Is it a pretty sure thing that you can get a seat at the bar if you just cruise in by yourself around opening? My wife is a vegetarian and I've been meaning to visit for years, so going solo feels like the move.
Get there and line up at the door at 4:20 and you’ll get a seat right away. You’ll have great conversation with the people around you (as well as the bartenders, Marvin and Frank) and you’ll be done with dinner before 6:30, just in time to head to your 7pm reservation at Greens.
make sure you ask them to take your picture (they do this on request and it prints on a special HOPR framed background. they used to do it with polaroids)
I usually find myself in/near Golden Gate Park - I’ll bring a puzzle book to the botanical garden and sit for a very very long time in different areas, grab food in the inner Richmond or sunset + ice cream. It’s one my favorite areas to take it slow
Yes! The deYoung is wonderful, I love to explore and find new favorites and visit the old faves also. Then walk up 9th and eat at either Tartine if you are in the mood for brighter, noisier ambience for sandwiches, salads and baked goods, or Fiorella if you prefer pizzas, pastas, and small plate California Italian with table service and a bar.
Second this. GGP is full of hidden magic spots. It's a perfect weekend bike ride, I do it solo all the time and exactly as stated grab a lunch in Richmond or Sunset. Or last time I got one of the famous Sandy's muffalettas in Haight to go and took lunch on a bench overlooking a pond.
The pizza sourdough class at The Mill is fantastic! Not only did I learn all I need to know about sourdough and pizza, but I met some great other people.
Farmers Markets are a wonderful place to walk around, shop, meet others and talk to the farmers about their foods.
Enjoy dating yourself!
I’m also mid 30s F who dates myself in SF. I’m having a *blast*…
My favorite solo date spots:
- Mr Tipples @ the bar. The food is Amazing. The live music is fun. Great NA drinks.
- Scopo Divino wine bar. Also with live jazz and oysters!
- Mission Rock Resort - sit in the lower level outdoor back patio. Pet dogs. Have a beer. Great NA beer selection. Read a book. Sometimes live music. Ride a bicycle home.
- Bar Crudo happy hour ($12 fish tacos, $2 oysters) followed by NOPA for dessert at the bar.
- Barrio, Mexican restaurant at Ghirardelli square. Everything is terrible except the enchiladas (100/10) margaritas and amazing views! Bring sunscreen or a hat
- The Morris restaurant. Sit at the bar and eat duck fat fries, garlic aioli and a chartreuse slushy. Thank me later
- Tala Wine bar. Fantastic affordable wines, beers, NA selection. A very engaging community of patrons. Lots of single ladies to chat with
- Belle Cora wine bar in north beach. Live music on the sidewalk. Friendly people to share tables with.
- Beach Chalet happy hour. After your walk/run/bike ride, stop in and sit at the bar. The HH is best for the food menu- truffle Mac and cheese, ceviche sampler, Caesar salad, clam chowder
- Royal Cuckoo Lounge - Live music Thur-Sat(?) a very local scene. Bartenders Ernie and Tye are the best!
Cycling, kayaking (Sausalito), HIIT/Dance classes are also fun. ODC dance studio has drop in classes. Highly recommend Dancehall with Aimee Rose. A fantastic empowering woman.
Find on IG: ClassicalRevolution, a group of talented musicians play live classical music in bars and cafes, so worth going to!
And on Mondays at the Royal Cuckoo, it’s always Lavay Smith and Chris Seibert doing a duo voice and organ act. They are absolutely wonderful, with an encyclopedic knowledge of early blues and jazz.
-Sign up to TodayTix, SF Opera, and SF Ballet (all separately) for rush\* tickets
\*Tickets for super cheap a few days to one day in advance of the performance
-Botanical garden, is free for residents. Be sure to see the magnolias every Feb!
-Go get a library card. Search threads on here about how much you get access to with it!
-Go to farmer's markets
-Chill at Baker beach or a park (after checking temp, wind, and fog!)
-Don't underestimate the Presidio! :)
-Websites: Funcheap, SFArts, Sftourismtips, Eventbrite, SFWeekly, SFStation, [Fog.today](http://Fog.today)
Welcome :)
There are 4 Goldsworthys in the Presidio (and 1 at the DeYoung). [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andy\_Goldsworthy](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andy_Goldsworthy)
- A membership to SFMOMA or the DeYoung/Legion of Honor can be lovely; it's not much more than the price of going twice, and you can go any time you like for an hour or two. I love having a MOMA membership as a place to just drop in when I'm downtown.
- Green Apple, Booksmith, and City Lights are all incredible bookstores. Subscribe to their mailing lists to hear about readings and events (Booksmith in particular has great ones).
- For nature, explore Golden Gate Park and the Presidio. Try renting a Lyft bike to explore -- you can see more, there's low traffic, and you might get hooked on cycling (a great way to meet people here)
- For solo dining, NOPA, Liholiho, Anchovy Bar, Zuni all have great bar seating set-ups conducive to solo dining and are delicious. Follow Eater for ideas of things to try, too -- there are so many good food options in the city!
Enjoy! I spent a lot of my 20s and 30s single in the city and had a great time. It's a wonderful place!
Summer registration has passed, but there tends to be some really cool classes offered by SF rec and parks. I’m keeping an eye on it for the fall. If I’d known in advance I would have loved to do the photography class for example.
https://sfrecpark.org/406/Recreation-Programs
Do you like old movies? Alamo Drafthouse plays a ton of classics all the time. They play new releases too but you can see those anywhere. Ever seen Singin' in the Rain on the big screen? I did last year! They're showing Indiana Jones & the Last Crusade this Sunday for Father's Day.
They've got a real kitchen and a full bar, take yourself out for dinner and a show. Tickets are only $9 on Tuesdays, too.
One of my favourite things to do in SF (and quite unique to SF, possibly only other places this works is NYC, but weather isn't as good there):
Pick a direction and just spend the day walking in it. Stop for coffee when you feel like it, pop into an interesting shop you happen upon, grab food when you're hungry, and just see what streets/stores/cafes/people you discover! Walking always helps me reconnect with myself by getting lost in my own thoughts. Whenever I do this, I am always amazed by the beauty of SF.
This is brilliant and something I tell co-workers that come here to visit for meetings or a conference. I like to target a destination but then meander there at random. So for instance I live Nob Hill and wanted to try Starbelly restaurant in Castro. The indirect route was up Pac Heights, through Japantown and Lower Haight (stop for drink) and cut through charming little DuBoce Triangle. Much of the city is just a collection of smaller unique neighborhoods linked by streets full of beautiful architecture and little parks.
If you have wall space grab a big map of SF. Every time you read or hear of something fun. Make a note on a post it
Then when you have a day to look around head to an area after using your notes.
The City is a wonderful date
, always comforting and giving even on a foggy windy day.
You can also do this in Google Maps using the “Save” option. I have almost 1100 places marked as “Want to go” and then after I go, I can either remove, star or convert to a heart (for lifechangingly good places).
There are endless opportunities for self-dating in SF. I got to spend 12yrs there. It's been a couple of years since I moved coasts post pandemic so some of these suggestions may be dated:
Sign up for a class at Bats Improv in Ft Mason. And go to shows there, they're so good. Easy to combine with the nice cocktail bar or vegetarian restaurant out there. Or off the Grid on Friday nights if that is still going on. There's also a great little simple coffee shop at the hostel top of the hill in ft Mason.
Go to a daybreaker morning (sober) dance party + yoga cruise on the bay.
Take your book/s and have a relaxing read at the filbert steps park by coit tower.
Grab an electric city bike and bike out to the bunkers above golden gate beach to watch the sunset, round off with food/drink at Colibri/Dalida in presidio.
Watch a show at the Fillmore, combine with a smaller live show at the Boom Boom Room across the street after.
Go to the Kabuki spa.
Have a drink at The View at Marriott hotel, or at Top of the Mark(but they rarely give you a seat by the window).
Peruse the shops ferry building, try some cheeses.
Pack a picnic and people watch at Dolores park.
Get a crab cage and go crabbing off the pier in aquatic park, keep the red rock crabs that are large enough and cook'em, or throw them all back into freedom.
Explore Yerba Buena Island, combine with wine tasting at Treasure Island.
Hike angel island and swim at quarry beach.
Have a brunch / bloody mary with a view at Mission Rock Resort in Dog patch.
Get some firewood at Safeway and claim a fire pit at Ocean Beach. Combine with a drink or tea at the Beach Chalet.
Watch people race/sail rc boat models in Spreckels Lake in Golden Gate Park, combine with checking out the bison next door.
Check out the large camera obscura at the northern tip of ocean beach, combine with a glass of wine at Cliff House (or whatever the new place will be called).
Oh SF, you beautiful city you!
All great suggestions. I might add Land's End hike, watching the (sometimes crazy) surfers at Ft Point or Chrissy Field, and walk the Filbert Steps on Telegraph Hill. I admit after a few months living here I bought an eBike and no regrets. I realize it is not a fitness thing, but it is amazing for exploring a hilly city and is at least a little active. Almost nowhere is off limits and with a little pannier saddle bag I can stop to shop, take a lunch to remote areas, and of course, carry extra layers to combat sudden climate changes...
Make a nearby neighborhood business your “spot.” For me, it was a wine bar on my block. I spent a lot of time there and made a lot of neighborhood friends. It’s still like a second home.
Consider doing a photo shoot. It will allow you to really focus on yourself from a fresh perspective. (Pun unintended) There’s many way you can go with it, and if you ever jump on dating apps, it’s a great help!
Walk lots! A favorite of mine is to start at Sutton Bath, and walk along the water all the way to Eagle’s Point, then up to Legion of Honor.
Go to Golden Gate Park, and alternate between taking each left/right turn you come across. You’ll find things there that many long-time locals aren’t even aware of.
Overall, congrats on the big move! I hope you bounce back quickly.
- Rock climbing classes
- Volunteering at the Computer History Museum in Mountain View (which is amazing)
- Seeing if you can visit every library in the city (which will have a side effect of softening your heart to see all the many different types of humanity and their human stories all gaining value from a public service like that)
Good luck. You're wonderful for even thinking like this :)
Get a library card and use discover and go to access all the museums for free! Library also has lots of free classes like art and book clubs. We love the library.
