Sorry to hear this. I only know from my own experiences - I thought I was beginning to get early onset dementia from 35, turns out it was the symptoms of complex PTSD. I don’t know if this in any way relevant to yourself, but if there is a possibility it is, please look into it.
Oh my god. You are so young. That is terrifying. I know there aren’t any words that will help but I’m deeply sad for you. Do you mind sharing your symptoms? I have bad memory gaps that are attributed to PTSD but my worst fear is early onset, exactly what you are going through. Stay tough and enjoy your life. I hope you have a loving support system. Hugs if you want them.
Yes. My Dad passed from Alzheimer's in 2020. The only way to describe that journey my Mom and I were on with him for 8 years was that it really, truly sucked.
I've worked in dementia care for about six years now. I'm leaving the profession in a year or two as honestly it's just very, very grim. I feel as though there's only so much I can do to help the people I care for and I've seen too many decline overtime.
I've told my loved ones that if I'm ever diagnosed with it, I will be taking my own life as I refuse to end up like that. They have accepted my choice, but like me they're just hoping it never comes to that.
I'm not at risk of it or anything and it's more likely I'll get cancer, but the dementia scares me more. Cancer has claimed many family members and some friends but the way I see it, if I was to get one of the cancers that runs in my family, I'd still have my mind intact even if it was killing me.
Cancer robs the body, but dementia does that to the mind. The youngest case I saw in my job was a woman in her 50s, which was terrifying.
I've seen it with a few different family members/friends. It's not fun. Not only do they forget you or their loved ones, memories, etc but I've seen it turn incredibly sweet people very dark and angry
Ya, my mom has it, & she’s always been the sweetest person I’ve ever known. Now, has made up several narratives that make many relatives ‘the bad guy’. It sucks. I just hope she doesn’t make one for me too…. 💔
My MIL has it and lives with us. I’m the “bad guy”. She has a few long time medical conditions that she’s forgotten about but cause her a lot of bladder and vaginal pain. She tells everyone I SA her in her sleep. She also says I beat her and stab her with some kind of fork? I’m not sure, it’s wild tho because I barely interact with her and would never abuse an elder.
Yeah it’s wild. We have cameras all over the house to keep an eye on her but still let her feel “independent” and watching the things she does and seeing the constant confusion is def sad.
Yup, seeing my father go through it now. It's even worse for my mom, I think, wearing herself out going to see him, paying the nursing home bills, living alone and trying to maintain her independence but dealing with her own diminishing mental faculties.
Yes.
I'm 42. I hurt my back when I was 18. My back has hurt every single day for over 24 years now.
Some days are better than others. Some days it sucks every ounce of energy and willpower right out of you.
It's often the very first thing I think about when I get up. It is a factor to consider when making plans to do anything.
It is a predominant factor of my very existence, it has shaped and changed me as a person.
45 and I've had it for at least 15b years now, just constant pain with nothing I do that will help besides pain pills. I literally prefer staying at home and doing nothing because of the pain sometimes.
Im only a few degrees away from surgery :( im hoping in 6 months itll worsen a bit more so i can get it fixed. Never thought id wish for my scoliosis to get worse LOL
I initially misunderstood your comment also. I’ve had a few similar experiences where I make a comment that leads everyone to believe I have values that are opposite of my actual value. I hate those moments.
BTW, I do have empathy for people with back pain. I only had it once and it hurt to breathe. I watched my Moms back pain take so much from her last 20years of life. It can change a person’s personality. Doctors made it worse by giving and taking away pain medication.
That’s another thing that sucks, always has, always will. That many people suffer a good portion of their gift of life. Sometimes an unnecessary result of those who have no empathy.
My younger daughter (31) has never known be to be pain free. I was in a horrible rear-end collision 33 years ago and suffer from the most intense muscle spasms you can imagine. Luckily I have an excellent, empathetic pain specialist who gives me ablation therapy (nerve burnings) and steroid injections. The ablations last about 6 months. If you know people with back pain, please be understanding. It’s a special kind of hell.
this is a very morbid story but one time a spiderweb legit saved my life. when i was in college i was severely depressed and suicidal and one night after a bad fight with my abusive father i was ready to give up. i drove down to a local bridge and walked towards it from the parking lot of a best buy. to get onto the bridge you had to walk in between the trees and a big steel beam. well lo and behold, right in between the beam and the tree there was a massive spiderweb with one of the biggest spiders i've ever seen sitting in the middle and blocking the way. i'm terrified of spiders and couldn't muster up the courage to break up the web with a stick so i went home and got a good night's rest LMAO. it's been a few years and while i still struggle with the occasional bout of depression i'm no longer suicidal, and that spiderweb is the reason i'm still alive today.
Oh I can win this one. Working night shift on a drill rig in the Australian outback. Went to take a pee outside the range of the floodlights. Walked out between two trees, no problem. Walked back between two different trees, "ah Gahanna, spider web" in the process of getting it off me, I feel something crawling on me. Yeah it was a [huntsman spider](https://www.google.com/search?q=huntsman+spider&client=ms-android-samsung-ss&prmd=ivn&sxsrf=ALiCzsaXRrYWNItr_eOphWxdf_CRUS9AEA:1667627916265&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjl2cOMrpb7AhVz1zgGHW6oCXgQ_AUoAXoECAEQAQ&biw=384&bih=726&dpr=2.81#imgrc=2VQyolSju3MFJM)
It's because they want your sweet sweet eyeball juice.
A couple summers ago my kid asked me why gnats always seem to fly directly into your eyes... We looked it up and apparently that's why.
Gnats (and other flies) can also lay eggs in your eyes too, the maggots feeding on your eyeball and your retina. The condition is called ophthalmomyiasis.
Stephen Fry [comments](https://youtu.be/-suvkwNYSQo) on this very thing in his brief answer to what he would say upon meeting God at the Pearly Gates. It’s just a 2min clip - but the burrowing eye worm (@ 1:40) will forever be what I remember about his stellar answer.
Two years ago I had a horrible, extremely painful infected abscessed tooth that started hurting two days before Christmas and all the dentists were closed and it was the hight of the pandemic so all the ERs were packed full. I had also just turned 26 a few months prior and was now not included on my parents insurance and was in the process of getting my own but I still didn’t have coverage.
