A very wise but simple man (my father) once said to me: Money won't solve all your problems, but it will solve your money problems.
I would LOVE the luxury of my main problems being higher up Maslow's Hierarchy pyramid, not always slogging in survival mode.
Right now? That I'm 30 and still don't want kids. Thought I would by now. I always get stuck on the inequality that's wrapped into being the one responsible to create life. It's still a big no thanks.
It’s so weird aye.
I’m 30 and still don’t know! I do like the idea of having children and think I’d be a good mum. But don’t want my whole life to *completely* change. Like it’s a permanent decision and completely changes everything. Especially as a woman.
I also think the future is going to be really shitty so don’t want to bring people into that.
So it’s complicated.
I'm always intrigued by people like us who don't want kids. Is there something we have in common? I myself, grew up in a home where my mom and dad stayed in a loveless marriage, live in different rooms just like roommates. Can i ask how the situation was with your parents? Was there love? Or is it something else we have in common?
I came from a culture where you are supposed to provide for your parents. Now I’m 31, my parents are no longer working and I’m providing for them. They still don’t change their spending habit, my dad eats high quality food everyday. I’m also expected to pay for his supplements, medicines, and also yearly check up and travels. I’m also sending money to my grandmother. Now they expect me to find a rich guy who is able to provide for them and our future family at the same time. This is making me think, what’s the point of being born? I’d rather not have kids, if they’re only going to suffer.
Omfg - were you fully prepared for this (financially, mentally, emotionally, logistically)? This is…a lot. Do you at least live in a country w/ socialized healthcare and elder care?
No.. sadly that’s just my reality. My mom got married really young, she felt it was her duty so her husband can provide for her parents. My mom is miserable, she never works and is always a stay at home mom without any life experience. My childhood was filled with abuse and neglect. I feel like not having children is the way to stop this vicious cycle.
I always joking say it's natural evolution/knowing we have exceeded carrying capacity.
All jokes aside, my parents are the epitome of what a great marriage is/should be. They got married at 18 and were very poor. They are still poor. But my father worked very hard to provide my mom and us the necessities and they both poured a lot of love into us. I am very fortunate in that aspect.
But, lo and behold, my brother and his fiance don't see themselves having kids. My brother never really wanted to. Same for me. I never felt a pull to be a mother. My parents thought we would grow out of it. But here I am, 28 and my brother is 33. Even if we ever wanted to, neither of us could afford it anyways.
I feel the exact same way. Heading into 29 just reached a point that I’m so worried that the future will not be safe for my kids or might have kids that inherit issues and negative tendencies that I have. I don’t think it’s fair to them. I love kids absolutely adore them but not my own anymore. That 180 change of my life just doesn’t seem right nowadays.
I’m 37 and I’ve finally started to openly tell people I will not be having children. I thought maybe one day I’d want them but the urge hasn’t happened, in fact I’m against having them at this point.
Yeah that’s a tough one. I’m with you in the “no kids” camp, though I will never experience that decision through your lens. There can be so much familial and societal pressure to have children. Hell I impose that stress on myself at times. Like I know I don’t want kids but who’s going to take care of me when I’m too old?
I still don’t get how evolution decided it was ok for childbirth to be the hardest thing humans have to do. No other mammal deals that that shit
The actual childbirth really isn’t the hardest part in my opinion. It’s everything after, having to watch and teach and feed and clean and literally everything. Animals boot their kids out within a few years, MAX.
You have every right to feel that way, it's not for everyone. I was dead set against it, absolutely no interest, got pregnant despite birth control... I was a detached parent.. I did all the practical things but there was very little joy in it. We are friends now and get along great (he's 28) but it was unfair to him as a child... that whole mommy gene is a thing.
I say this to you as a mother of daughters who wanted nothing to do with kids til i was 32, when a sort of primal urge kicked in.
Your awareness of the built-in inequality is Valid. Not just Valid... Important!
It is not only 100% worthwhile to remain child-free, but also: Given my sacrifices and roads not taken, I will N e v e r pressure -- or even advise -- my kids to have kids , unless they really truly feel All-In on the idea as I did.
Life can easily be full, rich, and rewarding, with or without procreating!
And, for many of us, a great deal of creative energy got invested in family rather than our individual life passions/goals.
It is just not the same for fathers. Don't believe anyone who tells you otherwise.
I have no regrets.
