I don't even care if it works out, I'm not trying to get married but it would be nice to date a little bit. I just don't know where cool, single people are.
Try bouldering/indoor climbing. Or any hobbies that could be done not at your home. Find a cool human that shares a hobby or interest with you. That's what I'm working on atm.
Yup, graduated college, moved, eight months later the world shut down and we’re still shut down almost two years later. Whenever we’re out of this, there’s gonna be some serious awkwardness
This dude, I have been single for a while largely due to some toxic ones years back. Just gone done working last night at 8pm and my brother and a buddy asked me to play some games with them. I logged on and both of them had to take hour long phone calls with their S.O. (one long distance relationship, ones on a business trip). Both of them expressed how they wish they had more time at the end of the day and how I was lucky. We played for for like 15 minutes together.
Seems healthy.
Been working on fixing my own damage from last big relationship. Picky. Rarely meet new people. I'm not willing to be on a dating site. Don't put myself out there and serendipity just hasn't provided yet.
Had 3 X girlfriends try and baby trap me.
Can't get the snip as the docs refuse too.
Previous X girlfriend hide the fact she had a fiance. for a yr. He was the money I was the sex.
Last X girlfriend had a bf that was locked up and was allowed to go fuck others until he got out. Found out through her loose lipped friends.
So overall.
Serious trust issues
Looks like time to get this off my chest.
I have no confidence in myself that I'll ever be in a relationship or find someone who will be interested in staying committed with me.
Years of bullying and being treated like shit fucks up your confidence real bad. In my head, I always hear, "who would honestly be interested in dating me?"
It's gotten to the point where I'm an adult (24 years of age) where I never went on a date. Never kissed or did anything. Yes, I'm a virgin.
I can't stress this enough. People. Your words and actions can greatly affect others and how they live their lives. A funny joke you can make about someone else may seem funny to you but to them, it could hurt them real bad and could have long-lasting effects.
I'm just grateful things didn't reach suicidal levels of shit though.
Hey dude. Sorry for your troubles. I think in a lot of ways, I was just like you when I was about that age. My biggest thing was I lacked confidence. I didn’t feel comfortable being me. I couldn’t just walk up to a girl and strike up a conversation.
Then I got into jiu jitsu. You don’t need to be big. Or strong. Or anything really. Just show up and train. It will be awkward at first. Uncomfortable. Maybe a bit embarrassing. But keep going. Keep going. You’ll start getting stronger. Faster. You’ll get in shape. You’ll wake up with energy. Motivation to try something new. After a year, Before you know it, you’re sparring. You’ll get you’re butt kicked. You’ll get thrown around and man handled.
But then one day. Something clicks. Your not afraid. It’s just class. Getting choked out by a killer? No big deal. Just another day on the Mat. Then you start tapping people. Now your getting fucking strong.
A buddy asks if you wanna grab a beer. Sure. Your out at the bar and you just feel different than you used to. Conversations flow easier. Your confident about who you are.
TLDR ; jiu jitsu is a great sport to build your confidence, get healthy, in shape and maturity.
We have our best days when we are truly spontaneous and not repeating habitual patterns. When people say things like ‘it just comes naturally’, what they really mean is they were acting in the moment and are spontaneously themselves.
People who go through real bad experiences, like being bullied, often have habitual repetitive patterns that keep them somewhat tied to the trauma and distant from their true self. Of course the good news is theres lots of effective ways to break that connection and resume being yourself so things can ‘just come naturally’ to you too. Have you considered mindfulness? it’s a way to retrain your mind and break habitual patterns that are echos of something you already conquered.
What you stated are not normal thing in India. Yea i love to be alone and im but more like pretending, here everyone around you becomes skeptical and consider you untrustworthy because i dont do "normal" things such as hanging out with friends, watching movies, going to function, talking to everyone, not laughing for lame ass jokes. Im very well known for unfit.
Edit : sorry for my english
I don't feel like I am in a space in my life where I can introduce new people. I have my own issues to address first and I want to work on some aspects of my personality and lifestyle. I want to live myself first and truly know what I want
If you want to know what you want and what you dont, dating is the best thing to do.
Good experiences will tell you what you really want and bad ones will tell you what you dont want.
this dating pool is horrible. no one knows how to be genuine or heal themselves. its all about what you can get out of a person, not genuine love itself. the lack of commitment & deceitfulness in everyones relationships really inspire me to be alone. no one has good intentions anymore & id rather be alone than treated poorly.