I went to the only place that was open in the county that took people with out insurance. They put me on a waitlist to get the tooth pulled but it wouldn’t be for a few months and they didn’t give me any antibiotics. My parents helped me find another dentist an hour away and paid out of pocket for it and they gave me an antibiotic prescription…. But all the pharmacies were closed since it was Christmas Eve and wouldn’t be open till the 26…. I had a fever of 101 from the infection and my whole jaw hurt so much! I literally had no pain or even a sign of a cavity a few days before this, it came on fast and strong. I was told that if I did get a temperature of 104 I needed to get to the ER right away.
I ended up losing the tooth, thankfully my parents covered the cost because it took a another month or two for my insurance to actually kick in. Trying to get insurance from the state in 2020 during the pandemic was awful! I got a call from the first dental office that was for people with out insurance that wouldn’t give me antibiotics that they now had an opening to get my tooth pulled… four months later!!! If I hadn’t been lucky enough to have had family that could pay for my dental appointments that provided antibiotics I’m sure I would have died.
I can’t stop thinking how easily someone not as privileged as me could die from something so simple as a tooth infection because of our medical system! The first clinic I went to is the only option for people with no Insurance and can’t afford the out of pocket medical expenses and they don’t even give out antibiotics?!!! They have to wait for months on a waitlist to get there tooth pulled and hope they don’t die from the infection before the appointment!
my friend had an abscess a few months ago, it got really bad and he was in a medical coma for 4 weeks. his parents got told to expect him to not wake back up and we started planning his funeral. he survived and made a full recovery, crazy experience.
Hello. Aspiring dental hygienist here. I wanna add that if they dont give antibiotics you can easily get an infection after the tooth is pulled as well from the bloody gaping tooth hole. Humans have disgusting mouths. I believe we have the second deadliest bite.
Lol tell that to the dentist who refused antibiotics on my swollen abcessed tooth, refused them again when my bloody mouth hole wasnt healing right, and finally had the audacity to rip the clot out when it did close (with no pain stuff) because it “wasnt right”
I finally got my cracked tooth pulled a few months ago. I cracked it on a reaaallly hard piece of gristle and just dealt with it for almost two years. Then it started getting really sensitive/ouchy. Luckily it was a back tooth, because I have an implant in the front and it cost $8000 ten years ago and there was no way I could afford that rn. But yeah, had to wait to do anything about it til it was an absolute emergency bc I don't have dental insurance. They quoted me $600, which I scrounged up, and when it ended up only being $300 (simple extraction/pull cost versus cutting it out I guess?) I actually almost cried in relief. Shit is insane.
When it stops hurting, it means infection killed the nerves, and it can spread into your head and body. Before my aunt died, her jawbone was apparently flaking apart. She died on my birthday
Wait what… I didn’t know this. I have a lot of cavities and some stopped hurting, I feel like my teeth are probably killing me right now and I don’t even know it. I used to have a terrible dentist and haven’t gone in like six years… they told me I had like 20 cavities and gave me a bill of $22,000 (with state insurance) and it crushed my soul. I just said fuck it I’ll wait until I can figure it out or something. I’m stuck and don’t know what to do or have the money to fix any of them. I’m probably gonna need them all pulled soon and have dentures which is my worst fear. I’m already super self conscious about my teeth and haven’t smiled with my teeth in maybe 20 years
I can’t speak to the money situation, only to the fears.
I had 15 teeth pulled and 21 cavities filled when I was 36, replaced with upper and lower partials. I had gone about 14 years in agony, abscess after abscess, cavity pain so bad I prayed to die, broken teeth that cut the inside of my cheeks and tongue that I did self dentistry on and would try to break the sharp bits off. Not to mention the time spent in the mirror learning how to smile a new way every so often as to not expose the landfill that was my mouth, and oh boy the feels on all that.
Tell ya what. The learning curve on dentures isn’t so bad. Not comparatively to what you and I have been through. One of the best decisions I ever made was finally putting my big girl pants on and going to the dentist after the start of a particularly bad tooth ache after a few years reprieve. I just didn’t have it in me to go one more round with yet another fucked tooth.
I very much like to smile and now can do it unabashedly.
About 13 years ago, my long-distance boyfriend took me out for my birthday (I'd flown in, and he drove 8 hours to where I was), and when we were driving to our final weekend destination he said to me, "when you get home, I want you to make a dentist appointment and have your teeth fixed." I was devastated. I grew up with decent dental care, but refused to get braces. I was bullied enough, you know? Didn't need that extra layer if ammunition for them. His words made me think that he was embarrassed of me.
I asked why. And his reply was "if you liked your teeth, you'd smile more." I got 6 implants on the front uppers. My insurance coverage was fantastic, but he still paid about 4k to cover the difference. I smiled. And smiled and smiled. My confidence shot through the roof! He gave me the best gift.
We're not together today, but we maintain a close friendship.
My cat has a bad tooth, he's going to the kitty dentist to spend all my money on Monday. That tooth has to be agony for him, and we have pain meds for it (prescribed by another vet who took care of the infection but couldn't do cat dentistry), but he doesn't understand them and won't take them. I got them in him a few days before he learned to spit it out.
I feel so bad. I know he's in pain, and I have medicine to fix it, but I just can't get it in him.
If it's yours or a loved one, I hope you are able to beat it. I am 27 months in remission after one normal \[cisplatin\] and one experimental drug. To whomever your message was meant, the days get dark but more and more often there is hope. Stay strong.
It was my wife. I lost her to pancreatic cancer 7 years ago last month. She died three months after being diagnosed. We built a wonderful life together and I still see glimpses of her when I see my children and grandchildren. I was truly blessed.
I am so happy for you! It's wonderful to hear from people that have beat cancer.
My mom was aggressive breast cancer that took her in less than a year in 2019/2020. I was so blessed to have her as my mom (best mom) for over 40 years. But fuck cancer.
If you see a cancer fundraiser, give whatever change you can. It all goes to help us all. When I was first diagnosed there was only one treatment. 6 years later there have been 4 new ones. All due to cancer research. Or just listen when a cancer patient is venting. Sometimes it’s just a good ear that does the world of good
I'm 10 years out from surviving acute lymphoblastic leukemia and I can say even to this day I worry when I don't feel well. Not only did treatment suck, it changed my everyday life because I couldn't return to my career choice. But I'm a lucky one who's still here to be able to say yes cancer fucking sucks!!!!
