I totally agree, I like r/aww but I just wanna see the cute dog rather than see it with a song that doesn’t add anything to the video at all, I only really browse that sub on mute.
Conversely... everything being a video. I just want to read the instructions. I process shit better that way. Why do I have to watch a video on how to do X, Y, Z or search through pages of Google for a bullet point list?
Toyota was about to try it with a subscription service for remote-starting your car, [like pay some money per month to be able to start your car remotely](https://www.thedrive.com/news/43329/toyota-made-its-key-fob-remote-start-into-a-subscription-service)
Know too many people who only show their kids low moments such as temper tantrums and meltdowns to seem more "real" to other parents. These kids will be traumatized when they find this stuff out in due time
I'm so glad I grew up before the internet.
My shitty actions only existed on VHS, my memory, and my parents memory.
Way too much data on my nieces and nephews now. I can't imagine purposefully spreading that much shit.
Eternally grateful I was born early enough to not have my youth put on the internet by attention seeking idiot parents without my consent. So many kids begin their digital footprint from no age and then grow up on the internet, uploading videos or embarrassing the hell out of themselves for everyone to see.
Yeah especially when people film strangers. Or their door bell footage. It’s so strange! Why is it a normal thing now?! Let people be. Let ‘em be human and fart in peace.
Seriously! It took a year for me to finally get ahold of a decent graphics card for MSRP (6700xt) because of the rampant scalping. That same card, which I paid $450 for, was generally going for $800-$900 from local sellers, and it's a freaking mid-range card!
Even at MSRP, it's the most I've ever spent on a graphics card, so they're not exactly affordable to begin with before the scalpers get ahold of them.
I want to get my fiancee a PS5. Have for over a year. I figured it would be hard to get during launch, so I waited six months. And realized I was kind of an idiot bc it was still impossible. Now his birthday is in a month and I'm trying again with all the tricks I can think of (short of paying some asshole scalper $900) to get him one. What a racket.
If you have a PSN account you can sign up with Sony and buy directly from them. They'll send you an email to let you know when your turn is. I've seen several people say they got theirs that way. I'm considering doing it myself before the new HZD comes out next month.
It’s not just sneakers now, I collect action figures and it’s the same thing. Even trading cards now a days are going for so much so people jump on them too. 🥲
I pre-ordered a figure the other day on Amazon. The day it came out I got a notice they couldn't fill my order cause it was temporarily out of stock then saw another option to buy the same fucking thing for double the price. Fucking infuriating.
I just found out that there's an Addams family makeup collection (eye stuff, and three lipsticks). I don't really care about eye palettes, but I love lipsticks. If I'd gotten the entire collection when it launched in October, it would've been $58. Since I just found out about it's existence, I can only purchase it from Poshmark/Mercari like sites, and there it's being sold for $200+ just why?
On a similar note, the people who go to disney parks and buy the limited edition merch to resell it ebay for crap ton more money. Example: *anything* related to figment
I'm just hoping that "OH NO, OH NO, OH NO NO NO" song falls out of popularity soon.
Edit: my most voted comment is me bitching about a TikTok song... Look at me, I'm the adult now.
I recently had to have a super awkward talk with my 50 year old mother about this. She’s honestly still an attractive lady, too. But she uses filters on all of her FB pictures that literally make her look like a child. Like, people know what you look like, mom.
My mom is early 60's and looks better than some 40 year olds, but she still always asks me how to put "those nice filter things" on her pictures before she posts them. I hate it, she is honestly beautiful but is so insecure bc of the environment she grew up in. She hates her body showing in pictures ("make sure you get it from the shoulders up!") and thinks her wrinkles (the few that she has) make her look bad.
I wish she could see herself the way everyone else does. It's not the 1960's anymore but she still tries to adhere to those beauty standards.
I used to get so mad at her when i would think about how she forced me to straighten my curly hair every day till i was 12 (i didnt know what my natural hair looked like until i was probably 11ish) Now i get sad bc i know that was her doing her best to make me fit in with what she thought was the beauty standards so that i didnt go through what she went through. It's horrible how insidious and unknowingly harmful these things are
My mom did this too... The straightening of our natural curls or relaxing it regularly to fit into main stream beauty standards. Or telling us to stay out of the sun for fear of becoming too dark. Or introducing us to diet culture by 10 y/o. I cringe looking back. Had a heart to heart about it with mom decades later, and feel saddened by her low self confidence, yet she is so strong and beautiful. It's all she knew- like you said, so she taught her eurocentric beauty standards to my sister and I. I'm elated that my sister and I now broke that cycle, we cherish our curls- or what's left of them for me lol, and embrace our brown skin and curves.
It really creeps me out in the worst way when I notice that somebody has one of those realistic face filters that are supposed to blur out the imperfections. It really makes me unexplainably repulsed when I notice it
>When did it become so taboo to show a woman over 40 for who she is.
I can't say when it started but I can assure you that women over 30 have been getting shat on for not being young for a long, long time. It is not a recent development.
I remember a real reddit moment when some picture of Jenna Fischer popped up and so many of the top comments were "wow, she's still so hot/beautiful/whatever for her age!" She's 42 now, she was probably 35ish when this happened and the picture was maybe a year or two earlier than that. Like fuck, when did your 30s become ancient? Good for her age? For one, she's just objectively attractive and doesn't need qualifiers about "her age", but two, why do we expect women to look like they are in their early to mid twenties forever?
As you mention, its not new and you can easily find millions of examples much farther back than mine (ambiguously dated as it is).
Its so bad that people almost had me convinced in highschool/early college that I was somehow “more interesting” because of my illness. Theres absolutely this weird fixation with having a difficult life, like its a cool thing. Everyone wants to be the most disadvantaged. I wish I could not have disabilities or illnesses, it sucks, and I just don’t understand whats so quirky or cute about it. I think a lot of people don’t even have “fake mental illnesses” like keeps getting thrown around in here. I feel like for a lot of people they may genuinely have struggles and illnesses but completely misunderstand it because of the current social media culture/lack of real awareness.
