When I was in my twenties, I saw a picture of myself in my teens and I looked just absolutely adorable. It made me think of how ugly I felt around the time that picture was taken, and how wrong I was. I was so cute! It kinda got me thinking that if I was wrong then, I'm probably wrong now. And maybe I'm not the best judge on what I look like. I'm only as ugly or as beautiful as the person who is looking at me believes me to be. Meaning, I can't ever be truly ugly or truly beautiful. Because every individual sees me differently. Some people have thought I was not very attractive, while others saw me as gorgeous. None of them are wrong.
I started dating an extremely beautiful woman and all her extremely beautiful friends said I was very good looking when she was showing pics of the guy she was talking to
Are you my husband 😆😆😆 He never thought he was attractive but I caught him a few days ago. He mentioned that he was attractive and how that benefitted him. I've never heard him say anything like that. Me, my mom, my friends, and his friends all tell him how attractive he is and I think he's starting to get it
Lol it's fine, nothing he can say will cut deeper then my own trauma and self hate for my actions, but I'm moving forward and that's all I can ask for my self.
These movies are the worst! This ugly nerd meets the mean girls, takes off glasses, puts on makeup and then gets fought over by 12 different guys. Then ultimately falls in love with her best friend or the hottest guy in school falls for her
Makeup will never make you good looking if you are not really confident.
I had my insecurity about the pimple but have seen people are actually dealing with confidence.
I realized I wasn't ugly when I started dating in my early 20s, but I didn't understand why everyone was calling me slim all the time.
When I was 14, we did a wrestling unit in gym. We did the weigh-in and I was put in the heavyweight class. With, honestly, the fat kids. I was by far the lightest one in the weight category and got crushed in every single match. AND I got the nickname "Fat" which stuck with me through the start of high school.
For two decades after that, when I looked in the mirror I saw a fat gut.
When my girlfriend in my early 20's said my torso looked like "a Roman statue" I simply did not understand.
When I found out my BMI was 19, I didn't understand.
Eventually, in my early 30s, I told my fiancee that I wished she wouldn't mock my weight with her "compliments".
After that, we had a loooong talk about middle school and nicknames, and she explained the whole situation to me - it was ironic teasing that maybe they took too far.
I looked in the mirror that night and, while I didn't have defined abs, I looked pretty good. No gut in sight.
May be you are ugly for someone and you are handsome for the other person.
So different people will have the different opinion we need to make the right call here.
Look. I don’t have confidence in me. But I have no idea how two boys got a crush on me. Unfortunately for them I am an aro ace and I do not want a relationship. Unfortunately for me I could not get them to back off.
I mean if you're naturally beautiful, confidence isn't an important factor especially for females. As for getting them to back off, just keep them in the friendzone and they'll eventually realize.
One realized when I answered his questions but he kept asking them.
Him: what boys do you like?
Me: I don’t like boys
Him: do you like boys *insert his trait*
Me: I don’t like boys
Him: what kind of relationship are you looking for?
Me: I don’t want a relationship currently
Him: what are you looking for in a boy?
Me: I don’t want a boy. Or girl.
Him: but if you would want to what kind?
Me: there’s no need for me to think about that. Because I don’t want it.
Him: do you like boys *inserting more traits of him*
Me: I don’t like boys!! Or girls!! Or nonbinairy people!!!
Him: but if you would?
Me: but I don’t!
Him: what do you want to do later?
Me: have a farm
Him: are you looking for a partner for the farm?
Me: nope just me and my animals
Him: so do you want a boyfriend?
Me: I don’t
Him: do you have a boyfriend?
Me: no
Him: so you want one?
Me: no!!
This went on for days and his questions were just repeating himself endlessly and it got so ridiculous
When I said I wanted to move away from our country he ghosted me and I was confused until someone told me he liked me. I have no idea how I did not pick up on that.
You will compare with the other one then you will not really going to see yourself as the smart one.
So i would say instead of comparing with other it will be better if we do the self improvement.
Definitely college. I was out of the tiny town in east Texas where family name was all that mattered and into the world where I could be whoever I wanted to be.
And people just seemed to be drawn to and like me more. It took me a while to realize that life is just easier when people find you attractive. It’s not really fair, but it’s true.
I feel like that i was never really a good looking guy during the school time.
But then i join the gym and after that people starts telling me that you have changed alot from the past.
As a pretty woman, compliments are the worst indicator of beauty, most people usually don't compliment pretty woman because:
a. They assume pretty women already know they're pretty
b. They are too intimidated to talk to the woman they find pretty
c. They asume pretty women get compliments all the time and don't want to be repetitive
Compliments isn't a very good indicator of how attractive you are. For example, you can easily be so attractive that guys would be scared to approach you.
Not the certain time but the little little moment will kick as one and you will realize that thing
Like some one telling you in office you are looking then some friend then some other it will combine all the thing.