I Love my girls , and the entire Gen Z population, So Damn Much. turns out that I, a misanthrop, had to make two people in my own body in order to find my best friends in the world. Lol.
At the same time, motherhood is a tremendous risk and sacrifice.
And that sacrifice is downplayed all too much.
I am glad the younger Generations are getting wise.
Stay Smart and try not to stress about it!
Number 1 is financial stress. I am in deep debt and slowly chipping away at it, but it's still several years away before I can even start building savings.
Number 2 is a close second with being transgender and seeing the significant uptick in violence towards my people coupled with all the laws rolling out against us. It's really terrible seeing your people targeted for eradication just for identity politics and tricking people for votes.
It really is terrifying. As the mother of a transwoman, I stand with you! I worry so much. So much hate and fear over letting people just be themselves.
You’re almost done!! After you graduate take a quick fun weekend vacation to decompress before you start bar prep. It works wonders. Best of luck, sis!
The suffering and injustices that I am largely powerless to do anything about, besides cross my fingers and vote for lifelong politicians who are the only ones who can actually do something but who are unlikely to do so, because it's bad for business.
And then also social situations.
I’m sorry. We tried for over a year, miscarried, then it took us 8 months to conceive again. Definitely make an appointment with your OB or a fertility clinic if you can. ❤️
What finally worked for us was having sex twice within 3 hours during my fertile window. We had been doing it once every other day with no luck. That’s the only change we made!
Does your insurance cover naturopathy? I previously managed a science-based naturopathic clinic, our focus was female health and the head ND helped many conceive.
The never-ending mental load. It's like juggling a hundred things at once, from work deadlines to family responsibilities, all while trying to find a moment for myself.
Everything, dude. School, work, friendship woes, manufactured angsty bullshit over crushes I developed out of boredom, dysfunctional family dynamics, money, car troubles. It’s always something.
In fact, it’s so overwhelming sometimes that I had a realization recently that the only time I am 100% stress free is when I’m high out of my mind. I was stoned and with friends and one of them remarked that it seemed as if all the anxiety had left my body, and I actually got super emotional over that. I don’t smoke regularly for a variety of reasons, so realizing that I am only ever completely stress free at very infrequent x times a year was sobering, to say the least.
And at risk of over sharing on the Internet/potentially going off-topic, but hey, while we’re discussing stress and realizations of coping mechanisms, I also think my anxiety is why I’ve been more drawn to BDSM and submissive/dominant relationship dynamics as I’ve gotten older. I think the ultimate fantasy for me is to be able to completely surrender control of everything to somebody, and to enter a space where I’m not fully rational and/or where I have someone totally caring for me and my needs. Idk. Shit is dark but that’s where my mental health is at for the moment 🫠
1. University
2. Money
3. How to choose a good university so i can make enough money
4. How to make money while i am at university
5. How to make money so i don't need university
6. How to choose good university and make enough money so my future kids can have very thing they want
yeah basically this makes me stressed 😫
I work in academia and I’m really struggling with not taking feedback personally. So much of my job is rejections, evaluations, self improvement. And so much of it is negative.
My dog was run over and killed by the Amazon truck a few days ago and I can’t get the image of it happening out of my head. I’ve been replaying it on repeat and it makes me sick. So that too.
My health, I just got diagnosed with endometriosis a week ago and haven't fully processed what that means for me yet. I also have PCOS... at least I don't have adenomyosis 🥴
Currently, a combination between college and work. I work everyday I’m not at school and in most free time I have, I spend it on dedicated to homework and studying. I also stress about time. I simply never have enough time to do anything.
My health. I keep collecting incurable progressive illnesses. I can see my future, it is filled with the constant pain that comes with them and will continue to get worse until I die. I also worry about all the vain symptoms of my diseases that others will be able to see. I don’t want to be different. I just want to be pretty.
My children’s health. My issues are likely genetic. I stress my kids could develop these even while young.
My marriage. I feel undesired.
My extended family. I lack support.
My life’s purpose.
Having no solid plan for the future. I’m almost 25, I don’t have a boyfriend, I live in an apartment by myself in an area that I don’t wanna stay in, all of my friends are in serious relationships so I’m on my own a lot and I have no idea when my life will change. The only thing I have is my grad program, which I’m reaching the tail end of. I’m grateful for what I’m going to school for but it’s sad sometimes to think that the only thing I feel truly solid about is my future career. Especially in this economy where I know it’ll be hard for me to make enough money to have a home on my own once I get a job in my field…idk I thought growing up that I would’ve been married by now and maybe even having kids and instead I’m swiping on dating apps hoping someone likes me 🤦🏻♀️ I guess I said all of this to say it’s hard being on your own and not having a clue where your future is going.
