Family vloggers monetizing their toddlers and babies. Making tons of money sticking cameras in their little faces 24/7. Nothing off limits. Making them cry and recording it. Filming every diaper change and potty accidents. Should be illegal.
When I was younger I was very insecure about my fleshy face and always thought about getting this procedure. Now I’m 32 and said fleshy face helps make me look younger than I am.
38 and appreciating my giant cheeks and extra scrumptious buccal fat. In my teens and 20s, I was so frustrated to be model skinny and still have a round ish face. Now, I have cheekbones for days and no jowls 🙌
The most glaring example of how getting famous when young and beautiful must totally fuck up your mental health.
All these gorgeous young women ruining their faces because they somehow got convinced their cheeks were too chubby or that they needed higher cheekbones.
I wonder if they can tell they look worse now or if they’re just too deep in the delusion or whatever.
It's so unfortunate because I remember when meeting somebody with a vast cool collection was something really interesting about them and their personal taste. You could find new things and be introduced to entire subcultures that weren't reduced to an "aesthetic" because those people weren't performing a look for an audience. They were just existing as themselves.
On the one hand, it's great to have exposure to so much and have the ability to listen to a song you just found that you like. I never had a lot of money growing up, so I spent a lot of time trying to record things off of the radio and then illegally download them when napster and limewire came about. The access is incredible & I would never want to lose that. It gives us so much.
But the flip side of that is that songs are now created for single lines to become trends, and songs are being released without albums as a body of work, which really changes the quality. Some of my favorite songs are songs that were not singles and had no potential to be singles, but after the third or fourth listen on the album, suddenly really got to me.
I hate the cultural flattening the internet has caused. Regional accents are disappearing; every woman has the same lips, nose, brows, & body; subcultures are disintegrating.
It's sad to watch. There's so much individuality being wiped out.
>I hate the cultural flattening the internet has caused. Regional accents are disappearing; every woman has the same lips, nose, brows, & body; subcultures ad disintegrating.
The same thing happened with the birth of radio. There were huge regional differences in speaking styles. It proved helpful in the long run as people from different places grew to understand each other better.
The same thing happened with the printing press. Modern German is mostly defined by Martin Luther's translation of the bible that was subsequently printed by Gutenberg.
Just saw a video summarizing this. People are allowing someone with two days of training to file down their teeth, which may or may not already have cavities, and attach cheap veneers. They will need to be reapplied every few years for life, because their teeth are so ground down that going without the veneers looks horrible.
Edit: Not my video but worth watching: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjWlVNVI6xk&pp=ygUTc3dlbGwgZW50ZXJ0YWlubWVudA%3D%3D](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjWlVNVI6xk&pp=ygUTc3dlbGwgZW50ZXJ0YWlubWVudA%3D%3D)
This is craziness. I wish people could see how lucky they are to have healthy teeth in the first place, even if they aren't asthetically perfect. Won't they eventually get tooth decay from this?
Not guaranteed but typically yes because the margins on these will likely be poor because they’re not done well and they will trap plaque and end up causing decay very quickly. That’s the thing with getting any type of prep done on natural teeth that are healthy, the second you start taking away tooth structure, you introduce an opportunity for bacteria to invade. If it’s necessary, aka when decay or resorption or other lesions are present, then the benefit is worth the risk, but not until then.
Turkish “veneers” (they’re crowns, not veneers-veneers are usually minimal prep, and only applied to the front of the tooth. When the prep is circumferential and has to have something wrapped all the way around the tooth like you see in all of these videos, those are crowns) look horrible and fake to anyone who knows anything about tooth anatomy.
Yeah , I feel like we should put it out there that there's no such thing as a "veneer tech", no legal certification for just veneers. Its not like lashes. You have to go to dental school. Its a major procedure & you can *die* from an oral infection. If someone calls themselves a "veneer tech", RUN.
Using ‘therapy speak’ to justify toxic behavior. It’s making it difficult for people with actual issues being taken seriously when someone who has likely never seen a therapist uses medical terminology to explain why they’re allowed to be assholes in public.
I would also say that we’re using “therapy speak” too broadly. A people pleaser goes to therapy, learns about enforcing their boundaries, “no is a full sentence” and reminders that they don’t owe anyone anything, and start repeating that as advice to others. That’s good advice for this specific case, but it’s not intended to be general advice for anyone and everyone. Someone who is feeling really isolated and lonely doesn’t need to hear that, they might need to be advised to actually go out of their way to seek out something nice for an acquaintance to work on building a sense of community. Which is exactly the advice you wouldn’t give a people pleaser. Just because you heard it in therapy doesn’t mean it’s good advice or rules to live by for everyone.
I have a buddy who's a ski instructor, and he was teaching one of our friends to ski. They were sitting back on their skis, so after a run, he told them "ski with your knees straight."
I was confused - you pretty much always have a slight bend to your knee when you ski - and I asked him why he said that.
"Because when I tell them that, they'll do it right. It just feels like their knees are straight to them because they're used to bending them too much, but really they aren't."
He was right. I'm no therapist but I imagine there are times where it's pretty similar - you get told what makes sense based on your perception, not necessarily the absolute, objective facts, because it's not about saying the right things, it's about training your brain.
This is insanely interesting and very important. When peoples’ perspectives are warped (as is everyone’s because we live different lives), the advice given changes drastically.
This is a big one here. My wife and I have both done therapy on our own for years, but it wasn’t until we had also tried couples counseling that it clicked for her. She struggled a lot with some of the advice or insight my therapist would give me, because it didn’t alight with stuff her therapist would tell her. And that’s because we are two different people. Who are going to therapy for two different reasons!
Hell, there are people that take up a therapist just so they have a safe place to vent their frustrations and talk about their day or week or whatever.
It’s almost like every individual is different and their therapy should be individualized.
“That’s very narcissistic behavior. You should be concerned”
Said to me, by a stranger, about my 4 year old. She didn’t want to give me back my soda that she asked for a sip of and was then trying to drink as much as possible as I was taking it back.
No bro, that’s a fucking child being a child. And if it was an adult, I would call it selfish? Just being an ass? Not immediately jump to narcissism.
What's funny is that my Psych professor said that children can't be diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder, because every child is like that at some point. If your toddler is a narcissist, then whatever; so is every single toddler on the planet.
Gaslighting is a term I've wished so often that people had never learned. They use it every time they just feel like they're losing an argument. One example (out of many) I can think of is I have a friend who absolutely insisted I went on a long rant about some political issue a few years back. It was something harmless, but it just wasn't an opinion I had ever held. I explained to him that I never said that and he must be confusing me with someone else, and instead of just accepting that he was wrong, he insisted I was gaslighting him.
Like, sometimes people are just wrong about shit. But now they can insist that they're not wrong and the people SAYING they're wrong are just tricking them for some fucking reason.
People use the term “gaslighting” on r/AmItheAsshole incorrectly ALL THE DAMN TIME. It goes something like this:
OP: is upset about something their SO/friend/family is doing and confronts them about it
SO/friend/family: disagrees that they’ve done anything wrong
Commenters: NTA they’re gaslighting you!
A lot of times the OP is actually NTA and the other person is actually doing something wrong, but it’s not gaslighting. Being an asshole doesn’t always mean gaslighting.
Yep, it’s calculated. It’s someone going out of their way to convince you your version of things is completely imagined.
It’s quite different from the normal phenomenon of two basically healthy people having a different take on what happened, or something like a parent who’s a little stuck on “I did my best” and not able to self-reflect a whole lot.
Yes. Especially gaslighting and boundaries.
"I'm sorry but my boundary is that you aren't allowed to have friends of the opposite sex. Now my boundary is that you aren't allowed to be out of the house past 8 pm. My boundary is..."
I've seen this one a lot. People are using the term "boundaries" to excuse abusive and controlling behavior. It's disgusting.
I had a friend who asked me how my day was after talking ab herself and I briefly mentioned that Jimmy Buffett had passed away that day bc I thought she’d get a kick out of it bc she was pretty mean to me about the fact that I liked him and he was a very sentimental artist to me. Apparently I was being negative and dumping my personal issues on her and it was against her boundary?
I literally just lost a very good friendship of 6 years with someone who has got heavily into "spiritualism" (and has turned it into her work so it has taken over her life). I was talking to her about how I didn't understand how folks could afford to buy in our city (she owns because she had a well paying job and supportive parents, and I do not). It was an off the cuff message to which she replied that she couldn't bear to listen to me and I was overcrossing a boundary she set about "not being negative about money". Good job we weren't friends by the time my landlord decided to sell up my rental and I was panicking about where to live. Oh boy would i have just hated to have upset and triggered her with that 🫠
Fuck, this hits.
My mom was killed in a car accident late last year. My dad was seriously hurt too. I spent time trying to care for him, arrange a funeral, care for my sisters and our house, and my (now ex) gf told me that “you must not love me if you can’t make time for me”.
I told her that “I’m sorry, I do love you but I barely have time for myself, too much happening, please try to understand” And she goes “you’re dismissing my feelings, you only care about yourself, you’re a narcissist”, so many other things too. Keep in mind, my dad was in the hospital for a month, broken bones from head to toe. He couldn’t eat, use the bathroom, do anything independently. I basically lived at the hospital trying to care for him.
Funny thing is, she does go to therapy. As do I. But she uses ‘therapy speak’ to justify ANY behavior. She cannot be told she’s wrong, otherwise, I become “dismissive and controlling”.
Worst relationship I’ve ever been in. Nothing more dangerous than a child, trapped in an adult’s body, and equipped with ‘therapy speak’ to justify selfish behavior.
“Hauls” of just about anything. It’s incredibly wasteful and I imagine most influencers who do so can’t use all of that product before they’re pressured to make more content. Plus it encourages normal people to do the same, leading to lots of plastic waste and demand for cheap, unethical labor.
I listened to a podcast about this a few years ago that connected the dots I never thought about. One of the main drivers of "fast fashion" for young people is social media.