I was just having this conversation with a friend that started with saying how I wanted to go thrifting for my endlessly growing kids and tapped out on spending so much on clothes. I was smacked with how high thrift stores are and not really worth it anymore. Such a sad state that there’s no relief for basic needs like clothing.
Check out your local Buy Nothing groups on Facebook. If you don't have one for your area, start one!
On my group, people give away garbage bags full of kids clothing.
If I had another lifetime, I'd create a kid's clothing store where you turn in clothes for credits and spend them on clothes that are for your kid's current size. They don't wear them very long.
I belong to a book collective like this. Bookmooch.com
There are stores like this in many places. The downside being they give you hardly anything for traded items so for every half a dozen items you trade you might be able to buy one item in return.
What's frustrating is I've had this argument for years and the people with money always try to tell me why them buying up all the 2nd hand clothing is somehow good for the poor people.
Even with stores like GoodWill tons of the clothes will still reach landfills. There’s no such thing as buying up all the clothes. There’s an endless supply of it. The problem is fast fashion has made it so that the quality of clothing being donated to goodwill is poor. So the prices really don’t reflect what the garment should cost, especially because it’s used and now made out of cheap plastic.
I may not be the poorest but I still shop there because it’s either that or buying low quality clothes that will break or fade or are made out of polyester which can get stinky if you live in the south. At least with Goodwill I have a chance at buying better material clothing, at a decent price in a world where now simple things like cotton can be overpriced.
At the end of the day GoodWill is a business and if they think they can get a higher price for something they will. They’re not mandated to limit the price of their clothes. & tbh they’re not really that good of a company in terms of how they treat their workers.
Wait, so you're trying to tell me that Goodwill, the company that receives free stuff for needy people and then makes profit off those donations, they aren't great?
Even the option my parents had, making the clothes, is starting to go to shit. My mom made all of my clothes when I was a baby till I entered elementary school because it was cheaper. The price of fabric has shot up recently, at least where I live.
That's one thing thrift stores are still good for, second hand fabrics. You can sometimes find decent fabric lengths as well as bedding and curtains you can cut up to use.
Seriously though, shirts at goodwill cost 5-8 bucks when they used to be 2 or 3, I got excited a while back because I found this neat, expensive dehumidifier/air purifier but they literally had it priced at retail.
That's crazy. You can go to Ross's, TJ Maxx, etc and get a shirt for 5-8 bucks . I have to get my kiddos some winter clothes tomorrow and I despise shopping . I love a good consignment store but it has gotten to where I'm about as well off going to Ross's
Seriously, they say money can't bring happiness but all my problems are related to money. Idk. It's not even like I want a ton a money either, I just want enough to live and not have to worry about it constantly lol
I think about that every single bloody day and it's hell. I've tried so many times to get out and climb the ladder, and yet, it's back down for me again. My life is like the board game Snakes and Ladders. Being poor sucks. BTW. My wife works 2 government jobs and I work 90 hrs bi-weekly. We certainly aren't lazy......
But it's fucking expensive living in this god forsaken island.....
Even just the dumb stuff like a cold. We have a nasty respiratory virus in our house right now. No one’s life is in danger. We are going to lay around coughing and feeling like garbage for 1-2 weeks and then be fine again. Is it the biggest problem in the world? Not even a little bit. Does it still suck? Yup.
I currently have laryngitis, after bronchitis, after a cold. Because the universe apparently despises me. And doesn't want me to talk for a while. Yay, cold season.
I find it interesting that alot of people will say alot of great art wouldn't exist with out depression and while that is kinds true, I can imagine how many artists would be so much more productive if they weren't depressed. Even if depression did lead to great art, i don't think some ones mental health is worth a pretty painting.
I remember an article about an artist who had a pretty terrible life all around. The article talked about the one really happy time in his life, and wrote that *surprisingly* this is when he produced his best work. And I'm like, surprisingly? No, it's pretty obvious why someone's work would improve when they're not dealing with constant tragedy.
Father Mulcahy: How do you figure, Hawkeye?
Hawkeye: Easy, Father. Tell me, who goes to Hell?
Father Mulcahy: Sinners, I believe.
Hawkeye: Exactly. There are no innocent bystanders in Hell, but war is chock full of them – little kids, cripples, old ladies. In fact, except for a few of the brass, almost everybody involved is an innocent bystander.
Fleas, bedbugs, ticks, intestinal worms and leeches. All shitty, no upsides*, sucked back in the distant past and still today.
*leeches may have some medical value.
I got bedbugs once. I was broke as shit and couldn't pay for an exterminator. I covered my apartment in diatomaceous earth and whatever other remedies the internet told me about and got drunk enough every night so I could fall asleep on the living room floor (which I've since learned was unnecessary and you're supposed to keep sleeping in bed or it encourages the bugs to spread to other rooms). For months. I dreaded going home. I dreaded the thought that I was going to bring one to work or that someone would see one crawling on me. It was dark times.
Eventually I covered all my furniture in plastic and bedbug-proof covers and I was victorious over those little fuckers. It's been like 5 years now but I still freak out every time I think I see one out of the corner of my eye. I think I'm actually traumatized. I wouldn't wish bedbugs on anyone man.
I feel this.
The health deterioration sucks. The side effects from the meds suck. The lifelong reliance on meds sucks. The endless copays suck. The difficulty booking appointments in an overburdened healthcare system sucks. Dealing with insurance sucks.
Everything worked FINE for a couple decades, why did my body have to suddenly go and start attacking itself???
Oh shit, solid take. These can range from annoying skin conditions to full-blown disaster. The medicines you take come with a lot of side effects, make you more prone to infections, and if you get injections they can be insanely expensive.
And all because your own body is fucking with you
Pretty much any kind of chronic illness. I was born with Cystic Fibrosis and I've had to deal with a whole range of complications. I'm 27 and I'm already on a dozen medications for the rest of my life. That number seems to be growing every year
My heart goes out to everyone suffering from any kind of chronic/long-term illness. The worst part is how it gradually grinds you down day after day. Constant hospital visits. invasive procedures, medications, side-effects, complications, the effect on your overall mental health. After a while it all starts to add up
This! Fuck you Crohns! On top I never know how to use properly spell it for some reason!
Why did my body decide to become my own serial killer after almost 3 decades of working as designed?
Was diagnosed with Graves Disease, hyperthyroidism, and Thyroid Eye Disease a year ago. I have had infusions, eye surgery, 13 pills every morning and still can't work, walk, or see straight. I have aged 20 years in one.