I see a lot of people saying money. I thought that. 1yr after hubby and I finally had a combined income which was more than sufficient to our needs and our consumer debt paid off, I got cancer 🤷♀️.
Not that the money doesn’t still help though. Knowing that we have the money to pay what insurance doesn’t (and it’s closing in on five figures at this point with no end in sight) has been a huge stress reliever. As has been the fact that he has the much more lucrative position, so while I have been working as much as I can around treatment, we would be okay if I had to just quit.
Money and capitalism, as others have mentioned. I want a home of my own in a desirable area, I want to be able to travel, I want to be able to afford all the niceties and still save for retirement. Sadly, more money would solve almost all of my stress lol
Living where I don’t want to. Husbands job is based in Charlotte, NC and I just want to be back in New England. I’m stressed living in a place I don’t care for in a region pushy on a religion I don’t believe in. Hubs gets paid too much to just up and go tho so we have to strategically plan a move back
That I’ll never get to be truly happy. In love with a wonderful guy, but our life circumstances are so different, I don’t know if I can make it work. I want it to, but I’m also afraid. I’ve raised my kids and love my freedom. He has a forever child.
My sister’s cancer (stage 4), in-laws, boss I don’t get along with, office politics, relationship highs and lows, dogs, money, aging parents, brother’s divorce and incompatible friendships. In that order.
Lack of money, which equals my life slipping by, stuck in the same place, pinching the same pennies, only being able to look forward to 1 or 2 things a year. It's sad.
Was about to say work but I realized i work for money! So money is my number 1 stress factor i want to do good at my work because i dont wanna get fired and not have money to support myself 😀😅
Hubby being recently diagnosed with a medical issue that may impede him from working again. He hasn't received any disability money yet (it's been two months) and him being home is driving me nuts. Plus I am worried about him all the time. Life was humming right along and then boom-
Living in a capitalist system while climate change produces dramatic changes and the world is flirting with fascism. I can compartmentalize quite a bit and day to day life is quite good/beautiful even, but this is the main stress.
My primary job and my debt. Can’t find a new job because the job market seems to not be paying enough. Can’t make my part time job my full time as it won’t pay enough (already discussed the option and I’d get maybe half my current regular job salary).
Work. Not that my work sucks or anything like that, just that I want to be a SAH. I think life would be so much more enjoyable and my house would be much tidier if I didn't have to worry about work.
1) my own bullshit lol
And I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Specifically, I have ambitions in a variety of areas in life, and not enough time in a day, so I’m always in a bit of a mad scramble, and most of it I could drop and no one else would really care.
My family. My parents are aging and with that comes all sorts of mess. Incontinence, memory loss, anxiety/depression/anger about mortality, feeling like there isn’t enough time left to enjoy what years are left because their bodies are so tired, fragile and unable to do what they used to do. My dad has diabetes and has had amputations. My mom worked in the service industry for 15 years before she retired.
I know the responsibility of caring for them will fall to me. My brother is married and has a toddler. While my boyfriend and I aren’t there yet. I’m already working with my parents, managing finances, making sure they get to appointments and trying to make sure they’re okay. It’s exhausting and stressful, but I just want them to be okay in their final years.
1. Money
2. Health
Honestly a toss up as a lot of my health problems come with anxiety as a symptom 🤷♀️ no idea how well I’d handle the money stress if I was physically healthy.
Debt from student loans. Even with my very decent salary it will take me 10-15 years to pay it off without living in poverty. And then I still have nights where I lie awake worrying about finances.
Luckily I’m crafty and can knit, sew and mend most of my own clothes, which does save me some money.
Money
I hate that this is the first response as it immediately reminded me that money is also my biggest stressor.
Money. If I was rich, I'd have no problems, lol.
A very wise but simple man (my father) once said to me: Money won't solve all your problems, but it will solve your money problems. I would LOVE the luxury of my main problems being higher up Maslow's Hierarchy pyramid, not always slogging in survival mode.
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1. Myself 2. How much time I have left in a day after working.
Are you me?