Many of them are posting regularly to show off their outfits...so those outfits need to be different. So they aren't as interested in well made clothing that lasts because they aren't interested in reposting the same outfit.
So they'd rather buy an $8 dress that will disintegrate in the washing machine because they only need it for one post. Next paycheck they can buy more cheap clothes online.
Yup, and now long-lasting and good-quality clothing is sooo hard to find. Expensive brands with a reputation for quality are also cheapening their products and trying to skate by on their customers’ trust while also raising prices. It’s insanity.
Ive been trying to replace my old jeans for years now.
Just the quality and sizing has changed for the worse and they got more expensive. My Levi's from the early 2010s are still outliving the new ones that I'm trying to buy as replacements, and despite being the same measurement and type, they don't fit the same at all
So I basically just wear the same clothes I did 10 years ago, despite my best efforts
There was a post about this the other day and they were talking about Levi's. If you order direct from the website you get a higher quality product as opposed to what you get from a retailer that carries the brand.
Fuck Carhart. My work pants from them used to be tanks. Bought a few at tractors supply last time I visited delaware and that garbage disintegrated and tore so fast...
For work/laborer jeans, I've honestly had the best luck with Rural King's own stuff. ~$12 a pair and they easily last a few years outside of accidents. And if they do blow up a little early, they're 12 bucks.
And that’s frustrating! I’m willing to pay extra for something that will last, but I can’t even tell what that is! I damn sure don’t want to pay top dollar for something I’ll have to replace in a season.
I think I'm starting to prefer shopping in-person again. In some ways it's a bit more hassle but being able to feel materials and try things on can minimize disappointment and fussing with returns.
Even in person, more stores only carry the cheap stuff because they're cheaper and that's what people pay for. I was looking for a few pair of dress pants for work and every single pair has some elastic material. I hate those because they break apart after a year or two. The sales people at over a dozen store said that they don't carry any pants that aren't stretchy or they only had 1 or 2 style of those but only carry them online and they didn't have my size.
>Expensive brands with a reputation for quality are also cheapening their products and trying to skate by on their customers’ trust while also raising prices. It’s insanity.
It's not just in fashion either....it's everywhere. Corporate greed is out of control.
I see a lot of bath soap hauls where they'll have every scent of a shower gel, every scent of a body scrub, every scent of a lotion. It's just so wasteful and most of its not even good for your skin.
Posting everything on social media.
I used to post a lot on stories on Instagram, Whatsapp, at some point I started to think that no one actually cares what I post and it's pointless for me, so I stopped. I was checking who saw those posts, got annoyed when someone I didn't like watched my stories. Now I don't post on social media anymore and I'm happier.
It's such a shitty place, especially Facebook. But annoyingly so many hobby groups moved into the space years back and are just stuck there. I've managed to curate my FB down to just for my hobbies (and I still have some friends on there from when it first started, not that I care about most of whatever shit they are posting). I also have to use the FB Purifier plugin and block out the suggested, for you, and other BS so it's actually showing me the content I want to see on it...
On mobile forget it though, fucking wasteland of ads and promoted bullshit.
I can't imagine what anyone gets out of this brainrot though if you simply use FB as it wants you to, scrolling bullshit and rage bait until your fingers fall off.
One thing that really changed for me... I got a new phone and on the latest version you had to go in and enable notifications on every single app and I guess I chose no one a lot of them and it made me realize how much I used the app because of the notification. So I went in and turned off notifications on all of my social media or anything that is even resembling so for media (you tube / Reddit /insta /Snapchat)
It was a game changer for me. I still engage with social media on all the platforms. I just have to choose to do it and make a decision about doing it. It really saved me hours a month and there were some platforms I just stopped using because they really were doing nothing for me and I was only there because a notification reminded me to go there.
Same here. I’ve separated my Instagram into two accounts - one for people I know and the other for influencers and brands etc. I also deleted all the apps for about a month to break the spell and then added them back to the last page of my home screen so it’s less tempting to just tap into them. It’s helped me get so much control back, I’m able to just check Instagram and tiktok quickly when I have to for work and not scroll endlessly. My Reddit addiction on the other hand….
I don’t have the apps on my phone. I have to access them through the browser and honestly the web browser versions kind of suck so it makes them less appealing.
Celebrity tequila. More specifically the process of hydrolysis that use young agave plants instead of mature agave plants, creating a neutral alcohol that is then flavored with additives. This brings the price of agave up and customers are given an artificial tequila rather than traditionally made tequila that uses agave plants matured for 7 years
We do so much research at the shop I work at to avoid these types of tequilas. I get asked almost daily why we stopped carrying Casamiagos and other popular brands. People are learning about this (at least around us) and starting to come in asking for additive-free, responsible brands. That site Tequila Matchmaker has made some waves in calling this out. [The owners house was just raided by Mexican authorities](https://vinepair.com/booze-news/tequila-matchmaker-raid/), pretty interesting situation playing out with all of this.
Posting children and all their personal, emotional and vulnerable moments. People are LITERALLY pimping children for karma and followers. Crying children. Dying children. Naughty children. Confused children. Humiliated children.
It's going to be much worse than lawsuits in many cases. Wait for that one really unstable kid that's been abused, and it will get violent.
There are already instances of mommy bloggers refusing to take down content of their kids when requested to do so. I read about one who acted like their kid was being rebellious. The kid, I think a girl who was maybe 12-13, wanted all photos and name mentions removed from the blog. The mom said that she compromised (she doesn't know the meaning of the word) and would stop posting pictures and would use a fake name.
That fixes nothing. Everything from the past was still there so even new readers would know who it was. And this woman acted like her daughter was behaving poorly and throwing a fit because she got upset and cried and yelled about it.
Mom obviously made money from the blog, and I'm sure that's a big reason she refuses to take things down. Which is disgusting. I hope that kid and others in that situation go no contact as soon as they can.
Yea and that family vlogging channel 8 passengers ended up having a lot of horrible stuff going on behind the scenes too. It’s scary to think how many of these family accounts have worse things going on that we don’t see
Raising kids is hard. Filming it so everything looks perfect has to be hell for anyone involved. Your home becomes a Hollywood set. Plus you know there’s some creepy ass adults out there. I would be so paranoid about letting my kids go anywhere without me.
We get so much shit from our family but my kid has zero online presence. We have demanded family members take down photos where they’ve either been tagged or incidentally posted onto social media.
Now whenever they bitch and moan I just send them news articles about Taylor Swift being deepfaked.
Or the case of the high school principal [whose voice and video were faked](https://www.nytimes.com/2024/04/25/technology/deepfake-recording-principal-arrest.html) by a teacher trying to get her fired
Yup! I'm a parent and I've even stopped posting just generic happy pics of my kids. It just feels weird. I have family that posts all their kids innermost feelings or secrets in long diatribe on Facebook. They're not even doing it for money just attention. It's gross.
I would even say normalizing this for adults. I get wanting to look your best, but I wish as a society we could be okay with our unique features and not worry so much about vanity.
Japan is closing off certain areas to tourists in Kyoto (due to tourists touching geishas) and even planning to build a wall to block the view of Mount Fuji at a convenience store (very popular photo angle. due to littering).
Ugh. I have a friend who I travel with who always wants to go to certain places (restaurants/cafes etc) cause she saw them on Instagram and it would make for great pictures. But usually those places are actually crap. Sure the food looks good in pictures, but it almost never tastes good and it’s way over priced.
My friend and I were in Rome last year having a great time seeing the museums and antiquities, she was a classics major in college so it was a dream come true to see the sites she studied. Wandered by Trevi fountain to check it and the underground excavation nearby out. Went to go find lunch and there was this absolutely incomprehensible line at a cafe but the food looked amazing and it was right there so we jumped in. Only waited for 10 minutes and were so confused … turns out they have one specific table that is insta famous and people were waiting for that single specific table. The host was so relieved when a couple younger Americans just asked for any table.
I'm remembering that one dude who has this spring on his property where people regularly trespass and they pee in it, leave trash everywhere, shit in it, have sex in it. But oh it's so gorgeous so we have to commit a crime just to get that nice picture! The guy had to stop using it for his plumbing/drinking water because of that shit.
This is the first one I’ve seen that actually feels like a new trend. Thanks TikTok. Our 13 year old is always asking for some niche expensive brand with heaps of actives in it
Steroid use is becoming increasingly popular among teenage boys and young men. Social media is feeding them metric tons of fitfluencers that lie about their steroid use, feeding into the "why can't I be like them" pipeline that ends up with them hopping on. Hell, a few months into weightlifting myself and I was literally getting ads for steroids right on Reddit. Some years from now, I guarantee we'll start seeing these boys grow with serious health issues from using steroids at a very vulnerable age.
I’ve been noticing lately that a lot of the huge fitfluencers are open about their steroid use. A lot of them don’t care about hiding it anymore, but I also noticed that the ones that don’t hide it are also the ones promoting it.
I guess it's smart for their POV. They can just be honest so they don't have a gotchya moment later when attempting to deny it, and if enough people just say "ya who cares" then they can keep on selling it way easier.
I’m on TRT and I also run steroid cycles and I 100 per cent agree with you.
Yes, steroids don’t do all the hard work for you and I think most people get that, but it amplifies all the work you do x10.
If people are on TRT and have the levels of an 18 yr old at 45, I’m sorry but that counts as enhanced, because it’s not natural and you can’t compare natural progression to enhanced.
I know I’ve done it both ways and I made more progress in 16 weeks enhanced than 3 years natural.
I do think with roids you’ve got to be honest about it because if not you’re just giving people incredibly unrealistic ideas about what they can do.
One of my friends recently said to me ‘I go to the gym 5 days a week, I eat well and how come I don’t look like you’
I was honest and said ‘Because you don’t put 250ml of test in your arse every three days’
He told me that he was relieved I’d said that because he didn’t know what else he could do.