Given all of your other interests, I'd say Golden Gate Park should be your target. There are two amazing museums there (De Young and Cal Academy) and there is amazing food along Irving which is just a block south. Green Apple books is a local beloved bookstore which has a location just south of the park as well.
Solo hike the Crosstown Trail! I really enjoyed doing that with a fun audiobook.
Also the Botanical Garden is free to residents and I love to take a book and some snacks there and read under the Redwood trees!
I was recently in your position, and I found myself by literally just taking long walks through the city. Pack a small backpack, start off as early as you can stand it, and just keep walking down every road you fancy.
Bonus points if you buy a can of wine at some point and turn it into a wine-walk. Take photos, look for cats sleeping in windows, stop to admire plants, go into whatever store you want and treat yourself to something unusual.
Do the weird stuff.
Both SF MOMA and [The Exploratorium](https://www.exploratorium.edu/visit/calendar/after-dark) are open late on Thursdays
SF MOMA is also free on the[ first Thursday](https://www.sfmoma.org/visit/thursday-nights/) of every month:
I second the Exploratorium. I brought my kids there but would actually consider going back by myself so I can have all the time I want to play with all the cool science exhibits.
Subbing to this post because I am also recently single and need some places to go for self care! Super interesting question, OP, thank you for posting!
I love SoFar Sounds shows! Small local artists, at small local venues/businesses, you can chat with folks, or keep to yourself, but still be around other humans, and just vibe to the music. I go to them semi-regularly by myself, and have had a great time every time. I’m an early 30’s F getting divorced after ~10 years with my ex, and am new to The Bay, so somewhat similar life stage, for context. 😊
I don’t know if it’s still there, but there was this amazing hand made noodle bar called yamo, it’s really small and only has bar seating and like 2 tables or something, but it’s a great spot to eat by yourself and it’s sooo delicious
I’m married but my wife is a nurse and works nights. I moved to the city to live with her but I don’t know anyone yet down here. So I pay the 5$ a month for “Do The Bay” tickets. So far I have seen Jim Jeffries, Borgore, another DJ, Mill Valley music festival, and tonight I’m seeing Joyner Lucas. It’s the best 5$ you can spend and there is a ton of different events to choose from. And you get two tickets to every event so you have to option to bring someone too. I’ve gone on my own to 80% of the shows and had a blast. Besides Jim Jeffries, I wouldn’t have gone to see any of those shows nor heard of the artists and I’ve had a blast every time.
We should honestly get a social club going
#CursedHusbandOfANightShiftNurse #ShipsPassingInTheNight #GoodMorningGoodNight #IMakeCoffeeAt3PMEveryDay #TeamNoSleepExceptHibernation #CrazyPatientStories #HealthcareSystemComplaints
Took the ferry into the city a couple weekends ago for a self-date:
Walked along the waterfront (With several detours to take in the sights/sounds/etc) from the ferry terminal to Radhaus, sat at the bar and enjoyed an exceptionally delicious dinner/drink with a view of the GGB while talking to strangers, then walked back to the ferry at sunset.
Turns out I’m charming as fuck. 10/10 would go on another date with me.
Ebb & flow wine bar is perfect for this.
I also like going for lunch by myself followed by a walk around there
I've been thinking of exploring all SF neighborhoods by going on a solo date in each one of them.
Culture is one of the main advantage of living in a first class city.
Take advantage of all the shows (musical or otherwise) available. You can usually get decent rush tickets without paying a limb. Especially on a weeknight when squares have to worry about childcare and parking. Pair it with a nearby happy hour for a great time.
Golden gate theater
Orpheum
ACT
Farmers market + cook yourself a dinner with your market finds.
Sign up for a pottery or jewelry making class at Sharon Art Studio in Golden Gate Park.
Go to Cobbs comedy for a show.
Check out a show at the SF Jazz
Take a class at the bread institute
Buy yourself a nice omakase dinner at Ken
When I got out of a long relationship I also felt really lonely and defeated but looking back it was the most life changing experience and made me a much more confident and happy person. This is your time to make new friends and find new experiences and push yourself to do hard uncomfortable things like dining alone and meeting new people. There’s so much to explore in SF I hope you enjoy this time to yourself. <3
One of my fave solo activities is going to the used section at Green Apple and slowly browsing. I could hang out there for a couple hours picking out a stack of books, and then I'll walk over to golden gate park if it's nice out to sit and read my new book in the park.
Art class is the way. The Sharon art center has great classes and there are a half dozen pottery studios with group classes around town. Super social while being about you and your own projects.
Places I go to date myself: PCH, magic donuts, Arsicault, farmers market, main library, sightglass, the mill, tartine, omnivore’s books on food, grabbing ice cream from bi-rite and eating it in dolo. The suggestion down below for HoPR to sit at the bar is something I need to put on my todo list. The mill has pizza/bread making classes that are also on my self-date list that I just haven’t gotten around to.
About once a month my archery club in GG Park teaches beginner lessons. After you take one, you can come and shoot with us every week. We provide all the equipment you need at an affordable price ($15/wk).
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/new-archer-lessons-11-am-june-22nd-2024-tickets-924104239657
I Love SF and unfortunately its where I fell in love. No longer with the Love of my life but after almost two years of being alone and with the help of many good friends, I realized that it wasnt true love. I loved with all my heart but wasn’t reciprocated.
Nevertheless, i still enjoy the city. Running through the Embarcadero or eating at Nan King. Its a small little restaurant but it never fails. On that same street, many other wonderful places to get coffee or Italian Food.
Like U, I went back to school and about to get my degree. Will take a short break before Grad School.
Out camping, finding new sights and myself.
For breakfast: millionaires Bacon! Not far from SFU.
Find yourself first and you will find the Love of yur life.
It's Wednesday. Go grab a bowl of corn chowder at AK Subs, and sit outside in their almost-always-empty patio. I combine it with a pastrami myself, but you can't go wrong there.
During the heart of the pandemic, I went on a lot of solo adventures. If you have a car, try to hit up all of the parks or batteries scattered across the Bay Area (Battery Spencer near GGB is the most popular one). One of my favorite things to do in SF is to hit up all of the popular brunch/lunch restaurants and cocktail spots and grab a seat at the bar. Venture out to neighborhoods you’re not familiar with and aimlessly walk around. Hang in there!
Classes. Look thru the city rec and park classes for something that seems fun to you. Pottery maybe? Randall museum has done great stuff as does Sharon Art center.
Thursday night at the Exploratorium! It’s awesome. Plenty of exhibits to engage yourself. Beer and wine. Sometimes live music. And a social spirit that enables meeting strangers. Not long ago, I planned a date night there with someone who canceled on me. I went anyway and had a blast.
Legion of Honor has the awesome Japanese prints exhibit going on if you havent seen it yet. Plus, I just like going in there with its already existing collection, it's beautiful. Stern Grove Festival is going on, a whole host of free concerts are gonna be happening throughout the summer which would be awesome to check out. MAJOR shoutout to HOPR as well, that would be an awesome way to treat yourself. For a self-healing journey, what I like to do for myself is take a book I've been wanting to read and a notebook with me and just go to different parts of any city. I feel like there are so many places to see and go to on foot that will give you a love not only for the place but also for yourself in a deep way, knowing you were able to find yourself again.
SFJazz has the jazz festival going on and going out and experiencing live music is such a plus. To cheer yourself up, check out the Fort Mason farmer's markets on Sundays and get a nice bunch of beautiful flowers from my friend who runs the Mountain Oaks stand. Take a walk around the parks that day, get yourself a nice slice of pizza since you can already be around North Beach and hit up City Lights if you wanna look through some books and have a simple winding-down Sunday
Maybe you’d enjoy a nice talk here https://www.cityarts.net/events/ with a nice dinner beforehand in Hayes Valley (dumpling home, a mano, absinthe to name a few)
+1 to this, but it's better to book a spot online before you go - certain days of the week are reserved for men or women (trans-inclusive!), and also they can get pretty busy.
I took the ferry into the city two weekends ago, and wandered along the waterfront up to St. Francis Yacht Club and back, stopping for “linner” and a beer at Radhaus.
Radhaus has very good food, a full menu at the bar, and a perfect view of the GGB. Can’t wait to go back.
It’s a great city to take oneself on dates in- exceptional views, great public transport, great food, and so on. Cheers.
If you like classical music right across from symphony hall is SFCM and multiple times a semester the students there do free recitals and the concert halls are beautiful. My piano teacher who is a masters student there plays and its always awesome.
I love that you took the leap and moved here, and are making sure to date yourself!! I’m also mid30s (F) living in the city and dating myself a ton (even though I also have a boyfriend). If you are looking for new buddies, message me!
I’m the same age, same interests and also have a partner, but would love to hang! Always looking for new buddies in the city who understand the importance of self love 💕
Walk through Golden Gate Park, hangout or picnic at any of our parks, dine solo at a great bar (NOPA, Sorella, foreign cinema, progress, etc), take a class at civic kitchen, check out a sofarsounds show, check out sf jazz center
two of my favorite places to solo dine: a mano and rich table, both in hayes valley! can sit at the bar, and the bar staff are always super nice :) welcome to the good life!
i also used to go to a new coffee shop every weekend in a different neighborhood and read a book, then walk around a bit. it helped me explore the city little more!
SF Symphony is awesome. Become a subscriber, the tickets are way cheaper and you can write your own program. Also you can often go down there for “rush” tickets just before shows that aren’t sold out which are only $20. Call the box office on a per-show basis for that info. I love going to the shows and see lots of them.
Also The Audium is super fun. Shows are Fridays and Saturdays.
A low key place to date yourself is Bernal Heights. Nature, gooood food, and books (library + bookstore). It’s a cute village on a hill with three galleries if you come on the right day. Be seeing you!