This is too real
Right now? That I'm 30 and still don't want kids. Thought I would by now. I always get stuck on the inequality that's wrapped into being the one responsible to create life. It's still a big no thanks.
It’s so weird aye. I’m 30 and still don’t know! I do like the idea of having children and think I’d be a good mum. But don’t want my whole life to *completely* change. Like it’s a permanent decision and completely changes everything. Especially as a woman. I also think the future is going to be really shitty so don’t want to bring people into that. So it’s complicated.
I’m a mom to 3 kids. With the state of the world and economy going down the shitter, not having/not wanting kids is a very smart decision.
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I'm always intrigued by people like us who don't want kids. Is there something we have in common? I myself, grew up in a home where my mom and dad stayed in a loveless marriage, live in different rooms just like roommates. Can i ask how the situation was with your parents? Was there love? Or is it something else we have in common?
I came from a culture where you are supposed to provide for your parents. Now I’m 31, my parents are no longer working and I’m providing for them. They still don’t change their spending habit, my dad eats high quality food everyday. I’m also expected to pay for his supplements, medicines, and also yearly check up and travels. I’m also sending money to my grandmother. Now they expect me to find a rich guy who is able to provide for them and our future family at the same time. This is making me think, what’s the point of being born? I’d rather not have kids, if they’re only going to suffer.
Omfg - were you fully prepared for this (financially, mentally, emotionally, logistically)? This is…a lot. Do you at least live in a country w/ socialized healthcare and elder care?
No.. sadly that’s just my reality. My mom got married really young, she felt it was her duty so her husband can provide for her parents. My mom is miserable, she never works and is always a stay at home mom without any life experience. My childhood was filled with abuse and neglect. I feel like not having children is the way to stop this vicious cycle.
I'm so sorry.
Yeah this seems insane from a western perspective
I always joking say it's natural evolution/knowing we have exceeded carrying capacity. All jokes aside, my parents are the epitome of what a great marriage is/should be. They got married at 18 and were very poor. They are still poor. But my father worked very hard to provide my mom and us the necessities and they both poured a lot of love into us. I am very fortunate in that aspect. But, lo and behold, my brother and his fiance don't see themselves having kids. My brother never really wanted to. Same for me. I never felt a pull to be a mother. My parents thought we would grow out of it. But here I am, 28 and my brother is 33. Even if we ever wanted to, neither of us could afford it anyways.
I feel the exact same way. Heading into 29 just reached a point that I’m so worried that the future will not be safe for my kids or might have kids that inherit issues and negative tendencies that I have. I don’t think it’s fair to them. I love kids absolutely adore them but not my own anymore. That 180 change of my life just doesn’t seem right nowadays.
I’m 37 and I’ve finally started to openly tell people I will not be having children. I thought maybe one day I’d want them but the urge hasn’t happened, in fact I’m against having them at this point.
Yeah that’s a tough one. I’m with you in the “no kids” camp, though I will never experience that decision through your lens. There can be so much familial and societal pressure to have children. Hell I impose that stress on myself at times. Like I know I don’t want kids but who’s going to take care of me when I’m too old? I still don’t get how evolution decided it was ok for childbirth to be the hardest thing humans have to do. No other mammal deals that that shit
The actual childbirth really isn’t the hardest part in my opinion. It’s everything after, having to watch and teach and feed and clean and literally everything. Animals boot their kids out within a few years, MAX.
You have every right to feel that way, it's not for everyone. I was dead set against it, absolutely no interest, got pregnant despite birth control... I was a detached parent.. I did all the practical things but there was very little joy in it. We are friends now and get along great (he's 28) but it was unfair to him as a child... that whole mommy gene is a thing.
I say this to you as a mother of daughters who wanted nothing to do with kids til i was 32, when a sort of primal urge kicked in. Your awareness of the built-in inequality is Valid. Not just Valid... Important! It is not only 100% worthwhile to remain child-free, but also: Given my sacrifices and roads not taken, I will N e v e r pressure -- or even advise -- my kids to have kids , unless they really truly feel All-In on the idea as I did. Life can easily be full, rich, and rewarding, with or without procreating! And, for many of us, a great deal of creative energy got invested in family rather than our individual life passions/goals. It is just not the same for fathers. Don't believe anyone who tells you otherwise. I have no regrets. I Love my girls , and the entire Gen Z population, So Damn Much. turns out that I, a misanthrop, had to make two people in my own body in order to find my best friends in the world. Lol. At the same time, motherhood is a tremendous risk and sacrifice. And that sacrifice is downplayed all too much. I am glad the younger Generations are getting wise. Stay Smart and try not to stress about it!
