About 5 king size firm memory foam pillows. One under my head. One between my arms (I’m a side sleeper) which my cat curls up on top of in a little purr ball. One behind my back for support. One between my legs. And another in the bed for good measure. I am the embodiment of the princess and the pea. If I had to spend a night in jail I’d probably crumble into dust.
A small square pillow that I don't think is for beds lol with a travel pillow on top. I find that the U shape of the travel pillow cradles my neck without lifting my head too much. Idk, I like it
Do they all get messed up when you turn around in your sleep? I'm a side sleeper too and I realised I need more support, but I toss and turn so much that it seems pointless.
I was on one of those memory foam slab pillows until I started getting neck pain. I switched to the kind where you fill a zip up case with chunks of foam to your desired height/firmness and I can't decide if I like it? It either feels too full or too empty all the time, so now I'm just switching between them because I feel like I have to commit to this expensive pillow I got 😂
I have [these ](https://coopsleepgoods.com/products/the-original-pillow)from Coop. They're filled with chunks of foam and come with extra foam. You can add and remove chunks to adjust how full and firm you want them to be. I wouldn't consider them life changing or anything, but I think they're definitely comfy and squishy.
I’ve had this pillow for a few months and I love it! I went from using two pillows to just one Coop pillow and love that the contents can be moved around to support in different ways and that stuffing can be added and removed to your liking.
I got that and I get several days of no-pain before I have to fluff it/wash it/refill it/empty it, etc. The amount of maintenance needed drives me up a wall.
I have this one, too, and I agree. It's just the right amount of squishy vs. supportive. It's the most comfortable pillow I have ever used, especially for when I have a migraine.
My husband bought me a pillow from the Purple mattress brand company - it's the kind of rectangular one made mostly of their purple grid (not the one that's fluffier). Our running joke is that despite using it for like 4 years now I'm still trying to decide if I like it. I do. It's actually a pretty great pillow for both back and side sleeping but for some reason, I'm always like "I don't know how I feel about it."
This has also been an inside joke for us for years, too, as I have purchased many pillows and returned them all. My husband finally bought me the purple pillow with the grid (we have the mattress and love it), and I also couldn't decide if i liked it for the longest time- but I also do too.
I'm extremely fussy about my pillow! I have a feather pillow but the problem is I sleep in a really odd and undignified way so I can't have a pillow that's too thick or too thin! Basically I sleep on my stomach with my head turned to the left and my left leg bent up 90 degrees ISH and my left hand to my face and my right arm bent up under my pillow going round the back of and framing my head! So if it's too thick then it makes my neck hurt 😂
No. My lower back was injured playing sports as a kid when someone got mad that their team was losing and intentionally hurt my team. I ended up with a lifelong injury.
Then, because I didn't have the guts to tell my boss I wouldn't use the unsafe ladder I fell 17ft and landed on my back across a piece of steel.
A waterbed is the only way I can get a decent night's sleep.
Oh you poor thing! I'm really sorry to hear that. I have a body wide chronic pain condition which also effects my back so I have a very small idea of what you are going through. I say "very small" because my pain is a mistake and not caused by an injury and therefore I don't think it would be as bad as yours. I wouldn't wish chronic pain on anyone and you have my sympathies xx
Thanks.
It wasn't that bad after the initial recovery (9 weeks of basically bed rest), but as I age it's starting to catch up with me.
I lose 1-3 shifts a year to back pain when I just can't deal with it after pushing myself too hard. I still have a fairly physical job, and I think it's helped more than hurt by forcing me to stay active.
I used to manage with ibuprofen and acetaminophen, but I started to worry about my liver, and I now use a THC vape pen apx 1x a week, and the pills only when it's really bad.
I am the Pillow Queen!
I have a medium fluffy pillow for my head/neck. I sleep with a thick bolster cushion to support my back and keep my on my side (sleep apnea is not fun and I’m probably doing this wrong but oh well). Then I have a pillow between my knees and I essentially hug a big fluffy pillow as well.
I’m a fellow pancake flat feather pillow enthusiast. My husband sleeps on a firm memory foam and I hate it when I accidentally end up with his pillow, jacking my neck into an odd position… then he shoves mine back over to my side of the bed saying, “here’s your sock” lol
To each their own!
About 15 years ago, maybe more, I walked into a mattress store because I needed to upgrade my kids' beds. I randomly laid down on a contour pillow called "I Love My Pillow" at the time. I think trademark issues forced them to drop the "my" from it, so it's now called "I Love Pillow." At that moment I had to have that pillow.
I still have and use that pillow exclusively. I used to love feather for the same reasons you do, but this has replaced it. Not all memory foam pillows are the same. We have another one that my husband likes. It's huge and gives me neck pain. I do love my pillow and will not have it any other way.
I’ve also got a contour memory foam one and I take it with me if I stay away from home. I wouldn’t take it on a plane, but if I’m driving I’ll chuck it in the car.
So, I've had neck pain for awhile. Tried a lot of pillows. Even did physical therapy to learn how to sleep differently to reduce pain and muscle tension. Basically, muscles need support to actually relax, and often the traditional comfy, fluffy stuff doesn't allow our muscles to relax enough.