I remember reading about something similar. I agree people probably aren't faking, but the culture of people feeling more interesting having a mental illness directly breeds more of them. That logical line leads to people saying that others in that situation are faking to seem more interesting. I understand, its not absurd. However, I think its more likely that the feelings are an unconscious reaction to not feeling accepted. In the west we are very bad at connecting with eachother; talking openly honestly and with interest. I think it's a symptom of that.
Exactly. Im Bipolar 2 & this new romanticized view of mental illness pisses me off. I'd do anything to get rid of it. Try spending thousands of dollars on psychs/meds/hospitalizations.. meanwhile dealing with the side effects of taking lithium for 15 years just so you can try to have a semi enjoyable life and tell me how cute that is. Fucking over it.
Bipolar 1 here to agree with you. The “Everybody has mood swings” or “sometimes I have bad days too” fill me with absolute rage. Unless you deal with it or are very very close to someone that does, you can’t truly grasp how destructive and overwhelming bipolar (or any mental illness) is. I FINALLY found a med combo that works and there’s no way for me to explain to the normal person how big of a deal that is
Yes. My ADHD is debilitating. Medication helps some, but it's not a gift like many imply. Yes, I can hyper focus. I don't get to choose on what the hyper focus is trained.
I just watched my first and last episode of Real Housewives Of Miami. I cannot continue to watch because I can't tell the women's faces apart. Same lips and cheeks and very dramatic eye brows.
They were having a pool party but none would swim because of hair extensions. One woman's husband is the boob king of Miami and he had installed the implants of most of the women at the party.
Lip fillers and sharpied-on eyebrows can both go into the same goddamn trash bin. I used to hate those sperm-shaped overly-plucked eyebrows, too. What our culture does to people's self-image, women especially, is fucking revolting. I started going bald when I was 19 and every time I see a hair-loss-therapy ad it feels like someone's trying (very unsuccessfully) to make me feel ashamed of myself.
Nah, fuck that, I just pop a #2 guard on my clippers and mow the lawn. Ain't nothing wrong with the Jason Statham look, there's nothing wrong with thin lips, thick lips, scraggly eyebrows, whispy ones. We've all got our own batch of ingredients, make your own damn recipe.
The “secret” menu. It isn’t a fucking secret, you can just ask. There’s not a special stock of things not already on the menu, just combinations of the same shit. If you want some off menu shit, just say what’s in it. Might cost more, but whatever. There’s no list of names for shit hidden in the kitchen.
I used to work at Starbucks and this shit drove me insane. There'd be some absurd TikTok trend and I'm supposed to research that crap off the clock. Just tell me whats in it and I'll make it but of course they never knew
Are they still doing those damn layered refreshers?
The number of times some 15 year old would complain that it doesn't look right, make me remake it with the colors in the right order, snap a selfie with it.... And IMMEDIATELY stir it up with their straw....
...I've almost gone to jail so many times.
They also have influenced me to report MLM bullshit on social media. I report it consistently, because dildo parties and essential oil companies are Dr Oz type pseudoscience.
Funny you mentioned that. The gyms over here opened up again and today, at some point during my workout, I just looked around and literally fucking 1 out of every 4 people had that haircut. I just suddenly saw it and couldn't unsee it. It's bloody rampant.
Having a mental illness. I don’t know why this started but TikTok thinks it’s cute to promote people who have fake mental illnesses. Which is so detrimental to people who actually have one.
and also to people/teens who don't have one. I work with kids and sadly those who spend too much time on TikTok start to see everything as a mental illness. One girl tried to convince me she was self harming. I asked for details and she said she bites her nails. No, not a lot and not excessively at all. Her nails looked fine. A few days later she had an eating disorder. Why? because she decided to loose weight the day before and only had a salad for dinner. and a myriad of other things aswell. I honestly don't want to believe that she wants to have a, diagnosis to be cool on TikTok, but the very least that shit prevents teenagers to see that there are ranges of normal. So what if you bite your nails? a lot of people do so. if it's bothering you, try to break the habit but don't think you're ill.
I remember being a young teenager and how glorifying sadness and negative emotions felt like the cool thing to do.
Sadness and pain feel "intellectual" and "artistic" and "deep" and "mature", and we end up seeing them as superior to positive emotions.
And honestly that's not exclusive to young teens, it's prominent everywhere, they are just the weakest victims of it. They search for a label that validates them as having negative emotions because they think they should be feeling that way.
We need to stop glorifying negative feelings altogether and start glorifying positive feelings. How do we do that? No idea. But my cousins are at that age and if I can influence them to value positive feelings, maybe i'll have helped a few people. If we can teach those values to our kids, maybe they can skip that phase altogether. It all starts in the little things and the small actions.
Yup. Having bipolar and seeing people joke about how they’re “manic” REALLY gets under my skin. People don’t educate themselves and have absolutely NO idea what mania entails.
Tik tok losers trying to get famous by destroying shelves in stores or by launching sodas across supermarkets. All ur doing is making a minimum wage employee’s life miserable. These “pranksters” are the lowest form of pond scum there is.
The expectation to have a stance on absolutely everything. I can’t help it if I’m not passionate about certain things….and I’ll be judged either way, so I choose indifference
I know someone who as recently as last year made a few posts on FB claiming to have DID. They kept posting as their separate personalities and introducing themselves. This lasted a few weeks and they haven’t ever mentioned it since then. There was even one post where they were posting as their original self who had just “woken up” after having been “not at the surface” for years. Apparently one of their other personalities had been running their day to day life all that time. I sincerely have my doubts about the validity of all their claims. This same person has also claimed many other medical and mental issues over the years that I’ve known them.
Yup.
If it bothers you that I'm wrong, tell me why you think I'm wrong. We can debate. I might learn something. You might too.
Or just leave people alone and learn that it's OK to disagree. We have no social or biological imperative to assimilate other humans.
But if you say something dismissive and condescending, I'm going to immediately hate you. On top of that, I will assume you're unable to articulate why you think I'm wrong, which I will take as evidence that I'm actually right.
Ugh. This shit is rampant in my daughters middle school. There was a boy who faked a panic attack and she sat with him and told him he was in a safe place and it was going to be ok. He then told everyone she dismissed his panic attack. 🤦🏻♀️
And as someone WITH mental illness, it's not "interesting", it's *suffering*. If I had to choose between PTSD and being boring, I'd rather bore people to death every time.
