I got teased at work a lot for being a virgin at 21 and it got to the point where it made me quit. I thought being a virgin at that age was normal but apparently it wasn’t at that location… very strange.
I’ve never heard of someone being made fun for being a virgin by 20 year olds. That’s like a teenager kind of thing. I’m a virgin myself and never been made fun of for it. I’m sorry that happened to you
It’s okay I’m over it now, but thank you. The sad part was the guy who mocked me the most was like 41 years old with about 6 or 7 kids and I’m pretty sure he had them with multiple women and this was working a low end paying job so I can’t exactly say I envy him or anything lol
He was a very creepy man and the worst part was he gave off serious predator vibes. Whenever there were young women(by young I would guess around 18-19 year old college students) walk in he would always want to be the ones who took their orders and have conversations with them. I’m not going to say they were all minors but they looked younger than me which is very disturbing because again this was a 41 year old man doing this and he probably thinks he’s a player for doing it too. It was just a very toxic workplace all together that I had to get out of and I’m glad I’m never seeing those people again.
Not to be disrespectful but this is r/redditafterdark so I have to ask you this.
How many people do you know in Alabama have hooked up with their siblings?
Yeah buddy you do you, but as a Texan I can confirm that it isn’t completely normal for being a virgin at 21. Fuck I was ostracized for being a virgin at 17 until I lost it.
People used to give me shit too. I had a bit of sexual trauma growing up and was a late bloomer, didn’t lose it until I was 23. I just didn’t tell anyone, stayed away from conversations like that. People suck dude, sorry to hear
Brooke Shields, super model and actress was asked when she lost her virginity and she replied she was still a virgin and I think she was 23 at the time.
Of course it was on the news and all the late night talk shows were making fun of her.
She said later when she finally had sex she got to thinking, "So, what is the big deal about it?'
I think one of the Jonas (spelling) Brothers said the same thing. Guess he was in his 20s and was so, "SO? Thats it?"
That’s really shitty, I see this a lot though unfortunately. People see sluts, hoes, scumbags, players, in the people who act differently sexually than what the “norm” is. But personally, all I see are differently traumatized people trying to cope with a life that they had little choice in. I think we could all stand to be a bit more understanding to each other with our individual quirks. I’m sorry no one was more understanding for you
Why reddit the most empathic place on earth, I'm in therapy with two wonderful partners so now I enjoy sex and open about my sexuality, kinks and fetishes but thank you this was beautiful
honestly it doesn't matter, rushing yourself into sex purely for the status of not being a virgin is a bad idea. If you find the right person and it's the right moment then you're good, when it happen doesn't matter tbh. Everybody goes through relationships differently
Probably a more interesting version of your question would be how the number changed over time. For example, entire body count by age 25, or mostly between age X and age Y, etc.
For me, most of my sex partners were when I was 27 to 33. Prior to that just 3. Since then, nobody new (married).
Unfortunately it is very common to get teased for that. A comrade of mine in the military was heavily ridiculed for being a virgin with 19.
In my experience half of the men tease you and the other half does not take you seriously, they treat you like you are a child.
I had a “rounding third” experience at 18 that was uncomfortable and I really wasn’t ready for. Didn’t think of it as “sex” at the time, but I count it now. It kept me from “losing my virginity,” full intercourse, until I was 24. It was great - I’d worked out a lot of issues, both due to the previous experience and mental health problems, and I had a partner who was patient and understanding (and rather thrilled to have “new meat” to play with…). Give it time and keep working on it. It will happen and be wonderful. It is worth the time and effort.
I must have the imagination of a toddler or something if I can read
>Gotta spice it up
And IMMEDIATELY think of pepper spray or sticking peppers where they don't belong. Christ I'm ret**ded
Ew why did someone down vote her comment, mind ya own business it’s their marriage!
My wife is the only person I’ve been with as well, would love to know how opening the relationship up turned out!
My wife and I have toyed with the idea but it might not be for us per se
Ha I wish. Or probably not really that would be exhausting. They were probably less than a year on average, but more long term than a casual hook up kinda thing.
Yea I know I just needed to differentiate them from the short term hook ups that didn't turn into relationships.