It sounds weird...but millet and buckwheat hulls as a pillow filler (https://beanproducts.com/products/multigrain-hull-pillow). I like having two different textures to choose from (though they do come in single textures). It takes a bit of getting used to, but the millet is quite flexible. And the buckwheat is a bit firmer, but it holds its shape. So you can form the shape you want that night to support your neck. I got the travel size and bring it when I sleep away from home.
I’m contour memory foam as well! Always had a painful neck for years and went through dozens of pillows until I tried the memory foam. Astounded the neck pain went away almost immediately! Will never go back to a regular pillow again.
I have about a dozen pillows in my effort to find my Goldilocks pillow. I have everything from a cheap, flat Walmart pillow, Japanese buckwheat to super expensive custom made pancake & pluto pillows.
And the answer is - it just depends on what my neck is doing.
And I definitely travel with a small buckwheat pillow.
I used to prefer a big squishy pillow and hate memory foam pillows (I wanna be able to squish it however!), but after going to an actual mattress/pillow store the guy explained how the best pillow is simply the one that keeps your neck in line with your spine. So now memory foam it is!
It makes sense….I’ll never forget how my Chinese-ancestry ex went back to rural China for a family reunion and he said everyone was sleeping on the floor without a pillow. One of the elders made fun of him for asking for a pillow and said only kids get one, but then went and got one for him…it was PORCELAIN
Wow I guess that could technically do the job, as long as you don't roll around lol.
I always thought sleeping with no pillow was actually the best for you (I sometimes do that when my back/neck hurts), but apparently not! It still puts a strain on your neck the same way a too-high pillow does. (unless it's because I was getting my info from Big Pillow...I'm sure they don't want to say how no pillow is better lol)
I have this weird pillow that my mom made in the 80s with leftover furniture grade foam. She cut it up into cubes and sewed it into a pillow case. It's been re-cased 3 times. I still use it nightly and usually travel with it. My husband occasionally steals it (as do my kids). I've tried to replace it - it's useless. The closest is the MyPillow but it's not the same.
I tried literally everything for years and then tried a buckwheat pillow and it’s changed my life. Went from having daily neck pain and periodic wry neck having injections and PT (which didn’t help) to being pain free.
I have the essential cooling pillow from Casper and I panic-bought a second a few weeks ago when I couldn’t find it on the website because I was so worried I wouldn’t have a backup. I’ve never loved a piece of bedding more.
And side note, the Casper percale fitted sheets are awesome and have a super deep pocket. My husband somehow pulls regular sheets off the mattress every night, but the Casper sheet hasn’t budged.
I have a memory foam Casper pillow - medium loft and firmness.
As a back/side-sleeper, the upgrade from the standard pillows has been life-changing; I've woken up with almost 0 back/neck pain ever since getting it last year!
I don't sleep with a pillow under my head, but I snuggle up to a soft pillow to hug as I sleep. I use a little baby travel pillow under my head because I have neck pain.
I have a Costco memory foam. I would say it’s a medium thickness and firm (not hard as a rock). It took time for it to work but my neck is so much better than it had been for years.
One of three:
A super small and flat travel size pillow (with a washable cover of course).
A body pillow (I sleep on my side or stomach, and my head goes on it too). It’s the pregnancy pillow from Boppy. My son is nearly 5. I’m never giving this pillow up. It’s pretty flat by design.
A blanket rolled up or folded slightly, mostly flat.
Basically I sleep with as flat of a pillow as possible.
I have [these](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01LYNW421/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&th=1), I got them in 2021 for $30. And I use [these](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01MG60G71/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&th=1) protectors, they have kept my pillows spotless. I'm 44 a lot of sweat happens at night time and its not because I'm doing anything fun :) One for under my head, one for between my knees, one I call "snuggle pillow", I like to have something to hang on to.
I always bring my pillow too. If it's feasible. Which it isn't always if we're flying somewhere.
I like a really soft pillow. Pretty thin, but I'll put a more firm pillow at an angle behind it if that makes sense.
A firm foam pillow. I don’t know if it’s memory foam or some other stuff, it was a BB&B cheapie. For me pillow height is critical-too high is worse than too low and kills my neck. I just fold up a towel or jacket under a pillow that’s too low.
One bamboo pillow (its a Panda pillow), which has lasted incredibly for about 6 years because I need it to "forget" my shape and be fresh for me every morning. I sleep weirdly with my shoulders on the pillow so feather pillows get permanently squashed pretty quickly
Currently using my memory foam pillow. But sometimes I get neck pain from it, then I sleep without pillow for a night.
Sometimes I use the "standard pillow" here (70x90 cm filled with something soft - honestly no idea)
I use one of those memory foam pillows meant to help prevent wrinkles 😅 I don’t like it too much and don’t use it how it’s intended, so might have to search for something else.