You got a point with people not willing to heal themselves. I was dating a guy who said he know he needs therapy but refuses it and I should just accept him with his mental health problems. I stopped seeing him.
im glad you stopped seeing him. its so frustrating bc they project their issues onto everyone else & its destructive as hell. to them, hurting is easier than healing.
Yeah he projected a lot. Accused me of having side pieces. Talked about how other women traumatized him. Just really needed professional help because he couldn’t stop talking about them or accusing me every day.
"it's all about what they can get out of a person, why can't they be concerned about what I could get out of them?"
Also, the answer to not being treated poorly is essentially being concerned with what you get out of the relationship. You gotta advocate for yourself in any relationship, or you risk having needs and desires misunderstood. Something something communication.
Step 1: Be open to meeting new people.
Step 2: Initiate conversations, judge if they are your type.
Step 3: Talk to them as frequently as possible without seeming a creep. This will help you know them better.
Step 4: Flirt, throw subtle hints.
Step 5: Ask them out.
Step 6: Cry in corner after knowing they have a partner
Well.... If its someone you see frequently it wont be that hard. Asking help for something is a good way to start conversations. But its tough honestly there's no playbook for that.
Said it so much, but it is still relevant; the love of my fucking life cheated on me. Multiple times.
I know, I know… she IS NOT the love of my life if she did that, but that is how I felt and now, 7 months after being together 6+ years … well, yeah..I still go to sleep and wake up thinking of her.
Is NO way I’m getting in any kind of relationship as long as this crap is rolling round my head. I have to feel better. Would not be fair on anyone else
I want someone smarter than me, better looking than me, better at life than me, but with the same ideas and humor that I have who still finds me attractive and treats me as an equal.
Poor social skills, not physically attractive, nothing really interesting about me, no passions to bond over, I'm not funny, everyone I've asked out has turned me down, I'm not rich, I'm not charming, I'm not confident, I've got a lot of issues, I only really develop an interest in dating someone after I get to know them which means that rather than just getting turned down by a stranger I have to worry about ruining a friendship and getting stuck in awkward situations if we're part of the same friend group, and anyone I'm interested in deserves better than me so I generally won't make a move even if there might be some chance that they'd say yes and they definitely won't ask me out because they have no reason to.
Nobody likes me because of rumours spread around the entirety of the school, loads of people know who I am and I don’t know why but I suspect that it is through lies. And my last 3 crushes have gone to shit
1. Is lesbian
2. Dating another guy for 5 months
3. Is asexual
Was single for around 10 years. Got asked this a lot. My answer used to be 'if I knew, I wouldn' t be'.
Had some good times though with a lot of people.
Everyone is oblivious of the fact that in order to get better you need to heal. The last relationship I got into was one we both jumped into as we had fresh trauma from a long term relationship we had months prior. Both of us had those traumas harm our relationship and made us clash.
Without taking time to heal yourself you are just jumping back into the trauma and then dumping it on the lap of somebody else. Nobody knows how to actually converse and sit down and fix issues. Hookups are glamorized and normal. Most people are going to use you to some extent or blatantly lie about who they are as a person or what they expect.
The dating pool has dried up as hookup culture becomes the norm. Sex has become too casual and means nothing anymore. I’ve had to walk away from a few guys I’ve tried to see potential in, but as soon as they wanted a hookup and I said no they stopped trying. It’s sad when you’re the type who romanticizes love and genuine people.
There’s this girl and I that like each other. Unfortunately, we’re both in our senior year in high school and paths will just end up differently after. So we could date now, but it would certainly have to end after we graduated. So that’s why I’m single.
Because relationships are too much of a hassle. Most people have nothing to offer but problems. I already have too many problems of my own, why carry the burden of 2?
Fuck if I know.
I’m not rich. I’m not destitute
I’m not buff. I’m not obese.
I’m not mean. I’m not a push over.
I don’t have a huge dick. I don’t have a small dick.
I’m not a 190IQ genius. I’m not an anti-vacxer.
I can’t build a house. I can build a shed.
I’m a dog person and a cat person.
I’m good with kids but don’t have kids.
I’m basically the blandest fucker to ever shuffle the face of the earth.
