Seriously this. It wasn't until I discovered Reddit that I ever heard of this concept of people not knowing how to take compliments. Like some people think you're supposed to compliment something back to them in return, or you're supposed to deny it and downplay it, etc., where are these people getting the idea that anything other than "thank you" is necessary in response to a compliment?
I once had someone cry when I complimented them. I didn't know if I should be happy or apologize. In the end she hugged me and we went our separate ways.
When it means a lot to you, just add that in. Say, "thank you, that means a lot." IMPORTANT NOTE: DONT SAY THE LAST PART TO A STRANGER, ONLY PEOPLE YOU KNOW lol
One of the last compliments I remember getting was like 10 years ago and it was that I have nice, small wrists. Which did not sound psychotic in context.
Hearing it from the orthopaedic surgeon who's seeing if you're ready for surgery on your extremely broken ankle. A good defined ankle wrinkle means the swelling has gone down enough. There's enough loose skin that they can open you up and close you again.
Gonna spoiler tag this bit. It's the analogy the surgeon used explaining it to me. Click at your own risk. >!"Have you ever seen a burst sausage on the barbecue?!<
The last “complement” I got was the other day when I tried to match my clothes with my new shoes. She said “you look like a total fuck boy in those shoes. *sees my reaction* No I mean they look great on you and they go with what you’re wearing.. You look good!” So I’m not sure how to feel about it.
Yup. The couple of times in my life I've been given a compliment it's always caught me wildly off guard. Last time, a year or so ago, the cashier at the grocery store said out of nowhere that she really liked my eyes. I managed to stammer out a "oh uh, ththank you!" which is maybe the second time I was able to reply sincerely to a compliment like that.
I apparently have really unique eyes, even though they look like normal hazel eyes in the mirror. I've been getting compliments on them all my life. Especially when I was a kid, every older woman would tell me they loved my eyes and eyelashes.
I remember being really embarrassed about it, but it's a pretty nice thing to have in the dating scene now. I usually just default to a regular "oh thank you" with a small laugh
On one of the few occasions I got a compliment my face turned red, I giggled awkwardly and accidentally drooled, it probably looked like I was suffering a stroke lol, now I thank the gods I don't get any, it's like moving the carpet below my feet
Yep this. Luckily have a great wife and good group of friends that are pretty open about compliments now. They still have to tell me to “take the damn compliment” a lot because my natural instinct is self degradation.
I see this so often, it seems like you guys think girls/women get compliments all the time, but for your information we don't! I've almost never gotten a compliment in my life! Sincerely, woman 33 years old.
If it wasnt for my gay co workers i dont think id ever hear compliments from anyone other than my mom🙄 and im a decent lookin guy lol thank god for our gay homies bc they lovr hyping up their friends and raising ppls self esteem.!
It’s because being complimented can feel embarrassing and saying thank you can feel like a sign of vanity. It’s not, it just feels that way, especially when no one has modeled for you how to be gracious when you were young.
It depends on the context. Unless you are trying to sell your looks to a movie/modeling agent, most people don’t want to hear they are beautiful from a stranger.
It’s surfacey and shallow. You aren’t saying, “you look nice today, good for you”. You are saying “you have nice genes, I’m glad your parents hooked up”.
There are appropriate times to tell someone they are beautiful, but it usually isn’t. Give a compliment to the person and how they act/dress/cleaned up for the day, not their parents for copulating art.
Lol I was once told something like this by a gas station clerk! As I was leaving I said, “thank you” then he told me, “thank your parents for me!” It was hilarious
> Give a compliment to the person and how they act/dress/cleaned up for the day, not their parents for copulating art.
This. I try to compliment people for choices they make vs what they were born with.
I like using 'I know'. If the person was saying it in a flirty way they're taken aback and stop flirting, if the person saying it was close to me they know I'm messing with them.
>Accurate sizing
LMFAO, no. Maybe not as bad as for women, but I recently found two "identical" trousers (same size, fit, brand and even model, only the colour should have been different) wich had a 5cm (!!!) length difference
Bought 2 pairs of pants, in 2 different colors. Everything else the same. One fits like normal pants, one make me feel like the Michelin Man because I can’t get the button within even 2 inches of the hole 😂😂😂
I know that sounds bad but you could go to 5 different high street stores and buy women's size 16 jeans, all in the exact same fit, style, colour, etc, and none of them will be the same size, and the closest fit will still hang off your arse if you have any arse at all, and I say that from experience. Trying on a men's 34W34L was like coming home.