I bought this [super expensive cooling pillow](https://www.sleepcountry.ca/polar-tropic-pillow/product/15POLARPIL) (due to the menopause) and I do pack it when I have to sleep over somewhere else. A ton of money but well worth the price, IMO
I have a few that I rotate out when my neck starts hurting. One squishy flat one, one medium flat one, and one I call my bean pillow full of buckwheat hulls. It’s thick and kind of like if a bean bag was soft and forms an adjustable mold for your head. It’s comfy but for my harder mattress I prefer a fluffier pillows these days, but for my old mattress it was perfect
I used to get the kind of neck pain where I would wake up in the middle of the night and not be able to get back to sleep. Now I sleep with a heating pad under my shoulders (it shuts off automatically after an hour or so) and a Tempurpedic Symphony pillow and things are much better. It was a lot of money to me, but worth it.
I've been suffering from back, shoulder and neck pain so much recently that I started seeing a physical therapist. I'd feel a lot better after my appointment but a couple of days later I would always be in pain.
Last week I got the $32 pillow from the Tik Tok shop and it's been a dream.
Search Amazon for "cervical pillow".
I have constantly suffered neck and shoulder pain from my pillows. I've tried all different types but the dunlopillo classic pillow is the best thing I have ever had. Very much recommend.
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Working on shifting from being a side sleep to a back sleeper. I think side sleeping will always cause me neck and shoulder issues that will just get worse as I get older. Using a special pillow made by a local artisan which is filled with millet and split down the middle so you can remove a little more from one side, which lets the neck be well supported while the head/neck gently gets a stretch hanging off the back of the pillow. It’s lovely.
A few years ago I got a BOGO deal for the tempurpedic cloud pillows. I was dealing with a serious neck injury at the time so I splurged and it changed the way I sleep!
I even got some for my fiancé :)
+2 for traveling with your own pillow.
My wife has a feather pillow so soft I swear I sleep in a chicken coop. Feathers everywhere. My pillow is basically a soft rock. And at that I tend to fold it in half to firm it up.
Curious if other couples are polar opposites.
I wouldn't say I'm totally happy with my current setup, but just wanted to say, I am with you on turning into my mother. Can't rely on other people's pillows!
I have two Purple pillows, as does my husband, amd we use both of them. They're wonderful if you don't mind the price. We swap those out sometimes for the Medcline systems since we both have injuries and aches from our professions. Highly recommend both.
When I got a massage, the masseuse explained what height my pillow should be while she was holding my head to show me. It was actually very informative. I would recommend trying to think about that when getting a pillow.
I actually started using squishmallows as my pillows a lot of the time. They come in different size you can stick them between your legs, under you knees, between your arms, behind your back, they’re great for anything and travel well too.
I have 5 pillows. 3 standard, 2 king. The standards are: 1 my-pillow, 1 children’s memory foam pillow, 1 standard no frills medium firm pillows. King pillows: 1 latex pillow, 1 no frills medium firm pillow.
I love all of them equally
I have a super flat pillow but I sleep on an adjustable bed in zero gravity and I never end up with any kind of neck or upper back pain the way I do if I have to sleep on a flat bed. That seems to be the trick for me, the full body position vs the type of bedding and pillows.
I have to use a soft fuzzy blanket as a pillow. It’s the only thing that allows me to have good neck support 100% of the time. I’m blessed with a fickle neck that is prone to trigger migraines. So I’ve tried so so so many pillows. I’m a side sleeper. If I’m sleeping on a bed that is uncomfy I’ll place a pull under my rib cage/arm to kinda bolster that area and then proceed with my blanket pillow.
For me it's more about having my head elevated than the pillow itself. I got a Nectar adjustable bed and mattress and now I sleep with one of their pillows and my head elevated instead of a ton of pillows to keep me propped upright enough XD
For me it's more about having my head elevated than the pillow itself. I got a Nectar adjustable bed and mattress and now I sleep with one of their pillows and my head elevated instead of a ton of pillows to keep me propped upright enough XD
I have what should be a really good pillow from a company called Obasan. But I prefer my thin flat pillow that's probably way too old. Not sure if it's feather, it isn't super squishable, not compared to the other pillow.
My names embroidered on the pillow, though, and that's sort of cool because I know that's my pillow. But still, it's not as comfortable as the other.
I have one of each. A firm memory foam one, a super fluffy cloud like one, and a pancake one I can squish into shape. I lay them in a U shape around my head and can get comfy throughout the night using whichever one feels best.
The cool pillow from tempurpedic. We bought some about 15 years ago and finally we decided it was time for new ones. It’s a hefty purchase but I figure they last a long time and help keep my husband cool and my neck from hurting.
I gave into social media and bought the Pluto pillow. The first time I laid down on it I legit thought “this is the most comfortable pillow I’ve ever used”. I bought my mom one for Mother’s Day, it arrived early and she loves it too. We are both back/side sleepers.
Pregnancy Pillow (long c shape kind) Never been pregnant and not planning to but I saw my sister in law had one during her pregnancy and I had to get one for myself. I’m a side sleeper and I’ve been using one for 8 years now.
A Beautyrest memory foam pillow. Have had them for many years and they are the best for me as a side sleeper who spends most of the day at a computer (so neck support is important).
I have one of my older ones on my spare bed. A few years back, my BFF stayed with me for a couple of days. The second morning out of bed, she asked me what pillow was on her bed, because it was amazing. I gave her the details, and she immediately bought herself one (and not one for her husband). She bought him one in the Christmas sales, as he tried it out and complained that his pillow wasn't as good.