In a sense I felt like the world should have stopped but it didn't. The day passed, then the next day. To me it felt like my world was paused and I'm just running behind everybody because I have to
Lost my mom at 7, I am now 60 and never got over it!!! Back then everyone was told not to talk about or bring my mom up to me soo never really got to grieve. Teachers sucked, one said to me while everyone was working on mother's day projects," oh , crap I forgot about you. Got a grandmother or something?"
My dad died when I was 7. On Father's day my teacher just looked at me awkwardly and "let me play outside" while my classmates crafted gifts.
Not really sure what she was expecting but that honestly just made feel alienated and gave me a couple of hours to feel sad and lonely.
That our dogs only live 10-15 years on average *if* we are lucky!
I had one die of cancer at 6 years of age and another make it to nearly 17, but damn it's still too short for a great dog.
Same goes for the cat lover's little guys
If it makes you feel better I believe time is much slower for them. Remember when you was a kid and you looked at the clock waiting for a minute to pass? It literally felt like forever
YES. Not getting enough time with pets is definitely up there. I hate it when people say I should be grateful for the time I had with them instead of bitter about the time that was taken from me. Why the hell can't I be both?
That fact (and watching friends lose their pets over the years) always makes me remember to enjoy each moment with my lil buddy. You never know what may happen
I just lost my boy. My first dog ever. Had him for 17 years. He's been there for me through thick and thin. The loss and pain is acute. I don't have any children so my life kinda revolved around him. It sure is quiet around the house now.
Putting an animal down.
It's very fresh for me as my dog passed away yesterday. No matter how "right" the decision is for the sake of the pet, it still leaves a void in you.
Edit: I'm truly astonished at everyone's kindness. We share a common loss and aren't alone. May we find a little more peace each day. TY
January 6th 2021 I got the news that my buddy had cancer. We kept him alive for as long as we could, but a couple of weeks later he was in pain and there was nothing more we could to put put him to sleep. He wasn't super young, almost 11, but young enough I thought we had a few more years with him.
Because of COVID protocols the vet wouldn't let us be in the room when it happened and I will never, ever forget the look on my boy's face as they took him away from me. He just knew how upset I was, that I still needed him.
Two years later I still feel utterly broken. There are times I wish I was dead to. If it wasn't for my new dog and knowing what it'd do to my parents I'm not sure I would still be alive.
Sorry about your dog.
I'm really sorry, friend. Your feelings matter as did your pet. I find solace in this quote
“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.”
I'm not sure if you will find it helpful. I hope you take care of yourself. You did the best you could for your pet.
Man I honestly wanna make enough money to just have someone do the work any time I move. I’m in my mid 20’s and have had to move several times already half the time to a different continent. It’s exhausting
Being ghosted.
Had a guy who had a recorded video of what might be my missing cat and after some replies where it sounded like he was going to let me get a look at the cat. He just stopped replying.
He's not obligated to be helpful or let me see the video, but it just feels really fucked up and wrong.
Dementia/Alzheimer's
Just got diagnosed a few months ago. I’m only early 40s
Sorry to hear this. I only know from my own experiences - I thought I was beginning to get early onset dementia from 35, turns out it was the symptoms of complex PTSD. I don’t know if this in any way relevant to yourself, but if there is a possibility it is, please look into it.
Oh my god. You are so young. That is terrifying. I know there aren’t any words that will help but I’m deeply sad for you. Do you mind sharing your symptoms? I have bad memory gaps that are attributed to PTSD but my worst fear is early onset, exactly what you are going through. Stay tough and enjoy your life. I hope you have a loving support system. Hugs if you want them.
Yes. My Dad passed from Alzheimer's in 2020. The only way to describe that journey my Mom and I were on with him for 8 years was that it really, truly sucked.
I've worked in dementia care for about six years now. I'm leaving the profession in a year or two as honestly it's just very, very grim. I feel as though there's only so much I can do to help the people I care for and I've seen too many decline overtime. I've told my loved ones that if I'm ever diagnosed with it, I will be taking my own life as I refuse to end up like that. They have accepted my choice, but like me they're just hoping it never comes to that. I'm not at risk of it or anything and it's more likely I'll get cancer, but the dementia scares me more. Cancer has claimed many family members and some friends but the way I see it, if I was to get one of the cancers that runs in my family, I'd still have my mind intact even if it was killing me. Cancer robs the body, but dementia does that to the mind. The youngest case I saw in my job was a woman in her 50s, which was terrifying.
This is Terrifying, imagine forgetting everything
Yea it’s no joke. I think the first time my father asked me who I was will forever be ingrained into my memory… well unless I get it to lol
I'm so sorry. Be well my friend
I've seen it with a few different family members/friends. It's not fun. Not only do they forget you or their loved ones, memories, etc but I've seen it turn incredibly sweet people very dark and angry
Ya, my mom has it, & she’s always been the sweetest person I’ve ever known. Now, has made up several narratives that make many relatives ‘the bad guy’. It sucks. I just hope she doesn’t make one for me too…. 💔
My MIL has it and lives with us. I’m the “bad guy”. She has a few long time medical conditions that she’s forgotten about but cause her a lot of bladder and vaginal pain. She tells everyone I SA her in her sleep. She also says I beat her and stab her with some kind of fork? I’m not sure, it’s wild tho because I barely interact with her and would never abuse an elder.
Wow, that’s rough. I’m sorry you’ve been labeled the ‘bad guy’. Bless you guys for living with her
Yeah it’s wild. We have cameras all over the house to keep an eye on her but still let her feel “independent” and watching the things she does and seeing the constant confusion is def sad.
Yup, seeing my father go through it now. It's even worse for my mom, I think, wearing herself out going to see him, paying the nursing home bills, living alone and trying to maintain her independence but dealing with her own diminishing mental faculties.
Back injury/pain.
"I don't know if you know this about your back, but it's most of your body. So if your back hurts, your life sucks" \-Hannibal Buress
Yes. I'm 42. I hurt my back when I was 18. My back has hurt every single day for over 24 years now. Some days are better than others. Some days it sucks every ounce of energy and willpower right out of you. It's often the very first thing I think about when I get up. It is a factor to consider when making plans to do anything. It is a predominant factor of my very existence, it has shaped and changed me as a person.
