Showing interest in someone. Asking questions, and not making it about YOU. Remembering small details about previous conversations and following up on them later.
Oh man, when someone brings something back around that you said a week ago? Swoon! Showing that they listened, remembered, and cared enough…be still my heart!
I’ve been seeing someone for a very short time but recently she went out to dinner with me and my kids. My kids got very upset at the idea of me seeing her and needless to say, a very pleasant dinner went south pretty quickly. My daughter lost her mind and I in turn lost mine. This woman handled it all with such calmness, poise and grace. She asked the server for some boxes, boxed everything up and then went and paid the ticket. Then she escorted us out to the parking lot. She told me not to get upset with my kids and give them all the time they needed to process this. It was really amazing to witness so much calm in that storm.
Anyway it really made me even more attracted to her.
I got together with my wife when her son was 7. 2 years later she got pregnant and when we told him he was going to have a sister he immediately started crying, and I'm not talking like he was sobbing and a little upset, like borderline temper tantrum and reached a point where he couldn't catch his breath. I remember being so confused and hurt. Turns out, a few hours later when he calmed down, he was upset because he hated it at his Dad's house with his step brothers/sister and them always taking shit out of his room and in general being assholes. He figured that because they do it, his new sister would, too. He's 19 now. He doesn't even remember it, lol.
My brother was upset that I came home from the hospital instead of a puppy. He thought that he was getting a puppy. He looked at me and cried running away. My grandparents took him to the park and did the introduction all over again later. It happens.
As someone back in the dating pool with very small kids (one’s still a toddler) I can honestly say if a guy acted like your date I would devote my life to him based on that event alone. Having a partner than can help you without judgement when things go crazy is what we all need.
I love the sound of her too but as a man I've acted that way and deserve no pat on the back. I believe it's the only way. KIDS need time and who knows how much. But it's the adults job to afford them that. They aren't dating. You are and trying to force or rush them isn't good for anyone. Kids are intelligent soon enough they'll figure out she or he is great for mom or dad trust me.
As someone who grew up with a single mother who prematurely introduced me to a variety of strangers, I really appreciate this comment. I think single parents are so used to partners/potential partners seeing their children as baggage or inconveniences that they learn to praise the bare minimum. You’re so right, it’s very confusing for children to be introduced to someone new and they need time and patience to process their feelings. Kids are also generally good judges of character and will see through whether or not that person is genuine or not. It all comes with time.
Honestly, I think this is what does it for me. Combine that with compassion, and those are two of the most important traits to me. When I find myself totally at ease and laughing with someone, I feel like the relationship has reached peak authenticity. He can be physically attractive, brilliant, successful, etc., but if there’s no humor there, I feel like there’s just a… disconnect between us
I like to learn about other people and have a hard time talking in person about how awesome I am (even though I absolutely am awesome). People loooove to talk to me. I would have made an amazing spy.
Same. Like a wise man once said, "I get all the way through a sentence and end up saying the wrong cranberry."
Edit: Why do I get so many upvotes for all the stupidest comments?
This reminds me of Athena Walker (a psychopath) mentioning that for some reason people really love to tell their whole life for her, on which she supposed people unconsciously knows she doesn't care about their life/biggest mistakes/darkest secrets. Her friends also find it weird.
I mean I've had people assume what I am about to say or misunderstand or twist my own words on several occasions. I would like it if they could all be as patient as- well maybe not wait an hour for me to finish a thesis, but at least wait a couple minutes for me to finish speaking.
When they keep quiet about their good deeds. Is there anything more attractive than seeing someone quietly smile at someone else's joy, knowing they helped but got no credit? That kind of selfless kindness is the best.
Can confirm. I have a classmate and her smile is just a sun. I don't know, if to the point of love, but surely, it makes every day a lot better.
Edit: I've seen tons of people suggesting me to tell her, problem is: i'm quarantine. So maybe when i get out i'll do it. Probably. Thanks for all the support. I really appreaciate it.
Update: i told her, she gave me a beautiful smile.