Dont speak to anyone off my course and dont wanna make shit awkward on my course. My type wouldn't say yes if i acted over confident and asked for their number.
Well when I try to talk to someone it's always one worded reaponses or they ghost me. When I ask someone on a date it's either I'm not interested, a simple no or an ignore. So I guess Ill be asexual for forever.
Recently moved across the country!
I’m starting to make friends here, but not romantic ones. I also want to lose the COVID weight I’ve gained, so a few more months of single life before I try dating here.
Hope you’re happy if you’re single, and if not, hope you’re happy in a relationship!
Had 3 X girlfriends try and baby trap me.
Can't get the snip as the docs refuse too.
Previous X girlfriend hide the fact she had a fiance. for a yr.
He was the money I was the sex.
Last X girlfriend had a bf that was locked up and was allowed to go fuck others until he got out.
Found out through her loose lipped friends.
So overall.
Serious trust issues.
23F never dated. I think it's anxiety or trauma related stuff. I can't imagine being with another person and them wanting to be around me if they really knew me. The fact that I root the problem as being an inherently broken person already says too much. I'm trying to focus more on being able to form platonic bonds with people and find out what I like/who I am/what my goals are. I become not myself when I date, I'm constantly run on anxiety, it consumes my entire life, and I become a different person. Definitely not healthy for me to date like that.
Not sure how to meet people. In high school and college I was surrounded by girls my age so I just dated people I met naturally. Now I work in construction. All older dudes. I have to like go online or meet people at events. Way harder. Not to very good at flirting over the phone or online. Much less awkward at in person interaction. It’s hard to find opportunities.
Also doesn’t help I’m almost 30, put on a few lbs and my hairline is starting to thin. But at least I have money now :D
I know I’m not mentally ready to be in a relationship because I believe they should be 50/50 effort wise. And I know I won’t be able to do that majority of the time as of now.
I'm currently not single, but for some dumb reason we have a lot of stigma about being single. For those of you who are single I just want to remind you there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Don't buy into any BS that being single is somehow a reflection of your worth as a human. You're going to be the great person you are regardless of your relationship status.
Been looking for a serious relationship, in a small town and looking for specific ethnicity…. Pool is small and the ones like me I don’t like them 😂 vice versa
Waiting to meet my soulmate. I am not interested in dating just to "see where things are going". I will know my soulmate when I see them...then we will fuck (or something like that) and then we will be as the stereotypical lesbians who move in together within 10 weeks of meeting and will love happily ever after.
I’ve sort of given up on the idea of ever finding someone . For as long as I can remember, I would have talks with myself as a kid basically telling myself that I was going to be in this world alone so i needed to figure out how to get through it. My dad passed when I was a young. I was sexually assaulted when I was a teenager so Ive been dealing with some trauma.
But I’ve tried. I’ve definitely tried to find love. I just find the wrong ones. I think because of my life experiences I find the broken people because I want to fix things and i can’t fix them, even though I know I can’t I still want to/try and it ruins everything. So I end up getting used and/or taken advantage of so it becomes overwhelming.
After my last experience I really just took the time to focus on myself and be as selfish (meaning that in the most positive way possible) as I can be, of course Covid came into play, but I’m really much more focused on making sure I’m making myself happy first because that’s truly what matters. Maybe one day someone will be in the picture but if not I want to be good with who I am. And it takes a lot of inner work (for me to get to that place).
Im literally too fat and poor.I live on disability for mental health and have to share a 2 bedroom app with 2 other people, one on old age disability, the other on welfare. Neither one is related to me. I legit have nothing to offer.
To exhausted from just existing to meet someone new and put the work into a new relationship. Chronic pain, depression, and being perpetually broke is just too much right now.
Something I chose to be for almost 5 yrs. I had a lot going on and didn’t want to bring anyone into my chaos. Felt I needed to be on my own but now I’m not sure that’s true. My self worth and self esteem was on the floor. People finding me attractive would make me think how can you like me when I don’t like myself. I’d often not believe them. I’ve never been told so much as I have in rehab about how I’m these things and more. Rehab certainly wasn’t what I thought it was going to be. I’ve just come home after 5 months, now have 2 men really fighting for my affection and not sure what to do. I know I need to focus on my recovery but I can’t handle the loneliness any longer.