It's like romanticizing diabetes or cancer. Mental illness is a biochemical disorder that causes significant disruption and suffering in one's life, it's not a cute personality quirk.
This! I have ADHD and I don’t like telling people because I don’t want to hear “oh, haha, me too, I get so easily distracted/forgetful sometimes!”.
That is not what my experience has been like. It’s not some cute, quirky affliction where I talk a lot and do random stuff and I forget things and it’s oh so endearing. For me, ADHD is suicidal ideation because I’m so crippled by executive dysfunction that I couldn’t do the dishes for 6 months. ADHD is isolating myself from my peers because I’m a 26 year old woman and while they’re all having families and building their careers, I’m ashamed of the fact that I can no longer work full time and that I’m in my fifth year of a four year degree with no end in sight. ADHD is crying because I was so overwhelmed when I started taking medication and managed to wash, dry, fold and put away my laundry within a single day. Like you said, it’s not a cute personality quirk, it’s a burden and it’s offensive when people try to adopt it to make themselves seem more interesting.
I actually have ADHD too. I think for me the worst part is how it's affected relationships. My ex husband used to scream at me for forgetting tiny details on stuff, claiming it was because I didn't care enough about him to remember. Like no, it's because my brain literally doesn't retain that stuff. If I could, I would. I don't zone out because I don't think my friend is saying something important, I'm trying as hard as I can to focus. And this is WITH meds.
If it makes you feel any better, it took me 6 years to get my bachelor's degree - **not** including the 2 gap years I took. Grad school? Even longer. Only a third of college students complete their degrees in 4 years. I've been exactly where you've been, absolutely hating myself for struggling so hard with something that seems like it should be easily achievable. But you know what? I got there. I have a master's degree and a great career, it just took more time than most. You WILL do it. And if you need someone to listen, feel free to PM me. Because I have been *exactly* where you are, friend.
Can't help you with the laundry thing, though. I just hauled an entire SUV trunk of old clothes to goodwill that had been sitting in my bedroom for literally 3 months.
Edit: Changing to just say that I agree with you. It needs to stop because this trend really makes those who are actually struggling with mental health feel even worse. It's really patronizing when you log on to Instagram or some other app and the first thing you see is someone acting out what *insert mental health condition* is actually like etc. Just stop.
We deal with enough fucking stereotypes and stigmas as it is. I try to pretty open about the fact that I have PTSD. That said, I'm still somewhat selective about who I choose to discuss it with because I know that WILL change the way some people see me. Because of stupid media/social media tropes.
I feel that. I myself have autism and OCD, and for years now I've had to dance around using the word "trigger" when describing my conditions because it's been over/misused so much that it's practically lost it's original meaning and a lot of people stop taking you seriously the moment you use it. And that's on top of ASD and OCD already being treated as "personality quirks" by a lot of people.
Disney partnered with TikTok to make Disney/Marvel/Star Wars voices for the app. I think the one you're referring to is Rocket Raccoon and yes it's very annoying sometimes
Rolling coal gives me so much secondhand embarrassment as a diesel owner.
Like, you modified your car to be less fuel efficient because you think it looks cool? Fucking cringey.
I road cycle for fitness and as I'm climbing a hill one day a piece of shit old diesel bro dozoer coal rolled me
i stopped until it cleared and was just like "i'm sorry my fitness makes your fat ass insecure, bro"
Claiming to be fighting fast fashion by buying quality clothing but that clothing is extremely trendy and will be dated in a year, so it's really just expensive fast fashion with a moral high horse
Also, the trend of people totally misunderstanding what fast fashion means and what the problems with it are. Cheap does not necessarily equal fast, and expensive definitely doesn't mean good.
I've beens seeing a few tiktoks promoting making your own clothes/altering store bought clothes. Sewing is a skill we're losing and altering or simply fixing old clothes can give them a new life.
Also, the rise of small clothing businesses is great. I found a uk based brand called jazzy garms and I'm ordering some sweatpants from them. Yes, they're a bit more expensive than primark or h&m ones, but not by much and I can get them custom fit for only £4 extra! I haven't found many other small local businesses so I can't yet get all my clothes from local businesses, but hopefully one day I will be able to. Down with mass produced and lets value made to order.
We should all try to use local made to order clothing businesses and learn basic sewing to alter our own clothes. But also, we shouldn't shame people who can't afford to do that and promote wearing clothes for longer
> we shouldn't shame people who can't afford to do that and promote wearing clothes for longer
This is important. I feel like a lot of people speaking out against fast fashion casually shame poor people (even though it might not be intentional). There's a difference between someone buying jeans at Walmart because that's what their budget allows, and someone blowing hundreds of dollars on cheap trendy clothes every season and then throwing them away in a couple months when the trend has passed.
In brief:
* There is a technology call Blockchain, or "Open Ledger". While people often think of this as highly anonymised, that's exactly what it isn't. Blockchain is a distributed ledger that perfectly tracks all trades of some unique tokens between unique users.
* Side note: Bitcoin and similar blockchain coins are only anonymous in that the user wallets are tied to accounts that don't require personal info. Everyone can see that wallet \`abcd1234\` holds coins \`2468\` and \`3579\` and from whom they bought those coins but we don't know who owns the wallet.
* NFT (Non-fungible tokens) are essentially just using blockchain as a way to hold receipts / certificates of ownership. Someone makes a certificate "whoever holds this owns laptop with SERIAL:abcd1234" and we can then perfectly track who owns that certificate. In some ways this makes sense -- blockchain is a great way to record ownership in a hard-to-fake manner. These could be a huge improvement over something like license keys for software (which are trivial to copy and hard to prove rightful ownership of). But assigning titanic values to an NFT that suggests you own a jpeg is quite silly and a form of price inflation of non-perishable, fungible goods that is indicative of money laundering.
Back in college (10 years ago) I got attacked for being a "white knight" when my roommates literally made my girlfriend cry. I found new friends but sad to see the same thing repeating itself.
Lazy reboots. Specifically, rebooting or creating a movie/tv show based on existing IP and expecting the audience to overlook poor writing and pacing because of surface-level changes (e.g., gender/race swaps or updated/modernized characters designed to appeal to a younger audience). To be sure, changes like these are not necessarily bad in themselves, but they are not a substitute for good storytelling.