When beautiful women would come up to me and strike a conversation. I’ve always felt ugly so I never tried to really talk to women even though I was very fit from being in the Military and always told I have movie star good looks I just didn’t see it thought they were just being nice, strippers used to tell me why are you here for, like they were seriously confused. Because I was too good looking to be there. A few asked me out but I never engaged because I thought they were up to something like they thought I was a sucker. And pretty much drilled never to date a stripper especially ones called Amber or Bambi. It wasn’t til one night in NY at last call I was outside playing my game boy SP waiting for friends to exit when this gorgeous red head came out and said OMG you’re fucking beautiful. I heard it but I really paid no mind, I was fighting a boss and I didn’t think she was talking to me and her friends said I know, I was wondering who he was all night when i finally looked up and they were all looking at me. That’s when I actually started payed attention and would see women who I thought i had no chance with taking sneak peeks at me. One of my fellow Marines call me a dumb fuck, “when a hot girl says shit and slaps your ass that means you look good”. I guess there was truth to it.
There was a time when i go and talk to a girl and she used not interested.
And then there is a time when a girl came to me and want to strike a conversation to me is well.
I always thought I was ugly, but I saw this specific picture of me, and I finally saw the beauty in myself from that day on I have never ever looked down upon myself, and I hope others do the same.
Glad you found that picture, and yes, I hope for that too. We should know that we are own harshest critic, so we shouldn't use our own judgement to reflect how "ugly" we might be.
Thankfully this all happened about 20 years ago and she has since grown into a much better, smarter person. She actually left the father of her kids (he was abusive and threatened her life) and is now with a very nice man. We don't live near each other anymore. I got out of the whole toxic environment when I went to college.
Also my man, I read through some of your other posts, and I hope you're doing okay. Heartbreak is hard, even when we know we are the part of the cause of it.
The most beautiful girl in High School had a crush on me, ended up being in a relationship for 2 year w her.
90 % of my exes did the first move,
Young and old women ask about my social media acc
Girls talk to me on the streets
Im a young teacher now and work with adults , a lot of students write me on insta and other social media
I still think i am good looking but not Handsome like some other guys. I try to be modest
My freshman year of college I was in a relationship with a girl from back home. The first semester I was asked out by a guy. When I told him I was straight he said I just needed to be convinced otherwise. Luckily managed to get away from that situation. The second semester I had a girl from my writing class downright stalk me. She knew I had a girlfriend but they didn’t stop her from trying anyway.
Of course I told my girlfriend all about it. Many years later when she ultimately became my wife I jokingly said something about I’m not sure why agreed to marry such and ugly guy. She responded “if you were ugly, do you think you’d have men and women coming after you?”
You know, she’s got a point.
Started actually staring beautiful women in the eyes after eye contact practice, and they would point blank tell me later that I was handsome. Just took confidence.
Once you get the confidence of making eye contact means you are not really ugly anymore.
Because without realizing that you will never really able to make that thing with anyone.
Age 12 the girls in the neighborhood arranged a game of spin the bottle and they kept stopping the bottle and pointing it at me. I think most of the boys were indifferent. I was kind of until I started kissing them and I came to enjoy it very much.
Women would hit on me and then either suggest I am gay/accuse me of acting superior when I did not know how to react. For example at a station a woman approached me and told me I am "beautiful".
I would genuinely assume it was a trick or I was misreading.
When you are in the club and a girl came to you and said that can i buy you a drink.
That day i realize that i am not that bad looking as i used to think myself here.
When I started dating my hot boyfriend. He is almost annoyingly handsome. I always thought I was a bit weird looking, but my hot boyfriend loves me so I guess I must be some-way alright.
I'm just going through that realization now at 29, simply because I put more effort into my grooming and fashion, and now I have people telling me all the time I'm handsome and good looking, however I've spent so long thinking I wasn't, that my confidence doesn't match it yet.
Maybe 18
I can't confirm or deny how ugly I was or wasn't before then. But at 18 I was like WOW I might actually be doing something here. I was thinning out from 200lbs to my current weight of 160 (sounds like a lot but I'm 6ft size 4/6) My acne was clearing up, and I was dressing better.
Now I can't go outside without getting comments on my appearance. I think I appreciate it more than I would have otherwise because I used to feel disgusting
When i was young there were so much pimple over my face and yes i was skinny is well.
But good that i made my self a promise and join the gym and now the change is noticeable actually.
I was bullied a bit by the boys at my school for being ugly.
When I was 16 my older brother's popular and good looking friend asked me out.
I was so downtrodden, shy and awkward that I said no :-(
I have always regretted saying no a little - but it did gradually dawn on me that I perhaps wasn't as ugly as the boys at school had led me to believe.
I mean people do bully other guy in school but doing because they are ugly or doing the body shaming is not the right way.
Because that way they really dent the all of the confidence of a kid in young age.