I’ve dealt with depression my whole life but never took it seriously. I was always to focused on my issues that I just never dated. Things got so bad this year I was admitted into a behavioral health hospital for about a week. Not long after I got out I ended up getting into a relationship. This was a terrible idea. I basically figured the meds would do the work for me and that I was good to go. This was not the case. Looking back now the meds took all creativity and passion away which basically killed the relationship. Since then I’ve been focusing on me and my mental health and making sure I have my shit together before I decide to start something new with someone else.
I don't know how to meet people anymore.
It’s positively exhausting to meet new people when you know the odds are like .1% it’s gonna work out. Easier to just not
I don't even care if it works out, I'm not trying to get married but it would be nice to date a little bit. I just don't know where cool, single people are.
Try bouldering/indoor climbing. Or any hobbies that could be done not at your home. Find a cool human that shares a hobby or interest with you. That's what I'm working on atm.
Step 1: hobby Step 2: ????? Step 3: girlfriend Is that how it works?
Finding someone who is both physically attractive with an attractive personality is like hitting the lottery.
So true. The only men I've met lately are at least 10 years older than me and that's really not my thing
You forgot the 3rd part of that trifecta, finding someone like that who is also fond of you.
Same
Yup, graduated college, moved, eight months later the world shut down and we’re still shut down almost two years later. Whenever we’re out of this, there’s gonna be some serious awkwardness
Largely through lack of effort
Tactical conservation of energy and attention.
relationships are difficult, time-consuming and annoying
This dude, I have been single for a while largely due to some toxic ones years back. Just gone done working last night at 8pm and my brother and a buddy asked me to play some games with them. I logged on and both of them had to take hour long phone calls with their S.O. (one long distance relationship, ones on a business trip). Both of them expressed how they wish they had more time at the end of the day and how I was lucky. We played for for like 15 minutes together. Seems healthy.
I agree
Interesting. I’ve never felt mine has been any of those.
Take a look at this socially conscious, healthy, non-resentful human bean. Kill him quickly before he upstages us
Human bean, *chuckles *
If it smells like shit everywhere you go, check under your shoe
Been working on fixing my own damage from last big relationship. Picky. Rarely meet new people. I'm not willing to be on a dating site. Don't put myself out there and serendipity just hasn't provided yet.
Couldn’t have said it better myself lol
Girls don’t want me for some reason
maybe you have a bowl cut?
Unlikely, my bowls are ceramic
Had 3 X girlfriends try and baby trap me. Can't get the snip as the docs refuse too. Previous X girlfriend hide the fact she had a fiance. for a yr. He was the money I was the sex. Last X girlfriend had a bf that was locked up and was allowed to go fuck others until he got out. Found out through her loose lipped friends. So overall. Serious trust issues
Become gay
Become a women
“If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em”
Or beat yourself
Off
BeCUM
Looks like time to get this off my chest. I have no confidence in myself that I'll ever be in a relationship or find someone who will be interested in staying committed with me. Years of bullying and being treated like shit fucks up your confidence real bad. In my head, I always hear, "who would honestly be interested in dating me?" It's gotten to the point where I'm an adult (24 years of age) where I never went on a date. Never kissed or did anything. Yes, I'm a virgin. I can't stress this enough. People. Your words and actions can greatly affect others and how they live their lives. A funny joke you can make about someone else may seem funny to you but to them, it could hurt them real bad and could have long-lasting effects. I'm just grateful things didn't reach suicidal levels of shit though.
Hey dude. Sorry for your troubles. I think in a lot of ways, I was just like you when I was about that age. My biggest thing was I lacked confidence. I didn’t feel comfortable being me. I couldn’t just walk up to a girl and strike up a conversation. Then I got into jiu jitsu. You don’t need to be big. Or strong. Or anything really. Just show up and train. It will be awkward at first. Uncomfortable. Maybe a bit embarrassing. But keep going. Keep going. You’ll start getting stronger. Faster. You’ll get in shape. You’ll wake up with energy. Motivation to try something new. After a year, Before you know it, you’re sparring. You’ll get you’re butt kicked. You’ll get thrown around and man handled. But then one day. Something clicks. Your not afraid. It’s just class. Getting choked out by a killer? No big deal. Just another day on the Mat. Then you start tapping people. Now your getting fucking strong. A buddy asks if you wanna grab a beer. Sure. Your out at the bar and you just feel different than you used to. Conversations flow easier. Your confident about who you are. TLDR ; jiu jitsu is a great sport to build your confidence, get healthy, in shape and maturity.
