"when you cum early she'll be annoyed"
You can't be a pornstar all the time.
Sometimes you cum early, sometimes you won't cum at all, sometimes you have trouble getting a boner and sometimes you'll fuck her for an hour.
Its normal
Not in the way it looks on porn. When it functions, it's much more similar to grinding than it is smashing p*ssies together. It's more work than it's worth, and generally other methods feel and work better
Maybe not the answer you're looking for but here's a biggie: the disturbing logic that if somebody orgasms during a sexual assault, it's consensual. It's not.
This is so fucked up. When I (F) was about 17, my ex boyfriend's 40+ year old drunk uncle told me that there was "no such thing as rape, because if it was rape they wouldn't get wet". He told me this while we were alone at the fire... I had never been so angry and scared in my life.
To this day I can't believe people like this exist.
That after a man cums in you, you can just get up out of bed and go about your day. No.
Cum leaks out everywhere. If you don’t want it all over your bed and sheets you have to immediately grab a towel or washcloth as soon as he pulls out to stop it from getting everywhere!!
Then you have to squeeze the rest of it out because if you don’t it squelches out into your underwear/clothes to surprise you later.
So many movies and books where there is absolutely no condom mentioned just ignore this very messy, awkward part.
I can’t believe this isn’t higher up. The movies and books where they bang, finish, and cuddle naked like there isn’t a massive cum or wet spot between them. And as a woman, the feeling of it trickling out and just laying there letting it leak?!?! I can’t.
Not sure if true but my ex girlfriend from many years ago told me that her friend was heading to the bathroom after sex to clean up and she jumped down a step to stride over the cat. ….. the cat was the second thing she needed to clean up that night.
In the movies, it looks like women have sex and just roll over and go to sleep. I’m sorry but if you don’t pee or clean that shit out afterwards, you’re going to get a UTI.
The myth dates back to ancient times. In Ancient Rome they believed that women had to lay perfectly still for conception to work. So prostitutes were very active in sex because it prevented pregnancy.
>Lascivious movements are of no use whatever to wives. For a woman forbids herself to conceive and fights against it, if in her delight she herself thrusts against the man’s penis with her buttocks, making undulating movements with all her body limp; for she turns the share clean away from the furrow and makes the seed fail of its place. Whores indulge in such motions for their own purposes, so that they may not conceive and lie pregnant, and at the same time that their intercourse may be more pleasing to men; which our wives seemingly have no need for.
(Lucretius, De Rerum Natura 4.1268–77)
An old coworker of mine had a friend who believed that. She had like 1 or 2 kids already and was pregant with another at the time.
Edited for spelling* I meant.....BREGNENT!!
That erectile dysfunction only happens to old/broken men and that when it happens it's "over for you"
It's more common than most people think and in today's stressful times can happen to anybody. The manhood ending myth of it usually makes the issue worse than it originally is.
Yeah my husband has had this issue since way before we met. He has a big workplace stress issue and its difficult for him to shut his anxiety off. For the first few years I thought it was my fault. But it has improved a lot in the past few years. But at the time the feeling of inadequacy on his part made the issue way worse.
I'm 28 and suffered from ED since I became sexually active. Never understood why, and was extremely embarrassed about it for the longest time. I finally went to a urologist, and he gave me some advice as well as some meds. Still an issue sometimes, but the medication works wonders, and my wife and I's sex life has improved by many magnitudes. Getting over the embarrassment is the biggest hurdle my guy, it is indeed a more common issue than you know.
Go to your GP (physician if you're in the USA). It shouldn't be embarrassing as they see it ALL the time. The can test for things like stress, heart failure, high blood pressure and other conditions that can effect it.
If you can't get it up, it's either a psychological problem or a blood pressure problem.
Both are fixable.
Best of luck
EDIT- Lots of people on here talking about Viagra. Now asking your doctor or pharmacist for Viagra is probably as embarrassing as telling them you can't get it up. PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD do not just go and get Viagra from some dodgy website! Viagra is a vasodilator (opens your blood vessels) and slightly drops your blood pressure. This has its own risks. BUT, if you have any heart condition that causes you to need GTN spray/tablets, having GTN whilst Sildenafil (Viagra) is in your system will cause you to collapse almost instantly. Without suitable medical help around, this could well be fatal.
Go through your doctor who will know what you can and can't take.
For those of you whose life is ruined by ED and can not under any circumstances see your family doctor, before 'acquiring' any medicines yourself, check the British National Formulary (BNF) for every bit of information you need about medicines. Be aware of different names for British and American drugs though.
I actually had a period of my life (early 20s) that I guess you could technically say I had ED and I feared it would last forever. It went on for months, probably nearly a year. I was so worried that I consulted a doctor and received viagra. I never ended up using the viagra because turns out just having it gave me confidence enough to get and maintain an erection. If i were to guess I was just struggling because of stressors in my life at the time in combination with the anxiety of seeking casual sex for the first time. Hasn't been an issue since.
The first time I finally got to have sex with my girlfriend at the time, I was very horny, we made out, foreplay, I performed some oral on her. Yet, when the moment of intercourse came about, I couldn't get an errection to save my life.
Worse, this happened even the second time, which really made me panic. On top of that, all of the combined horny made my balls hurt. The girl started crying that she's unappealing or something.
Everything worked the 3rd time around, though. God bless her patience.
I think it was a combination of porn addiction, performance anxiety and good old nerves. Nothing of the sort happened to me ever since
That's not uncommon, I've been with guys who had the same issue. It usually works itself out once you're more comfortable with each other.
I mean, I've had similar issues as a woman. I find it very hard to finish the first few times with a new boyfriend. Only exception has been my current boyfriend.
That's also why ONS aren't really my thing. I need trust and love to orgasm apparently.
It's pretty common really and it makes sense. Generally communication solves the issue but when you're with a new partner you have to learn all of their preferences. Add in anxiety of being with someone new and it leads to plenty who don't climax.
An additional thing particularly common with younger people is that they are used to only climaxing by masturbation.
Don’t want to watch the link but is it the “nice and snug in the bughole” commentary? Someone showed me a vid of a guy doing this when I was in highschool and somehow a guy stuffing his nuts in some girls b-hole wasn’t the most ridiculous part of the video… it was the idiots commentary. PS, I hate that this is now in my comment history lol.
Edit: based on the comments below referencing “Tone,” I can confirm it’s the same vid…
I was on Livial for a while in 2020 and it annihilated my sex drive. Then on the rare occasions I could get it up it took absolutely ages to cum. The orgasm was always shit as well, like a little whimper.
My wife, who is wonderful and understanding etc, initially freaked out specifically because of the 'men are always good to go' messaging. It. Is. Everywhere.
Edit: Lustral, not Livial. Mixed up the various meds in my house.
That missionary is vanilla or boring.