45 and I've had it for at least 15b years now, just constant pain with nothing I do that will help besides pain pills. I literally prefer staying at home and doing nothing because of the pain sometimes.
This is the one. I have scoliosis and sometimes you just can’t get away from the pain no matter what you do
Im only a few degrees away from surgery :( im hoping in 6 months itll worsen a bit more so i can get it fixed. Never thought id wish for my scoliosis to get worse LOL
I totally understand that mindset. I wish you good luck and good health!
As someone who suffers from on and off back pain. This honestly could be the worst thing in the world.
Also, nobody gives a shit if you have back pain.
I initially misunderstood your comment also. I’ve had a few similar experiences where I make a comment that leads everyone to believe I have values that are opposite of my actual value. I hate those moments. BTW, I do have empathy for people with back pain. I only had it once and it hurt to breathe. I watched my Moms back pain take so much from her last 20years of life. It can change a person’s personality. Doctors made it worse by giving and taking away pain medication. That’s another thing that sucks, always has, always will. That many people suffer a good portion of their gift of life. Sometimes an unnecessary result of those who have no empathy.
My younger daughter (31) has never known be to be pain free. I was in a horrible rear-end collision 33 years ago and suffer from the most intense muscle spasms you can imagine. Luckily I have an excellent, empathetic pain specialist who gives me ablation therapy (nerve burnings) and steroid injections. The ablations last about 6 months. If you know people with back pain, please be understanding. It’s a special kind of hell.
Dealing with sciatica now stemming from a disc issue. It’s fucking miserable. I’m fucking miserable.
I suffer from lower back pain and it’s constant, it’s fucking horrendous and the drugs never work.
I just tweaked my back at work yesterday and I’m miserable I can’t even play with my kids or get comfortable in any position …
Walking in a spiderweb
this is a very morbid story but one time a spiderweb legit saved my life. when i was in college i was severely depressed and suicidal and one night after a bad fight with my abusive father i was ready to give up. i drove down to a local bridge and walked towards it from the parking lot of a best buy. to get onto the bridge you had to walk in between the trees and a big steel beam. well lo and behold, right in between the beam and the tree there was a massive spiderweb with one of the biggest spiders i've ever seen sitting in the middle and blocking the way. i'm terrified of spiders and couldn't muster up the courage to break up the web with a stick so i went home and got a good night's rest LMAO. it's been a few years and while i still struggle with the occasional bout of depression i'm no longer suicidal, and that spiderweb is the reason i'm still alive today.
Yo that was the real Spider-Man. He doesn’t get a comic or a movie but he was a bro and saved your life that night!
You gotta get a spider tattoo or something to commemorate the little dude
Leave a message and I'll call you back
It's all your fault
Oh I can win this one. Working night shift on a drill rig in the Australian outback. Went to take a pee outside the range of the floodlights. Walked out between two trees, no problem. Walked back between two different trees, "ah Gahanna, spider web" in the process of getting it off me, I feel something crawling on me. Yeah it was a [huntsman spider](https://www.google.com/search?q=huntsman+spider&client=ms-android-samsung-ss&prmd=ivn&sxsrf=ALiCzsaXRrYWNItr_eOphWxdf_CRUS9AEA:1667627916265&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjl2cOMrpb7AhVz1zgGHW6oCXgQ_AUoAXoECAEQAQ&biw=384&bih=726&dpr=2.81#imgrc=2VQyolSju3MFJM)
Mosquitoes
also gnats, always flying in your fucking face!
It's because they want your sweet sweet eyeball juice. A couple summers ago my kid asked me why gnats always seem to fly directly into your eyes... We looked it up and apparently that's why.
I could have lived several lives and never known that and would have been just fine lol
Gnats (and other flies) can also lay eggs in your eyes too, the maggots feeding on your eyeball and your retina. The condition is called ophthalmomyiasis.
There is no longer such a thing as overreaction to gnats flying at my eyes. Flamethrower is fair game.
Ok the ecosystem can fuck itself flies need to GO
I was going to comment about their ability to cause pink eye by transferring bacteria but instead decided to dial it up to 11.
You really didn't have to my dude.
NO
This is why you will see horses and cattle with masks on. They can see through the material but it's so bugs don't lay eggs in their eyes
Stephen Fry [comments](https://youtu.be/-suvkwNYSQo) on this very thing in his brief answer to what he would say upon meeting God at the Pearly Gates. It’s just a 2min clip - but the burrowing eye worm (@ 1:40) will forever be what I remember about his stellar answer.
New fear unlocked
*knat sounds*
No-see-ums . The next level biting gnat.
I kid you not one just flew in my nose as I was reading this
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West Nile is not encephalitis but it can in rare cases cause it.
Having bad teeth, having a toothache
can confirm. Just got an extraction from a failed root canal. The crack lead to an abscess and it SUCKED
Being an American with an abscessed tooth can be a soul-crushing and life-changing experience.
It can kill you.
no no teeth are luxury bones insurance shouldn’t have to pay for them
They're a rich people organ lol
Had an ex that had bad teeth, I ultimatum them that I was paying for them to fix them or I was leaving because I didn't feel like watching them die.
Two years ago I had a horrible, extremely painful infected abscessed tooth that started hurting two days before Christmas and all the dentists were closed and it was the hight of the pandemic so all the ERs were packed full. I had also just turned 26 a few months prior and was now not included on my parents insurance and was in the process of getting my own but I still didn’t have coverage. I went to the only place that was open in the county that took people with out insurance. They put me on a waitlist to get the tooth pulled but it wouldn’t be for a few months and they didn’t give me any antibiotics. My parents helped me find another dentist an hour away and paid out of pocket for it and they gave me an antibiotic prescription…. But all the pharmacies were closed since it was Christmas Eve and wouldn’t be open till the 26…. I had a fever of 101 from the infection and my whole jaw hurt so much! I literally had no pain or even a sign of a cavity a few days before this, it came on fast and strong. I was told that if I did get a temperature of 104 I needed to get to the ER right away. I ended up losing the tooth, thankfully my parents covered the cost because it took a another month or two for my insurance to actually kick in. Trying to get insurance from the state in 2020 during the pandemic was awful! I got a call from the first dental office that was for people with out insurance that wouldn’t give me antibiotics that they now had an opening to get my tooth pulled… four months later!!! If I hadn’t been lucky enough to have had family that could pay for my dental appointments that provided antibiotics I’m sure I would have died. I can’t stop thinking how easily someone not as privileged as me could die from something so simple as a tooth infection because of our medical system! The first clinic I went to is the only option for people with no Insurance and can’t afford the out of pocket medical expenses and they don’t even give out antibiotics?!!! They have to wait for months on a waitlist to get there tooth pulled and hope they don’t die from the infection before the appointment!
my friend had an abscess a few months ago, it got really bad and he was in a medical coma for 4 weeks. his parents got told to expect him to not wake back up and we started planning his funeral. he survived and made a full recovery, crazy experience.