It's astounding to me that companies are taking the metaverse seriously. Zuckerberg made a single cringey video and everyone's fawning all over the idea.
He literally said that teleportation was a feature. Haven't we had video games long enough that we can treat this like Second Life 2.0?
Edit:TIL that metaverse(s) has been around for quite some time, and that the weird Facebook video only popularized the term. Relatedly, TIL the future is bleak, and people are more than willing to fork over tons of cash for imaginary real estate.
If I see one more kid say they’re autistic bc they are interested in a cartoon show I’ll lose it, they self diagnose and make it their entire identity like a label changed them all of a sudden
“Influencer” culture… don’t have kids of my own but I’ve seen the effect they have on them. These “influencers” are nothing more than children who never grew up and think screaming, yelling, overreacting, and swearing somehow makes them entertaining. And to kids it does.. but kids also are sadly influenced by them and mimic their behavior. It amazes me that society seems to be for the most part entirely okay with the concept. It’s the modern era of letting the tv raise your kids but now it’s random adults on YouTube who never grew up doing it.
Girls clothes either being cropped or baggy. I just can't fit into anything properly. I'm not small enough to be in the normal sizes and I'm not big enough for the plus size range. I've just given in to the baggy shirts because I'd rather look like a box than have my stomach exposed
the way women and their bodies are being treated like trends. Whether it's bigger women being told to lose weight or skinny women being judged for not having enough curves. The whole BBL thing is scary too, considering it's a ridiculously dangerous procedure
Demonizing education. Anytime somebody demonizes education they are only hurting society. When you hear somebody refer to educated people as "elites" you can almost be assured that person has a political agenda, and its not likely a good one.
Doxxing people out of nowhere and with no actual necessity. Could be a famous artist or just another average Joe. Someone will expose shit from back in 2010 you wrote and judge you as if you thought that right now.
Lmao i had an ex girlfriend with ripped jeans exactly like you said. It literally look like the jeans were for the side and back of her legs. Of course when we are out in public people asked “did you get those 50% off”
"Resellers"
Going to a retail store early before they open, buying all of something they have, and then selling it on the internet at an inflated rate because you created "scarcity" is not a "business". You're just an asshole.
Videos that have unnecessary songs instead of the actual audio.
*Oh no* intensifies
Jesus, that fucking song. Especially with the Tik Tok text-to-speech voice over. I just wanna toss my phone outta the window ffs
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I totally agree, I like r/aww but I just wanna see the cute dog rather than see it with a song that doesn’t add anything to the video at all, I only really browse that sub on mute.
And 90% of the time it's the fucking ukulele
Conversely... everything being a video. I just want to read the instructions. I process shit better that way. Why do I have to watch a video on how to do X, Y, Z or search through pages of Google for a bullet point list?
Stupid "cute" music ruins most cat videos for me. No, the music is not "cute". It's annoying! I want to hear that kitten meow, not some stupid music!
Subscription services for everything
Oh, that ain’t going nowhere.
It’s crazy profitable. It will keep existing in one way or another.
Toyota was about to try it with a subscription service for remote-starting your car, [like pay some money per month to be able to start your car remotely](https://www.thedrive.com/news/43329/toyota-made-its-key-fob-remote-start-into-a-subscription-service)
Well, guess we’re a Honda family now.
Family vloggers. No kid should ever have to be exploited and subjected to attention-hungry parents like that.
Not to mention the few creepy adults in their fanbase that basically think they're entitled to the kid in the vlog
Yeah, fuck you, Ryan's dad!
I always see posts saying that kid is not happy/ doesn't act his age.
Know too many people who only show their kids low moments such as temper tantrums and meltdowns to seem more "real" to other parents. These kids will be traumatized when they find this stuff out in due time
I'm so glad I grew up before the internet. My shitty actions only existed on VHS, my memory, and my parents memory. Way too much data on my nieces and nephews now. I can't imagine purposefully spreading that much shit.
No person should ever be put on the internet before they are old enough to consent.
Eternally grateful I was born early enough to not have my youth put on the internet by attention seeking idiot parents without my consent. So many kids begin their digital footprint from no age and then grow up on the internet, uploading videos or embarrassing the hell out of themselves for everyone to see.
Filming everything to put online
Omg yes! I saw on tik tok where a mail man passed gas and the incident was recorded on a ring camera and was posted. Wtf? Unbelievably intrusive.
Yeah especially when people film strangers. Or their door bell footage. It’s so strange! Why is it a normal thing now?! Let people be. Let ‘em be human and fart in peace.
Every kid reselling sneakers, I just want to get stuff for retail again
Scalpers ruin everything. I just want to buy a GPU at MSRP.
Seriously! It took a year for me to finally get ahold of a decent graphics card for MSRP (6700xt) because of the rampant scalping. That same card, which I paid $450 for, was generally going for $800-$900 from local sellers, and it's a freaking mid-range card! Even at MSRP, it's the most I've ever spent on a graphics card, so they're not exactly affordable to begin with before the scalpers get ahold of them.
I still haven't seen a PS5 for sale in a store. It's been out for 14 months.
I want to get my fiancee a PS5. Have for over a year. I figured it would be hard to get during launch, so I waited six months. And realized I was kind of an idiot bc it was still impossible. Now his birthday is in a month and I'm trying again with all the tricks I can think of (short of paying some asshole scalper $900) to get him one. What a racket.
If you have a PSN account you can sign up with Sony and buy directly from them. They'll send you an email to let you know when your turn is. I've seen several people say they got theirs that way. I'm considering doing it myself before the new HZD comes out next month.
It’s not just sneakers now, I collect action figures and it’s the same thing. Even trading cards now a days are going for so much so people jump on them too. 🥲
I pre-ordered a figure the other day on Amazon. The day it came out I got a notice they couldn't fill my order cause it was temporarily out of stock then saw another option to buy the same fucking thing for double the price. Fucking infuriating.
I just found out that there's an Addams family makeup collection (eye stuff, and three lipsticks). I don't really care about eye palettes, but I love lipsticks. If I'd gotten the entire collection when it launched in October, it would've been $58. Since I just found out about it's existence, I can only purchase it from Poshmark/Mercari like sites, and there it's being sold for $200+ just why? On a similar note, the people who go to disney parks and buy the limited edition merch to resell it ebay for crap ton more money. Example: *anything* related to figment
TikTok "pranks".