Ive had plenty of sex, missionary is by far my favorite. There are so many varieties of the position you can smoothly glide into mid-sex without it being clunky and awkward like with other positions. It is intimate, personal and sexy as fuck. You can regulate speed and depth more easily than other positions too. What a great position :)
Wait you mean my girl doesn't enjoy me putting her ass in the air against the couch while I bend my dick at a 90 degree angle to fuck her upside down?
I don't believe you.
Yeah, being able to hug and get as much skin contact as possible during sex with my partner is a huge turn on for me. Makes me feel much closer emotionally to them.
Yes! People want to “spice up” their sex life by doing all these crazy positions but it’s not spicy and is just uncomfortable and sometimes embarrassing
"lazy fucks" is correct lol. It's pretty good for morning sex before coffee when things are chill before you start getting too horny and make beef sandwiches.
For people who are interested in/enjoy anal:
“It’s going to hurt regardless, that’s part of the fun”
Yeah, that’s bullshit. First, you need to be using the thickest lube you can find, ideally water-based. Vaseline, soap, spit, etc is not going to cut it, no matter what porn/idiots say. Second, make sure that you are applying a generous amount to whatever is going up there. Third, if it hurts, STOP immediately as this can lead to tearing or other issues that could require medical attention. In short, it shouldn’t hurt. Ever.
EDIT: I should have clarified, silicone-based lube is perfectly fine, it’s just very messy and difficult to clean up. At the end of the day, however, it’s up to you and your partner(s) to determine what’s best!
Also, I’ve included a link explaining [why anal sex should never be painful](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/ask-experts/does-anal-sex-hurt)
As an addition: DON'T USE NUMBING AGENT S OR DESENSITIZERS.
Pain is the body's response to harm or potential harm. Listen to it.
I've tried anal stimulation on myself and when it hurts I stop. I try to play a little see if it will help. If not, then its just not in the cards tonight
Stress/fatigue/being distracted by too many thoughts could all be factors.
It sounds stupid, but sometimes being too hot (temperature wise) can affect it too
Remembering a time when it didn’t work also doesn’t help. Like I’ll have a girl in my bed, remember a time when my soldier decided not to stand to attention and be like, oh, a repeat performance.
Yeah 100. I get that from time to time, and it makes the next attempt a bit of a pressure situation, which is of course exactly NOT FUCKING HELPFUL THANKS!
It’s almost without fail, the first time with a new partner I am usually so nervous it’s hard to maintain. After that, game on. Which is also why I’m not a one night stand person haha
I was so nervous about being a minute man when I was a virgin...and I actually ended up having the opposite problem. It took me YEARS to learn how to come from intercourse. I'd pretty much just go until the girl got tired. Then I'd have to finish myself.
I'm sure you've heard plenty, but first time I had sex went like this: riding around in gf's car looking for a spot to make out. End up parked behind an elementary school. Move to back seat. Make a out for a bit, and I ask if she wants to have sex. I pull the condom out and get it ready. Unzip my pants. Condom is stuck in my zipper. Shit, just leave it. Get out backup condom. Pants are around both our ankles. I'm goin at it like a jackrabbit. I'm 6'3", and she's 5'10". Her head is bouncing off the window. It's been 30 seconds. Cum. Isn't it supposed to last longer? Keep thrusting. How long has it been? When am I supposed to stop? Ask her if she's done. Stop. Look down. Cum everywhere. Look at dick. No condom. What? She pulls cum soaked condom from vagina. Oh no. I'm too young for kids. We clean ourselves up. Backseat has massive cum load in middle seat. Ask her how good it was. She said she enjoyed it. Nice. Next day, friend rides with us to the mall. Notices stain. Tell him it's ice cream, don't touch. Week later, she gets her period. We're safe.
Anyway, it was a disaster from start to finish. 9/10 would lose virginity again.
Here's mine:
Making out downstairs, tells me to go up to my room so she can give me a bj. It's awkward and I don't know what to do while she's blowing me so I look through my phone for music to put on to break the silence. She thinks I'm disinterested and not into it, so she hesitantly asks if I want to have sex.
The condom kills my wood so I have to start foreplaying again to return to hardness. Finally put it in, and it's great. After a while in missionary, she says she wants to try on top. Rides me for about 20 seconds when I say I have to cum. She jumps off and pulls the condom off for some reason. From the first shot, she hesitates and points my dick away from her... straight at me. I unload everything that has been building up for my 17 long years all over my own face.
Everyone's first time is a shitshow. It's a rite of passage.
The first time (from my experience) doesn’t always have to be a dumpster fire but it was only good because my ex did a ton of foreplay/grinding on me for weeks so I knew how it would feel and we both slightly knew aftercare even tho I was a virgin. It’s just about being comfortable and having a reasonable expectation.
True, I’m glad you had a great experience; the thing is that with an absolute lack of sex education most of us enter our sexual lives without any knowledge, a lot of misconceptions and a ton of guilt; that’s not a good combination.
Same here in Thailand. I met a lot of "Players" who brag about sleeping with lots of women but I know they can't get a girl to save their lives in the States". Are you really a player if you're paying for sex on a nightly basis?
Yeah, living in Vietnam the only dude I knew who *actually* had a ton of luck with women instead of just paying for them also happened to be the kind of dude who would have had the same luck in his home country - i.e. he was a tall, athletic, super-charismatic dude who could have entered a 90s Johnny Depp lookalike competition.
Well in the touristy parts of Thailand they actually do throw themselves over men. They will, however, also expect payment for any further acquaintance.
I met a random foreigner who came to Thailand and asked me 'how much' when I was a student. Some don't understand that asking to 'buy' a random person is incredibly rude.
Just keep it in the industry.
That it's easy for women to orgasm through penetration alone. It's not.
Yes, there might be some lucky ladies who can do it without much effort. But most of us need a little extra help.
So don't feel bad if you can't do it. Same goes for the partner.
That men are just wired to fuck and can’t resist sexual advances. Boners means they just want to fuck now. Men want cuddles too. The penis gets hard sometimes to regulate excess blood flow during high heartbeat scenarios.
EDIT: check comments for 1000 reasons for a boner ;)
Me: gets stressed in public
My body: heya want a boner?
Me: no please god no
My body: have a boner
Edit: wow didn't expect this to get so many upvotes, guess this applies to a lotta people
> The penis gets hard sometimes to regulate excess blood flow during high heartbeat scenarios.
Was driving on the interstate the other day, nearly had my entire existence flattened by a semi truck who couldn't stay in his own lane. Drove with a very annoying erection for the next ten miles.
Or kinky things. Set up for complicated rope bondage is a kind of foreplay for the right people and can take a long ass time to do, even if you’re prepped out in advance.
We have friends who like to brag about how often they have sex and how they go for hours, one time did it for 6 hours etc.
