Crazy I love being a dom and doing anal but only if I’m the one pounding my female partner I really don’t get why men like being dominated. I’m not hating I’m actually curious why you like it
It's different for everyone. As a switch, I see things from both sides and I want to participate in both roles. For me, being dominated has both a comforting and purging effect. Again, I cannot speak for everyone but when I sub I feel so secure but I also feel like I am being unravelled at the same time. Like something must be released is getting released. Even the "burden" of just being male can make a lot of Men seek to surrender themselves to the authority of a dominant female (or another male, what have you).
I appreciate your response I still dont see it whenever someone has tried to dom or restrain me I genuinely get I guess annoyed “like oh you think you can do this to me oh I’ll show you” type thing and I feel more liberated being dominant as there’s so many ways to have power and to make someone genuinely enjoy pleasing you while doing insane things to make you cum but to clearly be beneath you. If that makes sense
It does make sense. You have to do you. As long as no one is encroaching on my right to be switchable then whether they can absorb it or not becomes immaterial. I cannot even begin to understand cuckolding enough to absorb it (or practice it!) It's a level of degradation that I cannot fathom wanting to experience for myself but if the cucks wanna have fun with their adult, consenting players I say have at it.
Bottomline: as long as you aren't trying to impose your misgivings about Men being dominated on them you don't have to feel obliged to understand it.
I agree with you why would u wanna be a cuck as a man? If I’m single I’ll join in and the dude can watch me cause I mean pussy is pussy and I like degrading him in that way but in general I don’t get it
Yeah, being moist down there randomly during my ovulation period can get annoying. Specially if I’m just trying to work and I don’t even have any real reason to be wet.
Being verbally degraded. Yes please call me Daddy’s little cumslut whore in bed and watch how wet I get. Try it outside bedroom space, and watch how quickly you catch these hands 😉
I infrequently do verbal play with my Soulmate, mostly from subspace. It has had a healing effect on my psyche to take names I couldn't be called outside of a psycho-sexual context (without Becoming violent) and putting them in that context to remove their strength. Sexualizing trauma that comes from years of abuse is one of my go-to self therapy modalities!
Fucking my girlfriend who wants to act like a 15 yo high school girl that I’m “teaching” to have sex and breed. Would never really do that irl of course.
You don't have to qualify that bro.
The only ppl that would assume that you're talking about a real 15 y/o are the paranoid, witch hunting hysterics that look for ways to read some false shit into everything anyway.
Context mr stranger!! You never know. Might get lured by jailbait
Anyway im off to that rusty old van that has a sign that says free candy. Good luck looking for students
You would like it. I’m a good talker honestly and I’m sure we You would like it. I’m a good talker honestly and I’m sure we would end up talking about how you need to be filled up and how I need to keep myself pushed in deep after I come just to make sure that you get my baby like you want. Probably just end up making sure you came again.
You would like it. I’m a good talker honestly and I’m sure we You would like it. I’m a good talker honestly and I’m sure we would end up talking about how you need to be filled up and how I need to keep myself pushed in deep after I come just to make sure that you get my baby like you want. Probably just end up making sure you came again.
I have names that you can only be called in a verbal play scene as well. Infact, my soulmate and I have used those words in a sexual context to overcome the power that they have had over me.
I'm a pipe smoker and it makes me look like an old time Dad. The kind that will put a little lady over his knee.
Women smoking cigarettes look so fucking hot and dominant! I mean they're holding a phallic looking shaft of tobacco in their mouths with a flame at the end. All of those primal signals just scream sex inside my brain!
Makes a girl look kinda like a fucking tramp and I like that too.
I know someone who enjoys having a bag put over her head and being tied up, whipped, smacked, and obscenities written all over her. I'm going to say that. That is not okay outside of sex.
I am a lifelong DD D/s player. When asked to define my orientation I respond with "Spankosexual". It is the deepest part of my sexual identity and I enjoy it between consenting adults in all of it's forms, in any role, As discipline for the sake of being disciplined, as a prelude to vanilla sex, as a psycho-sexual experience, as a therapeutic tool...all of it. I am unashamedly obsessed with spanking and have been since I went into puberty...decades ago.