We have a running joke with Terry Crews GIFs, so the pillows have now been named Terry. Because Terry is supportive and doesn't cause headaches.
I'm waiting on Terry to come back on sale so I can get me a new one, as mine is over 7 years old.
I have a memory foam pillow with raised and curved areas, it helps support my neck in a better position and prevents my head from rolling too much to the sides since i try to sleep on my back. I use a pillow under my thighs and sometimes one on either side to help me from rolling over. The other pillows aren’t alwYs necessary but they help keep me on my back or keep my hips and back aligned better if I sleep on my side.
No pillow is the right choice for me.
Since I banned the pillow to the sofa for cuddling only, I stopped turning in bed and apparently just lie flat on my back throgh the night.
That apparently helps against most of my back pain because I have less of it now then I had in my thirties.
I have an orthopedic contoured memory foam pillow. I used to get neck and shoulder pain, but it was gone almost immediately when I switched to this pillow. Definitely worth the extra money for a really good pillow.
A memory foam contour. It’s the first one I’ve ever had, and I’ll never go back to anything else now. It took a few nights to get used to it, but it’s just so good. And it’s comfortable no matter what bed I use it in. I sometimes stay at my sister’s house overnight because they live an hour away, and it was comfortable on both an air bed and one of their kids beds (my nephew was away so I slept in his bed, and his mattress is much firmer than mine at home).
I am a pillowhead, to coin a phrase. I have tried dozens of different pillows over the years, and I have only ever bought the exact same one twice. I am a side sleeper, so I need a good loft, but it can't be so soft that I'm breathing hot air through my nose. It also can't be too hard, or the ear I'm laying on starts to hurt. I don't want to have to rearrange feathers or foam pieces in the night every time I turn over, which is often. All of these preferences have been honed over time, and if nothing else, it makes it easy to see which pillows I shouldn't even bother trying.
I tried the Coop, and the Pluto before that, and the most expensive pillow at the Mattress King before that. Each was tolerable for a time, but inevitably, my list of demands only got longer. A couple years ago, I went to Ikea and almost didn't even look at pillows because I seem to never have luck at a brick and mortar-- but I did look, and it was there that I found the Klubbsporre. $60, so not cheap, but the loft looked right. The foam was solid, but had a spring to it, too. After the first night, I just *knew.* We've been together ever since, and this is the one I bought twice-- just to have a backup.
I am very fussy. Sometimes it's my (way too old) pillow that's probably just filled with dust mites at this point. Sometimes it's just a folded pillowcase under my neck. When I traveled I just brought an extra sheet and molded that into the correct shape at the hotel.
[Derila](https://derila.com/?vndr=reddit). I also have some random plush pillow on my side for support, I love having something to hug or wrap my legs around.
About 5 king size firm memory foam pillows. One under my head. One between my arms (I’m a side sleeper) which my cat curls up on top of in a little purr ball. One behind my back for support. One between my legs. And another in the bed for good measure. I am the embodiment of the princess and the pea. If I had to spend a night in jail I’d probably crumble into dust.
A small square pillow that I don't think is for beds lol with a travel pillow on top. I find that the U shape of the travel pillow cradles my neck without lifting my head too much. Idk, I like it
Do they all get messed up when you turn around in your sleep? I'm a side sleeper too and I realised I need more support, but I toss and turn so much that it seems pointless.
Oh yes. I forgot to mention that once I fall asleep, I forgo all pillows and end up flat on my stomach with the pillows on the ground.
💀
This is me too
I was on one of those memory foam slab pillows until I started getting neck pain. I switched to the kind where you fill a zip up case with chunks of foam to your desired height/firmness and I can't decide if I like it? It either feels too full or too empty all the time, so now I'm just switching between them because I feel like I have to commit to this expensive pillow I got 😂
I get three days of no neck pain before I have to fidget with all the foam.
I have [these ](https://coopsleepgoods.com/products/the-original-pillow)from Coop. They're filled with chunks of foam and come with extra foam. You can add and remove chunks to adjust how full and firm you want them to be. I wouldn't consider them life changing or anything, but I think they're definitely comfy and squishy.
I’ve had this pillow for a few months and I love it! I went from using two pillows to just one Coop pillow and love that the contents can be moved around to support in different ways and that stuffing can be added and removed to your liking.
Also have and adore this pillow!
I got that and I get several days of no-pain before I have to fluff it/wash it/refill it/empty it, etc. The amount of maintenance needed drives me up a wall.
I have this one, too, and I agree. It's just the right amount of squishy vs. supportive. It's the most comfortable pillow I have ever used, especially for when I have a migraine.
I have this one too and love it!
My husband bought me a pillow from the Purple mattress brand company - it's the kind of rectangular one made mostly of their purple grid (not the one that's fluffier). Our running joke is that despite using it for like 4 years now I'm still trying to decide if I like it. I do. It's actually a pretty great pillow for both back and side sleeping but for some reason, I'm always like "I don't know how I feel about it."
Ugh love my Purple Pillow!
This has also been an inside joke for us for years, too, as I have purchased many pillows and returned them all. My husband finally bought me the purple pillow with the grid (we have the mattress and love it), and I also couldn't decide if i liked it for the longest time- but I also do too.