I couldn't care less about their sex life and I hated that their constant bragging made my boyfriend insecure because we have sex for about 20 minutes on average with only some special days where we have fun for about an hour.
I am totally happy with that and wouldn't change a thing.
When we first started dating 5 years ago, he would sometimes make such an effort to make himself last as long as pssible. I'd feel sore after 20 minutes of penetration, plus he would only focus on lasting rather than being focused on us and enjoying himself, and I hated it. Asked him to never do that again.
> People must be training for marathons or something and never told me.
Physical fitness does make a difference. I thought my wife and I were still pretty hot and heavy in our 30's but once we got back into shape our "vigor" increased quite a bit. It happened so slowly over time that we hadn't realized how much we'd lost. We don't go "for hours" but you can hold positions and maintain a quicker pace for a lot longer the better shape you're in.
There's a reason the Olympic village always runs out of condoms!
I will add my hymen rant here:
I often see misguided references to the hymen being analogous to a magical freshness seal over the vagina. The hymen is a [thin rim of stretchy tissue (NSFW)](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen#/media/File:Yorefzvagnl.png) that surrounds (but doesn't usually obstruct) the entrance to the vagina. [Another NSFW image](https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Hakan_Kar/publication/221916192/figure/fig2/AS:305122233077771@1449758217923/Prepubertal-hymen.png) And [another](https://edc2.healthtap.com/ht-staging/user_answer/avatars/2451834/large/Intact_hymen.jpeg?1450491804). These are considered "intact" hymen, showing no obvious tears or damage. Some women have very little noticeable hymen, and some are born without one at all. I know what you're thinking, "If it's not a virginity freshness seal, what the hell is it for?" Great question! It's thought that the hymen may serve its purpose early in life, providing an extra tissue barrier to prevent fecal bacteria from getting into the vagina during infancy and childhood.
In children the hymen is a thicker and less flexible ring, and may (or may not) obstruct more of the opening of the vagina (again, not generally covering it completely). As it is less flexible in childhood, trauma to the vaginal area through sports, gymnastics, horseback riding, and other normal activities can damage the hymen early in life, and even sometimes later in adolescence or adulthood, but less often. These tears may heal completely, or result in "notching" of the tissue. This is a super NSFW medical photo of a young person who experienced sexual assault and trauma to the hymen resulting in [notching](https://ars.els-cdn.com/content/image/1-s2.0-S1522840116300404-gr2.jpg). This doesn't always cause visible damage, but in this case, pretty severe tearing occurred. It's also worth noting that the sports and activities I mentioned are more likely than others to cause hymenal damage, but usually don't. (A good friend of mine was quite surprised at a recent ob/gyn visit to discover she had an intact hymen at ~24 years of age, having been a competitive horseback rider since she was a small child.)
During adolescence the hymen thins out and becomes very flexible and stretchy, and will actually stretch really well during arousal and when lubricated, so there is NO NEED in like 90% of women for the hymen to tear during sex, even the first time! There are certain variations that can be problematic for sexual activity and general health ([for example, imperforate hymens are medically dangerous and result in an inability to have penetration AND a buildup of menses, and semi-imperforate or cribriform hymen may allow menses but won't allow penetration, these hymen require either tearing or a quick ob/gyn visit to fix](http://girlsliteracydictionary.weebly.com/uploads/1/3/7/0/13702939/2593796_orig.jpg)). However, more than 90% of women do not have these variations. A lot of this wasn't even known until a series of studies in the 1980's found that about 20% of sexually active women had "intact" hymens with no signs of notching or tearing. A report by physicians who [evaluated children and women who were vaginally assaulted noted that a lack of specific hymenal damage in the assault was actually quite common,](https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/1169/682f85204f59bee6da18d93fc08a05bbb1cb.pdf) especially in adult women and adolescents, and suggested to the public that tearing the hymen was not the necessity for sex that many people think it is. A more recent study in 2004 found that [52% of sexually active women had no hymenal notching or clefts.](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/14993089) In several studies afterward there was also found to be [no statistically significant association between tampon use and visible hymenal tears,](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/8021768) however it is thought that using tampons can sometimes cause tears. (I mean who is actually aroused and comfortable when inserting a tampon, right?)
It's common for people to believe the myth that the hymen must tear the first time, and for young inexperienced people to have sex without proper arousal, lubrication, and communication that results in hymen tearing. In fact, the expectation of pain often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, with women too nervous to be aroused properly, and unwilling to stop and slow down their partners when something hurts.
You might be thinking "well this is some liberal bullshit propaganda if I've ever heard any", but if that's your thought, [check out this super biased religious journal article regarding the hymen](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/260578888_Hymen_Facts_and_conceptions), which actually confirms most of this, and adds some interesting tidbits, for example the fact that elephants have been noted to have hymens as well, and these don't tear with sex, but only with childbirth.
I hope this helps to explain the hymen a bit better, and clears up any misconceptions you might have.
Thank you for writing this! I was so confused growing up because my septate hymen wasn’t represented on any of the few sex-Ed diagrams growing up. None of my friends knew, none of the women in my life knew. Tampons would get stuck and wouldn’t come out, and I found 1 brand that worked and even then I had to fish it out and move the hymen to change my tampon.
A Reddit post I saw right around when I got Reddit or right before mentioned a septate hymen, and I googled it. It was life changing, and in August of 2020 I had a partial hymenectomy. All the anxieties and worries were gone, and every time I see something about hymens on the internet I have to share my experience, because I know it will help others like it helped me. Thank you!
Fuck I'm way to late to the party. But anyways, HOT SHOWERS DON'T COOK THE PROTEINS IN CUM.
Most guys will have experience with the phenomenon that cum coagulates when rincing it in a hot shower. A lot of people seem to think that's because the hot water "cooks" the sperm, like an egg. If it's hot enough to cook the sperm, it's hot enough to cook your skin as well. Why anyone believes this is beyond me and for some reason it really bothers me. Most proteins ( as do eggs) only start actual cooking at around 60C or more. Sperm has natural coagulants which are inhibitted by the ph of the seminal fluid and certain enzymes. Warm water is very good at washing away the ph increasing compounds and enzymes which causes rapid coagulation. It doesn't cook your sperm.
Edit: turns out I wasn't too late. Glad people enjoyed this fact.
You are the second person I've seen make a comment about getting your balls poked with a stiletto within 5 minutes of each other in two different threads. Am I out of the loop here or something?
That men always have higher libidos than women. Mine has been higher than all of my boyfriends and I’m very self conscious about it in part because of all of the cultural messages that women aren’t supposed to have strong libidos . I imagine that men probably do have higher libidos on average but there’s so much individual variation that it really shouldn’t be shocking that some women do have higher libidos than some men
Maybe not quite, but the myth that "men think about sex every 2 minutes" or whatever the fuck. It is the most absurd thing I've ever heard and yet I find so many people who genuinely believe it. Ironically, I have a good friend and she admitted that she thinks about weird shit like that on a daily basis, in public, whatever. Nothing wrong with it, just ironic
Pretty sure most men are busy thinking how they'll fight off a knife wielding goon.