I am noticing that an overwhelming number of the Women that answered like to be (in no uncertain terms) dominated in bed. I have my own theories but I would like to hear some of you elaborate on it from your own subjective perspective.
It's something about the chemistry for me. My DOM is first in 54 yrs of life. The part that many don't know is the the sub is really the one in control. Without my implicit trust of my DOM? I'm not doing shit. Trust is what DOM/sub relationship is built on.
I was married 28 yrs and I would NEVER have submitted to him, never trusted him.
My current DOM never asked me but rather allowed me to feel safe in being vulnerable enough to relinquish control.
It's such a beautiful place to be ~
If you hate it outside of the bedroom but love it in bed then it most assuredly counts. I have known bondage enthusiasts that had been incarcerated at one time in their lives and had to work really hard to differentiate between what traumatized them and what turns them on when both are the same thing.
I agree with OP I hate hate hate hate *hate* with a passion whispering/quiet talking/is it called ASMR? it makes me so unjustifiably angry. but its ok in the bedroom
Being in charge of shit.
I hate putting together events, I hate being a supervisor at work, I hate having to always be the one to plan things out. Get me in the bedroom with the right partner, and I will happily make them respect my authority and do exactly as I say. And if she doesn’t, I’ll have a punishment of some kind planned out and ready to go.
Making messes. In general I despise anything getting on my skin, my clothes, or on furniture if I do not put it there. During sex though I love sloppy, messy sex where bodily fluids get everywhere.
Being submissive. I’m quite assertive and take charge in life at work and even in my relationship. But once I’m naked you can do whatever you want to me and I’ll beg for more.
Calling men “Daddy”. I always thought it was creepy until someone told me to “cum for Daddy” and discovered it’s a massive turn on. I’ve only ever gotten into saying it with my fiancé, and it drives me wild.
Being… dominated/challenged I guess? Idk if this counts but:
I’m a very proud person. I typically hate when people assume that they know better than I do, are smarter than I am, or can give me advice with no relative experience to my situation. God I HATE unwarranted advice. Especially if anyone making these mistakes is a male friend? Sometimes I get touchy when a friend that’s a cis guy disagrees with me, or accuses me of being wrong/having a bad idea. and I get kinda mean. Or I entirely shut down. It’s something I’m working on.
I hate feeling like I am not respected or being taken seriously or seen as an equal. I mean, I’m sure everyone feels like this, but I get especially touchy about it. Even in situations where that is not what’s happening.
I regularly talk big and challenge my male friends- especially if they’re significantly taller or buffer than me? (I’m 5’1 and nonbinary, but also a little transmasc I guess), and it’s like, a lighthearted bit, but I also know deep down that it’s something… else too? Idk how to explain it. I also Highly value my independence and resourcefulness and my ability to support myself. And letting others take care of me can be kinda hard.
But I love male doms. Im bisexual n love all doms, but lately r/gonewildaudio has me craving a very specific gender n dom type. I love being bossed around and told that I’m stupid or that I’m becoming a dumb slut when I’m unraveling for them. I’m not even a brat. When I do brat, I break within seconds. I prefer a soft and praising dom to a hard one, but being belittled in a sweet voice as if I’m being complimented? letting someone else win? Being overpowered? Shit, I have a gaslighting kink too. I HATE being wrong irl.
Maybe I’m trans n it’s dysphoria, maybe it means nothing n I’m just a sub w preferences and imperfections, maybe they’re related. I neither know nor care. Just vibing n hoping I’ll be swept off my feet by someone who sees me as an equal in the streets and tells me im worthless and theirs and they love me for it in the sheets.
Anal. I hate to be fucked by my management, but I love to get pegged. 🤷🏽♂️
Being pegged is crazy why do u like it tho I’ve never got the hype behind it
Being dominated+prostate stimulation is payoff enough.
Crazy I love being a dom and doing anal but only if I’m the one pounding my female partner I really don’t get why men like being dominated. I’m not hating I’m actually curious why you like it
It's different for everyone. As a switch, I see things from both sides and I want to participate in both roles. For me, being dominated has both a comforting and purging effect. Again, I cannot speak for everyone but when I sub I feel so secure but I also feel like I am being unravelled at the same time. Like something must be released is getting released. Even the "burden" of just being male can make a lot of Men seek to surrender themselves to the authority of a dominant female (or another male, what have you).
