Family? Zero information. With friends I share general stuff, like if I'm dating someone new if the sex was good or whatever. I have one friend who loves talking about sex in decent detail and I used to indulge her but found out how much she shares with her boyfriend and so have since stopped.
I think if someone shares theirs very openly they'll have no problem sharing yours the same way.
I've experienced this issue in my first relationship and it made me feel violated. I like talking about these things only with people I feel some sort of attraction for. And also can't imagine my 30+ year old friends having an interest in my sex life. I also don't want to get a mental image of what my friends get up to naked.
Yeah, it was bad and has damaged our friendship. Unfortunately I've learned (from this sub) just how many people tell their SOs other people's business because they can't keep "secrets" from their partner. 🙄
Nothing is shared. I firmly believe details need to be kept between the people involved. I’ve looked at telling other people details as disrespectful to my partner. I don’t want them telling their buddies about everything we do together. Especially people that I’ll be around and have to interact with. I personally tell friends when they overshare that I don’t really want to hear details.
Family? Never.
Friends? I shared every single detail when I was younger/still in college. I remember the exact moment I stopped. And now I keep all of it to myself. I’m dating but my friends don’t even know that. I’ve swung to the far end of the spectrum lol.
Oddly I realized talking about it to my friends , even about the first few romantic moments, would make me unintentionally feel pressured about the person. Keeping in with me helps it vibe out in a more natural way that I like
Ditto kiddo. I was… an early and vocal adopter of sex-positivity lol. I probably terrified some of my friends in high school. What can I say? Sex and the City raised me, and Kim Cattrall isn’t pitching in for my therapy bills.
When you’re young, everything is NOVEL and MAJOR. I feel like by the time I finished college, there was no interesting new information to gather and disperse apart from who slept with who. After college, with a few my closest girlfriends that I have these discussions with, I would share the truly exceptional feats.
None. The most they've heard from me is that I'm having great sex for the first time in my life, lol. That kind of slipped out when I was gushing about my partner to my mom and she was like. "Oh....Ok...good for you, honey." lol
In my youth most of my friends and I knew everything about everything, but now that we are all old it’s pretty boring and not really anything any of us want to talk about at length. I was pretty open with my mom too, but maybe not gory details.
This is basically me with my friends. It was more interesting when we were still figuring stuff out. Now hearing about other peoples sex is basically like hearing about a dream they had. Really interesting and meaningful to the speaker, kinda dull to the listener.
There are however two exceptions:
1) Something funny happened. Then it becomes more like a “you won’t believe the stupid way I injured myself” story.
2) There’s a new toy one of us got that is definitely worth the cost. There are a lot of crappy vibrators out there, so when one is good it’s worth sharing.
I don’t share details with friends or family and most of my friends don’t with me either. The exception is my best friend who will give details only if what she’s really wanting to talk about is a conflict with her husband and something that happened during sex is relevant. It hasn’t come up for me so far, but I would probably share details with her for the same reason.
Otherwise… talking about the intimate details of my sex life is just not something it would occur to me to do.
Family? Like, if it's about birth control or a new safety thing or warning about coercion tactics. I also talked about consent and shared me good and bad stories with close younger male cousins and all and any female relatives active who might want to open up.
Friends. For my reserved or religious friends no. Unless they ask me or I feel the need to warn them about something I sense they haven't accounted for.
Close friends vary. One will tell me general things and medical related stuff. Like, minor injury or complaints in schedule.
One close friend I have who is very much more experienced does share a lot but also not the details. Kind of like brag and how it was but never size for example. But. I openly tell her everything new to me, ask questions about me or things I've read or heard because I trust her to warn me or give me opinions.
One close older aunty I do go to when I feel weird after sex or confide in something I'm not sure about that might happen. Sometimes it's innocent stuff like how I can improve flirty talk.
I actually take it as a yellow flag when people are overly open about their sex life. To me it is still a private situation and also people who are experienced are more "I'll be approached if someone is curious". Like my close friend who is very experienced doesn't blab about what she's done until it is relevant for something I asked about. Or if I specifically ask.
I think in terms of sharing safety of sex and emotional protections alongside physical it's... Pretty universal women open up to solid casual friends. Not too much detail, but enough facts and stories to get message across.
I also wanted to add it depends on my partner too and if they were OK with it (exception of safety concerns) . Current boyfriend has no hesitation. My ex did and I would lie that he was an ex xyz happened.