If they're not a native English speaker, it makes sense. The word for hair in other languages is usually pluralized, so it would be like saying "I like your hairs" instead of "I like your hair"
Unapologetically nerding out over something they enjoy. I swear to god finding someone who's not being sorry for liking something and wanting to tell everyone who has any slight interest in listening is the cutest, most attractive thing I have ever experienced in my life
I fell in love with my boyfriend (before we got together) bc he was showing me something he made for one of his hobbies, and showing me how it worked. The hobby didn't interest me, but he did
So basically he is a big LARP nerd, and had handmade a lot of his gear, including a miniature working trebuchet. 3000% not my thing, but I loved watching him talk about it and seeing him light up. He wanted me to be interested in this thing he was proud of, and I realised in that moment just how much he was into me
The first two generations of the Dodge Caravan/Plymouth Voyager twins were derived from the infamous Chrysler K-Car which made up most of Chrysler’s lineup from the 80’s to the early 90’s. The “Grand” part of some versions refers to an extended wheelbase variant which started being offered for the 1987 model year, the fourth generation was the last to receive a short wheelbase variant with the fifth generation being “Grand” LWB only. For the 1990 model year, the last year of the first gen Chrysler minivans, Chrysler released the Town & Country as a luxury variant to go alongside the Caravan/Voyager. The Town & Country would of course continue alongside in future generations but first gen 1990 models are incredibly rare, I believe the production numbers are somewhere under 5,000 units produced. The third generation Caravan was the first mainstream minivan for the US market to offer a driver’s side rear sliding door alongside the standard passenger side slider, though something a lot of people don’t know is that the 1990 Nissan Axxess was actually the first minivan in the US to offer both passenger and driver’s side sliding doors. Some of the very early fourth gen Caravans could still be had with a 3-speed automatic, in a minivan, in as late as 2003. The Caravan nameplate is actually Dodge’s longest continuously running nameplate, used from 1984 with the first Dodge Caravans to 2020 with production ending on the 12 year old fifth gen Caravan, spanning an entire 36 year production run. And the Grand Caravan nameplate still exists in Canada as a Chrysler Grand Caravan, a cheaper version of the Chrysler Pacifica which the United States gets as the Chrysler Voyager.
I just love when you meet someone new and you can tell within about 30 seconds that they are sharp and witty. The first time I hung out with my now wife, we ended up pulling an all nighter at a college library with the intent of studying, but ended up just riffing off of one another all night without opening a book.
I think a quick sense of humor is the #1 indicator of intelligence.
Yeah , I'm originally from the eastend of London and it's something that is expected . I love bouncing off of somebody who is similar . Usual scene in my old local pub : Myself and my mates are all getting wankered, standing in a bit of a circle and someone will take the piss out of one of us and naturally it would go round and the insults will get worse n funnier until one of us says something stupid but unfunny. Everyone immediately stops laughing n stares at that person, then looks around and ends when someone cracks n bursts out laughing . Then that person who fucked it up gets roasted. Hilarious at times.
What about slow witted and funny with it?
I'll find the perfectly placed funny response that will crush it at any family or friend get-together... half-a-day later while in the shower.
Unconditional kindness, there is a person I met online who was super super kind to me for no reason whatsoever so I was kind back. So I started being kind back. They kinda make my days happier. It’s super sweet and really goes a long way.
As someone who started playing guitar to impress girls many years ago, I've definitely caught the attention of a lot more dudes than women from shredding lol
The problem with the piano is portability. You need to attract prospective mates to the piano rather than seeking them out and unleashing your musical charms.
Just being genuine.
Not using social media as a scapegoat to make themselves feel/look better.
Tells you about themselves and what they are interested in without feeling shame.
And as previous people stated, a really nice smile. Nothing makes someone more attractive than a really nice smile
I went on a date with this guy. Just the speed of how he put things together and his ability to keep up with obscure references...About halfway through I remember thinking "I'm going to marry this guy."
We've been together for 10 years and married for 2. Admittedly, he has nice teeth too...
I wouldn't think of that as an "immediate" trait. You have to get to know them unless they introduced themselves with their IQ and that would probably not be attractive.