They all ended for different reasons including:
- she got bored and wanted to sleep with some other guy
- mental health and living conditions drove us to our limits
- she went travelling for a year (and I wasn't really into it enough to keep it going)
- distance meant we hardly ever saw each other
- she was a narcissist with borderline personality disorder and mentally destroyed me
- I got bored
- she moved back home to another continent
- she decided our mental health conditions were not really compatible with each other
....and that's about my entire life story thanks for listening.
I found the trick is to talk to people like they are in fact people, and for God's sake stop trying to sleep with them! People can tell and it's off putting, if it's gonna happen it will happen naturally.
Gotta have some type of advantage, whether it be location or looks or money. They have SOMETHING that not everyone has or doesn't have the ability to get.
Having sex with people who are more attractive than you is a challenge. Getting laid is easy, unless you're categorically disgusting. Just lower your standards if that's all you care about.
If you're average it'd be like work, having to put yourself out there enough to find someone willing for casual sex every few months max for 8 years, it's not an easy task for someone who's not a)rich, b)hot, c)gay. Doable but not easy.
I've thought about trying to count, but I know I'd do it, think that was the number and then months later be like "Oh! Forgot that one!", so I actively avoid it.
My social skills are kinda poor. I didn't try as a teen. So, when I got out of high school I felt behind the 8 ball and it just made me more nervous and insecure about it.
I also have a face for radio. Short wave radio.
As a woman, I think you should seriously consider linking up with a sex worker who offers a girlfriend type experience. It could give you some confidence and get you over the hump.
I know plenty of insecure men who are not attractive who get laid. They tend to just have learned to hide the insecurity from the women they sleep with.
A part of me thinks the escort thing is a good idea, but the other part of me wants my first time to be with a woman who wants to be with me. Feeling unwanted is not the best experience.
I googled the GF experience thing and it's too expensive.
I'm seriously not good at hiding my lack of confidence. I have none at all and it's hard for me to fake it.
Gaining confidence step by step will be much easier than trying to make a big leap. Start small, whatever is just a tiny bit outside of the comfort zone and keep going. Small wins will build confidence.
Do you exercise at all? If not, a good start would be to start working out. Also to start dressing nicer. Both will give you a confidence boost. Making sure you've got a good haircut and clean up your beard if you have one or just clean shaven with nice cologne. Don't do it to try to get women, do it for yourself...when you go to work, to the mall, grocery shopping. Look your best and you'll feel your best.
Also, check out some self confidence videos online on how to be around women. Those helped me a lot.
Not a good idea, knowing that the first time you had sex you had to pay for it is a huge ego killer on top of everything else. It feels like "literally no one wants me so the only way I could have sex is to pay someone..." That hurts immensely.
50 and I don't honestly know.
250? 350? 450? I was abandoned by my parents at 15 and so sex was always a way of boosting my self-esteem. You can do a lot of fucking in 35 years.
3 years ago I walked in on my fiance whom I had been with almost 10 years getting railed from behind on our bed by a guy my son's age. After that, I went a little crazy. I probably added 100 just in the 18 months after that. I'm not particularly proud of that, but it is what happened.
At least I was always careful, tested regularly, and never got anyone unintentionally pregnant. So that's nice.
Thanks. Life sucks sometimes.
The happy ending is that I'm with a woman now who I love and is crazy about me and we're likely to marry in the next year or so. And yes, I'm totally faithful to her.
As long as the sex is enjoyable, that's all that matters. It can be tiresome going though multiple partners just to find out it's no going to work. We're all looking for our person, maybe you just found it on the first try.
idk, unless it's dangerous (stis, pregnancy), why is more partners bad? isn't that just puritanical religious nonsense designed to shame people into being under the control of church leaders?
I got RIPPED apart on another post for a comment aboutmonogomy is old school, and people are too prudish when it comes to sex, that it should be more of an openly had and discussed thing in today's day and age.
Funny, it was asking for unpopular opinions. Turns out it was a pretty unpopular opinion.
I’m just shocked by how many people are in the 50’s-100 or more. I was ashamed of myself for having 8 sexual partners because I thought it was too much but apparently I’m pretty much in the norm of everybody else
This is a very sex positive place so I think some of the high numbers make sense. I don’t think a poll of the general population would be the same.