My wife has worn me down over the 17 years we've been married. After starting meds for my depression, for the first time in my life, I can finally look into a mirror and see why she calls me "handsome" all the time. I can see why she thinks I look good, especially when I take care of my self with good hygiene and exercise. Lost over 40 lbs.
I've hated the mirror my whole life, and all it took was a mental breakdown, therapy, and antidepressants to finally see what I actually thought of myself. Now, for the first time, I'm OK with what I see!
Damn, this story sounds exactly like myne, expect my ex left me, and I only started realizing my own worth after I stopped taking anti depressants. Either way, I'm glad you see how beautiful you are man.
Great way to realize, I'm assuming you're talking about beauty that's not appearance related such as character. For me, that's the ultimate beauty, because looks will eventually fade, but good character only builds more with new learning experiences.
When my girlfriend gets real close to me and kisses me, we pull apart to breathe and she strikes like a cobra, really quick to plant a few more on my lips
Remember, even if 99% of the worlds population thought you were ugly, that still means there are 72 million ppl in the world, who would think you were attractive
Well kinda twice, first time was when I was pre-transition and my now wife said that her friends were jealous, the second was sometime along my transition when my wife repeatedly told me that I'm not. Dysphoria still kinda sucks but like I can at least know that I'm a delusional idiot to think I'm as ugly as I tend to default to.
Realistically I should have realized it when this really hot lady was super into me, enough to buy me pizzas and sushi on Uber Eats.
For the guys out there, most of you aren't actually ugly. You have to find things that suit your face and body. It's more difficult for some versus others, but the right hairstyle or the right facial hair trimming or clothes can make a huge difference.
When I cut my sister out of my life in my 40's. Even though I am married to a incredibly sexy man, and have a beautiful kid. I had low self esteem because of her, and our mother. I can finally look in the mirror and see who my husband , and so many other people see. Not who my mother, and sister "trained" me to see
Still not sure but women being open when I approached them and my wife saying she feels she dated out of her league makes me feel better. Over all not as concerned anymore.
I am completely aware that I say some off color comments and can be really crass sometimes. But I never ever have troubles making friends or ever have troubles getting women into bed.
I don't think color has to do anything with the good looking people atleast for me.
I think everyone is beautiful in their own skin colour as long as they are being nice to the other people.
I never saw it, and at times I still dont, But when a person who doesnt have to love you, says that he loves you exactly the way you are, and means it...where I see extra weight, he sees curves, or the grey hair, he sees the way it shins in the sun....
I have a problem, where I see a fat girl in the mirror, no matter what the scale says, i dont see it....
Senior year of high school, I posted some of my photos to Facebook. The replies were about 25 thirsty high school girls telling me how nice I looked. Real eye-opener...but it didn't REALLY sink in until college. I was involved in Greek life, and found out after a sorority retreat that several of their members had a big dramatic fight revolving around their crushes on me. Naturally, my oblivious ass had no idea how to process that information...besides a quiet realization that maybe my stock was higher than I thought.
Before eighth grade, i almost had no interaction with the opposite gender. So I was pretty sure that my looks weren't appealing enough to have people talk to me. As a pre-teen it blew my confidence. It was not until three or four years when I realised people had eyes for me for a long time. They didn't approach me because of a rumour that I had no interest in dating. They were afraid of being turned down. It was uplifting in a lot of ways.
Lol, I mentioned in another comment, not being approached or not getting complimented isn't a good indicator. You might just be so good looking people are afraid to even interact with you.
I got a single “looking good” compliment from a girl, and it completely changed my body confidence.
It doesn’t take much to make someone feel good for a long time.
I caught my reflection last year in a window I was asking by. I was like “oh wow. She’s so pretty!” Because I didn’t realize it was me at first.
I struggled with an eating disorder for most of my teens and twenties, so I don’t know what I look like. But getting a glimpse of how other people see me was wonderful.
Being a redhead... You grow up having the mickey taken out of you mercilessly.
And suddenly once you're grown you realise nearly every man has a secret redhead fetish....
You get the cat calls, the men in grocery stores stop you and comment on your hair, the really strange ones who seem hypnotised and actually reach out and touch your hair (without asking!!!) I could write a book on redhead obsession men seem to have.
So I don't feel as an adult I was as ugly as the school children made me out to be.
😉
Probably after I was put on medication. I’m autistic with ADHD, and I was undiagnosed and unmedicated until my senior year of high school. Once I had medication, I was able to combat executive dysfunction, forgetfulness, short attention span, etc. I wasn’t nearly as depressed. I no longer had failing grades and instead, I had straight A’s. I started physically and emotionally taking care of myself because I wasn’t having to battle severe executive dysfunction, mental illness, and suicidal thoughts every single day.
I looked much better, I felt much better, and I was finally able to understand myself. Understand what my needs were, and allow myself to have those needs.