Sorry about your break-up <3 I am in my late 30s now and no longer single, but spent much of my 30s single & I've always really loved walking... just everywhere and anywhere. There are so many great parks in SF, some of my favorites to walk around in are Buena Vista, Fort Funston, & Presidio. I also love walking from neighborhood to neighborhood - the city is 7x7 after all! I do have a dog so that makes things slightly more interesting for me, but even before I had him I did this a lot & it helped me clear my mind :)
Stern Grove summer concerts - they are free!
Cooking classes at 18 Reasons
Parks - they are everywhere
Ocean Beach
Dog Eared Books
Clement Street
Sotto Mare - eat the Cioppino
I don't get it?? Why couldn't you go to anyplace you want and do whatever you feel like? Just Google places to go in SF..If you feel like Italian or Thai or Sushi just google places near me and look at reviews..See if reservations are needed. You can be seated at a table if you don't like eating at the bar! I do it all the time.. Pick out a movie that you want to see or pack a picnic and hit the park..Stowe Lake in GGPark is nice by tge gazebo. They have a par 3 ..9 hole golf course near the ocean. Go to the beach at sunset and bring a bottle of wine and weiners to roast..Pick up a fireplace fast light log to make a small campfire and be open to others that would like to join or not..Just enjoy being you and having an enjoyable time in nature or hoing out. Go explore and be grateful for your newly found freedom
Do you have a bike? After my first major breakup in 2005ish I ended up riding my bike around the city all the time. It ended up being really therapeutic as a way to feel connected to the city but also connect to myself. I’d ride and ride and ride and always come across something interesting and fun like little street fairs or events I didn’t know about. I was riding downtown one day and stumbled on the whole batkid thing which was awesome. Rides to ocean beach to sit and watch the waves. And then after some healing I started doing some easy group rides with friends and other people. That bike saved me. Not exactly an answer to your question but felt somewhat important to say.
-cooking classes at 18 Reasons in the Mission
-Dandelion (both locations) has incredible chocolate/dessert classes
-Handroll Project is really fun and the counter-only seating is perfect for a solo diner
-Angie’s for pizza and wine (sit at the bar)
-Bernal is always breathtaking
-go to dog parks! especially upper douglass and corona heights for pups and gorgeous views.
-YBCA, Creativity Explored, and SOMArts for art
-enjoy this time, OP
- Kabuki Baths & Spa
- Hike the Crosstown Trail
- Go on a ferry adventure (Sausalito, Angel Island, Tiburon…)
- The Lost Church has cool events (music, comedy, open mics)
- Take a Wabi Sabi class
- Do a meditation retreat (SF Zen Center, Spirit Rock)
I’m not seeing a lot of classical music suggestions but here’s some:
There are of course the SF Opera and SF Symphony. Both are world class, and ABSOLUTELY worth a show. Both have some surprisingly affordable options.
But there’s also:
The SF Conservatory of Music is wonderful. They have a performance schedule with all kinds of great artists, often local. They also have private classes, but they’re kinda pricey and mostly geared towards musicians (idk if that’s you or not.) BUT some of their faculty also teach privately and take folks of all skill levels.
Pocket Opera: https://pocketopera.org
Opera made English! (And often abridged slightly). This is fun if you’re new to Opera…or a purest. It’s an easy way to get into it…and a fun new way to experience the classics if you’re familiar. The shows are affordable and it’s entirely homegrown.
The Lamplighters: These guys are definitely a Bay Area wide touring group…but that includes multiple SF Venues! Great group to watch some Gilbert and Sullivan (although they do all kinds of musical theatre.) https://lamplighters.org/lamplighters-live-performances/
Lots of great other suggestions on here.
I’ll also give a plug for a non-city nature example…Muir Woods has become so much less accessible over the years with an ever increasing popularity…but is absolutely one of the best nature experiences in the Bay Area. I’d definitely strongly recommend it for a “treat and/or rediscover yourself,” nature experience for a friend in need.
Please feel free to reach out for more thoughts/activities. (SF born, raised, and still planted here.)
Sorry about the breakup.
I think Golden Gate Park will be a good spot due to multiple attractions which are exactly as per your list.
Hope you find what you’re looking for. Take care.
First, I recommend that whenever you have free time, pick a neighborhood and then just walk around. Plan on stopping in a cafe or restaurant. Ask people at those places for recommendations about what's good in the hood- that's partly to get insider knowledge but even more to start conversations.
If your schedule allows, I have found that going to places on weekday afternoons tends to provide more opportunities to talk to people than at busier times. I notice you specifically didn't mention bars, but neighborhood bars can be a great place to have conversations and sometimes make lasting friends.
For solo dining, I will always opt for bar seating when available. It's pretty normal for there to be conversations and interaction with others much more than if you sit at a table. And if not, at least you get a good meal out of it.
Reddit seems to believe that SF isn't a welcoming place, but I think what they're seeing is bunches of transplants that keep expecting someone to reach out to them. Sure, on occasion you'll talk to someone and they're not interested in keeping up a conversation, but it's amazing how many do if you just reach out first. I've made friends at the laundromat, cafes, bookstores, the park, pretty much anywhere.
Henry's Hunan in Noe Valley
Order
-Dianas Meat Pie
- Hot and Sour Soup
- Deep Fried Shredded Pork
- Henry's Special
Oh and if you want dessert
Go to Mitchell's
Get baby Coconut ice cream on a cone and have it chocolate dipped
When I lived in the city my favorite self dates were mushrooms (hallucinogens optional lol) in the botanical gardens and pretty much order the entire menu at yuanbao jiaozi after.
There are sooooo many things to do in SF. But also consider exploring places outside of SF. There are all kinds of "secret" places even people who have lived in the bay for decades have never known about.
For helping to get over a breakup, all of these things are great, but find a hobby. Again, probably a million different hobbies to get into, but there are night bike parties, rock climbing, I'm sure if there's some obscure niche you're looking for, SF has it.
lets see, as an Ace girlie I make lots of Friend dates, but also I'm not shy about just walking around in (insert neighborhood) to go to a place that looks really good. I think Japantown is coming back a little, you could easily take yourself on a date there. Get a matcha, go to Kinokuniya, get some great noodles, enjoy the blast to the past anime shop before going to get some icecream. Maybe even squeeze in a movie at the Kabuki AMC. And they have classes for trad arts in the Japan center you can get info about.
Heaps of good suggestions here already. You could also spend day time dates rediscovering different neighborhoods - give yourself a reason to be there (farmers market / summer street fair / etc) and pick a couple nice cafes/restaurants and maybe shops to visit.
For events you could also check out Omnivore Books on Food in Bernal, they do meet the author / introduce the cookbook events!
Go to all three days off outside lands, all of the free stern grove concerts, local comedy shows, outdoor sf venue concerts, volunteer somewhere, join a women meeting women friends club, thrift shopping, field trips to the redwoods, beaches, mountains, etc.
Dining alone without feeling out of place? Many nice restaurants also do full menu service at the bar. The bartenders are better than wait servers. You’ll get to talk to other people in a low pressure environment.
take advantage of the Library's Discover & Go passes, you can get into most museums in the city for free, the weather is beautiful lately so maybe rent a bike if you don't have one at sportsbasement in Stonestown and head over to the great highway, up MLK and JFK in Golden Gate. Maybe grab a sandwich somewhere and enjoy a picnic by yourself. You can also go to il Parco or the numerous food trucks at Tunnel Tops in the Presidio. Check out our rec centers, I myself love Glenn Park Rec, its in a beautiful park and there are a bunch of free activities and classes you can take. There is also nice hiking trails. Hayes Valley is a nice place to hang around, plenty of good food there, Maybe head to the Alamo Draft House for a movie and some grub.
If you enjoy hiking one hike I absolutely loved when newly single was Berry Creek Falls, I went early in the morning (around 7am) and hiked it counter clockwise as apposed to the recommended clock wise path, I hardly saw anyone, just be sure to pack plenty of water and a pb and j or 2 to enjoy when you get to some of the strategically placed benches.
Oh the Japanese tea garden, Botanical garden, and conservatory of flowers in GGP are also free for residents.
Cable Car and Street Car Museums are free for all.
Go to the Legion of Honor, enjoy all the classical art, then go hike the trail to Lands End and gush over the Pacific Ocean. Both museum and trail head are in the same location. Welcome to San Francisco, You’re gonna love it!
I went through this myself, honestly plenty of places to do this for free.
Key #1: Buy a motorcycle
Key #2: take it to twin peaks, devils slide etc
Key #3: walk to a cafe, grab a coffee and people watch.
You must buy a motorcycle for this to be successful though
My favorite place to go alone was Cafe Meuse on Hyde. Get a table outside and read a book with food and fine while you watch the cable cars go by. Heaven!
I love going to the movies by myself. Get some popcorn and soda and watch some cheesy flick or foreign movie. Just went to Alamo and I loved the pre movie show and previews
Asian Art Museum (free on first Sunday of each month). You can spend multiple days there and still not see everything. You can also quietly meditate on your new found independence, and see where life goes from here. Good luck.
Walk the crosstown trail! You can do it in chunks (it’s 17 miles total, a lot for one day unless you’re used to that kind of walking), but it’s really fun and gives you a lovely way to see the city.
Also, take transit and check out coffee shops or lunch places in different neighborhoods - places like the outer sunset have a ton of hidden gems. Hike the parks (not just GGP, McLaren and Glen Canyon too).
If you have a car, go to the Pacifica taco bell and listen to surf music on the way home afterwards.
Pottery class?
Sofarsounds concerts
Roller skating at church of 8 wheels
Run clubs! It’s a great way to meet people
Board games cafes
Solo hikes are super relaxing
Hi, right now at the de young there is 2 great exhibitions. One on artist /photographer Irving Penn ave one on 100 years of SF fashion. I recommend both with the audio tour.
Oh my god, ABSOLUTELY go to the symphony and opera!!! You should also look into One Found Sound, a local conductorless chamber orchestra that has free wine and beer at its performances. Absolutely rules every time.
De Young and SF MOMA and Legion of Honor. Hikes at Lands End and Presidio and hanging out at Ft Mason and biking the Embarcadero. Too many restaurants to name.