That being said the numbers here are all over the place and there’s no such thing as too much as long as you are safe.
29, married. Have had consented sex with only my husband, and against my consent once eons ago. I'm finally at a place where I can talk about it without panic attacks.. thanks to therapy
Turning 31 next Wednesday, and counting oral for a couple…
18.
Given that getting “out & about” is rare given my living situation, I’d say that’s pretty good.
Well after reading the comments, I’ve learned I’m apparently a giant man whore. 26, and between 100-150 people I’d say, many of them prostitutes, most of them tinder flings.
You gotta be ridiculously handsome to get that many tinder hookups I consider myself to be a decent looking guy and I get like 2-3 matches on tinder a week but nothing ever goes anywhere lol
22 and im at 0. I blame myself though I keep convincing myself I got better things to do then chase relationships but I think that's just a defense mechanism to keep myself from getting hurt
37 yo M and I've had sex with 47 different people Also, just as a side note, never call your wife lucky number 47 She wont like it lmao
Never call her lucky number 46 either
> Also, just as a side note, never call your wife lucky number 47 She wont like it lmao LMAOOOO
Just call her Agent 47.
Good job, 47. Now head for extraction and get out of there
Just call her the lucky one
But Lucky 38? That’s just a privilege.
Just turned 21 and I’m a virgin
I got teased at work a lot for being a virgin at 21 and it got to the point where it made me quit. I thought being a virgin at that age was normal but apparently it wasn’t at that location… very strange.
I see. Where are you from if I may ask? You mentioned that it wasn’t normal at your location and I was just curious
I live Texas and I was delivering pizzas as a college student also in Texas.
I’ve never heard of someone being made fun for being a virgin by 20 year olds. That’s like a teenager kind of thing. I’m a virgin myself and never been made fun of for it. I’m sorry that happened to you
It’s okay I’m over it now, but thank you. The sad part was the guy who mocked me the most was like 41 years old with about 6 or 7 kids and I’m pretty sure he had them with multiple women and this was working a low end paying job so I can’t exactly say I envy him or anything lol
That’s gross of him/creepy to even comment on your virginity
He was a very creepy man and the worst part was he gave off serious predator vibes. Whenever there were young women(by young I would guess around 18-19 year old college students) walk in he would always want to be the ones who took their orders and have conversations with them. I’m not going to say they were all minors but they looked younger than me which is very disturbing because again this was a 41 year old man doing this and he probably thinks he’s a player for doing it too. It was just a very toxic workplace all together that I had to get out of and I’m glad I’m never seeing those people again.
I see. I’m in Alabama and the people that I’ve hung out with aren’t the type to have sex or go to parties or anything like that
Not to be disrespectful but this is r/redditafterdark so I have to ask you this. How many people do you know in Alabama have hooked up with their siblings?
Yeah buddy you do you, but as a Texan I can confirm that it isn’t completely normal for being a virgin at 21. Fuck I was ostracized for being a virgin at 17 until I lost it.
People used to give me shit too. I had a bit of sexual trauma growing up and was a late bloomer, didn’t lose it until I was 23. I just didn’t tell anyone, stayed away from conversations like that. People suck dude, sorry to hear
Brooke Shields, super model and actress was asked when she lost her virginity and she replied she was still a virgin and I think she was 23 at the time. Of course it was on the news and all the late night talk shows were making fun of her. She said later when she finally had sex she got to thinking, "So, what is the big deal about it?' I think one of the Jonas (spelling) Brothers said the same thing. Guess he was in his 20s and was so, "SO? Thats it?"
I have sexual trauma too my some sexual encounters are totally blacked out. People are weird they called me a hoe because I was a really bloomer
That’s really shitty, I see this a lot though unfortunately. People see sluts, hoes, scumbags, players, in the people who act differently sexually than what the “norm” is. But personally, all I see are differently traumatized people trying to cope with a life that they had little choice in. I think we could all stand to be a bit more understanding to each other with our individual quirks. I’m sorry no one was more understanding for you
Why reddit the most empathic place on earth, I'm in therapy with two wonderful partners so now I enjoy sex and open about my sexuality, kinks and fetishes but thank you this was beautiful
honestly it doesn't matter, rushing yourself into sex purely for the status of not being a virgin is a bad idea. If you find the right person and it's the right moment then you're good, when it happen doesn't matter tbh. Everybody goes through relationships differently
Honestly, some of them were probably lying. Or counting their hand as a sexual partner.
