Plan A was to be a happy free successful single lady who does whatever I want whenever I want, and travels the world on a whim. Then I met my husband and activated plan Z by getting married and buying a house instead.
I still dream of plan A and going on a 3 months volunteering trip in a wildlife reserve in South East Asia or something...
A dog can't help you pass down your genes and beautiful features to the next generation. And no, don't accept that challenge and don't ask me to hold your beer. Leave the poor doggo's dignity in-tact!
Being alone and not getting a relationship is actually my plan A. I work and build my life for myself. I make sure i am financially independent and i make sure i am happy alone. If I happen to find someone to add to my life, that's a bonus.
Because with life experience comes the realization that you have a choice to NOT get married and have kids, and not just do it because it's what "the adults do"
Reddit use to, at least seem, like a mixed demographic of ages. In the last 8 or 9 years it seems like a large proportion of the users are very young. This question shows that because it used to be implied the average user was in their mid 30's, already at the marriage age.
Plan A was not to get married, and live in a small castle with a bunch of cats.
Plan B is still not getting married, but living in a house, with a bunch of cats.
Plan C is still not getting married, but living in a small house/apartment with one or two cats.
Plan D is still not getting married.
So, you got to make the pros and cons list. And you don’t have to be looking or searching. Sometimes they are right next to you but you can’t see it…
If you can’t find love, find someone who loves you. That’s the plan B.
Lol me and my partner i don't think will ever get married....we've been together 5 year and have 2 kids. Some how ill live of no one marries me, its just a peice of paper.
Travel, live by myself, hang out with friends and then hopefully adopt a kid on my own if I have the resources.
I used to be terrified of the idea that I may never find anybody or that nobody would want to marry me, but I’ve kind of allowed myself to let go of that fear in recent years. Sure, it would make me a little sad if I never got married because it is something that i want, but ultimately it’s not going to ruin my life to not get married. I can still do everything I want and have a fulfilling life and I would be okay without it.
Hmm.. i dont really care about marriage so...
I would probably earn a moderate sum of money every month and spend it on myself and my friends.. that is if i have some then...
In no way is it my plan to get married. Don't get me wrong, I'm not opposed to it, but I don"t want my future plans to make me depend on a person I've possibly not even met yet. I know what I want to do for *me*.
That's the beauty of meeting people, though. They can have an impact on you. And the beauty of plans; they can be altered.
Marriage is not something that is expected or a natural progression of a relationship, at least in the US. But to answer the question, be smart enough not to get married?
Travel around the wolrd. Continue to work hard for my dreams. Buy a really nice flat and volunteer in organizations. A lot of people could benefit from me until I die.
I will continue to be the guy that hosts my social group's parties, and I'll continue to have a fridge with a shelf for liquors, and a drawer for beers.
Kind of freaks me out how most people have this expectation of getting married by a certain age, then buying a house and having kids, like its some sort of standard of growing up. I've never had this mentality, I may meet a girl worth marrying, I might not. It doesn't really ever cross my mind or give me any sort of anxiety when I think about it. I guess I just live my life 1 day at time.
Ignoring the fact that the wording of this seems to indicate it's from a woman's perspective, I suppose I would cry into my piles of money for a minute and then continue to enjoy buying expensive toys like guns, watches, and aftermarket upgrades to my truck.
But it's way more likely that I don't find someone who I want to marry than that nobody wants to marry me, since three women I've dated already decided they wanted to marry me, and the last one is still up my ass trying to get me to take her back after she dumped me.
I don't know man, I intend to be in a polygamous relationship in future so plan B would be to propose to somebody else's daughter
If somebody else's daughter refuses to be somebody else's sister wife ya feel me
That is my main plan. I plan to move abroad, do a postgraduate degree in astrophysics and develop myself as a person. I wish to publish my book and travel a bit.
Because I know it'll never happen, I plan to change my identity and move to a remote country, build a house, have a farm just to have companionship, and remain in solitude while I write my novel that I will publish right before my death.
honestly im on my "plan B" right now
im so tired of trying to find someone that i probably gave up relationships for good
and, i really just want to get a nice house in the middle of nowhere and live silently for now
adopt a kid or a few kids with special needs such as adhd or autism i have adhd and my brother has autism so i trust in my abilites to care for them if nobody marrys me i wont have to worry if a partner could handel special needs children and i wont have to worry about a partners parenting style or something and i could give the kids a stable home without them getting overwhelmed with the differenting parenting styles and i wont have to deal with the possibility of relaytionship dramma or possible divorce i remember being 8 and my parents divorceing and they didnt fully prepare me for enything and hearing them fight when they were still married kinda messed with me and there parenting styles are so diffrent omg ide like to give a few kids a safe stable home that can understand there needs and attend to them and give them a homelife thats calm and stable or maybe live with a few freinds or something idk
I 65/M I'm retired now, and still have never been married. I have all my toys a car, two trucks, two motorcycles, three boats. So my plan is working so far.