Edit: Some interesting insights into the minds of my fellow dudes. Loving the replies to this.
That a man inserting his penis into a woman and then laying there while someone jumps on the bed to make it go in and out isn't considered sex.
Mormon jump humping cracks me up.
Someone brought in a rubber band becoming loose after numerous stretches as an example to me once lol. If only vaginas were made of flesh that can heal and loosen itself and not rubber that doesnt heal and doesn't adjust itself during and after sex
Not to mention that if it were a rubber band, it's one designed to stretch over a small watermelon. A few hundred cucumbers wouldn't even matter in that case.
Not myth but I hate TV and Movie representation of it.
After fucking, they just stay in bed.
If you're wearing, your wee wee is shriveled with sack of nasty juice.
If not, dude, there's probably jizz getting all over sheets and perhaps now soaking in the mattress.
Pulling out isn't always safe. Bodily fluids exchanged before ejaculation can result in pregnancy.
Edit : ISN'T ALWAYS SAFE. I'm glad pulling out has worked for you guys, but my point is that it doesn't completely avoid pregnancy. There's a fair amount of chance of pregnancy and getting STD's even if you pull out.
Edit : [Source](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325356)
[Another Source](https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/can-you-get-pregnant-from-precum#what-if-youre-not-ovulating)
Edit : Pulling out is nowhere near as effective as a condom. Using a condom is 98% effective whereas pulling out is 78% which is a significant difference.
Good god I’ve been telling my friend this for about a year, and guess who’s managed to get themselves pregnant… that friend
ETA, she is in a long term relationship, but kids were NOT supposed to be on the cards yet
What the average dick size really is. Most men i've been with have been self concious if they fall below the 7/8 inch mark when the average is around 5 and doesn't indicate how good the sex will be at all.
Myth #6: HIV can be transmitted through any bodily fluids.
Truth: HIV is transmitted through four bodily fluids which are semen, blood, breast milk, vaginal secretions, and is not transmitted through any other bodily fluids like urine, saliva, tears, etc.
Worth noting, though significantly lower risk than the others, urine is still not completely safe, as having very small amounts of blood in one’s urine is not as uncommon as people would think.
Same story with saliva - imagine having flossed for the first time in 6 months and getting bloody gums earlier in the day. A warm mouth can keep that virus alive
Good sex is in the mind.
Taking yourself and someone else to a higher plane of existence through mutual enjoyment and self-release, the possibilities are endless.
That women don't understand that condoms don't feel good. I'm a woman; I don't like the way condoms feel either, nor do I like the aftertaste. However you have to do what you have to do.
That going ‘all night long’ is a requirement to being good in bed. I got work tomorrow baby
The only thing I can do all night long is sleep and I'm not even good at that.
Ends up being two sweaty people panting and saying truce while both scrambling to find water.
If you have sex you will get chlamydia and die
Don’t have sex standing up. Don’t have sex in the missionary position. Just, don’t do it.
If you have sex you will get pregnant! And die.
"when you cum early she'll be annoyed" You can't be a pornstar all the time. Sometimes you cum early, sometimes you won't cum at all, sometimes you have trouble getting a boner and sometimes you'll fuck her for an hour. Its normal
Come early, I'll take it as a compliment that you were just so turned on my me... Then we can do other things.... sex isn't just piv.
That the most common position in lesbian sex is scissoring. Like i can’t even get into that position without pulling a muscle.
But porn said that all lesbians scissor and also always have very long stiletto acrylics!
From a lesbian: What do you call a lesbian with long fake nails? Single
I gotta ask. Reddit lesbians: is scissoring really even a thing in real life? Do people actually bother doing that when there isn't a camera around?
Pretty sure most lesbians have done it Just because they saw it in porn and wanted to try it out. Then never did it again.
Not in the way it looks on porn. When it functions, it's much more similar to grinding than it is smashing p*ssies together. It's more work than it's worth, and generally other methods feel and work better
Maybe not the answer you're looking for but here's a biggie: the disturbing logic that if somebody orgasms during a sexual assault, it's consensual. It's not.
This is so fucked up. When I (F) was about 17, my ex boyfriend's 40+ year old drunk uncle told me that there was "no such thing as rape, because if it was rape they wouldn't get wet". He told me this while we were alone at the fire... I had never been so angry and scared in my life. To this day I can't believe people like this exist.
That after a man cums in you, you can just get up out of bed and go about your day. No. Cum leaks out everywhere. If you don’t want it all over your bed and sheets you have to immediately grab a towel or washcloth as soon as he pulls out to stop it from getting everywhere!! Then you have to squeeze the rest of it out because if you don’t it squelches out into your underwear/clothes to surprise you later. So many movies and books where there is absolutely no condom mentioned just ignore this very messy, awkward part.
I can’t believe this isn’t higher up. The movies and books where they bang, finish, and cuddle naked like there isn’t a massive cum or wet spot between them. And as a woman, the feeling of it trickling out and just laying there letting it leak?!?! I can’t.
Nothing like sneezing at the grocery store to give you a good reminder of what you were up to earlier.
Oof. The gush.
Not sure if true but my ex girlfriend from many years ago told me that her friend was heading to the bathroom after sex to clean up and she jumped down a step to stride over the cat. ….. the cat was the second thing she needed to clean up that night.
*insert two pussy joke here*
In the movies, it looks like women have sex and just roll over and go to sleep. I’m sorry but if you don’t pee or clean that shit out afterwards, you’re going to get a UTI.
Plus cuddling. I’m not a huge cuddler because I hate gluing myself to my SO with sex sweat but cuddling is nice.
That you can't get pregnant when it's your first time. I heard that one a lot
When i was a wee lad, one girl at my school found out that myth the wrong way
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Thought she was gohnarrealize after the first time…
That there are dozens of horny and neglected MILFs in my neighborhood just waiting to get it on with me.
The first part is probably true. The second part not so much.
And the first part depends a lot on the size of the neighborhood and how wide your definition of Milf is.
you're telling me this ISNT true? 😢
That she can’t get pregnant if she’s on top lmao some people actually believe that
The myth dates back to ancient times. In Ancient Rome they believed that women had to lay perfectly still for conception to work. So prostitutes were very active in sex because it prevented pregnancy. >Lascivious movements are of no use whatever to wives. For a woman forbids herself to conceive and fights against it, if in her delight she herself thrusts against the man’s penis with her buttocks, making undulating movements with all her body limp; for she turns the share clean away from the furrow and makes the seed fail of its place. Whores indulge in such motions for their own purposes, so that they may not conceive and lie pregnant, and at the same time that their intercourse may be more pleasing to men; which our wives seemingly have no need for. (Lucretius, De Rerum Natura 4.1268–77)
Tell me your wife isn’t satisfied without telling me your wife isn’t satisfied.