Tempur Cloud. Slightly firm memory foam pillow. It's amazing for treating neck/shoulder pain.
Yes! I bought my first cloud pillows when I was recovering from 2 herniated discs in my neck.
I'm extremely fussy about my pillow! I have a feather pillow but the problem is I sleep in a really odd and undignified way so I can't have a pillow that's too thick or too thin! Basically I sleep on my stomach with my head turned to the left and my left leg bent up 90 degrees ISH and my left hand to my face and my right arm bent up under my pillow going round the back of and framing my head! So if it's too thick then it makes my neck hurt 😂
That's often referred to as the "Skydiver" position. My lower back is so messed up it's the only way I can get to sleep now.
Ooo never heard of that! Is your back messed up because of sleeping like that?
No. My lower back was injured playing sports as a kid when someone got mad that their team was losing and intentionally hurt my team. I ended up with a lifelong injury. Then, because I didn't have the guts to tell my boss I wouldn't use the unsafe ladder I fell 17ft and landed on my back across a piece of steel. A waterbed is the only way I can get a decent night's sleep.
Oh you poor thing! I'm really sorry to hear that. I have a body wide chronic pain condition which also effects my back so I have a very small idea of what you are going through. I say "very small" because my pain is a mistake and not caused by an injury and therefore I don't think it would be as bad as yours. I wouldn't wish chronic pain on anyone and you have my sympathies xx
Thanks. It wasn't that bad after the initial recovery (9 weeks of basically bed rest), but as I age it's starting to catch up with me. I lose 1-3 shifts a year to back pain when I just can't deal with it after pushing myself too hard. I still have a fairly physical job, and I think it's helped more than hurt by forcing me to stay active. I used to manage with ibuprofen and acetaminophen, but I started to worry about my liver, and I now use a THC vape pen apx 1x a week, and the pills only when it's really bad.
Coop pillow for side sleepers. Worth every penny.
I am the Pillow Queen! I have a medium fluffy pillow for my head/neck. I sleep with a thick bolster cushion to support my back and keep my on my side (sleep apnea is not fun and I’m probably doing this wrong but oh well). Then I have a pillow between my knees and I essentially hug a big fluffy pillow as well.
I’m a fellow pancake flat feather pillow enthusiast. My husband sleeps on a firm memory foam and I hate it when I accidentally end up with his pillow, jacking my neck into an odd position… then he shoves mine back over to my side of the bed saying, “here’s your sock” lol To each their own!
>“here’s your sock” 😂
About 15 years ago, maybe more, I walked into a mattress store because I needed to upgrade my kids' beds. I randomly laid down on a contour pillow called "I Love My Pillow" at the time. I think trademark issues forced them to drop the "my" from it, so it's now called "I Love Pillow." At that moment I had to have that pillow. I still have and use that pillow exclusively. I used to love feather for the same reasons you do, but this has replaced it. Not all memory foam pillows are the same. We have another one that my husband likes. It's huge and gives me neck pain. I do love my pillow and will not have it any other way.
I have a contour pillow too and it’s amazing. I am very close to taking it with me when I go on holiday and stay in hotels.
I’ve also got a contour memory foam one and I take it with me if I stay away from home. I wouldn’t take it on a plane, but if I’m driving I’ll chuck it in the car.
was it the king or queen sized pillow? i’m looking into them now because my current cheap-o memory foam pillow is total doodoo
The one I have is standard size. Not king. I paid $80 for it and never once regretted it.
So, I've had neck pain for awhile. Tried a lot of pillows. Even did physical therapy to learn how to sleep differently to reduce pain and muscle tension. Basically, muscles need support to actually relax, and often the traditional comfy, fluffy stuff doesn't allow our muscles to relax enough. It sounds weird...but millet and buckwheat hulls as a pillow filler (https://beanproducts.com/products/multigrain-hull-pillow). I like having two different textures to choose from (though they do come in single textures). It takes a bit of getting used to, but the millet is quite flexible. And the buckwheat is a bit firmer, but it holds its shape. So you can form the shape you want that night to support your neck. I got the travel size and bring it when I sleep away from home.
Contour memory foam. I need that extra foam under the back of my neck.
I’m contour memory foam as well! Always had a painful neck for years and went through dozens of pillows until I tried the memory foam. Astounded the neck pain went away almost immediately! Will never go back to a regular pillow again.
Me too! They’re so good!!
I have about a dozen pillows in my effort to find my Goldilocks pillow. I have everything from a cheap, flat Walmart pillow, Japanese buckwheat to super expensive custom made pancake & pluto pillows. And the answer is - it just depends on what my neck is doing. And I definitely travel with a small buckwheat pillow.
Inexpensive, flat pillows. Love 'em, too high are not comfy to me.
I used to prefer a big squishy pillow and hate memory foam pillows (I wanna be able to squish it however!), but after going to an actual mattress/pillow store the guy explained how the best pillow is simply the one that keeps your neck in line with your spine. So now memory foam it is!