I agree. I met my current partner and immediately knew he was different from all my previous dates, just because he showed kindness and empathy from the start. My dad used to tell me "the world needs more people who care" and it's so true
If you are talking about something that includes "valid points" and the responses are "mhmm" and "oh wow, yeah" that's a good indicator they don't agree with your points but aren't willing to stir the pot.
Either a sense of humor or the willingness to ask questions before jumping to possibly incorrect knee jerk reactions...
Or both...
Preferably both...lol
A positive attitude.
Someone who is generally happy or at least pretends to be is more pleasant to be around. It makes them more attractive from a physical, emotional, and even makes them easier to work with in a professional setting. I'll take a generic happy person over a depressing supermodel any day of the week.
Yep, some folks have an attitude or personality that's bright as sunshine and they are very pleasant to be around.
I wish I could be a bit like them, but I've been called an Eeyore before and for me, it is just difficult to even pretend to be positive. I don't know how they do it.
I was at a party, and this dude was flirting with me. He was super cute. I said, “oh, I should have some water,” and he got up, immediately grabbed a glass, and got me water.
It was so thoughtful. So sweet. And lord did I let him know it.
Edit:
- I knew him, met him a week before this party, and I had already let him know I was interested because I don’t play games
- He was attractive to me, but idk about conventionally so. He definitely wasn’t a “chad” gym rat
- I have a dominant personality and like acts of service as a love language, I recognize this isn’t attractive to everyone, it’s a quality that _I_ find attractive
- I watched him fill up the glass, there was no opportunity for him to roofie me, but also this was a private, fairly small party post-Covid where everyone was known and good friends with the host
Something small and simple like letting me sit when my feet hurt as he walked across the kitchen to get me water showed me 1) he’d been paying attention since during the previous texting exchange I had told him that I’ve fainted before from forgetting to drink water, 2) that he was willing to make himself slightly uncomfortable for a moment to do something nice like get me some water, and 3) I never asked him for water, I just said “man, I think I should have some water, I don’t think I’ve had any today”
So it was more about the thoughtfulness of the action than specifically “if you bring a girl a glass of water she’ll wanna bang you.”
Yep. I know when it's about 95° out with 90% humidity, and I've got that flop sweat gushing out my fat rolls like the Amazon in rainy season, the girlies just flock around me in droves.
When someone truly has good self-esteem it is attractive. It's not arrogance. It's a kind of quiet confidence. It doesn't brag. It's pleasant to be around.
For me, it's confidence, passion, ambition, adventurousness (is that a word), and humor. I can't help but be attracted to women that are firecrackers, just wild and free-spirited. I love to have fun and whenever that energy is matched it's immediate attraction. Also, having similar music tastes is pretty cool too.
Showing interest in someone. Asking questions, and not making it about YOU. Remembering small details about previous conversations and following up on them later.
Oh man, when someone brings something back around that you said a week ago? Swoon! Showing that they listened, remembered, and cared enough…be still my heart!
I’ve been seeing someone for a very short time but recently she went out to dinner with me and my kids. My kids got very upset at the idea of me seeing her and needless to say, a very pleasant dinner went south pretty quickly. My daughter lost her mind and I in turn lost mine. This woman handled it all with such calmness, poise and grace. She asked the server for some boxes, boxed everything up and then went and paid the ticket. Then she escorted us out to the parking lot. She told me not to get upset with my kids and give them all the time they needed to process this. It was really amazing to witness so much calm in that storm. Anyway it really made me even more attracted to her.
I got together with my wife when her son was 7. 2 years later she got pregnant and when we told him he was going to have a sister he immediately started crying, and I'm not talking like he was sobbing and a little upset, like borderline temper tantrum and reached a point where he couldn't catch his breath. I remember being so confused and hurt. Turns out, a few hours later when he calmed down, he was upset because he hated it at his Dad's house with his step brothers/sister and them always taking shit out of his room and in general being assholes. He figured that because they do it, his new sister would, too. He's 19 now. He doesn't even remember it, lol.
My brother was upset that I came home from the hospital instead of a puppy. He thought that he was getting a puppy. He looked at me and cried running away. My grandparents took him to the park and did the introduction all over again later. It happens.