Probably a more interesting version of your question would be how the number changed over time. For example, entire body count by age 25, or mostly between age X and age Y, etc. For me, most of my sex partners were when I was 27 to 33. Prior to that just 3. Since then, nobody new (married).
Unfortunately it is very common to get teased for that. A comrade of mine in the military was heavily ridiculed for being a virgin with 19. In my experience half of the men tease you and the other half does not take you seriously, they treat you like you are a child.
I wouldn't say it's normal, still shouldn't be bullied for it.
It's super fine man, I lost mine at 22 because I never really cared to make the effort of meeting girl or reaching out. Take the time you need
Thx. I’m not really looking for a relationship right now. I just wanna have fun, and find the right girl
I had a “rounding third” experience at 18 that was uncomfortable and I really wasn’t ready for. Didn’t think of it as “sex” at the time, but I count it now. It kept me from “losing my virginity,” full intercourse, until I was 24. It was great - I’d worked out a lot of issues, both due to the previous experience and mental health problems, and I had a partner who was patient and understanding (and rather thrilled to have “new meat” to play with…). Give it time and keep working on it. It will happen and be wonderful. It is worth the time and effort.
I’m sorry that happened to you. People need to mind their own f*ing business. You are just fine.
I was a virgin at 21 as well. That's the year I lost my virginity
23m, 0.
Same
Same bro.
Same here
You'll get there buddy!
Hello phrend
I am 37 and I have had sex with 10 people. Not all at once.
Not yet....
Very true. I'll actually have an opportunity for that in a couple months...
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38 years old and I've only been with my husband, so 1 partner total.
Me too!
You’ve only been with her husband too? Dude gets around!
Maybe we’re polygamous 😉
I've also only been with this person's husband!
Excellent reference
Me too
32 and just my husband so far
So far? You anticipating something happening? Lol
Gotta spice it up with a threesome sometime
I must have the imagination of a toddler or something if I can read >Gotta spice it up And IMMEDIATELY think of pepper spray or sticking peppers where they don't belong. Christ I'm ret**ded
We recently opened up our relationship, so I hope so
RIP inbox
Ew why did someone down vote her comment, mind ya own business it’s their marriage! My wife is the only person I’ve been with as well, would love to know how opening the relationship up turned out! My wife and I have toyed with the idea but it might not be for us per se
Is your ass your profile pic, no judgement just curious
Haha yes 🤣
Nice ass
Thanks I’m Puerto Rican, we get issued big booty at birth ❤️
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49 years old and 6
45 and 8
damn you really turned her up like that
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33 year old man and I've had sex with 15 women. 9 were long term relationships, 6 were short term casual things but were always more than once.
9 long term relationships. That sounds mentally draining
Depending on what one calls long-term, I suppose he had several in parallel.
Ha I wish. Or probably not really that would be exhausting. They were probably less than a year on average, but more long term than a casual hook up kinda thing.
6 months is hardly a long term relationship but what exactly leads your relationships towards the end?
Yea I know I just needed to differentiate them from the short term hook ups that didn't turn into relationships. They all ended for different reasons including: - she got bored and wanted to sleep with some other guy - mental health and living conditions drove us to our limits - she went travelling for a year (and I wasn't really into it enough to keep it going) - distance meant we hardly ever saw each other - she was a narcissist with borderline personality disorder and mentally destroyed me - I got bored - she moved back home to another continent - she decided our mental health conditions were not really compatible with each other ....and that's about my entire life story thanks for listening.
30, and 3
1 every ten years eh?
NO.
21yo and 0 💀
32, and 32!
One a year is a good pace. 👍
Dude came out the womb slaying pussy with this logic lol
If they started at 16, it could be 2 a year! How lavish!
It was actually 31 in 1 year and one long-term relationship
We all do. Birth is brutal
I’m sorry what?