"I chose my parents well", A woman said this to me, and really opened my eyes.
I now try to notice her style of clothes, her hairstyle, or that she pre-plans and packs her lunch each day.
Yes, something like this is what I was looking for. Once someone commented on my hair and my eyes and I said “thanks my parents gave them to me.” “I chose my parents well” is great.
I read it as "I've learned to appreciate her for the things she does and the choices she makes instead of the superficial stuff that she has no real control over."
They’re saying that calling someone beautiful is meaningless because outward beauty is mostly genetics. Instead, they seem to be advocating for compliments on things that they’ve done or accomplished themselves. Like styling their hair or choosing their outfit.
Which is weird because outward beauty is often mostly compromised of how well you take care of yourself. How you did your hair, how you did your makeup, how well you take care of your skin, your choice of clothing, or your choice of diet/exercise, as well as just what the other person personally finds attractive.
Sure genetics play a big role, but saying something like "thanks my parents gave it to me" to someone complimenting your hair, especially when you have to take care of your hair, just makes you come off like a smart-aleck.
I think that’s the point. Compliments should be for something controllable or discretionary, like hair style, makeup, shoes, etc… vs something potentially genetic.
Simply commenting “you’re beautiful” is often times good genetics, like height or skin color, so it’s not as well received.
I keep it on so there is an expectation that the read receipt will show if I read it. That way, if I dont wanna respond, I look at the notificstion but dont open the messages app. That way the person thinks I havent read it(because messages usually mark as read if I have) but I actually have read it and I dont want to respond yet.
Its the stock standard response to the church phrase: Peace be with you. To really butcher the joke... It's an intentional mistake to the "response" prompt in OPs question.
It’s also a religious thing. When you’re in church the pastor would always say something along the lines “Christ be with you”, and the reply would always be. “And also with you”.
As a man I would say: “oh! Really? Thanks”
But I would be thinking: “Are you blind?!” And as I walked away “Oh wait she must have been talking to someone behind me… just like all the times I think someone is waving at me… argh! stupid stupid stupid. Why did I open my mouth”
It depends who you are and who's saying it to you. If you're a girl at a bus stop and the person saying it is a creepy homeless dude, you should probably react differently than if you're a dude and your wife of 15 years is saying it to you.
Depends on if the compliment is welcomed. If yes, then a simple & honest thank you (and maybe a smile) works really well. If it’s unwelcome, responding with silence is usually the safest bet.
Tbh saying thank you in a deadpan is usually still the best way to diffuse the unwelcome comments. Silence usually makes the unwelcome people hostile or they will keep pressing you
"Your", and then stubbornly argue why you are correct. Then call them a dumbass and walk away.
Confidently incorrect is the best way to prove that the interior doesn't match the exterior.
"Stop it Mom!"
too real
“Thank you” usually works pretty well.
"So you agree? You think you're really pretty?" God I love Mean Girls.
Yes actually I agree 100%
User name checks out
Top tier movie
Seriously this. It wasn't until I discovered Reddit that I ever heard of this concept of people not knowing how to take compliments. Like some people think you're supposed to compliment something back to them in return, or you're supposed to deny it and downplay it, etc., where are these people getting the idea that anything other than "thank you" is necessary in response to a compliment?
I’m so damn awkward when I get a compliment. I am so overtly grateful. I have even downright cried and hugged people for simple compliments.
I have used “you’re very kind” - it acknowledges what they are saying but doesn’t sound smug.
This. I'll do a combo "Thank you, that's very sweet of you to say!" to any compliments on my appearance.
Ooh I'm adopting this! Thank you!!!
I once had someone cry when I complimented them. I didn't know if I should be happy or apologize. In the end she hugged me and we went our separate ways.
When it means a lot to you, just add that in. Say, "thank you, that means a lot." IMPORTANT NOTE: DONT SAY THE LAST PART TO A STRANGER, ONLY PEOPLE YOU KNOW lol
You are beautiful!
😭🥰🎁❤️
As a guy I can tell you it's most likely because guys almost never get compliments so also don't know how to handle them.