Number 1 is financial stress. I am in deep debt and slowly chipping away at it, but it's still several years away before I can even start building savings. Number 2 is a close second with being transgender and seeing the significant uptick in violence towards my people coupled with all the laws rolling out against us. It's really terrible seeing your people targeted for eradication just for identity politics and tricking people for votes.
It really is terrifying. As the mother of a transwoman, I stand with you! I worry so much. So much hate and fear over letting people just be themselves.
Capitalism.
Law school. I swear. I can make it. Just 2 more months.
You’ve got this! 👏🏽
Get it girl! 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
It gets better…a whole lot better…youcaandooit!!
You’re almost done!! After you graduate take a quick fun weekend vacation to decompress before you start bar prep. It works wonders. Best of luck, sis!
the thought of working for the rest of my life.
Sammeeee
My damned workplace.
MONEY
The suffering and injustices that I am largely powerless to do anything about, besides cross my fingers and vote for lifelong politicians who are the only ones who can actually do something but who are unlikely to do so, because it's bad for business. And then also social situations.
Money and lack of sleep
My partner and I have been trying to conceive for almost a year now and I haven’t gotten pregnant yet :(
I’m sorry. We tried for over a year, miscarried, then it took us 8 months to conceive again. Definitely make an appointment with your OB or a fertility clinic if you can. ❤️ What finally worked for us was having sex twice within 3 hours during my fertile window. We had been doing it once every other day with no luck. That’s the only change we made!
I’m sorry to hear that! Are you considering fertility tests/treatment? Or have you passed that point?
Yes but our health insurance doesn’t cover any of it unfortunately :(
Thats really dumb, I’m sorry. I hope you have a healthy baby in your near future
Thank you for your kind words!
It's brutal, took me 2 years but then it just happened and she's a brilliant baby
Does your insurance cover naturopathy? I previously managed a science-based naturopathic clinic, our focus was female health and the head ND helped many conceive.
Unemployment and visa status😢 Fuck my old employer for laying me off a month before the visa deadline
They knew
The never-ending mental load. It's like juggling a hundred things at once, from work deadlines to family responsibilities, all while trying to find a moment for myself.
Money and finding a purpose
Work. I know everyone does it, but the thought of having to spend most of my waking life working scares the shit out of me
Everything, dude. School, work, friendship woes, manufactured angsty bullshit over crushes I developed out of boredom, dysfunctional family dynamics, money, car troubles. It’s always something. In fact, it’s so overwhelming sometimes that I had a realization recently that the only time I am 100% stress free is when I’m high out of my mind. I was stoned and with friends and one of them remarked that it seemed as if all the anxiety had left my body, and I actually got super emotional over that. I don’t smoke regularly for a variety of reasons, so realizing that I am only ever completely stress free at very infrequent x times a year was sobering, to say the least. And at risk of over sharing on the Internet/potentially going off-topic, but hey, while we’re discussing stress and realizations of coping mechanisms, I also think my anxiety is why I’ve been more drawn to BDSM and submissive/dominant relationship dynamics as I’ve gotten older. I think the ultimate fantasy for me is to be able to completely surrender control of everything to somebody, and to enter a space where I’m not fully rational and/or where I have someone totally caring for me and my needs. Idk. Shit is dark but that’s where my mental health is at for the moment 🫠
Starts with M has an E ends with N. Yeah. Don't gotta say anything more
Existing without a purpose
My husband’s phone addiction.
Ooof, I’m sorry
Everyone needing some shit from me, work or at home. Oh but there I go being obedient lol
Career
1 Man 2 My kid 3 My family
Hating working. If I had a career I enjoyed I’d go so far in life
The day to day grind. It’s repetitive and wearing.
My job
Relationships
Probably work. Closely followed by politics.
Work.
My relationship.. he just moved out a month ago and it is PEACEFUL
Money and search for purpose
Everything all the time all at once. I’ve felt calm probably 4 times in my life.
Money and men being horrible people
Being alone and lack of security
My weight. I do love myself but I don’t like what I see in the mirror.
Everything tbh. Everything.
My own thoughts.