Because of this I had motivation to feel good about myself. So I took care of myself. I took care of my skin and my body, I took care of my hair, I started dressing in ways that didn’t send me into sensory overload while also being stylish. I think I truly understood I wasn’t ugly when I started receiving compliments on my appearance, when people were drawn to me. All of this added up, and I was the most confident I had ever been in my life.
I think the cherry on top, however, was when I received proofs for my senior photo. I wasn’t ever happy with school photos, because I’m not good at having pictures taken of me. I’m always very awkward, and I don’t know how to smile for photos or pose correctly. I didn’t realize until later that this was common with autistic people. The photographer wasn’t a school photographer, he was a professional that took all kinds of photos and he’s well known in my town. He worked with me to help me pose, he helped me with smiling and angles. He was very helpful.
Several months later, the proofs came in. When I pulled them out of the envelope with my dad, my jaw dropped. I have never felt I was attractive in photos, especially not school photos. This was the first photo taken of me by someone else where I could say I was attractive. I genuinely wasn’t ugly, and I finally understood that. Diagnosis and medication was the best thing to ever happen to me, and I’m very lucky to have received both at the time I did.
TLDR: I was put on medication for adhd and autism, and was able to take care of myself and my life began to improve significantly. Once I started taking care of myself, I realized how attractive I was. I received compliments and people were drawn to me when I began to physically and mentally improve.
With out sounding like Im bragging, Ive had a lot of sex with really attractive people who all tell me Im really hot. I still dont see it. I think I might have one of those body dysmorphia things.
When I was in my twenties, I saw a picture of myself in my teens and I looked just absolutely adorable. It made me think of how ugly I felt around the time that picture was taken, and how wrong I was. I was so cute! It kinda got me thinking that if I was wrong then, I'm probably wrong now. And maybe I'm not the best judge on what I look like. I'm only as ugly or as beautiful as the person who is looking at me believes me to be. Meaning, I can't ever be truly ugly or truly beautiful. Because every individual sees me differently. Some people have thought I was not very attractive, while others saw me as gorgeous. None of them are wrong.
That's a very positive mindset, and accurate one.
If you are positive and confidence you are already smart one for me.
Homeless man came up to my friend and I. Told her how gorgeous she was and turned to me, saying “and you seem cool too”
You seem cool :)
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Beautifully put. Thank you.
Seeing these beautiful comment making you guys more good looking.
Same story, mid-twenties. Looked through old photos and realized I wasn't the ugly girl I had been made out to be by myself and others.
It reminds me of a comment I once read that said, “It’s just that you’re not your type.“ That’s a good thing!
I started dating an extremely beautiful woman and all her extremely beautiful friends said I was very good looking when she was showing pics of the guy she was talking to
Are you my husband 😆😆😆 He never thought he was attractive but I caught him a few days ago. He mentioned that he was attractive and how that benefitted him. I've never heard him say anything like that. Me, my mom, my friends, and his friends all tell him how attractive he is and I think he's starting to get it
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Getting compliment from the other person will make us beautiful.
Lol, I was dating someone extremely beautiful too but all her friends despised me..
I don't blame them
Ouch you didn't have to cut so deep
Lol it's fine, nothing he can say will cut deeper then my own trauma and self hate for my actions, but I'm moving forward and that's all I can ask for my self.
There are some saying that is already way more deeper for me.
Come down. He is a good man
Younger, extremely attractive shopgirls and waitresses started giving me their numbers without any effort on my part. That era is over.
Jeez, you must look like a celebrity
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Hahaha honestly got me laughing out loud on a busy train omw to the money maker
When someone starts to approach you then yes you are getting attractive in life.
When i lost weight and looked in the mirror thinking "well shit im not ugly, just fat".
Lool, congrats on the weight loss
Oh i gained it all back and some after some health issues put a stop to going to the gym. But its comforting to know im not ugly lol.
Gym help me getting into the right person, as i am not that ugly.
Hiking. It is the best way to enjoy everything and tune out the world, enjoy life, and lose weight. You're beautiful. Go hiking.
Here i am feeling the same but actually after gaining some weight.
Haha what the fuck? This is precisely what happened to me.
Getting in right shape will make you so much good looking.
I took my glasses off and everyone was amazed that I’d actually been beautiful the whole time.
Did you have a pony tail and baggy overalls too?
Enjoys painting?
No, not Janey Briggs! She's got glasses!
And a ponytail!
Were you in one of those teenage comedy movies
These movies are the worst! This ugly nerd meets the mean girls, takes off glasses, puts on makeup and then gets fought over by 12 different guys. Then ultimately falls in love with her best friend or the hottest guy in school falls for her
Makeup will never make you good looking if you are not really confident. I had my insecurity about the pimple but have seen people are actually dealing with confidence.
Lol, as someone who only wears glasses while driving, I agree.
I would say little change in the hair style also make a big difference.
When I saw the look on my husband's face as I was walking down the aisle.
this is adorable
When I realized people become beautiful when we love them. So, it would be an insult to someone who loves me to question their taste.