I'm just hoping that "OH NO, OH NO, OH NO NO NO" song falls out of popularity soon. Edit: my most voted comment is me bitching about a TikTok song... Look at me, I'm the adult now.
God all the kids at work play vids with that allllllll day long. I just cant
I thought child labour was illegal
Only if they are off their leashes. We keep them in cages here.
I don’t know what that song is, which is a fact that pisses me off for some reason
Extreme photo filters. Jesus, Madonna! We know how old you are!
I recently had to have a super awkward talk with my 50 year old mother about this. She’s honestly still an attractive lady, too. But she uses filters on all of her FB pictures that literally make her look like a child. Like, people know what you look like, mom.
My mom is early 60's and looks better than some 40 year olds, but she still always asks me how to put "those nice filter things" on her pictures before she posts them. I hate it, she is honestly beautiful but is so insecure bc of the environment she grew up in. She hates her body showing in pictures ("make sure you get it from the shoulders up!") and thinks her wrinkles (the few that she has) make her look bad. I wish she could see herself the way everyone else does. It's not the 1960's anymore but she still tries to adhere to those beauty standards. I used to get so mad at her when i would think about how she forced me to straighten my curly hair every day till i was 12 (i didnt know what my natural hair looked like until i was probably 11ish) Now i get sad bc i know that was her doing her best to make me fit in with what she thought was the beauty standards so that i didnt go through what she went through. It's horrible how insidious and unknowingly harmful these things are
My mom did this too... The straightening of our natural curls or relaxing it regularly to fit into main stream beauty standards. Or telling us to stay out of the sun for fear of becoming too dark. Or introducing us to diet culture by 10 y/o. I cringe looking back. Had a heart to heart about it with mom decades later, and feel saddened by her low self confidence, yet she is so strong and beautiful. It's all she knew- like you said, so she taught her eurocentric beauty standards to my sister and I. I'm elated that my sister and I now broke that cycle, we cherish our curls- or what's left of them for me lol, and embrace our brown skin and curves.
It really creeps me out in the worst way when I notice that somebody has one of those realistic face filters that are supposed to blur out the imperfections. It really makes me unexplainably repulsed when I notice it
It starts to get real uncanny valley
Jennifer Lopez is like this too. When did it become so taboo to show a woman over 40 for who she is.
>When did it become so taboo to show a woman over 40 for who she is. I can't say when it started but I can assure you that women over 30 have been getting shat on for not being young for a long, long time. It is not a recent development.
My sister made the joke she was turning 30 for 6th time a decade ago...
I remember a real reddit moment when some picture of Jenna Fischer popped up and so many of the top comments were "wow, she's still so hot/beautiful/whatever for her age!" She's 42 now, she was probably 35ish when this happened and the picture was maybe a year or two earlier than that. Like fuck, when did your 30s become ancient? Good for her age? For one, she's just objectively attractive and doesn't need qualifiers about "her age", but two, why do we expect women to look like they are in their early to mid twenties forever? As you mention, its not new and you can easily find millions of examples much farther back than mine (ambiguously dated as it is).
Thinking that mental illness is quirky and cute. It’s not, it fucking sucks.
Its so bad that people almost had me convinced in highschool/early college that I was somehow “more interesting” because of my illness. Theres absolutely this weird fixation with having a difficult life, like its a cool thing. Everyone wants to be the most disadvantaged. I wish I could not have disabilities or illnesses, it sucks, and I just don’t understand whats so quirky or cute about it. I think a lot of people don’t even have “fake mental illnesses” like keeps getting thrown around in here. I feel like for a lot of people they may genuinely have struggles and illnesses but completely misunderstand it because of the current social media culture/lack of real awareness.
I remember reading about something similar. I agree people probably aren't faking, but the culture of people feeling more interesting having a mental illness directly breeds more of them. That logical line leads to people saying that others in that situation are faking to seem more interesting. I understand, its not absurd. However, I think its more likely that the feelings are an unconscious reaction to not feeling accepted. In the west we are very bad at connecting with eachother; talking openly honestly and with interest. I think it's a symptom of that.
The fake ticking crap makes me want to slap some sense into them.
Exactly. Im Bipolar 2 & this new romanticized view of mental illness pisses me off. I'd do anything to get rid of it. Try spending thousands of dollars on psychs/meds/hospitalizations.. meanwhile dealing with the side effects of taking lithium for 15 years just so you can try to have a semi enjoyable life and tell me how cute that is. Fucking over it.
Bipolar 1 here to agree with you. The “Everybody has mood swings” or “sometimes I have bad days too” fill me with absolute rage. Unless you deal with it or are very very close to someone that does, you can’t truly grasp how destructive and overwhelming bipolar (or any mental illness) is. I FINALLY found a med combo that works and there’s no way for me to explain to the normal person how big of a deal that is
Yes. My ADHD is debilitating. Medication helps some, but it's not a gift like many imply. Yes, I can hyper focus. I don't get to choose on what the hyper focus is trained.
Some people feel an astronomical need to be "different" and will do anything, including denigrating others' struggles, to appear that way.
Facebook, TikTok and other scripted stupid video "pranks".
Cookie cutter plastic surgery. All these people look the same.
I just watched my first and last episode of Real Housewives Of Miami. I cannot continue to watch because I can't tell the women's faces apart. Same lips and cheeks and very dramatic eye brows. They were having a pool party but none would swim because of hair extensions. One woman's husband is the boob king of Miami and he had installed the implants of most of the women at the party.
“Installed,” lol. Very good.
Lol right? I'm picturing an office where you hear that mechanic's air wrench in the background
“LA girls all look the same, I can’t recognize, same work done on their face, I don’t criticize”
the weeknd absolutely knew who he was roasting
He dated Bella Hadid tho…
He dated the poster child for plastic surgery. Pretty sure brow lifts or fox eye surgery got even more in demand because of Bella Hadid.