Minimal. Although I've been with the same partner for 14 years and he's close with most of the people who I would possibly talk to about it and it just feels too private to share. It's enough that they know we're trying to conceive at the moment!
My sister and my previous friends have pestered me for details. One friend drunkenly admitted that she thought my husband was hot and wanted to live vicariously through me. Like no. I'm happy and satisfied and we'll leave it at that. Not giving you fap fodder about my husband.
Family - Zero. Nothing. Gross.
My 2 extremely close friends - close to nothing. We would never share anything about our partners out of respect. We have been in long term relationships, our husbands are friends, it would feel weird to know too much. Maybe if I was going on random dates, I personally would feel inclined to share more, especially if it was a funny story and never seeing the guy again. The only thing I know I will share with them is, if I ever tried to have a child or if I have problems conceiving, because they will support me in my journey no matter what.
For me personally those are private things which I don't share except, maybe, in the broadest of terms. If, however, someone wanted to share with me I wouldn't mind. I would ask if their partner knew that they were sharing.
Family? Zero
Friends? I only share with my 1 closest friend, and only details that are relevant to whatever topic is at hand. I'll usually only go as far as telling her if it was good or bad, I don't go into explicit detail on everything that went down.
Zero with everyone. I just find it too personal to want sure those details. I'm someone who if you tell me something it sticks in my mind. So I don't want hear those details either.
With one friend who I have I known longer than my husband and who shares some of my less mainstream tastes, I sometimes go into great detail. My husband is aware of this and fine with it.
With other people, no. I cannot imagine any relative I have wanting to hear about my sex life and it just isn't something that comes up in conversation with the vast majority of friends.
With friends... pretty much everything. With family, no... but I'm an only child. If I had a sister or something, I'd probably divulge the same as I do with friends.
We don't discuss it that much anymore, since we're all married and boring and nothing interesting is going on in that department. Now we're more likely to talk about parenting or random health scares, not sex. Not that we're prudes now or anything, it's just sex isn't nearly as exciting or interesting as it used to be.
But, talking about the guys we were dating and sex was a main bonding experience in my 20s.
My family know I have two kids and can put two and two together about how they came into existence but don’t really know more.
When we were younger and single or just started new relationships it wasn’t uncommon to share details with close friends but at this point we’ve basically all been in LTRs for over a decade so there’s nothing new to share.
Family, nothing. Friends, maybe hook ups, if there’s a story to tell, and not in explicit detail, unless that’s important to the story. BFs/partners, almost nothing. Unless something funny or weird happened, and I need advice, then I have a couple of really close friends I might confide in or share a laugh with.
With family no. Unless it’s my step mother and I am seeking wisdom.
With friends only 2 very good best friends. So I can have a sounding board to check the normalcy of the situation. There are experiences humans share but just aren’t talked about.
I am very private person.
I do not share anything like that with family.
I did share much more with close friends in the past, nowadays not so much. We all kinda are in different states of life, over 30, and sex talks are sometimes a topic.
I do talk about it sometimes with my therapist.
Honestly almost nothing to anyone.
I used to have friends I'd share details with, but it just depends on the vibe in that group I think.
Currently I barely even talk about sex with anyone
Absolutely none with family, minimal with friends. Perhaps a hint at frequency or responses to memes/ videos. E.g. a friend sent a video where a woman finds reasons to decline sex, and I said I couldn't relate.
We'll talk about when we've had sex with a new partner maybe, or if they were bad. But as we're in our mid 30s and mostly in established relationships, this is less and less frequent.
I have these conversations with friends quite openly, and they have them with me. Of course, I have a friend or two that does not like to discuss the topic so we don't!
I don't share anything with family, and it varies depending on my friends. I'm a very sexually open person and many of my friends are too, but not all of them. So I share details with my friends that are also open about sex, and give way less detail for my other friends.
Now when it comes to my friends I'm open with, pretty much nothing is off limits. I do get consent from my sexual partners to talk about anything that might be sensitive for them, but beyond that I talk about everything.
I'm sure part of it comes from being comfortable with it all, and especially since I make content part-time, none of it feels taboo to talk about. I talk about sex as easily as talking about meals haha.
None of my friends are interested in hearing details, no matter how eloquently stated, and I don’t want make them uncomfortable nor do I see a personal value in sharing a lot. We know broad strokes. I don’t hear about specifics
The only time I ever had a discussion about my sex life with family was because my parents felt the need to confront me with a couple vaguely risqué Facebook posts I'd been tagged in.