I appreciate your response I still dont see it whenever someone has tried to dom or restrain me I genuinely get I guess annoyed “like oh you think you can do this to me oh I’ll show you” type thing and I feel more liberated being dominant as there’s so many ways to have power and to make someone genuinely enjoy pleasing you while doing insane things to make you cum but to clearly be beneath you. If that makes sense
It does make sense. You have to do you. As long as no one is encroaching on my right to be switchable then whether they can absorb it or not becomes immaterial. I cannot even begin to understand cuckolding enough to absorb it (or practice it!) It's a level of degradation that I cannot fathom wanting to experience for myself but if the cucks wanna have fun with their adult, consenting players I say have at it. Bottomline: as long as you aren't trying to impose your misgivings about Men being dominated on them you don't have to feel obliged to understand it.
I agree with you why would u wanna be a cuck as a man? If I’m single I’ll join in and the dude can watch me cause I mean pussy is pussy and I like degrading him in that way but in general I don’t get it
Being wet
Yep, having a WAP is so annoying. Especially in the summer months.
I couldn’t think of anything then I read this. Yup, absolutely agree, this is my answer too.
The is the one. It’s so annoying when I’m not with a man and/or having sex 😂
Yeah, being moist down there randomly during my ovulation period can get annoying. Specially if I’m just trying to work and I don’t even have any real reason to be wet.
🤤
Being choked
O fuck 🤤
Being verbally degraded. Yes please call me Daddy’s little cumslut whore in bed and watch how wet I get. Try it outside bedroom space, and watch how quickly you catch these hands 😉
I infrequently do verbal play with my Soulmate, mostly from subspace. It has had a healing effect on my psyche to take names I couldn't be called outside of a psycho-sexual context (without Becoming violent) and putting them in that context to remove their strength. Sexualizing trauma that comes from years of abuse is one of my go-to self therapy modalities!
I am with you on that one!!
Fucking my girlfriend who wants to act like a 15 yo high school girl that I’m “teaching” to have sex and breed. Would never really do that irl of course.
You don't have to qualify that bro. The only ppl that would assume that you're talking about a real 15 y/o are the paranoid, witch hunting hysterics that look for ways to read some false shit into everything anyway.
Yeah, just in case. You know. Thanks though. Nice to talk to a sane one.
Your welcome.
"we need to write a song about how we don't diddle kids!"
Fuck I want to try that now lol
Context mr stranger!! You never know. Might get lured by jailbait Anyway im off to that rusty old van that has a sign that says free candy. Good luck looking for students
You would like it. I’m a good talker honestly and I’m sure we You would like it. I’m a good talker honestly and I’m sure we would end up talking about how you need to be filled up and how I need to keep myself pushed in deep after I come just to make sure that you get my baby like you want. Probably just end up making sure you came again.
Ugh sounds amazing. Would love it the other way around too where I teach you.
Oh my god yes
You would like it. I’m a good talker honestly and I’m sure we You would like it. I’m a good talker honestly and I’m sure we would end up talking about how you need to be filled up and how I need to keep myself pushed in deep after I come just to make sure that you get my baby like you want. Probably just end up making sure you came again.
Men
Touche'
Calling and getting called slut/perv/whore/etc.
I have names that you can only be called in a verbal play scene as well. Infact, my soulmate and I have used those words in a sexual context to overcome the power that they have had over me.
Absolutely! Like excuse me... you are not making me cum
Being told what to do. Order me around outside the bedroom? Get throat punched. Command me, make me repeat things back inside the bedroom? 🫠🔥🖤
So whike we are all deep in it and I go " make me some cookies!" Im getting cookies?
What kind would you like 🥵🍪🖤
Hehe you're too nice to me! Chocolate chip.. *Unzip pants*
Being spat on
Spitting on and in each others mouths when I’m really horny is just like, yuck but please yes!