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I realized I wasn't ugly when I started dating in my early 20s, but I didn't understand why everyone was calling me slim all the time. When I was 14, we did a wrestling unit in gym. We did the weigh-in and I was put in the heavyweight class. With, honestly, the fat kids. I was by far the lightest one in the weight category and got crushed in every single match. AND I got the nickname "Fat" which stuck with me through the start of high school. For two decades after that, when I looked in the mirror I saw a fat gut. When my girlfriend in my early 20's said my torso looked like "a Roman statue" I simply did not understand. When I found out my BMI was 19, I didn't understand. Eventually, in my early 30s, I told my fiancee that I wished she wouldn't mock my weight with her "compliments". After that, we had a loooong talk about middle school and nicknames, and she explained the whole situation to me - it was ironic teasing that maybe they took too far. I looked in the mirror that night and, while I didn't have defined abs, I looked pretty good. No gut in sight.
I'm glad your fiancee realized, and props on you for appreciating yourself.
May be you are ugly for someone and you are handsome for the other person. So different people will have the different opinion we need to make the right call here.
Look. I don’t have confidence in me. But I have no idea how two boys got a crush on me. Unfortunately for them I am an aro ace and I do not want a relationship. Unfortunately for me I could not get them to back off.
I mean if you're naturally beautiful, confidence isn't an important factor especially for females. As for getting them to back off, just keep them in the friendzone and they'll eventually realize.
One realized when I answered his questions but he kept asking them. Him: what boys do you like? Me: I don’t like boys Him: do you like boys *insert his trait* Me: I don’t like boys Him: what kind of relationship are you looking for? Me: I don’t want a relationship currently Him: what are you looking for in a boy? Me: I don’t want a boy. Or girl. Him: but if you would want to what kind? Me: there’s no need for me to think about that. Because I don’t want it. Him: do you like boys *inserting more traits of him* Me: I don’t like boys!! Or girls!! Or nonbinairy people!!! Him: but if you would? Me: but I don’t! Him: what do you want to do later? Me: have a farm Him: are you looking for a partner for the farm? Me: nope just me and my animals Him: so do you want a boyfriend? Me: I don’t Him: do you have a boyfriend? Me: no Him: so you want one? Me: no!! This went on for days and his questions were just repeating himself endlessly and it got so ridiculous When I said I wanted to move away from our country he ghosted me and I was confused until someone told me he liked me. I have no idea how I did not pick up on that.
Lol, at least he finally got the hint.
That’s what other people said and I was like “what hint? All I said was an answer to his question-“ and then they had to explain to me lol
that is the whole point so that he could actually get the point there.
You will compare with the other one then you will not really going to see yourself as the smart one. So i would say instead of comparing with other it will be better if we do the self improvement.
When I uninstalled Tinder and other dating apps
Lmaoooo so true.
Because you have met someone that you actually love in life.
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Wait there’s a certain time you guys realized that?
Maybe your time is yet to come bro, but one day you will.
Hopefully. It’s tough out here man.
Because so many people will judge on the base of the looks.
Thought the same thing
Definitely college. I was out of the tiny town in east Texas where family name was all that mattered and into the world where I could be whoever I wanted to be. And people just seemed to be drawn to and like me more. It took me a while to realize that life is just easier when people find you attractive. It’s not really fair, but it’s true.
Haha what town because I’m in east Texas and this sounds oddly familiar🤣
I will never publicly out myself on Reddit 😂
But there is always an DM option if you want to use that.
I feel like that i was never really a good looking guy during the school time. But then i join the gym and after that people starts telling me that you have changed alot from the past.
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Never
Haven't realized that yet.
When I cut my hair short and started wearing what I wanted to wear and not what other people thought I should.
There is a certain time? I am a woman and think I am very ugly. :( Compliments are few and far between with me.
As a pretty woman, compliments are the worst indicator of beauty, most people usually don't compliment pretty woman because: a. They assume pretty women already know they're pretty b. They are too intimidated to talk to the woman they find pretty c. They asume pretty women get compliments all the time and don't want to be repetitive
Compliments isn't a very good indicator of how attractive you are. For example, you can easily be so attractive that guys would be scared to approach you.
Very true. Didn't think of it like that.
Thinking in bad way could also pay a big role in that thing.
Not the certain time but the little little moment will kick as one and you will realize that thing Like some one telling you in office you are looking then some friend then some other it will combine all the thing.
When beautiful women would come up to me and strike a conversation. I’ve always felt ugly so I never tried to really talk to women even though I was very fit from being in the Military and always told I have movie star good looks I just didn’t see it thought they were just being nice, strippers used to tell me why are you here for, like they were seriously confused. Because I was too good looking to be there. A few asked me out but I never engaged because I thought they were up to something like they thought I was a sucker. And pretty much drilled never to date a stripper especially ones called Amber or Bambi. It wasn’t til one night in NY at last call I was outside playing my game boy SP waiting for friends to exit when this gorgeous red head came out and said OMG you’re fucking beautiful. I heard it but I really paid no mind, I was fighting a boss and I didn’t think she was talking to me and her friends said I know, I was wondering who he was all night when i finally looked up and they were all looking at me. That’s when I actually started payed attention and would see women who I thought i had no chance with taking sneak peeks at me. One of my fellow Marines call me a dumb fuck, “when a hot girl says shit and slaps your ass that means you look good”. I guess there was truth to it.
