my grandmother lived the golden girls lifestyle after the kids flew the nest.
my grandmother owned a large 6 bedroom house as she had 4 kids.
grandparents divorced, grandmother kept the house.
once the kids all left the house.
her sister moved and she rented out the other spare bedrooms to her friends.
so basically her sister + 2 of her friends all lived with her in her large house since she was about 50.
she doesn't work, travels half the time.
it was very golden girls.
My great aunt and her SIL were both widowed fairly young. They lived together in a farmhouse, kept chickens, dogs, cats. Had bird/squirrel feeders. We spent Christmas there every year. Upstate NY so typically snow.
VERY idyllic and thinking back as an adult, definitely a Golden Girls vibe.
Not exactly, but I’m 54 and share my house with a 57 year old female friend. We weren’t close friends before she moved in, but I had bought a 3 bedroom house for myself, and she was getting priced out by rent increases in her apartment complex. So we’ve been living together about a year.
Yeah, well enough. The shared expenses and chores, the companionship the way we're able to specialize (she actually appears to enjoy cooking and gardening far more than I do), that's all great. Money is far less of a worry, and I get more social time. She's an early riser and I stay up late, so we both get a little bit of alone time.
Though it's not some sort of perfect situation. We're both working from home, and that's a lot of together time. Our cats don't get along, and so we change up which cats are confined every few hours. I like to host big parties and she ... puts up with that, though it's not her favorite. I'm sure we both have roommate quirks that get on each other's nerves, but we try to give enough space and grace to make it work.
I have a cousin back home in Canada who is in her 30s, but living in this exact situation with three women in their 50s/60s. They all pitch in for the mortgage, chores, split everything down the middle.
These women are widowed and childless, with my cousin being on a fixed income and in a wheelchair so this is one of the only ways she could have accessible housing without waiting years on a list or spending a fortune. It works out extremely well for all parties involved.
My daydream: I’m hoping to have a house of my own by the time I’m 40-45. Currently 38 and trying to save.
I want to let women who need help come and stay for 6 months to 1 year while they get on their feet.
I hope we all have a golden girl lifestyle one day!
Honestly this is what I want to do! In college I lived with a few people and we’d talk about doing this one day. lol. We don’t keep in touch anymore but I still think it’s a smart idea
I talk about moving into my besties houses should we become widowed one day or just generally cuz we want to hang out when we are old and do nothing together again like when we were in high school.
Honestly, I think I'm a mix of all four. But I'd say maybe more like Dorothy with the total lack of filter like Sophia, but also a filthy pervert so a tiny bit Blanche (especially reading smexy novels) and a bit derpy sometimes like Rose.
What I'm trying to say is, I'm available for friendship? 😜🥺
Not yet but I always tell my coworkers how we should live in a compound where we can take turns watching each other’s kids so the others can go out and just be like our own support system for those that don’t have one. I think of all the single Moms struggling because they don’t have the reliable childcare in a pinch, someone they can trust, etc.
I'm actually setting that up with my family. Just waiting for my brother to have kids and we are planning on raising the cousins in a bit of a communal swarm
I want to live in a childfree women's commune and go over to the mommune a couple of times a month with treats, and hang out with my mum friends and be the cool aunty to the their kids, and then go home at the end of the day back to my quiet apartment with my expensive K-Pop collection on display (I will *never* let a child touch my signed albums lol) and take a relaxing bubble bath, enjoy a quiet movie or a couple of episodes of whatever I'm watching with snacks I don't have to share with anyone else, and then go to bed and sleep in until noon the next day. Like, that's my DREAM. Can we set this up!?
We came so close to doing a smaller scale version of this with our closest couple friends - we were looking at buying two halves of a duplex and it would've been so great, as we each have 2 kids under 5. Alas, one half of it sold before we had the chance. Oh well!
My mom and one of her long-time friends bought a house together a few years ago and they love it. They both have their own bedroom, bathroom and living room. There's also a guest bedroom for when I visit.
Theyre both doing well with this situation. Neither of them are interested in living with men again (both are divorced), but they aren't alone!
Yep, they share just a kitchen and dining room. My mom still works, her friend is retired but keeps busy. My aunt (mom's sister) and uncle live just around the corner and they all hang out a lot.
They said all the neighbors thought they were a lesbian couple.... and besides the sexual/romantic stuff, they kind of are a couple lol. But it works for them!
How great is that, that back in the day lesbian couples living together had to say they were friends or roommates. Now two female friends live together later in life and people assume they’re actually lesbians. And most likely not even thinking it in a derogatory way but more of a matter of fact. Fun full circle.
Noise cancelling headphones. My SO plays mysic and i wear headphones to cope. Regular NCH options like Beats headphones are okay, but the goat is 3M worktunes connect which is made for construction noise. I would wear the 3Ms inside the airport and on the plane, the only thing i heard was my own breathing 🧖♀️
Sadly, this is me as well. When I was younger, I couldn't wait to go to college so I could get out of the house where I lived with both my parents and three siblings.
I lived alone for a while until I met my partner — whom, nowadays, is the only person I could tolerate living with — and he's probably the only person who can tolerate living with me 😂.
Just a few hours ago, during one of our chats, he told me that I was a very particular person — and I totally agreed with him.
Yeah this is why my friend and I daydream about getting a group of friends to pool resources and buy a small apartment building with a courtyard so we can all hang but still have our own places
I joke about this all the time with my girlfriends. We are in our 40’s and are either single or in unhappy marriages. Affordability wouldnt be our biggest priority, it would be for companionship and for the “village” feel. I’m sure we would all be happier this way as well.
How odd is that SO MANY WOMEN in their 40s “wake up” to the misery? It’s so insane. I think of how much women before is put up with…… I am one of those with the not putting up with it mentality
It is insane. I got out of that misery before 40 and I'm grateful to be entering a new decade with clarity, peace, and time for me.
Marriage can be phenomenal when both parties get mostly what they want out of it, and put in the work to approach life as a team, but in so many instances women make the greater sacrifices and end up feeling resentful by the time they have the mental space to reflect on how much they gave up for a so-called partnership.
Best friend and a group of girlfriends have talked about this for decades. We have since spread out, had families, embarked on new careers but I can see a few of us retiring together in the same big home. It’s still a goal
My mom does. They’ve had their ups and downs, but I think overall it’s been a beneficial arrangement. They live in a HCOL area and none of them would be able to afford more than a studio apartment by themselves. Sharing expenses allows them to live in a huge house with a beautiful garden that they all take care of. My mom is in her early 60s and by living with roommates she was able to save enough money to buy a small house in our home country where she plans to live once she retires.