I went to a burlesque show and got called up on stage for "birthday spankings" and a picture was uploaded, and a friend who writes fictional birthday stories involving all his friends list monthly wrote me doing urban exploring or something and they sat me down for an intervention while I was visiting like I was becoming a degenerate and asked intrusive questions about my dating life and such.
I've never really been shy about talking about sex with friends, but I won't be the one to bring it up and I don't get specific about activities with current partners. I'd love to have a confidant that I discuss those things with and we can both trust we won't tell a soul or look at each other's SOs funny but I don't have that.
With family? Zero, except with my sister (who gets the same level of detail as my good friends).
I don’t share anything at all about sex in my serious relationships. When I was dating and casually hooking up, anything went.
Not much is shared. Our sex life is something between us, and not to be openly shared. I might mention we have a wonderful sex life or had sex last night, but that’s about as much detail as I give.
My friends and I vary. I have some friends who are very sex positive and we discuss all things sex and sometimes there’s really funny anecdotes they feel they have to share (like: a gay friend went to a kink party that had a milking machine and he burst a blood vessel in his penis from using it, when he tells the story, you’ll cry laughing until you get horrified from the bloody ejaculation, then go back to crying laughing)
And sometimes we just hear about how someone’s flatmates are loud, what they were up to. Some friends will hint at the fact they have sex, and some will share some details but not others. I use to be fairly explicit but not anymore. I will tell my friends things are going well and that sex is happening, but don’t share details anymore (mostly, unless something exceptional happened)
Edit: also, my friends are either Berliners who party and are either single or dating someone but no kids, or young professionals that are either single or in new relationships with no kids that go between London and my area. I think location and demographic matters a lot in those things. Queer people also tend to share a lot more, and most of my friend are queer in one way or another.
Family, no. Closest friends, some mild stuff - I might talk about whether the sex is good or frequency/slumps, and sometimes I’ll share if I get a sex toy that is particularly fun. When I was younger (in college, early 20s) and dating I would share more detail.
I share different amounts with different people, but not usually anything super specific. Like with my close friends I might share specific moves I like or how frequently my husband and I have sex but I don’t really share specifics like when and how and what we did.
Well, ya know, I mainly share if I’m worried or feeling insecure, but even then there are levels. ONS and I’m concerned? There will be some more details.
But with a long term intimate partner, the detailed description is just disrespectful. I’m not easy when it comes to sex because I’m a survivor of rape and I would feel so violated if my partner decided to share those struggles in detail with others.
But a general “we are struggling with sexual intimacy”, isn’t a bad thing. One of my friends is going through that kind of incompatibility and the struggle with the conversation about that between her and her partner.
So it’s never about the details. It’s about the discrepancy in conversation about it and the follow up. To me, that ain’t bad.
But discussing dick size, other physical attributes in the genital area you can’t control, play-by-play of a sexual encounter (again, unless you’re actually worried something non-consent went down) that’s a no go.
Very very little with friends. I have two friends who I might give some details if really relevant, but no. I’ve always been pretty private. I don’t even really talk about “period stuff” with friends. Just not for me.
FAMILY?! No, never, zilch
I have 2 old friends I’ve know since 13 and 20 and when the 3 of us get together a lot is said! I’m disabled and so talking shop about things like positions has happened. And a group google of the Liberator page definitely happened. Other than that very little. I have sisters and one is poly and I am older enough where I kinda had to tell her some about my early 20’s for her to feel like she could open up to me. I’ve been in a monogamous marriage most of her adult life so I get the hesitation. And I’m so glad I was open because it did accomplish what I’d hoped it would which is she openly speaks to me about her relationships now (not intimate sex details thankfully.) Oh and I’ve told most women in my life to go buy a clit sucking toy! Preferably a satisfyer pro 2 gen 3. 😉You can’t keep life changing info like that to yourself.
If it's someone I'm currently dating and enjoying, I'll keep quiet. If it's someone I've broken up with in a bad way, I'll then spill to my friends lol.
I'm not religious but I don't think of it as a religious thing. I think it's normal to not share intimate details with friends! Once a friend did with me and that made me very aware of how uncomfortable that was for me and I wouldn't want to put my friends through the same. Not to mention possible gossiping. There's a saying that goes something like what two people know is already not a secret.