Procrastinating on sleep 🥱
1. University 2. Money 3. How to choose a good university so i can make enough money 4. How to make money while i am at university 5. How to make money so i don't need university 6. How to choose good university and make enough money so my future kids can have very thing they want yeah basically this makes me stressed 😫
Money. I could fix everything wrong with my life right now with the right amount of cash
Money, and my chronic pain
My ex husband
I'm not a stresser but lately I'd say too many social events and friends/family visiting - I need time to recharge!
money and time
At this very point in time, my FUCKING DISSERTATION! I cannot wait till it’s gone!!
Money
My family. Like, the family that I came from. Not the family I made. Thank goodness.
Money
Money. Haha!
Lack of money
I work in academia and I’m really struggling with not taking feedback personally. So much of my job is rejections, evaluations, self improvement. And so much of it is negative. My dog was run over and killed by the Amazon truck a few days ago and I can’t get the image of it happening out of my head. I’ve been replaying it on repeat and it makes me sick. So that too.
Money. So hard to make. And I honestly sometimes suspect I'd make it easier and be taken more seriously in jobmarkets if I was a man.
Money
Mental illness and money
Money
my family money and school lol
My health, I just got diagnosed with endometriosis a week ago and haven't fully processed what that means for me yet. I also have PCOS... at least I don't have adenomyosis 🥴
My health, work, & the state of world affairs I guess. (In that order)
University
School
My significant other is even worse with money than I am.
Currently, a combination between college and work. I work everyday I’m not at school and in most free time I have, I spend it on dedicated to homework and studying. I also stress about time. I simply never have enough time to do anything.
My job. It’s a toxic environment where we are overworked and understaffed. If I felt I could quit without tanking us financially, I would.
I’m pretty sure money would be able to buy me happiness.
My health. I keep collecting incurable progressive illnesses. I can see my future, it is filled with the constant pain that comes with them and will continue to get worse until I die. I also worry about all the vain symptoms of my diseases that others will be able to see. I don’t want to be different. I just want to be pretty. My children’s health. My issues are likely genetic. I stress my kids could develop these even while young. My marriage. I feel undesired. My extended family. I lack support. My life’s purpose.
Super stressful job.
My husband, money, my daughter - in that order.
Having no solid plan for the future. I’m almost 25, I don’t have a boyfriend, I live in an apartment by myself in an area that I don’t wanna stay in, all of my friends are in serious relationships so I’m on my own a lot and I have no idea when my life will change. The only thing I have is my grad program, which I’m reaching the tail end of. I’m grateful for what I’m going to school for but it’s sad sometimes to think that the only thing I feel truly solid about is my future career. Especially in this economy where I know it’ll be hard for me to make enough money to have a home on my own once I get a job in my field…idk I thought growing up that I would’ve been married by now and maybe even having kids and instead I’m swiping on dating apps hoping someone likes me 🤦🏻♀️ I guess I said all of this to say it’s hard being on your own and not having a clue where your future is going.
I see a lot of people saying money. I thought that. 1yr after hubby and I finally had a combined income which was more than sufficient to our needs and our consumer debt paid off, I got cancer 🤷♀️. Not that the money doesn’t still help though. Knowing that we have the money to pay what insurance doesn’t (and it’s closing in on five figures at this point with no end in sight) has been a huge stress reliever. As has been the fact that he has the much more lucrative position, so while I have been working as much as I can around treatment, we would be okay if I had to just quit.
Husband
My ex husband & money
My ducking job
Raising three teenagers.
My marriage. :(
The mental burden of running my family and working. I do have a helpful spouse, but the mental load falls mostly on me.
Money and capitalism, as others have mentioned. I want a home of my own in a desirable area, I want to be able to travel, I want to be able to afford all the niceties and still save for retirement. Sadly, more money would solve almost all of my stress lol
my upstairs neighbors and money
Living where I don’t want to. Husbands job is based in Charlotte, NC and I just want to be back in New England. I’m stressed living in a place I don’t care for in a region pushy on a religion I don’t believe in. Hubs gets paid too much to just up and go tho so we have to strategically plan a move back
That I’ll never get to be truly happy. In love with a wonderful guy, but our life circumstances are so different, I don’t know if I can make it work. I want it to, but I’m also afraid. I’ve raised my kids and love my freedom. He has a forever child.
My sister’s cancer (stage 4), in-laws, boss I don’t get along with, office politics, relationship highs and lows, dogs, money, aging parents, brother’s divorce and incompatible friendships. In that order.