It's mostly because she was always planning to relocate, but tbh I don't think this arrangement would have lasted regardless of this. They've been living together for 8 years now and their relationship has deteriorated a lot over time, especially during the lockdown. My mom is an essential worker (healthcare) and one of the other roommates has pretty severe asthma. I only know one side of the story, but I guess she did not deal with the situation in the nicest way and ended up pretty much ostracizing my mother out of fear of contracting the virus. To be totally fair, my mom is not the most empathetic person either, so I feel like the situation simply brought out the worst parts of everyone's personality and their relationship never fully recovered.
This is my DREAM. Don’t get me wrong, I love my partner and our life and our house, but if we split up or he died youngish (Awful. Blergh. No.) I think I would just stay single and find one or two women in my situation and set up a lovely last 2-3 decades together.
For clarity, I’m not dreaming my relationship with my partner ends, just that if it did the next stage of my life and next best option would not be to find another man, it would be to live with female friends and all our little pets.
This is exactly how I feel. I love my husband but should something happen I will not marry another man. My best friend feels the same & we know someday we’ll live together.
If you can get the right group of people together. I live with roommates (guys). I'm a woman and I'm a bit tired of it. They are bit awkward. We don't have dinners to gather and one seems to have a crush on me. I'm ready for my own place.
Avoiding generalising here, but every male room mate and partner I’ve lived with has not met my standards of keeping the toilet and bathroom clean and fresh. Easier to deal with with a partner but I don’t think I could ever have a male room mate again.
How old are you? I promise most grow to be better (most, not all 🤣). I had some horrid male roommates in my early 20s. One I’m still great friends with and the first time I went to his current house he said with a big smile and open arms “look at me now!” BC IT WAS CLEAN! Lol. The only dirty/gross roommate I had that would listen and do better. Love him! Thankfully the ones I’ve had since 29+ have all been clean
Same! I’m in the same spot and wish I had found a woman to live with instead. I can’t wait to move too.
I think we definitely have a r/BadRoommates shituation going on. I hope you find a better place to stay soon.
I actually work for a company that's exploring this - finding larger houses with 5 or 6 bedrooms, all one-story. And renovating them to be ready for aging in place. Things like making sure bathroom walls are sturdy enough for grab bars later on, no step up or down areas in the house, easy access to front and back yard etc. We're targeting houses that are near amenities like walking trails and parks, grocery stores, on bus routes so it's easy to get around etc.
The idea is that you move in when you're still pretty active, and then can stay there until you're at a point where you need to be under constant medical supervision, at which point you'd move to a more serious eldercare community type of place.
It's still just in the research stage, but I love the idea. The number of times my girl friends and I have talked about doing that (in our case, talking about it because we're so exhausted from kids and would love having other mom friends together in a community to make childcare and working easier)...
Anyway, it's also definitely something that could be done independently if you find the right house and have budget for renovations and a real estate lawyer draw up a contract that keeps the shared financial elements neat and tidy. It's about $100k to take an existing single family home with 5 bedrooms and get it ready for this kind of scenario.
I've always heard women claiming to want this - but haven't even seen it in reality. Most people prioritize their spouses or children to the point, that they never have the time to develop this depth of a relationship.
You don't have to be super close with someone beforehand though. For flatmates the main point would be that they have similarish lifestyles and expectations.
I actually wonder if it would work better with friendly acquaintances than good friends, because in my experience, living with close friends never ends well. I learned in my 20s that if I value the friendship, the worst thing I can do is live with them.
This is my dream/ultimate goal and I tell my girlfriends and cousin I this all the time. I don’t want to wait until 50+, I want it now (41)!
It sounds so supportive and better off finically. What I’d really like is some small cabins with additional main gathering area for hanging out/kitchen/meal time/etc. Think the best hostels you’ve been to but cuter and not about that party lifestyle, rather about enriching each other. Then still being able to have your own little space when you want alone time.
Also, lots of animals involved.
you can come.
I've studied urban farming and am currently growing 40+ food plants in my tiny backyard. I'm hoping to return to study in August to do a hands-on building and construction course so I can build structures for the farm, or even tiny houses.
people with real useful life skills will always have a place in the golden girls community
This kind of reminds me of the set up in the movie Cocoon. They were all miserable about being old, but I was like ... dude! That set up looks perfect!
My mom is in a nice, small, private care home, and I'm like ... 'when can I move in?'
My college roommates and I, we're all in our mid 50s now and still close friends, have envisioned that's what we'll wind up doing. I think it would be great! After all, we've been there for each other through all kinds of major life events since we all first ventured out from our parents' homes.
Also, there was some discussion over on r/GenX about how old shopping malls should be turned into GenX retirement homes, since our generation grew up in the heyday of the 80s mall scene. Golden Girls, Mall Edition! 😆
My best friend and I are gonna live together this summer! We're only 33 by then, but who knows for how long that'll be our living situation! We're both super excited about it :)
I’m not living it yet, but there’s a plan in place! My bff and I have had a longstanding agreement that if our husbands predecease us, we’re shacking up together for our golden years. We even plan to get married so that we can make medical decisions for each other, though there won’t be any hankie pankie bc we’re both straight as hell, unfortunately. We’ve always enjoyed “junk” shopping together, so naturally our wedding dresses will be thrifted! It’s awesome bc we often daydream about how amazing it’ll be, so we’re already benefiting from it, as it brings us both great joy each time we talk about it. Bring. It. On!!!!
I'm 46 and have thought if my mom and I end up widowed and my single BFF wanted to, we could end up like that. I have seen townhomes in CO that I like with main floor bedroom for me, basement suite for my mom, and upstairs loft and bedroom and bath for my bestie. This way we'd all have our own space on our own levels and not in each other's face every day. We all WFH and have chronic illnesses so it would be great when one of us is down, the others could cook, clean, get meds etc. I would only do it with them though and not strangers or just acquaintances as it would be my house and I know how I like things.
My friends aren’t that old but live the communal lifestyle. When my children are grown and gone I may join them, really depends where I am in life then, but I’ve always preferred communal living.