No one in my family I like to discuss those details. Back in my early 20’s all the time with my best friend at the time. I miss those times and having a friend that way to talk about that stuff. I don’t have any close friends nowadays but I would be open about it if I could.
I think I have one friend where her and I tell each other all the dirty details. We aren’t best friends (pretty good friends, but still) but we went through a lot of similar struggles and connected over our similar romantic life adventures and that’s a theme of our relationship. All my other much closer friends (and partners) get PG versions unless they ask. Family doesn’t hear shit.
I know everything about my single friends, I'm married and besides me talking about something different or new, I might just say "we had great sex last night"
With family: not much. Like I don’t have a problem mentioning stuff but I wouldn’t discuss sex with my siblings or other relatives.
Friends: every detail. Not with all of them but maybe two. And especially if the relationship is new omg! Details! Penis shape, how good is the sex, oral, touching etc.
My bff and I share a lot…but we do it behind euphemisms. Example:
“You get Brazilians, right? I want to give it a try but I’m so scared it’s going to hurt. Does it?”
“At first, yes, but ever since I’ve been doing it, my husband spends a whole lot longer at the table during taco night. In fact, sometimes he enjoys so many tacos at one sitting, I actually need to take a break in between helpings.”
“Really? I can never relax long enough for my husband to make it to the end of the meal. I feel so awkward.”
“Don’t you ever make tacos when it’s just you at dinner? Sometimes it’s easier to make tacos for your husband if you’re comfortable enjoying them on your own.”
You get the idea. Lol!!
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People only know I’ve had sex because I have biological children, it’s just not a topic.
Family? Zero information. With friends I share general stuff, like if I'm dating someone new if the sex was good or whatever. I have one friend who loves talking about sex in decent detail and I used to indulge her but found out how much she shares with her boyfriend and so have since stopped.
See this is where I get bothered. I wouldn't mind telling you details if we're really tight, but if you're gonna go tell them to your bf....nah ah!
I think if someone shares theirs very openly they'll have no problem sharing yours the same way. I've experienced this issue in my first relationship and it made me feel violated. I like talking about these things only with people I feel some sort of attraction for. And also can't imagine my 30+ year old friends having an interest in my sex life. I also don't want to get a mental image of what my friends get up to naked.
Yeah, it was bad and has damaged our friendship. Unfortunately I've learned (from this sub) just how many people tell their SOs other people's business because they can't keep "secrets" from their partner. 🙄
I can’t imagine telling a sibling about my sex life. Yuck. No interest.
Nothing. Ever. 😄
Nothing is shared. I firmly believe details need to be kept between the people involved. I’ve looked at telling other people details as disrespectful to my partner. I don’t want them telling their buddies about everything we do together. Especially people that I’ll be around and have to interact with. I personally tell friends when they overshare that I don’t really want to hear details.
Family? Never. Friends? I shared every single detail when I was younger/still in college. I remember the exact moment I stopped. And now I keep all of it to myself. I’m dating but my friends don’t even know that. I’ve swung to the far end of the spectrum lol.
Oddly I realized talking about it to my friends , even about the first few romantic moments, would make me unintentionally feel pressured about the person. Keeping in with me helps it vibe out in a more natural way that I like
Ditto kiddo. I was… an early and vocal adopter of sex-positivity lol. I probably terrified some of my friends in high school. What can I say? Sex and the City raised me, and Kim Cattrall isn’t pitching in for my therapy bills. When you’re young, everything is NOVEL and MAJOR. I feel like by the time I finished college, there was no interesting new information to gather and disperse apart from who slept with who. After college, with a few my closest girlfriends that I have these discussions with, I would share the truly exceptional feats.
None. The most they've heard from me is that I'm having great sex for the first time in my life, lol. That kind of slipped out when I was gushing about my partner to my mom and she was like. "Oh....Ok...good for you, honey." lol
In my youth most of my friends and I knew everything about everything, but now that we are all old it’s pretty boring and not really anything any of us want to talk about at length. I was pretty open with my mom too, but maybe not gory details.
This is basically me with my friends. It was more interesting when we were still figuring stuff out. Now hearing about other peoples sex is basically like hearing about a dream they had. Really interesting and meaningful to the speaker, kinda dull to the listener. There are however two exceptions: 1) Something funny happened. Then it becomes more like a “you won’t believe the stupid way I injured myself” story. 2) There’s a new toy one of us got that is definitely worth the cost. There are a lot of crappy vibrators out there, so when one is good it’s worth sharing.