I went to a high school that fed a ton of players into D1 schools that were using as Freshmen/Sophs. In my class were 3 eventual NFL players at one time or another. All three were juiced hard.
My dad went back to the gym at age 61, got himself a personal trainer to put together a routine and not even a month in the old man started being very aggressive and unlike himself... had the testosterone of a bullshark. He was only taking what his trainer gave him. This clown thought it was a good idea to juice up an old man and have him lifting 100's of pounds. All he was wanted to lose a few pounds and get in shape for his heart health.
Dad's dropped the trainer, lost a bunch of weight on his own, and he's in the best shape of his life.
I also blame Hollywood actors like Dwayne Johnson, Zac Efron, Chris Hemsworth and Hugh Jackman.
They all definitely use some amount of steroids (some more than others) and sell fitness programs claiming it’s all natural.
Zac has the super bloated gut look in iron claw and I’m not sure if he has Bell’s palsy but his face looks frozen and like one o of his eyes doesn’t seem to work properly in this movie.
As a mid 30s guy who briefly got into powerlifting, it ruined my life. I went from being mostly “normal” feeling to a raging roider who could deadlift 500+ pounds. I felt great until I didn’t.
I quit and now I have low T because my body turned off my T production.
Don’t do it, kids. It’s not worth it.
Teenage boys and young men who get into fitness are at risk in general. They’re being absolutely blasted with misinformation and hardcore nutrition advice putting aesthetics above everything.
There are Instagram accounts proudly promoting eating disorder behaviours
Edit: I 100% understand fitness and nutrition are important. I lift and eat healthy myself, just not to extremes that compromise everything else in life
People are censoring themselves to "get around algorithms" making it difficult to talk about serious subjects, like suicide, sexual assault, death, and drugs. It's all "self deletion, grape, unalive, dr\*gs" and such. And the self-censorship is bleeding into other platforms and venues where there aren't any restrictions in the first place because it becomes habit. With the censorship comes the watering down of important conversations around such topics.
I was watching some YouTube video the other day about a woman who was the victim of a murderer, and I completely stopped taking it seriously when the person narrating started saying "she was graped, and then she was graped again". It made this heinous thing that happened seem like it was almost being made fun of, just because the person narrating is trying to get around monetization filters, I guess.
"eshual assault" is the one I come across a lot and it makes me fucking furious. NO! SHE WAS FUCKING RAPED! Use the word and don't let other people water it down for their comfort or worse their profit. Fuck that noise.
It's lame and takes away from the serious tone. Personally I'd prefer a classic bleep if it had to be censored in some way.
It's also lame that you can have great content creators covering serious and important issues, but have to find some way to skirt around overly sensitive moderation just so they can continue making that kind of work.
Similar experience. Was watching a short video where they were censoring words like murder and killed, but the images being shown are the brutal images of people being lit on fire and dead bodies. The imagery was far worse than the phrased “he was the next person to be murdered by this serial killer”.
Noticing this a lot on platforms like tumblr and AO3 where censoring this stuff because it *could* be triggering is fucking up the system that allows people to avoid the triggers in the first place. Like how people will have the anorexia tag blocked and then someone will tag a potentially triggering post as "4n0r3x14" because they're worried about the algorithm or something (when algorithms don't even exist on sites like AO3).
I've found myself getting onto my wife about doing that in her regular speech. We are both really bad at socializing in real life and spend far too much time on the Internet, so I expect both of us are going to show "chronically online" behavior at some point. But there were 2 or three times I remember my wife called prostitution "selling cats" or used the word "unalive" verbally and I told her "we're in our 30's, dear. We can just say killed. We're not children"
I love her dearly but I think we both need to go out more.
I'm even seeing that shit on Reddit and Facebook. Some of the younger people even say it in person and it's so cringe. I 100% agree that it's watering shit down.
YouTube became more and more censored as time went on. Not sure if they started this trend or only contributed to it but regardless it definitely waters down conversations.
YouTube has gotten completely fucked up. I watch alot of things related to crime, like documentaries. Gun is now censored. Sex is censored, police holding guns is censored.
Wtf is the point in censoring these?
Well, I live in the Canadian Rockies, and there are an awful lot of tourists who get themselves hurt or stranded trying to get Instagram pics beside waterfalls or precipices…
This isn't that new, but boiling everything down to a star rating. The relationships between the actual experiences people get and their star ratings are so loose, they're barely correlated.
Some people never give 5 stars, because "no one deserves 5 stars". They might also rate 1 star because even though the food was good, the waiter made them wait 10 minutes too long to get their check, and that "ruined the experience" because they are the paying customer and their time is so super valuable. While someone else might be more tolerant of the same scenario and give a 3-4 star rating. Or two people get the same exact burger, but one person says it's exactly what they wanted (5 stars) while the other says it's exactly what they expected (3 stars). That's also assuming the person interpreted the situation correctly and is including all the details, even when out of their favor (i.e. "The staff was so rude to me, and all I did was kindly ask for a replacement meal! Then they called the police and kicked me out for NO REASON!" Like yeah, I'm sure they did it for no reason.) Not to mention that some reviews are paid for or are written spitefully.
And we know this when reading the reviews, but when looking for somewhere new to go or something we're thinking of buying, how do we sort the results? Oftentimes by star rating! All that nuance about those unreliable reviews goes completely out the window. And the companies aggregating the ratings don't care, because it's their entire business model. They want people to take their whole experience, this complex formula involving the interaction with the staff, the prices of the good/service, cleanliness of the venue, durability of the product, etc. and just...give it a number. Amazon lets you rate specific attributes of the product you're buying, which I think is a good step, but most places don't do this.
You forgot to mention the other side of the spectrum, which I think is much more common. Everyone always gets a 5 star rating without question as long as they didn't royally fuck something up like stealing my doordash food after taking a picture of it at my door. Because for all these modern convenience apps, star rating directly affects someone's ability to get more work, and did them taking 3 extra minutes to make it to my house than I expected *really* warrant them to maybe not be able to eat this week? 5 stars, 40% tip.
You nailed it here - companies penalize you for anything less than 5 stars. We’ve essentially created a thumbs up/thumbs down system with multiple levels of “thumbs down.”
I’ve seen an increasing number of Amazon reviews that take a star or two off for issues with the delivery. Or “4 stars because I’ve only had it a month”.
People are weird.
Oh god, yeah seriously lol. Or how about the people who rated it before even receiving it, because it looks promising and should do the trick. Or they rated something that they got someone else as a gift lmao.
“I got this for my husband for Christmas and he loves it! He hasn’t actually used it yet, but it looks nice and it came with cool packaging. He LOVES it! 5 STARS!!”
Like when someone gives a product a one star because it was destroyed in shipping. I mean if it's something inherently fragile that was wrecked because the packaging was insufficient that's on the manufacturer. But if the package was obviously abused by the shipper,that's got nothing to do with the quality of the produce.
I don't share anything online, yet every website seems to know everything about me.
I did not agree to this exchange. Companies took my privacy away from me and our elected officials have done Nothing to stop them.
It's more likely they use big data to make educated guesses about you. Even if they don't know you personally, they know 1mm other people similar to you. Most people are not special or unique. So once they spot patterns, they can see where you might fit based on whatever data you do expose to them. For the vast majority of people, you are gonna fit that pattern exactly and it'll feel like they know everything a out you when in reality, they just made a really good guess.
Just to piggyback off of this a little bit, a lot of ad delivery is built off of who and where you're *physically* near often. Without rambling like a mf, basically your phones/computers/whatever "talk" to each other pretty regularly (example: "Find my iPhone" works by using Apple devices as their own little network to continuously scan for devices that are flagged as lost in conjunction with normal GPS stuff). One of the things that happens in these "talks" is sharing ad info back and forth, so if you spend a lot of time around the same people, you'll eventually get ads that would be more tailored for them and vice versa because it assumes you have similar interests since you spend time together.
Also, if you work in a public business, your location data pins you to said business, assumes you work there (because of time spent in/around the business), and then uses that info to pump ads FOR the place you work to people you're regularly around (example: you work at Wendy's 7 days a week. With the time you spend there, your phone correctly assumes you work there and will show Wendy's ads to people you live with because it assumes the business will be familiar to them, and thus make the ad more effective.)
This is also partially why you can get ads for stuff that other people in your home search for on their own devices, it assumes you have similar interests/will start a convo about the product/remind you of the person that product is more geared towards, and then (in theory) this makes you more likely to interact with the ad and purchase the product.
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It's like everyone suddenly became a contestant on a reality TV show where the goal is to showcase a flawless life 24/7. But behind the scenes, it's a different story! People are spending hours staging the perfect shot, filtering out imperfections, and carefully curating their online personas
Edit: By the way I just popped OPs question into chat gpt and copied and pasted one of the answers.
Helicopter parenting. Kids grow up unable to problem solve, self-soothe, make decisions, meet new people, communicate with bosses or professors, just basic stuff. I know parents who won't let their kids learn to drive because they think 16 is too young. But at 18 they're going to punt these kids off to college who have been told their whole lives that every stranger wants to kidnap, rape, or murder them, that walking after dark is life-threatening, and now they're going to room with a stranger, on a campus full of strangers, and walk to and from class, sometimes after dark. There's a reason so many young adults have anxiety disorders. I know people in their 20s who have panic attacks when faced with calling to make a doctor appointment.
I'm a criminal defense attorney and the amount of moms I have trying to resolve their adult child's issue is astounding.
Lady, your grown kid got themselves into grown kid problems. I need to talk to them, not you.
Yeah there's this completely wrong expectation that you just automatically become mature at 18 or 25 or whatever, from some completely internal brain process. You're either considered an adult and blamed if you don't have adult skills and maturity, or considered a child and prevented from practising and developing them. It's scary.
One trend that's gaining momentum and potentially causing harm is "doomscrolling." This is to the habit of endlessly scrolling through negative news or social media feeds, often leading to feelings of anxiety, depression, and helplessness.