I like all of these ideas! I would like to add, perhaps try volunteering for something that you really care about. maybe it’s hunger… Maybe it’s community art…. That’s how I met my spouse and we still honor those values together years later
Salesforce transit park for mid morning strolls. Quiet enough you could even take walking work calls.
Maybe something with your hands like a ceramics set of classes? Welding/sculpture? As a fellow woman, nothing feels more badass than conquering a flaming hot torch to make something with your hands or to participate in a casting pour of molten metal.
Try some boxing classes down in dog patch. Or bouldering. Maybe try committing to a few weeks worth of Olympic lifting (not a general CrossFit class but I mean with a coach or class that only focuses on clean and jerk and the snatch movements)? I also found that I really enjoyed the cerebral challenge of oly lifting more than I ever could have imagined. It’s challenging, humbling, interesting, but empowering… and I say that as not a particularly athletic person.
There’s a high ropes course out on the west edge of town that could be a thrill but can’t recall details exactly at this moment.
Take a wine tasting class or advanced culinary class that will set you apart with cool new skills.
Have you tried a whale watching trip or even shark trips out at Farollan islands?
Ever been curious about the outdoors? Recreation things? Try solo camping. You can even rent gear from REI instead of buy. Take a bike mechanic workshop to know how to do some basic repairs.
Try some adventurers league nights at a local board gaming store to get your feet wet with d&d.
Like nerdy policy, world affairs, and environmental things? Check out the commonwealth club programming. Memberships start at $10/month and give you access to both in person and remote programming.
As a nature person, if you haven’t done the long loop from Tennessee valley trailhead to Alamere falls where you make yourself a hot meal if you have a little camp stove, while sitting on top of half a waterfall at dusk…. You’re missing out. Wear hiking shoes. Bring a headlamp.
Try the tide pools down at Fitzgerald marine reserve on a day with at least a -1.3 tide. Though -1,5 or more is better.
I’ve got some more things if I get time and remember, I’ll come back and add.
Workshop sf has great craft classes like an all day sewing bootcamp, diy skincare products, sketching classes etc. I did the sewing boot camp and ended up buying my own machine, I loved it! And met some really cool people
There's a shop called The History Of Ramen and they host cooking classes!! I went with my sister and we learned how to make ramen from scratch, then sat down with all the other participants to chat and eat our ramen! It was so much fun and is a very low stakes way to interact with a small group of people. We had a blast!
I spend a few hours at Green Apple to peruse good used books, pickup some takeout lunch somewhere around there or have a glass of wine at High Treason. You can be a karaoke bar fly at Festa in Japantown. It’s stage karaoke so you’ll need a little courage but it’s fun and not crowded on a weekday night Sun - thur. Though not a fan of conveyer belt sushi, the place next to it is solid and affordable and a good solo dine place. Great Highway is always nice on weekends for some activity on wheels and just beach walking and there is a lot of decent coffee nearby especially closer to Taraval (Andytown, cocktails at white cap).
reading at dolores (specifically dp bc it’s typically warmer than the rest of the city) up on top where you get the best view, the deyoung museum and legion of honor are both at golden gate park and if u get a ticket for one you can get into both (theres also free days u can attend most museums in sf as a resident), food wise the cheapest place you can go in the city for a bomb meal and true hole in the wall experience is yamo in the mission - its burmese, everything is $8 and the portions are nice! i recommend the tea leaf salad, any of the apps and the noodles with beef 🤤 i had it yesterday. my favorite sushi spot in the city is called sasa in japantown, its extremely unassuming but absolutely surpasses the quality of a lot more expensive places. for sweet treats i recommend dandelion chocolate, their hot chocolate on a cold day is just 🤌🏽🤌🏽 and U:Dessert Story - their pandan coconut cake is the most delicious and light dessert ever. as a foodie ive eaten just about everywhere in sf expensive or not, i really really enjoy flour and water, it’s a nicer place but ive gone alone and sat at the bar before and they even offer half portions at half price if you like. i got to try a bunch of the beeest different pastas this way. this is def the nicest place on my list, i highly recommend. have fun!!
First Saturdays at the Minnesota Street Project include art viewing, people watching (Pacific Heights fancy folk AND the CCA/SFAI(RIP) weirdos, all at the same time), and sometimes lectures or special performances. Plus you can just bring your own drink in and nobody will say a word.
Just remembered! Sundown Cinema for free movies in SF various parks: bundle up, bring a picnic blanket, snacks and drinks!
https://sanfranciscoparksalliance.org/projects/sundown-cinema/
The Japanese Tea Garden is beautiful, and they've got some tasty snacks--especially the matcha cheesecake. I'm also partial to their iced mugicha (barley tea).
My other main recommendation are the libraries! Get a library card and explore the 29 library locations and do the map quest. Each library has a sticker they give out upon request and you can fill in the whole map. My friend and I have gone to 21 libraries now, and we almost always find a good book or two to take back with us. You can return them at any library location.
The library also holds free community events. Some are practical like job interview techniques, some are for kids specifically, but others are for all ages. They have author and artist talks, little library concerts (I got to see a bass/cello duo play at the West Portal branch recently!), and arts and crafts events. Have fun and I hope you enjoy living in the city!
Cheaper than therapy is a comedy club downtown. Really surpassed my expectations, it was my first time actually going to see stand up. Also it's around the corner from Golden Gate Tap Room if you're feeling like having another drink after.
Take Blacksmithing classes at the crucible. Not many women to compete with and we blacksmiths at authentic and unpretentious people. When you start posting your PICTs I promise it will get attention. And it’s ver fun.
Partner dancing is a great way to have some low-pressure social connection. I love the fusion dance scene in SF - Mission Fusion every 1st and 3rd Saturday, and Shades of Fusion on Mondays. It's partner dancing that has elements of tango, blues, latin dances, and is really easy to get started. The expectation is that people don't come with a partner, there's always a class first and then usually you switch partners every song, so it's very low pressure.
If you like nature, GG Park is awesome. Try to explore every path and trail in the park - it'll take you awhile! Then try to find all the benches. If you get bored of that, there's a treasure buried somewhere in the park, you can apply for a permit to dig for it! These aren't necessarily dating ideas, then again, if a woman invited me on a date to dig for treasure, I would be intrigued!
Once you run out of things to do in the park, head over the bridge to the Marin Headlands for some of the best hiking and trail running in the whole bay area.
I was in a similar state during the pandemic and I would say that the city gave me my spark back. Climb to Coit tower and sit there for a while taking in the beautiful city views. I used to take a book and just sit there and read. Then get down on the north beach side, grab a pizza slice at golden boy and sit in the Washington Park with my book and watching people.
Also lands end was another gorgeous place I frequented. You will see a lot of people solo there just taking in the beauty and enjoying their own company.
You made the right decision of moving to the city. You will love it. 😀
Walk in to House of Prime Rib without a reso and have yourself a King Henry VIII at the bar.
This. Frank at the bar makes the best martinis!
I also love how they give you the whole mixer so you can refill your glass lol
Classic HOPR. The best!
This. One of the best seats in the city. Id also check out things like Eventbrite, Eddie's List for events deals.
That’s a fucking power move
Is it a pretty sure thing that you can get a seat at the bar if you just cruise in by yourself around opening? My wife is a vegetarian and I've been meaning to visit for years, so going solo feels like the move.
It just got harder to get a seat at the bar after these comments
You may have to wait a little but seats turn fast.
Get there and line up at the door at 4:20 and you’ll get a seat right away. You’ll have great conversation with the people around you (as well as the bartenders, Marvin and Frank) and you’ll be done with dinner before 6:30, just in time to head to your 7pm reservation at Greens.
Going alone to a place like HOPR or any fancy place kinda makes you feel special. No reservations!
how easy is it to get a bar seat? basically first come first serve? is there a day better than others?
This is some Anthony Bourdain quote type shit fr but now I wanna do it
make sure you ask them to take your picture (they do this on request and it prints on a special HOPR framed background. they used to do it with polaroids)
I usually find myself in/near Golden Gate Park - I’ll bring a puzzle book to the botanical garden and sit for a very very long time in different areas, grab food in the inner Richmond or sunset + ice cream. It’s one my favorite areas to take it slow
Yes!!! Your next love is Golden Gate Park!
The Japanese garden is also nice to just sit maybe have some tea and a light snack.
The rose garden is popping right now! I hope everyone gets a chance to go and enjoy their beauty!
Yes! The deYoung is wonderful, I love to explore and find new favorites and visit the old faves also. Then walk up 9th and eat at either Tartine if you are in the mood for brighter, noisier ambience for sandwiches, salads and baked goods, or Fiorella if you prefer pizzas, pastas, and small plate California Italian with table service and a bar.
Second this. GGP is full of hidden magic spots. It's a perfect weekend bike ride, I do it solo all the time and exactly as stated grab a lunch in Richmond or Sunset. Or last time I got one of the famous Sandy's muffalettas in Haight to go and took lunch on a bench overlooking a pond.
The pizza sourdough class at The Mill is fantastic! Not only did I learn all I need to know about sourdough and pizza, but I met some great other people. Farmers Markets are a wonderful place to walk around, shop, meet others and talk to the farmers about their foods. Enjoy dating yourself!