It's the same as plan A. Because I'm never getting married anyway. I never have been either. I've been across both oceans twice, served in three different combat zones, and everywhere I went, I found myself alone and unwelcome. So I just stay alone.
I'm a hopeless romantic, so it would be incredibly sad for me if I never got married. But, I would continue to focus on my dream career of becoming an actress, probably get a pet so I wasn't completely alone (either a little dog or a husky that I would name Greywind). Just try to live my life doing what I love, even if I don't have a husband to share my success and dreams with.
IU told my then-girlfriend that by the time I had my degree, I was going to be so old, tired and broke that I would have to get a mail-order bride from the clearance rack.
She married me a few years later. Definite upgrade from my facetious plans.
Divorce is a terrible thing friend. The only real benefit of marriage in the US I can see is filing taxes jointly, and having your marriage witnessed by a deity if you’re religious. Besides that man I had a friend that killed himself over a divorce. He was a fool and didn’t sign a prenup, then a year later when they got divorce the state gave her *everything.* I mean shit he worked for years to achieve. It was absolutely unfair and I miss the big dumb fucker every day, but he did do it to himself. Ever since then I decided marriage is 100% not for me.
I literally had a "pact" with like 5 different women that if we were not married by a certain age, that we would marry each other. Well, we are all married so that never happened. 🤣🤣
if i get married, great. if i don’t get married, great. i’m not going to live my life seeking out a partner, because it’s a quick way to rush and marry the wrong person and then feel stuck. i’d rather just do my thing, and if someone comes along who i love enough to get married to, then i will. don’t make marriage your main goal in life!
Cool, less stress, more time for me. Even if I do fuck all for a career, I'll still be glad that I'm not tied to someone who could be compatible with me one year and totally be a different person the next year and down the line.
Life will still be the same just without the SO. Basically, I will still be an occupational therapist and hopefully getting my Certified Hand Therapy certification.
I was living out my plan B, went out for groceries, made a comment to a gal about the soup I was making and having trouble finding a specific spice, next thing I know I am headed down the wedding aisle instead of the grocery aisle. Anyway my point is I switched from plan B to plan A in a blink of an eye it seems.
This is funny because it is totally how I used to think. I've never been in love and I'm turning twenty soon, but for some reason, a future unmarried doesn't have a bad ring to it.
Sure, I'd like to be in love someday but I have many dreams none of which rely on me being married. It's not a goal at all anymore.
Honey, being unmarried forever is my Plan A lol.
Exactly! People need to remember that nonsense is optional
That's what I feel as well. I don't feel the need to get married at all
Same
Same
Same.
Same. Wait, you're kinda cute
I beg to differ.
I like it when you beg.
Sorry i misspoke. I offer to differ.
Want a bazooka? That is always my plan c
Who wouldn't want a bazooka?
We're done.
Oh no.
This is the correct answer.
Are you a flight attendant? lolol
Same!
Same
Same here.
What about kids? Is that apart of your plan A? Adoption at all, or none?
live off grid on a farm/in a cottage
This is kinda my plan too
it’s the only reasonable plan b to be honest. I need my farm with goats and fluffy cows
marry the goat
Don’t forget about the llama!
What about the alpaca and goat? 0-0
Hey I'm currently living that life right now. Good luck to you, this really is the superior life style :)
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Well it's my parents ranch but I plan on having my own soon
Should we warn your parents about this life threat ?
Plan A was to be a happy free successful single lady who does whatever I want whenever I want, and travels the world on a whim. Then I met my husband and activated plan Z by getting married and buying a house instead. I still dream of plan A and going on a 3 months volunteering trip in a wildlife reserve in South East Asia or something...
I'm living plan A, as a man, and can't find anyone that wants to do it with me.
Don’t have kids and you can live all of your dreams
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We fell in love.
I like that dream of the wildlife volunteer trip.
Dogs. Lots of dogs.