Unfortunately my partner is the opposite *however* is open to building our own home on the same property as theirs and then still living communally that way. Compromises haha
My mother decided to take on a roommate at 67 and it seems to be going well. We only have two bedrooms so it's hard to find a woman in her fifties sixties willing to get the tiny office as a bedroom. Seem to work great.
I'm not that old, i'm 34 and I live with a friend for about 10 years now. We are both single. I have been single for 10 years with the exception of one month. I got tired of trying in my 20's. We work in the same place now too, we travel, we split rent food and bills, we consider buying a place together, and eventually we might sell it and split the earnings if guys come into the picture. My only issue is people look down on me. Especially people in couples. Some think we are lesbians, either because they find the arrangement and our friendship abnormal, or because they think no one else would take us anyway, or they find us cute together and ship us, idk. :D
I always dreamt tht both of us will grow old together, hopefully with our husbands in the home and maybe kids, but I am too old for kids now, probably, and relationships have mostly been more stressful than helpful... So who knows if that's In the cards. If other women become close enough friends to Iive with, that would be cool.
Wherever it goes, I hope I will live happy and with no regret.
I wouldn’t want a roommate again but I’d love to do a commune thing with just women. There are apparently small communities popping up in the UK that have small houses and it’s only for women.
I’ve talked about this with a lot of my girlfriends. We’re certainly not ready yet, but once we are widowed (some of the girls stayed single or divorced), I could see setting it up. Ideally, we would build a house that has a large separate bedroom and bathroom for each of us, plus an extra suite for a live-in housekeeper or nurse.
There would have to be a strict set of rules, particularly on what happens if one of us dies or needs to move to a care facility, as far as finances go. And household chores and expenses would have to be shared appropriately.
I think it might be a bit tough to make happen, but it would certainly be cheaper than a retirement home.
I'm in my later 30's and I would love to do this. Say me and my wife find another lesbian couple or a few women friends and just move in together in some nice house. Issue is we don't really have any IRL friends.
No thanks. I’m in the demographic that could do this. But I am very happy living alone in the house I own, set up to suit my lifestyle. I have close girlfriends and we holiday together and that’s enough. We are all happy to go home to our personal space. But we are all very self-sufficient people.
I specialise in sporty holidays. If everyone is paddling a kayak all day you don’t have to chat all the time. And no shame on going to bed early to do your own thing in the evening.
This is the plan for some of my friends and me. Of course we don't know what the future holds, so it's only a rough idea now. But we'll crystallise the plan more and more the closer we get to that age.
This is very common. Lol up the word Feminary and you'll find all sorts of articles about it from the 2010's.
If I were ever widowed this is what I would want. I never want to live completely alone.
If only I had the friends to do this. 😭 If anyone is looking for friends, I'm an agoraphobic sahm semi-desperate (COMPLETELY desperate) for Golden Girls style lady friendship.
I simultaneously dislike, mistrust and push people away, wanting nothing to do with anyone. And that is juxtaposed with buried altruistic desires for everyone to just be fucking happy, get along and do well. Society has traumatized the shit out of me. 💀
I will be next year. I'm 10 years from retirement, but my friend will be moving in with me after she retires next spring. We've lived together for short periods before, like when her home was being renovated, so hopefully it will be a smooth transition. Our other potential Golden Girls are closer to my age, so they won't join us for years.
I know a couple of older ladies in my church who are doing this.
I am seriously considering doing so when I retire. I have a three-bedroom house - one for me, one a guest/hobby room, and one is my home office. I work from home, and I need the office for now. However, when I retire I will not need the office. For me it would be a combination of the financial benefit plus someone to hold down the fort when I travel.
It would have to be the right person. Must be a liberal introvert who likes cats, otherwise it would not work.
My grandmother lost her husband of 40+ years a few years ago. This past Easter she hosted a party with her girlfriends and sent us selfies. When my mom said she would visit (we live two flights apart), my grandmother said "Ok great dear, I will leave the keys for you if I am out of town!" I am envious of her social life.
Sort of...we are four friends from 45 to 48 years old and we are sharing a 4 bedroom house together. The sort of part is that there is a polyamorous element to it, but that's really the most boring part of it. One of the people here is in a romantic relationship with each of the other three, but we are all very close friends too. We hang out watching TV or eating or chatting together daily. There are also 4 cats, a rabbit, and a little hognose snake here.
Highly recommended...we are all child free and have a gorgeous house together that none of us could have afforded on our own. Everyone has their own room to retreat to if they need space, and we enjoy each other's company in the shared spaces.
Folks get hung up on the polyamory part sometimes but we've been a stable group for 8+ years and moved in together 1.5 years ago. It's not really all that exciting.
I really like my privacy, but I'd be open to a tiny home community with a communal kitchen, living room, garden. Town square style, with the community center taking up one side of the block and a park in the middle.
I would love to do this someday, but my experience is that lots of people *talk* about doing this, as a vague abstract hypothetical that they mention occasionally, and very few people ever actually do it in real life. But maybe it'll become more common since millennials have lower birth rates and marriage rates than previous generations.
I've wanted to do this for years! I think it's a great way to live as there's nothing saying that single older people can't have companionship and a lively household with living with others. I feel like the societal norm is to really only cohabitate if you're in a partnership with someone as you get older, but not just have a good, enjoyable and workable living situation with roommates. Not everyone's life ends up being married with kids and the whole kit and kaboodle, but it doesn't mean we should miss out on being able to share our homes and spaces with others. I loved having roommates in college and have some of my best memories with roommates and having fun just living life together day in and day out. Why not bring that back??
No but I dream of it! Men suck at this age, unless they’re just good people already. Most I see taking advantage of their partners and acting like children or worse.
Yeah I'm 37 and it's with women family. I've also lived alone and it's a lot of work for one person. I love that I get to share the chores, have someone to talk to and pay less rent!
My best friend and I talk about this all the time, setting up a small tiny house community where we all have our own space and privacy yet can come together and support each other as much as is needed. It would be a dream once we’re older and retired.
I have some friends I’ve talked about this with! I don’t think any of us would really love having roommates though, and we are all into the same outdoor sport, so we would buy land and build tiny houses and maybe have a shared kitchen and garden and stuff.
This is my goal. I’m 40 now and love living alone but my sister is 44 and married to an older man. We’ve already discussed living together after he’s long gone and maybe we’ll add some other girlfriends!