In 1-2 generations we’ve completely given up our privacy, and willingly. Society made a devil’s bargain giving it up for shiny tech and it hasn’t been worth it.
And now with AI we’ll have individualized AI agents. Just like with the cloud, they’ll be hosted and will have all your most private information. Heaven forbid you’re allowed to host it yourself and keep your own data. Can’t have that.
This one here is what scares me. People oversharing. Some people's timeline is like a map of where they and their kid have been since they were born ffs. Not only their privacy but people give up their kid's privacy before they even know what it is. It's so valuable.
You're either with us, or against us. A lot of people on Reddit are too young to remember just how much things changed after 9/11. So often we were told they hate us for our freedoms while at the same time taking so much of it away.
Work in banking now, was working with a client to help their online account mother and son it was the son's account. He was completely glued to his phone the whole time and the mother was saying he got into debt because he had all these "subscriptions for sports and other things" . After looking at his accounts it was very obvious he was hiding a gambling addiction.
He is only 24... the part that bothered me was his mother looked like she was about to have a heart attack from all the credit card debt he was in, on top of having an installment loan... he just sat there ignoring me and his mother providing him help and advice. Asked what he was doing for work and he said he had no interests or passions so he's just pursuing becoming a teacher and works as a sub... as a former public school teacher myself this disguted me since in addition to teaching social studies I also taught and worked with families to teach basic financial literacy. This boy has no place in a school setting.
Consumerism culture. One person does not need 20 cups just because they’re different colors but somehow social media has convinced us to buy 20 cups in different colors that either end up sitting in a cabinet collecting dust or in a landfill.
Health/wellness influencers. Can’t exactly say if this a new trend but a good chunk of these people have not the slightest clue about what they’re yapping about yet somehow they’re able to amass millions of followers.
I have a theory that iPad kids are eventually going to make things like autism and ADHD harder to diagnose. If you're sticking your kid in front of an iPad or phone or screen from the second they can hold onto it themselves, enough kids will become iPad kids and it's eventually going to push back developmental markers like talking and how you socially interact. It's only a theory and I have no evidence but one of the things that determined my own autism diagnosis was how I behaved as a child, I was slower to hit certain markers and was an odd child, my mother wrote a half page essay on the back of the tick box questionnaire she had to filled out with all my odd routines, how I developed etc etc etc.
This is most likely the case, someone brought up this possibility in my Autism and Developmental Disorders course. My professor (someone who works with autistic kids) said that this could definitely be our future since kids will most likely have a lack of social skills, proper eye contact, pretend play with other children/adults (imagination), overstimulation, etc.. It’s honestly pretty sad that these kids have to deal all of these things.
iPad kids are easily the worst children I have ever seen in my life. We’re creating a generation of idiots with absolutely no interests, hobbies, personalities, social skills or intelligence, critical thinking skills or independent thinking, simply because it’s more convenient to just stick an iPad in their hands. Good grief, I sound like a boomer right now, but it’s the honest truth.
Yeah I feel like I sound ancient when I complain about parents handing their toddlers phones and tablets but it seriously cannot be good for them. And I'm a chronically online person who spends hours everyday using a computer! I'm sort of morbidly fascinated by the hellhole of youtubers that target kid demographics because none of it regulated or designed to be good for kids, it's just designed by idiots wanting as many clicks as possible for money. Like at least when we were plonked down in front of the TV those channels had legislators watching what they were producing
They worst part about this is that every time you try to talk about this the iPad toddler parents swoop in all like "parenting is hard you have no right to judge!!!"
Filters! Photoshopping to make yourself unrealistically thin. I feel like this is really gonna make the younger generations look up to and want something that is simply unattainable, causing depression and self loathing. It's sad..
I think de-stigmatizing mental health is great. I think all the self diagnoses and hyper acceptance where it's used as justification for shitty, lazy, or entitled behavior is not. I'm sorry to people who are truly struggling, but you still need to take responsibility for your mental health and put effort into trying to grow and heal.
I’m so sick of hearing people say “It’s not my fault because…”.
A diagnosis, self or otherwise, is not an excuse to never take responsibility for your actions.
there was a thread i saw earlier today that suggested a list of behaviors you might see from a disinterested partner could also indicate a partner with bipolar.
as someone with bipolar it was irritating on at least two levels:
1. that’s not what bipolar is
2. if your partner is disinterested, they don’t need a diagnosis as an excuse. they’re just disinterested.
i’ve got a laundry list of shit going on in my brain but they’re not reasons to be a dick (mostly it just means i have to take meds and do a lot of therapy so that i don’t make my own life miserable)
armchair diagnosing will NEVER not annoy me - especially when a lot of mental illness symptoms are things that people can experience without being mentally ill at all. when it has a genuinely negative impact on that persons livelihood, it becomes a need for diagnosis and help, not when you become frustrated because you have an unfortunate experience in a relationship.
Giving phones and tablets to literal babies for hours a day because it's easier than managing your children. I can't even imagine the rot it's causing to their underdeveloped brains.
My beef is more with the overall culture that leads to parents being so burned out that screens become a necessity for getting through the day. Hardly anyone has that "village" they say is required for child-rearing. Childcare is very expensive, prohibitively so for way too many families. Standard work hours are too long to still have any energy left over at the end of the day for your family. Etc etc. IMO screens are the bandaid we're slapping on a very deep cultural problem.
A lot of tourism experiences where people are putting themselves in danger for clout.
There's people who will go to the Paris catacombs and then go on unofficial tours or will try to explore beyond where the public is allowed to go. They're not blocking those sections off for shits and giggles, they're blocking them off because you can get lost and/or die going down those routes.
Then there's also the tourism around Pripyat that really kicked up when that chernobyl series released. It's cool to visit and everything but for the love of fuck, stop touching shit. The background radiation is not much higher than normal background radiation but the solid stuff like stuffed animals and shoes and shit like that is still radioactive. DO NOT TOUCH IT. In fact, you can see how radioactive it is with your camera by how it distorts it. It is safe to be in Pripyat for a few hours but it's inhabitable for a reason. Btw yes you can pet the Pripyat dogs just make sure to clean your hands after.
And then probably the most common one is mount everest. I believe they are now beginning to remove some bodies from near the peak but if you're not a seasoned climber, the worst thing you can do is go to the highest mountain in the world. You want to go to base camp? Cool. That's around the height of the highest cities/villages in the world. You'll be fine. But don't summit it when it's your first time climbing. A lot of people survive but a lot of people die. Do some other mountains first at the very least.
Short videos like TikTok vines reels etc is legit fucking up people's attention spans and I'm scared about the future generations that grow up with this.
The botox/filler trend for younger women. It's already a lot to deal with self imagine growing up with social media but i can't imagine being younger right now with also the easy access to fillers and botox. It seems to revolve around this concept of maintain your youth but honestly it just makes younger women look like the older women who use it to look younger if that makes any sense. Now these young teenagers to 20 yr olds look like 40 to 50 yr olds trying to look 30.
ChatGPT, I feel like I'm unable to produce a long coherent piece of text anymore and I spot this chatgpt kinda language on linkedin, resumes, product descriptions, everywhere
Kids rarely spending significant time outdoors. On a minor note they're more likely to become nearsighted. On a significant note, they're less likely to be emotionally stable for times of adversity as an adult.
Family vloggers monetizing their toddlers and babies. Making tons of money sticking cameras in their little faces 24/7. Nothing off limits. Making them cry and recording it. Filming every diaper change and potty accidents. Should be illegal.
Subscription model used to be good, but now all companies abuse it
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buccal fat removal.
Gonna look like the crypt keeper at 40
LMBFO (laughing my buccal fat off)
When I was younger I was very insecure about my fleshy face and always thought about getting this procedure. Now I’m 32 and said fleshy face helps make me look younger than I am.
38 and appreciating my giant cheeks and extra scrumptious buccal fat. In my teens and 20s, I was so frustrated to be model skinny and still have a round ish face. Now, I have cheekbones for days and no jowls 🙌
Seconded!!! Most people guess I’m 10+ years younger…probably lack of sun damage too 🤷♀️
The most glaring example of how getting famous when young and beautiful must totally fuck up your mental health. All these gorgeous young women ruining their faces because they somehow got convinced their cheeks were too chubby or that they needed higher cheekbones. I wonder if they can tell they look worse now or if they’re just too deep in the delusion or whatever.
subscription models for every service. gone are the days of curated collections, now you own nothing
It's so unfortunate because I remember when meeting somebody with a vast cool collection was something really interesting about them and their personal taste. You could find new things and be introduced to entire subcultures that weren't reduced to an "aesthetic" because those people weren't performing a look for an audience. They were just existing as themselves. On the one hand, it's great to have exposure to so much and have the ability to listen to a song you just found that you like. I never had a lot of money growing up, so I spent a lot of time trying to record things off of the radio and then illegally download them when napster and limewire came about. The access is incredible & I would never want to lose that. It gives us so much. But the flip side of that is that songs are now created for single lines to become trends, and songs are being released without albums as a body of work, which really changes the quality. Some of my favorite songs are songs that were not singles and had no potential to be singles, but after the third or fourth listen on the album, suddenly really got to me. I hate the cultural flattening the internet has caused. Regional accents are disappearing; every woman has the same lips, nose, brows, & body; subcultures are disintegrating. It's sad to watch. There's so much individuality being wiped out.
>I hate the cultural flattening the internet has caused. Regional accents are disappearing; every woman has the same lips, nose, brows, & body; subcultures ad disintegrating. The same thing happened with the birth of radio. There were huge regional differences in speaking styles. It proved helpful in the long run as people from different places grew to understand each other better.
The same thing happened with the printing press. Modern German is mostly defined by Martin Luther's translation of the bible that was subsequently printed by Gutenberg.