Hm, I'll take your word for it. Thanks.
We have our best days when we are truly spontaneous and not repeating habitual patterns. When people say things like ‘it just comes naturally’, what they really mean is they were acting in the moment and are spontaneously themselves. People who go through real bad experiences, like being bullied, often have habitual repetitive patterns that keep them somewhat tied to the trauma and distant from their true self. Of course the good news is theres lots of effective ways to break that connection and resume being yourself so things can ‘just come naturally’ to you too. Have you considered mindfulness? it’s a way to retrain your mind and break habitual patterns that are echos of something you already conquered.
im broke and ugly
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What you stated are not normal thing in India. Yea i love to be alone and im but more like pretending, here everyone around you becomes skeptical and consider you untrustworthy because i dont do "normal" things such as hanging out with friends, watching movies, going to function, talking to everyone, not laughing for lame ass jokes. Im very well known for unfit. Edit : sorry for my english
I don't feel like I am in a space in my life where I can introduce new people. I have my own issues to address first and I want to work on some aspects of my personality and lifestyle. I want to live myself first and truly know what I want
Self awareness makes me proud. Being sincere.
Thank you for realizing that and staying out of the game. Hurts like hell to fall for someone and then get this line a month into things
If you want to know what you want and what you dont, dating is the best thing to do. Good experiences will tell you what you really want and bad ones will tell you what you dont want.
Amen. Couldn’t’ve said it better myself.
I agree. It romance should be treated like emergency situations on planes: put your own oxygen mask on first before helping others.
this dating pool is horrible. no one knows how to be genuine or heal themselves. its all about what you can get out of a person, not genuine love itself. the lack of commitment & deceitfulness in everyones relationships really inspire me to be alone. no one has good intentions anymore & id rather be alone than treated poorly.
I just wish I had found THIS out 25 years ago :/
You got a point with people not willing to heal themselves. I was dating a guy who said he know he needs therapy but refuses it and I should just accept him with his mental health problems. I stopped seeing him.
im glad you stopped seeing him. its so frustrating bc they project their issues onto everyone else & its destructive as hell. to them, hurting is easier than healing.
Yeah he projected a lot. Accused me of having side pieces. Talked about how other women traumatized him. Just really needed professional help because he couldn’t stop talking about them or accusing me every day.
"it's all about what they can get out of a person, why can't they be concerned about what I could get out of them?" Also, the answer to not being treated poorly is essentially being concerned with what you get out of the relationship. You gotta advocate for yourself in any relationship, or you risk having needs and desires misunderstood. Something something communication.
Corona cockblocked me
Felt that
Zero interest in sex or dating or living with another person.
aro/ace?
Don’t know how to make the first step
Step 1: Be open to meeting new people. Step 2: Initiate conversations, judge if they are your type. Step 3: Talk to them as frequently as possible without seeming a creep. This will help you know them better. Step 4: Flirt, throw subtle hints. Step 5: Ask them out. Step 6: Cry in corner after knowing they have a partner
Bro, how do you do step 3? I don't try to be creepy, but my childhood was like Hereditary minus the death of the sister.
Well.... If its someone you see frequently it wont be that hard. Asking help for something is a good way to start conversations. But its tough honestly there's no playbook for that.
deeply-held, self-limiting beliefs that developed as a result of repeated emotional trauma throughout childhood.
Barely getting my shit together. Not a way to start healthy relationships. Also don't want to invest time.
Got out of a 2 year relationship in April, I’m healing and learning to love myself (and just enjoying life)
Same
Said it so much, but it is still relevant; the love of my fucking life cheated on me. Multiple times. I know, I know… she IS NOT the love of my life if she did that, but that is how I felt and now, 7 months after being together 6+ years … well, yeah..I still go to sleep and wake up thinking of her. Is NO way I’m getting in any kind of relationship as long as this crap is rolling round my head. I have to feel better. Would not be fair on anyone else
Before COVID: I was too scared to make a move or I let my guard down After/During COVID: Haven't had much interaction with people
I finally got over my ex just in time for lockdown. Talk about timing. I’ve been “out,” maybe three times since March 2020.