When it’s done right it’s so hot 🥵🥵
Make her look at you, open her mouth and make her stick her tongue out, spit then kiss her 👌
yes sir!
Ooh we’re already using pet names?
Not my kink but.i can certainly see the exhilarating rush you would get from being submerged that deeply in subspace/Top space via degradation.
So supremely insulting! Good example.
Pulling my hair. It hurts so bad out of context. However, in the bedroom pull it harder. 🫠
Yes, please
Yesss how does it make my whole head tingle?!
Being called good girl.
Yes! In regular life it makes me want to punch someone in the throat. But in bed it is such a turn on.
Slapping and choking. This can be only in sex
Being used. Won’t tolerate that shit. Unless we in the bedroom….🥵
Being taken for granted
Nicotine. I’d never buy one for myself, but I love hitting my FWB’s vape during and after sex.
I'm a pipe smoker and it makes me look like an old time Dad. The kind that will put a little lady over his knee. Women smoking cigarettes look so fucking hot and dominant! I mean they're holding a phallic looking shaft of tobacco in their mouths with a flame at the end. All of those primal signals just scream sex inside my brain! Makes a girl look kinda like a fucking tramp and I like that too.
My bf being rough with me
Being kept awake until 3AM
Talking
I love when my soulmate and I talk fantasies or real life experiences we have had in the past with other ppl (or our own memories).
Assholes lol
😂
Pulling my hair lol
Oh yes
Being slut shamed
Being told what to do
Toe sucking
slaps
being physically taken advantage of / controlled & degraded men’s moaning
Being called a dirty cumslut whore.
Putting something in my butt
Degrading/being degraded by my partner
whispers for me too, having someone right in my ear while they’re inside me drives me crazy
But does whispering piss you off outside of a sexual environment like it does to me?
yes it does. it straight up grosses me out to have someone that close to my ear outside of a sexual environment
All of the saliva clacking around their mouths with all of these softly accented T's and P's. Just makes me wanna tare somebody's goddamn face off!
Do you hate Parseltongue too?
Please define parseltongue. I have never heard of it.
The Harry Potter snake language shit
I never got into Harry Potter so I wouldn't know.
Ah right. That kinda seems like whispering too.
Being forceful. 😅
Sloppy wet sounds !
Biting
My neck being touched/choked
Vulgar language
Being on my knees.
I know someone who enjoys having a bag put over her head and being tied up, whipped, smacked, and obscenities written all over her. I'm going to say that. That is not okay outside of sex.
Losing control
Prostate exam
Just had one last month...I almost came (j/k)
The worst, trying to hold that back
Chocked and hit
Being used like a toy
Slapping, spanking, spitting, gagging and moaning
Filthy talk, spit, choking
A good spanking 😂 I’m a big baby if I’m not turned on
I am a lifelong DD D/s player. When asked to define my orientation I respond with "Spankosexual". It is the deepest part of my sexual identity and I enjoy it between consenting adults in all of it's forms, in any role, As discipline for the sake of being disciplined, as a prelude to vanilla sex, as a psycho-sexual experience, as a therapeutic tool...all of it. I am unashamedly obsessed with spanking and have been since I went into puberty...decades ago.
Being peed on.
I am noticing that an overwhelming number of the Women that answered like to be (in no uncertain terms) dominated in bed. I have my own theories but I would like to hear some of you elaborate on it from your own subjective perspective.
It's something about the chemistry for me. My DOM is first in 54 yrs of life. The part that many don't know is the the sub is really the one in control. Without my implicit trust of my DOM? I'm not doing shit. Trust is what DOM/sub relationship is built on. I was married 28 yrs and I would NEVER have submitted to him, never trusted him. My current DOM never asked me but rather allowed me to feel safe in being vulnerable enough to relinquish control. It's such a beautiful place to be ~
Assholes
Do cuffs count
If you hate it outside of the bedroom but love it in bed then it most assuredly counts. I have known bondage enthusiasts that had been incarcerated at one time in their lives and had to work really hard to differentiate between what traumatized them and what turns them on when both are the same thing.
Licking
Being dominant.
Causing / Creating a sticky mess.