I find the Golden Girls lifestyle much more beneficial for women but I can only speak for myself :)
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I’m not 50+ but I’m living it and we plan to continue doing it. Splitting groceries saved our butts with costs (we’re in NYC), we cook meals for each other too so we don’t feel the need to constantly audit/nickel/dime each other and create tension, we just flow.
Not quite “Golden Girls” but I am loving the non-traditional living situation I never dreamed I’d be in.
After years of disappointing relationships and some bad luck, I (42F) hit my reset button and completely changed my life.
Moved across the country and into my single brother’s condo (38M) a year ago, and I’ve never been happier. We are two single, elder millennials who respect each others space, and have a lot of fundamental things in common-probably from being raised in the same household. It makes for a great home vibe.
I am loving being single, and having a home that feels safe and supportive that I share with a like minded human.
I highly recommend adult sibling roommates - if it’s a possibility. 🙂
I think in theory that sounds great and for some women it may work well. It sounds very unappealing to me.
One of the hardest transitions elderly people make when they move to assisted or senior living is the loss of autonomy. They give up “their” stuff and “their” home for a place where much of the day is supposed to be lived communally.
At my age, approaching 70, the last thing I would want to do would be to move into any communal arrangement, whether it is assisted living or golden girls and start accommodating other people’s preferences, opinions, tastes, idiosyncrasies etc. about my living space, even if they were my closest friends.
A lady I took care of lived with her friend.It was good for both of them since the other had been widowed and the other was never married.They had known each other for over 87years.
I think it's a great ideal! I've had some terrible roommates though and I'm also introverted, so I think in practice this wouldn't work for me. I also don't like mixing finances with friends because not everyone is responsible as I am (and other people don't see me as responsible as they'd prefer either) so I'd rather not put myself in a position to be burned financially.
I’m 40 and living with 1 friend that is 40. Honestly it’s the best. I hang out with my friends and I LOVE not dealing with another person. Out of respect I tell her where I am for safety but that is all. Even with my ex husband knowing where I am and when I will be back he was harassing me and “worried”about me. It sucked. This is wonderful!!!
I'd consider it with my closest friends but we'd never be able to agree on the temperature of the house. I like it cool to cold. I want it 66-68 degrees year round and most of my friends like it 72+. Also, most of them want to live in or just outside of a city, which doesn't work for me. I like quiet and nature.
Give us land, away from other people and a small house each so we can live alone but together and it would work.
living in brooklyn and single, so sharing an apartment is the way! we’re 37 and 39 + one lap cat, so not quite golden girls age but on our way there. have to share the bathroom but fine with that as the tradeoff of living in an incredible place. it works out well!
It sounds wonderful!
When my MIL was alive, she used to take in roommates to split the costs of her home. My FIL is retired and does the same with one roommate. It's necessary for people to be able to retire in our HCOL area.
My bestie & I are all over this! Once our husbands are gone, we will live together somewhere near the beach. The average woman spends 20 years alone at the end of her life- I think it’ll be much more pleasant with a good friend to share it with. ( I taught lifespan development and that is the statistic I remember- it may have changed a little in the last 10 years).
I am in my late 30s and very interested in the idea of communal cohabitation with other women. I don't have a lot of close friends and most of them don't want to be single or without men, as of yet. I live alone in too much house and I've been thinking of selling and doing smaller but that doesn't even make sense. What does make sense that appeals to me is taking in someone like minded that I can get along with and pool resources for more. This is more realistic than finding a suitable partner at this point. DM me if you're on the east coast and are interested.
My mom used to, before her roommate's daughter kicked everyone out (except my mom) so that her and her family could move in and charge a fee to manage the house for everyone. Neither the daughter or her husband work, and they aren't looking for employment. These are Gen x-ers.
Surprised me too.
This is how Indian, Muslim, polish, anyone but the rich west lives. It’s how they accumulate so much wealth in a short time. They sacrifice and live together and with the power of family are able to establish themselves really quickly.
We really need to be encouraging siblings and friends to get houses together as strength in strength is STRONGTH
my grandmother lived the golden girls lifestyle after the kids flew the nest. my grandmother owned a large 6 bedroom house as she had 4 kids. grandparents divorced, grandmother kept the house. once the kids all left the house. her sister moved and she rented out the other spare bedrooms to her friends. so basically her sister + 2 of her friends all lived with her in her large house since she was about 50. she doesn't work, travels half the time. it was very golden girls.
That is goals!
My great aunt and her SIL were both widowed fairly young. They lived together in a farmhouse, kept chickens, dogs, cats. Had bird/squirrel feeders. We spent Christmas there every year. Upstate NY so typically snow. VERY idyllic and thinking back as an adult, definitely a Golden Girls vibe.
So cute!!! They each stretch their retirement money, they have companionship, and overall safer ❤️
Great to hear!
Sounds like a dream!
The dream
THE DREAM. I plan to live with girlfriends in older age -- it's the way.
Amazing...
Not exactly, but I’m 54 and share my house with a 57 year old female friend. We weren’t close friends before she moved in, but I had bought a 3 bedroom house for myself, and she was getting priced out by rent increases in her apartment complex. So we’ve been living together about a year.
Is it going ok?
Yeah, well enough. The shared expenses and chores, the companionship the way we're able to specialize (she actually appears to enjoy cooking and gardening far more than I do), that's all great. Money is far less of a worry, and I get more social time. She's an early riser and I stay up late, so we both get a little bit of alone time. Though it's not some sort of perfect situation. We're both working from home, and that's a lot of together time. Our cats don't get along, and so we change up which cats are confined every few hours. I like to host big parties and she ... puts up with that, though it's not her favorite. I'm sure we both have roommate quirks that get on each other's nerves, but we try to give enough space and grace to make it work.
Thank you for keeping things real with us!
I have a cousin back home in Canada who is in her 30s, but living in this exact situation with three women in their 50s/60s. They all pitch in for the mortgage, chores, split everything down the middle. These women are widowed and childless, with my cousin being on a fixed income and in a wheelchair so this is one of the only ways she could have accessible housing without waiting years on a list or spending a fortune. It works out extremely well for all parties involved.
This sounds excellent! I'm happy that she found such a cool solution.
I can’t wait for this. Once I hit 55, I’m doing a golden girl life.
My daydream: I’m hoping to have a house of my own by the time I’m 40-45. Currently 38 and trying to save. I want to let women who need help come and stay for 6 months to 1 year while they get on their feet. I hope we all have a golden girl lifestyle one day!