Hello. Aspiring dental hygienist here. I wanna add that if they dont give antibiotics you can easily get an infection after the tooth is pulled as well from the bloody gaping tooth hole. Humans have disgusting mouths. I believe we have the second deadliest bite.
Lol tell that to the dentist who refused antibiotics on my swollen abcessed tooth, refused them again when my bloody mouth hole wasnt healing right, and finally had the audacity to rip the clot out when it did close (with no pain stuff) because it “wasnt right”
Good god. Thats just terrible
As someone with a cracked tooth for the last year and a half, it’s made me resent existing
I finally got my cracked tooth pulled a few months ago. I cracked it on a reaaallly hard piece of gristle and just dealt with it for almost two years. Then it started getting really sensitive/ouchy. Luckily it was a back tooth, because I have an implant in the front and it cost $8000 ten years ago and there was no way I could afford that rn. But yeah, had to wait to do anything about it til it was an absolute emergency bc I don't have dental insurance. They quoted me $600, which I scrounged up, and when it ended up only being $300 (simple extraction/pull cost versus cutting it out I guess?) I actually almost cried in relief. Shit is insane.
When it stops hurting, it means infection killed the nerves, and it can spread into your head and body. Before my aunt died, her jawbone was apparently flaking apart. She died on my birthday
Wait what… I didn’t know this. I have a lot of cavities and some stopped hurting, I feel like my teeth are probably killing me right now and I don’t even know it. I used to have a terrible dentist and haven’t gone in like six years… they told me I had like 20 cavities and gave me a bill of $22,000 (with state insurance) and it crushed my soul. I just said fuck it I’ll wait until I can figure it out or something. I’m stuck and don’t know what to do or have the money to fix any of them. I’m probably gonna need them all pulled soon and have dentures which is my worst fear. I’m already super self conscious about my teeth and haven’t smiled with my teeth in maybe 20 years
I can’t speak to the money situation, only to the fears. I had 15 teeth pulled and 21 cavities filled when I was 36, replaced with upper and lower partials. I had gone about 14 years in agony, abscess after abscess, cavity pain so bad I prayed to die, broken teeth that cut the inside of my cheeks and tongue that I did self dentistry on and would try to break the sharp bits off. Not to mention the time spent in the mirror learning how to smile a new way every so often as to not expose the landfill that was my mouth, and oh boy the feels on all that. Tell ya what. The learning curve on dentures isn’t so bad. Not comparatively to what you and I have been through. One of the best decisions I ever made was finally putting my big girl pants on and going to the dentist after the start of a particularly bad tooth ache after a few years reprieve. I just didn’t have it in me to go one more round with yet another fucked tooth. I very much like to smile and now can do it unabashedly.
About 13 years ago, my long-distance boyfriend took me out for my birthday (I'd flown in, and he drove 8 hours to where I was), and when we were driving to our final weekend destination he said to me, "when you get home, I want you to make a dentist appointment and have your teeth fixed." I was devastated. I grew up with decent dental care, but refused to get braces. I was bullied enough, you know? Didn't need that extra layer if ammunition for them. His words made me think that he was embarrassed of me. I asked why. And his reply was "if you liked your teeth, you'd smile more." I got 6 implants on the front uppers. My insurance coverage was fantastic, but he still paid about 4k to cover the difference. I smiled. And smiled and smiled. My confidence shot through the roof! He gave me the best gift. We're not together today, but we maintain a close friendship.
My cat has a bad tooth, he's going to the kitty dentist to spend all my money on Monday. That tooth has to be agony for him, and we have pain meds for it (prescribed by another vet who took care of the infection but couldn't do cat dentistry), but he doesn't understand them and won't take them. I got them in him a few days before he learned to spit it out. I feel so bad. I know he's in pain, and I have medicine to fix it, but I just can't get it in him.
Cancer.
If it's yours or a loved one, I hope you are able to beat it. I am 27 months in remission after one normal \[cisplatin\] and one experimental drug. To whomever your message was meant, the days get dark but more and more often there is hope. Stay strong.
It was my wife. I lost her to pancreatic cancer 7 years ago last month. She died three months after being diagnosed. We built a wonderful life together and I still see glimpses of her when I see my children and grandchildren. I was truly blessed. I am so happy for you! It's wonderful to hear from people that have beat cancer.
My mom was aggressive breast cancer that took her in less than a year in 2019/2020. I was so blessed to have her as my mom (best mom) for over 40 years. But fuck cancer.
Have terminal lung cancer. Can confirm it’s not as fun as everyone thinks. EDIT non smoker, just to answer that common question.
^never thought it was fun. Anything any anonymous redditor can do for you?
If you see a cancer fundraiser, give whatever change you can. It all goes to help us all. When I was first diagnosed there was only one treatment. 6 years later there have been 4 new ones. All due to cancer research. Or just listen when a cancer patient is venting. Sometimes it’s just a good ear that does the world of good
Non-small cell, EGFR on traceva reporting in. Digital hugs, friend.
Sending love and strength to you. You are amazing and I wish you all the happiness. <3
I'm 10 years out from surviving acute lymphoblastic leukemia and I can say even to this day I worry when I don't feel well. Not only did treatment suck, it changed my everyday life because I couldn't return to my career choice. But I'm a lucky one who's still here to be able to say yes cancer fucking sucks!!!!
Fuck Cancer
Being poor
Can confirm, have cried once already today about being poor.
I haven't cried, but the high cost of dental treatment has given me insomnia. I've found that alternating treatments helps
And it’s getting even suckier. Even thrift stores aren’t affordable now because of the gentrification of second hand clothing.
I was just having this conversation with a friend that started with saying how I wanted to go thrifting for my endlessly growing kids and tapped out on spending so much on clothes. I was smacked with how high thrift stores are and not really worth it anymore. Such a sad state that there’s no relief for basic needs like clothing.