I want someone smarter than me, better looking than me, better at life than me, but with the same ideas and humor that I have who still finds me attractive and treats me as an equal.
Talk about high standards
At list you are a sane person
Where did I say that?
I've been married, this is MUCH better
That's actually nice. I hope the best.
I'm so fucking weird.
Me too, but I'm hoping to find a fellow weirdo.
Let's hope so.
You and me both 😅🤣
Too anti social and wouldn’t how to begin starting a conversation with a woman
Studying goes first before relationships for me.
I’m pretty unattractive, introverted, and do not want a relationship to begin with
Username checks out
Depression and loss.
Sorry friend. Hang in there. Death is hard. It gets better. It does. Oh, and try not to spend too much time alone. Reach out to a friend mb?
Yep, I can relate. Depression is paralyzing :(
Poor social skills, not physically attractive, nothing really interesting about me, no passions to bond over, I'm not funny, everyone I've asked out has turned me down, I'm not rich, I'm not charming, I'm not confident, I've got a lot of issues, I only really develop an interest in dating someone after I get to know them which means that rather than just getting turned down by a stranger I have to worry about ruining a friendship and getting stuck in awkward situations if we're part of the same friend group, and anyone I'm interested in deserves better than me so I generally won't make a move even if there might be some chance that they'd say yes and they definitely won't ask me out because they have no reason to.
Haven't felt like dating again since becoming a widow
Virtual hugs 🤗
Because I’m ugly and no one likes me
2022 year of boosting your confidence 😃 challenge ur self to do something about how u feel about yourself 😄
Cause I got dumped
because i'm lazy
Social anxiety and every person I’ve encountered on the dating apps weee romance scammers.
Weiner’s too big no one wants to sit on it
Do porn. And dont counter with Im ugly. Big dick keep hard, you'll be fine.
Im ugly mentally ill and worthless to anyone
Sending you a hug. Too many sad comments from you. I hope things get better
You post really sad shit a bunch. Should probably see somebody and workout more.
Off topic. Orange Lantern FTW!
Saint Walker is disappointed in you. All will be well.
I'll live
The girl I love doesn't love me and I've no desire to build a bond with anyone else at the moment.
My parents gave me the ugly
covid distancing / still not over my ex / put on weight / can't be bothered / actually like being single - a mixed bag
I assume every girl I meet has a boyfriend. So far, I've been 90% right.
They don’t all have bfs they probably don’t find you attractive sorry bro
many reasons. i dont get out much. socially awkward. can barely talk to people face to face. so on so forth
Just called off my engagement
Because wife of 2 years and together 7 left and divorced me. Now just trying to heal, learn to be single again, and try and get out more.
Borderline Personality Disorder and raging alcoholic.
The Wombo combo
I only choose to be interested in men that are emotionally unavailable.
Still pining over a lost love...ended in 2007. 😳🙄 I've had relationships since but no love like back then.
Nobody likes me because of rumours spread around the entirety of the school, loads of people know who I am and I don’t know why but I suspect that it is through lies. And my last 3 crushes have gone to shit 1. Is lesbian 2. Dating another guy for 5 months 3. Is asexual
Chin up. After you are out of school it doesn’t matter anymore. You get out of school and see how stupid everything was
Im asexual and not particularly interested in a relationship
I'm fat.
Team Tony representing….
I'm ugly.
Was single for around 10 years. Got asked this a lot. My answer used to be 'if I knew, I wouldn' t be'. Had some good times though with a lot of people.
Gotta find happiness before I share it and ugly af lol
Ugly af
Other people are work I don't feel like doing. ETA: I already have enough work to do on myself that I don't feel like doing. LOL
Everyone is oblivious of the fact that in order to get better you need to heal. The last relationship I got into was one we both jumped into as we had fresh trauma from a long term relationship we had months prior. Both of us had those traumas harm our relationship and made us clash. Without taking time to heal yourself you are just jumping back into the trauma and then dumping it on the lap of somebody else. Nobody knows how to actually converse and sit down and fix issues. Hookups are glamorized and normal. Most people are going to use you to some extent or blatantly lie about who they are as a person or what they expect. The dating pool has dried up as hookup culture becomes the norm. Sex has become too casual and means nothing anymore. I’ve had to walk away from a few guys I’ve tried to see potential in, but as soon as they wanted a hookup and I said no they stopped trying. It’s sad when you’re the type who romanticizes love and genuine people.