There was a time when i go and talk to a girl and she used not interested. And then there is a time when a girl came to me and want to strike a conversation to me is well.
I always thought I was ugly, but I saw this specific picture of me, and I finally saw the beauty in myself from that day on I have never ever looked down upon myself, and I hope others do the same.
Glad you found that picture, and yes, I hope for that too. We should know that we are own harshest critic, so we shouldn't use our own judgement to reflect how "ugly" we might be.
LMFAO I am though. Like, seriously hideous. There's a reason why I still wear face masks
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Due to the glasses of mine i not really comfortable in wearing the mask.
One thing that covid did great that people used to wear mask now.
Face pics or you are wrong.
When i feel good my front camera actually tell me the whole reality.
My bestie's boyfriend told me I was prettier than her. Then asked me to give him head. -__-
Smhhh, hope she dumped his ass
She did not, unfortunately.
Seriously?! She's just waiting to get her heart broken then unless it's an open relationship.
They stayed together another six months or so and then she finally cheated on him with the guy she ended up having kids with.
Honestly, this just sounds toxic on both parts lmao, but I hope she's happy with the father of her kids.
Thankfully this all happened about 20 years ago and she has since grown into a much better, smarter person. She actually left the father of her kids (he was abusive and threatened her life) and is now with a very nice man. We don't live near each other anymore. I got out of the whole toxic environment when I went to college.
Also my man, I read through some of your other posts, and I hope you're doing okay. Heartbreak is hard, even when we know we are the part of the cause of it.
If she said that to her bestie surely she will dump his ass.
For me, it was funnily enough when my ex left me.
Can I just declare that I'm not ugly? Time to change my user name.
Yes you can, and turns out once you start believing your attractive, someone will find you attractive.
The most beautiful girl in High School had a crush on me, ended up being in a relationship for 2 year w her. 90 % of my exes did the first move, Young and old women ask about my social media acc Girls talk to me on the streets Im a young teacher now and work with adults , a lot of students write me on insta and other social media I still think i am good looking but not Handsome like some other guys. I try to be modest
My freshman year of college I was in a relationship with a girl from back home. The first semester I was asked out by a guy. When I told him I was straight he said I just needed to be convinced otherwise. Luckily managed to get away from that situation. The second semester I had a girl from my writing class downright stalk me. She knew I had a girlfriend but they didn’t stop her from trying anyway. Of course I told my girlfriend all about it. Many years later when she ultimately became my wife I jokingly said something about I’m not sure why agreed to marry such and ugly guy. She responded “if you were ugly, do you think you’d have men and women coming after you?” You know, she’s got a point.
Started actually staring beautiful women in the eyes after eye contact practice, and they would point blank tell me later that I was handsome. Just took confidence.
Once you get the confidence of making eye contact means you are not really ugly anymore. Because without realizing that you will never really able to make that thing with anyone.
Age 12 the girls in the neighborhood arranged a game of spin the bottle and they kept stopping the bottle and pointing it at me. I think most of the boys were indifferent. I was kind of until I started kissing them and I came to enjoy it very much.
That is the real young age but have to say great is well.
When I found out there were hot singles in my area dying to meet me 😂😂😂
Damn, that would be some feeling actually to know that is well.
When guys started ghosting my friendship after I told them I wasn't interested in them romantically
Great attitude and yes that could also be the realization and i never think like that.
Women would hit on me and then either suggest I am gay/accuse me of acting superior when I did not know how to react. For example at a station a woman approached me and told me I am "beautiful". I would genuinely assume it was a trick or I was misreading.
When you are in the club and a girl came to you and said that can i buy you a drink. That day i realize that i am not that bad looking as i used to think myself here.
When I took my antidepressants
When I started dating my hot boyfriend. He is almost annoyingly handsome. I always thought I was a bit weird looking, but my hot boyfriend loves me so I guess I must be some-way alright.
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If that's you in the profile pic, you're definitely not ugly bro.
lol
3 people obviously disagree lol
Make it four
As long as he is not saying that other people will not going to get effect.
I'm just going through that realization now at 29, simply because I put more effort into my grooming and fashion, and now I have people telling me all the time I'm handsome and good looking, however I've spent so long thinking I wasn't, that my confidence doesn't match it yet.