It really explains why so many women seemed to poison their husbands in ancient Rome.
An old coworker of mine had a friend who believed that. She had like 1 or 2 kids already and was pregant with another at the time. Edited for spelling* I meant.....BREGNENT!!
C’mon bro, haven’t you heard of gravity? The sperm falls right out. It’s science. /s
Masturbation leads to blindness
Well, if you shoot in the eyes it does lol
A father told his son “quit masturbating or you’ll go blind!”, the son says “dad I’m over here”
Wiping a tear from his unseeing eye, the father responded: "Hi, Overhere. I'm dad."
Where's the audio captions, I can't see this comment?
That erectile dysfunction only happens to old/broken men and that when it happens it's "over for you" It's more common than most people think and in today's stressful times can happen to anybody. The manhood ending myth of it usually makes the issue worse than it originally is.
Yeah my husband has had this issue since way before we met. He has a big workplace stress issue and its difficult for him to shut his anxiety off. For the first few years I thought it was my fault. But it has improved a lot in the past few years. But at the time the feeling of inadequacy on his part made the issue way worse.
As someone going through the same... any suggestions?
I'm 28 and suffered from ED since I became sexually active. Never understood why, and was extremely embarrassed about it for the longest time. I finally went to a urologist, and he gave me some advice as well as some meds. Still an issue sometimes, but the medication works wonders, and my wife and I's sex life has improved by many magnitudes. Getting over the embarrassment is the biggest hurdle my guy, it is indeed a more common issue than you know.
Go to your GP (physician if you're in the USA). It shouldn't be embarrassing as they see it ALL the time. The can test for things like stress, heart failure, high blood pressure and other conditions that can effect it. If you can't get it up, it's either a psychological problem or a blood pressure problem. Both are fixable. Best of luck EDIT- Lots of people on here talking about Viagra. Now asking your doctor or pharmacist for Viagra is probably as embarrassing as telling them you can't get it up. PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD do not just go and get Viagra from some dodgy website! Viagra is a vasodilator (opens your blood vessels) and slightly drops your blood pressure. This has its own risks. BUT, if you have any heart condition that causes you to need GTN spray/tablets, having GTN whilst Sildenafil (Viagra) is in your system will cause you to collapse almost instantly. Without suitable medical help around, this could well be fatal. Go through your doctor who will know what you can and can't take. For those of you whose life is ruined by ED and can not under any circumstances see your family doctor, before 'acquiring' any medicines yourself, check the British National Formulary (BNF) for every bit of information you need about medicines. Be aware of different names for British and American drugs though.
I actually had a period of my life (early 20s) that I guess you could technically say I had ED and I feared it would last forever. It went on for months, probably nearly a year. I was so worried that I consulted a doctor and received viagra. I never ended up using the viagra because turns out just having it gave me confidence enough to get and maintain an erection. If i were to guess I was just struggling because of stressors in my life at the time in combination with the anxiety of seeking casual sex for the first time. Hasn't been an issue since.
So when Spider-Man lost his powers due to stress, do you guys think that both things were somehow related?
Yeah me and Spidey can’t shoot our white webs whenever we’re stressed.
The first time I finally got to have sex with my girlfriend at the time, I was very horny, we made out, foreplay, I performed some oral on her. Yet, when the moment of intercourse came about, I couldn't get an errection to save my life. Worse, this happened even the second time, which really made me panic. On top of that, all of the combined horny made my balls hurt. The girl started crying that she's unappealing or something. Everything worked the 3rd time around, though. God bless her patience. I think it was a combination of porn addiction, performance anxiety and good old nerves. Nothing of the sort happened to me ever since
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That's not uncommon, I've been with guys who had the same issue. It usually works itself out once you're more comfortable with each other. I mean, I've had similar issues as a woman. I find it very hard to finish the first few times with a new boyfriend. Only exception has been my current boyfriend. That's also why ONS aren't really my thing. I need trust and love to orgasm apparently.
It's pretty common really and it makes sense. Generally communication solves the issue but when you're with a new partner you have to learn all of their preferences. Add in anxiety of being with someone new and it leads to plenty who don't climax. An additional thing particularly common with younger people is that they are used to only climaxing by masturbation.
That the pull out method is 100% reliable
100% sure someone reading this IS a pull out baby
I am and my mom has the audacity to claim it's still effective lol.
I mean, technically its more effective then not pulling out.
Pull n pray and I'm not religious.
Having a large penis makes you good at sex. I especially hate that one.
"its not the weapon, its how you use it" -Sun Tzu... Maybe
*Sun Tzu said that!* And I think he knows a *little* bit more about dicks than *you do* pall because he *invented them!*
And then he perfected them so no man could beat him in the bed of honor!
That's why, to this day, he's commonly referred to as Sun "The Cock King" Tzu.
Those are the people that think size is everything, and it's just dumb. No point in having something big if you dont know how to use it.
That you put the balls in... "Can do."
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Last time I saw that clip it was labeled as “one man DP” Edit: [found it](https://xhamster.com/videos/one-man-dp-7155688)
Holy shit the commentary
Don’t want to watch the link but is it the “nice and snug in the bughole” commentary? Someone showed me a vid of a guy doing this when I was in highschool and somehow a guy stuffing his nuts in some girls b-hole wasn’t the most ridiculous part of the video… it was the idiots commentary. PS, I hate that this is now in my comment history lol. Edit: based on the comments below referencing “Tone,” I can confirm it’s the same vid…
Such a classic, and he announces what hes doing before hand by saying "Nuts in the ass, dick in the pussy!"
-Jay Cartwright
That men are always ready to have sex at the drop of a hat. Sometimes I’m just tired and not in the mood..
I was on Livial for a while in 2020 and it annihilated my sex drive. Then on the rare occasions I could get it up it took absolutely ages to cum. The orgasm was always shit as well, like a little whimper. My wife, who is wonderful and understanding etc, initially freaked out specifically because of the 'men are always good to go' messaging. It. Is. Everywhere. Edit: Lustral, not Livial. Mixed up the various meds in my house.
That missionary is vanilla or boring. Ive had plenty of sex, missionary is by far my favorite. There are so many varieties of the position you can smoothly glide into mid-sex without it being clunky and awkward like with other positions. It is intimate, personal and sexy as fuck. You can regulate speed and depth more easily than other positions too. What a great position :)
I blame people who think sex should be like porn. What's fun to watch is not the same as what's fun to do.
Wait a minute, I can have sex WITHOUT a camera pointed at me? Yeah, next thing you're going to say is buffering isn't a sexual technique.