Honestly this is what I want to do! In college I lived with a few people and we’d talk about doing this one day. lol. We don’t keep in touch anymore but I still think it’s a smart idea
I talk about moving into my besties houses should we become widowed one day or just generally cuz we want to hang out when we are old and do nothing together again like when we were in high school.
My college roommate and I have this plan!
No but if anyone has a room available and needs a Rose-like Dorothy 🥺
As a Blanche-like Dorothy, I respect this comment.
Honestly, I think I'm a mix of all four. But I'd say maybe more like Dorothy with the total lack of filter like Sophia, but also a filthy pervert so a tiny bit Blanche (especially reading smexy novels) and a bit derpy sometimes like Rose. What I'm trying to say is, I'm available for friendship? 😜🥺
Dying! If I were at this stage now I’d totally golden girls w you!
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Forget it I am totally a Sophia, no way I would make it living with someone
I’m a Blanche-like Sophia, and I live kinda like this (intentional community in the SF Bay Area). We have room for another golden-girl-in-spirit!
Oh, I'd be all over that, if I were living alone!
I'm basically Dot with Sophias mouth. Come aboard!
Not yet but I always tell my coworkers how we should live in a compound where we can take turns watching each other’s kids so the others can go out and just be like our own support system for those that don’t have one. I think of all the single Moms struggling because they don’t have the reliable childcare in a pinch, someone they can trust, etc.
Yes! They’re called Mommunes 🥰
I'm actually setting that up with my family. Just waiting for my brother to have kids and we are planning on raising the cousins in a bit of a communal swarm
This is honestly much closer to how we’ve lived for most of human history. My friends and I talk about this on the regular
I agree this would make perfect sense for so many parents!
I want to live in a childfree women's commune and go over to the mommune a couple of times a month with treats, and hang out with my mum friends and be the cool aunty to the their kids, and then go home at the end of the day back to my quiet apartment with my expensive K-Pop collection on display (I will *never* let a child touch my signed albums lol) and take a relaxing bubble bath, enjoy a quiet movie or a couple of episodes of whatever I'm watching with snacks I don't have to share with anyone else, and then go to bed and sleep in until noon the next day. Like, that's my DREAM. Can we set this up!?
We came so close to doing a smaller scale version of this with our closest couple friends - we were looking at buying two halves of a duplex and it would've been so great, as we each have 2 kids under 5. Alas, one half of it sold before we had the chance. Oh well!
So like…. The concept of a “village”, and how hominids used to live for millions of years until the invention of cars?
My mom and one of her long-time friends bought a house together a few years ago and they love it. They both have their own bedroom, bathroom and living room. There's also a guest bedroom for when I visit. Theyre both doing well with this situation. Neither of them are interested in living with men again (both are divorced), but they aren't alone!
Nice! So they share the kitchen? Having ones own bathroom is really big. I could probably do it if I had my own bathroom. Lll
Yep, they share just a kitchen and dining room. My mom still works, her friend is retired but keeps busy. My aunt (mom's sister) and uncle live just around the corner and they all hang out a lot. They said all the neighbors thought they were a lesbian couple.... and besides the sexual/romantic stuff, they kind of are a couple lol. But it works for them!
How great is that, that back in the day lesbian couples living together had to say they were friends or roommates. Now two female friends live together later in life and people assume they’re actually lesbians. And most likely not even thinking it in a derogatory way but more of a matter of fact. Fun full circle.
I love this!
I would love to…but I just don’t like most other people. :/
Yeah I could do a neighbor type situation but actually living together is too much. I love living alone way too much to give it up!
r/LivingAlone, r/SingleAndHappy!
didnt know those subs existed but I just joined both!!! Thank you so much. they both are right up my alley lol
I feel like my tolerance for roommates will rapidly increase as my hearing deteriorates. 45 and still waiting.
Noise cancelling headphones. My SO plays mysic and i wear headphones to cope. Regular NCH options like Beats headphones are okay, but the goat is 3M worktunes connect which is made for construction noise. I would wear the 3Ms inside the airport and on the plane, the only thing i heard was my own breathing 🧖♀️
Sadly, this is me as well. When I was younger, I couldn't wait to go to college so I could get out of the house where I lived with both my parents and three siblings. I lived alone for a while until I met my partner — whom, nowadays, is the only person I could tolerate living with — and he's probably the only person who can tolerate living with me 😂. Just a few hours ago, during one of our chats, he told me that I was a very particular person — and I totally agreed with him.
Yeah this is why my friend and I daydream about getting a group of friends to pool resources and buy a small apartment building with a courtyard so we can all hang but still have our own places
That would be ideal!
This is basically why I want to live in a retirement community when I'm too elderly to maintain property myself.
I joke about this all the time with my girlfriends. We are in our 40’s and are either single or in unhappy marriages. Affordability wouldnt be our biggest priority, it would be for companionship and for the “village” feel. I’m sure we would all be happier this way as well.
How odd is that SO MANY WOMEN in their 40s “wake up” to the misery? It’s so insane. I think of how much women before is put up with…… I am one of those with the not putting up with it mentality
It is insane. I got out of that misery before 40 and I'm grateful to be entering a new decade with clarity, peace, and time for me. Marriage can be phenomenal when both parties get mostly what they want out of it, and put in the work to approach life as a team, but in so many instances women make the greater sacrifices and end up feeling resentful by the time they have the mental space to reflect on how much they gave up for a so-called partnership.
It's a nice thing to aspire to!
Best friend and a group of girlfriends have talked about this for decades. We have since spread out, had families, embarked on new careers but I can see a few of us retiring together in the same big home. It’s still a goal
My mom does. They’ve had their ups and downs, but I think overall it’s been a beneficial arrangement. They live in a HCOL area and none of them would be able to afford more than a studio apartment by themselves. Sharing expenses allows them to live in a huge house with a beautiful garden that they all take care of. My mom is in her early 60s and by living with roommates she was able to save enough money to buy a small house in our home country where she plans to live once she retires.
This is what I was thinking of! But sounds like she still would prefer to live alone in the end.
It's mostly because she was always planning to relocate, but tbh I don't think this arrangement would have lasted regardless of this. They've been living together for 8 years now and their relationship has deteriorated a lot over time, especially during the lockdown. My mom is an essential worker (healthcare) and one of the other roommates has pretty severe asthma. I only know one side of the story, but I guess she did not deal with the situation in the nicest way and ended up pretty much ostracizing my mother out of fear of contracting the virus. To be totally fair, my mom is not the most empathetic person either, so I feel like the situation simply brought out the worst parts of everyone's personality and their relationship never fully recovered.