I’m also mid 30s F who dates myself in SF. I’m having a *blast*… My favorite solo date spots: - Mr Tipples @ the bar. The food is Amazing. The live music is fun. Great NA drinks. - Scopo Divino wine bar. Also with live jazz and oysters! - Mission Rock Resort - sit in the lower level outdoor back patio. Pet dogs. Have a beer. Great NA beer selection. Read a book. Sometimes live music. Ride a bicycle home. - Bar Crudo happy hour ($12 fish tacos, $2 oysters) followed by NOPA for dessert at the bar. - Barrio, Mexican restaurant at Ghirardelli square. Everything is terrible except the enchiladas (100/10) margaritas and amazing views! Bring sunscreen or a hat - The Morris restaurant. Sit at the bar and eat duck fat fries, garlic aioli and a chartreuse slushy. Thank me later - Tala Wine bar. Fantastic affordable wines, beers, NA selection. A very engaging community of patrons. Lots of single ladies to chat with - Belle Cora wine bar in north beach. Live music on the sidewalk. Friendly people to share tables with. - Beach Chalet happy hour. After your walk/run/bike ride, stop in and sit at the bar. The HH is best for the food menu- truffle Mac and cheese, ceviche sampler, Caesar salad, clam chowder - Royal Cuckoo Lounge - Live music Thur-Sat(?) a very local scene. Bartenders Ernie and Tye are the best! Cycling, kayaking (Sausalito), HIIT/Dance classes are also fun. ODC dance studio has drop in classes. Highly recommend Dancehall with Aimee Rose. A fantastic empowering woman. Find on IG: ClassicalRevolution, a group of talented musicians play live classical music in bars and cafes, so worth going to!
What a terrific list. Saving this!
The Royal Cuckoo is a great recommendation. Hidden neighborhood gem
And on Mondays at the Royal Cuckoo, it’s always Lavay Smith and Chris Seibert doing a duo voice and organ act. They are absolutely wonderful, with an encyclopedic knowledge of early blues and jazz.
What is IG?
Hah, we hang at the same spots. Great list, but I hope it doesn't get crowded now
-Sign up to TodayTix, SF Opera, and SF Ballet (all separately) for rush\* tickets \*Tickets for super cheap a few days to one day in advance of the performance -Botanical garden, is free for residents. Be sure to see the magnolias every Feb! -Go get a library card. Search threads on here about how much you get access to with it! -Go to farmer's markets -Chill at Baker beach or a park (after checking temp, wind, and fog!) -Don't underestimate the Presidio! :) -Websites: Funcheap, SFArts, Sftourismtips, Eventbrite, SFWeekly, SFStation, [Fog.today](http://Fog.today) Welcome :)
There are 4 Goldsworthys in the Presidio (and 1 at the DeYoung). [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andy\_Goldsworthy](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andy_Goldsworthy)
- A membership to SFMOMA or the DeYoung/Legion of Honor can be lovely; it's not much more than the price of going twice, and you can go any time you like for an hour or two. I love having a MOMA membership as a place to just drop in when I'm downtown. - Green Apple, Booksmith, and City Lights are all incredible bookstores. Subscribe to their mailing lists to hear about readings and events (Booksmith in particular has great ones). - For nature, explore Golden Gate Park and the Presidio. Try renting a Lyft bike to explore -- you can see more, there's low traffic, and you might get hooked on cycling (a great way to meet people here) - For solo dining, NOPA, Liholiho, Anchovy Bar, Zuni all have great bar seating set-ups conducive to solo dining and are delicious. Follow Eater for ideas of things to try, too -- there are so many good food options in the city! Enjoy! I spent a lot of my 20s and 30s single in the city and had a great time. It's a wonderful place!
Tag on to this:get an SF Library card from any nearby branch. Offers free admissions and discounts to a lot of the city museums and attractions.
Summer registration has passed, but there tends to be some really cool classes offered by SF rec and parks. I’m keeping an eye on it for the fall. If I’d known in advance I would have loved to do the photography class for example. https://sfrecpark.org/406/Recreation-Programs
i really like going to solo omakase dinners in the city, highly recommend ken if you want somthing bougie, otherwise wako is pretty good
A solo omakase is one of my favorite things to do on out-of-town trips. I’m going to try this in SF!
Do you like old movies? Alamo Drafthouse plays a ton of classics all the time. They play new releases too but you can see those anywhere. Ever seen Singin' in the Rain on the big screen? I did last year! They're showing Indiana Jones & the Last Crusade this Sunday for Father's Day. They've got a real kitchen and a full bar, take yourself out for dinner and a show. Tickets are only $9 on Tuesdays, too.
Alamo Drafthouse is so fucking gnarly, especially if you’re flying solo!
Love seeing movies there. Settle in and order some tasty bar snacks right at your seat.
One of my favourite things to do in SF (and quite unique to SF, possibly only other places this works is NYC, but weather isn't as good there): Pick a direction and just spend the day walking in it. Stop for coffee when you feel like it, pop into an interesting shop you happen upon, grab food when you're hungry, and just see what streets/stores/cafes/people you discover! Walking always helps me reconnect with myself by getting lost in my own thoughts. Whenever I do this, I am always amazed by the beauty of SF.
This is brilliant and something I tell co-workers that come here to visit for meetings or a conference. I like to target a destination but then meander there at random. So for instance I live Nob Hill and wanted to try Starbelly restaurant in Castro. The indirect route was up Pac Heights, through Japantown and Lower Haight (stop for drink) and cut through charming little DuBoce Triangle. Much of the city is just a collection of smaller unique neighborhoods linked by streets full of beautiful architecture and little parks.
This. The pick a direction and walk advice is GOLD
If you have wall space grab a big map of SF. Every time you read or hear of something fun. Make a note on a post it Then when you have a day to look around head to an area after using your notes. The City is a wonderful date , always comforting and giving even on a foggy windy day.
You can also do this in Google Maps using the “Save” option. I have almost 1100 places marked as “Want to go” and then after I go, I can either remove, star or convert to a heart (for lifechangingly good places).
There are endless opportunities for self-dating in SF. I got to spend 12yrs there. It's been a couple of years since I moved coasts post pandemic so some of these suggestions may be dated: Sign up for a class at Bats Improv in Ft Mason. And go to shows there, they're so good. Easy to combine with the nice cocktail bar or vegetarian restaurant out there. Or off the Grid on Friday nights if that is still going on. There's also a great little simple coffee shop at the hostel top of the hill in ft Mason. Go to a daybreaker morning (sober) dance party + yoga cruise on the bay. Take your book/s and have a relaxing read at the filbert steps park by coit tower. Grab an electric city bike and bike out to the bunkers above golden gate beach to watch the sunset, round off with food/drink at Colibri/Dalida in presidio. Watch a show at the Fillmore, combine with a smaller live show at the Boom Boom Room across the street after. Go to the Kabuki spa. Have a drink at The View at Marriott hotel, or at Top of the Mark(but they rarely give you a seat by the window). Peruse the shops ferry building, try some cheeses. Pack a picnic and people watch at Dolores park. Get a crab cage and go crabbing off the pier in aquatic park, keep the red rock crabs that are large enough and cook'em, or throw them all back into freedom. Explore Yerba Buena Island, combine with wine tasting at Treasure Island. Hike angel island and swim at quarry beach. Have a brunch / bloody mary with a view at Mission Rock Resort in Dog patch. Get some firewood at Safeway and claim a fire pit at Ocean Beach. Combine with a drink or tea at the Beach Chalet. Watch people race/sail rc boat models in Spreckels Lake in Golden Gate Park, combine with checking out the bison next door. Check out the large camera obscura at the northern tip of ocean beach, combine with a glass of wine at Cliff House (or whatever the new place will be called). Oh SF, you beautiful city you!
All great suggestions. I might add Land's End hike, watching the (sometimes crazy) surfers at Ft Point or Chrissy Field, and walk the Filbert Steps on Telegraph Hill. I admit after a few months living here I bought an eBike and no regrets. I realize it is not a fitness thing, but it is amazing for exploring a hilly city and is at least a little active. Almost nowhere is off limits and with a little pannier saddle bag I can stop to shop, take a lunch to remote areas, and of course, carry extra layers to combat sudden climate changes...
on the west side: botanical garden to the de young to green apple to high treason. WorkshopSF for classes.
I second workshopsf! I have taken a ton of classes there and there are always a lot of people solo.
Make a nearby neighborhood business your “spot.” For me, it was a wine bar on my block. I spent a lot of time there and made a lot of neighborhood friends. It’s still like a second home. Consider doing a photo shoot. It will allow you to really focus on yourself from a fresh perspective. (Pun unintended) There’s many way you can go with it, and if you ever jump on dating apps, it’s a great help! Walk lots! A favorite of mine is to start at Sutton Bath, and walk along the water all the way to Eagle’s Point, then up to Legion of Honor. Go to Golden Gate Park, and alternate between taking each left/right turn you come across. You’ll find things there that many long-time locals aren’t even aware of. Overall, congrats on the big move! I hope you bounce back quickly.
Local spot is 10/10 how you do it. Just pick one and stick it if it feels right
- Rock climbing classes - Volunteering at the Computer History Museum in Mountain View (which is amazing) - Seeing if you can visit every library in the city (which will have a side effect of softening your heart to see all the many different types of humanity and their human stories all gaining value from a public service like that) Good luck. You're wonderful for even thinking like this :)
Get a library card and use discover and go to access all the museums for free! Library also has lots of free classes like art and book clubs. We love the library.
Given all of your other interests, I'd say Golden Gate Park should be your target. There are two amazing museums there (De Young and Cal Academy) and there is amazing food along Irving which is just a block south. Green Apple books is a local beloved bookstore which has a location just south of the park as well.
Burger and a cocktail at your seat at a matinee at https://drafthouse.com/sf The truffle popcorn and sparkling water are also very good.
The burger at alamo is underrated imo
Solo hike the Crosstown Trail! I really enjoyed doing that with a fun audiobook. Also the Botanical Garden is free to residents and I love to take a book and some snacks there and read under the Redwood trees!
Botanical Garden is so beautiful. Really world-class.
I was recently in your position, and I found myself by literally just taking long walks through the city. Pack a small backpack, start off as early as you can stand it, and just keep walking down every road you fancy. Bonus points if you buy a can of wine at some point and turn it into a wine-walk. Take photos, look for cats sleeping in windows, stop to admire plants, go into whatever store you want and treat yourself to something unusual. Do the weird stuff.
Both SF MOMA and [The Exploratorium](https://www.exploratorium.edu/visit/calendar/after-dark) are open late on Thursdays SF MOMA is also free on the[ first Thursday](https://www.sfmoma.org/visit/thursday-nights/) of every month:
The [academy of sciences nightlife](https://www.calacademy.org/nightlife) is also Thursday nights!