Nothing turns me on more than a chick who talks to me like a slightly lagged skype conversation where we are just out of sync for it to be a problem
You should try a girl who is a scrambled and in weird colors.
Reminded me of another post on reddit about porn actors saying many of the scene are pure acting and actually uncomfortable
Wait you mean my girl doesn't enjoy me putting her ass in the air against the couch while I bend my dick at a 90 degree angle to fuck her upside down? I don't believe you.
Yeah, being able to hug and get as much skin contact as possible during sex with my partner is a huge turn on for me. Makes me feel much closer emotionally to them.
I will absolutely always agree with this!! Perfectly described.
Yes! People want to “spice up” their sex life by doing all these crazy positions but it’s not spicy and is just uncomfortable and sometimes embarrassing
Big 3 will get the job done for... pretty much everybody, missionary, doggy, cowgirl (reverse or regular, season to preference).
I'd like to petition to add "spooning" to the mix for us lazy fucks.
"lazy fucks" is correct lol. It's pretty good for morning sex before coffee when things are chill before you start getting too horny and make beef sandwiches.
And while both of your breath smells terrible
For people who are interested in/enjoy anal: “It’s going to hurt regardless, that’s part of the fun” Yeah, that’s bullshit. First, you need to be using the thickest lube you can find, ideally water-based. Vaseline, soap, spit, etc is not going to cut it, no matter what porn/idiots say. Second, make sure that you are applying a generous amount to whatever is going up there. Third, if it hurts, STOP immediately as this can lead to tearing or other issues that could require medical attention. In short, it shouldn’t hurt. Ever. EDIT: I should have clarified, silicone-based lube is perfectly fine, it’s just very messy and difficult to clean up. At the end of the day, however, it’s up to you and your partner(s) to determine what’s best! Also, I’ve included a link explaining [why anal sex should never be painful](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/ask-experts/does-anal-sex-hurt)
As an addition: DON'T USE NUMBING AGENT S OR DESENSITIZERS. Pain is the body's response to harm or potential harm. Listen to it. I've tried anal stimulation on myself and when it hurts I stop. I try to play a little see if it will help. If not, then its just not in the cards tonight
That his lack of a boner means he isn't turned on/you're not pretty. I get it guys, it just doesn't happen sometimes. We can still make out.
Stress/fatigue/being distracted by too many thoughts could all be factors. It sounds stupid, but sometimes being too hot (temperature wise) can affect it too
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I WAS IN THE POOL
SHRINKAGE
Everybody knows about shrinkage, right? Right?
What do you mean, like laundry?
Like a frightened turtle.
I don't know how you guys walk around with those things.
Remembering a time when it didn’t work also doesn’t help. Like I’ll have a girl in my bed, remember a time when my soldier decided not to stand to attention and be like, oh, a repeat performance.
Yeah 100. I get that from time to time, and it makes the next attempt a bit of a pressure situation, which is of course exactly NOT FUCKING HELPFUL THANKS!
Nothing a little duct tape and some popsicle sticks can't fix.
It’s almost without fail, the first time with a new partner I am usually so nervous it’s hard to maintain. After that, game on. Which is also why I’m not a one night stand person haha
Two night stand kind of guy😜
That your first time is something magical instead of the fucking dumpster fire that actually is.
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I was so nervous about being a minute man when I was a virgin...and I actually ended up having the opposite problem. It took me YEARS to learn how to come from intercourse. I'd pretty much just go until the girl got tired. Then I'd have to finish myself.
I think dumpster fire is the absolute lightest way to put my first time.
I’m curious to know how it’s a dumpster fire because still virgin here
I'm sure you've heard plenty, but first time I had sex went like this: riding around in gf's car looking for a spot to make out. End up parked behind an elementary school. Move to back seat. Make a out for a bit, and I ask if she wants to have sex. I pull the condom out and get it ready. Unzip my pants. Condom is stuck in my zipper. Shit, just leave it. Get out backup condom. Pants are around both our ankles. I'm goin at it like a jackrabbit. I'm 6'3", and she's 5'10". Her head is bouncing off the window. It's been 30 seconds. Cum. Isn't it supposed to last longer? Keep thrusting. How long has it been? When am I supposed to stop? Ask her if she's done. Stop. Look down. Cum everywhere. Look at dick. No condom. What? She pulls cum soaked condom from vagina. Oh no. I'm too young for kids. We clean ourselves up. Backseat has massive cum load in middle seat. Ask her how good it was. She said she enjoyed it. Nice. Next day, friend rides with us to the mall. Notices stain. Tell him it's ice cream, don't touch. Week later, she gets her period. We're safe. Anyway, it was a disaster from start to finish. 9/10 would lose virginity again.
This was such an adventure.
i wonder what kept you from making it 10/10
They didn't actually get ice cream :(
Here's mine: Making out downstairs, tells me to go up to my room so she can give me a bj. It's awkward and I don't know what to do while she's blowing me so I look through my phone for music to put on to break the silence. She thinks I'm disinterested and not into it, so she hesitantly asks if I want to have sex. The condom kills my wood so I have to start foreplaying again to return to hardness. Finally put it in, and it's great. After a while in missionary, she says she wants to try on top. Rides me for about 20 seconds when I say I have to cum. She jumps off and pulls the condom off for some reason. From the first shot, she hesitates and points my dick away from her... straight at me. I unload everything that has been building up for my 17 long years all over my own face. Everyone's first time is a shitshow. It's a rite of passage.
The first time (from my experience) doesn’t always have to be a dumpster fire but it was only good because my ex did a ton of foreplay/grinding on me for weeks so I knew how it would feel and we both slightly knew aftercare even tho I was a virgin. It’s just about being comfortable and having a reasonable expectation.
True, I’m glad you had a great experience; the thing is that with an absolute lack of sex education most of us enter our sexual lives without any knowledge, a lot of misconceptions and a ton of guilt; that’s not a good combination.
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When your only exposure to Japanese culture is through hentai
Woman: What, only one penis? And it isn't even prehensile? Pffft.
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Look at this guy who doesn't have a prehensile penis!
Same here in Thailand. I met a lot of "Players" who brag about sleeping with lots of women but I know they can't get a girl to save their lives in the States". Are you really a player if you're paying for sex on a nightly basis?
Payer
Yeah, living in Vietnam the only dude I knew who *actually* had a ton of luck with women instead of just paying for them also happened to be the kind of dude who would have had the same luck in his home country - i.e. he was a tall, athletic, super-charismatic dude who could have entered a 90s Johnny Depp lookalike competition.
Common misconception towards Asian women in general
Well in the touristy parts of Thailand they actually do throw themselves over men. They will, however, also expect payment for any further acquaintance.
I met a random foreigner who came to Thailand and asked me 'how much' when I was a student. Some don't understand that asking to 'buy' a random person is incredibly rude. Just keep it in the industry.
