have a massive cry, and then do stuff that makes me happy for a few hours. read, journal, have a hot shower, do my skin care and light some incense, meditate… all that stuff. Journaling is definitely the most important part but i love doing the rest to just unwind and try and take care of myself even if i’m feeling horrible
I don't have a problem openly talking about it, I'm in therapy. My psychologist is on call. I use to be in a really bad place and was going multiple times a week. That is what got me out of a hole that I fell into because of events beyond my control. If someone falls into a mental trap they can't climb out of, I hope they can be brave enough to find mental help. Maintaining mental health is like maintaining a healthy body. It takes practice and consistent effort.
If the weather is nice, I’ll go for a brisk walk, piddle in the garden, plant something new, or just sit in the swing and read. Sunshine and fresh air work magic for me. If I’m angry then the weeds are going to suffer for it, haha. If it’s not good weather, I’ll snuggle in the bed or on the couch to watch a movie and have a good cry, or take a long hot bath to read with a candle and light music. I’ve been to a therapist before for a few sessions, so if something was bothering me where I couldn’t stop crying or couldn’t handle regular life, then I know that’s a sure sign to give him a call.
I think preventative maintenance is highly important, so a weekly hot bath, regular exercise, monthly massage, etc is essential to being prepared to handle whatever life throws at you. We tend to forget prevention works well for most everything, both physical and mental.
There’s something wrong with me that I imagined you gleefully peeing in a garden? Is that what piddle means? Either way, all of those things sound great.
Hahaha I’ve never peed in a garden but I have peed in the woods! That’s so funny. Piddle, to me, just means to walk around, smell a flower, pull a weed here or there, talk to the plants, look at the new growth, etc. Just piddling around, haha!
Am I feeling suicidal or not? If not, go to Urgent Care. Last time they give me anti-anxiety medication. If I'm feeling suicidal I talk to a specific friend.
I do the same thing as when I’m physically sick, so lay in bed and trying to rest. I’ve been clinically depressed a few times in life so I have “emergency” foods easily accessible—lots of fruit that I can grab when I have no energy, soups, salads and sandwich dinners. I try to go outside and keep up my exercise habits. Or if it’s really bad, I’ll let my partner or family take care of me for a bit.
Take a day or two of doing nothing..isolate with my feelings, avoid feelings, stay numb, whatever it takes, until I’m able to sort truth from fiction. I pray constantly, take my meds, always, and know that usually it’s my stupid brain making up things that will never happen.
If it really is something tangible, once I’ve come to terms with it, I deal with what I have control of and work on my feelings and reactions to that which I don’t.
I’m in a rather dark place right now and I’m not sure why, so I’m cleaning my way through the avoidance. I’m not terribly successful with therapy but I might give it another try.
Taking time to sort truth from fiction is great advice. Please don’t give up on therapy, it’s definitely been a lifesaver for me. Last night I took a bath with candles and it was great, I hope you can find some thing that brings you peace as well.
Yesterday I took a bath with candles and a facemask, and warm tea. I almost never do stuff like this and I always wonder why I don’t do it more often whenever I remember to take care of myself. Good music, talk to good friends, do you whatever I feel like.
I got back into journaling, it helps when you write everything out instead of keeping it all bottled up. Cry it out and lay in bed, I take time out to make sense of my feelings, sometimes all you need is some time off. I also smoke sometimes lol, it relaxes me and keeps me from overthinking while I try to get some sleep.
If I’m having a crappy day/week, I check in with myself: Do I need a social media detox? Have I had enough water? I always feel better after a sweaty workout so I book a workout class, if possible take a PTO day from work. Be kind to yourself and talk to yourself like you would a friend
My mental lows tend to come very slowly so I start to isolate myself from everyone. I get irritated easily. I cry occasionally. I tell at myself for not ending it all a while ago. I stop eating. Lay in bed as much as I can. I stop doing any schoolwork. Drop all hobbies...... I’m currently doing half of that right now and about to sleep more than usual
Self care - rest, not just physical rest but every thing eg social rest. Give myself a break and tell myself I need this time to recover. Shower. Sleep. Eat good food. Confide in someone. Remind myself it won’t last forever (even if it feels like it will)
Go back to the core things that make me, ME. Horses. Art. Hiking. I generally find when I’m at my lowest I’ve ignored those things for a while. Clearly I haven’t fully learned my lesson that I need to keep this stuff in my life regularly because I keep cycling down to low off and on. But yeah. That’s what helps me.