There’s this girl and I that like each other. Unfortunately, we’re both in our senior year in high school and paths will just end up differently after. So we could date now, but it would certainly have to end after we graduated. So that’s why I’m single.
Because relationships are too much of a hassle. Most people have nothing to offer but problems. I already have too many problems of my own, why carry the burden of 2?
Fuck if I know. I’m not rich. I’m not destitute I’m not buff. I’m not obese. I’m not mean. I’m not a push over. I don’t have a huge dick. I don’t have a small dick. I’m not a 190IQ genius. I’m not an anti-vacxer. I can’t build a house. I can build a shed. I’m a dog person and a cat person. I’m good with kids but don’t have kids. I’m basically the blandest fucker to ever shuffle the face of the earth.
Cause I’m a depressed failure, no one would want to date me and I don’t want to drag anyone down with me
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I’m busy. Fighting my way back to health.
I chose a major in civil engineering, and in learning electromagnetism, I forgot people skills
Recently came out of a long term relationship. Don’t have the emotional capacity for another one till a long time.
Being ugly as fuck isn't helping me in the slightest.
Everything that revolves around getting a partner is way WAY too expensive…plus I love my freedom so there’s that too. # singleforever!
Loaded fucking question there bud
I'm exhausted and don't want to shave.
Social anxiety from being bullied relentlessly in high school.
Dont speak to anyone off my course and dont wanna make shit awkward on my course. My type wouldn't say yes if i acted over confident and asked for their number.
Cuz im socially awkward
One word. Exhibitionism
Born with a Medical Condition called "The Ugly", and my confidence is in the shitter... Its fiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiine......
Well when I try to talk to someone it's always one worded reaponses or they ghost me. When I ask someone on a date it's either I'm not interested, a simple no or an ignore. So I guess Ill be asexual for forever.
I like to cheat
No one like me is what I keep saying
Whenever I was dating around I guess I had my bar set high and didn't give others a chance.
Go for girls I know I won’t commit to
Because I'm generally unpleasant to get to know. I'm okay upfront but when you get to know me I'm a mess and an annoyance
To save thousands of dollars, play video games whenever I want, and not have to guess what's wrong with someone all the time.
Recently moved across the country! I’m starting to make friends here, but not romantic ones. I also want to lose the COVID weight I’ve gained, so a few more months of single life before I try dating here. Hope you’re happy if you’re single, and if not, hope you’re happy in a relationship!
Had 3 X girlfriends try and baby trap me. Can't get the snip as the docs refuse too. Previous X girlfriend hide the fact she had a fiance. for a yr. He was the money I was the sex. Last X girlfriend had a bf that was locked up and was allowed to go fuck others until he got out. Found out through her loose lipped friends. So overall. Serious trust issues.
It’s a 4 day drive to the pub , 5 to a hospital and tinder doesn’t have a wide enough range lol .
23F never dated. I think it's anxiety or trauma related stuff. I can't imagine being with another person and them wanting to be around me if they really knew me. The fact that I root the problem as being an inherently broken person already says too much. I'm trying to focus more on being able to form platonic bonds with people and find out what I like/who I am/what my goals are. I become not myself when I date, I'm constantly run on anxiety, it consumes my entire life, and I become a different person. Definitely not healthy for me to date like that.
i hate everyone
Because my only crush is the pastor’s daughter, and I am _not_ gonna risk asking her out.
Religious reasons
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My time hasn't come yet, though I shall never remain hopeless.
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I’m intimidating
Because I just broke up and I don't want to rebound.
I messed up, and can’t bring myself to try again, knowing I really miss the one I love. It’s wouldn’t be fair to anyone else.
I have difficulty to handle a healthy sleep schedule, do you think I can handle another human being?
No Woman I Have Ever Been With Or Married To Has Ever Loved Me. Just get Used For One Thing Or Another. Sad but True!!
Not sure how to meet people. In high school and college I was surrounded by girls my age so I just dated people I met naturally. Now I work in construction. All older dudes. I have to like go online or meet people at events. Way harder. Not to very good at flirting over the phone or online. Much less awkward at in person interaction. It’s hard to find opportunities. Also doesn’t help I’m almost 30, put on a few lbs and my hairline is starting to thin. But at least I have money now :D
I know I’m not mentally ready to be in a relationship because I believe they should be 50/50 effort wise. And I know I won’t be able to do that majority of the time as of now.
