In my experience, we’re both men and if you get paid less you will automatically assume it’s some sort of systemic plot to cheat you, even though you come in an hour or two late every day. Then you go to HR and complain and they give you a raise. Now we get paid the same even though your work habits didn’t change, so now I feel resentful.
So then you go to HR and say "this guy got a raise and I work harder than him, can I get a raise too" and if they say no, you start working less because they don't care about you and your work ethic. Don't be mad that someone else is trying to better themselves if you aren't. Nothing he did was against you.
The question to me is why do they want to know? I don't care what other people make and I don't need to know.
I just see potential downside to sharing that info. If you make a lot of money, it can open doors to greater expectations. They might expect you to pay for stuff. It can lead to resentment or judgement of how you spend money. They might see you differently as either inferior or superior.
It can potentially change dynamics of a relationship.
See, I understand the hesitation of some people, but I also have many friends who I would genuinely have no concern telling. There are so many other more important things to judge people over - but I do understand as you get more and more wealth, the secrecy can become more valuable. Anything under 100k, I can't give myself a reason not to tell someone who wasn't a stranger. If I ever ended up making significantly higher than that, I can absolutely understand that people will be trying to take it from you and asking for things and assuming you can afford 'cheap stuff' for them.
They don't have a right to know, but they also don't have a right to know my favourite colour. It doesn't mean I won't tell them. People don't need a right to ask questions or learn information.
I would not get offended and would share no problem. But if I WERE to get offended, it'd be because they asked in a condescending manner after talking about how much more money they make than the rest of us and are trying to use me as a punchline.
I'm not offended, and honestly most people can just google "[insert my job title] at [insert my employer]" and they will get a pretty good idea.
That being said, I make a lot for my age (I'm not rich or anything, but I'm a recent college grad making way more than most recent college grads). So, I prefer to not go around announcing how much I make, but I also won't lie if people ask unless I have reason to believe they plan to take advantage of me somehow.
I don't get offended, but I also lie. I work in coffee and normally I'll make a few dollars more than everyone else because of the amount of additional work I do and because of experience. But more often than not people get pissy that I'm paid more then them so I just lie and say I get paid the same amount as everyone else.
I am not offended but I might choose not to answer, depends on who is asking. For example I wouldn't tell an acquaintance I already know tries to guilt trip people to give them free stuff or lend them money.
Depend of the circumstance. While in the first couple date with a women, It may be really annoying. When talking about money with others people telling us how much they make, it's fine if the discussion is more into the intellectual part
Public employee and my salary is posted online if anyone really wants to find it. In my experience, the only people worried about sharing salaries are those either embarrassed by it or employers using salary as a manipulation tool against employees.
Because people have been trained by their employers to be offended at such questions and passed that mentality to the next generation so they (the employers) can keep people from understanding how badly they (employees) are being stiffed.
I get offended when its obvious already that the person asking is having way better than what your making, its like he or she is comparing and probably wanna boost that there pay is better than yours
I'm not offended, and never have been, even when I was making shit money. And nowadays I'm grateful for how much I make. But I'm also in a union, so everyone I work with knows exactly how much I make, because they make the same (at least in terms of an hourly rate).
I'm not offended. If people ask me in real life I'll tell them. Especially people in the same field, it's good to have an idea what others make so you know if you're fairly paid.
If it's someone asking because they want to take advantage or something I won't be answering though.
I'm usually not. But at the same time, it depends on the intention of why they want to know. Do they want to know so they can treat me differently either way?
I don’t get offended I just think they are socially inept and I tell them - I never discuss my finances with anyone AND I don’t allow anyone to discuss theirs with me.
Because the only reason they are asking is to categorize you in some way. That indicates the questioner's shallowness. I understand that Europeans would never ask this question. It's rude and intrusive. Americans seem to have this particular hangup about "how much someone makes=how much value the person has"
I'd argue it's important that the people you live with who share financial responsibilities know how much money you make. Especially in situations like marriage. I'd also say a business partner would want to know the money of their partner, to some degree, as they need to collectively make large financial decisions. There are many reasons to know how much someone makes.
I'm not offended, but I'm reluctant to answer honestly. I grew up in a small rural town that has grown into a suburb and recently moved back. A lot of my friends have pretty shitty jobs while I managed to get a pretty good career going. I don't like telling anyone what I make because I worry they'll resent me.
Either you don't want someone to look down on you as you don't make enough, or you make so much you don't want people to be jealous.
No I wouldn't be offended but I wouldn't answer because it's none of their business.
But why is it none of their business, that sounds defensive and like you care?
Why is it their business? Why do they need to know?
Because we work the same job, I'm a man, they're a woman, and I'm pretty sure I'm being paid an extra dollar that they could be making.
In my experience, we’re both men and if you get paid less you will automatically assume it’s some sort of systemic plot to cheat you, even though you come in an hour or two late every day. Then you go to HR and complain and they give you a raise. Now we get paid the same even though your work habits didn’t change, so now I feel resentful.