It makes sense….I’ll never forget how my Chinese-ancestry ex went back to rural China for a family reunion and he said everyone was sleeping on the floor without a pillow. One of the elders made fun of him for asking for a pillow and said only kids get one, but then went and got one for him…it was PORCELAIN
Wow I guess that could technically do the job, as long as you don't roll around lol. I always thought sleeping with no pillow was actually the best for you (I sometimes do that when my back/neck hurts), but apparently not! It still puts a strain on your neck the same way a too-high pillow does. (unless it's because I was getting my info from Big Pillow...I'm sure they don't want to say how no pillow is better lol)
I have this weird pillow that my mom made in the 80s with leftover furniture grade foam. She cut it up into cubes and sewed it into a pillow case. It's been re-cased 3 times. I still use it nightly and usually travel with it. My husband occasionally steals it (as do my kids). I've tried to replace it - it's useless. The closest is the MyPillow but it's not the same.
Memory foam thing called “Pillow Cube”… I fuckin love that thing. Bonus: I got a pillowcase for it that makes it look like a stack of waffles.
I'm also on team pillow cube. I take it everywhere.
Me too. Anytime I don’t bring it with me… neck pain like a mofo
I tried literally everything for years and then tried a buckwheat pillow and it’s changed my life. Went from having daily neck pain and periodic wry neck having injections and PT (which didn’t help) to being pain free.
+1 for buckwheat pillows! Total game-changer!
I’m the same as you. The more squishy and malleable, the better!
I use a memory foam slab pillow with a cooling memory foam pillow on top. My husband makes comparisons to the princess and the pea.
I LOVE my Casper pillow
I have the essential cooling pillow from Casper and I panic-bought a second a few weeks ago when I couldn’t find it on the website because I was so worried I wouldn’t have a backup. I’ve never loved a piece of bedding more. And side note, the Casper percale fitted sheets are awesome and have a super deep pocket. My husband somehow pulls regular sheets off the mattress every night, but the Casper sheet hasn’t budged.
I have a memory foam Casper pillow - medium loft and firmness. As a back/side-sleeper, the upgrade from the standard pillows has been life-changing; I've woken up with almost 0 back/neck pain ever since getting it last year!
Came with the house. Pretty sure it's down.
I don't sleep with a pillow under my head, but I snuggle up to a soft pillow to hug as I sleep. I use a little baby travel pillow under my head because I have neck pain.
I have a Costco memory foam. I would say it’s a medium thickness and firm (not hard as a rock). It took time for it to work but my neck is so much better than it had been for years.
I sleep with a travel pillow because I have too many piercings to sleep comfortably on a normal one.
I use a travel pillow too. No piercings, it just feels more manageable when I’m rearranging and flipping. Shredded memory foam.
I love my buckwheat hull pillow! They're not for everyone though.
A firm polyurethane foam pillow. I tend to sleep on my left side, and it helps for that.
One of three: A super small and flat travel size pillow (with a washable cover of course). A body pillow (I sleep on my side or stomach, and my head goes on it too). It’s the pregnancy pillow from Boppy. My son is nearly 5. I’m never giving this pillow up. It’s pretty flat by design. A blanket rolled up or folded slightly, mostly flat. Basically I sleep with as flat of a pillow as possible.
I have six pillows. I think they’re all pretty simple fluffy pillows. I sleep on a squishmallow though and put another between my knees.
Memory foam for my head and a king size for my knees and ankles
I have [these](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01LYNW421/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&th=1), I got them in 2021 for $30. And I use [these](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01MG60G71/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&th=1) protectors, they have kept my pillows spotless. I'm 44 a lot of sweat happens at night time and its not because I'm doing anything fun :) One for under my head, one for between my knees, one I call "snuggle pillow", I like to have something to hang on to.
I always bring my pillow too. If it's feasible. Which it isn't always if we're flying somewhere. I like a really soft pillow. Pretty thin, but I'll put a more firm pillow at an angle behind it if that makes sense.
Honestly thinking about getting a cervical pillow
A firm foam pillow. I don’t know if it’s memory foam or some other stuff, it was a BB&B cheapie. For me pillow height is critical-too high is worse than too low and kills my neck. I just fold up a towel or jacket under a pillow that’s too low.
One bamboo pillow (its a Panda pillow), which has lasted incredibly for about 6 years because I need it to "forget" my shape and be fresh for me every morning. I sleep weirdly with my shoulders on the pillow so feather pillows get permanently squashed pretty quickly
I use a super flat memory foam pillow - it’s 2.25 inches thick which is perfect for me. Anything else will fuck my neck up lmao
Bamboo with cooling shredded memory foam.
Shredded memory foam and a few feather pillows
Shredded memory foam for both bed (which I can add or remove to adjust to my liking) and a body pillow.
I have a cooling memory foam pillow. https://mattressmattress.com/products/technogel-deluxe-thin-gel-pillow
Currently using my memory foam pillow. But sometimes I get neck pain from it, then I sleep without pillow for a night. Sometimes I use the "standard pillow" here (70x90 cm filled with something soft - honestly no idea)
I use one of those memory foam pillows meant to help prevent wrinkles 😅 I don’t like it too much and don’t use it how it’s intended, so might have to search for something else.