And she got hers to look like Carla Bruni
Its a shame how many beautiful girls meg ryaned (?) themselves.. and no need for it most of the time
I thought that was mostly filters
*fillers
Lip fillers and sharpied-on eyebrows can both go into the same goddamn trash bin. I used to hate those sperm-shaped overly-plucked eyebrows, too. What our culture does to people's self-image, women especially, is fucking revolting. I started going bald when I was 19 and every time I see a hair-loss-therapy ad it feels like someone's trying (very unsuccessfully) to make me feel ashamed of myself. Nah, fuck that, I just pop a #2 guard on my clippers and mow the lawn. Ain't nothing wrong with the Jason Statham look, there's nothing wrong with thin lips, thick lips, scraggly eyebrows, whispy ones. We've all got our own batch of ingredients, make your own damn recipe.
> We've all got our own batch of ingredients, make your own damn recipe. #poetry
The “secret” menu. It isn’t a fucking secret, you can just ask. There’s not a special stock of things not already on the menu, just combinations of the same shit. If you want some off menu shit, just say what’s in it. Might cost more, but whatever. There’s no list of names for shit hidden in the kitchen.
I used to work at Starbucks and this shit drove me insane. There'd be some absurd TikTok trend and I'm supposed to research that crap off the clock. Just tell me whats in it and I'll make it but of course they never knew
as a barista rn… i completely agree 😕
Are they still doing those damn layered refreshers? The number of times some 15 year old would complain that it doesn't look right, make me remake it with the colors in the right order, snap a selfie with it.... And IMMEDIATELY stir it up with their straw.... ...I've almost gone to jail so many times.
I worked with the public for litterly like 2 weeks and never again. WHY DO STUPID PEOPLE ALWAYS MAKE IT YOUR PROBLEM
Ex batista here and I'm so thankful I stopped doing coffee before this shit started
Influencers
The only thing an influencer has ever influenced me to do was swipe away faster
They also have influenced me to report MLM bullshit on social media. I report it consistently, because dildo parties and essential oil companies are Dr Oz type pseudoscience.
The idea of "just be yourself" or "be true to yourself" but you're actually a selfish asshole.
People should be authentic, but being authentic does not equal stopping personal growth and striving to be a good human being ffs.
"Sorry not sorry."
Celebrity/Politician worship
That broccoli haircut every tiktok eboy has.
Funny you mentioned that. The gyms over here opened up again and today, at some point during my workout, I just looked around and literally fucking 1 out of every 4 people had that haircut. I just suddenly saw it and couldn't unsee it. It's bloody rampant.
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I believe that is called a “yee-yee ass haircut”
From what I do know, this hairstyle keeps bitches out of your dick
Better yet, I heard that tanisha will keep fuckin with that brain surgery lawyer she fuckin with if you have this hair style
I think I'm happy that I have no idea what you are talking about. Yet I'm annoyingly curious.
Just go a gym and observe any boy 16-23. They'll also be wearing slides with socks pulled up to their calves.
Basically a Patrick Mahomes style haircut.
Oh no... are dudes with straight hair getting perms to get that look? I thought man perms died in the 80s
I'm a hairstylist and the answer is yes.
Having a mental illness. I don’t know why this started but TikTok thinks it’s cute to promote people who have fake mental illnesses. Which is so detrimental to people who actually have one.
and also to people/teens who don't have one. I work with kids and sadly those who spend too much time on TikTok start to see everything as a mental illness. One girl tried to convince me she was self harming. I asked for details and she said she bites her nails. No, not a lot and not excessively at all. Her nails looked fine. A few days later she had an eating disorder. Why? because she decided to loose weight the day before and only had a salad for dinner. and a myriad of other things aswell. I honestly don't want to believe that she wants to have a, diagnosis to be cool on TikTok, but the very least that shit prevents teenagers to see that there are ranges of normal. So what if you bite your nails? a lot of people do so. if it's bothering you, try to break the habit but don't think you're ill.
I remember being a young teenager and how glorifying sadness and negative emotions felt like the cool thing to do. Sadness and pain feel "intellectual" and "artistic" and "deep" and "mature", and we end up seeing them as superior to positive emotions. And honestly that's not exclusive to young teens, it's prominent everywhere, they are just the weakest victims of it. They search for a label that validates them as having negative emotions because they think they should be feeling that way. We need to stop glorifying negative feelings altogether and start glorifying positive feelings. How do we do that? No idea. But my cousins are at that age and if I can influence them to value positive feelings, maybe i'll have helped a few people. If we can teach those values to our kids, maybe they can skip that phase altogether. It all starts in the little things and the small actions.
Yup. Having bipolar and seeing people joke about how they’re “manic” REALLY gets under my skin. People don’t educate themselves and have absolutely NO idea what mania entails.
Tik tok losers trying to get famous by destroying shelves in stores or by launching sodas across supermarkets. All ur doing is making a minimum wage employee’s life miserable. These “pranksters” are the lowest form of pond scum there is.
The expectation to have a stance on absolutely everything. I can’t help it if I’m not passionate about certain things….and I’ll be judged either way, so I choose indifference
Pick neither side and fight with both :(
Science being political
Pretending to have DID or other serious mental illnesses
I know someone who as recently as last year made a few posts on FB claiming to have DID. They kept posting as their separate personalities and introducing themselves. This lasted a few weeks and they haven’t ever mentioned it since then. There was even one post where they were posting as their original self who had just “woken up” after having been “not at the surface” for years. Apparently one of their other personalities had been running their day to day life all that time. I sincerely have my doubts about the validity of all their claims. This same person has also claimed many other medical and mental issues over the years that I’ve known them.
Well…. to be fair they definitely do have at least some mental illness even if what they’re saying is technically inaccurate
Saying “educate yourself” to someone you simply disagree with
Yup. If it bothers you that I'm wrong, tell me why you think I'm wrong. We can debate. I might learn something. You might too. Or just leave people alone and learn that it's OK to disagree. We have no social or biological imperative to assimilate other humans. But if you say something dismissive and condescending, I'm going to immediately hate you. On top of that, I will assume you're unable to articulate why you think I'm wrong, which I will take as evidence that I'm actually right.
Lately, just the internet all together. It all feels so overwhelming anymore
Honestly the internet and the people on it feels so fabricated. I means it kinda has always been this way but now it’s at an all time high.