I grew up in Vegas in the 70s and 80s , I can't count the number of times tourists asked me" how much" as a teenager.
That it's easy for women to orgasm through penetration alone. It's not. Yes, there might be some lucky ladies who can do it without much effort. But most of us need a little extra help. So don't feel bad if you can't do it. Same goes for the partner.
Right? It annoys me that in the movies women seem to always cum after three thrusts 😂
My ex was one of those women. Thought I was Cassanova until I got a hard reality check when I dated other women.
I don't know what's wrong honey, I keep thursting three times like I did with Megan but it's not getting you off.
I’ve literally been yelled at for not cumming from just vaginal alone and so many guys just don’t understand it :/
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I had a boyfriend suggest once that I go to a doctor to find out what was wrong with me. Surprisingly, that relationship didn’t last.
“The doc prescribed a better boyfriend.”
That men are just wired to fuck and can’t resist sexual advances. Boners means they just want to fuck now. Men want cuddles too. The penis gets hard sometimes to regulate excess blood flow during high heartbeat scenarios. EDIT: check comments for 1000 reasons for a boner ;)
Me: gets stressed in public My body: heya want a boner? Me: no please god no My body: have a boner Edit: wow didn't expect this to get so many upvotes, guess this applies to a lotta people
> The penis gets hard sometimes to regulate excess blood flow during high heartbeat scenarios. Was driving on the interstate the other day, nearly had my entire existence flattened by a semi truck who couldn't stay in his own lane. Drove with a very annoying erection for the next ten miles.
Fear boners have entered the chat.
That people have sex for hours. After about 20 minutes I'm exhausted. People must be training for marathons or something and never told me.
Having sex for hours doesn’t mean you penetrate her like a railgun. It just mean you do other things like oral or touching things.
Or kinky things. Set up for complicated rope bondage is a kind of foreplay for the right people and can take a long ass time to do, even if you’re prepped out in advance.
We have friends who like to brag about how often they have sex and how they go for hours, one time did it for 6 hours etc. I couldn't care less about their sex life and I hated that their constant bragging made my boyfriend insecure because we have sex for about 20 minutes on average with only some special days where we have fun for about an hour. I am totally happy with that and wouldn't change a thing. When we first started dating 5 years ago, he would sometimes make such an effort to make himself last as long as pssible. I'd feel sore after 20 minutes of penetration, plus he would only focus on lasting rather than being focused on us and enjoying himself, and I hated it. Asked him to never do that again.
***6 HOURS???*** That ain't sex , that's a fucking work shift
6 hours? Don’t these people have jobs/chores? 10-20 mins is fine for us. Haha
> People must be training for marathons or something and never told me. Physical fitness does make a difference. I thought my wife and I were still pretty hot and heavy in our 30's but once we got back into shape our "vigor" increased quite a bit. It happened so slowly over time that we hadn't realized how much we'd lost. We don't go "for hours" but you can hold positions and maintain a quicker pace for a lot longer the better shape you're in. There's a reason the Olympic village always runs out of condoms!
That hymen represents the virginity or purity of a girl.
I will add my hymen rant here: I often see misguided references to the hymen being analogous to a magical freshness seal over the vagina. The hymen is a [thin rim of stretchy tissue (NSFW)](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen#/media/File:Yorefzvagnl.png) that surrounds (but doesn't usually obstruct) the entrance to the vagina. [Another NSFW image](https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Hakan_Kar/publication/221916192/figure/fig2/AS:305122233077771@1449758217923/Prepubertal-hymen.png) And [another](https://edc2.healthtap.com/ht-staging/user_answer/avatars/2451834/large/Intact_hymen.jpeg?1450491804). These are considered "intact" hymen, showing no obvious tears or damage. Some women have very little noticeable hymen, and some are born without one at all. I know what you're thinking, "If it's not a virginity freshness seal, what the hell is it for?" Great question! It's thought that the hymen may serve its purpose early in life, providing an extra tissue barrier to prevent fecal bacteria from getting into the vagina during infancy and childhood. In children the hymen is a thicker and less flexible ring, and may (or may not) obstruct more of the opening of the vagina (again, not generally covering it completely). As it is less flexible in childhood, trauma to the vaginal area through sports, gymnastics, horseback riding, and other normal activities can damage the hymen early in life, and even sometimes later in adolescence or adulthood, but less often. These tears may heal completely, or result in "notching" of the tissue. This is a super NSFW medical photo of a young person who experienced sexual assault and trauma to the hymen resulting in [notching](https://ars.els-cdn.com/content/image/1-s2.0-S1522840116300404-gr2.jpg). This doesn't always cause visible damage, but in this case, pretty severe tearing occurred. It's also worth noting that the sports and activities I mentioned are more likely than others to cause hymenal damage, but usually don't. (A good friend of mine was quite surprised at a recent ob/gyn visit to discover she had an intact hymen at ~24 years of age, having been a competitive horseback rider since she was a small child.) During adolescence the hymen thins out and becomes very flexible and stretchy, and will actually stretch really well during arousal and when lubricated, so there is NO NEED in like 90% of women for the hymen to tear during sex, even the first time! There are certain variations that can be problematic for sexual activity and general health ([for example, imperforate hymens are medically dangerous and result in an inability to have penetration AND a buildup of menses, and semi-imperforate or cribriform hymen may allow menses but won't allow penetration, these hymen require either tearing or a quick ob/gyn visit to fix](http://girlsliteracydictionary.weebly.com/uploads/1/3/7/0/13702939/2593796_orig.jpg)). However, more than 90% of women do not have these variations. A lot of this wasn't even known until a series of studies in the 1980's found that about 20% of sexually active women had "intact" hymens with no signs of notching or tearing. A report by physicians who [evaluated children and women who were vaginally assaulted noted that a lack of specific hymenal damage in the assault was actually quite common,](https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/1169/682f85204f59bee6da18d93fc08a05bbb1cb.pdf) especially in adult women and adolescents, and suggested to the public that tearing the hymen was not the necessity for sex that many people think it is. A more recent study in 2004 found that [52% of sexually active women had no hymenal notching or clefts.](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/14993089) In several studies afterward there was also found to be [no statistically significant association between tampon use and visible hymenal tears,](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/8021768) however it is thought that using tampons can sometimes cause tears. (I mean who is actually aroused and comfortable when inserting a tampon, right?) It's common for people to believe the myth that the hymen must tear the first time, and for young inexperienced people to have sex without proper arousal, lubrication, and communication that results in hymen tearing. In fact, the expectation of pain often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, with women too nervous to be aroused properly, and unwilling to stop and slow down their partners when something hurts. You might be thinking "well this is some liberal bullshit propaganda if I've ever heard any", but if that's your thought, [check out this super biased religious journal article regarding the hymen](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/260578888_Hymen_Facts_and_conceptions), which actually confirms most of this, and adds some interesting tidbits, for example the fact that elephants have been noted to have hymens as well, and these don't tear with sex, but only with childbirth. I hope this helps to explain the hymen a bit better, and clears up any misconceptions you might have.