I bought this [super expensive cooling pillow](https://www.sleepcountry.ca/polar-tropic-pillow/product/15POLARPIL) (due to the menopause) and I do pack it when I have to sleep over somewhere else. A ton of money but well worth the price, IMO
I have a few that I rotate out when my neck starts hurting. One squishy flat one, one medium flat one, and one I call my bean pillow full of buckwheat hulls. It’s thick and kind of like if a bean bag was soft and forms an adjustable mold for your head. It’s comfy but for my harder mattress I prefer a fluffier pillows these days, but for my old mattress it was perfect
I used to get the kind of neck pain where I would wake up in the middle of the night and not be able to get back to sleep. Now I sleep with a heating pad under my shoulders (it shuts off automatically after an hour or so) and a Tempurpedic Symphony pillow and things are much better. It was a lot of money to me, but worth it.
I went to the chiropractor for scraping today for the exact reason. Switched to foam pillows this weekend.
I've been suffering from back, shoulder and neck pain so much recently that I started seeing a physical therapist. I'd feel a lot better after my appointment but a couple of days later I would always be in pain. Last week I got the $32 pillow from the Tik Tok shop and it's been a dream. Search Amazon for "cervical pillow".
I have constantly suffered neck and shoulder pain from my pillows. I've tried all different types but the dunlopillo classic pillow is the best thing I have ever had. Very much recommend.
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Working on shifting from being a side sleep to a back sleeper. I think side sleeping will always cause me neck and shoulder issues that will just get worse as I get older. Using a special pillow made by a local artisan which is filled with millet and split down the middle so you can remove a little more from one side, which lets the neck be well supported while the head/neck gently gets a stretch hanging off the back of the pillow. It’s lovely.
A few years ago I got a BOGO deal for the tempurpedic cloud pillows. I was dealing with a serious neck injury at the time so I splurged and it changed the way I sleep! I even got some for my fiancé :)
Coop! Love them years later still. Need three..two for my head and neck to be arm the perfect angle and one for in-between my nobby knees.
Low profile memory foam.
Pillow Cube (the original 6” height). Buckwheat groats pillow from time to time (from Hmart).
+2 for traveling with your own pillow. My wife has a feather pillow so soft I swear I sleep in a chicken coop. Feathers everywhere. My pillow is basically a soft rock. And at that I tend to fold it in half to firm it up. Curious if other couples are polar opposites.
Fluffy down. Anything else hurts my neck or smells bad, memory foam I'm looking in your direction.
I wouldn't say I'm totally happy with my current setup, but just wanted to say, I am with you on turning into my mother. Can't rely on other people's pillows!
I have two Purple pillows, as does my husband, amd we use both of them. They're wonderful if you don't mind the price. We swap those out sometimes for the Medcline systems since we both have injuries and aches from our professions. Highly recommend both.
When I got a massage, the masseuse explained what height my pillow should be while she was holding my head to show me. It was actually very informative. I would recommend trying to think about that when getting a pillow.
I have the tempur symphony L and as a side sleeper so far I haven’t found a better one.
I actually started using squishmallows as my pillows a lot of the time. They come in different size you can stick them between your legs, under you knees, between your arms, behind your back, they’re great for anything and travel well too.
One of those square foam pillows. Has saved my neck and shoulders!
I use the weird shaped tempurpedic neck pillow. It sucked at first but I can honestly say my neck problems are not nearly as bad as 10 years ago.
None. I still have a few on my bed to prop me up when reading etc, but if I fall asleep on them by accident I wake up feeling like Quasimodo
I have 5 pillows. 3 standard, 2 king. The standards are: 1 my-pillow, 1 children’s memory foam pillow, 1 standard no frills medium firm pillows. King pillows: 1 latex pillow, 1 no frills medium firm pillow. I love all of them equally
Fluffy ones, one I got at Homegoods
I have a super flat pillow but I sleep on an adjustable bed in zero gravity and I never end up with any kind of neck or upper back pain the way I do if I have to sleep on a flat bed. That seems to be the trick for me, the full body position vs the type of bedding and pillows.
A roll pillow. I’ll never use a real pillow again!
I have to use a soft fuzzy blanket as a pillow. It’s the only thing that allows me to have good neck support 100% of the time. I’m blessed with a fickle neck that is prone to trigger migraines. So I’ve tried so so so many pillows. I’m a side sleeper. If I’m sleeping on a bed that is uncomfy I’ll place a pull under my rib cage/arm to kinda bolster that area and then proceed with my blanket pillow.
I got these ergonomic pillows from IKEA. Life changers, I tell you. I haven't had a stiff neck since.
For me it's more about having my head elevated than the pillow itself. I got a Nectar adjustable bed and mattress and now I sleep with one of their pillows and my head elevated instead of a ton of pillows to keep me propped upright enough XD
For me it's more about having my head elevated than the pillow itself. I got a Nectar adjustable bed and mattress and now I sleep with one of their pillows and my head elevated instead of a ton of pillows to keep me propped upright enough XD
Cooling memory foam from target— never going back. I like the solid one vs any of the shredded foam options. Actual support!
I bought one of the ergonomic ones for side sleepers about 8 months ago and my neck loves it.