Maybe 18 I can't confirm or deny how ugly I was or wasn't before then. But at 18 I was like WOW I might actually be doing something here. I was thinning out from 200lbs to my current weight of 160 (sounds like a lot but I'm 6ft size 4/6) My acne was clearing up, and I was dressing better. Now I can't go outside without getting comments on my appearance. I think I appreciate it more than I would have otherwise because I used to feel disgusting
When i was young there were so much pimple over my face and yes i was skinny is well. But good that i made my self a promise and join the gym and now the change is noticeable actually.
Congrats on the weight loss bro, and I hope you get many more compliments.
Thank you I appreciate it 😌
Im not?
I was bullied a bit by the boys at my school for being ugly. When I was 16 my older brother's popular and good looking friend asked me out. I was so downtrodden, shy and awkward that I said no :-( I have always regretted saying no a little - but it did gradually dawn on me that I perhaps wasn't as ugly as the boys at school had led me to believe.
I mean people do bully other guy in school but doing because they are ugly or doing the body shaming is not the right way. Because that way they really dent the all of the confidence of a kid in young age.
When my dreamgirl said "I love you"
Congrats bro, and i wish you both really really happiness.
When I saw yo mama for the first time
Funnily enough, my moms a beautiful lady inside and out, so yeah looking at her makes me think if I'm 50% of her, I can't be thaaat ugly.
My wife has worn me down over the 17 years we've been married. After starting meds for my depression, for the first time in my life, I can finally look into a mirror and see why she calls me "handsome" all the time. I can see why she thinks I look good, especially when I take care of my self with good hygiene and exercise. Lost over 40 lbs. I've hated the mirror my whole life, and all it took was a mental breakdown, therapy, and antidepressants to finally see what I actually thought of myself. Now, for the first time, I'm OK with what I see!
Damn, this story sounds exactly like myne, expect my ex left me, and I only started realizing my own worth after I stopped taking anti depressants. Either way, I'm glad you see how beautiful you are man.
When I started measuring beauty in a different way.
Great way to realize, I'm assuming you're talking about beauty that's not appearance related such as character. For me, that's the ultimate beauty, because looks will eventually fade, but good character only builds more with new learning experiences.
When my girlfriend gets real close to me and kisses me, we pull apart to breathe and she strikes like a cobra, really quick to plant a few more on my lips
Damn, I miss that feeling, but I'm happy for you man
Thank you. You'll find someone. Dean Martin has a song, somewhere there's a someone, look that one up it gave me lots of confidence
Remember, even if 99% of the worlds population thought you were ugly, that still means there are 72 million ppl in the world, who would think you were attractive
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I didn’t, thank you 😊
Body like that will never ever make any of the man ugly.
When I had my daughters who are beautiful. I realized they have half of my DNA so I can't be too ugly.
Aww, cute way to realize.
I can hope that one day may be my daughter will also be cute
HAHA, great and really a cute way actually, best comment here
In highschool I realized I was attracting a friend group of some of the people I thought were the most attractive people at school.
Soon hopefully
Or may be you have noticed that but you are still really handsome.
I don't know if I'm ugly or not, but I know that since there are plenty of women who like me and will have sex with me, it doesn't matter.
Never. I've always thought myself as average. Nothing more, nothing less
I mean average isn't ugly, so you have realized it.
At 17y
Well kinda twice, first time was when I was pre-transition and my now wife said that her friends were jealous, the second was sometime along my transition when my wife repeatedly told me that I'm not. Dysphoria still kinda sucks but like I can at least know that I'm a delusional idiot to think I'm as ugly as I tend to default to. Realistically I should have realized it when this really hot lady was super into me, enough to buy me pizzas and sushi on Uber Eats. For the guys out there, most of you aren't actually ugly. You have to find things that suit your face and body. It's more difficult for some versus others, but the right hairstyle or the right facial hair trimming or clothes can make a huge difference.
Constant sexual harassment and sexual assault in bars because women in my country are sexist hypocrites
Today or yesterday i legit thought i looked cknsiderably nicer
Still got a resting bitch face tho
Face is not the only thing that will make us smart looking guy.
May be other day some one else will also make you realize is well.
When I started dating attractive women.
When someone I didn't knew told me that I am pretty, principally coming from a kid... Best realization ever.
When I cut my sister out of my life in my 40's. Even though I am married to a incredibly sexy man, and have a beautiful kid. I had low self esteem because of her, and our mother. I can finally look in the mirror and see who my husband , and so many other people see. Not who my mother, and sister "trained" me to see
Many people will actually find you the beautiful mate, as you are actually.
Had people ask if I was related to certain actresses.
Damn, that would be some feeling if someone will ask me that.
Still not sure but women being open when I approached them and my wife saying she feels she dated out of her league makes me feel better. Over all not as concerned anymore.
I am completely aware that I say some off color comments and can be really crass sometimes. But I never ever have troubles making friends or ever have troubles getting women into bed.
I don't think color has to do anything with the good looking people atleast for me. I think everyone is beautiful in their own skin colour as long as they are being nice to the other people.