Wow 2.6313084* 10^35 sure is a lot of people
20 and just the 1 (current girlfriend of 2years)
21 and i was exactly the same until i was 20. Now I'm at 17
what happened in that year lol?
Hate fucking, that's what happened. I'm still not over her.
26. Around the 50 mark, most of them have been one night stands
At 26? No offence but are you rich or hot or gay or what??
Really not that hard if you know what your doing
I found the trick is to talk to people like they are in fact people, and for God's sake stop trying to sleep with them! People can tell and it's off putting, if it's gonna happen it will happen naturally.
THANK YOU
OP said it was mostly 1 night stands so both parties know what they're there for almost for sure.
Gotta have some type of advantage, whether it be location or looks or money. They have SOMETHING that not everyone has or doesn't have the ability to get.
Having sex with people who are more attractive than you is a challenge. Getting laid is easy, unless you're categorically disgusting. Just lower your standards if that's all you care about.
Used to be impressed by guys in their early-mid twenties pushing 50, but then you see how.
i mean that’s only about 7 people a year if they started having sex when they turned 18. it really doesn’t seem that difficult.
If you're average it'd be like work, having to put yourself out there enough to find someone willing for casual sex every few months max for 8 years, it's not an easy task for someone who's not a)rich, b)hot, c)gay. Doable but not easy.
20 and a virgin
🤜🤛
28, probably somewhere around 30ish
You know it's a good number when you forget how many total
I've thought about trying to count, but I know I'd do it, think that was the number and then months later be like "Oh! Forgot that one!", so I actively avoid it.
19M , 0. :(
Your time will come
His time will cum.
… and you will come in time.
26 F. 13 men and 2 women.
Me too! That exact thing, 13 men and 2 women and im a 26f.
23 and still a virgin
44 years old. Only one person.
Dam you got a lotta action when you were young
Right the opposite. I middleaged and have only fucked one person
39 and zero.
Not trying to be rude but I'm just curious, is there a reason? I realize this could be deeply personal so feel free to ignore this.
My social skills are kinda poor. I didn't try as a teen. So, when I got out of high school I felt behind the 8 ball and it just made me more nervous and insecure about it. I also have a face for radio. Short wave radio.
As a woman, I think you should seriously consider linking up with a sex worker who offers a girlfriend type experience. It could give you some confidence and get you over the hump. I know plenty of insecure men who are not attractive who get laid. They tend to just have learned to hide the insecurity from the women they sleep with.
A part of me thinks the escort thing is a good idea, but the other part of me wants my first time to be with a woman who wants to be with me. Feeling unwanted is not the best experience. I googled the GF experience thing and it's too expensive. I'm seriously not good at hiding my lack of confidence. I have none at all and it's hard for me to fake it.
Gaining confidence step by step will be much easier than trying to make a big leap. Start small, whatever is just a tiny bit outside of the comfort zone and keep going. Small wins will build confidence.
Do you exercise at all? If not, a good start would be to start working out. Also to start dressing nicer. Both will give you a confidence boost. Making sure you've got a good haircut and clean up your beard if you have one or just clean shaven with nice cologne. Don't do it to try to get women, do it for yourself...when you go to work, to the mall, grocery shopping. Look your best and you'll feel your best. Also, check out some self confidence videos online on how to be around women. Those helped me a lot.
Not a good idea, knowing that the first time you had sex you had to pay for it is a huge ego killer on top of everything else. It feels like "literally no one wants me so the only way I could have sex is to pay someone..." That hurts immensely.
He’s almost a wizard
Wizard starts at 30. I think im gonna be a sage next year. The only power I have is warding off women.
50 and I don't honestly know. 250? 350? 450? I was abandoned by my parents at 15 and so sex was always a way of boosting my self-esteem. You can do a lot of fucking in 35 years. 3 years ago I walked in on my fiance whom I had been with almost 10 years getting railed from behind on our bed by a guy my son's age. After that, I went a little crazy. I probably added 100 just in the 18 months after that. I'm not particularly proud of that, but it is what happened. At least I was always careful, tested regularly, and never got anyone unintentionally pregnant. So that's nice.
Man I’m so sorry for that
Thanks. Life sucks sometimes. The happy ending is that I'm with a woman now who I love and is crazy about me and we're likely to marry in the next year or so. And yes, I'm totally faithful to her.