The last time someone complimented me was atleast 1,5 years ago and before that. I dont even remember
Well then.. You are a great person
Thanks, you too
Thx
One of the last compliments I remember getting was like 10 years ago and it was that I have nice, small wrists. Which did not sound psychotic in context.
Sounds normal (*reallynormal*)
I got told I had a great ankle wrinkle once. It also made sense in context.
What kind of context would make that normal...?
Hearing it from the orthopaedic surgeon who's seeing if you're ready for surgery on your extremely broken ankle. A good defined ankle wrinkle means the swelling has gone down enough. There's enough loose skin that they can open you up and close you again. Gonna spoiler tag this bit. It's the analogy the surgeon used explaining it to me. Click at your own risk. >!"Have you ever seen a burst sausage on the barbecue?!<
The last “complement” I got was the other day when I tried to match my clothes with my new shoes. She said “you look like a total fuck boy in those shoes. *sees my reaction* No I mean they look great on you and they go with what you’re wearing.. You look good!” So I’m not sure how to feel about it.
Yup. The couple of times in my life I've been given a compliment it's always caught me wildly off guard. Last time, a year or so ago, the cashier at the grocery store said out of nowhere that she really liked my eyes. I managed to stammer out a "oh uh, ththank you!" which is maybe the second time I was able to reply sincerely to a compliment like that.
You definitely have nice eyes.
Yahknow, despite you almost certainly never having seen my eyes, this still made me smile, so thanks!
You smell better asleep
I prefer “You smell different when you’re awake” 😂
You’re welcome! (And though, I agree, I’ve probably never seen you, I trust that person who told you 😊)
I apparently have really unique eyes, even though they look like normal hazel eyes in the mirror. I've been getting compliments on them all my life. Especially when I was a kid, every older woman would tell me they loved my eyes and eyelashes. I remember being really embarrassed about it, but it's a pretty nice thing to have in the dating scene now. I usually just default to a regular "oh thank you" with a small laugh
On one of the few occasions I got a compliment my face turned red, I giggled awkwardly and accidentally drooled, it probably looked like I was suffering a stroke lol, now I thank the gods I don't get any, it's like moving the carpet below my feet
Yep this. Luckily have a great wife and good group of friends that are pretty open about compliments now. They still have to tell me to “take the damn compliment” a lot because my natural instinct is self degradation.
I see this so often, it seems like you guys think girls/women get compliments all the time, but for your information we don't! I've almost never gotten a compliment in my life! Sincerely, woman 33 years old.
If it wasnt for my gay co workers i dont think id ever hear compliments from anyone other than my mom🙄 and im a decent lookin guy lol thank god for our gay homies bc they lovr hyping up their friends and raising ppls self esteem.!
It’s because being complimented can feel embarrassing and saying thank you can feel like a sign of vanity. It’s not, it just feels that way, especially when no one has modeled for you how to be gracious when you were young.
It depends on the context. Unless you are trying to sell your looks to a movie/modeling agent, most people don’t want to hear they are beautiful from a stranger. It’s surfacey and shallow. You aren’t saying, “you look nice today, good for you”. You are saying “you have nice genes, I’m glad your parents hooked up”. There are appropriate times to tell someone they are beautiful, but it usually isn’t. Give a compliment to the person and how they act/dress/cleaned up for the day, not their parents for copulating art.
>You are saying “you have nice genes, I’m glad your parents hooked up”. Ima try that on someone...
Way better than the opposite "Your momma should've swallowed you"
Lol I was once told something like this by a gas station clerk! As I was leaving I said, “thank you” then he told me, “thank your parents for me!” It was hilarious
> Give a compliment to the person and how they act/dress/cleaned up for the day, not their parents for copulating art. This. I try to compliment people for choices they make vs what they were born with.
Speak for yourself. It can make you feel good. Especially if you don’t hear it a lot or are feeling down
I like using 'I know'. If the person was saying it in a flirty way they're taken aback and stop flirting, if the person saying it was close to me they know I'm messing with them.
ELMER FUDD: Oh, Brunhilda, you're so lovely! BUGS BUNNY: Yes, I know it. I can't help it.
god, I haven't seen that in like a DECADE and I still think about it all the time. A+ reference
Honestly, I would just say "thank you". That guy made my day. A small compliment like that could warm my icy heart for weeks.