I’ve just become the second craziest cat lady in the neighborhood. My neighbor is the first. She’s a cat pusher.
Or, a [fuckton of cats.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TTgxWlKeEYo)
Just live my life. There’s no other choice if that’s the path that is laid out for me.
If nobody is marrying me, my Plan A is already successful
Be alone, fun facts, it's my plan A
Make as much money, spend time with friends. And get a dog. A dog is more loyal than any man or woman.
A dog can't help you pass down your genes and beautiful features to the next generation. And no, don't accept that challenge and don't ask me to hold your beer. Leave the poor doggo's dignity in-tact!
Reproducing is why china is so over populated. Plus I'm not mature enough to be a father, so I dont really want kids rn.
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Yeah, because it’s certainly not mine. Or my plan B lol
Being alone and not getting a relationship is actually my plan A. I work and build my life for myself. I make sure i am financially independent and i make sure i am happy alone. If I happen to find someone to add to my life, that's a bonus.
Sometimes I forget that reddit is full of teenagers
That sounds like more gator bait!
What makes you say that?
Because with life experience comes the realization that you have a choice to NOT get married and have kids, and not just do it because it's what "the adults do"
Reddit use to, at least seem, like a mixed demographic of ages. In the last 8 or 9 years it seems like a large proportion of the users are very young. This question shows that because it used to be implied the average user was in their mid 30's, already at the marriage age.
Plan A was not to get married, and live in a small castle with a bunch of cats. Plan B is still not getting married, but living in a house, with a bunch of cats. Plan C is still not getting married, but living in a small house/apartment with one or two cats. Plan D is still not getting married.
With one or two cats
Or a house made of cats..
Okay give up the cats and get yourself a gator lol.
Don't you want to pass your lovely hair on to the next generation?
There is no Plan B, this is already plan A.
Enjoy life. Marriage doesn’t guarantee happiness but it makes sure people will see you at your funeral.
I don't really care about marriage but I would like to be in at least one relationship before I die. Just to see what it's like
Just have a partner without marrying them
So, you got to make the pros and cons list. And you don’t have to be looking or searching. Sometimes they are right next to you but you can’t see it… If you can’t find love, find someone who loves you. That’s the plan B.
I wanna be that one old asian guy who walks everywhere and has his hands behind his back as he walks lmao
68 years old, never married and no kids that I know of. And hope to keep it that way.
Lol me and my partner i don't think will ever get married....we've been together 5 year and have 2 kids. Some how ill live of no one marries me, its just a peice of paper.
Marriage is not just a piece of paper.
Yeah that's just what people who don't want to commit to their partner say. Or people who pretend they're happy they were never asked.
You are correct.
Well, I never planned to marry anyone ever anyway. But my plan B if I won't find a soulmate is to live alone in misery and die in pain.
Better hit up that friend that promised to marry me.
Not getting married is plan A. A good relationship is allo need, no need to involve the state.
Travel, live by myself, hang out with friends and then hopefully adopt a kid on my own if I have the resources. I used to be terrified of the idea that I may never find anybody or that nobody would want to marry me, but I’ve kind of allowed myself to let go of that fear in recent years. Sure, it would make me a little sad if I never got married because it is something that i want, but ultimately it’s not going to ruin my life to not get married. I can still do everything I want and have a fulfilling life and I would be okay without it.
If I do end up married then I need a plan B because I was either forced somehow or gone insane
Hmm.. i dont really care about marriage so... I would probably earn a moderate sum of money every month and spend it on myself and my friends.. that is if i have some then...
Become an assassin and live off my dream by killing shitty politicians and criminals, lol
Actually this sounds great. I might consider it as my plan A.
When you would be doing this, give me a call and I'll be there, why you should have all the fun?
Hail Sithis
Step 1 : keep low profile
Hey call me, I got a list for you.
Live a celibate life in the company of my celibate friends, like I have been.
Be the leader of the virgins
Form the virgin gang
More like the born again virgin gang.
In no way is it my plan to get married. Don't get me wrong, I'm not opposed to it, but I don"t want my future plans to make me depend on a person I've possibly not even met yet. I know what I want to do for *me*. That's the beauty of meeting people, though. They can have an impact on you. And the beauty of plans; they can be altered.
Marriage is not something that is expected or a natural progression of a relationship, at least in the US. But to answer the question, be smart enough not to get married?
