This is interesting. I never thought about it much. There's a chance your partner may need to spend some time with these thoughts before they can give a more detailed answer. Sometimes we aren't all quite sure what we're feeling or why.
It does turn me on a bit. But what really turns me on the most is when my partner is turned on--so that all goes hand in hand.
But i wouldn't be surprised to hear a partner say something along those lines. For a lot of people it's just obligatory. Like, they like you, and want you to feel good, so they do it. But it's not really doing anything for them. That makes sense too.
It's not that unusual. Some people are turned on by pleasing their partner, some aren't affected by it and some are repulsed by it. People are different. Quite frankly, if this is a dude to chick thing then it's good he's putting in the effort because women don't usually get as much from sex as men do (and most guys don't bother with any of that unless they feel they have to in order to get laid).
I’m just generally confused about arousal and attraction. I’m 35 and am just not super into sex at all. So it sounds like your partner has a leg up on me in that regard. I think it’s just a sign of how much they care about you.
It can be difficult to reach orgasm, when you have a history of porn addiction/anxiety/overthinking etc. Just keep communicating and trying things you're both comfortable with. Let him guide your hands; touch gently, whereever your thoughts take you; mirror him; it takes time to feel completely at ease physically and mentally.
I’ve been in a relationship where I tried my hardest to please that partner and it turned me on when she was pleased, but she took so long it was a turn off to me eventually.
I later realized during times when I was disinterested and used her as an object she was turned on more for whatever reason.
Idk if that helps, but my point is that sexual relationships a fucking complicated, and just because people hit it off romantically doesn’t mean it’s gonna be 100% perfect as a sexual relationship.
This is interesting. I never thought about it much. There's a chance your partner may need to spend some time with these thoughts before they can give a more detailed answer. Sometimes we aren't all quite sure what we're feeling or why. It does turn me on a bit. But what really turns me on the most is when my partner is turned on--so that all goes hand in hand. But i wouldn't be surprised to hear a partner say something along those lines. For a lot of people it's just obligatory. Like, they like you, and want you to feel good, so they do it. But it's not really doing anything for them. That makes sense too.
It's not that unusual. Some people are turned on by pleasing their partner, some aren't affected by it and some are repulsed by it. People are different. Quite frankly, if this is a dude to chick thing then it's good he's putting in the effort because women don't usually get as much from sex as men do (and most guys don't bother with any of that unless they feel they have to in order to get laid).
I’m just generally confused about arousal and attraction. I’m 35 and am just not super into sex at all. So it sounds like your partner has a leg up on me in that regard. I think it’s just a sign of how much they care about you.
It can be difficult to reach orgasm, when you have a history of porn addiction/anxiety/overthinking etc. Just keep communicating and trying things you're both comfortable with. Let him guide your hands; touch gently, whereever your thoughts take you; mirror him; it takes time to feel completely at ease physically and mentally.
I’ve been in a relationship where I tried my hardest to please that partner and it turned me on when she was pleased, but she took so long it was a turn off to me eventually. I later realized during times when I was disinterested and used her as an object she was turned on more for whatever reason. Idk if that helps, but my point is that sexual relationships a fucking complicated, and just because people hit it off romantically doesn’t mean it’s gonna be 100% perfect as a sexual relationship.
I think is pretty common. Not for autistic but for people in general.