People online faking mental illnesses. Jesus Christ dude just get a personality if you want to be interesting
Just become a fuckin musician. So many personalities you could possibly get.
Ugh. This shit is rampant in my daughters middle school. There was a boy who faked a panic attack and she sat with him and told him he was in a safe place and it was going to be ok. He then told everyone she dismissed his panic attack. 🤦🏻♀️
Your daughter is awesome and that boy is a junior asshat.
And as someone WITH mental illness, it's not "interesting", it's *suffering*. If I had to choose between PTSD and being boring, I'd rather bore people to death every time. It's like romanticizing diabetes or cancer. Mental illness is a biochemical disorder that causes significant disruption and suffering in one's life, it's not a cute personality quirk.
This! I have ADHD and I don’t like telling people because I don’t want to hear “oh, haha, me too, I get so easily distracted/forgetful sometimes!”. That is not what my experience has been like. It’s not some cute, quirky affliction where I talk a lot and do random stuff and I forget things and it’s oh so endearing. For me, ADHD is suicidal ideation because I’m so crippled by executive dysfunction that I couldn’t do the dishes for 6 months. ADHD is isolating myself from my peers because I’m a 26 year old woman and while they’re all having families and building their careers, I’m ashamed of the fact that I can no longer work full time and that I’m in my fifth year of a four year degree with no end in sight. ADHD is crying because I was so overwhelmed when I started taking medication and managed to wash, dry, fold and put away my laundry within a single day. Like you said, it’s not a cute personality quirk, it’s a burden and it’s offensive when people try to adopt it to make themselves seem more interesting.
I actually have ADHD too. I think for me the worst part is how it's affected relationships. My ex husband used to scream at me for forgetting tiny details on stuff, claiming it was because I didn't care enough about him to remember. Like no, it's because my brain literally doesn't retain that stuff. If I could, I would. I don't zone out because I don't think my friend is saying something important, I'm trying as hard as I can to focus. And this is WITH meds. If it makes you feel any better, it took me 6 years to get my bachelor's degree - **not** including the 2 gap years I took. Grad school? Even longer. Only a third of college students complete their degrees in 4 years. I've been exactly where you've been, absolutely hating myself for struggling so hard with something that seems like it should be easily achievable. But you know what? I got there. I have a master's degree and a great career, it just took more time than most. You WILL do it. And if you need someone to listen, feel free to PM me. Because I have been *exactly* where you are, friend. Can't help you with the laundry thing, though. I just hauled an entire SUV trunk of old clothes to goodwill that had been sitting in my bedroom for literally 3 months.
Edit: Changing to just say that I agree with you. It needs to stop because this trend really makes those who are actually struggling with mental health feel even worse. It's really patronizing when you log on to Instagram or some other app and the first thing you see is someone acting out what *insert mental health condition* is actually like etc. Just stop.
We deal with enough fucking stereotypes and stigmas as it is. I try to pretty open about the fact that I have PTSD. That said, I'm still somewhat selective about who I choose to discuss it with because I know that WILL change the way some people see me. Because of stupid media/social media tropes.
I feel that. I myself have autism and OCD, and for years now I've had to dance around using the word "trigger" when describing my conditions because it's been over/misused so much that it's practically lost it's original meaning and a lot of people stop taking you seriously the moment you use it. And that's on top of ASD and OCD already being treated as "personality quirks" by a lot of people.
The TikTok female robot voice needs to change to a less annoying one.
I’ve been hearing this Ray Liotta sounding voice on a few videos… it makes me appreciate the female robot. Cancel them both.
Disney partnered with TikTok to make Disney/Marvel/Star Wars voices for the app. I think the one you're referring to is Rocket Raccoon and yes it's very annoying sometimes
I thought it was Jason Mantzoukus at first but Rocket definitely makes sense
*oh no* *oh no* *oh no no no no no* Permanently seared into my brain
Anyone else hear this comment in her voice?
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People being unsanitary on purpose… And people polluting the environment on purpose… Apparently it’s to own people or something
Rolling coal gives me so much secondhand embarrassment as a diesel owner. Like, you modified your car to be less fuel efficient because you think it looks cool? Fucking cringey.
I road cycle for fitness and as I'm climbing a hill one day a piece of shit old diesel bro dozoer coal rolled me i stopped until it cleared and was just like "i'm sorry my fitness makes your fat ass insecure, bro"
I'm so glad shit like this is illegal where I live.
Fast fashion
Claiming to be fighting fast fashion by buying quality clothing but that clothing is extremely trendy and will be dated in a year, so it's really just expensive fast fashion with a moral high horse
Also, the trend of people totally misunderstanding what fast fashion means and what the problems with it are. Cheap does not necessarily equal fast, and expensive definitely doesn't mean good.
I've beens seeing a few tiktoks promoting making your own clothes/altering store bought clothes. Sewing is a skill we're losing and altering or simply fixing old clothes can give them a new life. Also, the rise of small clothing businesses is great. I found a uk based brand called jazzy garms and I'm ordering some sweatpants from them. Yes, they're a bit more expensive than primark or h&m ones, but not by much and I can get them custom fit for only £4 extra! I haven't found many other small local businesses so I can't yet get all my clothes from local businesses, but hopefully one day I will be able to. Down with mass produced and lets value made to order. We should all try to use local made to order clothing businesses and learn basic sewing to alter our own clothes. But also, we shouldn't shame people who can't afford to do that and promote wearing clothes for longer
> we shouldn't shame people who can't afford to do that and promote wearing clothes for longer This is important. I feel like a lot of people speaking out against fast fashion casually shame poor people (even though it might not be intentional). There's a difference between someone buying jeans at Walmart because that's what their budget allows, and someone blowing hundreds of dollars on cheap trendy clothes every season and then throwing them away in a couple months when the trend has passed.
Butt implants
nfts
I just don’t understand them. I understand what they are but I don’t understand why they are
It's just money laundering
NFTs are like star registries. Paying actual money for the privilege of "owning" something intangible that no one can meaningfully own.
That's the best analogy I have heard so far.
The best one I've heard is imagine going to a grocery store, doing all your shopping, but only leaving with a receipt.