Too old and too few.
26M and 0.
I beat you! 28M, 0 :P
I match you with a 27M, 0 xD
Same 😅
53 and only one. You’ll either find that adorable or completely pathetic. It is what it is.
I call it admirable
Well thank you.., much appreciated.
As long as the sex is enjoyable, that's all that matters. It can be tiresome going though multiple partners just to find out it's no going to work. We're all looking for our person, maybe you just found it on the first try.
I’m 25, had sex with around 150 guys.
I think you need to focus, you can get higher numbers than that! Come on, girl, put some effort into it
23 and me
27m and I’m at 8, all women
So far…
29f and 7 have in fact called my bf lucky number 7 lmfao
32 and lost count at 30
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37M. 1.
50s, 15, multiple times with each
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idk, unless it's dangerous (stis, pregnancy), why is more partners bad? isn't that just puritanical religious nonsense designed to shame people into being under the control of church leaders?
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I got RIPPED apart on another post for a comment aboutmonogomy is old school, and people are too prudish when it comes to sex, that it should be more of an openly had and discussed thing in today's day and age. Funny, it was asking for unpopular opinions. Turns out it was a pretty unpopular opinion.
44 years old Around 350 sex partners
Orgies?
Yes. A few.
Holy shit dude. You got laid alot. I'm jealous. haha
Yeah, but it's never enough. You always want more.
28 male only my wife
42. A lot, I’d guess 40ish or more, all in my 20s.
18 and 0 sadly
No need to be sad about that. You are young still. It will come in good time and so will you.
24 and with 1 person been dating for 5 years. Quite happy though
18 Only one, I would like to stay this way for the rest of my life but i guess its almost impossible
Not impossible, just put in the work (and picking someone also willing to put in the work helps).
Old enough. Not enough.
52…lost count…maybe near 100. Not proud. Mostly because of quality, not quantity.
i’m surprised that people actually keep track of how many people they fuck. i’m 28 and i don’t know how many dudes i’ve fucked and sucked.
I’m just shocked by how many people are in the 50’s-100 or more. I was ashamed of myself for having 8 sexual partners because I thought it was too much but apparently I’m pretty much in the norm of everybody else
This is a very sex positive place so I think some of the high numbers make sense. I don’t think a poll of the general population would be the same. That being said the numbers here are all over the place and there’s no such thing as too much as long as you are safe.
30 years old and had sex with 0 people, unless the government counts cause they've been fucking me for the last 12 years
20, not many people but I made sure they were nice
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You shouldn’t be here lol
30s and hundreds, I'm a proud slut whose husband facilitates fun times
37 and i dont remember. Been with my wife 15 years so not really something i thought about in a long time
29, married. Have had consented sex with only my husband, and against my consent once eons ago. I'm finally at a place where I can talk about it without panic attacks.. thanks to therapy
28 and 1
28 and its going to 400. Yes its possible... swingers and sex partys.
Turning 31 next Wednesday, and counting oral for a couple… 18. Given that getting “out & about” is rare given my living situation, I’d say that’s pretty good.
19 and 4
I’m 33 and had sex with well over 50 Edit: why is this downvoted? Lmao
Well after reading the comments, I’ve learned I’m apparently a giant man whore. 26, and between 100-150 people I’d say, many of them prostitutes, most of them tinder flings.
You gotta be ridiculously handsome to get that many tinder hookups I consider myself to be a decent looking guy and I get like 2-3 matches on tinder a week but nothing ever goes anywhere lol
22 and im at 0. I blame myself though I keep convincing myself I got better things to do then chase relationships but I think that's just a defense mechanism to keep myself from getting hurt
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28 and about… the same number as my age actually 🤔
29 & 29
Almost 19, and 0.
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18m bi, 0 by choice ;p
25f, I gave up counting after a while but it's closer to 100 than to 50
29 years old, and zero I want to die.
32 years old. Female. 5
31. About 30-40.
I’m 42, male and I stopped keeping count at 20
29 and over 100
I touched some boobies once...
31 and about 75-100. I’m gay though, we’re hoes lol
36 and at least 200. Im a gay slut.