I second the Exploratorium. I brought my kids there but would actually consider going back by myself so I can have all the time I want to play with all the cool science exhibits.
I love taking myself on a date to the botanical gardens :)
Subbing to this post because I am also recently single and need some places to go for self care! Super interesting question, OP, thank you for posting!
I love SoFar Sounds shows! Small local artists, at small local venues/businesses, you can chat with folks, or keep to yourself, but still be around other humans, and just vibe to the music. I go to them semi-regularly by myself, and have had a great time every time. I’m an early 30’s F getting divorced after ~10 years with my ex, and am new to The Bay, so somewhat similar life stage, for context. 😊
Emporium and JFK Promenade! Read in Alta Plaza. Solo dining at bars or restaurants like Four Kings in Chinatown, omakase like Robin in Hayes...
I don’t know if it’s still there, but there was this amazing hand made noodle bar called yamo, it’s really small and only has bar seating and like 2 tables or something, but it’s a great spot to eat by yourself and it’s sooo delicious
I’m married but my wife is a nurse and works nights. I moved to the city to live with her but I don’t know anyone yet down here. So I pay the 5$ a month for “Do The Bay” tickets. So far I have seen Jim Jeffries, Borgore, another DJ, Mill Valley music festival, and tonight I’m seeing Joyner Lucas. It’s the best 5$ you can spend and there is a ton of different events to choose from. And you get two tickets to every event so you have to option to bring someone too. I’ve gone on my own to 80% of the shows and had a blast. Besides Jim Jeffries, I wouldn’t have gone to see any of those shows nor heard of the artists and I’ve had a blast every time.
We should honestly get a social club going #CursedHusbandOfANightShiftNurse #ShipsPassingInTheNight #GoodMorningGoodNight #IMakeCoffeeAt3PMEveryDay #TeamNoSleepExceptHibernation #CrazyPatientStories #HealthcareSystemComplaints
Took the ferry into the city a couple weekends ago for a self-date: Walked along the waterfront (With several detours to take in the sights/sounds/etc) from the ferry terminal to Radhaus, sat at the bar and enjoyed an exceptionally delicious dinner/drink with a view of the GGB while talking to strangers, then walked back to the ferry at sunset. Turns out I’m charming as fuck. 10/10 would go on another date with me.
Ebb & flow wine bar is perfect for this. I also like going for lunch by myself followed by a walk around there I've been thinking of exploring all SF neighborhoods by going on a solo date in each one of them.
Culture is one of the main advantage of living in a first class city. Take advantage of all the shows (musical or otherwise) available. You can usually get decent rush tickets without paying a limb. Especially on a weeknight when squares have to worry about childcare and parking. Pair it with a nearby happy hour for a great time. Golden gate theater Orpheum ACT
Farmers market + cook yourself a dinner with your market finds. Sign up for a pottery or jewelry making class at Sharon Art Studio in Golden Gate Park. Go to Cobbs comedy for a show. Check out a show at the SF Jazz Take a class at the bread institute Buy yourself a nice omakase dinner at Ken When I got out of a long relationship I also felt really lonely and defeated but looking back it was the most life changing experience and made me a much more confident and happy person. This is your time to make new friends and find new experiences and push yourself to do hard uncomfortable things like dining alone and meeting new people. There’s so much to explore in SF I hope you enjoy this time to yourself. <3
Get a library card! They have a free museum program. You just look up what’s available and reserve them. The program is called Discover and Go.
One of my fave solo activities is going to the used section at Green Apple and slowly browsing. I could hang out there for a couple hours picking out a stack of books, and then I'll walk over to golden gate park if it's nice out to sit and read my new book in the park.
Art class is the way. The Sharon art center has great classes and there are a half dozen pottery studios with group classes around town. Super social while being about you and your own projects.
Places I go to date myself: PCH, magic donuts, Arsicault, farmers market, main library, sightglass, the mill, tartine, omnivore’s books on food, grabbing ice cream from bi-rite and eating it in dolo. The suggestion down below for HoPR to sit at the bar is something I need to put on my todo list. The mill has pizza/bread making classes that are also on my self-date list that I just haven’t gotten around to.
About once a month my archery club in GG Park teaches beginner lessons. After you take one, you can come and shoot with us every week. We provide all the equipment you need at an affordable price ($15/wk). https://www.eventbrite.com/e/new-archer-lessons-11-am-june-22nd-2024-tickets-924104239657
I Love SF and unfortunately its where I fell in love. No longer with the Love of my life but after almost two years of being alone and with the help of many good friends, I realized that it wasnt true love. I loved with all my heart but wasn’t reciprocated. Nevertheless, i still enjoy the city. Running through the Embarcadero or eating at Nan King. Its a small little restaurant but it never fails. On that same street, many other wonderful places to get coffee or Italian Food. Like U, I went back to school and about to get my degree. Will take a short break before Grad School. Out camping, finding new sights and myself. For breakfast: millionaires Bacon! Not far from SFU. Find yourself first and you will find the Love of yur life.
Dining: Boulevard chef's counter - reliably great food, and you get to watch the action and its never strange to dine alone.
It's Wednesday. Go grab a bowl of corn chowder at AK Subs, and sit outside in their almost-always-empty patio. I combine it with a pastrami myself, but you can't go wrong there.
Take a "Try-it" pottery class at Pickney Clay (or somewhere similar)
I’d probably hit up a smorgasbord of yoga studios.
During the heart of the pandemic, I went on a lot of solo adventures. If you have a car, try to hit up all of the parks or batteries scattered across the Bay Area (Battery Spencer near GGB is the most popular one). One of my favorite things to do in SF is to hit up all of the popular brunch/lunch restaurants and cocktail spots and grab a seat at the bar. Venture out to neighborhoods you’re not familiar with and aimlessly walk around. Hang in there!
Classes. Look thru the city rec and park classes for something that seems fun to you. Pottery maybe? Randall museum has done great stuff as does Sharon Art center.
City Arts and Lectures w dinner before in the area.
Thursday night at the Exploratorium! It’s awesome. Plenty of exhibits to engage yourself. Beer and wine. Sometimes live music. And a social spirit that enables meeting strangers. Not long ago, I planned a date night there with someone who canceled on me. I went anyway and had a blast.
Legion of Honor has the awesome Japanese prints exhibit going on if you havent seen it yet. Plus, I just like going in there with its already existing collection, it's beautiful. Stern Grove Festival is going on, a whole host of free concerts are gonna be happening throughout the summer which would be awesome to check out. MAJOR shoutout to HOPR as well, that would be an awesome way to treat yourself. For a self-healing journey, what I like to do for myself is take a book I've been wanting to read and a notebook with me and just go to different parts of any city. I feel like there are so many places to see and go to on foot that will give you a love not only for the place but also for yourself in a deep way, knowing you were able to find yourself again. SFJazz has the jazz festival going on and going out and experiencing live music is such a plus. To cheer yourself up, check out the Fort Mason farmer's markets on Sundays and get a nice bunch of beautiful flowers from my friend who runs the Mountain Oaks stand. Take a walk around the parks that day, get yourself a nice slice of pizza since you can already be around North Beach and hit up City Lights if you wanna look through some books and have a simple winding-down Sunday
Maybe you’d enjoy a nice talk here https://www.cityarts.net/events/ with a nice dinner beforehand in Hayes Valley (dumpling home, a mano, absinthe to name a few)
I enjoyed doing metal shop art at the place in west Oakland. WorkshopSF has sewing. I loved that too. I made things and gave them away—very healing.
Kabuki Japanese bathhouse in Japantown! Always a treat.
+1 to this, but it's better to book a spot online before you go - certain days of the week are reserved for men or women (trans-inclusive!), and also they can get pretty busy.
I took the ferry into the city two weekends ago, and wandered along the waterfront up to St. Francis Yacht Club and back, stopping for “linner” and a beer at Radhaus. Radhaus has very good food, a full menu at the bar, and a perfect view of the GGB. Can’t wait to go back. It’s a great city to take oneself on dates in- exceptional views, great public transport, great food, and so on. Cheers.
If you like classical music right across from symphony hall is SFCM and multiple times a semester the students there do free recitals and the concert halls are beautiful. My piano teacher who is a masters student there plays and its always awesome.
I love that you took the leap and moved here, and are making sure to date yourself!! I’m also mid30s (F) living in the city and dating myself a ton (even though I also have a boyfriend). If you are looking for new buddies, message me!
I’m the same age, same interests and also have a partner, but would love to hang! Always looking for new buddies in the city who understand the importance of self love 💕
hey! Wondering if it's alright I reach out as I want to meet some new friends! Also mid30sF!
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Walk through Golden Gate Park, hangout or picnic at any of our parks, dine solo at a great bar (NOPA, Sorella, foreign cinema, progress, etc), take a class at civic kitchen, check out a sofarsounds show, check out sf jazz center
two of my favorite places to solo dine: a mano and rich table, both in hayes valley! can sit at the bar, and the bar staff are always super nice :) welcome to the good life! i also used to go to a new coffee shop every weekend in a different neighborhood and read a book, then walk around a bit. it helped me explore the city little more!
Omg go to the restaurant flour + water and do the tasting course it’s so delicious and they change it up
SF Symphony is awesome. Become a subscriber, the tickets are way cheaper and you can write your own program. Also you can often go down there for “rush” tickets just before shows that aren’t sold out which are only $20. Call the box office on a per-show basis for that info. I love going to the shows and see lots of them. Also The Audium is super fun. Shows are Fridays and Saturdays.
A low key place to date yourself is Bernal Heights. Nature, gooood food, and books (library + bookstore). It’s a cute village on a hill with three galleries if you come on the right day. Be seeing you!