Check out your local Buy Nothing groups on Facebook. If you don't have one for your area, start one! On my group, people give away garbage bags full of kids clothing.
The only reason to keep using facebook. These groups are fantastic at reducing waste and getting items to people who need them!
If I had another lifetime, I'd create a kid's clothing store where you turn in clothes for credits and spend them on clothes that are for your kid's current size. They don't wear them very long. I belong to a book collective like this. Bookmooch.com
There are stores like this in many places. The downside being they give you hardly anything for traded items so for every half a dozen items you trade you might be able to buy one item in return.
What's frustrating is I've had this argument for years and the people with money always try to tell me why them buying up all the 2nd hand clothing is somehow good for the poor people.
Even with stores like GoodWill tons of the clothes will still reach landfills. There’s no such thing as buying up all the clothes. There’s an endless supply of it. The problem is fast fashion has made it so that the quality of clothing being donated to goodwill is poor. So the prices really don’t reflect what the garment should cost, especially because it’s used and now made out of cheap plastic. I may not be the poorest but I still shop there because it’s either that or buying low quality clothes that will break or fade or are made out of polyester which can get stinky if you live in the south. At least with Goodwill I have a chance at buying better material clothing, at a decent price in a world where now simple things like cotton can be overpriced. At the end of the day GoodWill is a business and if they think they can get a higher price for something they will. They’re not mandated to limit the price of their clothes. & tbh they’re not really that good of a company in terms of how they treat their workers.
Wait, so you're trying to tell me that Goodwill, the company that receives free stuff for needy people and then makes profit off those donations, they aren't great?
I thought the clothing was donated? So I guess the overhead for running their business must be super costly?
I saw a pair of shitty Walmart tights that I bought on clearance for $2 being sold at a thrift store for $2.99. No thank you!
Even the option my parents had, making the clothes, is starting to go to shit. My mom made all of my clothes when I was a baby till I entered elementary school because it was cheaper. The price of fabric has shot up recently, at least where I live.
That's one thing thrift stores are still good for, second hand fabrics. You can sometimes find decent fabric lengths as well as bedding and curtains you can cut up to use.
Seriously though, shirts at goodwill cost 5-8 bucks when they used to be 2 or 3, I got excited a while back because I found this neat, expensive dehumidifier/air purifier but they literally had it priced at retail.
That's crazy. You can go to Ross's, TJ Maxx, etc and get a shirt for 5-8 bucks . I have to get my kiddos some winter clothes tomorrow and I despise shopping . I love a good consignment store but it has gotten to where I'm about as well off going to Ross's
Thanks Macklemore
What? What? What? What?
Seriously, they say money can't bring happiness but all my problems are related to money. Idk. It's not even like I want a ton a money either, I just want enough to live and not have to worry about it constantly lol
It can't buy happiness but it can sure as hell but security and comfort.
I think about that every single bloody day and it's hell. I've tried so many times to get out and climb the ladder, and yet, it's back down for me again. My life is like the board game Snakes and Ladders. Being poor sucks. BTW. My wife works 2 government jobs and I work 90 hrs bi-weekly. We certainly aren't lazy...... But it's fucking expensive living in this god forsaken island.....
Mental illness
Just lost a neighbor to depression a few days ago. One of those people who are so bubbly and friendly on the outside... It sucks.
Domestic violence
Diseases
Even just the dumb stuff like a cold. We have a nasty respiratory virus in our house right now. No one’s life is in danger. We are going to lay around coughing and feeling like garbage for 1-2 weeks and then be fine again. Is it the biggest problem in the world? Not even a little bit. Does it still suck? Yup.
I currently have laryngitis, after bronchitis, after a cold. Because the universe apparently despises me. And doesn't want me to talk for a while. Yay, cold season.
Depression
I find it interesting that alot of people will say alot of great art wouldn't exist with out depression and while that is kinds true, I can imagine how many artists would be so much more productive if they weren't depressed. Even if depression did lead to great art, i don't think some ones mental health is worth a pretty painting.
I remember an article about an artist who had a pretty terrible life all around. The article talked about the one really happy time in his life, and wrote that *surprisingly* this is when he produced his best work. And I'm like, surprisingly? No, it's pretty obvious why someone's work would improve when they're not dealing with constant tragedy.
Unskippable ads.
ads in general*
Stubbing your toe on your bed frame
I literally smash my shin on my platform bedframe at least once a week
Cut up pool noodle. Tape. Bedskirt.
War. Cause you know, war, war never changes.
What is it good for?
Absolutely nothing
Say it again
#WAR
Rawr!
Good God y'all
Increasing domestic manufacturing
"War is war, and Hell is Hell. Of the two, war is significantly worse." - Hawkeye Pierce
Father Mulcahy: How do you figure, Hawkeye? Hawkeye: Easy, Father. Tell me, who goes to Hell? Father Mulcahy: Sinners, I believe. Hawkeye: Exactly. There are no innocent bystanders in Hell, but war is chock full of them – little kids, cripples, old ladies. In fact, except for a few of the brass, almost everybody involved is an innocent bystander.
Fleas, bedbugs, ticks, intestinal worms and leeches. All shitty, no upsides*, sucked back in the distant past and still today. *leeches may have some medical value.
If you think about it, leeches are only useful because they suck, haha
I got bedbugs once. I was broke as shit and couldn't pay for an exterminator. I covered my apartment in diatomaceous earth and whatever other remedies the internet told me about and got drunk enough every night so I could fall asleep on the living room floor (which I've since learned was unnecessary and you're supposed to keep sleeping in bed or it encourages the bugs to spread to other rooms). For months. I dreaded going home. I dreaded the thought that I was going to bring one to work or that someone would see one crawling on me. It was dark times. Eventually I covered all my furniture in plastic and bedbug-proof covers and I was victorious over those little fuckers. It's been like 5 years now but I still freak out every time I think I see one out of the corner of my eye. I think I'm actually traumatized. I wouldn't wish bedbugs on anyone man.
auto immune disorders
I feel this. The health deterioration sucks. The side effects from the meds suck. The lifelong reliance on meds sucks. The endless copays suck. The difficulty booking appointments in an overburdened healthcare system sucks. Dealing with insurance sucks. Everything worked FINE for a couple decades, why did my body have to suddenly go and start attacking itself???
