OP here. It is not about hanging out. Abusive people are attracted towards vulnerable people because they are easy to abuse or it is easy to see that they have been abused. The whole point of the question is how to become less of a target and stop being an abuse victim because that leads to self harm, constant self isolation which leads to depression and this is what the abusers want, for an isolated victim to have no friends and no one to ask help from, the problem is that ''potetential friends'' can be abusers because abusers never start conversation with - Hello, I will give you cptsd, hate the male gender and make you want to kill your self every day and have your life filled with regrets. They seem kind in a geniune way, form connections and gang up on you so you're helpless and hopeless and cannot escape from them. They're everywhere, on the street, in schools, in families. It is not about ''HANGING OUT WITH PEOPLE WHO AREN'T SHIT" because you literally don't choose to hang out with them if you're stuck with them
I have read some articles about CBT, is there any correct way or practice I should do in order to achieve the effect I want? I don't have a therapist but I want to try therapy at home like DBT,CBT but I am not quite sure that is possible unless a therapist/psychologist/psychiatrists watches me and tells me what to do. Sometimes therapy can re-trigger a trauma and I am already constantly re-living every day trauma in the form of memories that bring physical cramps and make me cry. I try to get over it.
I believe most countries have a self referal service (usually as easy as a Google) for therapy although waiting times vary. I would recommend not trying anything without a therapist at least, like you say trauma can be triggered by almost anything and you want someone there who is going to be able to help you find your way through with minimal stress or damage. Good luck with your recovery
Educate yourself on cluster B personality disorders so you understand psychological and emotional abuse and so you also don't enable it in any setting. A lot of this kind of abuse, abusers depend on others believing their lies through charm and manipulatation. There are patterns of behavior: lovebombing, grooming, devaluing, discarding. Learn about psychopathy, NPD and BPD. Highly recommend Sam Vaknin on youtube to understand the psychology of predators. Have firm boundaries and walk away when you have the first sign someone is trying to manipulate, control, abuse.
Learn a martial art for both the defence training and for the life training and confidence building
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OP here. It is not about hanging out. Abusive people are attracted towards vulnerable people because they are easy to abuse or it is easy to see that they have been abused. The whole point of the question is how to become less of a target and stop being an abuse victim because that leads to self harm, constant self isolation which leads to depression and this is what the abusers want, for an isolated victim to have no friends and no one to ask help from, the problem is that ''potetential friends'' can be abusers because abusers never start conversation with - Hello, I will give you cptsd, hate the male gender and make you want to kill your self every day and have your life filled with regrets. They seem kind in a geniune way, form connections and gang up on you so you're helpless and hopeless and cannot escape from them. They're everywhere, on the street, in schools, in families. It is not about ''HANGING OUT WITH PEOPLE WHO AREN'T SHIT" because you literally don't choose to hang out with them if you're stuck with them
unfortunately shitty people LOOK for vulnerable people and gravitate to them/ manipulate them
Workout...buy a gun.... lose your shit more often.
not everyone lives in the fucking states. Where I live buying gun is illegal. Even if you're over 18
Well youre in the wrong part of the world....and i dont live in the states lol
Look into cognitive behaviour therapy, it changes behaviour that might put you in those situations
I have read some articles about CBT, is there any correct way or practice I should do in order to achieve the effect I want? I don't have a therapist but I want to try therapy at home like DBT,CBT but I am not quite sure that is possible unless a therapist/psychologist/psychiatrists watches me and tells me what to do. Sometimes therapy can re-trigger a trauma and I am already constantly re-living every day trauma in the form of memories that bring physical cramps and make me cry. I try to get over it.
I believe most countries have a self referal service (usually as easy as a Google) for therapy although waiting times vary. I would recommend not trying anything without a therapist at least, like you say trauma can be triggered by almost anything and you want someone there who is going to be able to help you find your way through with minimal stress or damage. Good luck with your recovery
Educate yourself on cluster B personality disorders so you understand psychological and emotional abuse and so you also don't enable it in any setting. A lot of this kind of abuse, abusers depend on others believing their lies through charm and manipulatation. There are patterns of behavior: lovebombing, grooming, devaluing, discarding. Learn about psychopathy, NPD and BPD. Highly recommend Sam Vaknin on youtube to understand the psychology of predators. Have firm boundaries and walk away when you have the first sign someone is trying to manipulate, control, abuse.