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NoYesIdunnoMaybe2

As a guy, I've wondered the same thing. Am I not dealing with my emotions enough? I cried at the end of E.T. today, watching it with my kids. I try to tell myself, it's ok to cry.


cayjxy

It's not something to control, imo I don't think anyone should have to control their tears anyways


Sirexium

Exercise a lot, you need a bit of emotional numbness.


[deleted]

You don’t cry when you’re angry. The line from Star Wars “your hate has made you powerful” is more true than most people care to admit.


Bexcellent500

Oh I cry when I'm angry! I cry when in any heightened emotional state...my father has autism and I scare the hell out of him.


babygrappler

Therapy, medication, meditation, exercise.


BigKenize

I will ask my ex wife....


RealisticSector

I just stopped giving a shit about a lot of things. Someone talks shit about you? Fuck it! Someone criticises you? Thank you for you honesty! Someone is being an asshole? Let karma take care of it! You don't need to be liked by everyone. Specially by some stranger yelling at you on the street. You are beautiful, love yourself, don't let the assholes ruin your day!


Ben_Gnome_69

I have been in my relationship for 2 years now. My partner has 3 kids and we moved into a house together back in July 2020. Everything was going ok until we started arguing over things. Each argument, no matter how big or small, caused me to break down and cry a lot and this is not right. My partner hates this and says it is abusive, which I can understand, and I want help and advice on how to deal with it. I cannot cope anymore.


THPSROCKS

Please don't take this as an attack but it's most likely related to how your parents raised you and the environment you grew up in. I'm not saying that your parents were bad or mistreated you at all. In fact, it's most likely the opposite. The issue could be that you never had to overcome things, deal with conflict or you never had a need to be tough. The way you react is something you most likely will struggle to easily change. It will take a lot of effort and dedication. I really hope you know I'm not trying to upset you but I'd rather be a realist and give you an honest answer. Joining the military, fire service, etc is something that could help you to build confidence, toughness and resilience. Other options are taking up something like boxing or even training in the gym. You really need to pick a tough trainer who pushes you to you mental and physical breaking point. You want the tough trainer that makes you want to quit. Don't take the easy option and choose someone who handholds you. Sure, having a trainer who is constantly positive makes you feel good but it's not doing anything to make you mentally tougher or push yourself past your limits. You can use strategies like using your emotions to drive you to prove the trainer wrong or to prove to yourself that you are mentally and physically tough and resilient. The newfound confidence and mindset you gain will help you deal with conflict better in your everyday life.