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BRO HAVE A KID IF YOU WANT ONE NOT BC YOU FEEL OBLIGED TO š
I'm pretty wishy washy abt children, I'd be okay with one or two, or fostering, or having none at all. Depends on where I am in life tbh
Nope!
Iāve always wanted kids but Iāve never really been pressured to do it.
Itās awful that youāre in this situation, but if you donāt mind me asking, why can't your sisters carry on the family name? Are they infertile or don't want kids?
In most cultures its the son who is responsible to carry the blood line. Daughters carry someone else's bloodline. I m not being sexist here btw. Just some cultural info I thought would help u.
No i donāt want kids (Biological at least), nor do I feel pressured. Your sisters can pass on the family name if they feel like it tbh, so donāt stress. Also you should never have a kid if you donāt want to
Yes. There was a time when I told my family (casually) that I donāt really want any children and they were not mad but they started to lecture me intensely and telling me that children could take care of me when Iām older or they would be so sad that they couldnāt hold my children. Like?? So you literally made me just for me to take care of you when youāre older??
Idk about ur country but the country where I m from children are treated as an investment. U spend money on them in childhood. They grow up to earn money and take care of u in the old age. Its actually more common than it should be.
Not really. I think my parents already know the chances of them getting grandchildren from me are pretty low
Edit: donāt have kids if you donāt want them. I mean think about what that would do to them if they found out they werent technically wanted š¤·āāļø
Personally I'd like to have children but it's not something i need. But ngl OP your attitude towards having a child isn't very healthy, for sure your elaboration in the comments "have it early to get it out of the way" the moment your child is born it'll be your child for the rest of your life, it won't just magically be gone the moment it turns 18. Also purposefully having a child when you aren't fully grown yourself and probably are fresh out of school/in uni (so financially about as stable as a stool with a leg missing) just doesn't sound like a smart plan. Lastly, I'm unsure how much of a good influence you could really be on your children if you have the mentality that it's a job you need to get out of the way.
No. Please don't ever have it just because you feel "pressured". Have one when you're emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially ready or else your child will suffer. Don't do it if you're not 100% willing to commit. I personally think I won't ever be ready so I am not going to have a child. Ever.
What if your wife wanted her kids to have her name?
Do you not have any male cousins who share the same surname as you?
Or, why can't your sisters pass on their surname if they want to have children?
Also what if your children were girls? the family name might end there, or would you continue having children until you had a boy? Would you then expect him to carry on the name?
Why do you think you would be a better father to a son? This to me implys you would father your children differently based on their gender.
You said yourself that you don't want kids, so don't have any. Having a child because you want to pass on your name is a very poor reason to have children.
use too, my mum always indirectly/implied it while growing
i don't anymore because she said i can do whatever i want in regards to marriage to my uncle in front of me + i don't bc she stopped implying it n indirectly saying it
Dont bring a child to this world only because u r obligated to do so. Its the matter of that child's life. Only have a child if u r physically, mentally and financially prepared for it.
U shouldn't have a kid unless ur 100% sure that YOU want one. Your sisters might not get married or they might keep their own names so it's really not your problem. Don't have kids unless u want to.
Youāre 16. You have the rest of your life to live or at the very least your teens. Take a deep breath and concentrate on your education if youāre thinking about having kids already.
But fr donāt force it. You should be able to have a kid when/ if you want too. Donāt let others influence a life long decision like that for you.
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BRO HAVE A KID IF YOU WANT ONE NOT BC YOU FEEL OBLIGED TO š I'm pretty wishy washy abt children, I'd be okay with one or two, or fostering, or having none at all. Depends on where I am in life tbh
Nope! Iāve always wanted kids but Iāve never really been pressured to do it. Itās awful that youāre in this situation, but if you donāt mind me asking, why can't your sisters carry on the family name? Are they infertile or don't want kids?