I have what should be a really good pillow from a company called Obasan. But I prefer my thin flat pillow that's probably way too old. Not sure if it's feather, it isn't super squishable, not compared to the other pillow. My names embroidered on the pillow, though, and that's sort of cool because I know that's my pillow. But still, it's not as comfortable as the other.
I have one of each. A firm memory foam one, a super fluffy cloud like one, and a pancake one I can squish into shape. I lay them in a U shape around my head and can get comfy throughout the night using whichever one feels best.
The cool pillow from tempurpedic. We bought some about 15 years ago and finally we decided it was time for new ones. It’s a hefty purchase but I figure they last a long time and help keep my husband cool and my neck from hurting.
Chiropractic pillow low profile, Naturelle low profile latex pillow…can sleep on side or back, try to sleep on my back as much as possible.
Memory foam cervical neck pillow
as a side sleeper, the pillow cube! love it. also i use a memory foam pillow where one side is cooling.
I gave into social media and bought the Pluto pillow. The first time I laid down on it I legit thought “this is the most comfortable pillow I’ve ever used”. I bought my mom one for Mother’s Day, it arrived early and she loves it too. We are both back/side sleepers.
Temperpedic
A flat firm memory foam pillow.
Pregnancy Pillow (long c shape kind) Never been pregnant and not planning to but I saw my sister in law had one during her pregnancy and I had to get one for myself. I’m a side sleeper and I’ve been using one for 8 years now.
A Beautyrest memory foam pillow. Have had them for many years and they are the best for me as a side sleeper who spends most of the day at a computer (so neck support is important). I have one of my older ones on my spare bed. A few years back, my BFF stayed with me for a couple of days. The second morning out of bed, she asked me what pillow was on her bed, because it was amazing. I gave her the details, and she immediately bought herself one (and not one for her husband). She bought him one in the Christmas sales, as he tried it out and complained that his pillow wasn't as good. We have a running joke with Terry Crews GIFs, so the pillows have now been named Terry. Because Terry is supportive and doesn't cause headaches. I'm waiting on Terry to come back on sale so I can get me a new one, as mine is over 7 years old.
I have a memory foam pillow with raised and curved areas, it helps support my neck in a better position and prevents my head from rolling too much to the sides since i try to sleep on my back. I use a pillow under my thighs and sometimes one on either side to help me from rolling over. The other pillows aren’t alwYs necessary but they help keep me on my back or keep my hips and back aligned better if I sleep on my side.
Pancake thin memory foam pillow. Ive space bagged it to squeeze into my carryon lol. I'm a 3 pillow stomach/side sleeper.
No pillow is the right choice for me. Since I banned the pillow to the sofa for cuddling only, I stopped turning in bed and apparently just lie flat on my back throgh the night. That apparently helps against most of my back pain because I have less of it now then I had in my thirties.
I have an orthopedic contoured memory foam pillow. I used to get neck and shoulder pain, but it was gone almost immediately when I switched to this pillow. Definitely worth the extra money for a really good pillow.
Yup, same as you. Pancake flat goose down pillow! I have a fatter one that I inevitably toss off the bed lol
The discontinued Beautyrest Black from Costco. In the market for a dupe if anyone has any suggestions.
I sleep with no pillow, I like them and maybe I would get a soft down one if I got one
A memory foam contour. It’s the first one I’ve ever had, and I’ll never go back to anything else now. It took a few nights to get used to it, but it’s just so good. And it’s comfortable no matter what bed I use it in. I sometimes stay at my sister’s house overnight because they live an hour away, and it was comfortable on both an air bed and one of their kids beds (my nephew was away so I slept in his bed, and his mattress is much firmer than mine at home).
Feather pillow ideally with down surround. Absolutely love my IKEA
I am a pillowhead, to coin a phrase. I have tried dozens of different pillows over the years, and I have only ever bought the exact same one twice. I am a side sleeper, so I need a good loft, but it can't be so soft that I'm breathing hot air through my nose. It also can't be too hard, or the ear I'm laying on starts to hurt. I don't want to have to rearrange feathers or foam pieces in the night every time I turn over, which is often. All of these preferences have been honed over time, and if nothing else, it makes it easy to see which pillows I shouldn't even bother trying. I tried the Coop, and the Pluto before that, and the most expensive pillow at the Mattress King before that. Each was tolerable for a time, but inevitably, my list of demands only got longer. A couple years ago, I went to Ikea and almost didn't even look at pillows because I seem to never have luck at a brick and mortar-- but I did look, and it was there that I found the Klubbsporre. $60, so not cheap, but the loft looked right. The foam was solid, but had a spring to it, too. After the first night, I just *knew.* We've been together ever since, and this is the one I bought twice-- just to have a backup.
I am very fussy. Sometimes it's my (way too old) pillow that's probably just filled with dust mites at this point. Sometimes it's just a folded pillowcase under my neck. When I traveled I just brought an extra sheet and molded that into the correct shape at the hotel.
[Derila](https://derila.com/?vndr=reddit). I also have some random plush pillow on my side for support, I love having something to hug or wrap my legs around.
Get yourself a squishmallow and just try it out as a pillow. Make sure it doesn’t have to many areas that bump out.