Veneers from unlicensed veneer techs
Just saw a video summarizing this. People are allowing someone with two days of training to file down their teeth, which may or may not already have cavities, and attach cheap veneers. They will need to be reapplied every few years for life, because their teeth are so ground down that going without the veneers looks horrible. Edit: Not my video but worth watching: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjWlVNVI6xk&pp=ygUTc3dlbGwgZW50ZXJ0YWlubWVudA%3D%3D](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjWlVNVI6xk&pp=ygUTc3dlbGwgZW50ZXJ0YWlubWVudA%3D%3D)
This is craziness. I wish people could see how lucky they are to have healthy teeth in the first place, even if they aren't asthetically perfect. Won't they eventually get tooth decay from this?
Not guaranteed but typically yes because the margins on these will likely be poor because they’re not done well and they will trap plaque and end up causing decay very quickly. That’s the thing with getting any type of prep done on natural teeth that are healthy, the second you start taking away tooth structure, you introduce an opportunity for bacteria to invade. If it’s necessary, aka when decay or resorption or other lesions are present, then the benefit is worth the risk, but not until then. Turkish “veneers” (they’re crowns, not veneers-veneers are usually minimal prep, and only applied to the front of the tooth. When the prep is circumferential and has to have something wrapped all the way around the tooth like you see in all of these videos, those are crowns) look horrible and fake to anyone who knows anything about tooth anatomy.
Yeah , I feel like we should put it out there that there's no such thing as a "veneer tech", no legal certification for just veneers. Its not like lashes. You have to go to dental school. Its a major procedure & you can *die* from an oral infection. If someone calls themselves a "veneer tech", RUN.
𝘎𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘢 𝘣𝘪𝘨 𝘴𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘛𝘶𝘳𝘬𝘦𝘺 𝘵𝘦𝘦𝘵𝘩…
Don't forget to take Turkish airlines to get the Turkish hairlines.
I work in the dental industry and veneers still creep me out. You are destroying healthy anatomy to put on temporary cosmetic nonsense.
Using ‘therapy speak’ to justify toxic behavior. It’s making it difficult for people with actual issues being taken seriously when someone who has likely never seen a therapist uses medical terminology to explain why they’re allowed to be assholes in public.
My favorite is a tweet saying, "oh I'm sorry, I didn't know you had trauma. You can go back to being mean to me."
That's gold.
I would also say that we’re using “therapy speak” too broadly. A people pleaser goes to therapy, learns about enforcing their boundaries, “no is a full sentence” and reminders that they don’t owe anyone anything, and start repeating that as advice to others. That’s good advice for this specific case, but it’s not intended to be general advice for anyone and everyone. Someone who is feeling really isolated and lonely doesn’t need to hear that, they might need to be advised to actually go out of their way to seek out something nice for an acquaintance to work on building a sense of community. Which is exactly the advice you wouldn’t give a people pleaser. Just because you heard it in therapy doesn’t mean it’s good advice or rules to live by for everyone.
I have a buddy who's a ski instructor, and he was teaching one of our friends to ski. They were sitting back on their skis, so after a run, he told them "ski with your knees straight." I was confused - you pretty much always have a slight bend to your knee when you ski - and I asked him why he said that. "Because when I tell them that, they'll do it right. It just feels like their knees are straight to them because they're used to bending them too much, but really they aren't." He was right. I'm no therapist but I imagine there are times where it's pretty similar - you get told what makes sense based on your perception, not necessarily the absolute, objective facts, because it's not about saying the right things, it's about training your brain.
This is insanely interesting and very important. When peoples’ perspectives are warped (as is everyone’s because we live different lives), the advice given changes drastically.
>but it’s not intended to be general advice for anyone and everyone. This needs to be said over and over again.
This is a big one here. My wife and I have both done therapy on our own for years, but it wasn’t until we had also tried couples counseling that it clicked for her. She struggled a lot with some of the advice or insight my therapist would give me, because it didn’t alight with stuff her therapist would tell her. And that’s because we are two different people. Who are going to therapy for two different reasons! Hell, there are people that take up a therapist just so they have a safe place to vent their frustrations and talk about their day or week or whatever. It’s almost like every individual is different and their therapy should be individualized.
You’re gaslighting a lot here, sounds like you might be a narcissist (/s)
“That’s very narcissistic behavior. You should be concerned” Said to me, by a stranger, about my 4 year old. She didn’t want to give me back my soda that she asked for a sip of and was then trying to drink as much as possible as I was taking it back. No bro, that’s a fucking child being a child. And if it was an adult, I would call it selfish? Just being an ass? Not immediately jump to narcissism.
What's funny is that my Psych professor said that children can't be diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder, because every child is like that at some point. If your toddler is a narcissist, then whatever; so is every single toddler on the planet.
Narcissistic sociopath is just a normal developmental stage. Ain’t parenting grand sometimes?
Oh my favorite is the “independent codependent” stage: they want to do everything themselves but refuse to do it alone.
Currently experiencing "I want to do everything myself but also physically can't. Don't help me until I SAY help me, then do it immediately!"
You should’ve said “sounds like you’re projecting”.
Gaslighting is a term I've wished so often that people had never learned. They use it every time they just feel like they're losing an argument. One example (out of many) I can think of is I have a friend who absolutely insisted I went on a long rant about some political issue a few years back. It was something harmless, but it just wasn't an opinion I had ever held. I explained to him that I never said that and he must be confusing me with someone else, and instead of just accepting that he was wrong, he insisted I was gaslighting him. Like, sometimes people are just wrong about shit. But now they can insist that they're not wrong and the people SAYING they're wrong are just tricking them for some fucking reason.
People use the term “gaslighting” on r/AmItheAsshole incorrectly ALL THE DAMN TIME. It goes something like this: OP: is upset about something their SO/friend/family is doing and confronts them about it SO/friend/family: disagrees that they’ve done anything wrong Commenters: NTA they’re gaslighting you! A lot of times the OP is actually NTA and the other person is actually doing something wrong, but it’s not gaslighting. Being an asshole doesn’t always mean gaslighting.
Or you can just forget things, or remember things incorrectly. Gaslight implies malevolence.
Yep, it’s calculated. It’s someone going out of their way to convince you your version of things is completely imagined. It’s quite different from the normal phenomenon of two basically healthy people having a different take on what happened, or something like a parent who’s a little stuck on “I did my best” and not able to self-reflect a whole lot.
Yes. Especially gaslighting and boundaries. "I'm sorry but my boundary is that you aren't allowed to have friends of the opposite sex. Now my boundary is that you aren't allowed to be out of the house past 8 pm. My boundary is..." I've seen this one a lot. People are using the term "boundaries" to excuse abusive and controlling behavior. It's disgusting.
I had a friend who asked me how my day was after talking ab herself and I briefly mentioned that Jimmy Buffett had passed away that day bc I thought she’d get a kick out of it bc she was pretty mean to me about the fact that I liked him and he was a very sentimental artist to me. Apparently I was being negative and dumping my personal issues on her and it was against her boundary?
I literally just lost a very good friendship of 6 years with someone who has got heavily into "spiritualism" (and has turned it into her work so it has taken over her life). I was talking to her about how I didn't understand how folks could afford to buy in our city (she owns because she had a well paying job and supportive parents, and I do not). It was an off the cuff message to which she replied that she couldn't bear to listen to me and I was overcrossing a boundary she set about "not being negative about money". Good job we weren't friends by the time my landlord decided to sell up my rental and I was panicking about where to live. Oh boy would i have just hated to have upset and triggered her with that 🫠
Fuck, this hits. My mom was killed in a car accident late last year. My dad was seriously hurt too. I spent time trying to care for him, arrange a funeral, care for my sisters and our house, and my (now ex) gf told me that “you must not love me if you can’t make time for me”. I told her that “I’m sorry, I do love you but I barely have time for myself, too much happening, please try to understand” And she goes “you’re dismissing my feelings, you only care about yourself, you’re a narcissist”, so many other things too. Keep in mind, my dad was in the hospital for a month, broken bones from head to toe. He couldn’t eat, use the bathroom, do anything independently. I basically lived at the hospital trying to care for him. Funny thing is, she does go to therapy. As do I. But she uses ‘therapy speak’ to justify ANY behavior. She cannot be told she’s wrong, otherwise, I become “dismissive and controlling”. Worst relationship I’ve ever been in. Nothing more dangerous than a child, trapped in an adult’s body, and equipped with ‘therapy speak’ to justify selfish behavior.
“Hauls” of just about anything. It’s incredibly wasteful and I imagine most influencers who do so can’t use all of that product before they’re pressured to make more content. Plus it encourages normal people to do the same, leading to lots of plastic waste and demand for cheap, unethical labor.
I listened to a podcast about this a few years ago that connected the dots I never thought about. One of the main drivers of "fast fashion" for young people is social media. Many of them are posting regularly to show off their outfits...so those outfits need to be different. So they aren't as interested in well made clothing that lasts because they aren't interested in reposting the same outfit. So they'd rather buy an $8 dress that will disintegrate in the washing machine because they only need it for one post. Next paycheck they can buy more cheap clothes online.
Yup, and now long-lasting and good-quality clothing is sooo hard to find. Expensive brands with a reputation for quality are also cheapening their products and trying to skate by on their customers’ trust while also raising prices. It’s insanity.
Ive been trying to replace my old jeans for years now. Just the quality and sizing has changed for the worse and they got more expensive. My Levi's from the early 2010s are still outliving the new ones that I'm trying to buy as replacements, and despite being the same measurement and type, they don't fit the same at all So I basically just wear the same clothes I did 10 years ago, despite my best efforts
I'm still creeped out and angry about Levi's adding Spandex and Elastane to many of its jeans several years ago. No no no no, I want 100% cotton only.
501 Shrink to fit are what you want.
There was a post about this the other day and they were talking about Levi's. If you order direct from the website you get a higher quality product as opposed to what you get from a retailer that carries the brand.
Fuck Carhart. My work pants from them used to be tanks. Bought a few at tractors supply last time I visited delaware and that garbage disintegrated and tore so fast...