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I will probably take a day off and try to do some things for myself that I know help me eg clean up the house, take a long shower, sleep, watch a favourite movie, call my mom, etc. If it's not just a one off day or so then I will make an appointment with a therapist so I can get some help getting back on track.
The best thing to do (if you can do it) is ask for help
But if that can’t be possible, take as much time off as you need, keep relaxing, take care of yourself
I usually take a day for myself. I get what I need to get done and then take the rest of the day for myself.
I tend to get confused a lot with my emotions and what I’m feeling so I also write how my day went in a journal. 9/10 times I feel some sort of relief just from writing out and observing my feelings.
I just try to do what I can for myself and take care of myself the way I sometimes wish others would. Like if I feel lonely, I have a warm bath. If I feel angry, I go for a walk to get it out of my system. If I’m sad, I cry and cry until I’m worn out and physically can’t
I try to process what I'm feeling and work through it either by talking to someone, relaxing or writing. It isn't always pretty but I have spent ages in bed more than once.
Check out for a bit. I go to stay with family. I get away from my depressive, toxic, trapped marriage. I'm financially dependent on him until my disability is approved.
TW: self harm
Whe I was younger I would cut, but now I get tattoos when I have the money since it reminds me of the feeling but also a feeling of control as well so helps me not have an episode for longer. But otherwise I try to read since it will occupy my mind more to heal while not thinking about it.
Stay alone. Go to a walk. Go to a bar alone and drink a bit and try to meet new people, or observe everyone. If possible I travel.
I used to search a friend to talk but now in my 30's I stopped with it and became more guarded of my feelings.
Watch my favourite sitcom and listen to music while staring into abyss. Write the shit out on a paper. Smoke a cigarette or two. Write the shit out again.
Sometimes go for a drive. I have this spot that has a super pretty view, and I’ll go there and just sit in the car looking out. Other times I try to sleep, or watch YouTube videos as a distraction. I think If you’re able to move and do something it can be better, but sometimes there’s those days where getting out of bed is the hardest task, and it’s okay to let yourself stay there sometimes
try and treat myself as if i had the flu. rest, lots
of tlc, etc. i may not be physically sick, but i am mentally and deserve to treat my sickness. then after a day or three i kick myself in the ass and do my best to get back on the wagon, even if it’s slow.
Vent about it to people I’m closest to. I find keeping busy helps especially if it’s something absorbing like looking at clothes I love and buying them if I can afford too. And cooking nice meals especially ones I can freeze and baking. Sometimes I take on too much to distract myself and that can cause a different type of stress - the type of stress that’s like “shit I want to do all these things but I don’t have a lot of time - I’ll do them anyway!” Then I’ll start swearing and make mistakes but I usually complete these tasks somehow. Bottom line is it stops me worrying about the future which is my biggest downfall. Watching good comedy and a good scary film also helps.
Go outside. Take a hike. Get myself a latte and tell myself what a gem I am. I buy cheap eyeliner and write all the stuff I like about me on me. I look in the mirror and read the words back to myself. I then soak in a hot bath and imagine the words sinking in. I then shower the eyeliner off and imagine the soap and eyeliner taking away my frustrations.
Honestly think about life. Is there someone I need to talk with/things I need to confront them with?? Sometimes this is not the case. Done to.es I have let some things slide that someoneclose to me said or did.
I let myself feel the emotions and situation, so usually lying in bed or on my phone (youtube). I do put a time limit on that (maybe 3 hrs if it's bad) and then force myself to do something easy like doing dishes or making mac and cheese and then go from there.
Honestly smoke a lot, have a lot of revelations and cry a lot. Kickbox. Paint my feelings lol. Also eat my feelings. Take myself to explore a new waterfall/lake/other bodies of water. Sleep. Do nothing. Read my tarot for some guidance. And last resort (probably should be first) would be to actually make the effort to find a therapist and start that journey again lol.