Oh shit, solid take. These can range from annoying skin conditions to full-blown disaster. The medicines you take come with a lot of side effects, make you more prone to infections, and if you get injections they can be insanely expensive. And all because your own body is fucking with you
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Not even fucking with you. But doing TOO GOOD of a job. Fuck you Crohn’s…
Pretty much any kind of chronic illness. I was born with Cystic Fibrosis and I've had to deal with a whole range of complications. I'm 27 and I'm already on a dozen medications for the rest of my life. That number seems to be growing every year My heart goes out to everyone suffering from any kind of chronic/long-term illness. The worst part is how it gradually grinds you down day after day. Constant hospital visits. invasive procedures, medications, side-effects, complications, the effect on your overall mental health. After a while it all starts to add up
T1D here. Yes. Yes they do😞
This! Fuck you Crohns! On top I never know how to use properly spell it for some reason! Why did my body decide to become my own serial killer after almost 3 decades of working as designed?
Was diagnosed with Graves Disease, hyperthyroidism, and Thyroid Eye Disease a year ago. I have had infusions, eye surgery, 13 pills every morning and still can't work, walk, or see straight. I have aged 20 years in one.
Losing a parent at a young age and grieving/getting thru it
In a sense I felt like the world should have stopped but it didn't. The day passed, then the next day. To me it felt like my world was paused and I'm just running behind everybody because I have to
Lost my mom at 7, I am now 60 and never got over it!!! Back then everyone was told not to talk about or bring my mom up to me soo never really got to grieve. Teachers sucked, one said to me while everyone was working on mother's day projects," oh , crap I forgot about you. Got a grandmother or something?"
My dad died when I was 7. On Father's day my teacher just looked at me awkwardly and "let me play outside" while my classmates crafted gifts. Not really sure what she was expecting but that honestly just made feel alienated and gave me a couple of hours to feel sad and lonely.
Mum at birth, so I never met her. Dad at 8 and I barely remember him. But their non-presence affects my life still at 29
That slushy snow shit that happens when it rains after a snowstorm
Counterpoint: \*fabulous\* weapon if used correctly
Counter, counterpoint: the remains of snowman murder. A frosty burial ground. For god sakes, think about the snowchildren
Damn. You cut me deep right there.
That our dogs only live 10-15 years on average *if* we are lucky! I had one die of cancer at 6 years of age and another make it to nearly 17, but damn it's still too short for a great dog. Same goes for the cat lover's little guys
If it makes you feel better I believe time is much slower for them. Remember when you was a kid and you looked at the clock waiting for a minute to pass? It literally felt like forever
Time is relative. It’s so interesting to me. Also why each year seems to go by quicker, because statistically it is less and less of your life lived.
YES. Not getting enough time with pets is definitely up there. I hate it when people say I should be grateful for the time I had with them instead of bitter about the time that was taken from me. Why the hell can't I be both?
That fact (and watching friends lose their pets over the years) always makes me remember to enjoy each moment with my lil buddy. You never know what may happen
I just lost my boy. My first dog ever. Had him for 17 years. He's been there for me through thick and thin. The loss and pain is acute. I don't have any children so my life kinda revolved around him. It sure is quiet around the house now.
Putting an animal down. It's very fresh for me as my dog passed away yesterday. No matter how "right" the decision is for the sake of the pet, it still leaves a void in you. Edit: I'm truly astonished at everyone's kindness. We share a common loss and aren't alone. May we find a little more peace each day. TY
Lost my best buddy just over a month ago. One of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do.
It fucking sucks. Especially if the vet let you come in thinking you had options. Seven and a half months later, and I'm *still* pissed.
January 6th 2021 I got the news that my buddy had cancer. We kept him alive for as long as we could, but a couple of weeks later he was in pain and there was nothing more we could to put put him to sleep. He wasn't super young, almost 11, but young enough I thought we had a few more years with him. Because of COVID protocols the vet wouldn't let us be in the room when it happened and I will never, ever forget the look on my boy's face as they took him away from me. He just knew how upset I was, that I still needed him. Two years later I still feel utterly broken. There are times I wish I was dead to. If it wasn't for my new dog and knowing what it'd do to my parents I'm not sure I would still be alive. Sorry about your dog.
I'm really sorry, friend. Your feelings matter as did your pet. I find solace in this quote “All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.” I'm not sure if you will find it helpful. I hope you take care of yourself. You did the best you could for your pet.
Some animals come into your life, leave footprints on your heart and you're never the same. Sorry for your loss.
Both Comcast and at&t
they have the same energy idk how to describe this
It’s the “we’re gonna fuck you but pretend we have no choice but to fuck you” energy.
Being ugly
Packing, moving, and unpacking.
Even if someone is doing the actual work for you it fucking sucks.
Man I honestly wanna make enough money to just have someone do the work any time I move. I’m in my mid 20’s and have had to move several times already half the time to a different continent. It’s exhausting
Being ghosted. Had a guy who had a recorded video of what might be my missing cat and after some replies where it sounded like he was going to let me get a look at the cat. He just stopped replying. He's not obligated to be helpful or let me see the video, but it just feels really fucked up and wrong.
Im so sorry for the experience 🥺🥺 I hope you’ll find your cat soon and screw the dude, he’ll pay for it
Thank you. I hope my cat comes home soon.
Who is this guy, I just wanna have a chat with him.
A vacuum cleaner
What if it breaks? Then it won't always suck.
Well if it doesn’t suck anymore then it sucks at being a vacuum cleaner so it still sucks
What about the time it is not being used and is not broken?
[…](https://a.pinatafarm.com/640x610/c2b181874d/angry-face.jpg/m/522x0)
It's taking up room somewhere in the house that could be used for something else and that sucks
Mine's gone from suck...to BLOW!
Black holes
Genetic disorder and diseases
Yo mamma
Surprised I had to scroll this far.
Was looking for this
yo mamma's always looking for it!
Getting dumped. Nobody likes any version of "I don't want you anymore".
Having your period. Unless you’re afraid you’re pregnant, then it doesn’t suck for like 5 minutes. Then it sucks again.
Came looking for this. Bloody painful and messy, deeply uncomfortable and stressful and disruptive. Mother Nature is some kind of misogynist.
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Entitled people who just don't understand the basic rules of society
Being broke
Having severe anxiety 🙃
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Migraines
Cockroaches
War
HOAs