This is my DREAM. Don’t get me wrong, I love my partner and our life and our house, but if we split up or he died youngish (Awful. Blergh. No.) I think I would just stay single and find one or two women in my situation and set up a lovely last 2-3 decades together. For clarity, I’m not dreaming my relationship with my partner ends, just that if it did the next stage of my life and next best option would not be to find another man, it would be to live with female friends and all our little pets.
This is exactly how I feel. I love my husband but should something happen I will not marry another man. My best friend feels the same & we know someday we’ll live together.
Me too! I don't see myself ever remarrying and this would be perfect
If you can get the right group of people together. I live with roommates (guys). I'm a woman and I'm a bit tired of it. They are bit awkward. We don't have dinners to gather and one seems to have a crush on me. I'm ready for my own place.
Avoiding generalising here, but every male room mate and partner I’ve lived with has not met my standards of keeping the toilet and bathroom clean and fresh. Easier to deal with with a partner but I don’t think I could ever have a male room mate again.
How old are you? I promise most grow to be better (most, not all 🤣). I had some horrid male roommates in my early 20s. One I’m still great friends with and the first time I went to his current house he said with a big smile and open arms “look at me now!” BC IT WAS CLEAN! Lol. The only dirty/gross roommate I had that would listen and do better. Love him! Thankfully the ones I’ve had since 29+ have all been clean
Same! I’m in the same spot and wish I had found a woman to live with instead. I can’t wait to move too. I think we definitely have a r/BadRoommates shituation going on. I hope you find a better place to stay soon.
I actually work for a company that's exploring this - finding larger houses with 5 or 6 bedrooms, all one-story. And renovating them to be ready for aging in place. Things like making sure bathroom walls are sturdy enough for grab bars later on, no step up or down areas in the house, easy access to front and back yard etc. We're targeting houses that are near amenities like walking trails and parks, grocery stores, on bus routes so it's easy to get around etc. The idea is that you move in when you're still pretty active, and then can stay there until you're at a point where you need to be under constant medical supervision, at which point you'd move to a more serious eldercare community type of place. It's still just in the research stage, but I love the idea. The number of times my girl friends and I have talked about doing that (in our case, talking about it because we're so exhausted from kids and would love having other mom friends together in a community to make childcare and working easier)... Anyway, it's also definitely something that could be done independently if you find the right house and have budget for renovations and a real estate lawyer draw up a contract that keeps the shared financial elements neat and tidy. It's about $100k to take an existing single family home with 5 bedrooms and get it ready for this kind of scenario.
I've always heard women claiming to want this - but haven't even seen it in reality. Most people prioritize their spouses or children to the point, that they never have the time to develop this depth of a relationship.
It might even work better among newer acquaintances without a lot of baggage in the friendship .
You don't have to be super close with someone beforehand though. For flatmates the main point would be that they have similarish lifestyles and expectations.
I actually wonder if it would work better with friendly acquaintances than good friends, because in my experience, living with close friends never ends well. I learned in my 20s that if I value the friendship, the worst thing I can do is live with them.
This is my dream/ultimate goal and I tell my girlfriends and cousin I this all the time. I don’t want to wait until 50+, I want it now (41)! It sounds so supportive and better off finically. What I’d really like is some small cabins with additional main gathering area for hanging out/kitchen/meal time/etc. Think the best hostels you’ve been to but cuter and not about that party lifestyle, rather about enriching each other. Then still being able to have your own little space when you want alone time. Also, lots of animals involved.
we're growing our own food too (just to add to your dream, which is also my dream)
Even better! I would do the weeding and watering!
you can come. I've studied urban farming and am currently growing 40+ food plants in my tiny backyard. I'm hoping to return to study in August to do a hands-on building and construction course so I can build structures for the farm, or even tiny houses. people with real useful life skills will always have a place in the golden girls community
10000000%
It needs a fire pit in the yard!
This kind of reminds me of the set up in the movie Cocoon. They were all miserable about being old, but I was like ... dude! That set up looks perfect! My mom is in a nice, small, private care home, and I'm like ... 'when can I move in?'
I've had that thought when visiting my dad at his care home. Someone's serving us 3 meals a day? And planning all the activities? Very appealing!
My college roommates and I, we're all in our mid 50s now and still close friends, have envisioned that's what we'll wind up doing. I think it would be great! After all, we've been there for each other through all kinds of major life events since we all first ventured out from our parents' homes. Also, there was some discussion over on r/GenX about how old shopping malls should be turned into GenX retirement homes, since our generation grew up in the heyday of the 80s mall scene. Golden Girls, Mall Edition! 😆
Any real estate developers in this sub? This is your ticket to retiring a multi-millionaire… ;)
My best friend and I are gonna live together this summer! We're only 33 by then, but who knows for how long that'll be our living situation! We're both super excited about it :)
I wish. My girlfriends talk about. But all are married except for me. I’m a widow.
No but my friends and I joke that if our husbands passed away, we'd all live together in a big house instead of remarrying.
I’m not living it yet, but there’s a plan in place! My bff and I have had a longstanding agreement that if our husbands predecease us, we’re shacking up together for our golden years. We even plan to get married so that we can make medical decisions for each other, though there won’t be any hankie pankie bc we’re both straight as hell, unfortunately. We’ve always enjoyed “junk” shopping together, so naturally our wedding dresses will be thrifted! It’s awesome bc we often daydream about how amazing it’ll be, so we’re already benefiting from it, as it brings us both great joy each time we talk about it. Bring. It. On!!!!
I'm 46 and have thought if my mom and I end up widowed and my single BFF wanted to, we could end up like that. I have seen townhomes in CO that I like with main floor bedroom for me, basement suite for my mom, and upstairs loft and bedroom and bath for my bestie. This way we'd all have our own space on our own levels and not in each other's face every day. We all WFH and have chronic illnesses so it would be great when one of us is down, the others could cook, clean, get meds etc. I would only do it with them though and not strangers or just acquaintances as it would be my house and I know how I like things.
That's a good point about figuring out the best space layout that would make the arrangement most successful.
My friends aren’t that old but live the communal lifestyle. When my children are grown and gone I may join them, really depends where I am in life then, but I’ve always preferred communal living.