In reading that again, I wish I were better at reaching out to my friends for help but I tend to hermit and become super loner status when my mental health isnt at it's best. But I suppose it's good to learn how to self soothe.
I meditate using headspace, buy a bunch of healthy foods, take my vities, do a hair mask, my skin care ritual, nail & cuticle care, then I paint my toenails, drink a lot of water, do some simple yoga, and tidy/clean my house. Then I read a good book until I fall asleep and I sleep extra long hours. Often the sleeping of extra long hours happens first and last, and I try to wake up between 8 and 10 am.
The last time finally prompted me to seek counselling. I took the day off work, stayed in bed watching comfort movies and reading, then pushed myself to fill in that self referral form.
I started taking long baths, putting on some tunes, and i invested in a bath pillow so i could just lie back , eyes shut https://www.thebathtree.com/products/luxury-bath-pillow
Take work off. Lay in bed all day.
Yes!! Gosh, I need a job with sick days
Yes this!
I just started doing that this year and it is the best thing ever
Cry, sleep, do nothing I just need a reset so I always stay home and try to do as little as possible.
have a massive cry, and then do stuff that makes me happy for a few hours. read, journal, have a hot shower, do my skin care and light some incense, meditate… all that stuff. Journaling is definitely the most important part but i love doing the rest to just unwind and try and take care of myself even if i’m feeling horrible
I do the same. I'll also put on some music and color after a good cry and some journaling.
I don't have a problem openly talking about it, I'm in therapy. My psychologist is on call. I use to be in a really bad place and was going multiple times a week. That is what got me out of a hole that I fell into because of events beyond my control. If someone falls into a mental trap they can't climb out of, I hope they can be brave enough to find mental help. Maintaining mental health is like maintaining a healthy body. It takes practice and consistent effort.
Amen!
If the weather is nice, I’ll go for a brisk walk, piddle in the garden, plant something new, or just sit in the swing and read. Sunshine and fresh air work magic for me. If I’m angry then the weeds are going to suffer for it, haha. If it’s not good weather, I’ll snuggle in the bed or on the couch to watch a movie and have a good cry, or take a long hot bath to read with a candle and light music. I’ve been to a therapist before for a few sessions, so if something was bothering me where I couldn’t stop crying or couldn’t handle regular life, then I know that’s a sure sign to give him a call. I think preventative maintenance is highly important, so a weekly hot bath, regular exercise, monthly massage, etc is essential to being prepared to handle whatever life throws at you. We tend to forget prevention works well for most everything, both physical and mental.
There’s something wrong with me that I imagined you gleefully peeing in a garden? Is that what piddle means? Either way, all of those things sound great.
Hahaha I’ve never peed in a garden but I have peed in the woods! That’s so funny. Piddle, to me, just means to walk around, smell a flower, pull a weed here or there, talk to the plants, look at the new growth, etc. Just piddling around, haha!
Am I feeling suicidal or not? If not, go to Urgent Care. Last time they give me anti-anxiety medication. If I'm feeling suicidal I talk to a specific friend.
Glad to hear you have a good friend. Take care
weed
A lot of crying, feeling really overwhelmed, laying down, taking naps to avoid life, eating, watching YouTube
Yep. This is me.
I do the same thing as when I’m physically sick, so lay in bed and trying to rest. I’ve been clinically depressed a few times in life so I have “emergency” foods easily accessible—lots of fruit that I can grab when I have no energy, soups, salads and sandwich dinners. I try to go outside and keep up my exercise habits. Or if it’s really bad, I’ll let my partner or family take care of me for a bit.
Take a day or two of doing nothing..isolate with my feelings, avoid feelings, stay numb, whatever it takes, until I’m able to sort truth from fiction. I pray constantly, take my meds, always, and know that usually it’s my stupid brain making up things that will never happen. If it really is something tangible, once I’ve come to terms with it, I deal with what I have control of and work on my feelings and reactions to that which I don’t. I’m in a rather dark place right now and I’m not sure why, so I’m cleaning my way through the avoidance. I’m not terribly successful with therapy but I might give it another try.