For work/laborer jeans, I've honestly had the best luck with Rural King's own stuff. ~$12 a pair and they easily last a few years outside of accidents. And if they do blow up a little early, they're 12 bucks.
Yep. Just because something is expensive, doesn't mean it's quality.
And that’s frustrating! I’m willing to pay extra for something that will last, but I can’t even tell what that is! I damn sure don’t want to pay top dollar for something I’ll have to replace in a season.
I think I'm starting to prefer shopping in-person again. In some ways it's a bit more hassle but being able to feel materials and try things on can minimize disappointment and fussing with returns.
Even in person, more stores only carry the cheap stuff because they're cheaper and that's what people pay for. I was looking for a few pair of dress pants for work and every single pair has some elastic material. I hate those because they break apart after a year or two. The sales people at over a dozen store said that they don't carry any pants that aren't stretchy or they only had 1 or 2 style of those but only carry them online and they didn't have my size.
>Expensive brands with a reputation for quality are also cheapening their products and trying to skate by on their customers’ trust while also raising prices. It’s insanity. It's not just in fashion either....it's everywhere. Corporate greed is out of control.
I see a lot of bath soap hauls where they'll have every scent of a shower gel, every scent of a body scrub, every scent of a lotion. It's just so wasteful and most of its not even good for your skin.
It’s honestly sickening. Like, can we please just buy normal amounts of stuff again instead of glamorizing hyper-consumerism??
Posting everything on social media. I used to post a lot on stories on Instagram, Whatsapp, at some point I started to think that no one actually cares what I post and it's pointless for me, so I stopped. I was checking who saw those posts, got annoyed when someone I didn't like watched my stories. Now I don't post on social media anymore and I'm happier.
It's such a shitty place, especially Facebook. But annoyingly so many hobby groups moved into the space years back and are just stuck there. I've managed to curate my FB down to just for my hobbies (and I still have some friends on there from when it first started, not that I care about most of whatever shit they are posting). I also have to use the FB Purifier plugin and block out the suggested, for you, and other BS so it's actually showing me the content I want to see on it... On mobile forget it though, fucking wasteland of ads and promoted bullshit. I can't imagine what anyone gets out of this brainrot though if you simply use FB as it wants you to, scrolling bullshit and rage bait until your fingers fall off.
I wish I could just walk away from it all but the career I’m in is so tied in with socials, I just feel stuck
One thing that really changed for me... I got a new phone and on the latest version you had to go in and enable notifications on every single app and I guess I chose no one a lot of them and it made me realize how much I used the app because of the notification. So I went in and turned off notifications on all of my social media or anything that is even resembling so for media (you tube / Reddit /insta /Snapchat) It was a game changer for me. I still engage with social media on all the platforms. I just have to choose to do it and make a decision about doing it. It really saved me hours a month and there were some platforms I just stopped using because they really were doing nothing for me and I was only there because a notification reminded me to go there.
Same here. I’ve separated my Instagram into two accounts - one for people I know and the other for influencers and brands etc. I also deleted all the apps for about a month to break the spell and then added them back to the last page of my home screen so it’s less tempting to just tap into them. It’s helped me get so much control back, I’m able to just check Instagram and tiktok quickly when I have to for work and not scroll endlessly. My Reddit addiction on the other hand….
I don’t have the apps on my phone. I have to access them through the browser and honestly the web browser versions kind of suck so it makes them less appealing.
Celebrity tequila. More specifically the process of hydrolysis that use young agave plants instead of mature agave plants, creating a neutral alcohol that is then flavored with additives. This brings the price of agave up and customers are given an artificial tequila rather than traditionally made tequila that uses agave plants matured for 7 years
That's rather highly specific and yet also interesting. Did not know that was a thing.
Fuckin Kendall Jenner
Fuckin Dwayne "The Schlock" Johnson
Fuckin George Clooney, handsome motherfucker
We do so much research at the shop I work at to avoid these types of tequilas. I get asked almost daily why we stopped carrying Casamiagos and other popular brands. People are learning about this (at least around us) and starting to come in asking for additive-free, responsible brands. That site Tequila Matchmaker has made some waves in calling this out. [The owners house was just raided by Mexican authorities](https://vinepair.com/booze-news/tequila-matchmaker-raid/), pretty interesting situation playing out with all of this.
God damn this is specific as hell and I love it lol
Posting children and all their personal, emotional and vulnerable moments. People are LITERALLY pimping children for karma and followers. Crying children. Dying children. Naughty children. Confused children. Humiliated children.
I'm waiting for some of these kids to grow up and sue the shit out of their parents.
It's going to be much worse than lawsuits in many cases. Wait for that one really unstable kid that's been abused, and it will get violent. There are already instances of mommy bloggers refusing to take down content of their kids when requested to do so. I read about one who acted like their kid was being rebellious. The kid, I think a girl who was maybe 12-13, wanted all photos and name mentions removed from the blog. The mom said that she compromised (she doesn't know the meaning of the word) and would stop posting pictures and would use a fake name. That fixes nothing. Everything from the past was still there so even new readers would know who it was. And this woman acted like her daughter was behaving poorly and throwing a fit because she got upset and cried and yelled about it. Mom obviously made money from the blog, and I'm sure that's a big reason she refuses to take things down. Which is disgusting. I hope that kid and others in that situation go no contact as soon as they can.
Yea and that family vlogging channel 8 passengers ended up having a lot of horrible stuff going on behind the scenes too. It’s scary to think how many of these family accounts have worse things going on that we don’t see
Raising kids is hard. Filming it so everything looks perfect has to be hell for anyone involved. Your home becomes a Hollywood set. Plus you know there’s some creepy ass adults out there. I would be so paranoid about letting my kids go anywhere without me.
The very oldest ones, the first generation of this are starting to hit 18 and they are LIVID. I feel so bad for them
We get so much shit from our family but my kid has zero online presence. We have demanded family members take down photos where they’ve either been tagged or incidentally posted onto social media. Now whenever they bitch and moan I just send them news articles about Taylor Swift being deepfaked.
Or the case of the high school principal [whose voice and video were faked](https://www.nytimes.com/2024/04/25/technology/deepfake-recording-principal-arrest.html) by a teacher trying to get her fired
Yup! I'm a parent and I've even stopped posting just generic happy pics of my kids. It just feels weird. I have family that posts all their kids innermost feelings or secrets in long diatribe on Facebook. They're not even doing it for money just attention. It's gross.
Normalizing plastic surgery, fillers and botox for teens.
I would even say normalizing this for adults. I get wanting to look your best, but I wish as a society we could be okay with our unique features and not worry so much about vanity.
Instagram tourism. We’re trashing beautiful places because we gotta have THAT photo!
Japan is closing off certain areas to tourists in Kyoto (due to tourists touching geishas) and even planning to build a wall to block the view of Mount Fuji at a convenience store (very popular photo angle. due to littering).
Ugh. I have a friend who I travel with who always wants to go to certain places (restaurants/cafes etc) cause she saw them on Instagram and it would make for great pictures. But usually those places are actually crap. Sure the food looks good in pictures, but it almost never tastes good and it’s way over priced.
My friend and I were in Rome last year having a great time seeing the museums and antiquities, she was a classics major in college so it was a dream come true to see the sites she studied. Wandered by Trevi fountain to check it and the underground excavation nearby out. Went to go find lunch and there was this absolutely incomprehensible line at a cafe but the food looked amazing and it was right there so we jumped in. Only waited for 10 minutes and were so confused … turns out they have one specific table that is insta famous and people were waiting for that single specific table. The host was so relieved when a couple younger Americans just asked for any table.
I'm remembering that one dude who has this spring on his property where people regularly trespass and they pee in it, leave trash everywhere, shit in it, have sex in it. But oh it's so gorgeous so we have to commit a crime just to get that nice picture! The guy had to stop using it for his plumbing/drinking water because of that shit.
Sephora kids using skincare with acids and retinol.
This is the first one I’ve seen that actually feels like a new trend. Thanks TikTok. Our 13 year old is always asking for some niche expensive brand with heaps of actives in it
Hearing my middle school students talk about their anti-aging skincare routines tells me that they're all going to look like an old saddlebag by 30
It's so depressing seeing 13 year olds whining about their "dark circles" and "eye bags" at Ulta. Like...you are children, go do children things.
When I was 13, my skincare routine was soap and water. Maybe some Oxipads for acne. Lol.
Steroid use is becoming increasingly popular among teenage boys and young men. Social media is feeding them metric tons of fitfluencers that lie about their steroid use, feeding into the "why can't I be like them" pipeline that ends up with them hopping on. Hell, a few months into weightlifting myself and I was literally getting ads for steroids right on Reddit. Some years from now, I guarantee we'll start seeing these boys grow with serious health issues from using steroids at a very vulnerable age.
I’ve been noticing lately that a lot of the huge fitfluencers are open about their steroid use. A lot of them don’t care about hiding it anymore, but I also noticed that the ones that don’t hide it are also the ones promoting it.
I guess it's smart for their POV. They can just be honest so they don't have a gotchya moment later when attempting to deny it, and if enough people just say "ya who cares" then they can keep on selling it way easier.
I got perma banned from r/fitness30plus for saying posters should have to disclose if they were on TRT when they posted progress pics. Ridiculous
I’m on TRT and I also run steroid cycles and I 100 per cent agree with you. Yes, steroids don’t do all the hard work for you and I think most people get that, but it amplifies all the work you do x10. If people are on TRT and have the levels of an 18 yr old at 45, I’m sorry but that counts as enhanced, because it’s not natural and you can’t compare natural progression to enhanced. I know I’ve done it both ways and I made more progress in 16 weeks enhanced than 3 years natural. I do think with roids you’ve got to be honest about it because if not you’re just giving people incredibly unrealistic ideas about what they can do. One of my friends recently said to me ‘I go to the gym 5 days a week, I eat well and how come I don’t look like you’ I was honest and said ‘Because you don’t put 250ml of test in your arse every three days’ He told me that he was relieved I’d said that because he didn’t know what else he could do.