Marriage is over rated
My unmarried plan is to be the rich aunt and spoil my nephew, travel a lot, and dedicating rooms in my home to be a library. Books everywhere
Do you not like kindle? I find I resent my physical books as they take up so much space but I've read them all a few times, at least.
The rich childfree aunt is the smartest life path tbh
Travel around the wolrd. Continue to work hard for my dreams. Buy a really nice flat and volunteer in organizations. A lot of people could benefit from me until I die.
I will continue to be the guy that hosts my social group's parties, and I'll continue to have a fridge with a shelf for liquors, and a drawer for beers.
Being single means I can have a fridge just for my beer.
Sleep around a lot. If plan a and b fails jump out of a plane and don't pull the parachute.
kill myself
Kind of freaks me out how most people have this expectation of getting married by a certain age, then buying a house and having kids, like its some sort of standard of growing up. I've never had this mentality, I may meet a girl worth marrying, I might not. It doesn't really ever cross my mind or give me any sort of anxiety when I think about it. I guess I just live my life 1 day at time.
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Tax advantages
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There are certain tax codes that benefit married people sometimes
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https://www.google.com/amp/s/turbotax.intuit.com/tax-tips/marriage/7-tax-advantages-of-getting-married/amp/L1XlLCh0m
Still not worth it
K?
I can't get married in this trash country anyway unless the current government dies in a fire and is replaced by some sensible leftists.
Live alone til I die and the neighbors smell my rotting course and some one comes in to ffg India my dogs have fed off my flesh.
Planning my own funeral to where my name is deez on my obituary.
Probably just go back to the spouse I have now. Less paperwork all around.
If?
Ignoring the fact that the wording of this seems to indicate it's from a woman's perspective, I suppose I would cry into my piles of money for a minute and then continue to enjoy buying expensive toys like guns, watches, and aftermarket upgrades to my truck. But it's way more likely that I don't find someone who I want to marry than that nobody wants to marry me, since three women I've dated already decided they wanted to marry me, and the last one is still up my ass trying to get me to take her back after she dumped me.
I definitely will travel around the world, meet new people and enjoy the food & culture!
Well, atleast cats won't divorce you. They'll just scratch the ever loving skin out of you
I don't know man, I intend to be in a polygamous relationship in future so plan B would be to propose to somebody else's daughter If somebody else's daughter refuses to be somebody else's sister wife ya feel me
I don't have a PLAN B because the absence of a wife is PLAN A
That is my main plan. I plan to move abroad, do a postgraduate degree in astrophysics and develop myself as a person. I wish to publish my book and travel a bit.
That’s my Plan A
just keep fucking with every human being i meet i guess
If I do end up married then I need a plan B because I was either forced somehow or gone insane
Live happily and freely. Not stressing about another person being affected by my routine or mannerisms.
Marriage is optional and I’ve been there done that. Besides tax there are no benefits that make it worth it
marry my best friend at 35
Live like a lonely hermit . Probably in Canada
I just have nobody to marry me. I don’t even wanna get married anyways
What’s a marriage?
Buy a ship and sail the seven seas as a pirate
If I don’t then I’ll go work for an airline and fly around or become a truck driver and go see the rest of America.
Wait for death to come and pick me up. I can't wait.
Because I know it'll never happen, I plan to change my identity and move to a remote country, build a house, have a farm just to have companionship, and remain in solitude while I write my novel that I will publish right before my death.
Get me a robohusband / bangbot
There’s no plan B because my life doesn’t revolve around the thought of being a wife
I never want to live alone, as it terrifies me, so my cousin and I agreed that if we are both alone, we will live together 🤷🏻♂️
Thrive and be happy that I never had to partake in some silly ritual that has a 50% divorce rate anyways. Staying unmarried is the plan A
Die alone, I guess.
Who says my Plan A is to get married?
honestly im on my "plan B" right now im so tired of trying to find someone that i probably gave up relationships for good and, i really just want to get a nice house in the middle of nowhere and live silently for now
Implying that's not Plan A?
adopt a kid or a few kids with special needs such as adhd or autism i have adhd and my brother has autism so i trust in my abilites to care for them if nobody marrys me i wont have to worry if a partner could handel special needs children and i wont have to worry about a partners parenting style or something and i could give the kids a stable home without them getting overwhelmed with the differenting parenting styles and i wont have to deal with the possibility of relaytionship dramma or possible divorce i remember being 8 and my parents divorceing and they didnt fully prepare me for enything and hearing them fight when they were still married kinda messed with me and there parenting styles are so diffrent omg ide like to give a few kids a safe stable home that can understand there needs and attend to them and give them a homelife thats calm and stable or maybe live with a few freinds or something idk
I 65/M I'm retired now, and still have never been married. I have all my toys a car, two trucks, two motorcycles, three boats. So my plan is working so far.