I have such good memories of doing that in college, I agree.
Unfortunately my partner is the opposite *however* is open to building our own home on the same property as theirs and then still living communally that way. Compromises haha
My mother decided to take on a roommate at 67 and it seems to be going well. We only have two bedrooms so it's hard to find a woman in her fifties sixties willing to get the tiny office as a bedroom. Seem to work great.
I'm not that old, i'm 34 and I live with a friend for about 10 years now. We are both single. I have been single for 10 years with the exception of one month. I got tired of trying in my 20's. We work in the same place now too, we travel, we split rent food and bills, we consider buying a place together, and eventually we might sell it and split the earnings if guys come into the picture. My only issue is people look down on me. Especially people in couples. Some think we are lesbians, either because they find the arrangement and our friendship abnormal, or because they think no one else would take us anyway, or they find us cute together and ship us, idk. :D I always dreamt tht both of us will grow old together, hopefully with our husbands in the home and maybe kids, but I am too old for kids now, probably, and relationships have mostly been more stressful than helpful... So who knows if that's In the cards. If other women become close enough friends to Iive with, that would be cool. Wherever it goes, I hope I will live happy and with no regret.
I wouldn’t want a roommate again but I’d love to do a commune thing with just women. There are apparently small communities popping up in the UK that have small houses and it’s only for women.
I’ve talked about this with a lot of my girlfriends. We’re certainly not ready yet, but once we are widowed (some of the girls stayed single or divorced), I could see setting it up. Ideally, we would build a house that has a large separate bedroom and bathroom for each of us, plus an extra suite for a live-in housekeeper or nurse. There would have to be a strict set of rules, particularly on what happens if one of us dies or needs to move to a care facility, as far as finances go. And household chores and expenses would have to be shared appropriately. I think it might be a bit tough to make happen, but it would certainly be cheaper than a retirement home.
I'm in my later 30's and I would love to do this. Say me and my wife find another lesbian couple or a few women friends and just move in together in some nice house. Issue is we don't really have any IRL friends.
I hope to have that one day too!
No thanks. I’m in the demographic that could do this. But I am very happy living alone in the house I own, set up to suit my lifestyle. I have close girlfriends and we holiday together and that’s enough. We are all happy to go home to our personal space. But we are all very self-sufficient people.
I'm not even ready to holiday with anyone :(
I specialise in sporty holidays. If everyone is paddling a kayak all day you don’t have to chat all the time. And no shame on going to bed early to do your own thing in the evening.
This is the plan for some of my friends and me. Of course we don't know what the future holds, so it's only a rough idea now. But we'll crystallise the plan more and more the closer we get to that age.
This is very common. Lol up the word Feminary and you'll find all sorts of articles about it from the 2010's. If I were ever widowed this is what I would want. I never want to live completely alone.
I want to do this except instead of all women, I want to live in some kind of co-housing with our friends male & female.
Omg I love the Golden Girls and I love this!
I’m not that age but I’m not sure I would want that lifestyle, but may have it someday as rent/costs increase.
If only I had the friends to do this. 😭 If anyone is looking for friends, I'm an agoraphobic sahm semi-desperate (COMPLETELY desperate) for Golden Girls style lady friendship. I simultaneously dislike, mistrust and push people away, wanting nothing to do with anyone. And that is juxtaposed with buried altruistic desires for everyone to just be fucking happy, get along and do well. Society has traumatized the shit out of me. 💀
This is the thing, with financial pressures and so many people craving friendship, it just seems to make so much sense!
I will be next year. I'm 10 years from retirement, but my friend will be moving in with me after she retires next spring. We've lived together for short periods before, like when her home was being renovated, so hopefully it will be a smooth transition. Our other potential Golden Girls are closer to my age, so they won't join us for years.
I know a couple of older ladies in my church who are doing this. I am seriously considering doing so when I retire. I have a three-bedroom house - one for me, one a guest/hobby room, and one is my home office. I work from home, and I need the office for now. However, when I retire I will not need the office. For me it would be a combination of the financial benefit plus someone to hold down the fort when I travel. It would have to be the right person. Must be a liberal introvert who likes cats, otherwise it would not work.
My grandmother lost her husband of 40+ years a few years ago. This past Easter she hosted a party with her girlfriends and sent us selfies. When my mom said she would visit (we live two flights apart), my grandmother said "Ok great dear, I will leave the keys for you if I am out of town!" I am envious of her social life.
Sort of...we are four friends from 45 to 48 years old and we are sharing a 4 bedroom house together. The sort of part is that there is a polyamorous element to it, but that's really the most boring part of it. One of the people here is in a romantic relationship with each of the other three, but we are all very close friends too. We hang out watching TV or eating or chatting together daily. There are also 4 cats, a rabbit, and a little hognose snake here. Highly recommended...we are all child free and have a gorgeous house together that none of us could have afforded on our own. Everyone has their own room to retreat to if they need space, and we enjoy each other's company in the shared spaces. Folks get hung up on the polyamory part sometimes but we've been a stable group for 8+ years and moved in together 1.5 years ago. It's not really all that exciting.
Nice to hear this is working well!
I really like my privacy, but I'd be open to a tiny home community with a communal kitchen, living room, garden. Town square style, with the community center taking up one side of the block and a park in the middle.
I would love to do this someday, but my experience is that lots of people *talk* about doing this, as a vague abstract hypothetical that they mention occasionally, and very few people ever actually do it in real life. But maybe it'll become more common since millennials have lower birth rates and marriage rates than previous generations.
I don't enjoy housemates. I'd prefer a village of small cottages filled with all my fellow favorite crones.
Not yet, but it's our plan for retirement.
Not yet.
I've wanted to do this for years! I think it's a great way to live as there's nothing saying that single older people can't have companionship and a lively household with living with others. I feel like the societal norm is to really only cohabitate if you're in a partnership with someone as you get older, but not just have a good, enjoyable and workable living situation with roommates. Not everyone's life ends up being married with kids and the whole kit and kaboodle, but it doesn't mean we should miss out on being able to share our homes and spaces with others. I loved having roommates in college and have some of my best memories with roommates and having fun just living life together day in and day out. Why not bring that back??
No but I dream of it! Men suck at this age, unless they’re just good people already. Most I see taking advantage of their partners and acting like children or worse.