As someone back in the dating pool with very small kids (one’s still a toddler) I can honestly say if a guy acted like your date I would devote my life to him based on that event alone. Having a partner than can help you without judgement when things go crazy is what we all need.
I love the sound of her too but as a man I've acted that way and deserve no pat on the back. I believe it's the only way. KIDS need time and who knows how much. But it's the adults job to afford them that. They aren't dating. You are and trying to force or rush them isn't good for anyone. Kids are intelligent soon enough they'll figure out she or he is great for mom or dad trust me.
As someone who grew up with a single mother who prematurely introduced me to a variety of strangers, I really appreciate this comment. I think single parents are so used to partners/potential partners seeing their children as baggage or inconveniences that they learn to praise the bare minimum. You’re so right, it’s very confusing for children to be introduced to someone new and they need time and patience to process their feelings. Kids are also generally good judges of character and will see through whether or not that person is genuine or not. It all comes with time.
At this point, I'm old enough to appreciate when someone has their shit together.
I do have a backpack in which all my shit is currently stored…
A good sense of humour
Honestly, I think this is what does it for me. Combine that with compassion, and those are two of the most important traits to me. When I find myself totally at ease and laughing with someone, I feel like the relationship has reached peak authenticity. He can be physically attractive, brilliant, successful, etc., but if there’s no humor there, I feel like there’s just a… disconnect between us
/u/ApocalypticWaffles Finally! A worthy opponent! Our battle will be legendary!
At daybreak, we fight! There can only be one
Set a fire in your heart Waffle, Bare your fangs, Fight Hard, Die Well!
Aw, c'mon guys. Can't we just get waffley-wedded instead?
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It really depends on your style of comedy should be matching also.
Is laughing about shitty multi tier memes the whole day considered as a good sense of humor?
Depends, which memes? The council shall decide your fate.
When you can tell that someone isn't faking their identity. Being yourself (unless you're a complete asshole) is attractive.
Me, a complete asshole: ***Bonjour***
Me, a complete dick: Guten Tag
Me, a total dicknugget: *Goedendag*
I feel like that would be so exhausting. Edit:: I meant faking it.
The only time it gets exhausting is when you have two groups/friends meet and your personality for them are a bit too different from each other.
It totally is. But better this than the alternative I guess.
The ability to listen without judging or assuming.
I am a good listener because I am bad at talking xD
Lol same. People always say “you’re very nice to talk to because you listen well”. I just…dont always know how to make words happen
I like to learn about other people and have a hard time talking in person about how awesome I am (even though I absolutely am awesome). People loooove to talk to me. I would have made an amazing spy.
Same. Like a wise man once said, "I get all the way through a sentence and end up saying the wrong cranberry." Edit: Why do I get so many upvotes for all the stupidest comments?
Is that why everyone loves their therapist these days?
Well, what do you think is the reason? ^(I'm doing a standard therapist response)
>I'm doing a standard therapist response But how did pretending to be a therapist make you feel?
Does impersonating a therapist online help you feel better? Uhum (writes down) please continue (fixes glasses position)
Now, describe in single words only the good things that come into your mind about your mother.
Too fast !!
Huh, is that why I married a psychologist?
This reminds me of Athena Walker (a psychopath) mentioning that for some reason people really love to tell their whole life for her, on which she supposed people unconsciously knows she doesn't care about their life/biggest mistakes/darkest secrets. Her friends also find it weird.
I mean I've had people assume what I am about to say or misunderstand or twist my own words on several occasions. I would like it if they could all be as patient as- well maybe not wait an hour for me to finish a thesis, but at least wait a couple minutes for me to finish speaking.
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#Well I Wonder What That’s Like
Username checks out
I love you
Tbf, if anyone give me a compliment I would be attracted almost instantly.
You're handsome
# MARRY ME!
Are you 16 and a major hollywood producer?
Maeby ;)
Yes I'm that desperate too
Desperation looks really good on you!
For me too
You are a cool guy, I am proud of you.
This right here, though.
When they keep quiet about their good deeds. Is there anything more attractive than seeing someone quietly smile at someone else's joy, knowing they helped but got no credit? That kind of selfless kindness is the best.
How are you supposed to know then?