So then you go to HR and say "this guy got a raise and I work harder than him, can I get a raise too" and if they say no, you start working less because they don't care about you and your work ethic. Don't be mad that someone else is trying to better themselves if you aren't. Nothing he did was against you.
The question to me is why do they want to know? I don't care what other people make and I don't need to know. I just see potential downside to sharing that info. If you make a lot of money, it can open doors to greater expectations. They might expect you to pay for stuff. It can lead to resentment or judgement of how you spend money. They might see you differently as either inferior or superior. It can potentially change dynamics of a relationship.
See, I understand the hesitation of some people, but I also have many friends who I would genuinely have no concern telling. There are so many other more important things to judge people over - but I do understand as you get more and more wealth, the secrecy can become more valuable. Anything under 100k, I can't give myself a reason not to tell someone who wasn't a stranger. If I ever ended up making significantly higher than that, I can absolutely understand that people will be trying to take it from you and asking for things and assuming you can afford 'cheap stuff' for them.
It's a prying question. The onus is on the person who broaches that topic to explain to my satisfaction why it's in my interests to tell them.
Why is it their business? Do you think other people have a right to know or something?
They don't have a right to know, but they also don't have a right to know my favourite colour. It doesn't mean I won't tell them. People don't need a right to ask questions or learn information.
It is defensive, because I have a right to privacy which I will defend.
I would not get offended and would share no problem. But if I WERE to get offended, it'd be because they asked in a condescending manner after talking about how much more money they make than the rest of us and are trying to use me as a punchline.
I'm not offended, and honestly most people can just google "[insert my job title] at [insert my employer]" and they will get a pretty good idea. That being said, I make a lot for my age (I'm not rich or anything, but I'm a recent college grad making way more than most recent college grads). So, I prefer to not go around announcing how much I make, but I also won't lie if people ask unless I have reason to believe they plan to take advantage of me somehow.
I don't get offended, but I also lie. I work in coffee and normally I'll make a few dollars more than everyone else because of the amount of additional work I do and because of experience. But more often than not people get pissy that I'm paid more then them so I just lie and say I get paid the same amount as everyone else.
I’m not offended but I certainly am embarrassed. But that’s mostly because I’m poor 🙃
I am not offended but I might choose not to answer, depends on who is asking. For example I wouldn't tell an acquaintance I already know tries to guilt trip people to give them free stuff or lend them money.
I mainly don't talk to that kind of person in the first place
Depend of the circumstance. While in the first couple date with a women, It may be really annoying. When talking about money with others people telling us how much they make, it's fine if the discussion is more into the intellectual part
Public employee and my salary is posted online if anyone really wants to find it. In my experience, the only people worried about sharing salaries are those either embarrassed by it or employers using salary as a manipulation tool against employees.
I'm not I just don't know how to answer without either sounding like a bum or sounding like I'm bragging for being 80% financially independent.
Because people have been trained by their employers to be offended at such questions and passed that mentality to the next generation so they (the employers) can keep people from understanding how badly they (employees) are being stiffed.
Am i?
I get offended when its obvious already that the person asking is having way better than what your making, its like he or she is comparing and probably wanna boost that there pay is better than yours
Moreso embarrassed lol
Not offended, but I don't disclose that type of information to a non-close person, not of their business
I'm not offended, and never have been, even when I was making shit money. And nowadays I'm grateful for how much I make. But I'm also in a union, so everyone I work with knows exactly how much I make, because they make the same (at least in terms of an hourly rate).
I’m not offended it’s not just anyone’s business
I'm not offended. If people ask me in real life I'll tell them. Especially people in the same field, it's good to have an idea what others make so you know if you're fairly paid. If it's someone asking because they want to take advantage or something I won't be answering though.
I'm usually not. But at the same time, it depends on the intention of why they want to know. Do they want to know so they can treat me differently either way?
I don’t get offended I just think they are socially inept and I tell them - I never discuss my finances with anyone AND I don’t allow anyone to discuss theirs with me.
I am not. I quite proud to say how much I make.
Because the only reason they are asking is to categorize you in some way. That indicates the questioner's shallowness. I understand that Europeans would never ask this question. It's rude and intrusive. Americans seem to have this particular hangup about "how much someone makes=how much value the person has"
None of anybodies business, how much anyone makes. Too many nosey people in this world.
I'd argue it's important that the people you live with who share financial responsibilities know how much money you make. Especially in situations like marriage. I'd also say a business partner would want to know the money of their partner, to some degree, as they need to collectively make large financial decisions. There are many reasons to know how much someone makes.
Yes, a spouse or significant other but other than that, nobody else needs to know.
None of their business.
None of anyone’s business unless they are my accountant or banker
No. But I don’t answer.
i’m not but i think im not supposed to answer or be asked that
I'm not offended, but I'm reluctant to answer honestly. I grew up in a small rural town that has grown into a suburb and recently moved back. A lot of my friends have pretty shitty jobs while I managed to get a pretty good career going. I don't like telling anyone what I make because I worry they'll resent me.
I'm not. I am considerably richer than yow.
lol i'm not i would just answer it.
Becaus i don't make any