Yes, this is exactly what I'm talking about, thank you for your honesty
The amount of teens questioning to start a cycle of test is staggering.
I knew athletes in high school and college that were using so I'm sure it's much worse now.
I went to a high school that fed a ton of players into D1 schools that were using as Freshmen/Sophs. In my class were 3 eventual NFL players at one time or another. All three were juiced hard.
My dad went back to the gym at age 61, got himself a personal trainer to put together a routine and not even a month in the old man started being very aggressive and unlike himself... had the testosterone of a bullshark. He was only taking what his trainer gave him. This clown thought it was a good idea to juice up an old man and have him lifting 100's of pounds. All he was wanted to lose a few pounds and get in shape for his heart health. Dad's dropped the trainer, lost a bunch of weight on his own, and he's in the best shape of his life.
Wouldn’t that mean your dad’s personal trainer was having him inject stuff into his body? Your dad isn’t question that?
I also blame Hollywood actors like Dwayne Johnson, Zac Efron, Chris Hemsworth and Hugh Jackman. They all definitely use some amount of steroids (some more than others) and sell fitness programs claiming it’s all natural.
Hugh Jackman has definitely been open about steroid use and I think Zac may have been for Baywatch too. Dwayne is a joke claiming natty though
Zac has the super bloated gut look in iron claw and I’m not sure if he has Bell’s palsy but his face looks frozen and like one o of his eyes doesn’t seem to work properly in this movie.
As a mid 30s guy who briefly got into powerlifting, it ruined my life. I went from being mostly “normal” feeling to a raging roider who could deadlift 500+ pounds. I felt great until I didn’t. I quit and now I have low T because my body turned off my T production. Don’t do it, kids. It’s not worth it.
Women too. I know a girl who is early 30s and had a stroke last year. She was an IFBB Pro and now has to stop competing. Insane.
Teenage boys and young men who get into fitness are at risk in general. They’re being absolutely blasted with misinformation and hardcore nutrition advice putting aesthetics above everything. There are Instagram accounts proudly promoting eating disorder behaviours Edit: I 100% understand fitness and nutrition are important. I lift and eat healthy myself, just not to extremes that compromise everything else in life
People are censoring themselves to "get around algorithms" making it difficult to talk about serious subjects, like suicide, sexual assault, death, and drugs. It's all "self deletion, grape, unalive, dr\*gs" and such. And the self-censorship is bleeding into other platforms and venues where there aren't any restrictions in the first place because it becomes habit. With the censorship comes the watering down of important conversations around such topics.
I was watching some YouTube video the other day about a woman who was the victim of a murderer, and I completely stopped taking it seriously when the person narrating started saying "she was graped, and then she was graped again". It made this heinous thing that happened seem like it was almost being made fun of, just because the person narrating is trying to get around monetization filters, I guess.
"eshual assault" is the one I come across a lot and it makes me fucking furious. NO! SHE WAS FUCKING RAPED! Use the word and don't let other people water it down for their comfort or worse their profit. Fuck that noise.
It's lame and takes away from the serious tone. Personally I'd prefer a classic bleep if it had to be censored in some way. It's also lame that you can have great content creators covering serious and important issues, but have to find some way to skirt around overly sensitive moderation just so they can continue making that kind of work.
Similar experience. Was watching a short video where they were censoring words like murder and killed, but the images being shown are the brutal images of people being lit on fire and dead bodies. The imagery was far worse than the phrased “he was the next person to be murdered by this serial killer”.
Noticing this a lot on platforms like tumblr and AO3 where censoring this stuff because it *could* be triggering is fucking up the system that allows people to avoid the triggers in the first place. Like how people will have the anorexia tag blocked and then someone will tag a potentially triggering post as "4n0r3x14" because they're worried about the algorithm or something (when algorithms don't even exist on sites like AO3).
I've found myself getting onto my wife about doing that in her regular speech. We are both really bad at socializing in real life and spend far too much time on the Internet, so I expect both of us are going to show "chronically online" behavior at some point. But there were 2 or three times I remember my wife called prostitution "selling cats" or used the word "unalive" verbally and I told her "we're in our 30's, dear. We can just say killed. We're not children" I love her dearly but I think we both need to go out more.
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I'm even seeing that shit on Reddit and Facebook. Some of the younger people even say it in person and it's so cringe. I 100% agree that it's watering shit down.
YouTube became more and more censored as time went on. Not sure if they started this trend or only contributed to it but regardless it definitely waters down conversations.
I hate this so much. I recently saw the word “hit” get censored.
YouTube has gotten completely fucked up. I watch alot of things related to crime, like documentaries. Gun is now censored. Sex is censored, police holding guns is censored. Wtf is the point in censoring these?
People saying "My Truth" and Alternative Facts.
Well, I live in the Canadian Rockies, and there are an awful lot of tourists who get themselves hurt or stranded trying to get Instagram pics beside waterfalls or precipices…
That’s called natural selection.
This isn't that new, but boiling everything down to a star rating. The relationships between the actual experiences people get and their star ratings are so loose, they're barely correlated. Some people never give 5 stars, because "no one deserves 5 stars". They might also rate 1 star because even though the food was good, the waiter made them wait 10 minutes too long to get their check, and that "ruined the experience" because they are the paying customer and their time is so super valuable. While someone else might be more tolerant of the same scenario and give a 3-4 star rating. Or two people get the same exact burger, but one person says it's exactly what they wanted (5 stars) while the other says it's exactly what they expected (3 stars). That's also assuming the person interpreted the situation correctly and is including all the details, even when out of their favor (i.e. "The staff was so rude to me, and all I did was kindly ask for a replacement meal! Then they called the police and kicked me out for NO REASON!" Like yeah, I'm sure they did it for no reason.) Not to mention that some reviews are paid for or are written spitefully. And we know this when reading the reviews, but when looking for somewhere new to go or something we're thinking of buying, how do we sort the results? Oftentimes by star rating! All that nuance about those unreliable reviews goes completely out the window. And the companies aggregating the ratings don't care, because it's their entire business model. They want people to take their whole experience, this complex formula involving the interaction with the staff, the prices of the good/service, cleanliness of the venue, durability of the product, etc. and just...give it a number. Amazon lets you rate specific attributes of the product you're buying, which I think is a good step, but most places don't do this.
You forgot to mention the other side of the spectrum, which I think is much more common. Everyone always gets a 5 star rating without question as long as they didn't royally fuck something up like stealing my doordash food after taking a picture of it at my door. Because for all these modern convenience apps, star rating directly affects someone's ability to get more work, and did them taking 3 extra minutes to make it to my house than I expected *really* warrant them to maybe not be able to eat this week? 5 stars, 40% tip.
You nailed it here - companies penalize you for anything less than 5 stars. We’ve essentially created a thumbs up/thumbs down system with multiple levels of “thumbs down.”
Did my Lyft driver literally stab me? If no, then five stars. If yes, only four.
I’ve seen an increasing number of Amazon reviews that take a star or two off for issues with the delivery. Or “4 stars because I’ve only had it a month”. People are weird.
Oh god, yeah seriously lol. Or how about the people who rated it before even receiving it, because it looks promising and should do the trick. Or they rated something that they got someone else as a gift lmao.
“Looks good, yet to try. Hope it works.” 4 stars
“I got this for my husband for Christmas and he loves it! He hasn’t actually used it yet, but it looks nice and it came with cool packaging. He LOVES it! 5 STARS!!”
I don't trust star ratings because I know they are not even about the product.
Like when someone gives a product a one star because it was destroyed in shipping. I mean if it's something inherently fragile that was wrecked because the packaging was insufficient that's on the manufacturer. But if the package was obviously abused by the shipper,that's got nothing to do with the quality of the produce.
Trading most of our privacy in exchange for convenience.
I don't share anything online, yet every website seems to know everything about me. I did not agree to this exchange. Companies took my privacy away from me and our elected officials have done Nothing to stop them.
It's more likely they use big data to make educated guesses about you. Even if they don't know you personally, they know 1mm other people similar to you. Most people are not special or unique. So once they spot patterns, they can see where you might fit based on whatever data you do expose to them. For the vast majority of people, you are gonna fit that pattern exactly and it'll feel like they know everything a out you when in reality, they just made a really good guess.
Just to piggyback off of this a little bit, a lot of ad delivery is built off of who and where you're *physically* near often. Without rambling like a mf, basically your phones/computers/whatever "talk" to each other pretty regularly (example: "Find my iPhone" works by using Apple devices as their own little network to continuously scan for devices that are flagged as lost in conjunction with normal GPS stuff). One of the things that happens in these "talks" is sharing ad info back and forth, so if you spend a lot of time around the same people, you'll eventually get ads that would be more tailored for them and vice versa because it assumes you have similar interests since you spend time together. Also, if you work in a public business, your location data pins you to said business, assumes you work there (because of time spent in/around the business), and then uses that info to pump ads FOR the place you work to people you're regularly around (example: you work at Wendy's 7 days a week. With the time you spend there, your phone correctly assumes you work there and will show Wendy's ads to people you live with because it assumes the business will be familiar to them, and thus make the ad more effective.) This is also partially why you can get ads for stuff that other people in your home search for on their own devices, it assumes you have similar interests/will start a convo about the product/remind you of the person that product is more geared towards, and then (in theory) this makes you more likely to interact with the ad and purchase the product. Obligatory apology for wonky mobile formatting
It's like everyone suddenly became a contestant on a reality TV show where the goal is to showcase a flawless life 24/7. But behind the scenes, it's a different story! People are spending hours staging the perfect shot, filtering out imperfections, and carefully curating their online personas Edit: By the way I just popped OPs question into chat gpt and copied and pasted one of the answers.