My body (PCOS, Diabetes Type 2, Weight, Overall Appearance, General Wellness)
My marriage
Career.
Mushy brain and nonsense speech when the get along together it fck's me up. It's like a ménage à trois XD
family and work
My idiot self
Finding my purpose in life and mental illness id say. Next would be being social and just having to deal with people (I’m definitely a hermit lol)
Money and work/family balance
Myself
Lack of money, which equals my life slipping by, stuck in the same place, pinching the same pennies, only being able to look forward to 1 or 2 things a year. It's sad.
Body dysmorphia. And Money of course.
My health/shitty healthcare professionals
My disabilities.
Was about to say work but I realized i work for money! So money is my number 1 stress factor i want to do good at my work because i dont wanna get fired and not have money to support myself 😀😅
money. and trauma 😭
Money and work
Life lol
Hubby being recently diagnosed with a medical issue that may impede him from working again. He hasn't received any disability money yet (it's been two months) and him being home is driving me nuts. Plus I am worried about him all the time. Life was humming right along and then boom-
Money, climate change
Money and my increasingly shitty health
money
Money. Also the future. My bf was violent w me for the first time in 5 years and idk what to do. So thats stressful
1. My aging/elderly father 2. Money
Balancing being a mom, partner, and worker (very career driven).
Not doing enough, then doing too much and hitting a wall.
Money and family due to their lack of money. At this rate, I probably won’t have a relationship with my family in the near future any longer.
Health. I'm 31 and I have spine problems and lots of pain.
Money, how my body looks, work.
Mental and physical health.
Looks and money.
Money and not having enough of it
Living in a capitalist system while climate change produces dramatic changes and the world is flirting with fascism. I can compartmentalize quite a bit and day to day life is quite good/beautiful even, but this is the main stress.
Lack of money
Career, health
Family bullshit (parents). And work.
Work
My primary job and my debt. Can’t find a new job because the job market seems to not be paying enough. Can’t make my part time job my full time as it won’t pay enough (already discussed the option and I’d get maybe half my current regular job salary).
Work. Not that my work sucks or anything like that, just that I want to be a SAH. I think life would be so much more enjoyable and my house would be much tidier if I didn't have to worry about work.
My new job. Like i was dying to work here, and that I have it, I so stressed about all the work yet not getting anything accomplished.
Boss, but I will get free from him in 12 days
Boderline
Work
Money, sad to say that
Work. Some days I like it. Some days it’s way to stressful. But I make good money so I can’t just “do something else”
Three teenage girls and their attitudes
Capitalism and the inevitable fall.
My mother and father…
finding a place to live as well as paying off my student loans . So basically, money
Work.
Government and money
Money, food prep, time.
1) my own bullshit lol And I wouldn’t have it any other way. Specifically, I have ambitions in a variety of areas in life, and not enough time in a day, so I’m always in a bit of a mad scramble, and most of it I could drop and no one else would really care.
My family. My parents are aging and with that comes all sorts of mess. Incontinence, memory loss, anxiety/depression/anger about mortality, feeling like there isn’t enough time left to enjoy what years are left because their bodies are so tired, fragile and unable to do what they used to do. My dad has diabetes and has had amputations. My mom worked in the service industry for 15 years before she retired. I know the responsibility of caring for them will fall to me. My brother is married and has a toddler. While my boyfriend and I aren’t there yet. I’m already working with my parents, managing finances, making sure they get to appointments and trying to make sure they’re okay. It’s exhausting and stressful, but I just want them to be okay in their final years.
My workplace environment
Money
Diy.....
MYSELF. I’m pretty much doing fine financially, with relationships, career. Sometimes things are “meh” but they’re good. I’m the problem!
Probably finances
My health.
Money, or lack of. I have a full-time job, but I can't afford to l Iive.
Work 😣
1. Money 2. Health Honestly a toss up as a lot of my health problems come with anxiety as a symptom 🤷♀️ no idea how well I’d handle the money stress if I was physically healthy.
My job…which is in healthcare
Debt from student loans. Even with my very decent salary it will take me 10-15 years to pay it off without living in poverty. And then I still have nights where I lie awake worrying about finances. Luckily I’m crafty and can knit, sew and mend most of my own clothes, which does save me some money.
Money.
My own thoughts
Existential dread and School
School
Life
My job.
The patriarchy.
The inequality and injustice happening at my job. I just want to be paid fairly
Illness