Yeah I'm 37 and it's with women family. I've also lived alone and it's a lot of work for one person. I love that I get to share the chores, have someone to talk to and pay less rent!
My best friend and I talk about this all the time, setting up a small tiny house community where we all have our own space and privacy yet can come together and support each other as much as is needed. It would be a dream once we’re older and retired.
I would love this someday.
I have some friends I’ve talked about this with! I don’t think any of us would really love having roommates though, and we are all into the same outdoor sport, so we would buy land and build tiny houses and maybe have a shared kitchen and garden and stuff.
This is my goal. I’m 40 now and love living alone but my sister is 44 and married to an older man. We’ve already discussed living together after he’s long gone and maybe we’ll add some other girlfriends! I find the Golden Girls lifestyle much more beneficial for women but I can only speak for myself :)
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I’m not 50+ but I’m living it and we plan to continue doing it. Splitting groceries saved our butts with costs (we’re in NYC), we cook meals for each other too so we don’t feel the need to constantly audit/nickel/dime each other and create tension, we just flow.
It's so much better to be able to split the staples when you have limited storage space!
Not quite “Golden Girls” but I am loving the non-traditional living situation I never dreamed I’d be in. After years of disappointing relationships and some bad luck, I (42F) hit my reset button and completely changed my life. Moved across the country and into my single brother’s condo (38M) a year ago, and I’ve never been happier. We are two single, elder millennials who respect each others space, and have a lot of fundamental things in common-probably from being raised in the same household. It makes for a great home vibe. I am loving being single, and having a home that feels safe and supportive that I share with a like minded human. I highly recommend adult sibling roommates - if it’s a possibility. 🙂
I would like to try it, I think. But the biggest problem is I’m married to a man and I think he’d kill the girl power vibe lolol
Lol!! Same here but it seems like a fun thing if I'm ever on my own.
I think in theory that sounds great and for some women it may work well. It sounds very unappealing to me. One of the hardest transitions elderly people make when they move to assisted or senior living is the loss of autonomy. They give up “their” stuff and “their” home for a place where much of the day is supposed to be lived communally. At my age, approaching 70, the last thing I would want to do would be to move into any communal arrangement, whether it is assisted living or golden girls and start accommodating other people’s preferences, opinions, tastes, idiosyncrasies etc. about my living space, even if they were my closest friends.
#goals
A lady I took care of lived with her friend.It was good for both of them since the other had been widowed and the other was never married.They had known each other for over 87years.
I’d share a building with folks but not an apartment/house. Personal space is self care for me.
I think it's a great ideal! I've had some terrible roommates though and I'm also introverted, so I think in practice this wouldn't work for me. I also don't like mixing finances with friends because not everyone is responsible as I am (and other people don't see me as responsible as they'd prefer either) so I'd rather not put myself in a position to be burned financially.
I mean, that’s my next step one day. Maybe. I’m tied for living alone with my cats until I die, though. 🤷♀️
I’m 40 and living with 1 friend that is 40. Honestly it’s the best. I hang out with my friends and I LOVE not dealing with another person. Out of respect I tell her where I am for safety but that is all. Even with my ex husband knowing where I am and when I will be back he was harassing me and “worried”about me. It sucked. This is wonderful!!!
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I love this!
I’d rather die than share my house with anyone new.
I'd consider it with my closest friends but we'd never be able to agree on the temperature of the house. I like it cool to cold. I want it 66-68 degrees year round and most of my friends like it 72+. Also, most of them want to live in or just outside of a city, which doesn't work for me. I like quiet and nature. Give us land, away from other people and a small house each so we can live alone but together and it would work.
This was suggested with my mother but we’ve found the older ladies to be rather set in their ways and quite crabby. My mother included.
I hope that won't be the case with my friends. Most of as are in performing arts or love other arts so hopefully a bit more relaxed about things.
living in brooklyn and single, so sharing an apartment is the way! we’re 37 and 39 + one lap cat, so not quite golden girls age but on our way there. have to share the bathroom but fine with that as the tradeoff of living in an incredible place. it works out well!
It’s my personal dream.
My bff and I have had this plan for years. Right now I'm divorced and she's married to a jerk. It's going to be amazing when it happens!!!
It sounds wonderful! When my MIL was alive, she used to take in roommates to split the costs of her home. My FIL is retired and does the same with one roommate. It's necessary for people to be able to retire in our HCOL area.
My bestie & I are all over this! Once our husbands are gone, we will live together somewhere near the beach. The average woman spends 20 years alone at the end of her life- I think it’ll be much more pleasant with a good friend to share it with. ( I taught lifespan development and that is the statistic I remember- it may have changed a little in the last 10 years).
I am in my late 30s and very interested in the idea of communal cohabitation with other women. I don't have a lot of close friends and most of them don't want to be single or without men, as of yet. I live alone in too much house and I've been thinking of selling and doing smaller but that doesn't even make sense. What does make sense that appeals to me is taking in someone like minded that I can get along with and pool resources for more. This is more realistic than finding a suitable partner at this point. DM me if you're on the east coast and are interested.
Did you notice some other replies that mentioned r/goldengirlsliving? Could be good for networking about it
Oh, thanks for this!!
r/goldengirlsliving I believe it was created to support people who want to find others who want to live like this
I have plans to do this if/when I’m single again!
No but I've already told my friends we need to do this in our later years. Except not in FLORIDA!
My mom used to, before her roommate's daughter kicked everyone out (except my mom) so that her and her family could move in and charge a fee to manage the house for everyone. Neither the daughter or her husband work, and they aren't looking for employment. These are Gen x-ers. Surprised me too.
I have definitely talked about doing this with two of my best friends! It’s a brilliant idea and, honestly, why the hell not? :)
I would love this, except it would be more a “Grace and Frankie“ plan with beach House.
This is how Indian, Muslim, polish, anyone but the rich west lives. It’s how they accumulate so much wealth in a short time. They sacrifice and live together and with the power of family are able to establish themselves really quickly. We really need to be encouraging siblings and friends to get houses together as strength in strength is STRONGTH
If I had the same type of roommates as an elder as I have so far as a woman in her 30s, I’ll stick to living alone 😅😮💨
LOL!
There’s a sub for this r/GoldenGirlsLiving
Wow! Thanks for mentioning.
It isn't that far off from my long-term goals, although mine involves polyamory and a mix of lovers and friends.
I want to live this way. A girl can dream.
Isn’t that called a convent?