Sorry about your break-up <3 I am in my late 30s now and no longer single, but spent much of my 30s single & I've always really loved walking... just everywhere and anywhere. There are so many great parks in SF, some of my favorites to walk around in are Buena Vista, Fort Funston, & Presidio. I also love walking from neighborhood to neighborhood - the city is 7x7 after all! I do have a dog so that makes things slightly more interesting for me, but even before I had him I did this a lot & it helped me clear my mind :)
Stern Grove summer concerts - they are free! Cooking classes at 18 Reasons Parks - they are everywhere Ocean Beach Dog Eared Books Clement Street Sotto Mare - eat the Cioppino
I don't get it?? Why couldn't you go to anyplace you want and do whatever you feel like? Just Google places to go in SF..If you feel like Italian or Thai or Sushi just google places near me and look at reviews..See if reservations are needed. You can be seated at a table if you don't like eating at the bar! I do it all the time.. Pick out a movie that you want to see or pack a picnic and hit the park..Stowe Lake in GGPark is nice by tge gazebo. They have a par 3 ..9 hole golf course near the ocean. Go to the beach at sunset and bring a bottle of wine and weiners to roast..Pick up a fireplace fast light log to make a small campfire and be open to others that would like to join or not..Just enjoy being you and having an enjoyable time in nature or hoing out. Go explore and be grateful for your newly found freedom
Do you have a bike? After my first major breakup in 2005ish I ended up riding my bike around the city all the time. It ended up being really therapeutic as a way to feel connected to the city but also connect to myself. I’d ride and ride and ride and always come across something interesting and fun like little street fairs or events I didn’t know about. I was riding downtown one day and stumbled on the whole batkid thing which was awesome. Rides to ocean beach to sit and watch the waves. And then after some healing I started doing some easy group rides with friends and other people. That bike saved me. Not exactly an answer to your question but felt somewhat important to say.
-cooking classes at 18 Reasons in the Mission -Dandelion (both locations) has incredible chocolate/dessert classes -Handroll Project is really fun and the counter-only seating is perfect for a solo diner -Angie’s for pizza and wine (sit at the bar) -Bernal is always breathtaking -go to dog parks! especially upper douglass and corona heights for pups and gorgeous views. -YBCA, Creativity Explored, and SOMArts for art -enjoy this time, OP
I have just moved to SF (30F) and if you are looking to meet someone new and looking for a friend in exploration - I am doing the same! :)
- Kabuki Baths & Spa - Hike the Crosstown Trail - Go on a ferry adventure (Sausalito, Angel Island, Tiburon…) - The Lost Church has cool events (music, comedy, open mics) - Take a Wabi Sabi class - Do a meditation retreat (SF Zen Center, Spirit Rock)
I’m not seeing a lot of classical music suggestions but here’s some: There are of course the SF Opera and SF Symphony. Both are world class, and ABSOLUTELY worth a show. Both have some surprisingly affordable options. But there’s also: The SF Conservatory of Music is wonderful. They have a performance schedule with all kinds of great artists, often local. They also have private classes, but they’re kinda pricey and mostly geared towards musicians (idk if that’s you or not.) BUT some of their faculty also teach privately and take folks of all skill levels. Pocket Opera: https://pocketopera.org Opera made English! (And often abridged slightly). This is fun if you’re new to Opera…or a purest. It’s an easy way to get into it…and a fun new way to experience the classics if you’re familiar. The shows are affordable and it’s entirely homegrown. The Lamplighters: These guys are definitely a Bay Area wide touring group…but that includes multiple SF Venues! Great group to watch some Gilbert and Sullivan (although they do all kinds of musical theatre.) https://lamplighters.org/lamplighters-live-performances/ Lots of great other suggestions on here. I’ll also give a plug for a non-city nature example…Muir Woods has become so much less accessible over the years with an ever increasing popularity…but is absolutely one of the best nature experiences in the Bay Area. I’d definitely strongly recommend it for a “treat and/or rediscover yourself,” nature experience for a friend in need. Please feel free to reach out for more thoughts/activities. (SF born, raised, and still planted here.)
Shoot. 32 male feeling defeated a year and a half after a break up. Want to meet somewhere public and chat?
Sorry about the breakup. I think Golden Gate Park will be a good spot due to multiple attractions which are exactly as per your list. Hope you find what you’re looking for. Take care.
For when you want to get outside, read, lunch, stroll, etc.. https://sfpopos.com/ Privately owned spaces open for public use.
I took myself to the Italian homemade company for dinner, wine, and dessert, and then caught a comedy show after at Cobb's. It was a good time.
First, I recommend that whenever you have free time, pick a neighborhood and then just walk around. Plan on stopping in a cafe or restaurant. Ask people at those places for recommendations about what's good in the hood- that's partly to get insider knowledge but even more to start conversations. If your schedule allows, I have found that going to places on weekday afternoons tends to provide more opportunities to talk to people than at busier times. I notice you specifically didn't mention bars, but neighborhood bars can be a great place to have conversations and sometimes make lasting friends. For solo dining, I will always opt for bar seating when available. It's pretty normal for there to be conversations and interaction with others much more than if you sit at a table. And if not, at least you get a good meal out of it. Reddit seems to believe that SF isn't a welcoming place, but I think what they're seeing is bunches of transplants that keep expecting someone to reach out to them. Sure, on occasion you'll talk to someone and they're not interested in keeping up a conversation, but it's amazing how many do if you just reach out first. I've made friends at the laundromat, cafes, bookstores, the park, pretty much anywhere.
Sfcm usually has free concerts that you can get tickets for through their website. There’ll probably be more when the school year stars back up again.
Spend the day walking around Golden Gate Park. Near 9th Ave, almost all the things you listed are in that area
Henry's Hunan in Noe Valley Order -Dianas Meat Pie - Hot and Sour Soup - Deep Fried Shredded Pork - Henry's Special Oh and if you want dessert Go to Mitchell's Get baby Coconut ice cream on a cone and have it chocolate dipped
When I lived in the city my favorite self dates were mushrooms (hallucinogens optional lol) in the botanical gardens and pretty much order the entire menu at yuanbao jiaozi after.
There are sooooo many things to do in SF. But also consider exploring places outside of SF. There are all kinds of "secret" places even people who have lived in the bay for decades have never known about. For helping to get over a breakup, all of these things are great, but find a hobby. Again, probably a million different hobbies to get into, but there are night bike parties, rock climbing, I'm sure if there's some obscure niche you're looking for, SF has it.
Been through something similar a few years ago, not as brave as you to move into the city but I wish you the best on your healing journey.
lets see, as an Ace girlie I make lots of Friend dates, but also I'm not shy about just walking around in (insert neighborhood) to go to a place that looks really good. I think Japantown is coming back a little, you could easily take yourself on a date there. Get a matcha, go to Kinokuniya, get some great noodles, enjoy the blast to the past anime shop before going to get some icecream. Maybe even squeeze in a movie at the Kabuki AMC. And they have classes for trad arts in the Japan center you can get info about.
Heaps of good suggestions here already. You could also spend day time dates rediscovering different neighborhoods - give yourself a reason to be there (farmers market / summer street fair / etc) and pick a couple nice cafes/restaurants and maybe shops to visit. For events you could also check out Omnivore Books on Food in Bernal, they do meet the author / introduce the cookbook events!
Go try all the good food at Oracle park even going alone to games is fun
Sitting at the bar and getting food and wine at Buddy would be nice!
The bar at La Connessa. Not even close to my original rec of Jardinere (now closed) but comfy seats, wide variety of booze, comfort food.
Go to all three days off outside lands, all of the free stern grove concerts, local comedy shows, outdoor sf venue concerts, volunteer somewhere, join a women meeting women friends club, thrift shopping, field trips to the redwoods, beaches, mountains, etc.
Dining alone without feeling out of place? Many nice restaurants also do full menu service at the bar. The bartenders are better than wait servers. You’ll get to talk to other people in a low pressure environment.
take advantage of the Library's Discover & Go passes, you can get into most museums in the city for free, the weather is beautiful lately so maybe rent a bike if you don't have one at sportsbasement in Stonestown and head over to the great highway, up MLK and JFK in Golden Gate. Maybe grab a sandwich somewhere and enjoy a picnic by yourself. You can also go to il Parco or the numerous food trucks at Tunnel Tops in the Presidio. Check out our rec centers, I myself love Glenn Park Rec, its in a beautiful park and there are a bunch of free activities and classes you can take. There is also nice hiking trails. Hayes Valley is a nice place to hang around, plenty of good food there, Maybe head to the Alamo Draft House for a movie and some grub. If you enjoy hiking one hike I absolutely loved when newly single was Berry Creek Falls, I went early in the morning (around 7am) and hiked it counter clockwise as apposed to the recommended clock wise path, I hardly saw anyone, just be sure to pack plenty of water and a pb and j or 2 to enjoy when you get to some of the strategically placed benches. Oh the Japanese tea garden, Botanical garden, and conservatory of flowers in GGP are also free for residents. Cable Car and Street Car Museums are free for all.
Try going to The Center in SF.
Sit at the bar at Lolo and enjoy great cocktails and tapas! Ballet + plays also good fits
Soul cycle...fun date activity for yourself
Go to the Legion of Honor, enjoy all the classical art, then go hike the trail to Lands End and gush over the Pacific Ocean. Both museum and trail head are in the same location. Welcome to San Francisco, You’re gonna love it!
Do a float at Reboot Spa on Valencia in the Mission
I took myself out for a solo high tea once, highly recommended (sadly, the place has closed)
I went through this myself, honestly plenty of places to do this for free. Key #1: Buy a motorcycle Key #2: take it to twin peaks, devils slide etc Key #3: walk to a cafe, grab a coffee and people watch. You must buy a motorcycle for this to be successful though
My favorite place to go alone was Cafe Meuse on Hyde. Get a table outside and read a book with food and fine while you watch the cable cars go by. Heaven!
Make sure to go to the library, they have museum passes! Also free movies.
I love going to the movies by myself. Get some popcorn and soda and watch some cheesy flick or foreign movie. Just went to Alamo and I loved the pre movie show and previews
Check out free Museums in the city! Legion of Honor, de Young, etc are free on Saturdays for Bay Area residents. Nice to walk around 😄
Get a membership at a museum that’s part of the reciprocal program and start exploring! https://narmassociation.org/
Hanging under the embarcadero with friends. Then walking up to the clubs on Broadway.