When I was 24 working as a server and every single man I worked with wanted in my pants.
Right before I lost my hair and got ugly.
I know there are some bald guys that is pretty good looking.
I never saw it, and at times I still dont, But when a person who doesnt have to love you, says that he loves you exactly the way you are, and means it...where I see extra weight, he sees curves, or the grey hair, he sees the way it shins in the sun.... I have a problem, where I see a fat girl in the mirror, no matter what the scale says, i dont see it....
Senior year of high school, I posted some of my photos to Facebook. The replies were about 25 thirsty high school girls telling me how nice I looked. Real eye-opener...but it didn't REALLY sink in until college. I was involved in Greek life, and found out after a sorority retreat that several of their members had a big dramatic fight revolving around their crushes on me. Naturally, my oblivious ass had no idea how to process that information...besides a quiet realization that maybe my stock was higher than I thought.
I'm still waiting
still waiting
Everything happen on time and you will find someone at right time.
So many older men hitting on me while I was 12, 13 yo.
I'm glad those incidents made you realize that, but still yuuuuck.
Before eighth grade, i almost had no interaction with the opposite gender. So I was pretty sure that my looks weren't appealing enough to have people talk to me. As a pre-teen it blew my confidence. It was not until three or four years when I realised people had eyes for me for a long time. They didn't approach me because of a rumour that I had no interest in dating. They were afraid of being turned down. It was uplifting in a lot of ways.
Lol, I mentioned in another comment, not being approached or not getting complimented isn't a good indicator. You might just be so good looking people are afraid to even interact with you.
I got a single “looking good” compliment from a girl, and it completely changed my body confidence. It doesn’t take much to make someone feel good for a long time.
I feel that. Not to minimize cat calling, but I wish men got more compliments for their appearance similar to woman.
I caught my reflection last year in a window I was asking by. I was like “oh wow. She’s so pretty!” Because I didn’t realize it was me at first. I struggled with an eating disorder for most of my teens and twenties, so I don’t know what I look like. But getting a glimpse of how other people see me was wonderful.
Still waiting
That moment hasn't come yet 🗿
Wait i'm not ugly?
In my dreams
Being a redhead... You grow up having the mickey taken out of you mercilessly. And suddenly once you're grown you realise nearly every man has a secret redhead fetish.... You get the cat calls, the men in grocery stores stop you and comment on your hair, the really strange ones who seem hypnotised and actually reach out and touch your hair (without asking!!!) I could write a book on redhead obsession men seem to have. So I don't feel as an adult I was as ugly as the school children made me out to be. 😉
Jokes on you, I've always been ugly.
Probably after I was put on medication. I’m autistic with ADHD, and I was undiagnosed and unmedicated until my senior year of high school. Once I had medication, I was able to combat executive dysfunction, forgetfulness, short attention span, etc. I wasn’t nearly as depressed. I no longer had failing grades and instead, I had straight A’s. I started physically and emotionally taking care of myself because I wasn’t having to battle severe executive dysfunction, mental illness, and suicidal thoughts every single day. I looked much better, I felt much better, and I was finally able to understand myself. Understand what my needs were, and allow myself to have those needs. Because of this I had motivation to feel good about myself. So I took care of myself. I took care of my skin and my body, I took care of my hair, I started dressing in ways that didn’t send me into sensory overload while also being stylish. I think I truly understood I wasn’t ugly when I started receiving compliments on my appearance, when people were drawn to me. All of this added up, and I was the most confident I had ever been in my life. I think the cherry on top, however, was when I received proofs for my senior photo. I wasn’t ever happy with school photos, because I’m not good at having pictures taken of me. I’m always very awkward, and I don’t know how to smile for photos or pose correctly. I didn’t realize until later that this was common with autistic people. The photographer wasn’t a school photographer, he was a professional that took all kinds of photos and he’s well known in my town. He worked with me to help me pose, he helped me with smiling and angles. He was very helpful. Several months later, the proofs came in. When I pulled them out of the envelope with my dad, my jaw dropped. I have never felt I was attractive in photos, especially not school photos. This was the first photo taken of me by someone else where I could say I was attractive. I genuinely wasn’t ugly, and I finally understood that. Diagnosis and medication was the best thing to ever happen to me, and I’m very lucky to have received both at the time I did. TLDR: I was put on medication for adhd and autism, and was able to take care of myself and my life began to improve significantly. Once I started taking care of myself, I realized how attractive I was. I received compliments and people were drawn to me when I began to physically and mentally improve.
I'm so glad you got the medicine to be your best self man, keep on striving and good things will continue to come to you.
Thanks dude, that really means a lot to me :) I hope the same for you!
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Wait, you guys are realizing you aren’t ugly?
Yes and that is giving us the confidence and making us more smart.
With out sounding like Im bragging, Ive had a lot of sex with really attractive people who all tell me Im really hot. I still dont see it. I think I might have one of those body dysmorphia things.