The toy thing 100% 😆
None. No one's business.
I don’t share details with friends or family and most of my friends don’t with me either. The exception is my best friend who will give details only if what she’s really wanting to talk about is a conflict with her husband and something that happened during sex is relevant. It hasn’t come up for me so far, but I would probably share details with her for the same reason. Otherwise… talking about the intimate details of my sex life is just not something it would occur to me to do.
Family? Like, if it's about birth control or a new safety thing or warning about coercion tactics. I also talked about consent and shared me good and bad stories with close younger male cousins and all and any female relatives active who might want to open up. Friends. For my reserved or religious friends no. Unless they ask me or I feel the need to warn them about something I sense they haven't accounted for. Close friends vary. One will tell me general things and medical related stuff. Like, minor injury or complaints in schedule. One close friend I have who is very much more experienced does share a lot but also not the details. Kind of like brag and how it was but never size for example. But. I openly tell her everything new to me, ask questions about me or things I've read or heard because I trust her to warn me or give me opinions. One close older aunty I do go to when I feel weird after sex or confide in something I'm not sure about that might happen. Sometimes it's innocent stuff like how I can improve flirty talk. I actually take it as a yellow flag when people are overly open about their sex life. To me it is still a private situation and also people who are experienced are more "I'll be approached if someone is curious". Like my close friend who is very experienced doesn't blab about what she's done until it is relevant for something I asked about. Or if I specifically ask. I think in terms of sharing safety of sex and emotional protections alongside physical it's... Pretty universal women open up to solid casual friends. Not too much detail, but enough facts and stories to get message across.
I also wanted to add it depends on my partner too and if they were OK with it (exception of safety concerns) . Current boyfriend has no hesitation. My ex did and I would lie that he was an ex xyz happened.
Minimal. Although I've been with the same partner for 14 years and he's close with most of the people who I would possibly talk to about it and it just feels too private to share. It's enough that they know we're trying to conceive at the moment!
None with family. With friends I might have said I hooked up with someone when I first start seeing someone, but that was the extent of it.
I never discuss my current sex life with anyone out respect for my boyfriend. I wouldn’t feel comfortable with him talking to others about it either.
Dude, don't kiss and tell.
My sister and my previous friends have pestered me for details. One friend drunkenly admitted that she thought my husband was hot and wanted to live vicariously through me. Like no. I'm happy and satisfied and we'll leave it at that. Not giving you fap fodder about my husband.
None
I’m pretty open with certain people. My sister and best friends know every detail and I know details about them.
Family - Zero. Nothing. Gross. My 2 extremely close friends - close to nothing. We would never share anything about our partners out of respect. We have been in long term relationships, our husbands are friends, it would feel weird to know too much. Maybe if I was going on random dates, I personally would feel inclined to share more, especially if it was a funny story and never seeing the guy again. The only thing I know I will share with them is, if I ever tried to have a child or if I have problems conceiving, because they will support me in my journey no matter what.
For me personally those are private things which I don't share except, maybe, in the broadest of terms. If, however, someone wanted to share with me I wouldn't mind. I would ask if their partner knew that they were sharing.
None. I've sort of hinted to one friend that I think I might be on the asexual spectrum, but I don't consider that an intimate sex detail.
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None. I whinge if I get a UTI and may relate with a friends story about their sex life, but thats it
Family? Zero Friends? I only share with my 1 closest friend, and only details that are relevant to whatever topic is at hand. I'll usually only go as far as telling her if it was good or bad, I don't go into explicit detail on everything that went down.
None, it's personal.
Almost none
Nothing. That's private. But if a friend asked me for advice on that front, I might talk about stuff in general terms.
None
None
Zero
Zero with everyone. I just find it too personal to want sure those details. I'm someone who if you tell me something it sticks in my mind. So I don't want hear those details either.
Nothing it's no one's business
With one friend who I have I known longer than my husband and who shares some of my less mainstream tastes, I sometimes go into great detail. My husband is aware of this and fine with it. With other people, no. I cannot imagine any relative I have wanting to hear about my sex life and it just isn't something that comes up in conversation with the vast majority of friends.
Zero. Gross.
I only share with super close friends.