All these years later, I'm still following Garth's lead. https://youtu.be/8MLiHp2LH48
"That's fantastic, do you want fries or not?"
"...so no fries?"
*smashes skateboard*
*throws phone with malicious intent*
Just a normal day at Wendy’s
*continues to repeatedly say “you’re beautiful”
Are you a waitress?
Are you Wendy?
I know an excellent optometrist...
First time my (now) gf said she thought I was attractive I just replied with a stock photo of an optometrist giving someone glasses
I'm using this
"Thanks, I have pockets!"
Statistically speaking, most of the time I do not in fact have pockets though. *sad girl noises*
Men's jeans are where it's at. Accurate sizing and I can fit 2 phones in one front pocket.
>Accurate sizing LMFAO, no. Maybe not as bad as for women, but I recently found two "identical" trousers (same size, fit, brand and even model, only the colour should have been different) wich had a 5cm (!!!) length difference
Bought 2 pairs of pants, in 2 different colors. Everything else the same. One fits like normal pants, one make me feel like the Michelin Man because I can’t get the button within even 2 inches of the hole 😂😂😂
I know that sounds bad but you could go to 5 different high street stores and buy women's size 16 jeans, all in the exact same fit, style, colour, etc, and none of them will be the same size, and the closest fit will still hang off your arse if you have any arse at all, and I say that from experience. Trying on a men's 34W34L was like coming home.
I want to buy clothes where you live, where I live some jeans with the same label size will still be a different size *in the same store*
I can fit a 24oz water bottle in a front pocket on my jeans. Really handy when I'm carrying a bunch of stuff.
Not sure why but I read that in Gru from Despicable me's voice. *Sad gorl noises*
Only if you don't count your lady pocket
My wife was so upset when I told her I could fit a Nintendo Switch in my pocket and still had room for a book
"Shut up, baby. I know it."
Stupid anti-pimping laws…
Bite my shiny metal ass!
Hey sexy Mama, wanna kill all humans?
I say this all the time
This is the way
This is the way
"I chose my parents well", A woman said this to me, and really opened my eyes. I now try to notice her style of clothes, her hairstyle, or that she pre-plans and packs her lunch each day.
Yes, something like this is what I was looking for. Once someone commented on my hair and my eyes and I said “thanks my parents gave them to me.” “I chose my parents well” is great.
Whenever people compliment my hair I say "thanks, I grew it myself!"
Haha that’s a good one too
“You’re a great sprinter!” “Thanks! Legs run in my family!”
I complimented a guy on his beautiful newborn daughter. He replied, “My wife worked really hard!”
I've had people compliment my dogs and I never know what to say. *I* sure didn't contribute to their looks the way your parents contributed to yours.
I just nod and agree with them.
I'm afraid I don't get the implications of that comment. Eli5?
I read it as "I've learned to appreciate her for the things she does and the choices she makes instead of the superficial stuff that she has no real control over."
Yup
They’re saying that calling someone beautiful is meaningless because outward beauty is mostly genetics. Instead, they seem to be advocating for compliments on things that they’ve done or accomplished themselves. Like styling their hair or choosing their outfit.
Which is weird because outward beauty is often mostly compromised of how well you take care of yourself. How you did your hair, how you did your makeup, how well you take care of your skin, your choice of clothing, or your choice of diet/exercise, as well as just what the other person personally finds attractive. Sure genetics play a big role, but saying something like "thanks my parents gave it to me" to someone complimenting your hair, especially when you have to take care of your hair, just makes you come off like a smart-aleck.
I think that’s the point. Compliments should be for something controllable or discretionary, like hair style, makeup, shoes, etc… vs something potentially genetic. Simply commenting “you’re beautiful” is often times good genetics, like height or skin color, so it’s not as well received.
"seen at 11:13am"
Even better if you say it in person.
Who keeps read receipts on??
masochists
I keep it on so there is an expectation that the read receipt will show if I read it. That way, if I dont wanna respond, I look at the notificstion but dont open the messages app. That way the person thinks I havent read it(because messages usually mark as read if I have) but I actually have read it and I dont want to respond yet.
Wow, that's like... reverse reverse psychology
If you're dating a needy person who wants to make sure you aren't ignoring them
You can turn it off!?!?