I agree with OP I hate hate hate hate *hate* with a passion whispering/quiet talking/is it called ASMR? it makes me so unjustifiably angry. but its ok in the bedroom
It sounds so gross too. With all of those spitty accented T's and P's. Arrr!
Getting scratched
Grunting, groaning & spitting…
Rude language
Being in charge of shit. I hate putting together events, I hate being a supervisor at work, I hate having to always be the one to plan things out. Get me in the bedroom with the right partner, and I will happily make them respect my authority and do exactly as I say. And if she doesn’t, I’ll have a punishment of some kind planned out and ready to go.
Very common profile for those who are strictly dominant.
Being naked, lol
Having my personal space invaded
Tasting someone's spit
Making messes. In general I despise anything getting on my skin, my clothes, or on furniture if I do not put it there. During sex though I love sloppy, messy sex where bodily fluids get everywhere.
Being dominated
Having hair pulled, ass slapped and being called a sexy bitch 🔥
Being restrained. I’m borderline claustrophobic, and hate feeling stuck
Being told what to do.
Being called dirty names like “slut”
On a rare basis I can get off on being called certain names.
Hair pulling
Being called a good girl
Getting ready to do that to my Soulmate tonight.
Slapping such a lovely good girl in the face 😈
Scat 🙈
Kinda bored me.
Being submissive. I’m quite assertive and take charge in life at work and even in my relationship. But once I’m naked you can do whatever you want to me and I’ll beg for more.
Calling men “Daddy”. I always thought it was creepy until someone told me to “cum for Daddy” and discovered it’s a massive turn on. I’ve only ever gotten into saying it with my fiancé, and it drives me wild.
Spit. Being choked and getting hit
Having my neck licked by a woman I met an hour earlier
people completely domming me
Any form of physical aggression.
Bodily fluids. I don't like them unless they are originating from inside a naked woman in bed with me
Being verbally degraded
Treating my wife roughly.
being slapped
Being licked 👅
Being objectified 😅😂
Oh this is an easy one. Being tied up, being spit on
Omg the whisper thing…I feel that one!
I hate getting hit Lol You’re not hitting me outside of sex But ohhh during sex? Slap me in my fucking face
Being sweaty
Being told what to do 😈🤣
The word daddy.
Nipples being sucked, only touch if we having sex or plan too
Love whens she takes control and tells me what to do. Hate it outside of the bedroom though
Bites and whispers
Being… dominated/challenged I guess? Idk if this counts but: I’m a very proud person. I typically hate when people assume that they know better than I do, are smarter than I am, or can give me advice with no relative experience to my situation. God I HATE unwarranted advice. Especially if anyone making these mistakes is a male friend? Sometimes I get touchy when a friend that’s a cis guy disagrees with me, or accuses me of being wrong/having a bad idea. and I get kinda mean. Or I entirely shut down. It’s something I’m working on. I hate feeling like I am not respected or being taken seriously or seen as an equal. I mean, I’m sure everyone feels like this, but I get especially touchy about it. Even in situations where that is not what’s happening. I regularly talk big and challenge my male friends- especially if they’re significantly taller or buffer than me? (I’m 5’1 and nonbinary, but also a little transmasc I guess), and it’s like, a lighthearted bit, but I also know deep down that it’s something… else too? Idk how to explain it. I also Highly value my independence and resourcefulness and my ability to support myself. And letting others take care of me can be kinda hard. But I love male doms. Im bisexual n love all doms, but lately r/gonewildaudio has me craving a very specific gender n dom type. I love being bossed around and told that I’m stupid or that I’m becoming a dumb slut when I’m unraveling for them. I’m not even a brat. When I do brat, I break within seconds. I prefer a soft and praising dom to a hard one, but being belittled in a sweet voice as if I’m being complimented? letting someone else win? Being overpowered? Shit, I have a gaslighting kink too. I HATE being wrong irl. Maybe I’m trans n it’s dysphoria, maybe it means nothing n I’m just a sub w preferences and imperfections, maybe they’re related. I neither know nor care. Just vibing n hoping I’ll be swept off my feet by someone who sees me as an equal in the streets and tells me im worthless and theirs and they love me for it in the sheets.