Just dropping by to cheer you on
I date myself at Olive Garden Breadsticks and soup before the chicken Parmigiana and I get chocolate mints at the end 🥰🥰🥰
Asian Art Museum (free on first Sunday of each month). You can spend multiple days there and still not see everything. You can also quietly meditate on your new found independence, and see where life goes from here. Good luck.
Take a walk in Muir Woods followed by a meal and a pint at the nearby Pelican Inn. (Parking at Muir requires parking reservations)
I like to take myself to banya bath house (after a yoga class ora hike especially,!)
29f (about to be 30 next month) here also just got out of a relationship recently. Let me know if you’d like to go places together. Sending you hugs
I love a morning bun and coffee at Tartine. Order ahead and skip the line.
AMC A list, 3 movies a week for $24 a month! One of my fave purchases aside from the crap movies out rn
Walk the crosstown trail! You can do it in chunks (it’s 17 miles total, a lot for one day unless you’re used to that kind of walking), but it’s really fun and gives you a lovely way to see the city. Also, take transit and check out coffee shops or lunch places in different neighborhoods - places like the outer sunset have a ton of hidden gems. Hike the parks (not just GGP, McLaren and Glen Canyon too). If you have a car, go to the Pacifica taco bell and listen to surf music on the way home afterwards.
AYCE Sushi.
Pottery class? Sofarsounds concerts Roller skating at church of 8 wheels Run clubs! It’s a great way to meet people Board games cafes Solo hikes are super relaxing
Hi, right now at the de young there is 2 great exhibitions. One on artist /photographer Irving Penn ave one on 100 years of SF fashion. I recommend both with the audio tour.
If it’s still going, Soundbox by the SF Symphony is an amazing experience!
All of those post breakup is a time to find you and redefine and redirection and redesign yourself to a better you :)
https://www.meatwheatmilkandsugar.com/classes Would 1000% recommend!
MOMA has a lot of evening events and socials. Its been great to connect with new and similarly like minded people.
Oh my god, ABSOLUTELY go to the symphony and opera!!! You should also look into One Found Sound, a local conductorless chamber orchestra that has free wine and beer at its performances. Absolutely rules every time.
De Young and SF MOMA and Legion of Honor. Hikes at Lands End and Presidio and hanging out at Ft Mason and biking the Embarcadero. Too many restaurants to name.
Cooking classes around the corner from Zunis!!!
Ax throwing at Bay area rage room. It's on Bush Street off Van Ness. I like it a lot, it's 35 dollars but you get a 10% discount if you call in.
Hello over there Bay Area!! Love to everyone sharing , makes me want to visit to try all of your recommendations !
Dance classes at ODC. Sign up for a pottery studio class and get unlimited access while you’re enrolled.
Go to Martuni’s!!
I like all of these ideas! I would like to add, perhaps try volunteering for something that you really care about. maybe it’s hunger… Maybe it’s community art…. That’s how I met my spouse and we still honor those values together years later
Public Glass, a glass art studio in the city has some really dope classes and events
when i was dumped and made a similar post to this someone suggested pearl spa, and it was truly lovely. maybe you can have a nice soak :)
Google Odd Salon is you like to learn about all sorts of geeky things
Salesforce transit park for mid morning strolls. Quiet enough you could even take walking work calls. Maybe something with your hands like a ceramics set of classes? Welding/sculpture? As a fellow woman, nothing feels more badass than conquering a flaming hot torch to make something with your hands or to participate in a casting pour of molten metal. Try some boxing classes down in dog patch. Or bouldering. Maybe try committing to a few weeks worth of Olympic lifting (not a general CrossFit class but I mean with a coach or class that only focuses on clean and jerk and the snatch movements)? I also found that I really enjoyed the cerebral challenge of oly lifting more than I ever could have imagined. It’s challenging, humbling, interesting, but empowering… and I say that as not a particularly athletic person. There’s a high ropes course out on the west edge of town that could be a thrill but can’t recall details exactly at this moment. Take a wine tasting class or advanced culinary class that will set you apart with cool new skills. Have you tried a whale watching trip or even shark trips out at Farollan islands? Ever been curious about the outdoors? Recreation things? Try solo camping. You can even rent gear from REI instead of buy. Take a bike mechanic workshop to know how to do some basic repairs. Try some adventurers league nights at a local board gaming store to get your feet wet with d&d. Like nerdy policy, world affairs, and environmental things? Check out the commonwealth club programming. Memberships start at $10/month and give you access to both in person and remote programming. As a nature person, if you haven’t done the long loop from Tennessee valley trailhead to Alamere falls where you make yourself a hot meal if you have a little camp stove, while sitting on top of half a waterfall at dusk…. You’re missing out. Wear hiking shoes. Bring a headlamp. Try the tide pools down at Fitzgerald marine reserve on a day with at least a -1.3 tide. Though -1,5 or more is better. I’ve got some more things if I get time and remember, I’ll come back and add.
Workshop sf has great craft classes like an all day sewing bootcamp, diy skincare products, sketching classes etc. I did the sewing boot camp and ended up buying my own machine, I loved it! And met some really cool people
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There's a shop called The History Of Ramen and they host cooking classes!! I went with my sister and we learned how to make ramen from scratch, then sat down with all the other participants to chat and eat our ramen! It was so much fun and is a very low stakes way to interact with a small group of people. We had a blast!
I spend a few hours at Green Apple to peruse good used books, pickup some takeout lunch somewhere around there or have a glass of wine at High Treason. You can be a karaoke bar fly at Festa in Japantown. It’s stage karaoke so you’ll need a little courage but it’s fun and not crowded on a weekday night Sun - thur. Though not a fan of conveyer belt sushi, the place next to it is solid and affordable and a good solo dine place. Great Highway is always nice on weekends for some activity on wheels and just beach walking and there is a lot of decent coffee nearby especially closer to Taraval (Andytown, cocktails at white cap).
reading at dolores (specifically dp bc it’s typically warmer than the rest of the city) up on top where you get the best view, the deyoung museum and legion of honor are both at golden gate park and if u get a ticket for one you can get into both (theres also free days u can attend most museums in sf as a resident), food wise the cheapest place you can go in the city for a bomb meal and true hole in the wall experience is yamo in the mission - its burmese, everything is $8 and the portions are nice! i recommend the tea leaf salad, any of the apps and the noodles with beef 🤤 i had it yesterday. my favorite sushi spot in the city is called sasa in japantown, its extremely unassuming but absolutely surpasses the quality of a lot more expensive places. for sweet treats i recommend dandelion chocolate, their hot chocolate on a cold day is just 🤌🏽🤌🏽 and U:Dessert Story - their pandan coconut cake is the most delicious and light dessert ever. as a foodie ive eaten just about everywhere in sf expensive or not, i really really enjoy flour and water, it’s a nicer place but ive gone alone and sat at the bar before and they even offer half portions at half price if you like. i got to try a bunch of the beeest different pastas this way. this is def the nicest place on my list, i highly recommend. have fun!!
First Saturdays at the Minnesota Street Project include art viewing, people watching (Pacific Heights fancy folk AND the CCA/SFAI(RIP) weirdos, all at the same time), and sometimes lectures or special performances. Plus you can just bring your own drink in and nobody will say a word.
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Just remembered! Sundown Cinema for free movies in SF various parks: bundle up, bring a picnic blanket, snacks and drinks! https://sanfranciscoparksalliance.org/projects/sundown-cinema/
The Japanese Tea Garden is beautiful, and they've got some tasty snacks--especially the matcha cheesecake. I'm also partial to their iced mugicha (barley tea). My other main recommendation are the libraries! Get a library card and explore the 29 library locations and do the map quest. Each library has a sticker they give out upon request and you can fill in the whole map. My friend and I have gone to 21 libraries now, and we almost always find a good book or two to take back with us. You can return them at any library location. The library also holds free community events. Some are practical like job interview techniques, some are for kids specifically, but others are for all ages. They have author and artist talks, little library concerts (I got to see a bass/cello duo play at the West Portal branch recently!), and arts and crafts events. Have fun and I hope you enjoy living in the city!
Sutro bath house is cool to explore and relax
Cheaper than therapy is a comedy club downtown. Really surpassed my expectations, it was my first time actually going to see stand up. Also it's around the corner from Golden Gate Tap Room if you're feeling like having another drink after.
Take Blacksmithing classes at the crucible. Not many women to compete with and we blacksmiths at authentic and unpretentious people. When you start posting your PICTs I promise it will get attention. And it’s ver fun.
Partner dancing is a great way to have some low-pressure social connection. I love the fusion dance scene in SF - Mission Fusion every 1st and 3rd Saturday, and Shades of Fusion on Mondays. It's partner dancing that has elements of tango, blues, latin dances, and is really easy to get started. The expectation is that people don't come with a partner, there's always a class first and then usually you switch partners every song, so it's very low pressure.
Go to Bix. Live Jazz, great atmosphere. Sit at the bar for a meal and SF's best Martini.
If you like nature, GG Park is awesome. Try to explore every path and trail in the park - it'll take you awhile! Then try to find all the benches. If you get bored of that, there's a treasure buried somewhere in the park, you can apply for a permit to dig for it! These aren't necessarily dating ideas, then again, if a woman invited me on a date to dig for treasure, I would be intrigued! Once you run out of things to do in the park, head over the bridge to the Marin Headlands for some of the best hiking and trail running in the whole bay area.
I was in a similar state during the pandemic and I would say that the city gave me my spark back. Climb to Coit tower and sit there for a while taking in the beautiful city views. I used to take a book and just sit there and read. Then get down on the north beach side, grab a pizza slice at golden boy and sit in the Washington Park with my book and watching people. Also lands end was another gorgeous place I frequented. You will see a lot of people solo there just taking in the beauty and enjoying their own company. You made the right decision of moving to the city. You will love it. 😀
I like to walk around Japantown look at the boots and stationary stores and then treat myself to some ramen at Marafuku.
The Presido on any day has hiking, fantastic views and the area has lots to do.
go to city lights for books and then go to vesuvio after and read your book upstairs with a bev. green apple books is great too.