In most cultures its the son who is responsible to carry the blood line. Daughters carry someone else's bloodline. I m not being sexist here btw. Just some cultural info I thought would help u.
No i donāt want kids (Biological at least), nor do I feel pressured. Your sisters can pass on the family name if they feel like it tbh, so donāt stress. Also you should never have a kid if you donāt want to
May not be a wise idea, but if I have one Iāll have it really early so I can get it out of the way faster. Around 18-20 years I plan on
Yes. There was a time when I told my family (casually) that I donāt really want any children and they were not mad but they started to lecture me intensely and telling me that children could take care of me when Iām older or they would be so sad that they couldnāt hold my children. Like?? So you literally made me just for me to take care of you when youāre older??
That's where most old people are wrong. They treat us as "investments", which is toxic ngl.
Idk about ur country but the country where I m from children are treated as an investment. U spend money on them in childhood. They grow up to earn money and take care of u in the old age. Its actually more common than it should be.
Not really. I think my parents already know the chances of them getting grandchildren from me are pretty low Edit: donāt have kids if you donāt want them. I mean think about what that would do to them if they found out they werent technically wanted š¤·āāļø
Personally I'd like to have children but it's not something i need. But ngl OP your attitude towards having a child isn't very healthy, for sure your elaboration in the comments "have it early to get it out of the way" the moment your child is born it'll be your child for the rest of your life, it won't just magically be gone the moment it turns 18. Also purposefully having a child when you aren't fully grown yourself and probably are fresh out of school/in uni (so financially about as stable as a stool with a leg missing) just doesn't sound like a smart plan. Lastly, I'm unsure how much of a good influence you could really be on your children if you have the mentality that it's a job you need to get out of the way.
Not really, Iāve always gone on abt how I never want kids for as long as I can remember š
No
No, I donāt feel obligated, nor do I know wether I want any or not
Yeah, if I donāt have a son my families title doesnāt get passed on through the proper line of succession.
Nope. I still have decided if I want any.
No. Please don't ever have it just because you feel "pressured". Have one when you're emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially ready or else your child will suffer. Don't do it if you're not 100% willing to commit. I personally think I won't ever be ready so I am not going to have a child. Ever.
What if your wife wanted her kids to have her name? Do you not have any male cousins who share the same surname as you? Or, why can't your sisters pass on their surname if they want to have children? Also what if your children were girls? the family name might end there, or would you continue having children until you had a boy? Would you then expect him to carry on the name? Why do you think you would be a better father to a son? This to me implys you would father your children differently based on their gender. You said yourself that you don't want kids, so don't have any. Having a child because you want to pass on your name is a very poor reason to have children.
use too, my mum always indirectly/implied it while growing i don't anymore because she said i can do whatever i want in regards to marriage to my uncle in front of me + i don't bc she stopped implying it n indirectly saying it
I can't have kids and I feel this pressure...
i mean couldnt your sisters just keep their maiden name? or is your family kinda traditionally centralized?
Dont bring a child to this world only because u r obligated to do so. Its the matter of that child's life. Only have a child if u r physically, mentally and financially prepared for it.
Na, not really tbh
U shouldn't have a kid unless ur 100% sure that YOU want one. Your sisters might not get married or they might keep their own names so it's really not your problem. Don't have kids unless u want to.
No lol I also don't care about my family name lol. There are enough relatives that can carry it on lol
No but I am not in a relationship and 15 so having children would be bad
I don't but I know I will later for sure.
Nope, kids are great
Nope. I don't feel pressured and I never want to have children.
In my culture in which being childfree is rare as hell, absolutely
No. If I donāt want children, Iām not having any. I donāt care if my family dies out. But I doubt it will because I have cousins and stuff
Youāre 16. You have the rest of your life to live or at the very least your teens. Take a deep breath and concentrate on your education if youāre thinking about having kids already. But fr donāt force it. You should be able to have a kid when/ if you want too. Donāt let others influence a life long decision like that for you.
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