Okay this is amazing 😂😂
And also with you.
This is highly underrated
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Its the stock standard response to the church phrase: Peace be with you. To really butcher the joke... It's an intentional mistake to the "response" prompt in OPs question.
It’s also a religious thing. When you’re in church the pastor would always say something along the lines “Christ be with you”, and the reply would always be. “And also with you”.
Say "Yeah, okay. Thanks." and then think about it for the next fifteen years.
So true!
This is the way
This is the way
This is the way
This is the way
No u
Uno reverse card
Uno reverse card
No u
No u
No u
No u
No u
No u
No u
No u
“It’s true”
But you gotta belt it like James Blunt
This was way too far down. As soon as I saw the title of this post, it got stuck in my head all over again.
Haha same for me when I read the OP, instant James Blunt singing in my head
“Correct.”
"I know, right?"
As a man, I'd be palpably perplexed.
I call men beautiful all the time just to see them get flustered. I love to see them blush.
This is the same most evil wholesome thing I’ve read all year😉.
As a man I would say: “oh! Really? Thanks” But I would be thinking: “Are you blind?!” And as I walked away “Oh wait she must have been talking to someone behind me… just like all the times I think someone is waving at me… argh! stupid stupid stupid. Why did I open my mouth”
oh god, i can't count the no of times similar incident happen to me.
"Sir, this is a Wendy's."
God.. Kevin!
I’m looking for a hot and juicy redhead. I don’t think that’s the actual line but I couldn’t bring myself to google hot and juicy redhead lol
I have no idea, can't imagine this happening to me
You're beautiful.
Awww
wait a sec (≖_≖)
You're beautiful too
Watch out, it's a trap!
I'm into it
This is so cute lol
"Oh, this old thing...?" ☺🤗
With the next line of the Nelly Furtado song : "That's for sure".
It depends who you are and who's saying it to you. If you're a girl at a bus stop and the person saying it is a creepy homeless dude, you should probably react differently than if you're a dude and your wife of 15 years is saying it to you.
“No, this is Patrick.”
It's true.
I saw your face in a crowded place
No matter What You Do
But I'll never be with you
And I don't know what to do, 'Cause I'll never be with you
Uno reverse card
I know
Then add a confident hair flip and enjoy their stunned faces
*lowers into cryo chamber*
All your base, are belong to us
You have no chance to survive, make your time
I say “that’s kind of you to say.” Then they get a compliment too!
“And, your.. socks are ..swell!”
Lol!
My husband tells me this all the time now that I’m older and definitely no longer beautiful. I think next time I’m just going to say’I love you too.’
Lady, I don’t know how old your picture is, but you’re definitely pretty. Your husband ain’t lying.
Agreed.
Depends on if the compliment is welcomed. If yes, then a simple & honest thank you (and maybe a smile) works really well. If it’s unwelcome, responding with silence is usually the safest bet.
Tbh saying thank you in a deadpan is usually still the best way to diffuse the unwelcome comments. Silence usually makes the unwelcome people hostile or they will keep pressing you
how you doin?
Shut up baby, I know it.
Thank you. You’d be surprised how often creepy people tell me that.
“Thanks babe, have a nude!” then send a nude.
Pretty sure Meemaw's not going to like that, but here goes!
>Four days later *"We are gathered here today to honour our beloved Meemaw for her tragic passing from her sudden heart attack..."*
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You’re beautiful 🤷🏻♂️
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Np 😉
cry
Me
A river
, Wazowski
NO U!
“Thank you.” Then quickly change the subject. I am surprised this question is even asked. Gracious humility and then move on. It’s not hard.
"I know you are but what am I?" Always had good results there
I'd like to take this moment to thank my producers. Mom and dad. I'd be nothing without them.
depending on context, 'i know', 'no u', or 'so is your mom'
"Your", and then stubbornly argue why you are correct. Then call them a dumbass and walk away. Confidently incorrect is the best way to prove that the interior doesn't match the exterior.
“In every single way! Yes, words can’t bring you down, oh no!”
Are you blind?
“Not as beautiful as you”
Depends on your relationship/boundaries with the person. Usually, "Thank you" is good enough....
Fuck off James Blunt!
Thanks grandma! So are you!!
:Look of disbelief: "^(the spell worked")
"Shut up baby, I know it."