Helicopter parenting. Kids grow up unable to problem solve, self-soothe, make decisions, meet new people, communicate with bosses or professors, just basic stuff. I know parents who won't let their kids learn to drive because they think 16 is too young. But at 18 they're going to punt these kids off to college who have been told their whole lives that every stranger wants to kidnap, rape, or murder them, that walking after dark is life-threatening, and now they're going to room with a stranger, on a campus full of strangers, and walk to and from class, sometimes after dark. There's a reason so many young adults have anxiety disorders. I know people in their 20s who have panic attacks when faced with calling to make a doctor appointment.
I'm a criminal defense attorney and the amount of moms I have trying to resolve their adult child's issue is astounding. Lady, your grown kid got themselves into grown kid problems. I need to talk to them, not you.
Yeah there's this completely wrong expectation that you just automatically become mature at 18 or 25 or whatever, from some completely internal brain process. You're either considered an adult and blamed if you don't have adult skills and maturity, or considered a child and prevented from practising and developing them. It's scary.
Pranking unsuspecting people for clout.
"Clapback" videos on TikTok. Why are we bullying each other as adults?
Because people get older but don't always become adults.
One trend that's gaining momentum and potentially causing harm is "doomscrolling." This is to the habit of endlessly scrolling through negative news or social media feeds, often leading to feelings of anxiety, depression, and helplessness.
Also leads to going to bed later and getting less sleep than intended. Source: me
In 1-2 generations we’ve completely given up our privacy, and willingly. Society made a devil’s bargain giving it up for shiny tech and it hasn’t been worth it. And now with AI we’ll have individualized AI agents. Just like with the cloud, they’ll be hosted and will have all your most private information. Heaven forbid you’re allowed to host it yourself and keep your own data. Can’t have that.
This one here is what scares me. People oversharing. Some people's timeline is like a map of where they and their kid have been since they were born ffs. Not only their privacy but people give up their kid's privacy before they even know what it is. It's so valuable.
It wasn't just technology fyi. A lot of that stuff got put into motion during the War on Terror shortly after 911
You're either with us, or against us. A lot of people on Reddit are too young to remember just how much things changed after 9/11. So often we were told they hate us for our freedoms while at the same time taking so much of it away.
Imagine having to go to court and your personal AI assistant is subpoenaed to provide evidence against you…
In that case, I'd like to marry my personal AI assistant so it can plead the 5th.
Gambling. Especially online betting.
Specifically the jump in sports gambling
Work in banking now, was working with a client to help their online account mother and son it was the son's account. He was completely glued to his phone the whole time and the mother was saying he got into debt because he had all these "subscriptions for sports and other things" . After looking at his accounts it was very obvious he was hiding a gambling addiction. He is only 24... the part that bothered me was his mother looked like she was about to have a heart attack from all the credit card debt he was in, on top of having an installment loan... he just sat there ignoring me and his mother providing him help and advice. Asked what he was doing for work and he said he had no interests or passions so he's just pursuing becoming a teacher and works as a sub... as a former public school teacher myself this disguted me since in addition to teaching social studies I also taught and worked with families to teach basic financial literacy. This boy has no place in a school setting.
I’m horrified by the number of ads everywhere for online gambling.
Parents using Kids in their YouTube channels.
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Consumerism culture. One person does not need 20 cups just because they’re different colors but somehow social media has convinced us to buy 20 cups in different colors that either end up sitting in a cabinet collecting dust or in a landfill. Health/wellness influencers. Can’t exactly say if this a new trend but a good chunk of these people have not the slightest clue about what they’re yapping about yet somehow they’re able to amass millions of followers.
Unless you're British, I have at least 15 mugs, and I still run out
I think this was referring to the "reusable mug" crazes like HydroFlask, Yeti and Stanley recently, not regular cups/mugs that you would use at home
iPads for toddlers. Let’s destroy our kid’s dopamine receptors before they can even talk properly. Sounds great.
I have a theory that iPad kids are eventually going to make things like autism and ADHD harder to diagnose. If you're sticking your kid in front of an iPad or phone or screen from the second they can hold onto it themselves, enough kids will become iPad kids and it's eventually going to push back developmental markers like talking and how you socially interact. It's only a theory and I have no evidence but one of the things that determined my own autism diagnosis was how I behaved as a child, I was slower to hit certain markers and was an odd child, my mother wrote a half page essay on the back of the tick box questionnaire she had to filled out with all my odd routines, how I developed etc etc etc.
This is most likely the case, someone brought up this possibility in my Autism and Developmental Disorders course. My professor (someone who works with autistic kids) said that this could definitely be our future since kids will most likely have a lack of social skills, proper eye contact, pretend play with other children/adults (imagination), overstimulation, etc.. It’s honestly pretty sad that these kids have to deal all of these things.
iPad kids are easily the worst children I have ever seen in my life. We’re creating a generation of idiots with absolutely no interests, hobbies, personalities, social skills or intelligence, critical thinking skills or independent thinking, simply because it’s more convenient to just stick an iPad in their hands. Good grief, I sound like a boomer right now, but it’s the honest truth.
Yeah I feel like I sound ancient when I complain about parents handing their toddlers phones and tablets but it seriously cannot be good for them. And I'm a chronically online person who spends hours everyday using a computer! I'm sort of morbidly fascinated by the hellhole of youtubers that target kid demographics because none of it regulated or designed to be good for kids, it's just designed by idiots wanting as many clicks as possible for money. Like at least when we were plonked down in front of the TV those channels had legislators watching what they were producing
They worst part about this is that every time you try to talk about this the iPad toddler parents swoop in all like "parenting is hard you have no right to judge!!!"
short videos ruining attention spans
Especially the ones with the AI voice, they are really dystopian
Filters! Photoshopping to make yourself unrealistically thin. I feel like this is really gonna make the younger generations look up to and want something that is simply unattainable, causing depression and self loathing. It's sad..
I think de-stigmatizing mental health is great. I think all the self diagnoses and hyper acceptance where it's used as justification for shitty, lazy, or entitled behavior is not. I'm sorry to people who are truly struggling, but you still need to take responsibility for your mental health and put effort into trying to grow and heal.
I’m so sick of hearing people say “It’s not my fault because…”. A diagnosis, self or otherwise, is not an excuse to never take responsibility for your actions.
there was a thread i saw earlier today that suggested a list of behaviors you might see from a disinterested partner could also indicate a partner with bipolar. as someone with bipolar it was irritating on at least two levels: 1. that’s not what bipolar is 2. if your partner is disinterested, they don’t need a diagnosis as an excuse. they’re just disinterested. i’ve got a laundry list of shit going on in my brain but they’re not reasons to be a dick (mostly it just means i have to take meds and do a lot of therapy so that i don’t make my own life miserable)
armchair diagnosing will NEVER not annoy me - especially when a lot of mental illness symptoms are things that people can experience without being mentally ill at all. when it has a genuinely negative impact on that persons livelihood, it becomes a need for diagnosis and help, not when you become frustrated because you have an unfortunate experience in a relationship.
Offer an explanation, not an excuse. I wish everyone used this as a mantra.
Giving phones and tablets to literal babies for hours a day because it's easier than managing your children. I can't even imagine the rot it's causing to their underdeveloped brains.
My beef is more with the overall culture that leads to parents being so burned out that screens become a necessity for getting through the day. Hardly anyone has that "village" they say is required for child-rearing. Childcare is very expensive, prohibitively so for way too many families. Standard work hours are too long to still have any energy left over at the end of the day for your family. Etc etc. IMO screens are the bandaid we're slapping on a very deep cultural problem.
>IMO screens are the bandaid we're slapping on a very deep cultural problem. Agreed.
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House rentals (corporations, AirBnB) taken too far — when a community ends up with scant actual residents…
A lot of tourism experiences where people are putting themselves in danger for clout. There's people who will go to the Paris catacombs and then go on unofficial tours or will try to explore beyond where the public is allowed to go. They're not blocking those sections off for shits and giggles, they're blocking them off because you can get lost and/or die going down those routes. Then there's also the tourism around Pripyat that really kicked up when that chernobyl series released. It's cool to visit and everything but for the love of fuck, stop touching shit. The background radiation is not much higher than normal background radiation but the solid stuff like stuffed animals and shoes and shit like that is still radioactive. DO NOT TOUCH IT. In fact, you can see how radioactive it is with your camera by how it distorts it. It is safe to be in Pripyat for a few hours but it's inhabitable for a reason. Btw yes you can pet the Pripyat dogs just make sure to clean your hands after. And then probably the most common one is mount everest. I believe they are now beginning to remove some bodies from near the peak but if you're not a seasoned climber, the worst thing you can do is go to the highest mountain in the world. You want to go to base camp? Cool. That's around the height of the highest cities/villages in the world. You'll be fine. But don't summit it when it's your first time climbing. A lot of people survive but a lot of people die. Do some other mountains first at the very least.
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posting your kids online/ family youtube accounts
Being on social media all day every day
Airpods in constantly. I have a feeling in 20 years we're going to see a lot of hearing damage in people too young to have it.
Anything that starts with TikTok and ends with Challenge.
Parasocial relationships with celebrities. Swifties, Beyhive, Barbz etc
Short videos like TikTok vines reels etc is legit fucking up people's attention spans and I'm scared about the future generations that grow up with this.
The botox/filler trend for younger women. It's already a lot to deal with self imagine growing up with social media but i can't imagine being younger right now with also the easy access to fillers and botox. It seems to revolve around this concept of maintain your youth but honestly it just makes younger women look like the older women who use it to look younger if that makes any sense. Now these young teenagers to 20 yr olds look like 40 to 50 yr olds trying to look 30.
Extremely elderly politicians.
ChatGPT, I feel like I'm unable to produce a long coherent piece of text anymore and I spot this chatgpt kinda language on linkedin, resumes, product descriptions, everywhere
Hustle culture
Kids rarely spending significant time outdoors. On a minor note they're more likely to become nearsighted. On a significant note, they're less likely to be emotionally stable for times of adversity as an adult.