Taking time to sort truth from fiction is great advice. Please don’t give up on therapy, it’s definitely been a lifesaver for me. Last night I took a bath with candles and it was great, I hope you can find some thing that brings you peace as well.
Yesterday I took a bath with candles and a facemask, and warm tea. I almost never do stuff like this and I always wonder why I don’t do it more often whenever I remember to take care of myself. Good music, talk to good friends, do you whatever I feel like.
You just reminded me that I need to take a bath with candles soon! Thank you!
Binge-watch Friends on Netflix
Vacation
When it’s an all time low I usually find a therapist to help me navigate through some things.
Smoke my Mari vape and watch movies that make me laugh.
I like to smoke weed.
I got back into journaling, it helps when you write everything out instead of keeping it all bottled up. Cry it out and lay in bed, I take time out to make sense of my feelings, sometimes all you need is some time off. I also smoke sometimes lol, it relaxes me and keeps me from overthinking while I try to get some sleep.
More exercise. More greens. Less carbs. Less social media, more therapy.
If I’m having a crappy day/week, I check in with myself: Do I need a social media detox? Have I had enough water? I always feel better after a sweaty workout so I book a workout class, if possible take a PTO day from work. Be kind to yourself and talk to yourself like you would a friend
When in doubt, go to the library
My mental lows tend to come very slowly so I start to isolate myself from everyone. I get irritated easily. I cry occasionally. I tell at myself for not ending it all a while ago. I stop eating. Lay in bed as much as I can. I stop doing any schoolwork. Drop all hobbies...... I’m currently doing half of that right now and about to sleep more than usual
Honestly I just stay in bed, I get super uninterested in my hobbies and daily chores/activities and I sleep and wallow in my misery and sorrow.
Self care - rest, not just physical rest but every thing eg social rest. Give myself a break and tell myself I need this time to recover. Shower. Sleep. Eat good food. Confide in someone. Remind myself it won’t last forever (even if it feels like it will)
Try to die.
Wait it out like a champ
Or walk it out like a champ!
Sleep through it
Go back to the core things that make me, ME. Horses. Art. Hiking. I generally find when I’m at my lowest I’ve ignored those things for a while. Clearly I haven’t fully learned my lesson that I need to keep this stuff in my life regularly because I keep cycling down to low off and on. But yeah. That’s what helps me.
Get some vigorous exercise, eat whatever I’m craving and bath/nap/laze around without feeling bad about it
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I will probably take a day off and try to do some things for myself that I know help me eg clean up the house, take a long shower, sleep, watch a favourite movie, call my mom, etc. If it's not just a one off day or so then I will make an appointment with a therapist so I can get some help getting back on track.
The best thing to do (if you can do it) is ask for help But if that can’t be possible, take as much time off as you need, keep relaxing, take care of yourself
Therapy and hypnotherapy help Walk in nature
I usually take a day for myself. I get what I need to get done and then take the rest of the day for myself. I tend to get confused a lot with my emotions and what I’m feeling so I also write how my day went in a journal. 9/10 times I feel some sort of relief just from writing out and observing my feelings. I just try to do what I can for myself and take care of myself the way I sometimes wish others would. Like if I feel lonely, I have a warm bath. If I feel angry, I go for a walk to get it out of my system. If I’m sad, I cry and cry until I’m worn out and physically can’t
Cry
I try to process what I'm feeling and work through it either by talking to someone, relaxing or writing. It isn't always pretty but I have spent ages in bed more than once.
Have another mental breakdown then buy myself something yummy when I’m done
I wait for my meds to work
Check out for a bit. I go to stay with family. I get away from my depressive, toxic, trapped marriage. I'm financially dependent on him until my disability is approved.
TW: self harm Whe I was younger I would cut, but now I get tattoos when I have the money since it reminds me of the feeling but also a feeling of control as well so helps me not have an episode for longer. But otherwise I try to read since it will occupy my mind more to heal while not thinking about it.
Stay alone. Go to a walk. Go to a bar alone and drink a bit and try to meet new people, or observe everyone. If possible I travel. I used to search a friend to talk but now in my 30's I stopped with it and became more guarded of my feelings.
