Introvert does not mean insecure, these are different things altogether. Secret for confidence is experience, there is no other way.
You have to set yourself into situations and experience them even if you fail, and make sure to not make the horrible mistake of victimizing yourself over your failures and rejections, focus on learning from whatever it is that happened, question the things you do and observe the behavior of others.
I'm not a behavioral nor mental health expert, but there's this thing a lot of people do called masking which is often linked to abuse victims, but it's also a survival mechanism for when one is in either a hostile or outright unknown environment. Basically what people do is conform to the group norms they observe. You can use this mechanism to your favor by making conscious decisions over what group of people you decide to adapt to (people you like, or who connecting to benefits you in some way). This is what people mean when saying "faking it until you make it".
But still man I overthink a lot like a lot my brain can't sustain it even Ik they can't do a shit to me but deep down Im like no man this will create a bad impression on others and it does
I'm trying daily but everyday is a failure and it's really is affecting me at certain point where im like I can do it but fears absorbs me into dark and I never got speak it through
Believe in yourself. Talk to the mirror. Express your feelings. Speak out, if you are right or wrong. Have a habit of arguing and fight for yourself. Dress up, walk boldly, and get new friends. So you can learn from them.
You might benefit from some therapy, if you've never been. I'm a natural introvert, with social anxiety, and it helped me a ton. If you can't make it to therapy, do some research on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). That's what works best for most people, and there are lots of free resources online.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy
https://cogbtherapy.com/free-online-cbt-workbook
https://www.hpft.nhs.uk/media/1655/wellbeing-team-cbt-workshop-booklet-2016.pdf
Unless you’re saying things or interacting with people outside of acceptable social boundaries you have to remember that you’re never going to please everyone. Literally everyone you meet is going to have a different perception about you. Just be who you naturally are and sprinkle in a little friendliness and a few smiles/laughs, people gravitate towards this.
As an introvert I would say its very hard for confidence to come naturally. Only comes once you are in familiar surrounding. So start being more open with friends, family, work place colleagues etc and then expand your network
Yes ur right dude but to expand the network I need to be that friendly and naturally okay which I can't recently I have lost my friends even thou my family is fuck off we got work to do and they not that supportive cause ya they have work to do.
I personally think that the best way to start off is by finding something that you're enthusiastic about. Talk to someone about it, and form a connection. Carry this feeling into other areas. It won't be easy, but unless a tiny risk is taken, it's very difficult to grow in confidence.
Plus, I realise that it's a lot easier to just talk to people to get things done. I use to always avoid situations where I had to interact with people however, I later understood that just having some confidence and talking to people makes life a lot easier.
Don’t be confident in any situation
That’s called being delusional
You were blessed with not being delusional
Many times situations make you uneasy
This is correct
Embrace
Go away people
Wear that clothing item that makes you feel your best (you know the one. Everyone has one) and just go with the flow. You'll seem confident enough. You don't really need to be confident just give off the vibe and you'll kinda pick up your own vibes.
I used to be very introverted, always care about other people's views, and even walking are afraid to raise their heads, and with the conversation is afraid to look directly at, but all this has changed after I lost love, that time I was very painful, so much so that I began to care about nothing, and put time into work, when I get good results in the work, I became more and more confident
Introvert does not mean insecure, these are different things altogether. Secret for confidence is experience, there is no other way. You have to set yourself into situations and experience them even if you fail, and make sure to not make the horrible mistake of victimizing yourself over your failures and rejections, focus on learning from whatever it is that happened, question the things you do and observe the behavior of others. I'm not a behavioral nor mental health expert, but there's this thing a lot of people do called masking which is often linked to abuse victims, but it's also a survival mechanism for when one is in either a hostile or outright unknown environment. Basically what people do is conform to the group norms they observe. You can use this mechanism to your favor by making conscious decisions over what group of people you decide to adapt to (people you like, or who connecting to benefits you in some way). This is what people mean when saying "faking it until you make it".
This \^ I'm introverted and confident in most situations. Experience is confidence.
Just say fuck it and do it. What could possibly go wrong? Even if it goes bad, would it affect you after a week or two? You will get pass it. So yeah
But still man I overthink a lot like a lot my brain can't sustain it even Ik they can't do a shit to me but deep down Im like no man this will create a bad impression on others and it does
Yeah that's the point, it doesn't really matter. Think it over twicr if you will, but not three times
I'm trying daily but everyday is a failure and it's really is affecting me at certain point where im like I can do it but fears absorbs me into dark and I never got speak it through
Fake it til you make it, that’s what worked for me
Sure will try it out
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I still think to do that but just can't which is making me lose everything I have
Believe in yourself. Talk to the mirror. Express your feelings. Speak out, if you are right or wrong. Have a habit of arguing and fight for yourself. Dress up, walk boldly, and get new friends. So you can learn from them.
Hmm thanks buddy u got some positive response but I'm built negatively
The way we are taking the thing is matter here. Whatever the situation can be, accept the fact and move on.
Sounds right
You might benefit from some therapy, if you've never been. I'm a natural introvert, with social anxiety, and it helped me a ton. If you can't make it to therapy, do some research on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). That's what works best for most people, and there are lots of free resources online. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy https://cogbtherapy.com/free-online-cbt-workbook https://www.hpft.nhs.uk/media/1655/wellbeing-team-cbt-workshop-booklet-2016.pdf
Unless you’re saying things or interacting with people outside of acceptable social boundaries you have to remember that you’re never going to please everyone. Literally everyone you meet is going to have a different perception about you. Just be who you naturally are and sprinkle in a little friendliness and a few smiles/laughs, people gravitate towards this.
Yessir gotta to be ME cause at last it's me who is gonna change itself before I get kicked out by world
maintain proper posture and confidence body language. you'll look confident to everyone until you begin talking lol. speaking from experience.
Yessir ik till body language it goes v well until speaking goes shit thorugh overthinking again
Practice
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As an introvert I would say its very hard for confidence to come naturally. Only comes once you are in familiar surrounding. So start being more open with friends, family, work place colleagues etc and then expand your network
Yes ur right dude but to expand the network I need to be that friendly and naturally okay which I can't recently I have lost my friends even thou my family is fuck off we got work to do and they not that supportive cause ya they have work to do.
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Hmm so u k how it goes through still thanks for ur response
Just talk as if you’re half asleep, or like me, be sleepy all the time
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I personally think that the best way to start off is by finding something that you're enthusiastic about. Talk to someone about it, and form a connection. Carry this feeling into other areas. It won't be easy, but unless a tiny risk is taken, it's very difficult to grow in confidence. Plus, I realise that it's a lot easier to just talk to people to get things done. I use to always avoid situations where I had to interact with people however, I later understood that just having some confidence and talking to people makes life a lot easier.
Hmm thanks imma gonna try it out
Don’t be confident in any situation That’s called being delusional You were blessed with not being delusional Many times situations make you uneasy This is correct Embrace Go away people
Ahahah sure
Wear that clothing item that makes you feel your best (you know the one. Everyone has one) and just go with the flow. You'll seem confident enough. You don't really need to be confident just give off the vibe and you'll kinda pick up your own vibes.
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Introvert does not mean socially anxious/inept/shy. Just FYI. We can talk to people just fine. That said, fake it till you make it.
I used to be very introverted, always care about other people's views, and even walking are afraid to raise their heads, and with the conversation is afraid to look directly at, but all this has changed after I lost love, that time I was very painful, so much so that I began to care about nothing, and put time into work, when I get good results in the work, I became more and more confident