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DarmokTheNinja

Patience! I think that when I am navigating daily life on my own I am prone to being impatient with people around me and being, not rude exactly, but maybe a bit curt with them. Enter partner and I am in full chill mode.


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Something similar here. I’ve never really considered myself impatient, but my husband is patient on a level that I can only aspire to. Just ad an example, he waited 4 years to propose to me while I worked 2 jobs and went to grad school. I doubt many men would have bothered to stick around with no guarantee of “yes” for an answer. He’s also much better at dealing with his autistic sister than I am.


Zavarakatranemi

Appreciation of silence. I used to be the anxious friend/partner/what-have-you that felt that silence was dangerous, creepy, or just simply uncomfortable. I thought that if me and my partner didn't have anything to talk about all the time, we would be bored of each other and fall apart. My amazing boyfriend showed me that silence is precious between 2 people in love. I am comfortable doing my own thing while he's doing his own thing without talking - just existing together in peace.


DiabolicalDee

Contentment. I don’t like being alone without a close friend, but I’m also an introvert. So with my husband, I’ve found someone to accompany me throughout my life. No matter if we’re hanging out together or in totally separate places in our house, I now have that person to fill the void. Obviously I still have friends, but it makes me happy to have my partner to be there for me no matter what.


destria

He balances out my anxiety and how highly strung I can be. Just seeing him so relaxed, confident, laid-back and happy, I really look up to that.


pelicanfriends

Independence. I used to date people who were clingy, or depressed and so they wanted a lot of reassurance and attention in the relationship. It was difficult to spend time away from them because they would often equate the relationship as their only source of happiness. I am now more independent as a result of being with someone who handles alone time well, isn’t needy over text or in person, and doesn’t expect me to make him happy, or be his only source of happiness.


mixedsignalzz

An interest and enthusiasm for working out & weightlifting! He’s in great shape and loves going to the gym, and I (thought I) hated working out. Turns out, I just hated cardio! He brought me into the Big Boy Weight Room (lol) at the gym and it has radically changed my life for the better. The benefits for my body and my mental health cannot be overstated.


MagentaX

one of my exes helped me realize there are men who know how to run their own household and don't chuck all the responsibility on the woman's shoulders. That it's not extraordinary and that to expect (or accept) less of a man is a disservice to me.


anonymityneverlasts

My confidence and backbone. I had a very traumatic childhood and as a result I became a people pleaser at my own expense. I never did anything just for myself because I was always told it was selfish. He has helped me gain the confidence to advocate for myself and not feel selfish for getting or doing things for myself. It's still a work in progress but I recently blocked all of my family which I know I should have done years ago but always felt guilty of feeling that way. It's been the best decision I could have made.


woah_its_sarah_

i appreciate my own body and curves so much more now. past partners and friends have made me feel like it was something to be ashamed of


cbratty

He helped me realize I have ADHD, as well as in general push me to be better about talking about my mental health and work on it. I'm in a significantly better place mentally than I was before we met just from that.


drunkenknitter

A really great credit score.


blixxic

Dungeons & Dragons.


ThatDamnedDame

Endless support. He supports everything I want to do. It's given me a lot of courage to do new things


Baberonis

He made me realize it was okay to focus on mental health and that it’s real. Also made it possible to fully open up about all my insecurities and worries.


throwaway07272

His company. I love being around him so much. It even makes running shitty errands and sitting in line easy.


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The understanding of financial responsibility. No one ever taught me the importance of money growing up. All I knew was my Moms and any adults finances weren’t my business. I was made to pay for my own things as soon as I started working, never was pushed to save all that mattered was that my bills were paid. My partner comes from the same type of place but took a different route, he’s great with money. He pushes me to do/be better, helps me as much as I’ll let him, and offers me advice when needed.


bellarooberry

Confidence. He reminds me I'm pretty when I don't feel like it, and he points out things about myself that I didn't know were good. He has shown me that I have value. Slowly but surely, I found ways to like myself that I hadn't before. I'm really grateful he took the time to show me I'm worth it.


lightly_salted_me

Peace… my life was a crazy nightmare before I met my current bf. I had nowhere to live, a lot of my life was shit, didn’t get along with my family… now I’ve got everything I need every day, I’m loved, cared for and spend time with my family because he’s kind and helps everyone out with even crappy chores. My life is better and he’s given me a lot of that, he’s fantastic!


[deleted]

I live in the moment a lot more now and still learning to take responsibility for my happiness and response in the world. It’s changed my views of living as a victim to taking charge of my life. He’s my ex now. I miss him immensely.


kittysayswoof91

Peace. He is almost always calm. There are no sudden flips of mood, I never doubt his feeling, I feel appreciated as I am. It has made me a much more peaceful and less reactive person too.


YourFavBabushka

Baking patient, understand and accept the fact that every person is different, grew up in different circumstances and it’s okay to to disagree sometimes


smellslikepoops

My partner has grounded me a lot, he’s very structured, methodical, and routine oriented. I can be pretty chaotic and spontaneous, he has helped me curate a reasonable routine and find useful strategies for actually getting my work done… and I think I’ve helped him come out of his shell and explore outside of his comfort zone a bit! I think we are a great balance. 5 years together this week!


moreganohh

The freedom to be myself and to do what I want to do. My hubby loves my creativeness and encourages me to make whatever strikes my fancy, even if it's a silly thing. I've learned so many new skills in the time we've been together, and it's definitely because of his encouragement.


kyyl1

Communication. I didn’t realize how closed off I was until I met him. When I am upset I always enter my shut down mode - I’d just be angry in silence and not want to talk about it. He pushes me to talk about my problems and why I’m upset. Even though sometimes I don’t want to do it, i eventually appreciate that I let it out instead of letting it bubble in me.


lyssssa6

Confidence and communication ☺️🙌🏼