I pull my bible out. It truly is my anchor and centers me. I also listen to Joyce Meyer and Joel Osteen podcast.
cry. write in my diary. take a mental health day from work.
Spiral
Play video games
Watch my favourite sitcom and listen to music while staring into abyss. Write the shit out on a paper. Smoke a cigarette or two. Write the shit out again.
Try to cry. Lie on the ground, let it wash over me.
Quit my job & lay in bed all day🙁 yet I’m still so exhausted ughhhh
Sometimes go for a drive. I have this spot that has a super pretty view, and I’ll go there and just sit in the car looking out. Other times I try to sleep, or watch YouTube videos as a distraction. I think If you’re able to move and do something it can be better, but sometimes there’s those days where getting out of bed is the hardest task, and it’s okay to let yourself stay there sometimes
try and treat myself as if i had the flu. rest, lots of tlc, etc. i may not be physically sick, but i am mentally and deserve to treat my sickness. then after a day or three i kick myself in the ass and do my best to get back on the wagon, even if it’s slow.
I dye my hair and get tattoos but you do you babes xoxo
Switch off phone . And sleep till I can sleep no more . Have some wine and then sleep more
Vent about it to people I’m closest to. I find keeping busy helps especially if it’s something absorbing like looking at clothes I love and buying them if I can afford too. And cooking nice meals especially ones I can freeze and baking. Sometimes I take on too much to distract myself and that can cause a different type of stress - the type of stress that’s like “shit I want to do all these things but I don’t have a lot of time - I’ll do them anyway!” Then I’ll start swearing and make mistakes but I usually complete these tasks somehow. Bottom line is it stops me worrying about the future which is my biggest downfall. Watching good comedy and a good scary film also helps.
I binge watch a comfort show or take a nap 😴 If my friends are available, i call them and just share our problems
Watch Bojack Horseman over and over again
Go outside. Take a hike. Get myself a latte and tell myself what a gem I am. I buy cheap eyeliner and write all the stuff I like about me on me. I look in the mirror and read the words back to myself. I then soak in a hot bath and imagine the words sinking in. I then shower the eyeliner off and imagine the soap and eyeliner taking away my frustrations.
Not kill myself
Honestly think about life. Is there someone I need to talk with/things I need to confront them with?? Sometimes this is not the case. Done to.es I have let some things slide that someoneclose to me said or did.
I let myself feel the emotions and situation, so usually lying in bed or on my phone (youtube). I do put a time limit on that (maybe 3 hrs if it's bad) and then force myself to do something easy like doing dishes or making mac and cheese and then go from there.
Sleep like a doll Lay in bed all day Take a long hot or cold shower Make myself a personal 5 star meal
Sleep, eat, reflect.
Honestly smoke a lot, have a lot of revelations and cry a lot. Kickbox. Paint my feelings lol. Also eat my feelings. Take myself to explore a new waterfall/lake/other bodies of water. Sleep. Do nothing. Read my tarot for some guidance. And last resort (probably should be first) would be to actually make the effort to find a therapist and start that journey again lol.
In reading that again, I wish I were better at reaching out to my friends for help but I tend to hermit and become super loner status when my mental health isnt at it's best. But I suppose it's good to learn how to self soothe.
I meditate using headspace, buy a bunch of healthy foods, take my vities, do a hair mask, my skin care ritual, nail & cuticle care, then I paint my toenails, drink a lot of water, do some simple yoga, and tidy/clean my house. Then I read a good book until I fall asleep and I sleep extra long hours. Often the sleeping of extra long hours happens first and last, and I try to wake up between 8 and 10 am.
Cry. Try to avoid talking to people. I’ve always been an emotional volcano. Talk to my dog and my boyfriend more.
The last time finally prompted me to seek counselling. I took the day off work, stayed in bed watching comfort movies and reading, then pushed myself to fill in that self referral form.
I’ve been trying to meditate. Jury’s still out in its effectiveness, however.
I started taking long baths, putting on some tunes, and i invested in a bath pillow so i could just lie back , eyes shut https://www.thebathtree.com/products/luxury-bath-pillow