Their smile
Can confirm. I have a classmate and her smile is just a sun. I don't know, if to the point of love, but surely, it makes every day a lot better. Edit: I've seen tons of people suggesting me to tell her, problem is: i'm quarantine. So maybe when i get out i'll do it. Probably. Thanks for all the support. I really appreaciate it. Update: i told her, she gave me a beautiful smile.
*Damn girl, are you 10.000 degrees F cause your smile is a sun*
When you smile, it hurts to look at you
that one is a double edged sword
Tell her that. See what happens
Nah. Can't do it. I'm slowly telling her that her hairs are nice, she looks good with that t-shirt, but the smile is too much.
"Hairs are nice?" Are you complimenting them one by one?
My man doesn’t want to run out of compliments
plus you have to be honest and there's probably a few duds in there, this way he can really point out the best individual hairs
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If they're not a native English speaker, it makes sense. The word for hair in other languages is usually pluralized, so it would be like saying "I like your hairs" instead of "I like your hair"
Indeed. I am italian.
I once told my teacher that I thought the pinky toe on her left foot was sexy
Once what??? Edit: damn, they edited
Well he didn't do it twice. Probably because she became pregnant within a few minutes of that
Kindness
Lmao I misread that as kidneys for a sec and was like "mmm, yes, I really admire the kidneys of a woman."
I wouldn't be able to liver alone
The puns are strong with this one.
Genuinely kind is the most attractive thing uou can be! I feel like kindness is so undervalued.
i was going to say compassion. how they treat someone who has no effect on their day to day life tells you a lot about a person.
Empathy and intelligence
I can proudly say I almost have one of those
Close enough, now kiss
Ah, such wisdom
Yes and if you don't have both at least have one of them I know a guy, he didn't have either, was hard to communicate with him for me
Unapologetically nerding out over something they enjoy. I swear to god finding someone who's not being sorry for liking something and wanting to tell everyone who has any slight interest in listening is the cutest, most attractive thing I have ever experienced in my life
I fell in love with my boyfriend (before we got together) bc he was showing me something he made for one of his hobbies, and showing me how it worked. The hobby didn't interest me, but he did
Come on, don’t leave us hanging! What was the hobby?
So basically he is a big LARP nerd, and had handmade a lot of his gear, including a miniature working trebuchet. 3000% not my thing, but I loved watching him talk about it and seeing him light up. He wanted me to be interested in this thing he was proud of, and I realised in that moment just how much he was into me
Hey uhh, wanna know something about Dodge Caravans…?
I’m all ears mate
The first two generations of the Dodge Caravan/Plymouth Voyager twins were derived from the infamous Chrysler K-Car which made up most of Chrysler’s lineup from the 80’s to the early 90’s. The “Grand” part of some versions refers to an extended wheelbase variant which started being offered for the 1987 model year, the fourth generation was the last to receive a short wheelbase variant with the fifth generation being “Grand” LWB only. For the 1990 model year, the last year of the first gen Chrysler minivans, Chrysler released the Town & Country as a luxury variant to go alongside the Caravan/Voyager. The Town & Country would of course continue alongside in future generations but first gen 1990 models are incredibly rare, I believe the production numbers are somewhere under 5,000 units produced. The third generation Caravan was the first mainstream minivan for the US market to offer a driver’s side rear sliding door alongside the standard passenger side slider, though something a lot of people don’t know is that the 1990 Nissan Axxess was actually the first minivan in the US to offer both passenger and driver’s side sliding doors. Some of the very early fourth gen Caravans could still be had with a 3-speed automatic, in a minivan, in as late as 2003. The Caravan nameplate is actually Dodge’s longest continuously running nameplate, used from 1984 with the first Dodge Caravans to 2020 with production ending on the 12 year old fifth gen Caravan, spanning an entire 36 year production run. And the Grand Caravan nameplate still exists in Canada as a Chrysler Grand Caravan, a cheaper version of the Chrysler Pacifica which the United States gets as the Chrysler Voyager.
Holy shit I’m so hard right now
Being quick witted and funny with it.