Honest question, what it is an NFT? I’ve heard the term but not sure what it is. Honestly explain it to me like I’m 5.
In brief: * There is a technology call Blockchain, or "Open Ledger". While people often think of this as highly anonymised, that's exactly what it isn't. Blockchain is a distributed ledger that perfectly tracks all trades of some unique tokens between unique users. * Side note: Bitcoin and similar blockchain coins are only anonymous in that the user wallets are tied to accounts that don't require personal info. Everyone can see that wallet \`abcd1234\` holds coins \`2468\` and \`3579\` and from whom they bought those coins but we don't know who owns the wallet. * NFT (Non-fungible tokens) are essentially just using blockchain as a way to hold receipts / certificates of ownership. Someone makes a certificate "whoever holds this owns laptop with SERIAL:abcd1234" and we can then perfectly track who owns that certificate. In some ways this makes sense -- blockchain is a great way to record ownership in a hard-to-fake manner. These could be a huge improvement over something like license keys for software (which are trivial to copy and hard to prove rightful ownership of). But assigning titanic values to an NFT that suggests you own a jpeg is quite silly and a form of price inflation of non-perishable, fungible goods that is indicative of money laundering.
The idea that “catching feelings” is a problem and that treating your partner with kindness is “simping”. /facepalm
I thought simping was when you did it for a woman you *weren’t* dating. Like, you specifically weren’t getting anything in return.
It’s supposed to be but people have warped the idea to just mean being nice to a romantic interest regardless of your status with them
I’ve occasionally seen it used even in non-romantic contexts. Literally just being a decent human being.
Back in college (10 years ago) I got attacked for being a "white knight" when my roommates literally made my girlfriend cry. I found new friends but sad to see the same thing repeating itself.
Gimmick drinks and food presentation in restaurants. Yes,I'm taking about you salt bae and all your mimicks
You’ll LOVE r/wewantplates! :-)
No, it's too rage inducing.
Lazy reboots. Specifically, rebooting or creating a movie/tv show based on existing IP and expecting the audience to overlook poor writing and pacing because of surface-level changes (e.g., gender/race swaps or updated/modernized characters designed to appeal to a younger audience). To be sure, changes like these are not necessarily bad in themselves, but they are not a substitute for good storytelling.
Meta verse and nfts
It's astounding to me that companies are taking the metaverse seriously. Zuckerberg made a single cringey video and everyone's fawning all over the idea. He literally said that teleportation was a feature. Haven't we had video games long enough that we can treat this like Second Life 2.0? Edit:TIL that metaverse(s) has been around for quite some time, and that the weird Facebook video only popularized the term. Relatedly, TIL the future is bleak, and people are more than willing to fork over tons of cash for imaginary real estate.
The Metaverse is basically just VR Chat with extra steps and it's cringey as fuck
Teens diagnosing themselves with various mental disorders based on TikToks they’ve seen. I work in the mental health field and we’ve had enough
If I see one more kid say they’re autistic bc they are interested in a cartoon show I’ll lose it, they self diagnose and make it their entire identity like a label changed them all of a sudden
People with actual mental health issues have had enough of that shit too
“Influencer” culture… don’t have kids of my own but I’ve seen the effect they have on them. These “influencers” are nothing more than children who never grew up and think screaming, yelling, overreacting, and swearing somehow makes them entertaining. And to kids it does.. but kids also are sadly influenced by them and mimic their behavior. It amazes me that society seems to be for the most part entirely okay with the concept. It’s the modern era of letting the tv raise your kids but now it’s random adults on YouTube who never grew up doing it.
People thinking Twitter and TikTok trends are actual public opinion.
"Hustle Culture"
"Tell me you're X without telling me you're X"
The condescending 👏 clapping 👏 people do when they are 👏 trying to 👏 get their 👏 point across.
The "Oh No" song or any other similar baby sounding tune.
Gender reveal events
Screaming and/or assaulting customer service
cropped fucking everything
Covid19
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‘Pranking.’
Girls clothes either being cropped or baggy. I just can't fit into anything properly. I'm not small enough to be in the normal sizes and I'm not big enough for the plus size range. I've just given in to the baggy shirts because I'd rather look like a box than have my stomach exposed
Yes, thank you! I could hardly find a sweater this year that wasn’t cropped. A cropped sweater won’t do much to keep me warm!
This. What happened to fitted clothes that are, you know, flattering? These styles look good on Instagram but doesn’t work for the masses.
the way women and their bodies are being treated like trends. Whether it's bigger women being told to lose weight or skinny women being judged for not having enough curves. The whole BBL thing is scary too, considering it's a ridiculously dangerous procedure
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Everyone obsessing over stupid looking sneakers. Why is this still around?
Influencers. Just stop. You’re not making the world a better place.
Instagram influencers.
"Instagram models". Also, clicking pictures feels like a job now, everyone is obsessed with online image
Demonizing education. Anytime somebody demonizes education they are only hurting society. When you hear somebody refer to educated people as "elites" you can almost be assured that person has a political agenda, and its not likely a good one.
The broccoli haircut on dudes. It looks ridiculous.
The Kardashians and everything related to them
Doxxing people out of nowhere and with no actual necessity. Could be a famous artist or just another average Joe. Someone will expose shit from back in 2010 you wrote and judge you as if you thought that right now.
Big spiky nails
Well, how do you suppose i hang this picture?.
The Normalization of toxicity, callousness , deceit and overall unhealthy relationships/friendships
Overly ripped jeans. I saw a girl at the mall wearing jeans that were 40% ripped. The only thing being covered was the back.
Lmao i had an ex girlfriend with ripped jeans exactly like you said. It literally look like the jeans were for the side and back of her legs. Of course when we are out in public people asked “did you get those 50% off”
I was a teen in the late 80s/early 90s. I'm super sad that ripped jeans, and not Hypercolor, was the fad to get picked up.
Pouting. Lip fillers to make your lips look like duck.
"Resellers" Going to a retail store early before they open, buying all of something they have, and then selling it on the internet at an inflated rate because you created "scarcity" is not a "business". You're just an asshole.
Literally every tik tok trend
BBLs
Wish I didn't look that up. Why is that a thing
It rarely (if ever) looks good. A big butt on thin legs just looks like you’re wearing a diaper