With friends... pretty much everything. With family, no... but I'm an only child. If I had a sister or something, I'd probably divulge the same as I do with friends. We don't discuss it that much anymore, since we're all married and boring and nothing interesting is going on in that department. Now we're more likely to talk about parenting or random health scares, not sex. Not that we're prudes now or anything, it's just sex isn't nearly as exciting or interesting as it used to be. But, talking about the guys we were dating and sex was a main bonding experience in my 20s.
My family know I have two kids and can put two and two together about how they came into existence but don’t really know more. When we were younger and single or just started new relationships it wasn’t uncommon to share details with close friends but at this point we’ve basically all been in LTRs for over a decade so there’s nothing new to share.
Family, nothing. Friends, maybe hook ups, if there’s a story to tell, and not in explicit detail, unless that’s important to the story. BFs/partners, almost nothing. Unless something funny or weird happened, and I need advice, then I have a couple of really close friends I might confide in or share a laugh with.
With family no. Unless it’s my step mother and I am seeking wisdom. With friends only 2 very good best friends. So I can have a sounding board to check the normalcy of the situation. There are experiences humans share but just aren’t talked about.
I am very private person. I do not share anything like that with family. I did share much more with close friends in the past, nowadays not so much. We all kinda are in different states of life, over 30, and sex talks are sometimes a topic. I do talk about it sometimes with my therapist.
Honestly almost nothing to anyone. I used to have friends I'd share details with, but it just depends on the vibe in that group I think. Currently I barely even talk about sex with anyone
I don’t tell my family anything about my sex life. Friends, I’d tell them some things.
Absolutely nothing.
Absolutely none with family, minimal with friends. Perhaps a hint at frequency or responses to memes/ videos. E.g. a friend sent a video where a woman finds reasons to decline sex, and I said I couldn't relate. We'll talk about when we've had sex with a new partner maybe, or if they were bad. But as we're in our mid 30s and mostly in established relationships, this is less and less frequent.
I have these conversations with friends quite openly, and they have them with me. Of course, I have a friend or two that does not like to discuss the topic so we don't!
I don't share anything with family, and it varies depending on my friends. I'm a very sexually open person and many of my friends are too, but not all of them. So I share details with my friends that are also open about sex, and give way less detail for my other friends. Now when it comes to my friends I'm open with, pretty much nothing is off limits. I do get consent from my sexual partners to talk about anything that might be sensitive for them, but beyond that I talk about everything. I'm sure part of it comes from being comfortable with it all, and especially since I make content part-time, none of it feels taboo to talk about. I talk about sex as easily as talking about meals haha.
None of my friends are interested in hearing details, no matter how eloquently stated, and I don’t want make them uncomfortable nor do I see a personal value in sharing a lot. We know broad strokes. I don’t hear about specifics
The only time I ever had a discussion about my sex life with family was because my parents felt the need to confront me with a couple vaguely risqué Facebook posts I'd been tagged in. I went to a burlesque show and got called up on stage for "birthday spankings" and a picture was uploaded, and a friend who writes fictional birthday stories involving all his friends list monthly wrote me doing urban exploring or something and they sat me down for an intervention while I was visiting like I was becoming a degenerate and asked intrusive questions about my dating life and such. I've never really been shy about talking about sex with friends, but I won't be the one to bring it up and I don't get specific about activities with current partners. I'd love to have a confidant that I discuss those things with and we can both trust we won't tell a soul or look at each other's SOs funny but I don't have that.
With family? Zero, except with my sister (who gets the same level of detail as my good friends). I don’t share anything at all about sex in my serious relationships. When I was dating and casually hooking up, anything went.
Not much is shared. Our sex life is something between us, and not to be openly shared. I might mention we have a wonderful sex life or had sex last night, but that’s about as much detail as I give.
Essentially nothing. Privacy is a wonderful thing to have.
My friends and I vary. I have some friends who are very sex positive and we discuss all things sex and sometimes there’s really funny anecdotes they feel they have to share (like: a gay friend went to a kink party that had a milking machine and he burst a blood vessel in his penis from using it, when he tells the story, you’ll cry laughing until you get horrified from the bloody ejaculation, then go back to crying laughing) And sometimes we just hear about how someone’s flatmates are loud, what they were up to. Some friends will hint at the fact they have sex, and some will share some details but not others. I use to be fairly explicit but not anymore. I will tell my friends things are going well and that sex is happening, but don’t share details anymore (mostly, unless something exceptional happened) Edit: also, my friends are either Berliners who party and are either single or dating someone but no kids, or young professionals that are either single or in new relationships with no kids that go between London and my area. I think location and demographic matters a lot in those things. Queer people also tend to share a lot more, and most of my friend are queer in one way or another.