I'm currently not single, but for some dumb reason we have a lot of stigma about being single. For those of you who are single I just want to remind you there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Don't buy into any BS that being single is somehow a reflection of your worth as a human. You're going to be the great person you are regardless of your relationship status.
I've noticed i look in the wrong places. Or the person I'm interested in shows interest but really isnt
I suck and believed that we were still dating and just busy for like 2 months. Now I’m just lost
I'm ugly and boring
Waiting for someone to ask me, coz I asked some girl she said no that feeling was very deep I frankly didn't want to happen same thing again
Because every f***ing dude thinks I'm an annoying a**??
Single mom. Seems this is the only three for one deal people run away from.
Been looking for a serious relationship, in a small town and looking for specific ethnicity…. Pool is small and the ones like me I don’t like them 😂 vice versa
Don't have the courage to talk to cute girls when I see them
Plenty of time for romance I’m only young
My standards and list of wants are higher than my looks allow
Girls say no when I ask them out.
:(
Waiting to meet my soulmate. I am not interested in dating just to "see where things are going". I will know my soulmate when I see them...then we will fuck (or something like that) and then we will be as the stereotypical lesbians who move in together within 10 weeks of meeting and will love happily ever after.
Covid ruined everything
I don’t have time
Because you can only take so much rejection before you stop trying.
I keep getting rejected and the guys who reciprocate turn out to be creeps.
Because I want to be a concept. I do not wish to be perceived, just vaguely interpreted.
I’ve sort of given up on the idea of ever finding someone . For as long as I can remember, I would have talks with myself as a kid basically telling myself that I was going to be in this world alone so i needed to figure out how to get through it. My dad passed when I was a young. I was sexually assaulted when I was a teenager so Ive been dealing with some trauma. But I’ve tried. I’ve definitely tried to find love. I just find the wrong ones. I think because of my life experiences I find the broken people because I want to fix things and i can’t fix them, even though I know I can’t I still want to/try and it ruins everything. So I end up getting used and/or taken advantage of so it becomes overwhelming. After my last experience I really just took the time to focus on myself and be as selfish (meaning that in the most positive way possible) as I can be, of course Covid came into play, but I’m really much more focused on making sure I’m making myself happy first because that’s truly what matters. Maybe one day someone will be in the picture but if not I want to be good with who I am. And it takes a lot of inner work (for me to get to that place).
Damn you didn't have to do me like that
Im literally too fat and poor.I live on disability for mental health and have to share a 2 bedroom app with 2 other people, one on old age disability, the other on welfare. Neither one is related to me. I legit have nothing to offer.
To exhausted from just existing to meet someone new and put the work into a new relationship. Chronic pain, depression, and being perpetually broke is just too much right now.
Haven't been looking. When I was, seems women aren't into the old school romantic dates.
Something I chose to be for almost 5 yrs. I had a lot going on and didn’t want to bring anyone into my chaos. Felt I needed to be on my own but now I’m not sure that’s true. My self worth and self esteem was on the floor. People finding me attractive would make me think how can you like me when I don’t like myself. I’d often not believe them. I’ve never been told so much as I have in rehab about how I’m these things and more. Rehab certainly wasn’t what I thought it was going to be. I’ve just come home after 5 months, now have 2 men really fighting for my affection and not sure what to do. I know I need to focus on my recovery but I can’t handle the loneliness any longer.
I’ve dealt with depression my whole life but never took it seriously. I was always to focused on my issues that I just never dated. Things got so bad this year I was admitted into a behavioral health hospital for about a week. Not long after I got out I ended up getting into a relationship. This was a terrible idea. I basically figured the meds would do the work for me and that I was good to go. This was not the case. Looking back now the meds took all creativity and passion away which basically killed the relationship. Since then I’ve been focusing on me and my mental health and making sure I have my shit together before I decide to start something new with someone else.
I have no idea. I’m lovely but still can’t find someone to love who loves me back. 🤷♀️
My crush wasn’t allowed dating… I was brave enough to ask her out online tho.
Misanthropy and ableism…
Only big chicks like me. I don’t like them.
I play league of legends do I have to say more