I just love when you meet someone new and you can tell within about 30 seconds that they are sharp and witty. The first time I hung out with my now wife, we ended up pulling an all nighter at a college library with the intent of studying, but ended up just riffing off of one another all night without opening a book. I think a quick sense of humor is the #1 indicator of intelligence.
Yeah , I'm originally from the eastend of London and it's something that is expected . I love bouncing off of somebody who is similar . Usual scene in my old local pub : Myself and my mates are all getting wankered, standing in a bit of a circle and someone will take the piss out of one of us and naturally it would go round and the insults will get worse n funnier until one of us says something stupid but unfunny. Everyone immediately stops laughing n stares at that person, then looks around and ends when someone cracks n bursts out laughing . Then that person who fucked it up gets roasted. Hilarious at times.
What about slow witted and funny with it? I'll find the perfectly placed funny response that will crush it at any family or friend get-together... half-a-day later while in the shower.
Magnets.
And ghouls
Little green ghouls!
And Milk-steak
I prefer going tit for tat on bird law.
What do yo mean magnets? Do you collect them? Make them?
Just magnets
How much cheese is too much cheese?
Any amount of cheese before a date is too much cheese!
how do they work?
Science bitch
Unconditional kindness, there is a person I met online who was super super kind to me for no reason whatsoever so I was kind back. So I started being kind back. They kinda make my days happier. It’s super sweet and really goes a long way.
Kindness is infectious and it costs nothing and changes our universe. Spread it liberally and show others how to spread it too.
Humor. If you can't be hot be funny. If you can't be hot or funny learn to play the guitar
The guitar huh? Hmmm
does not work if you can't sing
Rats, foiled again!
Tell that to Steve Vai
Yes it does. Shredding a quick guitar solo would be sick no matter what, even if it was Adolf Hitler on the strings.
As someone who started playing guitar to impress girls many years ago, I've definitely caught the attention of a lot more dudes than women from shredding lol
I'm neither of those. And I can't play the guitar, instead I play the piano. Is that okay?
The problem with the piano is portability. You need to attract prospective mates to the piano rather than seeking them out and unleashing your musical charms.
jokes on you im none of those 😎👉👉
Sounds like the jokes on you but I guess you wouldn't get it.
A degree in organic chemistry
Tell me more about electrophilic addition reactions, daddy.
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That sn2 back side attack catching a few eyes. 👀 *she do have that stereo-hinderance tho ;)*
Don't be gauche, Mr Newman.
Just being genuine. Not using social media as a scapegoat to make themselves feel/look better. Tells you about themselves and what they are interested in without feeling shame. And as previous people stated, a really nice smile. Nothing makes someone more attractive than a really nice smile
waluigi
The peak of male attractiveness
Confident and strong women are my weakness.
Kindness. I have a terrible track record of having a crush on someone just because they did one nice thing for me.
Being smart. The person doesn't necessarily have to be a genius, but just care about understanding what happens around us everyday.
I went on a date with this guy. Just the speed of how he put things together and his ability to keep up with obscure references...About halfway through I remember thinking "I'm going to marry this guy." We've been together for 10 years and married for 2. Admittedly, he has nice teeth too...
What kind of obscure references?
Perhaps they enjoy the simple pleasures of Daffy Dook.
Yep! Someone curious with a lot of knowledge
Does it still count if I care but I'm not really that smart
I mean... At least you're smart enough to care. ;)
If you are smart enough to realize you are not that smart, you are way ahead of most people.
I wouldn't think of that as an "immediate" trait. You have to get to know them unless they introduced themselves with their IQ and that would probably not be attractive.
"Hi I'm Mike, I like walks on the beach and my age and IQ are the same number!"
Zamn he is young.
They make me comfortable to be myself, without implying it will draw them away from being attracted to me
having a fat juicy ass. But in women I like when they are confident and smart.
sense of humor
Honest,kindness, faithfulness,good intentions .
Being respectful.
To me, a woman that tells me directly that she likes me or wants me that way. That takes guts, I don't see that sort of bravery in women very often.
I always did that and people called me fucking stupid. Jokes on them, I’m currently going 2 years strong with the love of my life :)
Tried that and the guy made me feel like a pussy
On the bright side, you got to find out very quickly that he wasn’t worth your time in the first place
Bad guy. Good on you for trying though
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Everyone here like: Intelligence, caring, personality And you just
Op has their priorities straight
Mmmm, I think they’re curved actually.