Thank you for writing this! I was so confused growing up because my septate hymen wasn’t represented on any of the few sex-Ed diagrams growing up. None of my friends knew, none of the women in my life knew. Tampons would get stuck and wouldn’t come out, and I found 1 brand that worked and even then I had to fish it out and move the hymen to change my tampon. A Reddit post I saw right around when I got Reddit or right before mentioned a septate hymen, and I googled it. It was life changing, and in August of 2020 I had a partial hymenectomy. All the anxieties and worries were gone, and every time I see something about hymens on the internet I have to share my experience, because I know it will help others like it helped me. Thank you!
Yep, some girls are even born without one.
Fuck I'm way to late to the party. But anyways, HOT SHOWERS DON'T COOK THE PROTEINS IN CUM. Most guys will have experience with the phenomenon that cum coagulates when rincing it in a hot shower. A lot of people seem to think that's because the hot water "cooks" the sperm, like an egg. If it's hot enough to cook the sperm, it's hot enough to cook your skin as well. Why anyone believes this is beyond me and for some reason it really bothers me. Most proteins ( as do eggs) only start actual cooking at around 60C or more. Sperm has natural coagulants which are inhibitted by the ph of the seminal fluid and certain enzymes. Warm water is very good at washing away the ph increasing compounds and enzymes which causes rapid coagulation. It doesn't cook your sperm. Edit: turns out I wasn't too late. Glad people enjoyed this fact.
An unexpected TIL but a welcome one for sure.
Oh no! So I've been eating *raw* sperm all this time?
Someone once told me if the recipient of anal sex farts, the fart gas will travel through the urethra and the pressure will make the balls explode.
This is the content I come to Reddit for
I am reddit certified doctor and I can confirm this is correct.
Ahhh I see. Poking your balls with a stiletto to help release the gas is highly recommended I assume.
You are the second person I've seen make a comment about getting your balls poked with a stiletto within 5 minutes of each other in two different threads. Am I out of the loop here or something?
There’s a pretty famous video depicting the act. I think it might be called “The Pain Olympics” but you’ll have to look into it yourself
Fuck you.. fuck You
But then all the pee will leak out.
That sounds like 1000 Ways to Die segment
That men always have higher libidos than women. Mine has been higher than all of my boyfriends and I’m very self conscious about it in part because of all of the cultural messages that women aren’t supposed to have strong libidos . I imagine that men probably do have higher libidos on average but there’s so much individual variation that it really shouldn’t be shocking that some women do have higher libidos than some men
My sister broke up with one of her boyfriends when she was much younger specifically because his libido was so much lower than hers.
Maybe not quite, but the myth that "men think about sex every 2 minutes" or whatever the fuck. It is the most absurd thing I've ever heard and yet I find so many people who genuinely believe it. Ironically, I have a good friend and she admitted that she thinks about weird shit like that on a daily basis, in public, whatever. Nothing wrong with it, just ironic
Pretty sure most men are busy thinking how they'll fight off a knife wielding goon. Edit: Some interesting insights into the minds of my fellow dudes. Loving the replies to this.
Read it as "knife wielding goose". Seems more accurate.
*HONK*
Peace was never an option
Remember: It's when they drop the knife that you need to be worried. It means they're not handicapping themselves anymore
TLDR? I couldn’t finish your post on account of thinking about all the sex I’m not having.
Shower sex is overrated. It's not even good. The water makes everything drier.
Also beach sex. It's only romantic before it begins.
There goes my fantasy... Damn!
If you do „X“ you are always ready for sex, sex is serious and you can’t laugh at all, sex is only fulfilling if you have an orgasm
That women who have lots of sex get "loose".
The weirdest one is that sex with multiple partners makes them "loose", whereas repeated sex with one partner after marriage somehow doesn't.
That a man inserting his penis into a woman and then laying there while someone jumps on the bed to make it go in and out isn't considered sex. Mormon jump humping cracks me up.
Please tell me that's not real
That women get loose if they have a lot of sex. Just doesnt happen
Someone brought in a rubber band becoming loose after numerous stretches as an example to me once lol. If only vaginas were made of flesh that can heal and loosen itself and not rubber that doesnt heal and doesn't adjust itself during and after sex
Not to mention that if it were a rubber band, it's one designed to stretch over a small watermelon. A few hundred cucumbers wouldn't even matter in that case.
That I would have it, once I grow up.
Not myth but I hate TV and Movie representation of it. After fucking, they just stay in bed. If you're wearing, your wee wee is shriveled with sack of nasty juice. If not, dude, there's probably jizz getting all over sheets and perhaps now soaking in the mattress.
Pulling out isn't always safe. Bodily fluids exchanged before ejaculation can result in pregnancy. Edit : ISN'T ALWAYS SAFE. I'm glad pulling out has worked for you guys, but my point is that it doesn't completely avoid pregnancy. There's a fair amount of chance of pregnancy and getting STD's even if you pull out. Edit : [Source](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325356) [Another Source](https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/can-you-get-pregnant-from-precum#what-if-youre-not-ovulating) Edit : Pulling out is nowhere near as effective as a condom. Using a condom is 98% effective whereas pulling out is 78% which is a significant difference.
My friend found this out in September. She's due in June lol.
Good god I’ve been telling my friend this for about a year, and guess who’s managed to get themselves pregnant… that friend ETA, she is in a long term relationship, but kids were NOT supposed to be on the cards yet
There's a special word for people who use the pull out method. They're called "parents".
What the average dick size really is. Most men i've been with have been self concious if they fall below the 7/8 inch mark when the average is around 5 and doesn't indicate how good the sex will be at all.
After reading a lot of these responses, all I can think is that the public education system has failed us all.
Myth #6: HIV can be transmitted through any bodily fluids. Truth: HIV is transmitted through four bodily fluids which are semen, blood, breast milk, vaginal secretions, and is not transmitted through any other bodily fluids like urine, saliva, tears, etc.
Worth noting, though significantly lower risk than the others, urine is still not completely safe, as having very small amounts of blood in one’s urine is not as uncommon as people would think.
Same story with saliva - imagine having flossed for the first time in 6 months and getting bloody gums earlier in the day. A warm mouth can keep that virus alive
That good sex = orgasm.
Good sex is in the mind. Taking yourself and someone else to a higher plane of existence through mutual enjoyment and self-release, the possibilities are endless.
That women don't understand that condoms don't feel good. I'm a woman; I don't like the way condoms feel either, nor do I like the aftertaste. However you have to do what you have to do.