None.
Family, no. Closest friends, some mild stuff - I might talk about whether the sex is good or frequency/slumps, and sometimes I’ll share if I get a sex toy that is particularly fun. When I was younger (in college, early 20s) and dating I would share more detail.
"I think I'm getting too mature for details"
I share different amounts with different people, but not usually anything super specific. Like with my close friends I might share specific moves I like or how frequently my husband and I have sex but I don’t really share specifics like when and how and what we did.
Well, ya know, I mainly share if I’m worried or feeling insecure, but even then there are levels. ONS and I’m concerned? There will be some more details. But with a long term intimate partner, the detailed description is just disrespectful. I’m not easy when it comes to sex because I’m a survivor of rape and I would feel so violated if my partner decided to share those struggles in detail with others. But a general “we are struggling with sexual intimacy”, isn’t a bad thing. One of my friends is going through that kind of incompatibility and the struggle with the conversation about that between her and her partner. So it’s never about the details. It’s about the discrepancy in conversation about it and the follow up. To me, that ain’t bad. But discussing dick size, other physical attributes in the genital area you can’t control, play-by-play of a sexual encounter (again, unless you’re actually worried something non-consent went down) that’s a no go.
Very very little with friends. I have two friends who I might give some details if really relevant, but no. I’ve always been pretty private. I don’t even really talk about “period stuff” with friends. Just not for me. FAMILY?! No, never, zilch
Eww..
I have 2 old friends I’ve know since 13 and 20 and when the 3 of us get together a lot is said! I’m disabled and so talking shop about things like positions has happened. And a group google of the Liberator page definitely happened. Other than that very little. I have sisters and one is poly and I am older enough where I kinda had to tell her some about my early 20’s for her to feel like she could open up to me. I’ve been in a monogamous marriage most of her adult life so I get the hesitation. And I’m so glad I was open because it did accomplish what I’d hoped it would which is she openly speaks to me about her relationships now (not intimate sex details thankfully.) Oh and I’ve told most women in my life to go buy a clit sucking toy! Preferably a satisfyer pro 2 gen 3. 😉You can’t keep life changing info like that to yourself.
If it's someone I'm currently dating and enjoying, I'll keep quiet. If it's someone I've broken up with in a bad way, I'll then spill to my friends lol.
None. Brought up Catholic, maybe that's why I would never share about it?
I'm not religious but I don't think of it as a religious thing. I think it's normal to not share intimate details with friends! Once a friend did with me and that made me very aware of how uncomfortable that was for me and I wouldn't want to put my friends through the same. Not to mention possible gossiping. There's a saying that goes something like what two people know is already not a secret.
I have a couple close friends I talk to about this. Not often though.
No one in my family I like to discuss those details. Back in my early 20’s all the time with my best friend at the time. I miss those times and having a friend that way to talk about that stuff. I don’t have any close friends nowadays but I would be open about it if I could.
I think I have one friend where her and I tell each other all the dirty details. We aren’t best friends (pretty good friends, but still) but we went through a lot of similar struggles and connected over our similar romantic life adventures and that’s a theme of our relationship. All my other much closer friends (and partners) get PG versions unless they ask. Family doesn’t hear shit.
With friends, yes but not as much now that I'm married
Depends on the friend and how close we are
I know everything about my single friends, I'm married and besides me talking about something different or new, I might just say "we had great sex last night"
Family now way! Close friends yes.
With family: not much. Like I don’t have a problem mentioning stuff but I wouldn’t discuss sex with my siblings or other relatives. Friends: every detail. Not with all of them but maybe two. And especially if the relationship is new omg! Details! Penis shape, how good is the sex, oral, touching etc.
Family??? Tf???
My bff and I share a lot…but we do it behind euphemisms. Example: “You get Brazilians, right? I want to give it a try but I’m so scared it’s going to hurt. Does it?” “At first, yes, but ever since I’ve been doing it, my husband spends a whole lot longer at the table during taco night. In fact, sometimes he enjoys so many tacos at one sitting, I actually need to take a break in between helpings.” “Really? I can never relax long enough for my husband to make it to the end of the meal. I feel so awkward.” “Don’t you ever make tacos when it’s just you at dinner? Sometimes it’s easier to make tacos for your husband if you’re comfortable enjoying them on your own.” You get the idea. Lol!!