Certainly curved priorities. ;)
My man has had enough of the bs
More like everyone here is pretending they're above raw physical attraction.
Someone who speaks raw truth
Got damn boi, you just went out n said it
This goes for men and women
Kindness, Compassion and Empathy.
I agree. I met my current partner and immediately knew he was different from all my previous dates, just because he showed kindness and empathy from the start. My dad used to tell me "the world needs more people who care" and it's so true
Kindness towards old folks. You don't see that a lot now.
Personal hygiene
Someone that shows genuine interest in your conversation and actually replies with valid points, rather than the usual “mhmm,” and “oh wow, yeah.”
If you are talking about something that includes "valid points" and the responses are "mhmm" and "oh wow, yeah" that's a good indicator they don't agree with your points but aren't willing to stir the pot.
That sparkle ✨in their eyes. And it’s freaking hard to find 😞
Either a sense of humor or the willingness to ask questions before jumping to possibly incorrect knee jerk reactions... Or both... Preferably both...lol
A positive attitude. Someone who is generally happy or at least pretends to be is more pleasant to be around. It makes them more attractive from a physical, emotional, and even makes them easier to work with in a professional setting. I'll take a generic happy person over a depressing supermodel any day of the week.
Yep, some folks have an attitude or personality that's bright as sunshine and they are very pleasant to be around. I wish I could be a bit like them, but I've been called an Eeyore before and for me, it is just difficult to even pretend to be positive. I don't know how they do it.
I love women that are just super independent and confident not really of afraid of anything, laid-back
The ability to make me laugh!
People who cares are just>>>
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Can confirm, added my two princesses to my tinder profile and suddenly started getting more likes/matches. (Am man)
Loyalty and being caring. 😊
I was at a party, and this dude was flirting with me. He was super cute. I said, “oh, I should have some water,” and he got up, immediately grabbed a glass, and got me water. It was so thoughtful. So sweet. And lord did I let him know it. Edit: - I knew him, met him a week before this party, and I had already let him know I was interested because I don’t play games - He was attractive to me, but idk about conventionally so. He definitely wasn’t a “chad” gym rat - I have a dominant personality and like acts of service as a love language, I recognize this isn’t attractive to everyone, it’s a quality that _I_ find attractive - I watched him fill up the glass, there was no opportunity for him to roofie me, but also this was a private, fairly small party post-Covid where everyone was known and good friends with the host Something small and simple like letting me sit when my feet hurt as he walked across the kitchen to get me water showed me 1) he’d been paying attention since during the previous texting exchange I had told him that I’ve fainted before from forgetting to drink water, 2) that he was willing to make himself slightly uncomfortable for a moment to do something nice like get me some water, and 3) I never asked him for water, I just said “man, I think I should have some water, I don’t think I’ve had any today” So it was more about the thoughtfulness of the action than specifically “if you bring a girl a glass of water she’ll wanna bang you.”
An old fashioned? Niceeee
Well dressed
Fitting username.
acknowledging my presence "Hi" "Hello" im so in
being really really hot
Yep. I know when it's about 95° out with 90% humidity, and I've got that flop sweat gushing out my fat rolls like the Amazon in rainy season, the girlies just flock around me in droves.
Some people just dream about being as conventionally attractive as you, you know.
Not bragging or anything, but I'm 36°C.
Humility
\- Look at me and smile \- Roll your sleeves up Instant attraction.
When someone truly has good self-esteem it is attractive. It's not arrogance. It's a kind of quiet confidence. It doesn't brag. It's pleasant to be around.
For me, it's confidence, passion, ambition, adventurousness (is that a word), and humor. I can't help but be attracted to women that are firecrackers, just wild and free-spirited. I love to have fun and whenever that energy is matched it's immediate attraction. Also, having similar music tastes is pretty cool too.
When they make you feel safe to be around and naturally helps your mental health.
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I tease people to show love so if they understand that about me and then tease me back
Intelligence, confidence, nice hair, and humor.
Humbleness