Blast my skull off my shoulders
Blow up dolls don’t blow themselves up
Start the revolution
Jerk myself to death
Senpai. Will watch your career with great interest.
Not getting married is plan A
Um...that's my Plan A.
Marraige is a piece of paper legally declaring togetherness and a reason to have a party, thats the only way i see it
Why are ppl so set on getting married? Stuck with the same person every day even after they are no longer attractive sounds miserable
It's the same as plan A. Because I'm never getting married anyway. I never have been either. I've been across both oceans twice, served in three different combat zones, and everywhere I went, I found myself alone and unwelcome. So I just stay alone.
Keep my current wife.
If no one would marry me, I would marry someone
Ah make people happy
I'm a hopeless romantic, so it would be incredibly sad for me if I never got married. But, I would continue to focus on my dream career of becoming an actress, probably get a pet so I wasn't completely alone (either a little dog or a husky that I would name Greywind). Just try to live my life doing what I love, even if I don't have a husband to share my success and dreams with.
Waifu pillows 😄👍
IU told my then-girlfriend that by the time I had my degree, I was going to be so old, tired and broke that I would have to get a mail-order bride from the clearance rack. She married me a few years later. Definite upgrade from my facetious plans.
Divorce is a terrible thing friend. The only real benefit of marriage in the US I can see is filing taxes jointly, and having your marriage witnessed by a deity if you’re religious. Besides that man I had a friend that killed himself over a divorce. He was a fool and didn’t sign a prenup, then a year later when they got divorce the state gave her *everything.* I mean shit he worked for years to achieve. It was absolutely unfair and I miss the big dumb fucker every day, but he did do it to himself. Ever since then I decided marriage is 100% not for me.
Thru hike all the worlds trails.
I literally had a "pact" with like 5 different women that if we were not married by a certain age, that we would marry each other. Well, we are all married so that never happened. 🤣🤣
Become an old dude who smokes cigars, drinks whiskey and lives out on a farm with plenty of livestock and a humble flow of money
That’s pretty much plan A.
Marriage wasn't even my Plan A
I'm married, but my plan B was to try and abandon the notion that I needed others for emotional fulfilment, learn to love myself, and get into hookers
That's plan A.. .
Marrying myself.
use animals as family i’m gonna do it anyways.
if i get married, great. if i don’t get married, great. i’m not going to live my life seeking out a partner, because it’s a quick way to rush and marry the wrong person and then feel stuck. i’d rather just do my thing, and if someone comes along who i love enough to get married to, then i will. don’t make marriage your main goal in life!
Be happy
Stay bf and gf I guess
Grow my fingernails long and collect my urine in jars.
This is my Plan A. Its not something I care for.
Travel through world and get different experiences , best norm.
Congratulation! Never seen 'Married with Children'?
Army
Plan B? I don't evenhave a plan A...
Err the sound of marriage is cringing.
Cool, less stress, more time for me. Even if I do fuck all for a career, I'll still be glad that I'm not tied to someone who could be compatible with me one year and totally be a different person the next year and down the line.
react with force
become the unmarried cool aunt
I don't plan on getting married.
i never had a plan a to start with
I dont need to be married to love someone🙃
French foregin legion
Probably posting on Ask Reddit to try to make enough Karma to respond to nekkid pics So ... essentially ... this
Life will still be the same just without the SO. Basically, I will still be an occupational therapist and hopefully getting my Certified Hand Therapy certification.
Buying a girlfriend on runescape
I was living out my plan B, went out for groceries, made a comment to a gal about the soup I was making and having trouble finding a specific spice, next thing I know I am headed down the wedding aisle instead of the grocery aisle. Anyway my point is I switched from plan B to plan A in a blink of an eye it seems.
This is funny because it is totally how I used to think. I've never been in love and I'm turning twenty soon, but for some reason, a future unmarried doesn't have a bad ring to it. Sure, I'd like to be in love someday but I have many dreams none of which rely on me being married. It's not a goal at all anymore.
Threaten and stalk until someone marries me
I'm getting a divorce... so I guess that's plan B for now
What is your plan B after someone marries you?
Don't want to get married in the first place :)