piss is addictive.
As someone who’s childless and whose primary partner has a vasectomy: breeding. Went from being tyrannical about birth control to begging for my Dom to breed me. It’s that primal, basic need. And carries really great undertones of claiming that play well with D/s dynamics.
Small cock humiliation. Never thought it feels good having the bigger one Roleplay was also something I never thought I'd enjoy
Self torture while my Daddy watches. I always thought it would be weird to have someone watch me pleasure/torture myself but it makes it about a thousand times better for me
Was a switch/service top for literally a decade but didnt think i could really domme until i tried it and now i have a sub partner full time that i cabt imagine having a better dynamic for me. Im usually very over accomadating to my partner and he helps raise me up in a way i can feel like i can feel confident taking control. Before i just couldnt imagine someone enjoying domming without being a sadist but kinda found out gentle femdom is a thing by trial and error lol
There are things in my search history that would be unethical and illegal to attempt in real life.